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I am not a finished poem, and I am not the song you’ve turned me into. I am a detached human being, making my way in a world that is constantly trying to push me aside, and you who send me letters and emails and beautiful gifts wouldn’t even recognise me if you saw me walking down the street where I live tomorrow
for I am not a poem.
I am tired and worn out and the eyes you would see would not be painted or inspired
but empty and weary
from drinking too much
at all times
and I am not the life of your party who sings and has glorious words to speak
for I don’t speak much
at all
and my voice is raspy and unsteady from unhealthy living and not much sleep and I only use it when I sing and I always sing too much
or not at all
and never when people are around because they expect poems and symphonies and I am not
a poem
but an elegy
at my best
but unedited and uncut and not a lot of people want to work with me because there’s only so much you can do with an audio take, with the plug-ins and EQs and I was born distorted, disordered, and I’m pretty fine with that,
but others are not.
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Charlotte Eriksson (Another Vagabond Lost To Love: Berlin Stories on Leaving & Arriving)
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Life is a balance between emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) and intelligence quotient (IQ).
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Amit Ray (Mindfulness Meditation for Corporate Leadership and Management)
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Emotional intelligence does not mean merely "being nice". At strategic moment it may demand not "being nice", but rather, for example, bluntly confronting someone with an uncomfortable but consequential truth they've been avoiding.
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Daniel Goleman (Working with Emotional Intelligence)
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The link between EQ and earnings is so direct that every point increase in EQ adds $1,300 to an annual salary.
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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EQ is so critical to success that it accounts for 58 percent of performance in all types of jobs. It’s the single biggest predictor of performance in the workplace and the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence.
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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Emotions are faster than thoughts. That means emotion trumps competencies, behavior, and character unless we learn to be self-aware and channel our emotions consciously.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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To move up the emotional ladder, you have to stop judging your own emotions. This is a key to getting unstuck emotionally, too. You can stop oscillating in a stuck emotion by being aware.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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When people fight about something, the subject of the argument is rarely the real issue. The real issue is about vulnerability, connectedness, safety, trust or love - which are all emotional states.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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Goleman identified the five components of emotional intelligence as self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills.
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Brandon Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: For a Better Life, success at work, and happier relationships. Improve Your Social Skills, Emotional Agility and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. (EQ 2.0))
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Many people are stuck emotionally and do not even realize it.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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A loving heart is not enough to develop a successful relationship. Considerable EQ and social skills are necessary.
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Anoir Ou-chad
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High EQ decision makers can leverage multifaceted thought processes in making sound judgments and improving the overall decision-making maturity.
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Pearl Zhu (Decision Master: The Art and Science of Decision Making (Digital Master Book 13))
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Emotional quotient or EQ, which is the other name for emotional intelligence, is the ability to recognize, discern, and manage emotions.
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Brandon Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: For a Better Life, success at work, and happier relationships. Improve Your Social Skills, Emotional Agility and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. (EQ 2.0))
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Kit Corsac
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Every body says you need to have high IQ or high EQ. I said high common sense and high imagination are supreme abilities than these. Only thing the later two can't be measured.
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Manoj Yadav
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Every body says you need to have high IQ or high EQ. I said high common sense and high imagination are supreme abilities than these. Only thing the later two can't be measured.
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Manoj Yadav
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Emotional quotient (EQ) is a measure of your emotional and social intelligence. It involves your ability to manage yourself, your emotions, your relationships, and people’s perceptions of you.
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Mike Weinberg (New Sales. Simplified.: The Essential Handbook for Prospecting and New Business Development)
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If you could multiply what you know in your head and your heart, your IQ and EQ, by the power of everyone you’ve ever e-mailed or could contact by social media and other technology, what would you do?
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Erica Dhawan (Get Big Things Done: The Power of Connectional Intelligence)
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Emotions are like water, turning opaque when disturbed, yet transparent when still. As mindfulness calms our emotions, we can peer into their depths and see our overshadowing spiritual values reflected on the surface.
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Michael Benner (Fearless Intelligence: The Extraordinary Wisdom of Awareness)
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What progress has your client made over the last month, the last week, and yesterday? • Are they on track to meet their goals? • How have you been showing up as a coach (stances, EQ, sensing, meeting the clients where they are)?
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Robert Galen (Extraordinarily Badass Agile Coaching: The Journey from Beginner to Mastery and Beyond)
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Another common recommendation is to turn lights off when you leave a room, but lighting accounts for only 3% of household energy use, so even if you used no lighting at all in your house you would save only a fraction of a metric ton of carbon emissions. Plastic bags have also been a major focus of concern, but even on very generous estimates, if you stopped using plastic bags entirely you'd cut out 10kg CO2eq per year, which is only 0.4% of your total emissions. Similarly, the focus on buying locally produced goods is overhyped: only 10% of the carbon footprint of food comes from transportation whereas 80% comes from production, so what type of food you buy is much more important than whether that food is produced locally or internationally. Cutting out red meat and dairy for one day a week achieves a greater reduction in your carbon footprint than buying entirely locally produced food. In fact, exactly the same food can sometimes have higher carbon footprint if it's locally grown than if it's imported: one study found that the carbon footprint from locally grown tomatoes in northern Europe was five times as great as the carbon footprint from tomatoes grown in Spain because the emissions generated by heating and lighting greenhouses dwarfed the emissions generated by transportation.
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William MacAskill (Doing Good Better: How Effective Altruism Can Help You Make a Difference)
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It takes consistent and focused practice to become emotionally intelligent. People who learn from their experiences have significantly higher emotional intelligence than those who do not recover. When we do not recover, we get stuck in that emotional pattern and re-create it again and again. We talk about it too much and do not move on.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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How you bring people into your home is just as important as when they walk through the door. Frame well. #marketing
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Richie Norton
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We can experience an emotional hijack as a result of change, or we can self-regulate and catch ourselves before we head into an emotional uproar.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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...seven core emotions show up chemically in the body: Love, Joy, Hope, Sadness, Envy, Anger, Fear
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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Intentionally think thoughts and take actions that enable you to choose the next highest feeling on the scale and make decisions from higher emotional states.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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You know that it’s hard work to consistently apply self-awareness, empathy, and self-control,
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Jen Shirkani (EGO vs. EQ: How Top Leaders Beat 8 Ego Traps with Emotional Intelligence)
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Are Human Problems insoluble? Human Chaos necessary?? Answer: Personally I refuse to have problems!
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Abha Maryada Banerjee (Nucleus - Power Women: Lead from the Core)
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Emotions are a part of how we speak our truth to other people and vice versa.
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Brandon Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: For a Better Life, success at work, and happier relationships. Improve Your Social Skills, Emotional Agility and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. (EQ 2.0))
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It's very important you learn never to ignore your emotions, even negative ones, but to try and identify them and deal with them.
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James W. Williams (Emotional Intelligence: Why it is Crucial for Success in Life and Business - 7 Simple Ways to Raise Your EQ, Make Friends with Your Emotions, and Improve Your Relationships)
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We advocate the creation of an organizational culture that fosters trust as compared to command-and-control obedience, one which focuses on empowerment and not merely on authority.
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Avik Chanda (From Command to Empathy: Using EQ in the Age of Disruption)
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Every single negative emotion is an arrow sign pointing towards a problem which needs your attention
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Ian Tuhovsky (Emotional Intelligence: A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Emotions and Raising Your EQ (Master Your Emotional Intelligence))
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Reality Testing—the ability to see things as they actually are, rather than the way you wish or fear they might be;
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Steven J. Stein (The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success)
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Suicide has become fashionable nowadays. A Low EQ generation. Never think about anyone else and choose the easiest option for ending life. Don’t have the guts to face a situation like a true man. For God’s sake, life is not a video game where you get numerous chances. You have only one chance to live. Learn to value your life. Don’t throw it away like an idiot.
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Devayu (College Days)
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Unfortunately, empathy often falls by the wayside because when we need it most, we're least open to using it—that is, when we're under stress, misunderstood, irritated, or defensive.
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Steven J. Stein (The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success)
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It embraces Emotional Self-Awareness—the ability to recognize how you're feeling and why you're feeling that way, and the impact your emotions have on the thoughts and actions of yourself and others; Self
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Steven J. Stein (The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success)
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While this aspect of self-awareness is no doubt useful, a more consequential side concerns understanding how you affect others and, in turn, what others think of you. As the poet Maya Angelou noted, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” In that sense, self-awareness is really about other-awareness, and people with higher EQs are better able to understand how their actions affect and are perceived by others.
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Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic (Why Do So Many Incompetent Men Become Leaders?: (And How to Fix It))
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With self-awareness we can change our inner conversation about what we are feeling and create different outcomes in conversations with others. To create conversations for change we must be able to process ourselves and others through emotions.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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We are getting richer, but less and less happy. Depression, suicide, relationship breakdowns, loneliness of choice, fear of closeness, addictions - this is the clear evidence we are getting increasingly worse when it comes to dealing with our emotions.
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Ian Tuhovsky (Emotional Intelligence: A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Emotions and Raising Your EQ (Master Your Emotional Intelligence))
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The core components of high EQ are the following: The ability to self-soothe. The key to managing emotion is to allow, acknowledge, and tolerate our intense emotions so that they evaporate, without getting stuck in them or taking actions we’ll later regret. Self-soothing is what enables us to manage our anxiety and upsets, which in turn allows us to work through emotionally charged issues in a constructive way. Emotional self-awareness and acceptance. If we don’t understand the emotions washing over us, they scare us, and we can’t tolerate them. We repress our hurt, fear, or disappointment. Those emotions, no longer regulated by our conscious mind, have a way of popping out unmodulated, as when a preschooler socks his sister or we (as adults) lose our tempers or eat a pint of ice cream. By contrast, children raised in a home in which there are limits on behavior but not on feelings grow up understanding that all emotions are acceptable, a part of being human. That understanding gives them more control over their emotions. Impulse control. Emotional intelligence liberates us from knee-jerk emotional reactions. A child (or adult) with high EQ will act rather than react and problem-solve rather than blame. It doesn’t mean you never get angry or anxious, only that you don’t fly off the handle. As a result, our lives and relationships work better. Empathy. Empathy is the ability to see and feel something from the other’s point of view. When you’re adept at understanding the mental and emotional states of other people, you resolve differences constructively and connect deeply with others. Naturally, empathy makes us better communicators.
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Laura Markham (Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting (The Peaceful Parent Series))
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There are times when we RISE up to situations and recognise our INNER POWER,STRENTHS and CAPABILITY by the way we handled a siutation ! How about recognising ourselves,our POWER. our TALENT, our CAPABILITIES and then handle each situation from our BEST levels. The RESULTS are bound to be UP'd!
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Abha Maryada Banerjee (Nucleus - Power Women: Lead from the Core)
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At its core, empathy is the ability to see the world from another person's perspective, the capacity to tune in to what someone else might be thinking and feeling about a situation—regardless of how that view might differ from your own perception. It is an extremely powerful interpersonal tool.
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Steven J. Stein (The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success)
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Mind Quotient (Sonnet 1209)
Throw away all stupidity of IQ and EQ,
They are but stain upon mind's honor.
To quantify intelligence is stupid,
To quantify emotion is even stupider.
When the feeble psyche seeks reassurance,
It craves comfort in all sorts of nonsense.
Most times it resorts to the supernatural,
Exhausting that it resorts to pseudoscience.
It is no mark of mental progress to replace
supernatural bubble with pseudoscience bubble.
No matter how they try to sell you security,
Know that, human potential is unquantifiable.
IQ is no measure of intelligence,
EQ is no measure of emotion either.
But craving for IQ and EQ is symptom
of a shallow and feeble character.
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Abhijit Naskar (Rowdy Scientist: Handbook of Humanitarian Science (Caretaker Diaries))
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You will be more emotionally aware when you are able to see the connection between the symptoms and what you are doing now. As yourself, "What feeling is underlying my current actions?" This is a way to become aware. Self-awareness is the first step in emotional intelligence. We cannot self-regulate if we are not aware of what we are feeling.
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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Each of the following states of being is distinctly tied to one of the seven core emotions...Freedom, Passion, Enthusiasm, Positive Expectations, Optimism, Contentment, Boredom, Pessimism, Frustration, A sense of being overwhelmed, Disappointment, Doubt, Worry, Blame, Discouragement, Bitterness, Vengefulness, Hatred, Jealousy, Insecurity, Guilt, Unworthiness, Grief, Depression, Powerlessness, Inability to concerntrate
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Shawn Kent Hayashi (Conversations for Change: 12 Ways to Say it Right When It Matters Most)
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Emotional awareness: The ability to hone in on how you feel, understand why you are feeling a particular way, and give each feeling a label. Emotionally intelligent people are not afraid of any emotion. They know that feelings are a natural, normal part of the human experience. Handling emotions: The ability to process your feelings and those of others in a constructive manner. For instance, someone with a high EQ is able to calm themselves down in a high-pressure situation. They are also able to soothe others when they are hurt and cheer them up when necessary. Harnessing emotions: The ability to channel your emotions in a useful way, for example in solving problems or expressing yourself creatively. For example, an artist who draws on their personal experiences in creating sculptures is demonstrating their emotional intelligence. Another way of looking at EQ is to think of it as a collection of skills: self-awareness, social awareness, relationship management, and self-management. The stronger your skills in these areas, the higher your EQ.
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Judy Dyer (Empath and The Highly Sensitive: 2 in 1 Bundle)
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Before Evie could protest, Mal sighed. “Of course there is. The party of the year. A real rager, didn’t you hear?” Mal looked her up and down and shook her head sadly. “Oh, I guess you didn’t hear.” She mock-winced, looking at Carlos conspiratorially. “Everyone’s going to be there.” “They are?” Carlos looked confused. “But you only just told me to have it—” He quickly got the message. “Everyone,” he agreed. Evie smiled. “Sounds awesome. I haven’t been to a party in a long, long time.” Mal raised an eyebrow. “Oh, I’m sorry. This is a very exclusive party, and I’m afraid you didn’t get an invitation.” With those parting words, Mal went ahead of them into the classroom—she was in their next class too, of course (her EQ was legendary)—and left them to each other. “Sorry,” Carlos mumbled. “I guess I was wrong, Mal doesn’t just talk a big game.” “Yeah, me too. The party sounds like fun,” Evie said sadly. “You want to see what I’m making?” he asked, trying to change the subject as they settled into their seats. He took out of his bag a black box, with wires and an antenna poking out from one side—the same contraption he’d
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Melissa de la Cruz (The Isle of the Lost (Descendants, #1))
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10 Watch EQ at the Movies Hollywood. It’s the entertainment capital of the world known for glitz, glamour, and celebrity. Believe it or not, Hollywood is also a hotbed of EQ, ripe for building your social awareness skills. After all, art imitates life, right? Movies are an abundant source of EQ skills in action, demonstrating behaviors to emulate or completely avoid. Great actors are masters at evoking real emotion in themselves; as their characters are scripted to do outrageous and obvious things, it’s easy to observe the cues and emotions on-screen. To build social awareness skills, you need to practice being aware of what’s happening with other people; it doesn’t matter if you practice using a box office hero or a real person. When you watch a movie to observe social cues, you’re practicing social awareness. Plus, since you are not living the situation, you’re not emotionally involved, and the distractions are limited. You can use your mental energy to observe the characters instead of dealing with your own life. This month, make it a point to watch two movies specifically to observe the character interactions, relationships, and conflicts. Look for body language clues to figure out how each character is feeling and observe how the characters handle the conflicts. As more information about the characters unfold, rewind and watch past moments to spot clues you may have missed the first time. Believe it or not, watching movies from the land of make-believe is one of the most useful and entertaining ways to practice your social awareness skills for the real world.
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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This is perhaps particularly relevant for the Western culture where people usually don't like silence and tend to answer questions or make comments without thinking. Or even worse, believe that every silence has to be filled with a witty comment or a remark.
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James W. Williams (Emotional Intelligence: Why it is Crucial for Success in Life and Business - 7 Simple Ways to Raise Your EQ, Make Friends with Your Emotions, and Improve Your Relationships)
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EQ refers to an individual’s ability to manage emotions effectively and positively.
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Modern Psychology Publishing (Emotional Intelligence: Happiness and EQ 2 Book Bundle (Emotional Intelligence, EQ, Raise Your Emotional Quotient, Build Stronger Relationships, Become and Influential Leader 1))
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IQ is no measure of intelligence,
EQ is no measure of emotion either.
But craving for IQ and EQ is symptom
of a shallow and feeble character.
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Abhijit Naskar (Rowdy Scientist: Handbook of Humanitarian Science (Caretaker Diaries))
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When things become tough, you can make your beliefs work for you by asking yourself the following questions: What are some of the beliefs you have that are hindering you from moving beyond the challenge? Are there any positive beliefs that you need to put more focus on to ensure you succeed in your efforts to overcome the challenge? Which beliefs do you need to keep to ensure that you sustain your growth once you overcome? Responding to this question ensures that you continue living a fulfilled life once you have attained your dreams.
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Charles Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: A Practical Guide to Stop Overthinking, Improve Your Social Skills and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. Learn to Declutter Your Mind and Boost Your Focus. (EQ 2.0))
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A team mindset, high EQ, learning ability, and ability to not just think about their own interests—that’s what this society values,
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Dan Senor (The Genius of Israel: The Surprising Resilience of a Divided Nation in a Turbulent World)
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In that case, start by setting aside 30 minutes every evening, once you're done with the work for the day and can relax a bit, and reflect on the day or week behind you. If you had a particularly difficult day/week, ask yourself what you can learn from the experience
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James W. Williams (Emotional Intelligence: Why it is Crucial for Success in Life and Business - 7 Simple Ways to Raise Your EQ, Make Friends with Your Emotions, and Improve Your Relationships)
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In fact, some research studies have proved that people with brain damage resulting in not being able to experience emotions fully have reduced capacity to make good decisions. Even
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Avery Wright (Psychology of Human Behavior: 3 Manuscripts-Emotional Intelligence, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy : The Best Guide to Understand ... EQ, Nonviolent communication, NLP, and CBT)
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What this means is that low-self-esteem or EQ people with big egos (“I” in Greek) can never really be an effective team player because
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Gregory G Campeau (Leading From Everywhere: The Principles & Practices of Character Based Leadership)
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My EQ Action Plan Part One – My Journey Begins Date Completed: _______________ List your scores from the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal® test below. Score Overall EQ: ________________ Self-awareness: ________________ Self-management: ________________ Social Awareness: ________________ Relationship Management: ________________ Pick One EQ Skill and Three Strategies Which of the four core emotional intelligence skills will you work on first? Circle your chosen skill in the image below. Review the strategies for the EQ skill you selected, and list up to three below that you will practice. 1. 2. 3. My EQ Mentor Who do you know who is gifted in your chosen EQ skill and willing to provide feedback and advice throughout your journey? My EQ mentor is: Part Two – How Far My Journey Has Come Date Completed: _______________ After you take the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal® test a second time, list your new and old scores below. Old Score New Score Change Overall EQ: ________________ ________________ ________________ Self-awareness: ________________ ________________ ________________ Self-management: ________________ ________________ ________________ Social Awareness: ________________ ________________ ________________ Relationship Management: ________________ ________________ ________________ Pick a New EQ Skill and Three Strategies Based on the results explained in your Emotional Intelligence Appraisal® feedback report, where will you focus your skill development efforts going forward? Pick a new EQ skill and circle it in the image below. Review the strategies for the EQ skill you selected, and list up to three below that you will practice. 1. 2. 3. My New EQ Mentor Who do you know who is gifted in your new chosen EQ skill and willing to provide feedback and advice throughout your journey? My new EQ mentor is: 5
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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saddles. Furthermore, by Eq. 2 their two-dimensional stable or unstable manifolds lie completely on the boundary. The eigenvalue belonging to the remaining eigenvector is real-valued. Its
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Helwig Hauser (Topology-based Methods in Visualization (Mathematics and Visualization))
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Remember that the ability to communicate powerfully without needing to raise your voice is a measure of emotional intelligence.
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Brandon Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: For a Better Life, success at work, and happier relationships. Improve Your Social Skills, Emotional Agility and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. (EQ 2.0))
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Karen Blake Coaching
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Mindful awareness is a term that is used to refer to the heightened consciousness that comes with being in touch with your thoughts, emotions, sensations, and experiences during every waking moment of your life.
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Brandon Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: For a Better Life, success at work, and happier relationships. Improve Your Social Skills, Emotional Agility and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. (EQ 2.0))
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Here are the great qualities we find in sports education: The student is the main player on the field (not a passive observer). The teacher is the mastermind guiding students from behind the lines. Theory is translated into action; action instantly supports theory (IQ). It is fun (EQ). It is interactive (CQ). It provides knowledge construction (IQ), skills and confidence (EQ). It serves students’ interests (EQ). It is constantly challenging and increases motivation (EQ). It is personal and relates to individual abilities (IQ, EQ). It involves teamwork (CQ) as a crucial, built-in requirement. It generates mind-body interaction, which is vital for effective mind functioning (IQ).
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Hezki Arieli (The Future of Education: How to Evolve 'Old Schools' to Exciting & Innovative Learning Hubs)
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We know from research (and common sense) that people who understand and manage their own and others’ emotions make better leaders. They are able to deal with stress, overcome obstacles, and inspire others to work toward collective goals. They manage conflict with less fallout and build stronger teams. And they are generally happier at work, too. But far too many managers lack basic self-awareness and social skills. They don’t recognize the impact of their own feelings and moods. They are less adaptable than they need to be in today’s fast-paced world. And they don’t demonstrate basic empathy for others: they don’t understand people’s needs, which means they are unable to meet those needs or inspire people to act.
One of the reasons we see far too little emotional intelligence in the workplace is that we don’t hire for it. We hire for pedigree. We look for where someone went to school, high grades and test scores, technical skills, and certifications, not whether they build great teams or get along with others. And how smart we think someone is matters a lot, so we hire for intellect.
Obviously we need smart, experienced people in our companies, but we also need people who are adept at dealing with change, understand and motivate others, and manage both positive and negative emotions to create an environment where everyone can be at their best.
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Annie McKee
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Emotional regulation Learn to control your strong emotions, particularly negative ones, and never act on impulse. Practice this by thinking of something that will make you feel hurt, angry, or exploited. Sit with the feeling, feel the humiliation, or anger, “digest” it, and only after you have calmed down “respond” to the person or situation that made you feel that way.
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James W. Williams (Emotional Intelligence: Why it is Crucial for Success in Life and Business - 7 Simple Ways to Raise Your EQ, Make Friends with Your Emotions, and Improve Your Relationships)
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Emotional intelligence is about self-awareness, self-management, and relationship management. It's about knowing yourself and being able to manage your emotions, as well as your response to those emotions.
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James W. Williams (Emotional Intelligence: Why it is Crucial for Success in Life and Business - 7 Simple Ways to Raise Your EQ, Make Friends with Your Emotions, and Improve Your Relationships)
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keep on reminding yourself that although held-back emotions create tension, both internally and externally, those expressed in a rush and without thinking are like shooting without aiming. The best way to improve your self-management is to have more emotional self-control and constantly work on enhancing your integrity.
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James W. Williams (Emotional Intelligence: Why it is Crucial for Success in Life and Business - 7 Simple Ways to Raise Your EQ, Make Friends with Your Emotions, and Improve Your Relationships)
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The things that happen in our lives have a profound effect on how we view the world and experience life in the future.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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Most of the things that bother us, our triggers, are our own personal challenges and have little to do with other people.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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Our values are the first thing we need to consider when making a decision, since they create a decision ruler.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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Increasing your emotional intelligence is a lifelong journey.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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Ask yourself what actions, words, and attitudes would give you the best chance at achieving your desired outcome.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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Our words have no meaning when the nonverbal message contradicts them!
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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One of the most powerful things that you can do to build positive relationships is to pay attention to everyone’s nonverbal communication and then ask about any telltale signs of an emotion.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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Realizing that other people are coping in the best way that they know how can help us have empathy and understanding towards them.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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We broaden our world when we have an outward mindset.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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We build the positivity of a relationship by asking nonjudgmental questions and listening intently to the answers.
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Kathy Stoddard Torrey (Elevate Your Emotional Intelligence: A Parable that Reveals the Path to Better Relationships and a Happier Life)
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The book, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten, was written in 1986 by a minister, Robert Fulghum, and it’s full of simple-sounding life advice, like “share everything,” “play fair,” and “clean up after your own mess.” Chen believes that these skills—the elementary, pre-literate skills of treating other people well, acting ethically, and behaving in prosocial ways, all of which I consider “analog ethics”—are badly needed for an age in which our value will come from our ability to relate to other people. He writes: While I know that we’ll need to layer on top of that foundation a set of practical and technical know-how, I agree with [Fulghum] that a foundation rich in EQ [emotional quotient] and compassion and imagination and creativity is the perfect springboard to prepare people—the doctors with the best bedside manner, the sales reps solving my actual problems, crisis counselors who really understand when we’re in crisis—for a machine-learning powered future in which humans and algorithms are better together. Research has indicated that teaching analog ethics can be effective. One 2015 study that tracked children from kindergarten through young adulthood found that people who had developed strong prosocial, noncognitive skills—traits like positivity, empathy, and regulating one’s own emotions—were more likely to be successful as adults. Another study in 2017 found that kids who participated in “social-emotional” learning programs were more likely to graduate from college, were arrested
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Kevin Roose (Futureproof: 9 Rules for Surviving in the Age of AI)
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However, there is a straightforward measure that scientists use to roughly compare the intelligence of different animals. It’s called the encephalization quotient (EQ). It’s basically a measure of the relative size of the brain compared to the size of the body (because, after all, bigger animals have bigger brains simply because of their body size: elephants have bigger brains than we do but are not more intelligent). The largest tyrannosaurs like T. rex had an EQ in the range of 2.0 to 2.4. By comparison, our EQ is about 7.5, dolphins come in around 4.0 to 4.5, chimps at about 2.2 to 2.5, dogs and cats are in the 1.0 to 1.2 range, and mice and rats languish around 0.5. Based on these numbers, we can say that Rex was roughly as smart as a chimp and more intelligent than dogs and cats. That’s a whole lot smarter than the dinosaurs of stereotype.
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Stephen Brusatte (The Rise and Fall of the Dinosaurs: A New History of a Lost World: The Definitive Dinosaur Encyclopedia with Stunning Illustrations, Embark on a Prehistoric Quest!)
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To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate.
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Addison Bell (The Highly Sensitive Person: Building Social Relationships And Emotional Intelligence As A HSP - How To Overcome Anxiety and Worry And Stop Emotional Overload With EQ Strategies.)
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Emotional intelligence truly came to the forefront of public consciousness in 1995, when science journalist Daniel Goleman published his groundbreaking book, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Goleman expanded on Salovey and Mayer's model and proposed that EQ was a more significant determinant of success and well-being than traditional intelligence measured by IQ. His book sparked a revolution, not just in psychological circles but in businesses, schools, and homes worldwide. Over time, the concept of emotional intelligence has evolved and been refined. Despite the different models and definitions, its essence remains consistent: it's about recognizing, understanding, managing, and effectively using emotions in ourselves and others. Let's consider a practical scenario to illustrate this. Suppose you're in a team meeting at work, and tension is rising over a disagreement about a project. An emotionally intelligent person would recognize and manage their increasing frustration and notice the subtle signs of distress in others—clenched jaws, impatient foot tapping, and avoiding eye contact. They would then use this understanding to navigate the situation, perhaps by suggesting a short break or calmly expressing their viewpoint and encouraging others to do the same. They
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Erik B. N. (Emotional Intelligence: How To Master Self-Awareness, Empathy, and Social Skills for Deeper, More Meaningful Relationships (Emotional Wellness))
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Knowing others is intelligence, knowing yourself is true wisdom; mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.
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Brandon Goleman (Emotional Intelligence: For a Better Life, success at work, and happier relationships. Improve Your Social Skills, Emotional Agility and Discover Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. (EQ 2.0))
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TABLE 6.1. Coefficients of Encephalization for Human and Ancestral Species After Tobias, 1987. EQ = encephalization quotient; CC = constant of cephalization. Erectus figures averaged from four subpopulations in source) A moment’s thought, however, should suffice to cast
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Derek Bickerton (Language & Species)
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I’d rather have a high EQ than a high IQ. After all, what is more important than love?
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Jarod Kintz (Love quotes for the ages. Specifically ages 18-81.)
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There is a difference between being emotional, feeling emotions, understanding emotions and being prisoned by emotions !
Emotion is good , emotional bondage is not!
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Abha Maryada Banerjee (Nucleus - Power Women: Lead from the Core)
Happy Kids (Raise Your Child's IQ & EQ : Fun Brain Games & Cool Puzzles. - Children's books for Boys & Girls 3 - 8 Years Old. (ILLUSTRATED): Raise Your Child's IQ and EQ)
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When emotional intelligence was first discovered, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: people with the highest levels of intelligence (IQ) outperform those with average IQs just 20 percent of the time, while people with average IQs outperform those with high IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into what many people had always assumed was the source of success—IQ. Scientists realized there must be another variable that explained success above and beyond one’s IQ, and years of research and countless studies pointed to emotional intelligence (EQ) as the critical factor. A
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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many technology companies and pundits (usually with an ulterior motive) suggest that “people” are no longer how the game of sales is won or lost, that technology is what matters most, Jeb Blount comes forward with Sales EQ. This extraordinary message about sales-specific emotional intelligence and human relationships will radically improve your sales results and change the way you look at sales. In Sales EQ, you will gain a deeper understanding
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Jeb Blount (Sales EQ: How Ultra High Performers Leverage Sales-Specific Emotional Intelligence to Close the Complex Deal)
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CEOs, on average, have the lowest EQ scores in the workplace.
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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Life is simple, but we insist on making it complicated. —Confucius
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Jeb Blount (Sales EQ: How Ultra High Performers Leverage Sales-Specific Emotional Intelligence to Close the Complex Deal)
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There’s one thing you must remember—you can regulate your emotions. Once again, it is a skill, like any other. Calming down the unpleasant feelings when necessary, reinforcing the positive ones, whenever you want. In every single moment of your life, you can feel exactly as you want to feel. It will guide you directly to the conscious life in which creating lasting relationships and making new challenges will be accompanied by excitement and enjoyment rather than fear and stress.
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Ian Tuhovsky (Emotional Intelligence: A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Emotions and Raising Your EQ (Master Your Emotional Intelligence))
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Emotional intelligence enables you to make better decisions based on what you are feeling under a given situation. It also helps to connect to others in ways that show that you care about them and the way they feel. Having a high EQ enables you to identify and control your emotions in a positive way, thus enhancing effective communication. A person with a greater EQ is able to cope with the daily stresses and struggles of life, and neutralize any potential conflicts, even as they continually empathize with others around them.
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Benjamin Smith (Emotional Intelligence: Exploring the Most Powerful Intelligence Ever Discovered)
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Anyone can become angry—that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, this is not easy.” We can thank Greek philosopher Aristotle for those words and enduring insight into managing our emotions and relationships. If you can master this one, consider your EQ journey a success. Anger is an emotion that exists for a reason—anger is not an emotion to stifle or ignore. If you manage it properly and use it purposefully, you can get results that enhance your relationships. Really. Think
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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According to experts, words are only 7% of effective communication. The rest of the 93% is accounted for by tone and body language.
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Tyler Green (Emotional Intelligence: How To Be A Master Of Your Emotions, Dramatically Raise Your EQ And Become A Brilliant Leader)
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Entrepreneurs spending time on mkt size, 2/5 yrs hence etc r imp but do not underesti EQ, social/family support, rejections & softer aspects
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Sandeep Aggarwal
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Separate between confident, detached, and forceful correspondence styles, and practice self-assured and empathic interrelating." Every
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Scott Mercer (Emotional Intelligence: Guide to Mastering Your Emotion- Critical Thinking, Raising EQ for Life Mastery (emotional intelligence,critical thinking,EQ))
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EQ is so critical to success that it accounts for 58 percent of performance in all types of jobs.
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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Your EQ is greatly affected by your ability to keep this road well traveled. The more you think about what you are feeling—and do something productive with that feeling—the more developed this pathway becomes
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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Scores climb with titles, from the bottom of the corporate ladder upward toward middle management. Middle managers stand out, with the highest EQ scores in the workforce. But up beyond middle management, there is a steep downward trend in EQ scores. For the titles of director and above, scores descend faster than a snowboarder on a black diamond. CEOs, on average, have the lowest EQ scores in the workplace.
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Travis Bradberry (Emotional Intelligence 2.0)
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Emotional intelligence is the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem-solving.
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Pearl Zhu
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I’d probably want some good compressors, like a couple of Avalons or a couple of the Urei LA-3A’s, and perhaps a Pultec EQ.
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Robert Wolff (How to Make It in the New Music Business -- Now With the Tips You've Been Asking For!)