Buy Yourself The Damn Flowers Quotes

Not every experience is meant to last forever. We are simply limited episodes in the multi-season stories of each other’s lives.

You do not crave partnership, you crave connection and because you have not given it to yourself, you search for it in all the wrong places in pursuit of immediate gratification from another person.

When you allow the desire for ease to guide you, you will always be led astray.

People only treat you how you treat yourself.

More often than not, broken bonds are due to falling out of frequency with one another. When you cannot explain why you no longer talk or why things don’t feel the way they used to, it is because the frequency you are vibrating at no longer aligns with the frequency of that friendship. You are no longer a match for each other because your growth has taken you down a different path.

From The Bridge” by Captain Hank Bracker Mundane Happenings Life is just packed with “Mundane Happenings!” It’s the mundane happenings that usually take the most time and they always seem to interfere, just about when you want to do something really important. Let’s start with mundane things that are routine, like doing the dishes and taking out the garbage. The list for a single person might be a little less involved or complicated but it would be every bit as important as that of a married couple or people with lots of children or even pets. Oh yes, for some the list of mundane responsibilities would include washing clothes and taking the children to their activities. You know what I mean… school, sports, hobbies, their intellectual endeavors and the like. For most of us beds have to be made, the house has to be kept clean, grass has to be cut and the flowers have to be pruned. Then there are the seasonal things, such as going trick or treating, buying the children everything they need before school starts or before going to summer camp. Let’s not forget Christmas shopping as well as birthdays and anniversaries. This list is just an outline of mundane happenings! I’m certain that you can fill in any of these broad topics with a detailed account of just how time consuming these little things can be. Of course we could continue to fill in our calendar with how our jobs consume our precious time. For some of us our jobs are plural, meaning we have more than one job or sometimes even more than that. I guess you get the point… it’s the mundane happenings that eat up our precious time ferociously. Blink once and the week is gone, blink twice and it’s the month and then the year and all you have to show for it, is a long list of the mundane things you have accomplished. Would you believe me, if I said that it doesn’t have to be this way? Really, it doesn’t have to, and here is what you can do about it. First ask yourself if you deserve to recapture any of the time you are so freely using for mundane things. Of course the answer should be a resounding yes! The next question you might want to ask yourself is what would you do with the time you are carving out for yourself? This is where we could part company, however, whatever it is it should be something personal and something that is fulfilling to you! For me, it became a passion to write about things that are important to me! I came to realize that there were stories that needed to be told! You may not agree, however I love sharing my time with others. I’m interested in hearing their stories, which I sometimes even incorporate into my writings. I also love to tell my stories because I led an exciting life and love to share my adventures with my friends and family, as well as you and future generations. I do this by establishing, specifically set, quiet time, and have a cave, where I can work; and to me work is fun! This is how and where I wrote The Exciting Story of Cuba, Suppressed I Rise, now soon to be published as a “Revised Edition” and Seawater One…. Going to Sea! Yes, it takes discipline but to me it’s worth the time and effort! I love doing this and I love meeting new friends in the process. Of course I still have mundane things to do…. I believe it was the astronaut Allen Shepard, who upon returning to Earth from the Moon, was taking out the garbage and looking up saw a beautifully clear full Moon and thought to himself, “Damn, I was up there!” It’s the accomplishment that makes the difference. The mundane will always be with us, however you can make a difference with the precious moments you set aside for yourself. I feel proud about the awards I have received and most of all I’m happy to have recorded history as I witnessed it. My life is, gratefully, not mundane, and yours doesn’t have to be either.” Captain Hank Bracker, author of the award winning book “The Exciting Story of Cuba.

Nothing is ever personal. People are complex and dealing with a dozen things that you know nothing about. You have no idea of their demons, insecurities and limiting beliefs that encourage them to act in the way they do. People are only ever trying to act in their own best interests – it’s got nothing to do with intentionally hurting you.

Detachment isn't about negating all your negative emotions and it certainly isn't about shaming yourself for missing someone years after the break up. Detachment is the process of viewing your emotional reactions objectively instead of taking them as truth. Because more progressive healing takes place when you start to observe why you might be feeling a certain way and what could be causing it, rather than trying to avoid the emotion altogether. When you carry the emotional weight of shame and guilt, you're physically harming yourself.

To master self-acceptance, you must reach a state of mind where you understand that nothing about you is either ‘good’ nor ‘bad’.

Giving love at the expense of your feelings is not love, it is hatred towards yourself.

After all, every single person you know views you differently, through their own lens, which is altered by their individual life experiences, trauma and mindsets. YOU are the only one who’s been by your side your entire life. You know every trial and tribulation you’ve been through. No one can ever compete with that – not your parents, not your sibling, not your childhood best friend. You will know yourself more than anybody else could even try to. But it must be your choice to hone that gift and develop it as time goes on.

I am fully aware of all the obstacles to come and I welcome them, because they won’t break me, they’ll make me 10 times stronger. There has never been an adversity that I didn’t bounce back from as a 2.0 version of myself, regardless of the time it took to get there.

Realising this changed my life. I was only hurt by other people because I was putting them on a pedestal. When I saw that someone being so concerned with bringing you down is essentially them announcing their own self-hatred, I stopped taking everything so personally.

When you feel insecure, it’s easier to seek out confidence in the things that are easier to strategise and ‘win’, like achieving goals. It reassures you and makes you feel like a success, whereas self-love lacks this element and that’s what makes it feel so hard. Using your appearance and successes as a crutch to feel more confident will fail as soon as you have a day when you don’t feel like you look good or you don’t achieve what you wanted to, whereas when you base your confidence on who you are internally, no one can get in the way of that. You become untouchable. This is achieved through viewing yourself via your self-defining qualifies: your values, personality, mindset and ability to love. It starts with resilience.

When you love yourself, you are more capable of living life to the fullest because your focus is wholeheartedly on yourself.

Self-love is letting go of your need to be understood and validated because you already give this to yourself. When you do, you remain peaceful while maintaining familial relationships and you meet your parents where they have met themselves.

Was it really right person, wrong time or just wrong person, right lesson?

A high-value man may not become involved with a woman who lacks self-love because they’re not an energetic match. You only attract those that are vibrating at the same frequency as you. Insecure women will attract low-value men and high-value men will attract confident women who know their worth because they perceive themselves and the world in a similar way.