Gopal Gaur Das Quotes

Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold.

Live your life in such a way that those who know you but don’t know God, will come to know God because they know you.

It is strange that sword and words have the same letters.

Watch your thoughts, they turn into words. Watch your words, they turn into actions. Watch your actions, they turn into habits. Watch your habits, they turn into character. Watch your character, it turns into your destiny.’ It all begins with a thought.

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.

To accept someone when everything is going right is easy. But when things are falling apart around you and you stick together, that’s the test of a relationship. Love is when we have every reason to break up but we do not.

Even more strange is that they have the same effect if not handled properly.

As I have said, the first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself . . . Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility.’ —Nelson Mandela

The paradox of our times is that those who have the most can often be the least satisfied.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.’ —Martin Luther King, Jr

Familiarity breeds contempt,’ I replied. ‘When we are overly familiar with people, we forget how important they are to us and the correct way to behave with them.

When things are beyond your control and there is nothing you can fo,why worry?

We must find positivity in the bleakest situations and live by the principle of gratitude

Everyone wants to get ahead of each other, and when they cannot, they get angry.

The service you do for others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.’ —Muhammad Ali

fight the strong urge to judge someone based on an initial interaction with them. Everyone has a fascinating story that we know nothing about.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

if someone chooses what they love to do, there is no stress in their life. As they say, ‘If you do what you love, you will never have to work a day in your life.

When things are beyond your control and there is nothing you can do,why worry

When upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed, When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost, Count your many blessings, name them one by one, And it will surprise you what the Lord has done.

Watch your thoughts, they turn into words. Watch your words, they turn into actions. Watch your actions, they turn into habits. Watch your habits, they turn into character. Watch your character, it turns into your destiny.

Often, people can display selflessness outside their home. People may help out in their community, or at temples or schools, and some may even make sure that they get a selfie to announce to the world that they have helped. But at home, they may not express the same service mentality. I believe that selflessness starts at home; with the ones we love the most. Are we doing what we can to help them? Are we there for them to help them physically as well as emotionally?

At work we tend to compare and compete with others, instead of comparing and competing with ourselves. ‘Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful . . . that’s what matters to me.’ —Steve Jobs

Offering gifts and accepting gifts, opening one’s mind and inquiring in confidence, sharing food and receiving food are the six exchanges that develop loving relationships.

Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful . . . that’s what matters to me.’ —Steve Jobs

Experience is not what happens to a man, it is what a man does with what happens to him.

The mind is what we use to perceive the world. We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.

It is strange that sword and words have the same letters. Even more strange is that they have the same effect if not handled properly.

As a monk, I have to be cautious of overindulgence; it is essential to stay regulated in our habits.

Feeling peaceful, happy and content is not about avoiding challenges in our life, but about how we navigate through these challenges to reach the type of life we want to live.

You can be completely selfish, completely selfless or any of the combinations in between. Life is a journey from being selfish to becoming selfless. ‘Act without expectation.’ —Lao Tzu

A man or a woman is known by the company they keep,

Our association is powerful: it can uplift us or bring us down.

At work we tend to compare and compete with others, instead of comparing and competing with ourselves.

People with a closed mindset want to grow by beating others in their field. Open-minded people, on the other hand, grow by developing themselves.

To find your purpose in life, you must go on a journey of self-discovery.

If you do what you love, you will never have to work a day in your life.

Forgiveness is a complex concept. We must understand it thoroughly to be able to internalize it.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.

Physical violence is inflicted with weapons, but emotional violence is inflicted with words; words can leave invisible scars that can take years, or even lifetimes, to heal.

Relationships are tested during difficult times. To accept someone when everything is going right is easy. But when things are falling apart around you and you stick together, that’s the test of a relationship

Earn with integrity, spend with compassion.’ —Radhanath Swami

Spirituality helps develop good character. It is character that shines bright when words fail to do so.

What great men do, common men follow.

You can be completely selfish, completely selfless or any of the combinations in between. Life is a journey from being selfish to becoming selfless.

Act without expectation.’ —Lao Tzu

The first step in selflessness is to practise it with our family.

You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.’ —Desmond Tutu

We can increase our scope of selflessness beyond our family by serving our community, city or even nation.

You need an attitude of service. You’re not just serving yourself. You help others to grow up and you grow with them.’ —David Green

Behind the smiles, everyone is going through personal struggles we know nothing about.

Having a friend to listen to your problems and discuss them with you is the beginning of finding a solution.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

The eyes are the window to the soul,

things do change over time.

The sands of time slow for no man. Things change for better and for worse, but what we choose to perceive is up to us.

Stop and reflect on your life regularly. Pressing the pause button to practise gratitude is the way to make it a constant in your life.

One’s ability to appreciate beauty is related to one’s ability to make moral judgements,

Think: Is this in my control? If yes, you can do something about it. If no, then you cannot do anything about it. Therefore, in both circumstances, why worry?

Our relationships are stronger when they contain a spiritual component. There are three different ways to become good friends with someone.

There are many ways to perceive others. We should start choosing the one which magnifies the positive and avoids the negative.

always seeing the best in people and choosing to avoid their faults.

hot heads do not give good feedback—choose a better time.

Meditation can help us embrace our worries, our fear, our anger; and that is very healing. We let our own natural capacity of healing do the work.

Meditation is like a plane: It first takes you high, then far away and then further away imperceptibly.

People who meditate develop a habit of practising sincere gratitude which helps them in all their relationships. It is a “relationship-strengthening emotion” because it requires us to see how we’ve been supported and affirmed by other people.

We need to understand the hierarchy of connections. Ultimately, we must connect to something above ourselves such as God. This can give us the power to spread happiness and joy around the world.

We should deal with each other sensitively; our attitude towards life affects how we act in our relationships.

This happens with all relationships, not just in marriages. If we are not proactive in our relationships, they start to seem dry and become cumbersome. We have to have respect for the other person, which is reflected in how sensitively we treat them.

Our Silent presence can be more powerful than a million empty words. We all have two ears and one mouth; the amount we listen and the amount we speak should be done proportionately. Rarely do people want an active solution to their problems before they have been thoroughly heard and understood

We must have a positive state of mind when dealing with problems. Think: Is there anything positive about this situation I am in? Being positive does not mean we neglect the negative. We must constructively deal with negative situations whilst simultaneously focusing on the positive. Just like our tongue can be obsessed with something stuck in our teeth, our mind has a default setting to be obsessed about the negative. Gratitude is a state of being that allows us to see the positive. It comes from realizing that there is good in the world, that some of that good is with us and that those good things are coming from an external reality. That state of consciousness imbibes us with positivity.

सकारात्मक होने का यह अर्थ नहीं है कि हम नकारात्मकता को नज़रअंदाज़ करें। हमें रचनात्मक तरीके से सकारात्मकता पर नज़र रखते हुए, नकारात्मकता से निपटना चाहिए। दाँत में कुछ फँस जाने पर जैसे हमारी जीभ उसके पीछे पड़ जाती है, हमारे मस्तिष्क में भी एक निर्धारित स्थापना है कि वह नकारात्मकता का पीछा करता है। कृतज्ञता जीवन की वह स्थिति है, जो हमें सकारात्मकता को देखना सिखाती है। यह इस अनुभूति के माध्यम से हम तक आती है कि संसार में अच्छाई है, उसमें से कुछ अच्छी चीजें हमारे साथ हैं और वे अच्छी चीज़ें बाहरी सत्य से आ रही हैं। चेतना की वह अवस्था हमें सकारात्मकता से जोड़ देती है।

Summary: Seeing the best in people can be challenging at times, especially when we are in constant proximity to them. We can perceive people in the following five ways: See only bad and magnify it. See good and bad, neglect the good and focus on the bad. See good and bad, and be neutral to both. See good and bad, choose to focus on the good and neglect the bad. See the good and magnify it. The ideal state is the fourth stage, in which one’s relationships flourish. Reaching the fourth stage takes consistent hard work and practice. TEN Correcting Cautiously Corrective feedback can make or break our relationships.

It is strange that sword and words have the same letters. Even more strange is that they have the same effect if not handled properly.’ —Anonymous

for! Statistically, we always have more to be grateful for than ungrateful. Ingratitude means to forget the blessings in our life, to ignore the kind things people have done for us. It is not just positivity we feel when we embrace gratitude. Better sleep, the ability to express more kindness, feeling more alive and even having a stronger immune system are all benefits of being thankful.

We all have three things in common: we are all stuck, we all have a journey to complete, and we all have a destination

Some things in life are beyond our control. When we are in that situation, we feel overwhelmed as we try everything in our power to control it. But that is useless! The founders of WhatsApp did not get jobs at Twitter and Facebook when they applied, which worked out in their favour in the future. Hence, what we see as bad at one point in time can turn out to be the best thing to happen to us. Just as I could not control the virality of my ‘out-of-context’ video, similarly there are many situations in life that are out of our control. Think: Is this in my control? If yes, you can do something about it. If no, then you cannot do anything about it. Therefore, in both circumstances, why worry?

taking massive action means to stop measuring how much time you work.

Exercise: Guided affirmation Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in for a count of four seconds. Hold for a count of two seconds. Then breathe out for a count of six seconds. Each time you breathe in, say to yourself: ‘I am not alone, the universe is with me, I can deal with whatever it is that I am going through …’ You can be more specific about the situation that you are dealing with. Each time you breathe out, say to yourself: ‘I let go of my negative feelings. I let go of my anxiety. I feel peaceful. I feel empowered.’ Repeat this exercise ten times. Now slowly open your eyes.

We understand that living for ourselves has the potential to satisfy the mind and senses, but not the deep core of our hearts.

However, when we are getting to the point of seeing these characteristics repeatedly and it is affecting our mental health, it may be time to open up to someone who we trust about this issue. Otherwise, we will be left feeling angry, annoyed, frustrated, victimized, mentally drained, guilty, spiteful or wanting revenge. These emotions are not good. As we have discussed, these emotions need to be dealt with effectively. If not, we leave ourselves vulnerable to mental health problems in the future.

The first step to empathy is to understand the issue. To do this we need to learn how to listen to understand and not to reply. We have all heard the phrase, ‘We have two ears and one mouth. We should use them in that proportion.’ However, something even more interesting is that if we put two ears side by side, they form the shape of a heart. Also, we cannot spell heart without ear. So, if we really want to understand someone’s heart, the only way is through the ears. Listen!

The need for instant gratification can wreak havoc on our sleep cycle and quality.

Unless you go through the pain of being sharpened, what is within you will not come out. The pencil has to be sharpened before the lead can make an impact. Something similar must happen to us in our lives. Sometimes we have to go through the pain of being sharpened for the best in us to come out.

Getting the body moving every day releases feel-good endorphins that enhance our sense of well-being. It can simultaneously take our mind off our worries, breaking the cycle of negative thoughts that cause us to feel anxious. It is not just anxiety disorders that exercise helps with; other mental health conditions such as depression are positively affected by staying fit.

Something I did realize years later was that saying sorry does not always mean we are wrong. Even legally, apologizing is not an admission of guilt, it just means we are sorry for what the person is going through and value the person more than being right ourselves.

We must treat ourselves with the same level of compassion. Self-forgiveness is foundational in moving on and rising above those negative feelings. We cannot forgive ourselves if we are wallowing in guilt.

aggrandizing

Communication is the art of presenting our thoughts to others.

opulence?

rebuttal

meekly

obeisance.

microcosm.

My mind began to understand the rationale but needed me to repeat this multiple times so it was reinforced. The thoughts that we repeat not only are likely to become our action but also our emotions. If we can repeat our reasoning rationales, we are more likely to calm the chattering mind. Before I drifted off to sleep, I asked my mind, ‘Why are you anxious?’ My mind replied, ‘I am not actually anxious or nervous, I am excited.

Yes, meditation can help with our stress, but if the cause of our stress is another identifiable problem, we must deal with the problem and not mask it in the name of protecting our spiritual credibility. We must not bury our heads in the sand; we must not ignore the signs that indicate we are struggling with our mental health by covering them up with our spiritual practices. Spiritual practices are meant to awaken our deeper self. They are not there to deal with our physical or mental ailments, although they may have that after-effect and can complement our healing.

The common responses are fright, flight or fight. Many allow their mental health issues to linger through fright. They keep their problem switch on in the background, just as a medical clinic reception keeps the radio playing: you know it’s there, but you are not quite listening. This can lead to paranoia and worsening of symptoms over time. Another group of people may decide to forcefully try and switch their problem off. They use flight to run away from their problem, turning to things like denial or being constantly busy to make their issues feel insignificant. The final group try to fight the problem. They do what they can to deal with their challenges but go about it in an unstructured manner. Fighting is great, it shows motivation and willingness to overcome the issue. But it needs structure and strategy. A boxer learns everything about their opponent and fights with a cool head. They employ structure when trying to win; we must do the same with our mental health.

Beefeater

tribulation

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