Marriage Quotes

We've searched our database for all the quotes and captions related to Marriage. Here they are! All 200 of them:

โ€œ
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
โ€
โ€
Friedrich Nietzsche
โ€œ
So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.
โ€
โ€
Nicholas Sparks (The Notebook)
โ€œ
It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.
โ€
โ€
Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
โ€œ
Marriage can wait, education cannot.
โ€
โ€
Khaled Hosseini (A Thousand Splendid Suns)
โ€œ
I don't want to be married just to be married. I can't think of anything lonelier than spending the rest of my life with someone I can't talk to, or worse, someone I can't be silent with.
โ€
โ€
Mary Ann Shaffer (The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society)
โ€œ
And she's got brains enough for two, which is the exact quantity the girl who marries you will need.
โ€
โ€
P.G. Wodehouse (Mostly Sally)
โ€œ
A short story is a love affair, a novel is a marriage. A short story is a photograph; a novel is a film.
โ€
โ€
Lorrie Moore
โ€œ
Happiness [is] only real when shared
โ€
โ€
Jon Krakauer (Into the Wild)
โ€œ
Love, n. A temporary insanity curable by marriage.
โ€
โ€
Ambrose Bierce (The Unabridged Devil's Dictionary)
โ€œ
You know it's never fifty-fifty in a marriage. It's always seventy-thirty, or sixty-forty. Someone falls in love first. Someone puts someone else up on a pedestal. Someone works very hard to keep things rolling smoothly; someone else sails along for the ride.
โ€
โ€
Jodi Picoult (Mercy)
โ€œ
The trouble is not that I am single and likely to stay single, but that I am lonely and likely to stay lonely.
โ€
โ€
Charlotte Brontรซ
โ€œ
If I get married, I want to be very married.
โ€
โ€
Audrey Hepburn
โ€œ
Before marriage, a girl has to make love to a man to hold him. After marriage, she has to hold him to make love to him.
โ€
โ€
Marilyn Monroe
โ€œ
To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
Marriage is a fine institution, but I'm not ready for an institution.
โ€
โ€
Mae West (The 2,548 Best Things Anybody Ever Said)
โ€œ
Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.
โ€
โ€
Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
โ€œ
Why does a woman work ten years to change a man, then complain he's not the man she married?
โ€
โ€
Barbra Streisand
โ€œ
I know enough to know that no woman should ever marry a man who hated his mother.
โ€
โ€
Martha Gellhorn (Selected Letters)
โ€œ
The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing - and then marry him.
โ€
โ€
Cher
โ€œ
No woman wants to be in submission to a man who isn't in submission to God!
โ€
โ€
T.D. Jakes
โ€œ
There is no such thing as a "broken family." Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you.
โ€
โ€
C. JoyBell C.
โ€œ
Some people claim that marriage interferes with romance. There's no doubt about it. Anytime you have a romance, your wife is bound to interfere.
โ€
โ€
Groucho Marx
โ€œ
You can measure the happiness of a marriage by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry words.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
If heโ€™s not calling you, itโ€™s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesnโ€™t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that heโ€™s okay with disappointing you. Donโ€™t be with someone who doesnโ€™t do what they say theyโ€™re going to do. If heโ€™s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesnโ€™t respect your feelings and needs. โ€œBusyโ€ is another word for โ€œasshole.โ€ โ€œAssholeโ€ is another word for the guy youโ€™re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.
โ€
โ€
Greg Behrendt
โ€œ
Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.
โ€
โ€
Katharine Hepburn
โ€œ
If the doors of perception were cleansed every thing would appear to man as it is, Infinite. For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things thro' narrow chinks of his cavern.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it's not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?", here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!
โ€
โ€
Andy Rooney
โ€œ
When in a relationship, a real man doesn't make his woman jealous of others, he makes others jealous of his woman.
โ€
โ€
Steve Maraboli (Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience)
โ€œ
To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.
โ€
โ€
Criss Jami (Venus in Arms)
โ€œ
Ye are Blood of my Blood, and Bone of my Bone, I give ye my Body, that we Two might be One. I give ye my Spirit, 'til our Life shall be Done.
โ€
โ€
Diana Gabaldon (Outlander (Outlander, #1))
โ€œ
Longed for him. Got him. Shit.
โ€
โ€
Margaret Atwood
โ€œ
Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
โ€
โ€
Kahlil Gibran (The Prophet)
โ€œ
Tell him yes. Even if you are dying of fear, even if you are sorry later, because whatever you do, you will be sorry all the rest of your life if you say no.
โ€
โ€
Gabriel Garcรญa Mรกrquez (Love in the Time of Cholera)
โ€œ
A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
โ€
โ€
Dave Meurer
โ€œ
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, youโ€™ll become happy; if you get a bad one, youโ€™ll become a philosopher.
โ€
โ€
Socrates
โ€œ
Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove. O no, it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken; It is the star to every wand'ring barque, Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle's compass come; Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
โ€
โ€
William Shakespeare (Great Sonnets)
โ€œ
Itโ€™s probably not just by chance that Iโ€™m alone. It would be very hard for a man to live with me, unless heโ€™s terribly strong. And if heโ€™s stronger than I, Iโ€™m the one who canโ€™t live with him. โ€ฆ Iโ€™m neither smart nor stupid, but I donโ€™t think Iโ€™m a run-of-the-mill person. Iโ€™ve been in business without being a businesswoman, Iโ€™ve loved without being a woman made only for love. The two men Iโ€™ve loved, I think, will remember me, on earth or in heaven, because men always remember a woman who caused them concern and uneasiness. Iโ€™ve done my best, in regard to people and to life, without precepts, but with a taste for justice.
โ€
โ€
Coco Chanel
โ€œ
A good marriage is where both people feel like they're getting the better end of the deal.
โ€
โ€
Anne Lamott (Joe Jones)
โ€œ
I ask you to pass through life at my sideโ€”to be my second self, and best earthly companion.
โ€
โ€
Charlotte Brontรซ (Jane Eyre)
โ€œ
After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her.
โ€
โ€
Mark Twain (Diaries of Adam & Eve)
โ€œ
The problem with marriage is that it ends every night after making love, and it must be rebuilt every morning before breakfast.
โ€
โ€
Gabriel Garcรญa Mรกrquez
โ€œ
Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.
โ€
โ€
Shannon L. Alder
โ€œ
I'm not married,โ€ he said softly, โ€œbecause I can't stomach the idea of marrying a woman inferior to me in mind and spirit. It would mean the death of my soul.
โ€
โ€
Sarah J. Maas (Throne of Glass (Throne of Glass, #1))
โ€œ
I'm about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word busy is a load of crap and is most often used by assholes. The word "busy" is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you're going to find is a man who didn't care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.
โ€
โ€
Greg Behrendt
โ€œ
So I began to think maybe it was true that when you were married and had children it was like being brainwashed, and afterward you went about as numb as a slave in a totalitarian state.
โ€
โ€
Sylvia Plath (The Bell Jar)
โ€œ
An unhappy alternative is before you, Elizabeth. From this day you must be a stranger to one of your parents. Your mother will never see you again if you do not marry Mr. Collins, and I will never see you again if you do.
โ€
โ€
Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
โ€œ
There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.
โ€
โ€
Shannon L. Alder
โ€œ
I Wanna Hold Your Hand.โ€™ First single. Fucking brilliant. Perhaps the most fucking brilliant song ever written. Because they nailed it. Thatโ€™s what everyone wants. Not 24-7 hot wet sex. Not a marriage that lasts a hundred years. Not a Porsche or a blow job or a million-dollar crib. No. They wanna hold your hand. They have a feeling that they canโ€™t hide.
โ€
โ€
Rachel Cohn (Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist)
โ€œ
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we donโ€™t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.
โ€
โ€
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (We Should All Be Feminists)
โ€œ
I think I may be in love with you, Sophie," said Will. "Marriage could be in the cards.
โ€
โ€
Cassandra Clare (Clockwork Prince (The Infernal Devices, #2))
โ€œ
The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky.
โ€
โ€
Rainer Maria Rilke (Letters to a Young Poet)
โ€œ
Whoa, I'm your girlfriend now?" Archer shrugged. "We've tried to kill each other, fought ghouls, and kissed a lot. I'm pretty sure we're married in some cultures.
โ€
โ€
Rachel Hawkins (Spell Bound (Hex Hall, #3))
โ€œ
I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow, than a man swear he loves me.
โ€
โ€
William Shakespeare (Much Ado About Nothing)
โ€œ
Be thine own palace, or the world's thy jail.
โ€
โ€
John Donne (The Poems of John Donne (Volume 1); Miscellaneous Poems (Songs and Sonnets) Elegies. Epithalamions, or Marriage Songs. Satires. Epigrams. the Progress of the Soul. Notes)
โ€œ
I worship you, but I loathe marriage. I hate its smugness, its safety, its compromise and the thought of you interfering with my work, hindering me; what would you answer?
โ€
โ€
Virginia Woolf
โ€œ
I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.
โ€
โ€
Groucho Marx
โ€œ
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.
โ€
โ€
Leo Tolstoy
โ€œ
I do not think you can name many great inventions that have been made by married men.
โ€
โ€
Nikola Tesla
โ€œ
Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.
โ€
โ€
Jennifer Weiner (Fly Away Home)
โ€œ
Here's something else to think about: calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you ain't never gonna have a house baby, and it's cold outside.
โ€
โ€
Greg Behrendt (He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys)
โ€œ
The goals we pursue are always veiled. A girl who longs for marriage longs for something she knows nothing about. The boy who hankers after fame has no idea what fame is. The thing that gives our every move its meaning is always totally unknown to us.
โ€
โ€
Milan Kundera (The Unbearable Lightness of Being)
โ€œ
An archaeologist is the best husband a woman can have. The older she gets, the more interested he is in her.
โ€
โ€
Agatha Christie
โ€œ
He could totally be your boyfriend," [Angel] went on with annoying persistance. "You guys could get married. I could be like a junior bridesmaid. Total could be your flower dog." "I'm only a kid!" I shrieked. "I can't get married!" "You could in New Hampshire." My mouth dropped open. How does she know this stuff? "Forget it! No one's getting married!" I hissed. "Not in New Hampshire or anywhere else! Not in a box, not with a fox! Now go to sleep, before I kill you!
โ€
โ€
James Patterson (Max (Maximum Ride, #5))
โ€œ
Those who restrain desire do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means.
โ€
โ€
Henny Youngman
โ€œ
One should always be in love. That's the reason one should never marry.
โ€
โ€
Oscar Wilde
โ€œ
Someone told me the delightful story of the crusader who put a chastity belt on his wife and gave the key to his best friend for safekeeping, in case of his death. He had ridden only a few miles away when his friend, riding hard, caught up with him, saying 'You gave me the wrong key!
โ€
โ€
Anaรฏs Nin
โ€œ
When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, "What was it that you wanted and why didn't you fight for it?
โ€
โ€
Shannon L. Alder
โ€œ
Men are my hobby, if I ever got married I'd have to give it up.
โ€
โ€
Mae West
โ€œ
Getting married is like trading in the adoration of many for the sarcasm of one.
โ€
โ€
Mae West
โ€œ
To keep your marriage brimming, with love in the wedding cup, whenever you're wrong, admit it; whenever you're right, shut up.
โ€
โ€
Ogden Nash
โ€œ
Men marry because they are tired; women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.
โ€
โ€
Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
โ€œ
Oh, Lizzy! do anything rather than marry without affection.
โ€
โ€
Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
โ€œ
Nice people don't necessarily fall in love with nice people.
โ€
โ€
Jonathan Franzen (Freedom)
โ€œ
When I said I would die a bachelor, I did not think I should live till I were married.
โ€
โ€
William Shakespeare (Much Ado About Nothing)
โ€œ
When two people are under the influence of the most violent, most insane, most delusive, and most transient of passions, they are required to swear that they will remain in that excited, abnormal, and exhausting condition continuously until death do them part.
โ€
โ€
George Bernard Shaw (Getting Married)
โ€œ
you can take this mouth this wound you want but you can't kiss and make it better.
โ€
โ€
Daphne Gottlieb (Why Things Burn)
โ€œ
We must have a pie. Stress cannot exist in the presence of a pie.
โ€
โ€
David Mamet (Boston Marriage)
โ€œ
I love you more than I hate everything else.
โ€
โ€
Rainbow Rowell (Landline)
โ€œ
I married a damned cereal killer
โ€
โ€
Susan Elizabeth Phillips (Nobody's Baby But Mine (Chicago Stars, #3))
โ€œ
You know the reason The Beatles made it so big?...'I Wanna Hold Your Hand.' First single. Fucking brilliant. Perhaps the most fucking brilliant song ever written. Because they nailed it. That's what everyone wants. Not 24/7 hot wet sex. Not a marriage that lasts a hundred years. Not a Porsche...or a million-dollar crib. No. They wanna hold your hand. They have such a feeling that they can't hide. Every single successful song of the past fifty years can be traced back to 'I Wanna Hold Your Hand.' And every single successful love story has those unbearable and unbearably exciting moments of hand-holding.
โ€
โ€
David Levithan (Nick & Norah's Infinite Playlist)
โ€œ
I am your Prince and you will marry me," Humperdinck said. Buttercup whispered, "I am your servant and I refuse." "I am you Prince and you cannot refuse." "I am your loyal servant and I just did." "Refusal means death." "Kill me then.
โ€
โ€
William Goldman (The Princess Bride)
โ€œ
Sometimes life is too hard to be alone, and sometimes life is too good to be alone.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
Rejection is an opportunity for your selection.
โ€
โ€
Bernard Branson
โ€œ
All marriages have a time limit if you enter them for the wrong reasons. Marriage doesn't get easier...it only gets harder. If you marry someone hoping it will improve things, you might as well set your timer the second you say, 'I do.
โ€
โ€
Colleen Hoover (Hopeless (Hopeless, #1))
โ€œ
there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don't respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on between you, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.' - Morrie Schwartz
โ€
โ€
Mitch Albom (Tuesdays with Morrie)
โ€œ
Marriage is a wonderful institution...but who wants to live in an institution?
โ€
โ€
Groucho Marx
โ€œ
People say children from broken homes have it hard, but the children of charmed marriages have their own particular challenges.
โ€
โ€
Gillian Flynn (Gone Girl)
โ€œ
The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water, and breeds reptiles of the mind.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
We ruined each other by being together. We destroyed each otherโ€™s dreams.
โ€
โ€
Kate Chisman (Run)
โ€œ
People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each otherโ€™s personalities. Who wouldnโ€™t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But thatโ€™s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partnerโ€™s faults honestly and say, โ€˜I can work around that. I can make something out of it.โ€™? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and itโ€™s always going to pretty and sparkly, but the crap underneath can ruin you.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
There are some who want to get married and others who don't. I have never had an impulse to go to the altar. I am a difficult person to lead.
โ€
โ€
Greta Garbo (Greta and Cecil)
โ€œ
The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.
โ€
โ€
Stephen Kendrick (The Love Dare)
โ€œ
Sexiness wears thin after awhile and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that is a treat.
โ€
โ€
Joanne Woodward
โ€œ
It takes three to make love, not two: you, your spouse, and God. Without God people only succeed in bringing out the worst in one another. Lovers who have nothing else to do but love each other soon find there is nothing else. Without a central loyalty life is unfinished.
โ€
โ€
Fulton J. Sheen (Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary)
โ€œ
A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it.
โ€
โ€
John Steinbeck (Travels with Charley: In Search of America)
โ€œ
Letโ€™s start with this statistic: You are delicious. Be brave, my sweet. I know you can get lonely. I know you can crave companionship and sex and love so badly that it physically hurts. But I truly believe that the only way you can find out that thereโ€™s something better out there is to first believe thereโ€™s something better out there. What other choice is there?
โ€
โ€
Greg Behrendt (He's Just Not That Into You)
โ€œ
A marriage is always made up of two people who are prepared to swear that only the other one snores.
โ€
โ€
Terry Pratchett (The Fifth Elephant (Discworld, #24))
โ€œ
A liberated woman is one who has sex before marriage and a job after.
โ€
โ€
Gloria Steinem
โ€œ
Blood of my Blood," he whispered, "and bone of my bone. You carry me within ye, Claire, and ye canna leave me now, no matter what happens, You are mine, always, if ye will it or no, if ye want me or nay. Mine, and I wilna let ye go.
โ€
โ€
Diana Gabaldon (Dragonfly in Amber (Outlander, #2))
โ€œ
There is one thing more exasperating than a wife who can cook and won't, and that's a wife who can't cook and will.
โ€
โ€
Robert Frost
โ€œ
The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed. The fact is that most putts donโ€™t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to be just like people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, and most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. Life is just like an old time rail journey ... delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders, and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.
โ€
โ€
Jenkin Lloyd Jones
โ€œ
There is nothing more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends.
โ€
โ€
Homer (The Odyssey)
โ€œ
Desiring another person is perhaps the most risky endeavor of all. As soon as you want somebodyโ€”really want himโ€”it is as though you have taken a surgical needle and sutured your happiness to the skin of that person, so that any separation will now cause a lacerating injury.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
Of course you can have a true Shadowhunter name," Will said. "You can have mine." Tessa stared at him, all black and white against the black-and-white snow and stone. "Your name?" Will took a step toward her, till they stood face-to-face. Then he reached to take her hand and slid off her glove, which he put into his pocket. He held her bare hand in his, his fingers curved around hers. His hand was warm and callused, and his touch made her shiver. His eyes were steady and blue; they were everything that Will was: true and tender, sharp and witty, loving and kind. "Marry me," he said. "Marry me, Tess. Marry me and be called Tessa Herondale. Or be Tessa Gray, or be whatever you wish to call yourself, but marry me and stay with me and never leave me, for I cannot bear another day of my life to go by that does not have you in it.
โ€
โ€
Cassandra Clare (Clockwork Princess (The Infernal Devices, #3))
โ€œ
Love of music, of sunsets and sea; a liking for the same kind of people; political opinions that are not radically divergent; a similar stance as we look at the stars and think of the marvelous strangeness of the universe - these are what build a marriage. And it is never to be taken for granted.
โ€
โ€
Madeleine L'Engle (Two-Part Invention: The Story of a Marriage (The Crosswicks Journal, #4))
โ€œ
Depression is like a bruise that never goes away. A bruise in your mind. You just got to be careful not to touch it where it hurts. It's always there, though.
โ€
โ€
Jeffrey Eugenides (The Marriage Plot)
โ€œ
I really don't see anything romantic in proposing. It is very romantic to be in love. But there is nothing romantic about a definite proposal. Why, one may be accepted. One usually is, I believe. Then the excitement is all over. The very essence of romance is uncertainty. If ever I get married, I'll certainly try to forget the fact.
โ€
โ€
Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
โ€œ
Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves.
โ€
โ€
Stephen Kendrick (The Love Dare)
โ€œ
The world's most sensible person and the biggest idiot both stay within us. The worst part is, you can't even tell who is who.
โ€
โ€
Chetan Bhagat (2 States: The Story of My Marriage)
โ€œ
At some point in our lifetime, gay marriage won't be an issue, and everyone who stood against this civil right will look as outdated as George Wallace standing on the school steps keeping James Hood from entering the University of Alabama because he was black.
โ€
โ€
George Clooney
โ€œ
Women may fall when there's no strength in men. Act II
โ€
โ€
William Shakespeare (Romeo and Juliet)
โ€œ
People go on marrying because they can't resist natural forces, although many of them may know perfectly well that they are possibly buying a month's pleasure with a life's discomfort.
โ€
โ€
Thomas Hardy (Jude the Obscure)
โ€œ
Love's about finding the one person who makes your heart complete. Who makes you a better person than you ever dreamed you could be. Its about looking in the eyes of your wife and knowing all the way to your bones that she's simply the best person you've ever known.
โ€
โ€
Julia Quinn (The Viscount Who Loved Me (Bridgertons, #2))
โ€œ
So," he called to her back, "Just out of curiosity, you know, purely conversation and all, at what age will you be entertaining offers of marriage?" "You think it'll be so easy?" she called back over her shoulder. "No way. There will be tasks. Like in a fairy tale." "Sounds dangerous." "Very, so think twice." "No need," he said. "You're worth it.
โ€
โ€
Laini Taylor (Days of Blood & Starlight (Daughter of Smoke & Bone, #2))
โ€œ
Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation, and conversation must have a common basis, and between two people of widely different culture the only common basis possible is the lowest level.
โ€
โ€
Oscar Wilde
โ€œ
There are guys who grow up thinking they'll settle down some distant time in the future, and there are guys who are ready for marriage as soon as they meet the right person. The former bore me, mainly because they're pathetic; and the latter, frankly are hard to find.
โ€
โ€
Nicholas Sparks (The Last Song)
โ€œ
The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
ู‚ู„ุช ู„ู‡ุง ุฅู† ุงู„ู†ุงุณ ูŠุฌุจ ุฃู„ุง ุชุชุฒูˆุฌ ุฅู„ุง ู„ูƒูŠ ุชุฃุชูŠ ู„ู„ุนุงู„ู… ุจู…ู† ู‡ูˆ ุฃูุถู„... ุทูู„ ุฃุฌู…ู„ ู…ู†ูƒุŒ ุฃุบู†ู‰ ู…ู†ูƒุŒ ุฃู‚ูˆู‰ ู…ู†ูƒ. ู…ุง ุฌุฏูˆู‰ ุฃู† ูŠุชุฒูˆู‘ุฌ ุงู„ุดู‘ู‚ุงุก ู…ู† ุงู„ุชู‘ุนุงุณุฉุŸ ุงู„ู‡ุจุงุจ ู…ู† ุงู„ุทู‘ูŠู†ุŸ ู…ุง ุงู„ุฌุฏูŠุฏ ุงู„ู‘ุฐูŠ ุณู†ู‚ุฏู‘ู…ู‡ ู„ู„ุนุงู„ู… ุณูˆู‰ ุงู„ู…ุฒูŠุฏ ู…ู† ุงู„ุจุคุณุŸ
โ€
โ€
ุฃุญู…ุฏ ุฎุงู„ุฏ ุชูˆููŠู‚ (ูŠูˆุชูˆุจูŠุง)
โ€œ
I wouldn't want to marry anybody who was wicked, but I think I'd like it if he could be wicked and wouldn't.
โ€
โ€
L.M. Montgomery (Anne of the Island (Anne of Green Gables, #3))
โ€œ
Aim high, but do not aim so high that you totally miss the target. What really matters is that he will love you, that he will respect you, that he will honor you, that he will be absolutely true to you, that he will give you the freedom of expression and let you fly in the development of your own talents. He is not going to be perfect, but if he is kind and thoughtful, if he knows how to work and earn a living, if he is honest and full of faith, the chances are you will not go wrong, that you will be immensely happy.
โ€
โ€
Gordon B. Hinckley
โ€œ
You never know what is enough unless you know what is more than enough.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
The remedy for most marital stress is not in divorce. It is in repentance and forgiveness, in sincere expressions of charity and service. It is not in separation. It is in simple integrity that leads a man and a woman to square up their shoulders and meet their obligations. It is found in the Golden Rule, a time-honored principle that should first and foremost find expression in marriage.
โ€
โ€
Gordon B. Hinckley (Standing for Something: 10 Neglected Virtues That Will Heal Our Hearts and Homes)
โ€œ
Not like this. He wanted it to be real.
โ€
โ€
Suzanne Collins (Catching Fire (The Hunger Games, #2))
โ€œ
Never forget the nine most important words of any family- I love you. You are beautiful. Please forgive me.
โ€
โ€
H. Jackson Brown Jr.
โ€œ
On our wedding night," she said, "I will cut out your tongue and swallow it. Then both tongues that spoke our marriage vows will belong to me, and I will be wed only to myself. You will most likely choke to death on your own blood, which will be unfortunate, but I will be both husband and wife and therefore not a widow to be pitied.
โ€
โ€
Kiersten White (And I Darken (The Conqueror's Saga, #1))
โ€œ
Courage doesnโ€™t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.
โ€
โ€
Shannon L. Alder
โ€œ
Men don't settle down because of the right woman. They settle down because they are finally ready for it. Whatever woman they're dating when they get ready is the one they settle down with, not necessarily the best one or the prettiest, just the one who happened to be on hand when the time got to be right. Unromantic, but still true.
โ€
โ€
Laurell K. Hamilton (A Kiss of Shadows (Merry Gentry, #1))
โ€œ
Eternity is in love with the productions of time.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
Such silence has an actual sound, the sound of disappearance.
โ€
โ€
Suzanne Finnamore (Split: A Memoir of Divorce)
โ€œ
What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life--to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?
โ€
โ€
George Eliot (Adam Bede)
โ€œ
Over time, any deception destroys intimacy, and without intimacy couples cannot have true and lasting love.
โ€
โ€
Bonnie Eaker Weil (Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker)
โ€œ
Religions are, by definition, metaphors, after all: God is a dream, a hope, a woman, an ironist, a father, a city, a house of many rooms, a watchmaker who left his prize chronometer in the desert, someone who loves youโ€”even, perhaps, against all evidence, a celestial being whose only interest is to make sure your football team, army, business, or marriage thrives, prospers, and triumphs over all opposition. Religions are places to stand and look and act, vantage points from which to view the world. So none of this is happening. Such things could not occur. Never a word of it is literally true.
โ€
โ€
Neil Gaiman (American Gods (American Gods, #1))
โ€œ
Sky, if youโ€™re wondering if I have commitment issues, the answer is no. Someday in the far, far, far away futureโ€ฆlike post-college futureโ€ฆwhen I propose to youโ€ฆwhich I will be doing one day because you arenโ€™t getting rid of meโ€ฆI wonโ€™t be marrying you with the hope that our marriage will work out. When you become mine, itโ€™ll be a forever thing. Iโ€™ve told you before that the only thing that matters to me with you are the forevers, and I mean that.
โ€
โ€
Colleen Hoover (Hopeless (Hopeless, #1))
โ€œ
To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.
โ€
โ€
Timothy J. Keller (The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God)
โ€œ
Love without sacrifice is like theft
โ€
โ€
Nassim Nicholas Taleb (The Bed of Procrustes: Philosophical and Practical Aphorisms)
โ€œ
Each suburban wife struggles with it alone. As she made the beds, shopped for groceries, matched slipcover material, ate peanut butter sandwiches with her children, chauffeured Cub Scouts and Brownies, lay beside her husband at night- she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question-- 'Is this all?
โ€
โ€
Betty Friedan (The Feminine Mystique)
โ€œ
I think we ought to live happily ever after," and she thought he meant it. Sophie knew that living happily ever after with Howl would be a good deal more hair-raising than any storybook made it sound, though she was determined to try. "It should be hair-raising," added Howl. "And you'll exploit me," Sophie said. "And then you'll cut up all my suits to teach me.
โ€
โ€
Diana Wynne Jones (Howlโ€™s Moving Castle (Howlโ€™s Moving Castle, #1))
โ€œ
She'd become an English major for the purest and dullest of reasons: because she loved to read.
โ€
โ€
Jeffrey Eugenides (The Marriage Plot)
โ€œ
The best thing a girl can be is a good wife and mother. It is a girl's highest calling. I hope I am ready.
โ€
โ€
Nancy E. Turner
โ€œ
I know what it is to live entirely for and with what I love best on earth. I hold myself supremely blest -- blest beyond what language can express; because I am my husband's life as fully as he is mine.
โ€
โ€
Charlotte Brontรซ (Jane Eyre)
โ€œ
Never Let anyone tell you that you can't; show them that you can.
โ€
โ€
Gloria Mallette
โ€œ
Heartbreak is a loss. Divorce is a piece of paper.
โ€
โ€
Taylor Jenkins Reid (The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo)
โ€œ
I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think youโ€™re stupid. I think youโ€™re a loser. I think youโ€™re wonderful. I want to be with you. I donโ€™t want to be with you. I would never date you. I hate you. I love youโ€ฆ..I think the madness started the moment we met and you shook my hand. Did you have a disease or something?
โ€
โ€
Shannon L. Alder
โ€œ
In a word, live together in the forgiveness of your sins, for without it no human fellowship, least of all a marriage, can survive. Donโ€™t insist on your rights, donโ€™t blame each other, donโ€™t judge or condemn each other, donโ€™t find fault with each other, but accept each other as you are, and forgive each other every day from the bottom of your heartsโ€ฆ
โ€
โ€
Dietrich Bonhoeffer (Letters and Papers from Prison)
โ€œ
I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
โ€
โ€
Nora Ephron (When Harry Met Sally)
โ€œ
One can be very much in love with a woman without wishing to spend the rest of one's life with her.
โ€
โ€
W. Somerset Maugham (The Painted Veil)
โ€œ
No long-term marriage is made easily, and there have been times when I've been so angry or so hurt that I thought my love would never recover. And then, in the midst of near despair, something has happened beneath the surface. A bright little flashing fish of hope has flicked silver fins and the water is bright and suddenly I am returned to a state of love again โ€” till next time. I've learned that there will always be a next time, and that I will submerge in darkness and misery, but that I won't stay submerged. And each time something has been learned under the waters; something has been gained; and a new kind of love has grown. The best I can ask for is that this love, which has been built on countless failures, will continue to grow. I can say no more than that this is mystery, and gift, and that somehow or other, through grace, our failures can be redeemed and blessed.
โ€
โ€
Madeleine L'Engle
โ€œ
Pretty girls behave best when you ignore them. Of course, they have to know you are ignoring them, for otherwise they may not even know you exist.
โ€
โ€
Chetan Bhagat (2 States: The Story of My Marriage)
โ€œ
I am" is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language. Could it be that "I do" is the longest sentence?
โ€
โ€
George Carlin
โ€œ
I want to try with someone who loves me enough to try with me. I want to grow old looking at the same face every morning. I want to grow old looking at the same face every night at the dinner table. I want to be one of those old couples you see still holding hands and laughing after fifty years of marriage. That's what I want. I want to be someone's forever.
โ€
โ€
Rachel Gibson (The Trouble With Valentine's Day (Chinooks Hockey Team, #3))
โ€œ
I have frequently seen people become neurotic when they content themselves with inadequate or wrong answers to the questions of life. They seek position, marriage, reputation, outward success of money, and remain unhappy and neurotic even when they have attained what they were seeking. Such people are usually confined within too narrow a spiritual horizon. Their life has not sufficient content, sufficient meaning. If they are enabled to develop into more spacious personalities, the neurosis generally disappears.
โ€
โ€
C.G. Jung (Memories, Dreams, Reflections)
โ€œ
Soul mates' are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.
โ€
โ€
Spencer W. Kimball
โ€œ
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
โ€
โ€
Rodney Dangerfield
โ€œ
The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.
โ€
โ€
Timothy J. Keller (The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God)
โ€œ
The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost. โ€”GILBERT K. CHESTERTON
โ€
โ€
Amanda Lamb (Love Lies: A True Story of Marriage and Murder in the Suburbs)
โ€œ
We're taught that in life, we should try to look on the bright side. Not in this case. In this case, assume rejection first. Assume you're the rule, not the exception. It's liberating. But we also know it's not an easy concept. -He's not just into you
โ€
โ€
Greg Behrendt
โ€œ
Catholics don't believe in divorce. We do believe in murder. There's always Confession, after all. --Brianna Fraser to Roger MacKenzie
โ€
โ€
Diana Gabaldon (An Echo in the Bone (Outlander, #7))
โ€œ
Without contraries is no progression. Attraction and repulsion, reason and energy, love and hate, are necessary to human existence.
โ€
โ€
William Blake (The Marriage of Heaven and Hell)
โ€œ
You don't read Gatsby, I said, to learn whether adultery is good or bad but to learn about how complicated issues such as adultery and fidelity and marriage are. A great novel heightens your senses and sensitivity to the complexities of life and of individuals, and prevents you from the self-righteousness that sees morality in fixed formulas about good and evil.
โ€
โ€
Azar Nafisi (Reading Lolita in Tehran: A Memoir in Books)
โ€œ
We could go back," he said. In the dome light of the car, his face looked hard as stone. "We could go back to your house. I can stay with you always. We can know each other's bodies in every way, night after night. I could love you." His nostrils flared, and he looked suddenly proud. "I could work. You would not be poor. I would help you." "Sounds like a marriage," I said, trying to lighten the atmosphere. But my voice was too shaky. "Yes," he said.
โ€
โ€
Charlaine Harris (Dead to the World (Sookie Stackhouse, #4))
โ€œ
Jealousy is a rather enjoyable emotion to watch.
โ€
โ€
Chetan Bhagat (2 States: The Story of My Marriage)
โ€œ
Find a woman who makes you feel more alive. She won't make life perfect but she'll make it infinitely more interesting. And then love her with all that's in you.
โ€
โ€
Gayle Roper (Shadows on the Sand (Seaside Mysteries))
โ€œ
When love beckons to you follow him, Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you believe in him, Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden. For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning. Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth...... But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure, Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor, Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears. Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love. And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself." But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires: To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To know the pain of too much tenderness. To be wounded by your own understanding of love; And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
โ€
โ€
Kahlil Gibran (Le Prophรจte)
โ€œ
The true measure of a man is how he treats you when others are not looking.
โ€
โ€
Alessandra Torre
โ€œ
Real, sane, mature loveโ€”the kind that pays the mortgage year after year and picks up the kids after schoolโ€”is not based on infatuation but on affection and respect.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage)
โ€œ
โ€ŽI know you're still young but I want you to understand and learn this now. Marriage can wait, education cannot. You're a very very bright girl. Truly you are. You can be anything you want Laila. I know this about you. And I also know that when this war is over Afghanistan is going to need you as much as its men maybe even more. Because a society has no chance of success if its women are uneducated Laila. No chance.
โ€
โ€
Khaled Hosseini (A Thousand Splendid Suns)
โ€œ
When you find somebody you love, all the way through, and she loves youโ€”even with your weaknesses, your flaws, everything starts to click into place. And if you can talk to her, and she listens, if she makes you laugh, and makes you think, makes you want, makes you see who you really are, and who you are is better, just better with her, youโ€™d be crazy not to want to spend the rest of your life with her. (Carter Maguire)
โ€
โ€
Nora Roberts (Happy Ever After (Bride Quartet, #4))
โ€œ
Say youโ€™ll marry me when I come back or, before God, I wonโ€™t go. Iโ€™ll stay around here and play a guitar under your window every night and sing at the top of my voice and compromise you, so youโ€™ll have to marry me to save your reputation.
โ€
โ€
Margaret Mitchell (Gone with the Wind)
โ€œ
Your relationship may be "Breaking Up," but you won't be "Breaking Down." If anything your correcting a mistake that was hurting four people, you and the person your with, not to mention the two people who you were destined to meet.
โ€
โ€
D. Ivan Young (Break Up, Don't Break Down)
โ€œ
Love is the very essence of life. It is the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Yet it is not found only at the end of the rainbow. Love is at the beginning also, and from it springs the beauty that arched across the sky on a stormy day. Love is the security for which children weep, the yearning of youth, the adhesive that binds marriage, and the lubricant that prevents devastating friction in the home; it is the peace of old age, the sunlight of hope shining through death. How rich are those who enjoy it in their associations with family, friends, and neighbors! Love, like faith, is a gift of God. It is also the most enduring and most powerful virtue.
โ€
โ€
Gordon B. Hinckley (Standing for Something: Ten Neglected Virtues That Will Heal Our Hearts and Homes)
โ€œ
Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go... But, of course, ceasing to be "in love" need not mean ceasing to love. Love in this second sense โ€” love as distinct from "being in love" โ€” is not merely a feeling. It is a deep unity, maintained by the will and deliberately strengthened by habit; reinforced by (in Christian marriage) the grace which both partners ask, and receive, from God... "Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. It is on this love that the engine of marriage is run: being in love was the explosion that started it.
โ€
โ€
C.S. Lewis (Mere Christianity)
โ€œ
You are mistaken, Mr. Darcy, if you suppose that the mode of your declaration affected me in any other way, than as it spared the concern which I might have felt in refusing you, had you behaved in a more gentlemanlike manner." (Elizabeth Bennett)
โ€
โ€
Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
โ€œ
Dearest, I feel certain that I am going mad again. I feel we can't go through another of those terrible times. And I shan't recover this time. I begin to hear voices, and I can't concentrate. So I am doing what seems the best thing to do. You have given me the greatest possible happiness. You have been in every way all that anyone could be. I don't think two people could have been happier 'til this terrible disease came. I can't fight any longer. I know that I am spoiling your life, that without me you could work. And you will I know. You see I can't even write this properly. I can't read. What I want to say is I owe all the happiness of my life to you. You have been entirely patient with me and incredibly good. I want to say that โ€“ everybody knows it. If anybody could have saved me it would have been you. Everything has gone from me but the certainty of your goodness. I can't go on spoiling your life any longer. I don't think two people could have been happier than we have been. V.
โ€
โ€
Virginia Woolf
โ€œ
Love is a commitment that will be tested in the most vulnerable areas of spirituality, a commitment that will force you to make some very difficult choices. It is a commitment that demands that you deal with your lust, your greed, your pride, your power, your desire to control, your temper, your patience, and every area of temptation that the Bible clearly talks about. It demands the quality of commitment that Jesus demonstrates in His relationship to us.
โ€
โ€
Ravi Zacharias (I, Isaac, Take Thee, Rebekah: Moving from Romance to Lasting Love)
โ€œ
Iโ€™ve never been the one. Not for anybody.โ€ He closed the distance between them. โ€œYouโ€™ll get used to it.โ€ He tipped her face up to his, kissed her. โ€œWhy? Why am I the one?โ€ โ€œBecause my life opened up, and it flooded with color when you walked back into it.
โ€
โ€
Nora Roberts (Vision in White (Bride Quartet, #1))
โ€œ
It is important for a husband to understand that his words have tremendous power in his wifeโ€™s life. He needs to bless her with words. Sheโ€™s given her life to love and care for him, to partner with him, to create a family together, to nurture his children. If he is always finding fault in something sheโ€™s doing, always putting her down, he will reap horrendous problems in his marriage and in his life. Moreover, many women today are depressed and feel emotionally abused because their husbands do not bless them with their words. One of the leading causes of emotional breakdowns among married women is the fact that women do not feel valued. One of the main reasons for that deficiency is because husbands are willfully or unwittingly withholding the words of approval women so desperately desire. If you want to see God do wonders in your marriage, start praising your spouse. Start appreciating and encouraging her. Every single day, a husband should tell his wife, โ€œI love you. I appreciate you. Youโ€™re the best thing that ever happened to me.โ€ A wife should do the same for her husband. Your relationship would improve immensely if youโ€™d simply start speaking kind, positive words, blessing your spouse instead of cursing him or her.
โ€
โ€
Joel Osteen (Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential)
โ€œ
When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stand in front of you when otherโ€™s cast stones, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who will hold your hand when your sick, who thinks your pretty without makeup, the one who turns to his friends and say, โ€˜thatโ€™s herโ€™, the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live, who kisses you when you screw up, watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleepโ€ฆ..you marry him all over again.
โ€
โ€
Shannon L. Alder
โ€œ
Why? Why does what was beautiful suddenly shatter in hindsight because it concealed dark truths? Why does the memory of years of happy marriage turn to gall when our partner is revealed to have had a lover all those years? Because such a situation makes it impossible to be happy? But we were happy! Sometimes the memory of happiness cannot stay true because it ended unhappily. Because happiness is only real if it lasts forever? Because things always end painfully if they contained pain, conscious or unconscious, all along? But what is unconscious, unrecognized pain?
โ€
โ€
Bernhard Schlink (The Reader)
โ€œ
As a matter of fact it wouldnโ€™t be safe to tell any man the truth about his wife! Funnily enough, Iโ€™d trust most women with the truth about their husbands. Women can accept the fact that a man is a rotter, a swindler, a drug taker, a confirmed liar, and a general swine, without batting an eyelash, and without its impairing their affection for the brute in the least. Women are wonderful realists.
โ€
โ€
Agatha Christie (Murder in Mesopotamia (Hercule Poirot, #14))
โ€œ
Patience gives your spouse permission to be human. It understands that everyone fails. When a mistake is made, it chooses to give them more time that they deserve to correct it. It gives you the ability to hold on during the rough times in your relationship rather than bailing out under the pressure.
โ€
โ€
Stephen Kendrick (The Love Dare)
โ€œ
When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.
โ€
โ€
Fulton J. Sheen (Life is Worth Living)
โ€œ
I feel good with my husband: I like his warmth and his bigness and his being-there and his making and his jokes and stories and what he reads and how he likes fishing and walks and pigs and foxes and little animals and is honest and not vain or fame-crazy and how he shows his gladness for what I cook him and joy for when I make him something, a poem or a cake, and how he is troubled when I am unhappy and wants to do anything so I can fight out my soul-battles and grow up with courage and a philosophical ease. I love his good smell and his body that fits with mine as if they were made in the same body-shop to do just that. What is only pieces, doled out here and there to this boy and that boy, that made me like pieces of them, is all jammed together in my husband. So I don't want to look around any more: I don't need to look around for anything.
โ€
โ€
Sylvia Plath (The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath)
โ€œ
I had no illusions about you,' he said. 'I knew you were silly and frivolous and empty-headed. But I loved you. I knew that your aims and ideals were vulgar and commonplace. But I loved you. I knew that you were second-rate. But I loved you. It's comic when I think how hard I tried to be amused by the things that amused you and how anxious I was to hide from you that I wasn't ignorant and vulgar and scandal-mongering and stupid. I knew how frightened you were of intelligence and I did everything I could to make you think me as big a fool as the rest of the men you knew. I knew that you'd only married me for convenience. I loved you so much, I didn't care. Most people, as far as I can see, when they're in love with someone and the love isn't returned feel that they have a grievance. They grow angry and bitter. I wasn't like that. I never expected you to love me, I didn't see any reason that you should. I never thought myself very lovable. I was thankful to be allowed to love you and I was enraptured when now and then I thought you were pleased with me or when I noticed in your eyes a gleam of good-humored affection. I tried not to bore you with my love; I knew I couldn't afford to do that and I was always on the lookout for the first sign that you were impatient with my affection. What most husbands expect as a right I was prepared to receive as a favor.
โ€
โ€
W. Somerset Maugham (The Painted Veil)
โ€œ
Miss Cecily," she gasped, and then her eyes went to Will. She clapped a hand over her mouth, turned, and bolted back into the house. "Oh, dear," said Tessa. "I have that effect on women," Will said. " I probably should have warned you before you agreed to marry me." "I can still change my mind," Tessa said sweetly. "Don't you dare-," he began with a breathless half laugh.
โ€
โ€
Cassandra Clare (Clockwork Princess (The Infernal Devices, #3))
โ€œ
What do you think my chances might be of finding a soul mate in the group of you? I'll be lucky if I can just find someone who'll be able to stand me for the rest of our lives. What if I've already sent her home because I was relying on some sort of spark I didn't feel? What if she's waiting to leave me at the first sign of adversity? What if I don't find anyone at all? What do I do then, America?
โ€
โ€
Kiera Cass (The Selection (The Selection, #1))
โ€œ
The ones who are not soul-mated โ€“ the ones who have settled โ€“ are even more dismissive of my singleness: Itโ€™s not that hard to find someone to marry, they say. No relationship is perfect, they say โ€“ they, who make do with dutiful sex and gassy bedtime rituals, who settle for TV as conversation, who believe that husbandly capitulation โ€“ yes, honey, okay, honey โ€“ is the same as concord. Heโ€™s doing what you tell him to do because he doesnโ€™t care enough to argue, I think. Your petty demands simply make him feel superior, or resentful, and someday he will fuck his pretty, young coworker who asks nothing of him, and you will actually be shocked. Give me a man with a little fight in him, a man who calls me on my bullshit. (But who also kind of likes my bullshit.) And yet: Donโ€™t land me in one of those relationships where weโ€™re always pecking at each other, disguising insults as jokes, rolling our eyes and โ€˜playfullyโ€™ scrapping in front of our friends, hoping to lure them to our side of an argument they could not care less about. Those awful if only relationships: This marriage would be great if onlyโ€ฆ and you sense the if only list is a lot longer than either of them realizes. So I know I am right not to settle, but it doesnโ€™t make me feel better as my friends pair off and I stay home on Friday night with a bottle of wine and make myself an extravagant meal and tell myself, This is perfect, as if Iโ€™m the one dating me. As I go to endless rounds of parties and bar nights, perfumed and sprayed and hopeful, rotating myself around the room like some dubious dessert. I go on dates with men who are nice and good-looking and smart โ€“ perfect-on-paper men who make me feel like Iโ€™m in a foreign land, trying to explain myself, trying to make myself known. Because isnโ€™t that the point of every relationship: to be known by someone else, to be understood? He gets me. She gets me. Isnโ€™t that the simple magic phrase? So you suffer through the night with the perfect-on-paper man โ€“ the stutter of jokes misunderstood, the witty remarks lobbed and missed. Or maybe he understands that youโ€™ve made a witty remark but, unsure of what to do with it, he holds it in his hand like some bit of conversational phlegm he will wipe away later. You spend another hour trying to find each other, to recognise each other, and you drink a little too much and try a little too hard. And you go home to a cold bed and think, That was fine. And your life is a long line of fine.
โ€
โ€
Gillian Flynn (Gone Girl)
โ€œ
When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.
โ€
โ€
Sheryl Sandberg (Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead)
โ€œ
A love story can never be about full possession. The happy marriage, the requited love, the desire that never dims--these are lucky eventualites but they aren't love stories. Love stories depend on disappointment, on unequal births and feuding families, on matrimonial boredom and at least one cold heart. Love stories, nearly without exception, give love a bad name. We value love not because it's stronger than death but because it's weaker. Say what you want about love: death will finish it. You will not go on loving in the grave, not in any physical way that will at all resemble love as we know it on earth. The perishable nature of love is what gives love its importance in our lives. If it were endless, if it were on tap, love wouldn't hit us the way it does. And we certainly wouldn't write about it.
โ€
โ€
Jeffrey Eugenides (My Mistress's Sparrow Is Dead: Great Love Stories from Chekhov to Munro)
โ€œ
I've no more business to marry Edgar Linton than I have to be in heaven and if the wicked man in there had not brought Heathcliff so low I shouldn't have thought of it. It would degrade me to marry Heathcliff now so he shall never know how I love him and that not because he's handsome Nelly but because he's more myself than I am. Whatever our souls are made of his and mine are the same and Linton's is as different as a moonbeam from lightning or frost from fire.
โ€
โ€
Emily Brontรซ (Wuthering Heights)
โ€œ
You don't know when you're twenty-three. You don't know what it really means to crawl into someone else's life and stay there. You can't see all the ways you're going to get tangled, how you're going to bond skin to skin. How the idea of separating will feel in five years, in ten - in fifteen. When Georgie thought about divorce now, she imagined lying side by side with Neal on two operating tables while a team of doctors tried to unthread their vascular systems. She didn't know at twenty-three.
โ€
โ€
Rainbow Rowell (Landline)
โ€œ
Let me tell you about love, that silly word you believe is about whether you like somebody or whether somebody likes you or whether you can put up with somebody in order to get something or someplace you want or you believe it has to do with how your body responds to another body like robins or bison or maybe you believe love is how forces or nature or luck is benign to you in particular not maiming or killing you but if so doing it for your own good. Love is none of that. There is nothing in nature like it. Not in robins or bison or in the banging tails of your hunting dogs and not in blossoms or suckling foal. Love is divine only and difficult always. If you think it is easy you are a fool. If you think it is natural you are blind. It is a learned application without reason or motive except that it is God. You do not deserve love regardless of the suffering you have endured. You do not deserve love because somebody did you wrong. You do not deserve love just because you want it. You can only earn - by practice and careful contemplations - the right to express it and you have to learn how to accept it. Which is to say you have to earn God. You have to practice God. You have to think God-carefully. And if you are a good and diligent student you may secure the right to show love. Love is not a gift. It is a diploma. A diploma conferring certain privileges: the privilege of expressing love and the privilege of receiving it. How do you know you have graduated? You don't. What you do know is that you are human and therefore educable, and therefore capable of learning how to learn, and therefore interesting to God, who is interested only in Himself which is to say He is interested only in love. Do you understand me? God is not interested in you. He is interested in love and the bliss it brings to those who understand and share the interest. Couples that enter the sacrament of marriage and are not prepared to go the distance or are not willing to get right with the real love of God cannot thrive. They may cleave together like robins or gulls or anything else that mates for life. But if they eschew this mighty course, at the moment when all are judged for the disposition of their eternal lives, their cleaving won't mean a thing. God bless the pure and holy. Amen.
โ€
โ€
Toni Morrison (Paradise (Beloved Trilogy, #3))
โ€œ
Iโ€™m not laughing.โ€ I was actually crying. โ€œAnd please donโ€™t laugh at me now, but I think the reason itโ€™s so hard for me to get over this guy is because I seriously believed David was my soul mate. โ€He probably was. Your problem is you donโ€™t understand what that word means. People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and thatโ€™s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything thatโ€™s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person youโ€™ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it. Your problem is, you just canโ€™t let this one go. Itโ€™s over, Groceries. Davidโ€™s purpose was to shake you up, drive you out of your marriage that you needed to leave, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you had to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it. That was his job, and he did great, but now itโ€™s over. Problem is, you canโ€™t accept that his relationship had a real short shelf life. Youโ€™re like a dog at the dump, baby โ€“ youโ€™re just lickinโ€™ at the empty tin can, trying to get more nutrition out of it. And if youโ€™re not careful, that canโ€™s gonna get stuck on your snout forever and make your life miserable. So drop it.โ€œBut I love him.โ€ โ€œSo love him.โ€ โ€œBut I miss him.โ€ โ€œSo miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, then drop it. Youโ€™re just afraid to let go of the last bits of David because then youโ€™ll be really alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen if sheโ€™s really alone. But hereโ€™s what you gotta understand, Groceries. If you clear out all that space in your mind that youโ€™re using right now to obsess about this guy, youโ€™ll have a vacuum there, an open spot โ€“ a doorway. And guess what the universe will do with the doorway? It will rush in โ€“ God will rush in โ€“ and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go.
โ€
โ€
Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
โ€œ
Certainly the most destructive vice if you like, that a person can have. More than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins - is self pity. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred's a subset of self pity and not the other way around - ' It destroys everything around it, except itself '. Self pity will destroy relationships, it'll destroy anything that's good, it will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. And it's so simple to imagine that one is hard done by, and that things are unfair, and that one is underappreciated, and that if only one had had a chance at this, only one had had a chance at that, things would have gone better, you would be happier if only this, that one is unlucky. All those things. And some of them may well even be true. But, to pity oneself as a result of them is to do oneself an enormous disservice. I think it's one of things we find unattractive about the american culture, a culture which I find mostly, extremely attractive, and I like americans and I love being in america. But, just occasionally there will be some example of the absolutely ravening self pity that they are capable of, and you see it in their talk shows. It's an appalling spectacle, and it's so self destructive. I almost once wanted to publish a self help book saying 'How To Be Happy by Stephen Fry : Guaranteed success'. And people buy this huge book and it's all blank pages, and the first page would just say - ' Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself - And you will be happy '. Use the rest of the book to write down your interesting thoughts and drawings, and that's what the book would be, and it would be true. And it sounds like 'Oh that's so simple', because it's not simple to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's bloody hard. Because we do feel sorry for ourselves, it's what Genesis is all about.
โ€
โ€
Stephen Fry
โ€œ
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.
โ€
โ€
Kahlil Gibran
โ€œ
Free love? As if love is anything but free! Man has bought brains, but all the millions in the world have failed to buy love. Man has subdued bodies, but all the power on earth has been unable to subdue love. Man has conquered whole nations, but all his armies could not conquer love. Man has chained and fettered the spirit, but he has been utterly helpless before love. High on a throne, with all the splendor and pomp his gold can command, man is yet poor and desolate, if love passes him by. And if it stays, the poorest hovel is radiant with warmth, with life and color. Thus love has the magic power to make of a beggar a king. Yes, love is free; it can dwell in no other atmosphere. In freedom it gives itself unreservedly, abundantly, completely. All the laws on the statutes, all the courts in the universe, cannot tear it from the soil, once love has taken root.
โ€
โ€
Emma Goldman (Marriage and Love)
โ€œ
But depression wasn't the word. This was a plunge encompassing sorrow and revulsion far beyond the personal: a sick, drenching nausea at all humanity and human endeavor from the dawn of time. The writhing loathsomeness of the biological order. Old age, sickness, death. No escape for anyone. Even the beautiful ones were like soft fruit about to spoil. And yet somehow people still kept fucking and breeding and popping out new fodder for the grave, producing more and more new beings to suffer like this was some kind of redemptive, or good, or even somehow morally admirable thing: dragging more innocent creatures into the lose-lose game. Squirming babies and plodding, complacent, hormone-drugged moms. Oh, isn't he cute? Awww. Kids shouting and skidding in the playground with no idea what future Hells await them: boring jobs and ruinous mortgages and bad marriages and hair loss and hip replacements and lonely cups of coffee in an empty house and a colostomy bag at the hospital. Most people seemed satisfied with the thin decorative glaze and the artful stage lighting that sometimes, made the bedrock atrocity of the human predicament look somewhat more mysterious or less abhorrent. People gambled and golfed and planted gardens and traded stocks and had sex and bought new cars and practiced yoga and worked and prayed and redecorated their homes and got worked up over the news and fussed over their children and gossiped about their neighbors and pored over restaurant reviews and founded charitable organizations and supported political candidates and attended the U.S. Open and dined and travelled and distracted themselves with all kinds of gadgets and devices, flooding themselves incessantly with information and texts and communication and entertainment from every direction to try to make themselves forget it: where we were, what we were. But in a strong light there was no good spin you could put on it. It was rotten from top to bottom.
โ€
โ€
Donna Tartt (The Goldfinch)
โ€œ
Soon after the completion of his college course, his whole nature was kindled into one intense and passionate effervescence of romantic passion. His hour came,โ€”the hour that comes only once; his star rose in the horizon,โ€”that star that rises so often in vain, to be remembered only as a thing of dreams; and it rose for him in vain. To drop the figure,โ€”he saw and won the love of a high-minded and beautiful woman, in one of the northern states, and they were affianced. He returned south to make arrangements for their marriage, when, most unexpectedly, his letters were returned to him by mail, with a short note from her guardian, stating to him that ere this reached him the lady would be the wife of another. Stung to madness, he vainly hoped, as many another has done, to fling the whole thing from his heart by one desperate effort. Too proud to supplicate or seek explanation, he threw himself at once into a whirl of fashionable society, and in a fortnight from the time of the fatal letter was the accepted lover of the reigning belle of the season; and as soon as arrangements could be made, he became the husband of a fine figure, a pair of bright dark eyes, and a hundred thousand dollars; and, of course, everybody thought him a happy fellow. The married couple were enjoying their honeymoon, and entertaining a brilliant circle of friends in their splendid villa, near Lake Pontchartrain, when, one day, a letter was brought to him in that well-remembered writing. It was handed to him while he was in full tide of gay and successful conversation, in a whole room-full of company. He turned deadly pale when he saw the writing, but still preserved his composure, and finished the playful warfare of badinage which he was at the moment carrying on with a lady opposite; and, a short time after, was missed from the circle. In his room,alone, he opened and read the letter, now worse than idle and useless to be read. It was from her, giving a long account of a persecution to which she had been exposed by her guardian's family, to lead her to unite herself with their son: and she related how, for a long time, his letters had ceased to arrive; how she had written time and again, till she became weary and doubtful; how her health had failed under her anxieties, and how, at last, she had discovered the whole fraud which had been practised on them both. The letter ended with expressions of hope and thankfulness, and professions of undying affection, which were more bitter than death to the unhappy young man. He wrote to her immediately: I have received yours,โ€”but too late. I believed all I heard. I was desperate. I am married, and all is over. Only forget,โ€”it is all that remains for either of us." And thus ended the whole romance and ideal of life for Augustine St. Clare. But the real remained,โ€”the real, like the flat, bare, oozy tide-mud, when the blue sparkling wave, with all its company of gliding boats and white-winged ships, its music of oars and chiming waters, has gone down, and there it lies, flat, slimy, bare,โ€”exceedingly real. Of course, in a novel, people's hearts break, and they die, and that is the end of it; and in a story this is very convenient. But in real life we do not die when all that makes life bright dies to us.
โ€
โ€
Harriet Beecher Stowe (Uncle Tom's Cabin)
โ€œ
believe that this way of living, this focus on the present, the daily, the tangible, this intense concentration not on the news headlines but on the flowers growing in your own garden, the children growing in your own home, this way of living has the potential to open up the heavens, to yield a glittering handful of diamonds where a second ago there was coal. This way of living and noticing and building and crafting can crack through the movie sets and soundtracks that keep us waiting for our own life stories to begin, and set us free to observe the lives we have been creating all along without ever realizing it. I donโ€™t want to wait anymore. I choose to believe that there is nothing more sacred or profound than this day. I choose to believe that there may be a thousand big moments embedded in this day, waiting to be discovered like tiny shards of gold. The big moments are the daily, tiny moments of courage and forgiveness and hope that we grab on to and extend to one another. Thatโ€™s the drama of life, swirling all around us, and generally I donโ€™t even see it, because Iโ€™m too busy waiting to become whatever it is I think I am about to become. The big moments are in every hour, every conversation, every meal, every meeting. The Heisman Trophy winner knows this. He knows that his big moment was not when they gave him the trophy. It was the thousand times he went to practice instead of going back to bed. It was the miles run on rainy days, the healthy meals when a burger sounded like heaven. That big moment represented and rested on a foundation of moments that had come before it. I believe that if we cultivate a true attention, a deep ability to see what has been there all along, we will find worlds within us and between us, dreams and stories and memories spilling over. The nuances and shades and secrets and intimations of love and friendship and marriage an parenting are action-packed and multicolored, if you know where to look. Today is your big moment. Moments, really. The life youโ€™ve been waiting for is happening all around you. The scene unfolding right outside your window is worth more than the most beautiful painting, and the crackers and peanut butter that youโ€™re having for lunch on the coffee table are as profound, in their own way, as the Last Supper. This is it. This is life in all its glory, swirling and unfolding around us, disguised as pedantic, pedestrian non-events. But pull of the mask and you will find your life, waiting to be made, chosen, woven, crafted. Your life, right now, today, is exploding with energy and power and detail and dimension, better than the best movie you have ever seen. You and your family and your friends and your house and your dinner table and your garage have all the makings of a life of epic proportions, a story for the ages. Because they all are. Every life is. You have stories worth telling, memories worth remembering, dreams worth working toward, a body worth feeding, a soul worth tending, and beyond that, the God of the universe dwells within you, the true culmination of super and natural. You are more than dust and bones. You are spirit and power and image of God. And you have been given Today.
โ€
โ€
Shauna Niequist (Cold Tangerines: Celebrating the Extraordinary Nature of Everyday Life)