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The hardness of a diamond is part of its usefulness, but its true value is in the light that shines through it.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Yoga is like music: the rhythm of the body, the melody of the mind, and the harmony of the soul create the symphony of life.
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B.K.S. Iyengar
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It is through your body that you realize you are a spark of divinity.
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B.K.S. Iyengar
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Yoga does not just change the way we see things, it transforms the person who sees.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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You must purge yourself before finding faults in others.
When you see a mistake in somebody else, try to find if you are making the same mistake.
This is the way to take judgment and to turn it into improvement.
Do not look at others' bodies with envy or with superiority.
All people are born with different constitutions.
Never compare with others.
Each one's capacities are a function of his or her internal strength.
Know your capacities and continually improve upon them.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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It is through the alignment of the body that I discovered the alignment of my mind, self, and intelligence.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Yoga allows you to find a new kind of freedom that you may not have known even existed.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Yoga allows you to rediscover a sense of wholeness in your life, where you do not feel like you are constantly trying to fit broken pieces together.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Be inspired but not proud.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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What you see determines how you interpret the world, which in turn influences what you expect of the world and how you expect the story of your life to unfold.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Breath is the king of mind.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Yoga)
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Action is movement with intelligence. The world is filled with movement. What the world needs is more conscious movement, more action.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Health is a state of complete harmony of the body, mind and spirit. When one is free from physical disabilities and mental distractions, the gates of the soul open.
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B.K.S. Iyengar
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There is only one reality, but there are many ways that reality can be interpreted.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Nothing can be forced, receptivity is everything.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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A person of “good character” was one who acted in accordance with the expectations of his community
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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We are sculptors finding ourselves in the evolution of choosing, not in the results of choice.
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Sheena Iyengar
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One's spiritual realization lies in none other than how one walks among and interacts with one's fellow beings.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Love begets courage, moderation creates abundance and humility generates power.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Yoga)
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Spirituality is not some external goal that one must seek, but a part of the divine core of each of us, which we must reveal.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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There is a universal reality in ourselves that aligns us with a universal reality that is everywhere.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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You do not need to seek freedom in a different land, for it exists with your own body, heart, mind, and soul.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Do not aim low, you will miss the mark. Aim high and you will be on a threshold of bliss.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Yoga allows you to find an inner peace that is not ruffled and riled by the endless stresses and struggles of life.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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As animals, we walk the earth. As bearers of divine essence, we are among the stars. As human beings, we are caught in the middle, seeking to reconcile the paradox of how to make our way upon earth while striving for something more permanent and more profound.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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The great artist Michelangelo claimed that his sculptures were already present in the stone, and all he had to do was carve away everything else.
Our understanding of identity is often similar: Beneath the many layers of shoulds and shouldn’ts that cover us, there lies a constant, single, true self that is just waiting to be discovered.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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There is no progress toward ultimate freedom without transformation, and this is the key issue in all lives.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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You exist without the feeling of existence.
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B.K.S. Iyengar
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The union of nature and soul removes the veil of ignorance that covers our intelligence.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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We must create a marriage between the awareness of the body and that of the mind. When two parties do not cooperate, there is unhappiness on both sides.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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when people are given a moderate number of options (4 to 6) rather than a large number (20 to 30), they are more likely to make a choice, are more confident in their decisions, and are happier with what they choose.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Sheena Iyengar, a Columbia University professor who specializes in research on choice, put it to me another way: “People are not products,” she said bluntly. “But, essentially, when you say, ‘I want a guy that’s six foot tall and has blah, blah, blah characteristics,’ you’re treating a human being like one.
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Aziz Ansari (Modern Romance: An Investigation)
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By drawing our senses of perception inward, we are able to experience the control, silence, and quietness of the mind.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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As breath stills our mind, our energies are free to unhook from the senses and bend inward.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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As we explore the soul, it is important to remember that this exploration will take place within nature (the body), for that is where and what we are.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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It is Einstein’s famous equation E=MC^2, in which E is energy (rajas), M is mass (tamas), and C is the speed of light (sattva). Energy, mass, and light are endlessly bound together in the universe.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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Yoga is about the will, working with intelligence and self-reflexive consciousness, can free us from the inevitability of the wavering mind and outwardly directed senses.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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True concentration is an unbroken thread of awareness.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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A fusion of nature and soul.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Life itself seeks fulfillment as plants seek sunlight.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Breath is the vehicle of consciousness and so, by its slow measured observation and distribution, we learn to tug our attention away from external desires toward a judicious, intelligent awareness.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Meditation is oneness, when there is no longer time, sex, or country. The moment when, after you have concentrated on doing a pose (or anything else) perfectly, you hold it and then forget everything, not because you want to forget but because you are concentrated: this is meditation.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Sparks of Divinity: The Teachings of B. K. S. Iyengar)
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we all make assumptions about the world—based on individual experience and cultural background—that affect our judgment of how that balance should look
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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life has a way of poking holes in your plans, or in the plans others make for you
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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no matter how prepared we are, though , we can still have the wind knocked out of us.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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valuing the condition of having options over the quality of the options can sometimes lead to decisions that don’t serve us well.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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The head is the seat of intelligence. The heart is the seat of emotion.
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B.K.S. Iyengar
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When we free ourselves from physical disabilities, emotional disturbances, and mental distractions, we open the gates to our soul.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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The physical body is not only a temple for our soul, but the means by which we embark on the inward journey toward the core.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Asanas maintain the strength and health of the body, without which little progress can be made. Asanas keep the body in harmony with nature.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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There is no difference in souls, only the ideas about ourselves that we wear.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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But a yogi never forgets that health must begin with the body. Your body is the child of the soul. You must nourish and train your child. Physical health is not a commodity to be bargained for. Nor can it be swallowed in the form of drugs and pills. It has to be earned through sweat.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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Your enjoyment of the chosen options will be diminished by your regret over what you had to give up. In fact, the sum total of the regret over all the “lost” options may end up being greater than your joy over your chosen options, leaving you less satisfied than you would have been if you had had less choice to begin with.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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When we speak of choice, what we mean is the ability to exercise control over ourselves and our environment. In order to choose, we must first perceive that control is possible.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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You have to create love and affection for your body, for what it can do for you. Love
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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We may appreciate and aspire to a certain level of uniqueness, but we believe it’s also important that our choices be understood
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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A clear right answer and the opportunity to change the options? This is the chooser’s dream.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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All games are meaningless if you do not know the rules.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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We are a little piece of continual change, looking at an infinite quantity of continual change.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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It's easy to assume people are conforming when we witness them all choosing the same option, but when we choose that very option ourselves, we have no shortage of perfectly good reasons for why we just happen to be doing the same thing as those other people; they mindlessly conform, but we mindfully choose. This doesn't mean that we're all conformists in denial. It means that we regularly fail to recognize that others' thoughts and behaviors are just as complex and varied as our own. Rather than being alone in a crowd of sheep, we're all individuals in sheep's clothing.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Reflective processing allows us to handle highly complex choices, but it is slower and more tiring than the automatic system. It requires motivation and significant effort.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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We often fool ourselves that we are concentrating because we fix our attention on wavering objects.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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If we become aware of its limitations and compulsions, we can transcend them.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Anything physical is always changing, therefore, its reality is not constant, not eternal.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life)
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Our beliefs about how much personal control people have over their lives, which are shaped in part by the level of individualism to which we have been exposed, also play an important role in our preferences for allocating choice.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Yoga is the teacher of yoga; yoga is to be understood through yoga. So live in yoga to realize yoga; comprehend yoga through yoga; he who is free from distractions enjoys yoga through yoga.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali)
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we need others to see us as we see ourselves. We want to find common ground, but not be a copycat. The need is so powerful that we may even behave in ways inconsistent with our true desires in order to avoid creating the “wrong” impression.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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The challenges we face when it comes to identity and choice exist precisely because choosing is not only a private activity but a social one, a negotiation between many moving parts. Choice requires us to think more deeply about who we are, both within ourselves and in the eyes of others.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Asana has two facets, pose and repose. Pose is the artistic assumption of a position. ‘Reposing in the pose’ means finding the perfection of a pose and maintaining it, reflecting in it with penetration of the intelligence and with dedication.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali)
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Your choices of which clothes to wear or which soda to drink, where you live, which school to attend and what to study, and of course your profession all say something about you, and it’s your job to make sure that they are an accurate reflection of who you really are.
But who are you, really? The imperative “Just be yourself!” seems straightforward enough. (What could be easier than being who you already are?) Yet we often end up blinking in its headlights, perhaps frozen in place by the concomitant notion that we might, if we are not careful, turn into someone else. It’s difficult to move forward when each step could move us further away from the “authentic” self, and so we dither.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Asana is perfect firmness of body, steadiness of intelligence, and benevolence of spirit.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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Action is movement with intelligence.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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One could even argue that we have a duty to create and pass on stories about choice because once a person knows such stories, they can’t be taken away from him. He may lose his possessions, his home, his loved ones, but if he holds on to a story about choice, he retains the ability to practice choice.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Happy is the man who knows how to distinguish the real from the unreal, the eternal from the transient and the good from the pleasant by his discrimination and wisdom. Twice blessed is he who knows true love and can love all God's creatures. He who works selflessly for the welfare of others with love in his heart is thrice blessed. But the man who combines within his mortal frame knowledge, love and selfless service is holy and becomes a place of pilgrimage.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Yoga)
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Life is perpetually testing us not only by administering these "thousand natural shocks" but by making us choose among them. Rarely is the answer as easy and obvious as "cake." In the most challenging predicaments, perceived causality for an undesirable outcome, even if there was no clearer or better choice, can be a debilitating burden. We frequently pay a mental and emotional tax for freedom of choice.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Yoga is for everyone. You need not be an expert or at the peak of physical fitness to practice the asanas described...Yoga helps to integrate the mental and the physical plane, bringing about a sense of inner and outer balance, or what I term alignment. True alignment means that the inner mind reaches every cell and fiber of the body.
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B.K.S. Iyengar
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In a conversation with the master jazz musician and Pulitzer Prize–winning composer Wynton Marsalis, he told me, “You need to have some restrictions in jazz. Anyone can improvise with no restrictions, but that’s not jazz. Jazz always has some restrictions. Otherwise it might sound like noise.” The ability to improvise, he said, comes from fundamental knowledge, and this knowledge “limits the choices you can make and will make
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Patañjali is saying that yoga is a preventive healing art, science and philosophy, by which we build up robust health in body and mind and construct a defensive strength with which to deflect or counteract afflictions that are as yet unperceived afflictions.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali)
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Which comes first, the customer or the designer? Do we make fashion, or does fashion make us? The more we think about the question, the more the answer slips through our fingers.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Undoubtedly, the mind is restless and hard to control But it can be trained by constant practice and by freedom from desire." - B.K.S. Iyengar.
Climbing is really great, we all love climbing. But what's interesting to me is what happens in my head or in my life because of it. Ultimately, I think climbing is a vehicle for exploration - of the world, of the self.
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Steph Davis
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An opening is like a doorway, and there is no such thing as a doorway that you can only go through one way. Yes, we are trying to penetrate in, but what is trying to come out to meet us? It
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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Unlike captive animals, people’s perceptions of control or helplessness aren’t entirely dictated by outside forces. We have the ability to create choice by altering our interpretations of the world.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Whether we do it consciously or subconsciously, we tend to organize our lives to display our identity as accurately as possible. Our lifestyle choices often reveal our values, or at least what we’d like people to perceive as our values…as we make our everyday choices, we continuously calculate not just which choices best match who we are and what we want but also how those choices will be interpreted by others. We look for cues in our social environment to figure out what others think of this or that, which can require being sensitive to the most localized and up-to-date details of what a particular choice means.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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our lives are shaped for better or worse, to move forward along largely unmapped terrain. to what extent can you direct your own life when you can see only so far and the weather change quicker than you can say?
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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For animals, the confinement of the body is the confinement of the whole being, but a person can choose freedom even when he has no physical autonomy. In order to do so, he must know what choice is, and he must believe that he deserves it. By sharing stories, we keep choice alive in the imagination and in language. We give each other the strength to perform choice in the mind even when we cannot perform it with the body.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Keeping the bigger picture in mind allows us to reconcile the multitudes we contain, as long as we are also careful to clearly communicate to the world our broader guiding principles. To be ourselves while remaining adaptable, we must either justify a decision to change as being consistent with our identity, or we must acknowledge that our identity itself is malleable but no less authentic for it.
The challenge is to feel that although we have not always been exactly who we are now, we will nevertheless always recognize ourselves.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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If you have smoked since you were sixteen, every time you pick up a cigarette in the day you are also brainwashing yourself. "In this situation I pick up a cigarette" sends a little ripple down through consciousness that adds to the "take a cigarette" mound. That's why cigarettes are more difficult than almost anything else to give up. Aside from their physical cravings, we create mental cravings because the habit is very repetitive. The habit of smoking puts itself into every situation. The triggers to that situation are so many that many smokers still sometimes want to smoke even years after they have stopped because the mound is still there.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom)
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Ask Americans “How similar are you to others?” and on average they will answer “Not very.” Ask the same question in reverse—“How similar are others to you?”—and their judgment of similarity increases noticeably.
The two answers should be exactly the same because the questions are, in essence, identical, but we manage to delude ourselves, just as we all claim to be above average or wholly unsusceptible to social influence. Time and time again, each one of us assumes that he or she stands out. What is it that makes us believe we’re more unique than everyone else?
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Alexis de Tocqueville, the French thinker who keenly chronicled early American society, described the consequences of ever-increasing choice more than 170 years ago:
In America I have seen the freest and best educated of men in circumstances the happiest to be found in the world; yet it seemed to me that a cloud habitually hung on their brow, and they seemed serious and almost sad even in their pleasures…. They clutch everything but hold nothing fast, and so lose grip as they hurry after some new delight.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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When you have an anger, irritability, or disappointment mound, the conditioned reflex works like this: Suppose you're irritable with your parents, and your mother comes into the room. She might only say "Dinner's ready," but the irritability reflex is ready to spring up.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom)
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The less control people had over their work, the higher their blood pressure during work hours. Moreover, blood pressure at home was unrelated to the level of job control, indicating that the spike during work hours was specifically caused by lack of choice on the job. People with little control over their work also experienced more back pain, missed more days of work due to illness in general, and had higher rates of mental illness—the human equivalent of stereotypies, resulting in the decreased quality of life common to animals reared in captivity.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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The seeker should have faith in himself and in his master. He should have faith that God is ever by his side and that no evil can touch him. As faith springs up in the heart it dries out lust, ill-will, mental sloth, spiritual pride and doubt, and the heart freed from these hindrances becomes serene and untroubled.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Yoga)
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True choice requires that a person have the ability to choose an option and not be prevented from choosing it by any external force, meaning that a system tending too far toward either extreme will limit People’s opportunities. Also, both extremes can produce additional problems in practice. Aside from the fact that a lack of “freedom to” can lead to privation, suffering, and death for those who can’t provide for themselves, it can also lead to a de facto plutocracy.
The extremely wealthy can come to wield disproportionate power, enabling them to avoid punishment for illegal practices or to change the law itself in ways that perpetuate their advantages at the cost of others, a charge often levied against the “robber baron” industrialists of the late nineteenth century.
A lack of “freedom from,” on the other hand, can encourage people to do less work than they’re capable of since they know their needs will be met, and it may stifle innovation and entrepreneurship because people receive few or no additional material benefits for exerting additional effort.
Moreover, a government must have extensive power over its people to implement such a system, and as can be seen in the actions of the majority of communist governments in the past, power corrupts.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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The ability to choose well seems to depend in no small part upon our knowing our own minds. And when we ask for more choice, we seem to be saying, “I know what I want, so however much choice you give me, I will be able to pick out the thing that I want.” We firmly believe that no matter how many alternatives we’re given, ultimately we’ll know which door we prefer to walk through. Yet, paradoxically, asking for more choice is also an admission that we don’t always know what we want, or that we are changeable enough that we cannot know what we want until we are in the moment of choosing. And it’s clear that after a certain point, the amount of time and energy directed toward choosing counteracts the benefits of the choice.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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The yogi uses all his resources - physical, economic, mental or moral - to alleviate the pain and suffering of others. He shares his strength with the weak until they become strong. He shares his courage with those who are timid until they become brave by his example. He denies the maxim 'survival of the fittest', but makes the weak strong enough to survive. He comes a shelter to one and all.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Yoga)
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So we would say in yoga that the subtle precedes the gross, or spirit precedes matter. But yoga says we must deal with the outer or most manifest first, i.e. legs, arms, spine, eyes, tongue, touch, in order to develop the sensitivity to move inward. This is why asana opens the whole spectrum of yoga’s possibilities. There can be no realization of existential, divine bliss without the support of the soul’s incarnate vehicle, the food-and-water-fed body, from bone to brain. If we can become aware of its limitations and compulsions, we can transcend them. We all possess some awareness of ethical behavior, but in order to pursue yama and niyama at deeper levels, we must cultivate the mind. We need contentment, tranquility, dispassion, and unselfishness, qualities that have to be earned. It is asana that teaches us the physiology of these virtues.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom (Iyengar Yoga Books))
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In practical terms, most of us have built up negative habits. You want to turn them into positive habits and then into no habits. As progress reaches into the subtle levels of kosa, you don't avoid smoking because you are "a nonsmoker" or because smoking is bad. You are not invoking a duality of good versus bad. Similarly, you do not have to bite off your tongue to avoid giving an angry retort to people who irritate you; you're not being self-consciously good. It simply becomes second nature to be free. You might give an angry answer to a rude person, you might give a courteous answer to a rude person, but either way you act in freedom, you act appropriately, unconditioned by the past.
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B.K.S. Iyengar (Light on Life: The Yoga Journey to Wholeness, Inner Peace, and Ultimate Freedom)
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Henri Poincaré, a celebrated French mathematician and philosopher of science, said, “Invention consists in avoiding the constructing of useless combinations and in constructing the useful combinations which are in infinite minority. To invent is to discern, to choose.” I’d like to invert the second sentence and propose a corollary: To choose is to invent. What I mean by this is that choosing is a creative process, one through which we construct our environment, our lives, our selves. If we ask for more and more material for the construction, i.e., more and more choice, we’re likely to end up with a lot of combinations that don’t do much for us or are far more complex than they need to be
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Recall Aesop’s fable of the fox and the grapes. After trying in vain to reach the grapes, the fox gives up and wanders away, muttering, “They were probably sour anyway.” The fox’s change of heart is a perfect example of a common strategy we instinctively use to reduce dissonance. When we experience a conflict between our beliefs and our actions, we can’t rewind time and take back what we’ve already done, so we adjust our beliefs to bring them in line with our actions. If the story had gone differently, and the fox had managed to get the grapes, only to discover they were sour, he would have told himself that he liked sour grapes in order to avoid feeling that his effort had been a waste.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)
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Erich Fromm in his 1941 book "Escape from Freedom", about the nature of one of our culture’s most cherished values. Fromm argues that freedom is composed of two complementary parts. A common view of freedom is that it means "freedom from the political, economic, and spiritual shackles that have bound men,” which defines it as the absence of others forcibly interfering with the pursuit of our goals. In contrast to this “freedom from,” Fromm identifies an alternate sense of freedom as an ability: the “freedom to” attain certain outcomes and realize our full potential. “Freedom from” and “freedom to” don’t always go together, but one must be free in both senses to obtain full benefit from choice. A child may be allowed to have a cookie, but he won’t get it if he can’t reach the cookie jar high on the shelf.
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Sheena Iyengar (The Art of Choosing)