Pixie Lighthorse Quotes

Help me release my fears about future losses but let me cling to loving life while I am living it.

Thank you for this day and vastly expanding the capacity of my heart.

When we learn to be present to the discomfort of pain, more aspects of life will be expanded and honored.

Allow me to bless the people in my life with the compassion I have learned to give myself.

Strengthening our relationship with grief means making a friend of loss.

Help me see control as the illusion of containing what is not mine to hold.

Try going to a mirror when you feel triggered to get a sense for what masks you put on without knowing it.

To claim that we can feel other people's feelings is to entitle ourselves to their experiences in a way most of us do not appreciate.

Anything that helps an individual heal, stretch, and grow requires confrontation: updating a previous belief, reworking old patterns that no longer serve, overhauling your spiritual systems, implementing an elimination diet. Comfort is not a companion of change.

What does clean relations mean? Think of the idea as having enjoyable relationships with those we love in which there are few resentments that are not being talked about. Clean relations are the ones you might describe as having a fair and equitable exchange of love and energy. Chances are, you can name several relationships you are currently participating in that are of a messier nature. Resentments are the natural result of not expressing unmet expectations. When held for too long, they cause internal conditions that I think of as ulcerations of the spirit.

Honoring Transmutation Thank you for helping me see my broken pieces as beautiful and worthy. Thank you for helping me lay into the earth what has become oppressive on my soul, and for helping me see the importance in my courage to feel. Scrub my body, heart, and mind of their accumulated stresses and unaddressed anguish. Let me stop the abuses and misfortunes from telling my future. Help me author my personal story of strength and perseverance while ripening me for rebirth. Let me strip off unwanted debris with my hands and behold how feasible it is for me to move my own energy. Help me see my offerings like fallen leaves that nourish the bustling, hungry communities of unseen beneficials living below the surface. Let the intensity of the weight I’ve been carrying feed the soil of my spirit. Help me plant the seeds of tomorrow’s wellness and water them with my tears. Let every creaking wail of sorrow be an investment in the freedom of tomorrow. When my griefs begin to release, let me feel the lightening of my heart like a dandelion setting free its seed-wishes. Let these composted traumas and hopes for the future quell my desire for an endless summer. Cover them gently in preparation for nature’s season of reflection and restoration. Open me to recurrent occasions of self-cleaning for giving my spirit, body, and mind the precious attention it is asking for. Make me an enthusiastic gardener for my well-being. Fill me with willingness to allow downtime when I have done what I can do for now. I trust you to finish the job in my dreams while I rest.

Patterns of retreat are based on past experiences and an underdeveloped ability to take risks. The non-conscious pain of childhood suffering and broken attachments feels too overwhelming. We’ve become quite averse to feeling pain. We have few skills that help us cope with it and prefer to avoid things that can be predicted to cause pain. Many of us avoid intimate relationships because we are seeking to keep the injured child inside us as free from harm as possible. Emotional survival skills are very powerful and so internalized that we don’t have to think about them, we just follow their instructions.

It is your responsibility to step into your humble, courageous magnificence.

We begin as impressive, exceptionally fine miracles, but we are taught to forget our miraculous nature. We are warned of the terrible danger of becoming self-centered and spoiled. We are told we’re too-big-for-our-britches when we begin to show our strengths in early, undeveloped ways. The high price of these worn-out ethics is that we do not value ourselves as miracles. We will not value others as miracles, either.

When we know our magnificence and miraculousness, we can know others to be exactly the same. Everyone is splendorous. When people act from that place of radiant beauty, they stand out. The golden bubble is almost visible around them. When you step into what is golden about you—the essence of who you were before you were born—you will recognize it in others, too. Vitality hums throughout a body that recognizes magnificence.

Shame, the lowest frequency of all and most lacking in vital life force, creeps in slowly and threatens to take over.

THINK ONE OF THE greatest challenges to living on Earth is the lack of a genuine desire to be here. We have forgotten that it is our duty to be here (because we are here) and that we can heal and learn to be here in our fullness. We have been given an undetermined amount of lifetime to do exactly that. Life itself is the quest, and too many of us think that we are not made for the journey, or that we are too fragile for the obstacle courses that present themselves. I believe that we are made to last, and that we are up to the task of finding out how to honor our lives as they came to be. Resiliency can be built if we aren’t born with an abundance of it, or if early life experiences intensify the sensations of living.

I think we are much stronger for living than we give ourselves credit for.

It is possible that the pattern of the dependent system was imprinted on us in early stages of development. Addiction asks the child to bend herself into irregular, unnatural shapes to accommodate the caregiver’s underdeveloped life skills.

Mountain Lion moves fluidly, claims adequate rest, nurtures and teaches the young, is fiercely protective, territorial, graceful, walks softly on the Earth, and is highly perceptive to sound and smell. Its golden coat is like the rays of our creative and generative sun. As a transformational symbol, this feline embodies the power of creating what we want. This is balanced with harmonized communication and adaptability. Though an apex predator, the medicine of this animal encourages receptivity and self-reflection. I feared this creature at a deep, primal level, perhaps to be expected when we interface with how powerful we are and take responsibility for what we’ve been given.

Tune into your heart, call Spirit/God/Great Mystery in to carry you, don’t overthink it, and avoid negative self-talk. Leading with my spirit required my habituated fears to take a backseat.

As you read, your feelings will rise up. They are the driving force of our existence as humans. We may think our mind runs the show, but our powerful emotions direct us to act out the script. How we talk to ourselves about our feelings and connect with our bodies can change the way we express our strong emotions.

Boundaries make room for the deeper connections and intimacy we want to have. As statistics climb about the incidence of chronic loneliness, isolation, and lack of feelings of belonging, it isn’t boundaries that are keeping people from one another. What keeps us from one another is fear of harm, which causes us to withdraw into our shells and away from one another out of fear that something will happen if we engage.

When we’re talking about intimacy with our loved ones, the kind that requires high levels of security and trust, we’re essentially talking about how we must first come to trust in the process of life itself. If we cultivate a trusting relationship with Spirit/Source/God/Divine, then we are going to feel and see trust playing a big role on the stage of our life. If we prioritize creating peace in our overactive minds and endurance in our spirits, then we have a better chance of surviving the results of a relationship—both positive and negative. Humans want to feel secure, but if we look to people, jobs, food, health, money, and weather for security, we will at some point have the rug pulled out from under us. With the very best of our abilities, we can try to maintain a sense of well-being through taking care of our basic emotional needs. The goal is to seek closeness and be okay inside when it’s not available.

Addiction asks the child to bend herself into irregular, unnatural shapes to accommodate the caregiver’s underdeveloped life skills.

I believe that if we bring intelligence into our bodies through the spirit, then see what our beautiful minds think, we get a more miraculous result than when we mentally grapple only. Leading with the spirit and body seldom steers us down the wrong road. Leading with the mind leaves things to chance, because the mind has ideas that are governed by fear and patterns shaped by negative experiences.

When we receive information about what is transmitting between us and into our psychic systems, we create beliefs out of them. Beliefs become embodied and so we must be careful to discern what is true. Some untrue thoughts become beliefs that are life-altering, long-lasting, and deeply harmful to the spirit, which expresses itself through the body.

Practicing boundaries helps us know when to turn a thought into a belief and when it would not serve to do so. This is much easier to master as adults because our prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed until we are twenty-five to thirty years old. Children do not know that they get to have boundaries, because parents act as their protection and serve as translators for which experiences are and are not okay. When children’s boundaries are violated by caregivers, they internalize mixed messages about what is okay to say and do to another human, and how to treat themselves. When we aren’t sure how to treat and react to one another, relationships throughout our lives are difficult and painful. We may accept poor treatment because we are focused on others and forget about ourselves.

As our skin thickens with coping and self-soothing skills, and we move toward life rather than away from it, it’s possible to find ourselves living with more vitality and less unbearable anxiety and pain. Imagine that as the energetic space around you becomes hearty with firm flexibility, you will have more freedom to exist without fear of what terrible destiny could unfold.

Boundaries make it possible for even the deepest feelers and highly sensitive empaths to be in the world enjoying copious amounts of rewarding intimacy.

When forces beyond our control unleash havoc in our lives, affecting what we perceive will keep us secure on Earth, our sense of inner security is compromised. It is guaranteed that unexpected events will happen many times throughout our lives, all the way until death. This we can be sure of. Grief and losses of relationships are real, and they are going to happen. The economy has taken and will again take a turn for the worse. People get sick. Tsunamis, hurricanes, earthquakes, and pandemics are part of Earth’s practice.

As our skin thickens with coping and self-soothing skills, and we move toward life rather than away from it, it’s possible to find ourselves living with more vitality and less unbearable anxiety and pain. Imagine that as the energetic space around you becomes hearty with firm flexibility, you will have more freedom to exist without fear of what terrible destiny could unfold. Boundaries make it possible for even the deepest feelers and highly sensitive empaths to be in the world enjoying copious amounts of rewarding intimacy. When we’re talking about intimacy with our loved ones, the kind that requires high levels of security and trust, we’re essentially talking about how we must first come to trust in the process of life itself. If we cultivate a trusting relationship with Spirit/Source/God/Divine, then we are going to feel and see trust playing a big role on the stage of our life. If we prioritize creating peace in our overactive minds and endurance in our spirits, then we have a better chance of surviving the results of a relationship—both positive and negative. Humans want to feel secure, but if we look to people, jobs, food, health, money, and weather for security, we will at some point have the rug pulled out from under us. With the very best of our abilities, we can try to maintain a sense of well-being through taking care of our basic emotional needs. The goal is to seek closeness and be okay inside when it’s not available.

Another way to think about insecurity is as a fear of what could happen. It causes us to brace for the storms that are not actually happening right now. It is not true instability, but a preemptive emotional reaction to what we know is possible based on what has already happened. It is not our thoughts that cause us to act out in fear but the feelings that arise from those thoughts. The soul has a way of wilting or soaring when it is moved by what the heart feels. We thrive when we respect the laws of nature inside and outside of us.

These are the questions that guide this work: Are you treating yourself and others as sacred? How about their treatment of you? What does sacred treatment look like?

It can be quite a newsflash to find out that you are entitled to create a protective space around yourself and choose to be in unions that honor you. It can be equally challenging, but not impossible, to cultivate the level of self-respect that can support better choices for health. For now, envision a golden bubble beginning to form around you. The challenge is that you must envision it around everyone else as well. Boundaries have to exist in all directions in order for them to work. It does not follow logic to ask others to respect your territory while you trample haphazardly through theirs.

Resentments are the natural result of not expressing unmet expectations. When held for too long, they cause internal conditions that I think of as ulcerations of the spirit.

It is clean and fair to take the time you need to get your thoughts clear and allow others to do the same. It is clean and fair to make clear that this is what you are doing before you step away, and bonus points for letting the other person know when you plan to return to the conversation.

Refusing to show someone how you really feel is denying connection to your real and true nature.

How can we reestablish ourselves as sacred and learn new ways of being in relationships when what we know to do is so ingrained? To make protection a value rather than a defense mechanism, find things you can protect to the very best of your ability—a garden, a plant, a child, an animal—and make a vow to be the guardian of something beautiful and keep it from harm.

Think of boundaries as a golden bubble around the body—imagine that sensation. It is filled with our own radiant light. Vitality comes from life force, which is, quite simply, the frequency of the miracle of life. It is truly almost beyond comprehension that we exist in the way we do—with bodies that sense, hands that can give healing, language that can move our emotions, voices that carry sound, mouths with which to chew, wombs that gestate, and minds that create. We forget where we came from, how miraculous life is, and how it is growing and vibing all around us constantly.

It is possible that the pattern of the dependent system was imprinted on us in early stages of development. Addiction asks the child to bend herself into irregular, unnatural shapes to accommodate the caregiver’s underdeveloped life skills. It is no accident that adult children of addicts report not knowing who they are. Coping skills for everyday life are slim to nonexistent because they are too busy caregiving for people in their lives before they are equipped to. Growing up in an addict household means that the child’s emotional and developmental needs are not met, and that which naturally generates vitality are sent underground.

When we chronically people-please, our lives do not belong to us. We are not honoring our lives by giving ourselves away for free or for a silent price.

At some point, we will want to make a change, and will go seeking with more enthusiasm for accepting what comes our way, sifting for the gems that will take us forward rather than leave us feeling like a victim of circumstance. We might be willing to take a risk in order to learn something new or retrieve parts of ourselves that we have forgotten. All Wanderers eventually reach a crossroads where they can choose to have more say in where they go and what happens to them.

Visualization helps us populate areas of our brains that are underdeveloped.

Using the Egg of Light visualization as a tool of awareness helps an individual feel secure to pause before responding. When we can see and feel protection in our mind’s eye, it has an impact on our thinking, which has an impact on our being. We can respond rather than react.

One definition of a blind spot is “a loss of vision in a particular area,” and it can exist in the psyche just as it can in the periphery of the eye. But because this term is viewed by many as ableist, I would suggest using “lapses of awareness” or “unknown obstacles” as alternative phrases.

When I feel unsafe and insecure, I am living in chaos and out of love. When I’m confident, I am who you’ve made me to be. Help me see support all around me. Help me heal my existence injuries, lodged in little capsules of trauma throughout me. Help me dissolve them with the breath you’ve given me.

There is a mistaken notion that voice empowerment means one should speak every thought and complaint that blips across the mind, publicly and intimately. This book is not one of personal empowerment, rather it supports relational empowerment: the healing that comes from saying what heals and helps, thoughtfully and directed toward the source most likely to be able to witness the contents of the heart. Relational empowerment in this application focuses on building. Personal empowerment may or may not build; it can be destructive, mean, retaliating, mired in a loop of right and wrong, withholding, punishing, victimizing, and even abusive. Prayer has the potential to open up channels with the “Divine Source of Life as You Understand It” to begin a dialogue, which will hopefully lead to many fulfilling dialogues in your relationships.

There seems to be tremendous fear of telling our stories and being willing to vulnerably take ownership of them. There are many things that are now ready to be said. It is time to heal what has been asking for medicine. Rehabilitation of the voice can begin by taking a thorough inventory of what is resting on the heart. Determining whether the matter found there is heavy, light, or neutral provides a moment of pause for considering what is liable to happen when an attempt is made to interpret it for the understanding of others. Fear usually speaks right up, and loudly. Silent resentment takes the place of naming expectations. Defensiveness abounds. Caustic inner dialogue makes turmoil of the gut. The body eventually tells the story of what has been relegated to the basement of the psyche with an assortment of symptoms and ailments.

I think the greatest of all distractions between heart and throat might be faithlessness, because reigning religious institutions have effectively redirected the focus from faith to matters of righteousness, wrongness and “policies.” Faith in love, and what it can do, has taken a particularly destructive backseat to the priorities of massive organizations with other things in mind than loving kindness, peaceful communication, fair resolutions, wellness, and the expressive voices of living, breathing people.

If we can dare to believe that we are spirits in human form, maybe it will be possible to think, say, and act with more purpose and care about the impact we’re having.

Remind me, when I hesitate to follow my excitement, that magic reveals itself in unstructured movement and communication. To hold back is to forbid the dawning to occur. Tolerate my meanderings. Grant me my verbosities and explorations. Help me permit myself to know the joy in chasing amazement without over-cautiousness.

Devote me to seeking out the experiences that give birth to change and transformation and teach me to love the quest through witnessing the transformative process in myself and others.

Remind me that insecurity is simply a belief that I am unprotected.

Help me create a world where people are safe, secure, and can enjoy a sense of belonging.

Connect my dawnings like the great constellations of the cosmos. Distill my pantheon of thoughts, hopes, and dreams into clear and flowing language ready for communication.

I often hear adults telling children to give them a hug, which I find curious. We ask children to do things that violate their boundaries every day. We entitle ourselves to their personal space without consideration for who they are, and how they like to experience closeness. Embracing or laying a hand on a child’s shoulder can be more about us than about them, rather than how they need or want to be handled.  To sensory-affected and children with spectrum disorders, touch can feel alarming. Consider asking a child if you can give them a hug and be open to the answer being no. An embrace is a gift we give someone else. Not all children or adults like to be hugged or fondled, particularly by strangers. We don’t need to take it personally; what we need to do is honor what others want. Giving kids a choice in the matter will be carried through adolescence and into adulthood and help them do what it takes to protect their bodies by setting boundaries. Set the standard for yourself and for children that it is okay to create one’s own signature gesture of love or greeting, and an entirely new chain of respect can begin.

Fill me up with the beauty of each moment of presence, even when my cup seems to overflow with sadness.

Help me face the disappointment of loss with the passion of raw presence.