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Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness in people.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you imagine.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Life is too short to waste your time on people who donβt respect, appreciate, and value you.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Live the Life of Your Dreams: Be brave enough to live the life of your dreams according to your vision and purpose instead of the expectations and opinions of others.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.
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Dale Carnegie (How to Win Friends & Influence People)
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You cannot control the behavior of others, but you can always choose how you respond to it.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Success is not how high you have climbed, but how you make a positive difference to the world.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Pursue what catches your heart, not what catches your eyes.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Make improvements, not excuses. Seek respect, not attention.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Start each day with a positive thought and a grateful heart.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals.
If you arenβt grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Life is about accepting the challenges along the way, choosing to keep moving forward, and savoring the journey.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who donβt respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Never lose hope. Storms make people stronger and never last forever.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.
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Paulo Coelho
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Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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If you want to forget something or someone, never hate it, or never hate him/her. Everything and everyone that you hate is engraved upon your heart; if you want to let go of something, if you want to forget, you cannot hate.
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C. JoyBell C.
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Always find opportunities to make someone smile, and to offer random acts of kindness in everyday life.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Sometimes you have to lose all you have to find out who you truly are.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Don't Just
Don't just learn, experience.
Don't just read, absorb.
Don't just change, transform.
Don't just relate, advocate.
Don't just promise, prove.
Don't just criticize, encourage.
Don't just think, ponder.
Don't just take, give.
Don't just see, feel.
Donβt just dream, do.
Don't just hear, listen.
Don't just talk, act.
Don't just tell, show.
Don't just exist, live.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Do not let the memories of your past limit the potential of your future. There are no limits to what you can achieve on your journey through life, except in your mind.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Stop comparing yourself to other people, just choose to be happy and live your own life.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Let the improvement of yourself keep you so busy that you have no time to criticize others.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Life has no remote....get up and change it yourself!
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Mark A. Cooper (Operation Einstein (Edelweiss Pirates #1))
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The unhappiest people in this world, are those who care the most about what other people think.
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C. JoyBell C.
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The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.
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C. JoyBell C.
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Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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If you can't change your fate, change your attitude.
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Amy Tan
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Do Not Lie to Yourself
We have to be honest about what we want and take risks rather than lie to ourselves and make excuses to stay in our comfort zone.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Do what you love, love what you do, and with all your heart give yourself to it.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Once you realize you deserve a bright future, letting go of your dark past is the best choice you will ever make.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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The outer world is a reflection of the inner world. Other peopleβs perception of you is a reflection of them; your response to them is an awareness of you.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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If you believe very strongly in something, stand up and fight for it.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Always remember people who have helped you along the way, and donβt forget to lift someone up.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.
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C. JoyBell C.
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Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses, and start making changes.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Strong people have a strong sense of self-worth and self-awareness; they donβt need the approval of others.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Smile more. Smiling can make you and others happy.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Never stop dreaming,
never stop believing,
never give up,
never stop trying, and
never stop learning.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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It's never too late to change your life for the better. You don't have to take huge steps to change your life. Making even the smallest changes to your daily routine can make a big difference to your life.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn't have the time to sit around and talk about you. What's important to me is not others' opinions of me, but what's important to me is my opinion of myself.
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C. JoyBell C.
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When the going gets tough, put one foot in front of the other and just keep going. Donβt give up.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Our life is what our thoughts make it.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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Count your blessings, not your problems. Count your own blessings, not someone else's. Remember that jealousy is when you count someone else's blessings instead of your own.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Stop giving other people the power to control your happiness, your mind, and your life. If you don't take control of yourself and your own life, someone else is bound to try.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Everyone you meet is a part of your journey, but not all of them are meant to stay in your life. Some people are just passing through to bring you gifts; either they're blessings or lessons.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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A smile puts you on the right track. A smile makes the world a beautiful place. When you lose your smile, you lose your way in the chaos of life.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Do not let arrogance go to your head and despair to your heart; do not let compliments go to your head and criticisms to your heart; do not let success go to your head and failure to your heart.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.
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Roy T. Bennett
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There will be a few times in your life when all your instincts will tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others. When that happens, you do it. Listen to your instincts and ignore everything else. Ignore logic, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it.
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Judith McNaught (Remember When (Foster Saga, #1))
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If you have a strong purpose in life, you don't have to be pushed. Your passion will drive you there.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Guard well your thoughts when alone and your words when accompanied.
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Roy T. Bennett
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Nothing can disturb your peace of mind unless you allow it to.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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You cannot change anyone, but you can be the reason someone changes.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Each day brings new opportunities, allowing you to constantly live with loveβbe there for othersβbring a little light into someone's day. Be grateful and live each day to the fullest.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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The strongest people find the courage and caring to help others, even if they are going through their own storm.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Courage is feeling fear, not getting rid of fear, and taking action in the face of fear.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Kindness is not a business. True kindness expects nothing in return and should never act with conditions.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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The biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind: Never let your mind talk you out of your dreams, trick you into giving up. Never let your mind become the greatest obstacle to success. To get your mind on the right track, the rest will follow.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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You are in charge of your own happiness; you don't need to wait for other people's permission to be happy.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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It does not matter how long you are spending on the earth, how much money you have gathered or how much attention you have received. It is the amount of positive vibration you have radiated in life that matters,
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Amit Ray (Meditation: Insights and Inspirations)
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People have to forgive. We don't have to like them, we don't have to be friends with them, we don't have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don't we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!
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C. JoyBell C.
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You Are the Master of Your Attitude
You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control the way you think about all the events. You always have a choice. You can choose to face them with a positive mental attitude.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Patience Is Not the Ability to Wait:
Patience is not the ability to wait. Patience is to be calm no matter what happens, constantly take action to turn it to positive growth opportunities, and have faith to believe that it will all work out in the end while you are waiting.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Donβt let others tell you what you canβt do. Don't let the limitations of others limit your vision. If you can remove your self-doubt and believe in yourself, you can achieve what you never thought possible.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Perfectionism is the enemy of happiness. Embrace being perfectly imperfect. Learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself, youβll be happier. We make mistakes because we are imperfect. Learn from your mistakes, forgive yourself, and keep moving forward.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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You are unique. You have different talents and abilities. You donβt have to always follow in the footsteps of others. And most important, you should always remind yourself that you don't have to do what everyone else is doing and have a responsibility to develop the talents you have been given.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Turn your obstacles into opportunities and your problems into possibilities.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Never let hard lessons harden your heart; the hard lessons of life are meant to make you better, not bitter.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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I'm unpredictable, I never know where I'm going until I get there, I'm so random, I'm always growing, learning, changing, I'm never the same person twice. But one thing you can be sure of about me; is I will always do exactly what I want to do.
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C. JoyBell C.
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Most of us must learn to love people and use things rather than loving things and using people.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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It takes sunshine and rain to make a rainbow. There would be no rainbows without sunshine and rain.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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When one has a grateful heart, life is so beautiful.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude
toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather
than allowing it to master you.
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Brian Tracy
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It takes guts and humility to admit mistakes. Admitting we're wrong is courage, not weakness.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Discipline Your Mind to Think Positively: Discipline your mind to see the good in every situation and look on the best side of every event.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Don't wait for the right moment to start, start and make each moment right.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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The one who falls and gets up is stronger than the one who never tried. Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Donβt wait for things to happen. Make them happen.
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Roy T. Bennett
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You donβt have to like someone, but you have to treat them as you wish to be treated.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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Good people see the good and bring out the best in other people.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.
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C. JoyBell C.
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You are someone who is different, but who wants to be the same as everyone else. And that in my view is a serious illness. God chose you to be different. Why are you disappointing God with this kind of attitude?
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Paulo Coelho (Veronika Decides to Die)
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Dance. Smile. Giggle. Marvel. TRUST. HOPE. LOVE. WISH. BELIEVE. Most of all, enjoy every moment of the journey, and appreciate where you are at this moment instead of always focusing on how far you have to go.
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Mandy Hale (The Single WomanβLife, Love, and a Dash of Sass: Embracing Singleness with Confidence)
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7 Effective Ways to Make Others Feel Important
1. Use their name.
2. Express sincere gratitude.
3. Do more listening than talking.
4. Talk more about them than about you.
5. Be authentically interested.
6. Be sincere in your praise.
7. Show you care.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts.
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Elizabeth Gilbert
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Passion makes a person stop eating, sleeping, working, feeling at peace. A lot of people are frightened because, when it appears, it demolishes all the old things it finds in its path.
No one wants their life thrown into chaos. That is why a lot of people keep that threat under control, and are somehow capable of sustaining a house or a structure that is already rotten. They are the engineers of the superseded.
Other people think exactly the opposite: they surrender themselves without a second thought, hoping to find in passion the solutions to all their problems. They make the other person responsible for their happiness and blame them for their possible unhappiness. They are either euphoric because something marvelous has happened or depressed because something unexpected has just ruined everything.
Keeping passion at bay or surrendering blindly to it - which of these two attitudes is the least destructive?
I don't know.
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Paulo Coelho (Eleven Minutes)
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The ship of my life may or may not be sailing on calm and amiable seas. The challenging days of my existence may or may not be bright and promising. Stormy or sunny days, glorious or lonely nights, I maintain an attitude of gratitude. If I insist on being pessimistic, there is always tomorrow. Today I am blessed.
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Maya Angelou
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Anger is like flowing water; there's nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow; water that you gathered in one place and left to forget. Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease-ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human.
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C. JoyBell C.
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The person in life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself.What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it's your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who's not full of hate, who's able to smile and be carefree. So that's who I have to be.
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C. JoyBell C.
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You're going to meet many people with domineering personalities: the loud, the obnoxious, those that noisily stake their claims in your territory and everywhere else they set foot on. This is the blueprint of a predator. Predators prey on gentleness, peace, calmness, sweetness and any positivity that they sniff out as weakness. Anything that is happy and at peace they mistake for weakness. It's not your job to change these people, but it's your job to show them that your peace and gentleness do not equate to weakness. I have always appeared to be fragile and delicate but the thing is, I am not fragile and I am not delicate. I am very gentle but I can show you that the gentle also possess a poison. I compare myself to silk. People mistake silk to be weak but a silk handkerchief can protect the wearer from a gunshot. There are many people who will want to befriend you if you fit the description of what they think is weak; predators want to have friends that they can dominate over because that makes them feel strong and important. The truth is that predators have no strength and no courage. It is you who are strong, and it is you who has courage. I have lost many a friend over the fact that when they attempt to rip me, they can't. They accuse me of being deceiving; I am not deceiving, I am just made of silk. It is they who are stupid and wrongly take gentleness and fairness for weakness. There are many more predators in this world, so I want you to be made of silk. You are silk.
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How should we be able to forget those ancient myths that are at the beginning of all peoples, the myths about dragons that at the last moment turn into princesses; perhaps all the dragons of our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and brave. Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being something helpless that wants help from us.
So you must not be frightened if a sadness rises up before you larger than any you have ever seen; if a restiveness, like light and cloudshadows, passes over your hands and over all you do. You must think that something is happening with you, that life has not forgotten you, that it holds you in its hand; it will not let you fall. Why do you want to shut out of your life any uneasiness, any miseries, or any depressions? For after all, you do not know what work these conditions are doing inside you.
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The acceptance of oneself is the essence of the whole moral problem and the epitome of a whole outlook on life. That I feed the hungry, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy in the name of Christ -- all these are undoubtedly great virtues. What I do unto the least of my brethren, that I do unto Christ. But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all the beggars, the most impudent of all the offenders, the very enemy himself -- that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of the alms of my own kindness -- that I myself am the enemy who must be loved -- what then? As a rule, the Christian's attitude is then reversed; there is no longer any question of love or long-suffering; we say to the brother within us "Raca," and condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide it from the world; we refuse to admit ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves.
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C.G. Jung (Memories, Dreams, Reflections)
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As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is βAUTHENTICITYβ.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it βRESPECTβ.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it βMATURITYβ.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it βSELF-CONFIDENCEβ.
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it βSIMPLICITYβ.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health β food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is βLOVE OF ONESELFβ.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is βMODESTYβ.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it βFULFILLMENTβ.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection βWISDOM OF THE HEARTβ.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know βTHAT IS LIFEβ!
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Charlie Chaplin
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The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.
Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An
important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative
thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will
change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you
to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb will want you to
crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that
don't increase you will eventually decrease you.
Consider this:
Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems
with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who
never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has
a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the
bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don't follow anyone
who's not going anywhere.
With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. Be careful
where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the
person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. If you run with
wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you
will learn how to soar to great heights.
"A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the
kind of friends he chooses."
The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you
closely associate - for the good and the bad.
Note: Be not mistaken. This is applicable to family as well as friends.
Yes...do love, appreciate and be thankful for your family, for they will
always be your family no matter what. Just know that they are human first
and though they are family to you, they may be a friend to someone else and
will fit somewhere in the criteria above.
"In Prosperity Our Friends Know Us. In Adversity We Know Our friends."
"Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them."
"If you are going to achieve excellence in big things,you develop the habit in little matters.
Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.."..
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