Neuro Linguistic Quotes

Emotions make excellent servants, but tyrannical masters.

Words belong to those who use them only till someone else steals them back.

To strengthen the connection between your conscious and subconscious, is to gain access to a map and compass, as you travel through parallel worlds.

Why be your real self when you can be something really worthwhile?

To believe that someone else is responsible for your emotional state is to give them a sort of psychic power over you they do not have...we really do generate our own feelings. No one else can do it for us. We respond and are responsible. To think other people are responsible for our feelings is to inhabit a billiard ball, inanimate universe.

Questions are also interventions. A good question can take a person's mind in a completely new direction and change his life. For example, ask yourself frequently, 'What is the most useful question to ask now?

When we believe something, we act as if it is true.

A man who has control over his mind is able to realize its full potential. —The Sama Veda

Life consists of what a man is thinking of all day.

Why' questions have little value, at best they get justifications or long explanations which do nothing to change the situation.

Once a response becomes a habit, you stop learning. Theoretically, you could act differently, but in practice you do not. Habits are extremely useful, they streamline the parts of our lives we do not want to think about...But there is an art to deciding what parts of your life you want to turn over to habit, and what parts of your life you want to continue to learn from and have choice about. This is a key question of balance.

True learning involves learning other ways of doing what you can do already.

As long as you believe it is impossible, you will actually never find out if it is possible or not.

Free your expectation of the future from the grip of past failure.

No one can consistently get everything wrong. Such perfection does not exist.

Thinking isn’t a passive process unless you do it passively. Thinking should always be an active process where you think in a way that gets you the results you want.

Neuro-linguistic programming is to Neuroscience what Astrology is to Astronomy.

Reframing is also the pivotal element in the creative process: it is the ability to put a commonplace event in a new frame that is useful or enjoyable.

Any single person's viewpoint will have blind spots caused by their habitual ways of perceiving the world, their perceptual filters...How can we shift our perceptions to get outside our own limited world view?

In my experience, the biggest challenge people face is learning to get out of their own way. When you can see just how easy change can be, you can begin to take control over your life and make all the changes you want—but you need to take the action.

What happens to our thoughts as we clothe them in language, and how faithfully are they preserved when our listeners undress them?

We perceive and remember people, things, and events based on aspects of the experience:

If doing something once makes you have fear, doing it over and over and over again is only going to reinforce that fear.

Without action, a goal is just an idea.

Remember: the journey is the destination.

Creative geniuses are: 1.  Comfortable with uncertainty 2.  Able to hold seeming opposites or paradoxes 3.  Persistent

When you practice using your brain in this way, you will find yourself feeling really good a lot more often. Achieving personal freedom is all about developing new mental habits and skills and getting used to mentally running your brain the way you choose to run it.

Masha is a professional, qualified counselor and psychotherapist. Her techniques include cognitive behavioral therapy, neuro-linguistic program and hypnotherapy. Her background also includes teaching senior executives and makes them understand how to manage a major emergency.

We all have beliefs and expectations from our personal experience; it is impossible to live without them. Since we have to make some assumptions, they might as well be ones that allow us freedom, choice and fun in the world, rather than ones that limit us. You often get what you expect to get.

Humans aren’t born conscious. They become conscious. Consciousness is acquired via language. Consciousness is the adaptive modification to the nervous system that results from the application of language to it. Never forget, consciousness = neuro-linguistic programming. It concerns how we program our nervous system via learned language.

ONE OF THE MOST important aspects of what human beings do is build beliefs. Beliefs are what trap most people in their problems. Unless you believe you can get over something, get through something, or get to something, there is little likelihood you will be able to do it. Your beliefs refer to your sense of certainty on some of your thoughts.

When you persuade yourself that you “get to” do something rather than “have to,” you can find a silver lining. For instance, saying “I have to clean the house” implies cleaning is an unpleasant task. On the other hand, saying “I get to clean the house” reframes the labor as something you look forward to, emphasizing how important it is to have a place to live in the first place. A great strategy to change your perspective and enhance your mental health is to reframe the tasks you encounter in daily life with a positive outlook.

It’s not that fear is a bad thing. Fear moves you away from things; you shouldn’t touch hot fire. Even when children are young, they are born with only two natural fears: a fear of loud noises and a fear of falling. That’s why when children start to do something that’s dangerous, we yell at them. And that fear then translates so that, instead of having to stick your hand in fire, you feel fear as you reach toward it. This teaches us, and we generalize one fear to another till we learn “don’t cross the street until you know it’s safe to do so.

Words are anchors for sense experience, but the experience is not the reality, and the word is not the experience. Language is thus two removes from reality. To argue about the real meaning of a word is rather like arguing that one menu tastes better than another because you prefer the food that is printed on it...To come to believe that the external world is patterned by the way we talk about it is even worse than eating the menu - it is eating the printing ink on the menu. Words can be combined and manipulated in ways that have nothing to do with sensory experience.

Jest bardzo ważne, abyśmy definiowali samych siebie nie tylko w kategoriach, kim jesteśmy, lecz również i kim nie jesteśmy. — Anthony Robbins, Obudź w sobie olbrzyma

Pamięć stanowi sposób na zatrzymanie tego, co kochasz, tego, kim jesteś, tego, czego nie chcesz nigdy stracić. — Kevin Arnold

Nie wyrządzam sobie krzywdy, a jednak jestem własnym katem. — John Donne

W nic nie wierzą ludzie tak niezłomnie jak w to, o czym najmniej wiedzą. — Michel de Montaigne

Żadna liczba doświadczeń nie udowodni nigdy, że mam rację; pojedynczy eksperyment może udowodnić, że się mylę. — Albert Einstein

Cokolwiek robisz, potrzebujesz odwagi. Jakikolwiek kierunek działania wybierasz, zawsze znajduje się ktoś, kto ci mówi, że się mylisz. Pojawiają się trudności, które cię skłaniają, abyś uwierzył, że twoi krytycy mają rację. Aby wyznaczyć kierunek działania oraz podążać wybraną drogą do samego końca, potrzebujesz odwagi żołnierza. Pokój odnosi zwycięstwa, ale wywalczać je muszą odważni mężczyźni i kobiety. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Większość z nas przechodzi przez życie, nie decydując się na opanowanie czegokolwiek do perfekcji. Jestem przekonany, że niepowodzenia większości ludzi spowodowane są tym, iż zbyt wielką wagę przykładają do rzeczy błahych. — Anthony Robbins, autor Obudź w sobie olbrzyma

Nigdy nie pozwól, aby szkoła przeszkodziła w twojej edukacji. — Mark Twain

Uważaj, czytając książki poświęcone zdrowiu — żebyś nie umarł z powodu literówki. — Mark Twain

Ważne jest, aby nie rezygnować z zadawania pytań. Ciekawość nie istnieje bez przyczyny. Człowiek może tylko czuć respekt, kiedy podziwia tajemnicę wieczności, życia, wspaniałej struktury rzeczywistości. Wystarczy więc, kiedy będzie próbował zrozumieć zaledwie odrobinę tej tajemnicy każdego dnia. Nie wolno nigdy tracić świętej ciekawości. — Albert Einstein

Jesteśmy wszystkim tym, czym udajemy, że jesteśmy. Uważajmy więc bardzo, co udajemy. — Kurt Vonnegut

Żyj tak, jakbyś miał umrzeć jutro. Ucz się tak, jakbyś miał żyć wiecznie. — Mahatma Gandhi

Jeżeli potrafisz zmienić zdanie, potrafisz zmienić życie. Przekonania kreują rzeczywiste fakty […]. Największa rewolucja za życia mojego pokolenia wiąże się z odkryciem, że poszczególni ludzie, w drodze zmiany wewnętrznych postaw i przekonań, mogą zmienić zewnętrzne aspekty swego życia. — William James

Każdy pragnie zostać milionerem lub nawet multimilionerem. Otwartą kwestią pozostaje jedynie dylemat, czy jesteś gotów do zrobienia wszystkiego oraz do poświęcenia wszystkich lat, niezbędnych do osiągnięcia finansowego sukcesu. Jeśli tak, to naprawdę nie istnieje nic, co mogłoby cię zatrzymać na tej drodze. — Brian Tracy, Sposób na sukces

Filozofia, jaką wyznajesz, determinuje, czy się zdyscyplinujesz, czy też będziesz nadal popełniał błędy. — Jim Rohn

Jeżeli trafiasz w cel za każdym razem, to znaczy, że albo jest on za duży, albo znajduje się zbyt blisko. — Tom Hirshfield

Jak się zjada słonia? Po kawałku.

Gdybyśmy faktycznie zrobili wszystko to, co jesteśmy w stanie zrobić, szczerze zadziwilibyśmy samych siebie. — Thomas Edison

Najlepsze w przyszłości jest to, że nadchodzi po jednym dniu na raz. — Abraham Lincoln

Ludzie nie przyciągają tego, czego chcą, ale to, czym są. — James Allen

Człowiek uczy się dwojako: albo poprzez czytanie, albo poprzez kontakty z mądrzejszymi ludźmi. — Will Rogers

Uczymy się […] 10% tego, co czytamy, 20% tego, co słyszymy, 30% tego, co widzimy, 50% tego, co widzimy i słyszymy, 70% tego, o czym rozmawiamy, 80% tego, co doświadczamy, 95% tego, czego uczymy innych. — William Glasser

Czyn ludzki raz dokonany płynie przez wieczność do wielkiego rachunku. Nasza nieśmiertelność przejawia się w tym, co robimy, a nie w tym, kim jesteśmy. — George Meredith

Po ciężkim dniu treningu można zjeść grzechotnika. — Elvis Presley

Teoretycznie nie ma różnicy między teorią a praktyką, lecz praktycznie owa różnica istnieje. — Jan L.A. van de Snepscheut

Na tym polega uczenie się. Nagle rozumie się coś, co rozumiało się przez całe życie — ale w zupełnie nowy sposób. — Doris Lessing

Trudności to wymówki, których historia nie przyjmuje nigdy. — Edward R. Murrow

Osobiście uważam, że ludzie wymyślili język z powodu naszej głębokiej, wewnętrznej potrzeby narzekania. — Jane Wagner

Dwie podstawowe zasady życiowe brzmią: 1) Zmiany są nieuchronne. 2) Każdy opiera się zmianom. Jedynym człowiekiem lubiącym zmiany jest dziecko, które ma mokro. — Roy Blitzer

The kuji (literally “nine characters” in Japanese) were mystical symbols that represented a state of mind, a view of life, and a set of skills that worked together to produce extraordinary results. Some of the methods of the kuji look like modern Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

No animals have any morality towards each other, and no morality towards humans, so in what way would humans have morality towards animals? Do we have moral obligations to computers?

Consciousness is the result of neuro-linguistic programming. Language programs the nervous system to operate in a different way from that of instinctual animals. Language reprograms the nervous system, transitioning it away from fixed biological instincts to variable cultural ideas, leading to a staggering degree of change in the pace of mental evolution (but not physical, biological evolution – the body remains stubbornly the same). Language is what stands in greatest need of explanation. Once we fully understand language – not biology, not matter, not faith, not spirituality – we will understand existence fully. Existence itself is language – ontological mathematics – and manmade languages are possible exactly because they originate in a language-reality, not a material or spiritual reality. The fact that existence revolves around language means that language can answer what existence is. It means that existence has an exact answer, and that existence is fundamentally mental, intellectual and teleological. The science of consciousness should become the great new science. It will totally transform the human race. As humanity expands its consciousness, the quality and excellence of the human race will grow exponentially, and the culmination will be the divinity of humanity. Are you ready to join the gods?

The unconscious is a mind and is aware, hence consciousness cannot be defined by awareness.

We use language to describe experiences, but language itself isn’t experience. It exists on its own, independent of experience, yet applicable to any experience. And that’s exactly what consciousness is. It applies to experience – allowing us to knowledgably reflect on experience – but it definitely isn’t the experience itself, contrary to what almost all of humanity believes. Hardly anyone understands that consciousness can be totally detached from experience and put to completely different uses.

We are changed from animals into humans through the acquisition of invented language, and this transforms our nervous system and brings it under thoughtful, conscious, cultural control and frees us from the animal instincts that imprison all other animals.

Consciousness – knowledge – transformed humanity. Experience did not. Stone Age humans existed for hundreds of thousands of years without consciousness, without knowledge. They had plenty of experiences, but no knowledge. They were just like the animals … until consciousness arrived, and then they ceased to be anything like animals and became the masters of the world.

We advance consciousness by advancing how we program people with ideas and concepts. The more powerful the ideas and concepts, the more powerful the people. Via language, via education, we can neuro-linguistically program everyone in the optimal way. The optimal way is of course the one based on reason and logic. Although we must make people Apollonian, we should never forget the need to pay the Dionysian its dues. You can never forget about the Shadow, the Id, the Devil.

Animals have unconscious experiences, i.e., they have experiences but they do not reflect on them, and have almost no memory of them. They have experiences, but have no knowledge of themselves having those experiences, and that’s precisely why they are not conscious. Animals may be likened to human sleepwalkers – they can do all sorts of complex things, but they are not conscious of performing those tasks. They are obviously experiencing the tasks as they do them, but they are equally obviously not consciously experiencing them. Many if not most people seem baffled by the concept that minds can be experiencing things without being conscious of what they are experiencing – because they think that the experience itself is the fundamental element of consciousness.

Humans are conscious because they have knowledge – via reason, logic, language and conceptualization – while animals are not because they lack reason, logic, language and conceptualization. Here we have an astounding difference. For rationalists, animals cannot be conscious. They can be sentient (have feelings, sensations and experiences), but without consciousness. For empiricists, animals can and indeed must be conscious because they have feelings, sensations and experiences. Rationalists distinguish between sentience and consciousness. Empiricists say they are the same thing. The differences between rationalists and empiricists appear everywhere, and basically create two competing worldviews, but which are often force-fitted together.

5. Offer suggestions instead of criticising Instead of the feedback sandwich, which can be just a way of sweetening criticism, and tends to do more harm than good, try this deceptively simple technique for giving feedback which was developed by the Canadian Neuro-linguistic Programming trainer, Shelle Rose Charvet, and set out in her aptly titled essay, “The Feedback Sandwich Is Out To Lunch”.14 It goes like this: You make a suggestion. You offer two reasons why it might work. The first states what the suggested course of action would accomplish. The second states what problem it would prevent. You end with an encouraging comment.

Next, find out where in your body the feeling starts and where it goes. Discover the direction it spins inside your body, and spin it faster and faster and, again, notice your feelings intensify. There lies the control you have over your brain to create powerful feelings inside of you.

As soon as we believe in something, we search for ways to prove it’s true. What we are looking for here is to learn to doubt your limitations and be more certain of what is possible for you.

In order to change beliefs, we first need to learn a way of finding out the qualities of beliefs.

Take that feeling of certainty. Look at that picture in your mind and double it in size. Typically, when you do this, your feelings will grow stronger. When they do, notice where the feeling is in your body and which way it’s moving. By doing this, you are beginning to pay attention to the submodalities of a strong belief.

Look at your problem in the same place that your belief was and the first thing to do is to look at it and say, I’m tired of this. Over the years, I’ve discovered that the moment people really change is when they simply decide that enough is enough.

The first thing we want to do is to take a look at what you want to get rid of and what you want to add. You want to get rid of your self-doubt and add more belief in yourself. You want to get rid of your fears and add more confidence. Whatever it is, when you think about your problem, you probably believed you were going to have it for the rest of your life.

When you look at the belief that it is going to be here for the rest of your life, I want you to do a few small things with it. Literally, push the picture off in the distance and move it over and pull it up into that place of uncertainty so, when you look at it and think, Am I gonna be stuck like this forever? You say, Ehhh, maybe yes, maybe no.

In order to make it stick in any other position, it’s important that you do this very, very fast. To make it so you can place this old, limiting belief inside your uncertainty, you have to take a hold of the image and do something with it. You have to push it all the way off so that it’s twenty feet away, move it across your midline, and pull it up on the other side into the submodality qualities of uncertainty so that what was a strong belief becomes uncertainty.

Then you need to do the opposite. You need to take the image of what you want to believe, such as that you will be free from this problem and happy and well in the future, and push this image out twenty feet, move it over, and pull it up into the position and submodalities of your strong belief.

Most problems we face in life, as I have said already, happen in our minds. Furthermore, problems generally exist in our concept of the past and the future. The past and the future don’t exist except in our minds.

Getting over things is often about helping people to learn how to get their minds to let go of things. It means that you put your problems into the past where they belong.

THE FIRST THING TO put into your past and keep there are the bad suggestions others have shared with you.

When you want a guide to changing your behavior, you’re looking for quick ways to make quick changes.

I elicit the submodalities of that just as we did in the inventory part of this book earlier. Stop now and think about something you no longer want to believe. Just like Myra, I want you to go through your list and find out first, where is the voice? Where is the picture?

When you find the difference, I want you to take the thing you no longer wish to believe and push it all the way off into the distance, then move it over and pop it up on the other side so that when you look at it you know it’s a lie and you’re angry about it.

Then it’s time to build a new belief. What would you like to believe? If you build a belief that you, like every other human being, are entitled to be happy, and are entitled to make friends, that will be much more useful. You still have to have a reference structure. You have to look at yourself and see yourself the way you’d be if you had grown up with this useful belief.

I’m going to say that over and over again. This is because through the years, I’ve gotten people to believe the best thing about the past is that it’s over. When they look at it, they may be angry about how silly they have acted and about the beliefs they had—how they learned them and who taught them—but this is still not going to help them to go into the future. What helps you go into the future is to leave the past behind and to create such strong desires that you want to move toward them.

When you can take on board new, positive suggestions and disbelieve the old, limiting suggestions, you will be ready to tackle the rest of your problems, especially your fears.

People think they are afraid of these things, but they are not. It’s not the object. It’s not the height that makes you afraid, it’s your brain. We know this because other people can be at the same height and they don’t get afraid. The question becomes: what is the person who feels fear doing inside his head and, even more important, what is the person who feels calm or confident in those situations doing inside his head?

After interviewing hundreds of people, I found out how people got over phobias. They all reached the point where they got fed up with being afraid.

If you run through all five and go back to the beginning and run through all five again and go back to the beginning and run through all five again really, really fast, what will happen is that you’ll begin to feel fed up. There’ll be a point where something inside you says, Enough is enough.

The next thing you can do is to make a still image of yourself in the situation where you’re afraid. Imagine you are sitting in a movie theater with the still image on screen. Then imagine floating out of yourself in the chair so you can look down and watch yourself, seeing yourself being afraid. Then start the movie. It’s like you’re in a balcony watching yourself in the theater and you’re in the film. Now as you look at yourself being afraid, I want you to stay in that third position and in your mind looking at yourself being afraid and say to yourself, That’s ridiculous. As you look at yourself being terrified, watching yourself being terrified, something inside you will feel different.

Run all the way to the end of the episode, float back down into the theatre, float into the movie, and then run it backward so everybody walks backward and talks backward, and throw in a little circus music so it’s as ridiculous as it could be. Then, clear your mind for ten minutes and then go back and think of what you were afraid of. You will be amazed to discover that your fear has severely diminished if not disappeared entirely.

My policy is, why wait? If you’re going to look back and laugh, you might as well start laughing.

Laughter produces endomorphins that are an important part of changing your mind. The more you laugh at what you’re afraid of, the more chemicals go into your body. Even if it’s artificial laughter, it doesn’t matter. If you can stop now and look at the same picture in your mind that scared you and not be afraid, then you’re ready for the next step. So, get up from your chair and go out and test it and test it and test it and, bit by bit, it will simply disappear.

This isn’t just a good way of getting rid of your public speaking anxiety, it’s a good step to get rid of that fear of heights. It’s a good step to getting rid of that fear of bees or the fear of snakes. As long as you maintain that spinning direction, and spin it faster and faster and faster and faster, suddenly the brain, at the unconscious level, begins to recode the experience. When you try to get back to having your old fear, you’ll discover that it’s a very difficult thing to do.