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I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.
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One of the best times for figuring out who you are & what you really want out of life? Right after a break-up.
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Mandy Hale (The Single WomanβLife, Love, and a Dash of Sass: Embracing Singleness with Confidence)
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She remembered who she was
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Lalah Delia
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If you want to find the real competition, just look in the mirror. After awhile you'll see your rivals scrambling for second place.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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Never underestimate the power you have to take your life in a new direction.
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Germany Kent
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Today is a new day and it brings with it a new set of opportunities for me to act on.
I am attentive to the opportunities and I seize them as they arise.
I have full confidence in myself and my abilities.
I can do all things that I commit myself to.
No obstacle is too big or too difficult for me to handle because what lies inside me is greater than what lies ahead of me.
I am committed to improving myself and I am getting better daily.
I am not held back by regret or mistakes from the past.
I am moving forward daily.
Absolutely nothing is impossible for me.
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Idowu Koyenikan (Wealth for All: Living a Life of Success at the Edge of Your Ability)
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Your comfort zone is a place where you keep yourself in a self-illusion and nothing can grow there but your potentiality can grow only when you can think and grow out of that zone.
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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It is not until you change your identity to match your life blueprint that you will understand why everything in the past never worked.
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Shannon L. Alder
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I have my own theory: ignorance is bliss. The less you know, the more confident you can be in tackling things.
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Stephen Richards (Cosmic Ordering Guide)
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Try giving up all the thoughts that make you feel bad, or even just some of them, and see how doing that changes your life. You don't need negative thoughts. All they have ever given you was a false self that suffers. They are all lies.
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Gina Lake (What About Now?: Reminders for Being in the Moment)
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If your love for another person doesnβt include loving yourself then your love is incomplete.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life can restore your faith in yourself.
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Lucille Ball
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A confident woman wears a smile and has this air of comfortability and pleasantness about her.
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Jaachynma N.E. Agu
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Sometimes you have to let go of the picture of what you thought life would be like and learn to find joy in the story you are actually living.
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Rachel Marie Martin (The Brave Art of Motherhood: Fight Fear, Gain Confidence, and Find Yourself Again)
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Advice to my younger self:
1 Start where you are with what you have
2 Try not to hurt other people
3 Take more chances
4 If you fail, keep trying
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Germany Kent
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Stop giving people the power to control your smile, your worth, your attitude and your day. Donβt give anyone that much power over your life.
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Germany Kent
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Dear Child,
Sometimes on your travel through hell, you meet people that think they are in heaven because of their cleverness and ability to get away with things. Travel past them because they don't understand who they have become and never will. These type of people feel justified in revenge and will never learn mercy or forgiveness because they live by comparison. They are the people that don't care about anyone, other than who is making them feel confident. They donβt understand that their deity is not rejoicing with them because of their actions, rather he is trying to free them from their insecurities, by softening their heart. They rather put out your light than find their own. They don't have the ability to see beyond the false sense of happiness they get from destroying others. You know what happiness is and it isnβt this. Donβt see their success as their deliverance. It is a mask of vindication which has no audience, other than their own kind. They have joined countless others that call themselves βsurvivorsβ. They believe that they are entitled to win because life didnβt go as planned for them. You are not like them. You were not meant to stay in hell and follow their belief system. You were bound for greatness. You were born to help them by leading. Rise up and be the light home. You were given the gift to see the truth. They will have an army of people that are like them and you are going to feel alone. However, your family in heaven stands beside you now. They are your strength and as countless as the stars. It is time to let go!
Love,
Your Guardian Angel
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Shannon L. Alder
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I love to walk. Walking is a spiritual journey and a reflection of living. Each of us must determine which path to take and how far to walk; we must find our own way, what is right for one may not be for another. There is no single right way to deal with late stage cancer, to live life or approach death, or to walk an old mission trail.
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Edie Littlefield Sundby (The Mission Walker: I was given three months to live...)
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When youβre comfortable and content with who you are, the voices of others who try and define, control or direct you are not important.
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Rachel Robins (How To Feel Good About Yourself - Boost Your Confidence & Tackle Low Self Esteem. Packed with Self Improvement Techniques, Positive Thinking Tips & Inspirational Quotes)
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Simple minded people do things like gossip, lie, spread rumors, and cause troubles. But, I know you're more intelligent.
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Amaka Imani Nkosazana (Sweet Destiny)
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Donβt ever stop believing in your own personal transformation. It is still happening even on the days you may not realize it or feel like it.
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Lalah Delia
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Positive thinking is powerful thinking. If you want happiness, fulfillment, success and inner peace, start thinking you have the power to achieve those things. Focus on the bright side of life and expect positive results.
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Germany Kent
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No one knows your truth but you. If you're secure in yourself, no one and no(thing) can touch you.
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Brittany Burgunder
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If I hadn't lost my hearing, I wouldn't be where I am now. It forced me to maximize my own potential. I have to be better than the average person to succeed.
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Lou Ferrigno
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Passion is not a thing, it's a state of mind.
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Mel Robbins (The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage)
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Having healthy boundaries not only requires being able to say βnoβ, but also being willing and able to enforce that βnoβ when necessary.
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Jessica Moore
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A confident woman knows her worth and so doesnβt fret when her man is highly placed or is often found amidst other women in the course of his business or assignment.
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Jaachynma N.E. Agu
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It doesn't matter if thousands of people believe in you, unless You believe in You.
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Maddy Malhotra (How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy)
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Be the music of your soul. Don't be a pawn in someone else's game.
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Amit Ray (Nonviolence: The Transforming Power)
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Your VISION and your self-willingness is the MOST powerful elements to conquer your goal
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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Enlightenment is not about cocooning oneβs self, but about integrating more fully with both your self and life.
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Jay Woodman
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I wish you self-esteem so high β you're humble.
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Lalah Delia
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Saying thanks to the world, and acknowledging your own accomplishments, is a great way to feel good and stay positive.
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Rachel Robins (How To Feel Good About Yourself - Boost Your Confidence & Tackle Low Self Esteem. Packed with Self Improvement Techniques, Positive Thinking Tips & Inspirational Quotes)
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Not everyone will understand your journey. Thatβs fine. Itβs not their journey to make sense of. Itβs yours.
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Zero Dean (Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled Volume 1: Get motivated & overcome obstacles with courage, confidence & self-discipline)
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We all go through hard times in life. Itβs a part of being alive and it's the reality we all have to deal with. There are times we forget our value as a person because we are so blinded with these thoughts of loneliness, emptiness and ego. Somewhere along the road we become numbed with all the frustrations and dissatisfaction. But life itself isn't always about darkness and sadness, Life is also filled with colors and that makes it beautiful. Along this path of darkness there's always light waiting to be seen by our daunted hearts. Our heart is gifted to see this light. It may be hiding behind those circumstances that we encounter; in a stranger we just met at an unexpected place; a family who has been always there but you just ignored because of your imperfect relationship with them; it might be a long time friend you have or a friend you just met. Open your heart and you will see how blessed you are to have them all in your life. Sometimes they are the light that shines your path in some dark phases of life. Don't lose hope
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Chanda Kaushik
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If you don't feel you have any choice in a situation, self-esteem and confidence plummet. But once you understand that you do have a choice, self-esteem will improve. You aren't a helpless victim anymore. You decide how you deal with a situation. You aren't just reacting to life; you're creating your life.
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Theresa Cheung (Teen Tarot: What the Cards Reveal About You and Your Future)
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Self-confidence doesnβt require tailored expressions at all times; instead, it expresses itself in different interesting ways.
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Prem Jagyasi
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When you are paying attention to your thoughts, words, actions, feelings, food habits, reactions, decisions, secrets, patterns, and physique, you start tuning in consciously.
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Prem Jagyasi
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It is common knowledge among psychologists that most of us underrate ourselves, short-change ourselves, sell ourselves short. Actually, there is no such thing as a superiority complex. People who seem to have one are actually suffering from feelings of inferiority; their "superior" self is a fiction, a coverup, to hide from themselves and others their deep-down feelings of inferiority and insecurity.
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Maxwell Maltz (The New Psycho-Cybernetics: The Original Science of Self-Improvement and Success That Has Changed the Lives of 30 Million People)
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Confidence is a life ingredient that is essential to success and wholeness. It is perhaps the single most important trait that enables seemingly average people to do and become all that they can. And the good news is β it can be learned. No one has to suffer a lifetime of low confidence.
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Steve Goodier
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Others canβt give you inner-peace. Your children, spouse, priest or friends canβt give it to you. You have to create it yourself.
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Maddy Malhotra (How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy)
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Be yourself....and make the world adjust!
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Germany Kent
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This time around I was so lonely that I was forced to be face to face with myself. Realizing at the end of the day I only have me and I didn't seem to like my own company. I decided to I had to make myself into someone I can live with.
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Our self-esteem β be it low or high β has its influence on our thoughts, relationships, profession, and social life. When it is channeled in the right direction, you will find enough confidence to move out of your comfort zone and explore new possibilities.
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Prem Jagyasi
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Nurture your
originality, donβt ever bury it
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Alison G. Bailey (Present Perfect (Perfect, #1))
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If you can't appreciate the full worth of my courage, you can't admire my mastery.
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Efrat Cybulkiewicz
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Life gives us experiences for personal development. Appreciate the lessons and be a learner.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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Ask yourself: what is it, that if I believed it down to my core, would change everything?
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Kamal Ravikant (Live Your Truth)
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practice only envisioning yourself at the finish line and be unrelenting and fervent in racing towards that finish line. Undue preoccupation and fixation with the how's, whens, and what ifs will not only derail and further distance you from your destination, but will also feed your mind with those fatal seeds of doubt that make failure inevitable" ~ Awaken and Unleash your Victor
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Ogor Winnie Okoye
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Raise your vibration,
Not your tone of voice..
You gain inspiration,
For Peace is a choice.
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Ana Claudia Antunes (A-Z of Happiness: Tips for Living and Breaking Through the Chain that Separates You from Getting That Dream Job)
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Acquiring knowledge doesn't bring power into your life, until you apply what you have learned.
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Shannon L. Alder
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If you want to improve your self-worth, stop giving other people the calculator.
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Tim Fargo
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It is not through fighting the opposition that will win you dignity. It is when you fight the fear in yourself that asks you why you don't feel you have it, regardless if you win or lose.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Learn to be brave and adventurous because youβll never discover your place in the world, if youβre too afraid to leave your own backyard.
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Nina Guilbeau
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When will you love yourself: that other people's approval no longer matters?
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Gillian Johns
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Every once in a while you need to challenge yourself and learn new things.
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Amit Ray (Peace Bliss Beauty and Truth: Living with Positivity)
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We all die. Not all of us live.
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Edie Littlefield Sundby (The Mission Walker: I was given three months to live...)
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It is through strength of character, not luck, do we form the predictable path of our future.
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Shannon L. Alder
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When we do something we like, we are not only happy. We are also very strong!
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Rossana Condoleo (Happy Divorce: How to turn your divorce into the most brilliant and rewarding opportunity of your life!)
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Youβre already stuck with yourself for a lifetime. Why not improve this relationship?
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Vironika Tugaleva (The Art of Talking to Yourself)
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Feeding the ego is starving the wisdom, the choice is yours.
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Efrat Cybulkiewicz
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A woman with a strong sense of personal power, is self confident enough to accurately identify her strengths as well as her blind spots, which she is continually working to improve.
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Stacey Radin (Brave Girls: Raising Young Women with Passion and Purpose to Become Powerful Leaders)
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Focusing on who you are, and pursuing opportunities to improve your abilities, allows you to be in acceptance of yourself. This makes you a beautiful person who could care less about what others think of you.
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Ellen J. Barrier
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found that positive self-talk can dramatically improve mood, boost confidence, increase productivity, and more. Much more. In fact, as evidenced by Professor Hart and his studies, it can be one of the key components to a happy, successful life. The bad news is, the reverse is also true: Negative self-talk can not only put us in a bad mood, it can leave us feeling helpless. It can make small problems seem bigger β and even create problems where none existed before. Hereβs the breaking news, your self-talk is fucking you over and in ways you canβt even begin to imagine. With
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Gary John Bishop (Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life)
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Ladies, get confident about yourselves, build up your self-worth and esteem, love yourself and be proud of your achievements and your man will adore you for life.
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Jaachynma N.E. Agu (The Prince and the Pauper)
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Like beliefs, in most cases, we donβt create our valuesβ¦ others do.
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Maddy Malhotra (How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy)
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Autumn is a momentum of the natures golden beautyβ¦, so the same itβs time to find your momentum of life
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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Sight is seeing what's there, vision is seeing what's possible
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Retin Obasohan
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All the managers I interviewed had the same sense of identity and self-assurance. None of them were arrogant. Instead, they were clear about who they were and what needed accomplishing. They used that sense of self to engage their team and learn each team memberβs strengths and contributions. Their courage and confidence were infectious to their team and to anyone who crossed their paths.
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Raymond Wheeler (Lift: Five Practices Great Managers Do Consistently: Raise Performance and Morale - See Your Employees Thrive)
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Your traditional EDUCATION is not going to CHANGE your life but the life you are experiencing that can change you. Choose a POSITIVE life STYLE with positive ATTITUDE which could bring you a life with HAPPINESS and WISDOM
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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Your every positive action in your life will increase your self-esteem and this self-esteem will boost you for more positive action to take you on success
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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How you think and create your inner world that you gonna become in your outer world. Your inner believe manifest you in the outside
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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By making yourself a life-long leaner youβll keep discovering new and exciting things about yourself and others.
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Rachel Robins (How To Feel Good About Yourself - Boost Your Confidence & Tackle Low Self Esteem. Packed with Self Improvement Techniques, Positive Thinking Tips & Inspirational Quotes)
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Sometimes our Biggest Nightmare turns out to be our Biggest Gift. And it all comes down to our attitude. Life will throw us curve balls and disappointments, even heartbreak. But ultimately we can choose if we're going to be Bitter or Better for the experience.
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Kathryn Orford
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This leads us to the strengths of being less than confident. Confidence makes it very hard for us to learn and improve. When we think we know all the answers, we stop looking for them. Marshall Goldsmith says, βAlthough our self-confident delusions can help us achieve, they can make it difficult for us to change.β When
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Eric Barker (Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong)
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Never stop seeking meaningful ways to improve yourself and you will be rewarded with a life that attracts and reflects more of the things that are meaningful to you.
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Zero Dean (Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled Volume 1: Get motivated & overcome obstacles with courage, confidence & self-discipline)
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You canβt live an extraordinary life with an ordinary mindset.
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H.L. Balcomb (Cinderella In Focus: "Finding hope when you're feeling a sense of hopelessness!")
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Your identity is not in who you can be. It is in who you always have been
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Ricky Maye
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Self determination is greatest will power.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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It is hard to love yourself if you never spend time with yourself.Β 'Alone Time' is Necessary.
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Izey Victoria Odiase (99 Quotes and Affirmations For Self-Love & Personal Development)
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Lack of confidence will always allow doubt, but strong self-confidence will build courage.
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Mark Villareal (A Script for Aspiring Women Leaders: 5 Keys to Success)
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i became confident
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my fear of looking silly
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Rupi Kaur (Home Body)
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How a man handles himself in defeat is more important than how he handles himself in victory.
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If you are not EXCITED enough at your present life its mean your future is not EXITING. Excitement will give you ENTHUSIASM and enthusiasm will give you a positive energetic LIFE STYLE which could give you a successful exiting lifeβ¦
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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I thank God every day for this life, and I want there to be more, though thatβs not known. What is known is that Iβm alive today, this minute. And thatβs pretty much what we all have β this day, this moment.
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Edie Littlefield Sundby (The Mission Walker: I was given three months to live...)
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When your sense of self and happiness comes from within and isn't a roller coaster ride dependent on others or circumstances, you approach life differently. You make better choices. You draw to you the people and situations that matter. The others, they fall away.
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Kamal Ravikant (Live Your Truth)
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Intention of seeking attention is an addiction. A vicious cycle which damages your health, finances and relationships. It will NOT improve your self-image, increase your self-worth or fulfill the need of genuine praise.
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Maddy Malhotra (How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy)
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Manifesting happens everyday whether we want it to or not, we are always attracting things and people to us. The absolute key to Manifesting without missing a mark, is to do so with confident intention and complete awareness.
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Sereda Aleta Dailey (The Art of Manifesting Abundance)
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Confidence thrills men for it means you wonβt be fidgety or excessively jealous when the man is in the midst of people especially those of opposite sex.
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Jaachynma N.E. Agu
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As I create I become.
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Efrat Cybulkiewicz
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He wasn't so bad when the two of us came to see you, though. He was just his usual self."
Because you were there," said Naoko. "He was always like that around you. He struggled to keep his weaknesses hidden. I'm sure he was very fond of you. He made a point of letting you see only his best side. He wasn't like that with me. He'd let his guard down. He could be really moody. One minute he'd be chattering away, and the next thing he'd be depressed. It happened all the time. He was like that from the time he was little. He did keep trying to change himself, to improve himself, though."
Naoko recrossed her legs atop the sofa.
He tried hard, but it didn't do any good, and that would make him really angry and sad. There was so much about him that was fine and beautiful, but he could never find the confidence he needed. "I've got to do that, I've got to change this," he was always thinking, right up to the end. Poor Kizuki!"
Still though," I said, "if it's true that he was always struggling to show me his best side, I'd say he succeeded. His best side was all that I could see."
Naoko smiled. "He'd be thrilled to hear you say that. You were his only friend.
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Haruki Murakami (Norwegian Wood)
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Meditating with a goal or in order to accomplish something is not giving the practice a fair shake.Instead let yourself off the self-improvement treadmill, and simply be with yourself in your natural state. The practice isn't about achieving something. It's about letting go.
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Susan Piver (How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life: Opening Your Heart to Confidence, Intimacy, and Joy)
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The longer we tolerate things that we find unappealing or unacceptable, the more normal they seem and the less those things shock us. This is how βI canβt believe it.β becomes βThatβs just the way things are.
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Zero Dean (Lessons Learned from The Path Less Traveled Volume 1: Get motivated & overcome obstacles with courage, confidence & self-discipline)
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But when you say, βI am beautiful,β not only does beauty, youth, and freshness start coming your way, but on the inside your spirit also comes alive. Your self-image begins to improve, and youβll start carrying yourself like youβre someone special. You wonβt drag through the day feeling less than or inferior. Youβll have that spring in your step, that βYou go, girl!β attitude. Beauty is not in how thin or tall you are, how perfect you look. Beauty is in being who God made you to be with confidence. If youβre a size 4, great. If youβre a size 24, great. Take what you have and make the most of it.
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Ego is like a room of your own, a room with a view, with the temperature and the smells and the music that you like. You want it your own way. Youβd just like to have a little peace; youβd like to have a little happiness, you know, just βgimme a break!β But the more you think that way, the more you try to get life to come out so that it will always suit you, the more your fear of other people and whatβs outside your room grows. Rather than becoming more relaxed, you start pulling down the shades and locking the door. When you do go out, you find the experience more and more unsettling and disagreeable. You become touchier, more fearful, more irritable than ever. The more you just try to get it your way, the less you feel at home.
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Pema ChΓΆdrΓΆn (Start Where You Are: How to accept yourself and others. A comprehensive self-improvement book for boosting your confidence and well-being)
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Strive to do small things well. Be a doer and a self-starterβaggressiveness and initiative are two most admired qualities in a leaderβbut you must also put your feet up and think. Strive for self-improvement through constant self-evaluation. Never be satisfied. Ask of any project, How can it be done better? Donβt overinspect or oversupervise. Allow your leaders to make mistakes in training, so they can profit from the errors and not make them in combat. Keep the troops informed; telling them βwhat, how, and whyβ builds their confidence. The harder the training, the more troops will brag. Enthusiasm, fairness, and moral and physical courageβfour of the most important aspects of leadership. Showmanshipβa vital technique of leadership. The ability to speak and write wellβtwo essential tools of leadership. There is a salient difference between profanity and obscenity; while a leader employs profanity (tempered with discretion), he never uses obscenities. Have consideration for others. Yelling detracts from your dignity; take men aside to counsel them. Understand and use judgment; know when to stop fighting for something you believe is right. Discuss and argue your point of view until a decision is made, and then support the decision wholeheartedly. Stay ahead of your boss.
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David H. Hackworth (About Face: The Odyssey of an American Warrior)
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Growing up with EI parents can make you very self-critical because they think that criticism is the only way to turn you into a responsible person. You end up feeling like you never measure up and constantly need to improve yourself. You evaluate yourself to a point thatβs destructive, not constructive. Like your parents, you may think that self-criticism will make you a better person. But criticizing yourself wonβt improve you any more than attacking a childβs self-esteem makes them more confident. Self-criticism is no way to have a relationship with yourself. It sentences you to a life of anxious dependency in which no power is greater than someone elseβs opinion of you.
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Leaders instill courage in the hearts of those who follow. This rarely happens through words alone. It generally requires action. It goes back to what we said earlier: Somebody has to go first. By going first, the leader furnishes confidence to those who follow.
As a next generation leader, you will be called upon to go first. That will require courage. But in stepping out you will give the gift of courage to those who are watching.
What do I believe is impossible to do in my field, but if it could be done would fundamentally change my business?
What has been done is safe. But to attempt a solution to a problem that plagues an entire industry - in my case, the local church - requires courage.
Unsolved problems are gateways to the future. To those who have the courage to ask the question and the tenacity to hang on until they discover or create an answer belongs the future.
Donβt allow the many good opportunities to divert your attention from the one opportunity that has the greatest potential. Learn to say no. There will always be more opportunities than there is time to pursue them.
Leaders worth following are willing to face and embrace current reality regardless of how discouraging or embarrassing it might be.
It is impossible to generate sustained growth or progress if your plan for the future is not rooted in reality.
Be willing to face the truth regardless of how painful it might be. If fear causes you to retreat from your dreams, you will never give the world anything new.
it is impossible to lead without a dream. When leaders are no longer willing to dream, it is only a short time before followers are unwilling to follow.
Will I allow my fear to bind me to mediocrity?
Uncertainty is a permanent part of the leadership landscape. It never goes away.
Where there is no uncertainty, there is no longer the need for leadership. The greater the uncertainty, the greater the need for leadership. Your capacity as a leader will be determined by how well you learn to deal with uncertainty.
My enemy is not uncertainty. It is not even my responsibility to remove the uncertainty. It is my responsibility to bring clarity into the midst of the uncertainty.
As leaders we can afford to be uncertain, but we cannot afford to be unclear. People will follow you in spite of a few bad decisions. People will not follow you if you are unclear in your instruction. As a leader you must develop the elusive skill of leading confidently and purposefully onto uncertain terrain.
Next generation leaders must fear a lack of clarity more than a lack of accuracy. The individual in your organization who communicates the clearest vision will often be perceived as the leader. Clarity is perceived as leadership.
Uncertainty exposes a lack of knowledge. Pretending exposes a lack of character. Express your uncertainty with confidence.
You will never maximize your potential in any area without coaching. It is impossible.
Self-evaluation is helpful, but evaluation from someone else is essential. You need a leadership coach.
Great leaders are great learners. God, in His wisdom, has placed men and women around us with the experience and discernment we often lack.
Experience alone doesnβt make you better at anything. Evaluated experience is what enables you to improve your performance.
As a leader, what you donβt know can hurt you. What you donβt know about yourself can put a lid on your leadership. You owe it to yourself and to those who have chosen to follow you to open the doors to evaluation. Engage a coach.
Success doesnβt make anything of consequence easier. Success just raises the stakes. Success brings with it the unanticipated pressure of maintaining success. The more successful you are as a leader, the more difficult this becomes. There is far more pressure at the top of an organization than you might imagine.
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The wise man β¦ does not need to walk about timidly or cautiously: for he possesses such self-confidence that he does not hesitate to go to meet fortune nor will he ever yield his position to her: nor has he any reason to fear her, because he considers not only slaves, property, and positions of honor, but also his body, his eyes, his hands, β everything which can make life dearer, even his very self, as among uncertain things, and lives as if he had borrowed them for his own use and was prepared to return them without sadness whenever claimed. Nor does he appear worthless in his own eyes because he knows that he is not his own, but he will do everything as diligently and carefully as a conscientious and pious man is accustomed to guard that which is entrusted in his care. Yet whenever he is ordered to return them, he will not complain to fortune, but will say: βI thank you for this which I have had in my possession. I have indeed cared for your property, β even to my great disadvantage, β but, since you command it, I give it back to you and restore it thankfully and willinglyβ¦β If nature should demand of us that which she has previously entrusted to us, we will also say to her: βTake back a better mind than you gave: I seek no way of escape nor flee: I have voluntarily improved for you what you gave me without my knowledge; take it away.β What hardship is there in returning to the place whence one has come? That man lives badly who does not know how to die well.
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Moses Hadas (The Stoic Philosophy of Seneca: Essays and Letters)
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Your words and your behavior must be in line with your beliefs before you can begin to enjoy a truly authentic life. When you stop worrying about pleasing everyone and, instead, are willing to be bold enough to live according to your own values, you'll experience many benefits:
-Your self confidence will soar. The more you're able to see that you don't have to make people happy, the more independence and confidence you'll gain. You'll feel content with the decisions you make, even when other people disagree with your actions, because you'll know you made the right choice.
-You'll have more time and energy to devote to your goals. Instead of wasting energy trying to become the person you think others want you to be, you'll have time and energy to work on yourself. When you channel that effort toward your goals, you'll be much more likely to be successful.
-You'll feel less stressed. When you set limits and healthy boundaries, you'll experience a lot less stress and irritation. You'll feel like you have more control over your life.
-You'll establish healthier relationships. Other people will develop more respect for you when you behave in an assertive manner. Your communication will improve and you'll be able to prevent yourself from building a lot of anger and resentment toward people.
-You'll have increased willpower. An interesting 2008 study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology showed that people have much more willpower when they're making choices on their own accord rather than out of an attempt to please someone else. If you're only doing something to make someone else happy, you'll struggle to reach your goal. You'll be motivated to keep p the good work if you're convinced it's the best choice for you.
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Amy Morin (13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success)