Terri Cole Quotes

What you think of me, is none of My business

He was a man with a son who stuttered and another probably on his way to becoming a juvenile delinquent and a daughter with a harelip who sneaked in at night from God knew where and a wife who resented his profession. Yet I knew it was not for himself or for any of us that he was praying. More likely it was for the parents of Bobby Cole. And for Gus. And probably for an asshole named Morris Engdahl. Praying on their behalf. Praying I suppose for the awful grace of God. 2 She wore a white terry-cloth robe and her feet were bare.

A woman by the name of Terry Cole-Whittaker wrote an incredible book entitled What You Think of Me is None of My Business. This title bears remembering and repeating every day because, regardless of the goals, intentions, and dreams you aspire to, there will always be someone to shower you with negativity. They might tell you that it can't be done, that you'll never achieve it, or that you lack the ability or intelligence. They might even laugh at you because of your optimism. Regardless of the person, if you run with a crowd that doesn't support your goals and intentions, you might want to get away from them as soon as possible. Their presence in your life will kill your attitude, smother your energy, and snuff out your dreams. If you can't get away from them, before you allow them affect you, keep in mind that the influence and power they have over you is what you allow it to be.

Yes, from time to time when I’m giving myself the permission to love myself, it may appear to you that you are the one who has showered me with love feelings. The reality is that the love feelings I feel when I am with you come out of me. This quote is from Terry Cole–Whittaker in her book What You Think of Me is None of My Business.

Can you talk?” “Absolutely. What did you find out?” “I’m going to put you on speaker. Terry’s here.” The sound qual ity went from crisp to hollow when she put him on speaker. “Hey,

As Marianne Williamson once wrote, “It is not too late. You are not too old. You are right on time. And you are better than you know.

our primal instincts for survival are hardwired into our DNA. Often, this primal fear clouds our judgment and prevents us from seeing life as it really is. Or even how it could be. We’re too busy (unconsciously) hoping we don’t get rejected/annihilated.

We should not be concerning ourselves with the whys of others. After all, people can and will ask and expect ridiculous shit from us. That's not your problem unless you make it so. Focusing on them is only a distraction. Put your attention back on yourself.

It's not your job to educate every person in the world on healthy boundaries. It is your job to know and protect your own healthy boundaries.

Give yourself permission to be the one who makes decisions for you.

Another person's bad, unconscious, or straight-up unhealthy behavior does not need to dictate yours.

You will never win with a Boundary Destroyer. Even if you have the best bullet-pointed argument in the world, the Boundary Destroyer is not going to acknowledge your truth. Convincing them of your perspective is a thankless, energy-zapping task... Just as it's pointless to win with a Boundary Destroyer, it's also a waste of your precious time and energy to convince people to see your point of view. Those who know the real you won't for a second doubt you or your intentions. Others may take the Boundary Destroyer's side, but you have to let go of caring what others think.

The different boundaries that need your attention are physical, sexual, material, mental, and emotional. Within these categories, your boundaries may be rigid, porous, or healthy.

You must establish healthy boundaries to protect your gifts, talents, sensitivity, and life, so that you are making conscious choices about how you spend your precious time and energy.

Kicking self-abandonment, deceit, denial, and resentment to the curb allows you to create a life based on joy, freedom, and genuine intimacy.

If you deny yourself the right to change your mind, can’t speak up, or say no, every decision carries the weight of a life sentence.

She had a misguided sense of loyalty, even to those who didn’t deserve her devotion.

The evolution of women’s rights directly impacts our conscious, unconscious, and collective relationship to our beliefs about boundaries, even today.

For hundreds—if not thousands of years—women have been marginalized and objectified.

Your personal boundaries are informed by your childhood experiences, cultural norms, gender roles, and an array of other factors. In the meantime, individuals like us still need to sort out the overt and covert sexist assumptions, projections, and judgments we have endured and internalized since childhood. Whether or not we are conscious of the impact, these disempowering sentiments can powerfully inform our sense of self in a very negative way.

Jimmy smiled, wide and mindless, the way a pit bull smiles before he bites you. He said, “How about that, Terry. You think we got something as pussy as the mafia down here?

J.K. Rowling’s and Terry Pratchett’s. He liked to lose himself in fantasies where people always solved their problems, made sure that right was done and evil cast aside. If only life was that simple.

Terry Ito had said Eddie Tang was on his way up. Maybe Eddie figured taking advantage of Mimi Warren and stealing the Hagakure were the keys to ascendancy.

dying fish industry brought attention to the plight of the disappearing generations-old industry in the San Francisco Bay. Cole wrote about street gangs in Chinatown, the proposed needle exchange program in the Tenderloin, and the alarming increase in the suicide rate among Hispanic youth. But the article that got the most attention was “The Path of the Pedophile.” Granted, Cole’s brush with death at the hands of his subject, Terry Kosciuszko, brought a bit more publicity than Cole would have preferred. The reaction in hate mail was far stronger