Shwetabh Gangwar Quotes

If you need somebody else to tell you that you are special, then you have not done anything to earn it in your own mind.

The problem with responding more to feeling good is that chances are you may become a person who just focuses on feelings rather than thinking. And thinking is the only thing that will ensure you don’t fuck up your life. Ideally, an intelligent person would be one who is more thinking-based than feeling-based.

Knowledge can be borrowed, but you can’t borrow understanding. Once you reach a conclusion derived from your thinking, it is called a realisation. And once you realise something, your perception changes about it once and for all. And that perception remains locked down until another realisation impacts it—that’s the process of learning and growing.

NOBODY IS BORN AN IDIOT

Stop attaching maturity, wisdom, enlightenment to ageing. He is old, hence he must be wise is one of the stupidest notions we take for granted.

Status is a socially engineered identity that tends to replace the individual identity. So, status must not dictate who the person is. The person must dictate what to do with the status in accordance with how they feel about that status.

focusing—habits that will serve you in almost all aspects of life.

If you can give it a definition, redirect it, and set them up to earn what they already want, you will have saved them years of confusion, embarrassment, self-imposed feelings of inferiority, foolish pursuits and a focus on weaknesses. You will instead have given them an attitude that will serve them for a lifetime.

We should admire heroic actions, encourage them and celebrate them; we should aspire towards incorporating them into our lives. But we should leave those people to be people, and to act like people—that’s a great thing they are doing, I really admire it—and spare the person from your dumb expectations and assumptions regarding things you have no data about.

Always remember your job is not to understand people, but to understand and take care of yourself.

people don’t think they need to learn anything because they assume they already know everything—a very dangerous assumption that comes from a frightening absence of self-awareness.

Just because somebody is older doesn’t mean they have figured out life.

Those who are able to find out what they want to do in life chase after greatness to prove to themselves that they are great at what they do. With time, they realise they don’t need anybody’s approval, as doing what they want to do gives them purpose, and fulfilling that purpose gives them satisfaction and a meaningful life.

What we have understood so far is: We need a general attitude towards rejections in life, rejections are normal, they happen. In terms of rejections from people, it becomes: rejections are a normal thing, and I don’t have to take them personally, because people are weird. Who knows what’s going on in their heads—it’s not my job to find out.

The thing is, you were the happiest at your stupidest self—when you were young, in college, school, with your friends. You were experimenting with rebellion against structure, engaging in activities that produced rewards (like gaming), entertainment (with friends) and pleasure (partying, dating, alcohol, weed, fun). What you don’t realise is that, at that time, you could afford that experimentation. There was no real structure. You were free of any responsibilities, duties and

At this stage, enter dating gurus and pick-up artists. These are people who have suffered equal or more rejections than you, some of which impaled their egos so much that it forced them to make ‘getting girls’ a quest in their lives to prove to themselves they are ‘the man’. They usually like to refer to themselves as ‘alphas’ to massage their highly sensitive egos, which also acts as their G-spot during sex. What it means is that they climax immediately upon hearing a girl refer to them as alpha or its variations, such as master, daddy, which basically means they are their father. This is nothing but a crippling need to be validated by an impressionable girl with daddy issues living in a fantasy world. And these guys desperately require the reiteration of the terms alphas, master or daddy from girls to compensate for the rejections by girls in their past.

Before dragging yourself down or someone else down, always remind yourself they haven’t lived a day in your shoes, and you haven’t in theirs.

Let’s think about this: You care so much about what others think about you because you are working under the assumption that people care about you just as much as you do. Well, my friend, welcome to reality—they don’t.

it’s not only self-control, self-respect is equally important. While self-control takes care of inner demons, self-respect takes care of enemies outside. Without self-respect, you leave yourself open for people to take over and become your authority. You don’t want examples for this, you have seen this shit happen all around you: people doing anything to make someone happy, disregarding their self, their own wants, plans, everything. And not just for love, this happens all over the world for approval, acceptance and self-worth. Yikes. So, self-respect ensures nobody fucks with your authority over your own mind, feelings and wants.

Have you ever rejected someone romantically? Even if it required as little effort as swiping your finger, think of how much thought and time went behind it. What were the parameters you were considering behind accepting or rejecting? How stupidly vague, impersonal, and shallow were those parameters? That’s how much thought goes behind rejecting someone. Not much. How can you take a rejection personally when it doesn’t take more than a few seconds to happen? Do you think your whole existence can be understood, judged and adequately summarised in a matter of seconds? Fuck, no!

What is my ambition? (What do you want to become exactly? Where do you want to reach?) What are my current goals? (Short-term and long-term goals to actualise the ambition mentioned above.) What is the routine I need to achieve my goals? (Doesn’t need explanation.) What are my dreams? (Why do you want to achieve that?) What is the nature of the line of work I have chosen? (How demanding is it? What’s the scope for relaxation? At what age and with what skillset would you have achieved credible respect in your field or workplace?)

4. I can’t say ‘no’ to people. Because of this, people often impose themselves on my wants and feelings and take advantage of my niceness. You can’t say ‘no’ because you can’t afford to make people unhappy. If they are unhappy with you, you are unhappy, and you want to be happy. You may tell others: I became unhappy because I didn’t get to do what I wanted, but the real story doesn’t stop there. What you don’t tell them is that the unhappiness vanishes the moment you see others being happy with you, despite the fact that you still didn’t get to do what you wanted. People being happy with you gives you so much pleasure that it feels like a much bigger reward than what you would feel if you stood up for yourself and said ‘no’. In short, because happiness is your priority, self-respect is ignored. And that is why, even though you complain to people about how unhappy it makes you, you keep repeating it, especially with people you desperately want to make happy. And you may do that at the cost of working overtime, sleeping less than planned, disrupting your own plans entirely, all because it gives you a great burst of pleasure for having ‘helped them’.

If only I had realised it at the right time.

are we mentally fit and prepared to create a person for whom we will be solely responsible? If not, shall we now start to upgrade our thoughts, perceptions, perspectives, create multiple storages of knowledge—which in time will cater to the young person’s curiosities and impact the overall development of its personality?

If you are relying on others, you are indirectly controlled by others. And others don’t give a shit about you.

What does your self want? What the self wants comes only by knowing the specific wants that makes sense to self.

Admire, never follow.

After making the self your authority, the need to follow anybody will cease to exist completely.

The idea that a person who has several degrees is intelligent is a highly misplaced idea; but we think like that. So, in school, we teach kids to learn as much as they can. Learning can be achieved by hard work. What about teaching kids how to think? We don’t do that yet. A degree is a certificate of skills; therefore, someone with degrees is a person skilled in those subjects, not a fucking thinker. And without the ability to think critically and creatively, people largely remain unimaginative skilled workers.

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It happens because a sense of meaning and satisfaction does not come from status; such things are deeper and more personal than that.

Specialness is the badge of realisation you earn. It may seem very simple to you, but this thinking can change the course of your life. Any achievement dictates you have created or mastered something. This means that not only did you gain in terms of knowledge, but you built habits of discipline, hard work, prioritising and

since all of us are seeking it in either assuming if I do this, it will make me special, or wishing if only I had this, I would have been special, you need to understand that specialness is earned.

Machiavellian,