Kubler Ross Quotes

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.

There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from.

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in this life has a purpose.

There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.

According to Elizabeth Kubler Ross, there are fivestages of grief a person passes through after the death of aloved one: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

I've told my children that when I die, to release balloons in the sky to celebrate that I graduated. For me, death is a graduation.

When I die I'm going to dance first in all the galaxies...I'm gonna play and dance and sing.

All events are blessings given to us to learn from.

My patients taught me not how to die, but how to live.

If we could raise one generation with unconditional love, there would be no Hitlers. We need to teach the next generation of children from Day One that they are responsible for their lives. Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.

most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Someone experiencing the stages of grief is rarely aware of how his behavior might appear to others. Grief often produces a “zoom lens effect,” in which the focus is entirely on oneself, to the exclusion of external considerations.

Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.

It is very important that you do only what you love to do. You may be poor, you may go hungry, you may live in a shabby place, but you will totally live. And at the end of your days, you will bless your life because you have done what you came here to do.

Dying is something we human beings do continuously, not just at the end of our physical lives on this earth.

The five stages - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance - are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief.

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself and know that everything in life has a purpose. ELISABETH KUBLER-ROSS, M.D.

The fact is that when you admit that you can’t blame anyone or anything else, you begin to blame yourself. The human mind gives up trying to find an executioner, but still it must blame someone. Anger that is not expressed tends to turn inward and, instead, attacks the very one who feels it. You move from anger and guilt into depression.

The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross ╬

Facing death means facing the ultimate question of the meaning of life. If we really want to live we must have the courage to recognize that life is ultimately very short, and that everything we do counts.

/“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.” / — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

If not for death would we appreciate life?

If you have not resolved your grief, it will affect your future relationships including the one you have with yourself. Including the one you have with me. It will keep us all in a holding pattern, putting a straightjacket on your love and chaining you to the past instead of moving you forward into the future.

If you are working with a therapist counselor social worker grief expert minister priest or anyone else who is trying to help you navigate the wilderness of grief and they start talking about the groundbreaking observations of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross suggesting there is an orderly predictable unfolding of grief please please please. Do yourself a favor. Leave. People who are dying often experience five stages of grief: denial anger bargaining depression and acceptance. They are grieving their impending death. This is what Elizabeth Kubler Ross observed. People who are learning to live with the death of a beloved have a different process. It isn’t the same. It isn’t orderly. It isn’t predictable. Grief is wild and messy and unpredictable

You are alone. There is a wall now where none existed before, standing between you and the rest of the world.

The change "grief cycle", for some people, may be excitement, enthusiasm, engagement, effort, and excellence.

If you truly want to grow as a person and learn, you should realize that the universe has enrolled you in the graduate program of life, called loss,” as Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross says.

Learning lessons is a little like reaching maturity. You're not suddenly more happy, wealthy, or powerful, but you understand the world around you better, and you're at peace with yourself.

are like stained glass windows; they sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true identity is revealed only if there is light within.” —Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”  –Elisabeth Kubler-Ross By

This nameless angel gave Kubler-Ross the most valuable lesson of her life, telling her: "Death is not a stranger to me. He is an old, old acquaintance." It takes courage to befriend death. We find that courage in life through loving.

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” ― Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler

Jennifer was told to be strong for her children when her husband died. Today she wonders about the message her dry eyes implied. Did her children think she didn’t care? “What if I did cry in front of the kids? What if I modeled grief for them in that way? I could have said, ‘Mommy is sad and crying because Daddy has died.’ I could have reassured them that I was still strong enough to be there for them and take care of them.” Children need to know that strong people cry when loved ones die and that does not hamper their ability to go on with life.

In the Kübler-Ross model, there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The model is supposed to apply to most major losses. Stuff like death, breakups, dealing with your parents’ divorce, overcoming addiction. In general, it works. But for Haruka, and she imagines most others like her, the smart ones, the brave ones, there is another stage: revenge. That’s not the same as anger, revenge. No. Anger is a much simpler concept. An easy emotion to tap into. Primitive. It’s rooted in the limbic system, the amygdala. A banging of the fists and stomping of the feet and overall feeling of “I’m mad!” Anger can be reduced to an emoji, or several with slight variations. Although, they’re usually a little too cute for what’s at the core of that actual emotion, anger. It can be very scary when witnessed. Revenge is more complicated. More sophisticated. It’s also less scary-looking, almost clinical when carried out. It would take at least two distinct emojis to express properly. More like three. Something to depict a wrongdoing, something to show contemplation, then lastly the victim committing an evil act with a calm, satisfied smile.

There are many, many great books available in every format – all affordable to anyone.  Please visit Amazon.com and search for child loss books.  Read the reviews and choose books that you feel would be helpful to you.  I’m so pleased to say that a book I authored more than twenty years ago, Silent Grief, is one the few books on child loss that remains in the top 100 best books on child loss for over twenty years.  Silent Grief is truly a timeless classic and it will give you much-needed insights into the world of grief, hope, and healing for child loss. I highly recommend any books by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the woman who literally brought the word “grief” to the

Acceptance is often confused with the notion of being alright or okay with what has happened. This is not the case.

If we could combine the teaching of the new scientific and technical achievements with equal emphasis on the interpersonal human relationships we could indeed make progress, but not if the new knowledge is conveyed to the student at the price of less and less interpersonal contact

The most beautiful people. . . are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.

Cuando se aprende la lección, el dolor desaparece

The problem with all this (Kubler-Ross 5 stages of grief) is that there is no solid evidence that these theories about grief's stages are true. In fact, the evidence we do have, says Konigsberg, points to grief as unpredictable, wild and undomesticated in its form and intensity. It breaks like a storm over us and then calms, seemingly without reason. With the possible exception of deeply pathological grief, attempts to manage grief therapeutically are largely useless--and may harm people more than they help them.

Alguém me disse que existem cinco estados de luto. Eu não sei. Nunca precisei de saber. Bem… pelo menos até agora. Um modelo qualquer, inventado por alguém, que não tinha mais nada que fazer a não ser atirar-nos à cara com o que estamos ou vamos sentir. Como se já não bastasse a negação, raiva e depressão, ainda podemos juntar antecipação à mistura; aquele sentimento de êxtase que sentimos ao descobrir que depois de te sentires mal, ainda vais continuar a sentir-te pior.

Morir no es algo que haya que temer; puede ser la experiencia más maravillosa de la vida. Todo depende de cómo hemos vivido.

Love is really the only thing we can possess, keep with us, take with us.

The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor should you want to. ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler~ ~***~

The most beautiful people we have known are those that have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. Those persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross~

Should you shield the canyons from the windstorms, you would never see the beauty of their carvings. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The old adage "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink," is as true todoay as it was when it first originated. Your employees (and friends or family members for that matter) have to see (and often feel) a reason to take specific measured actions before they will do so. Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross documented this in her work on dealing with the loss of a loved one, where people often negotiated or denied rather than deal with what was in front of their faces. This is just as relevant in business as it is in relationships.

تعلم أن تتواصل مع الصمت في داخلك، واعلم أن لكل شيء في الحياة مبتغى. ليس وجوده عن خطأ أوعن صدف، كل الأحداث نعم قدمت إلينا لنتعلم منها.

In the Kübler-Ross model, there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The model is supposed to apply to most major losses. Stuff like death, breakups, dealing with your parents’ divorce, overcoming addiction. In general, it works. But for Haruka, and she imagines most others like her, the smart ones, the brave ones, there is another stage: revenge. That’s not the same as anger, revenge. No. Anger is a much simpler concept. An easy emotion to tap into. Primitive. It’s rooted in the limbic system, the amygdala. A banging of the fists and stomping of the feet and overall feeling of “I’m mad!” Anger can be reduced to an emoji, or several with slight variations. Although, they’re usually a little too cute for what’s at the core of that actual emotion, anger. It can be very scary when witnessed. Revenge is more complicated. More sophisticated. It’s also less scary-looking, almost clinical when carried out. It would take at least two distinct emojis to express properly. More like three. Something to depict a wrongdoing, something to show contemplation, then lastly the victim committing an evil act with a calm, satisfied smile.

In the Kübler-Ross model, there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The model is supposed to apply to most major losses. Stuff like death, breakups, dealing with your parents’ divorce, overcoming addiction. In general, it works. But for Haruka, and she imagines most others like her, the smart ones, the brave ones, there is another stage: revenge. That’s not the same as anger, revenge. No. Anger is a much simpler concept. An easy emotion to tap into. Primitive. It’s rooted in the limbic system, the amygdala. A banging of the fists and stomping of the feet and overall feeling of ‘I’m mad!’ Anger can be reduced to an emoji, or several with slight variations. Although, they’re usually a little too cute for what’s at the core of that actual emotion, anger. It can be very scary when witnessed. Revenge is more complicated. More sophisticated. It’s also less scary-looking, almost clinical when carried out. It would take at least two distinct emojis to express properly. More like three. Something to depict a wrongdoing, something to show contemplation, then lastly the victim committing an evil act with a calm, satisfied smile.

The Kübler-Ross model would just have you accept someone dying of cancer. But under the Kidokoro-Kübler-Ross model, cancer would be cured. Parents would have to answer to their children for their divorces, give them whatever they want all the time to fill them with more happy hormones for the sadness they created. The drug addict would kill his dealer, or at least get him locked away forever. And the scorned lover in a breakup would move on to someone twice as hot as their ex, then rub it in the exes face over social media. Rational, intuitive things like this. In keeping with the greater good and what’s right. This is the Kidokoro-Kübler-Ross model.

Elisabeth understood that life is a passage with a beginning and an end, and that it was time for humanity to face the end of life with as much awareness, dignity, and love as that accorded to birth. Bringing this truth to the world became her life mission.