Dreamgirls Quotes

Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.

Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.

Anytime a woman competes with another woman she demeans herself.

He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.

Once you start laughing, you start healing.

Truly powerful people don't explain why they want respect. They simply don't engage someone who doesn't give it to them.

Live by your own rules Move to your rhythm, instead of dancing to the beat of someone else’s drum Decide how you want to be treated Choose what you will or will not tolerate Leave if you don’t get what you want.

When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too. This is the kind of relationship you want, and it's the only kind of relationship worth having.

A dreamgirl, on the other hand, won't kill herself to impress anyone.

Men don't respond to words. What they respond to is "no contact".

When you live life with him or without him, that is when he will accept and value you for who you are.

The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.

The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

Before sex, a man isn't thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and a woman isn't.

If someone else doesn't like your confidence, that's their problem. Why? You always come before they do, that's why.

Agree with everything, explain nothing, then do what is best for you.

Success in love isn't about looks, it's about attitude.

He should accept me as I am!” says the woman who is too nice. Accept you? Oh no, sister. Slap yourself. He should want you madly. Acceptance has nothing to do with it. He accepts a doormat. But he desires his dreamgirl.

Until he gives you a reason not to trust him, behave as though you trust him.

Standing up for yourself doesn't always involve verbal confrontation. Sometimes it's about not wasting energy on people who are negative.

The nice girl makes the mistake of being available all the time.

You always want what you can’t have.

Men control the world, but women control the men.

That's the big picture, your happiness. And health. You should never care what a man thinks of you -- until he demonstrates to you that he cares about making you happy. If he isn't trying to make you happy, then send him back from "whence" he came because winning him over will have no benefit. At the end of the day, happines, joy...and yes...your emotional stability...those comprise the only measuring stick you really need to have.

Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves

If you can't convince 'em, confuse 'em.

Many people lack the basic equipment to be in a relationship and there's nothing you can do to change it. You can't take a skunk and dip it in perfume and hope it becomes a puppy. Eventually, the perfume will wear off and you'll still have a skunk on your hands.

When you nag, you become the problem, an he deals with it by turning you out, but when you dont nag, he deals with the problem.

You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face

When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still right there.

Because of his hormones, he only has three emotions: crabby, hungry, horny.

A bitch is more selective about her availability. She’s available sometimes; other times she’s not. But she’s nice.

A beautiful woman can make herself look ugly in the eyes of a man if she is very insecure.

It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.

When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.

If a man isn't being nice when you're out, all you have to do is remain polite and then go home early.

when something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless

The bitch is very nice. She is as sweet as a Georgia peach. But inside every sweet peach is a strong pit. And this means she won't explain the obvious when a man is disrespectful.

The bitch does not stop moving to her own rhythm. This, in and of itself, prevents her from becoming off-balance like a nice girl who abandons her routine.

The bitch is an empowered woman who derives tremendous strength from the ability to be an independent thinker, particularly in a world that still teaches women how to be self-abnegating. This woman doesn't live someone else's standards, only her own.

Expressing yourself when he takes for granted doesn't work.

UncondiTional love is a beauTiful Thing. JusT be sure To give iT after your conditions have been meT :P

Anything a person chases in life runs away.

Let's replace "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you" with "Do unto others, after they show you they are worthy.

Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.

When it comes to believing in yourself, put your eye on the mark and don’t blink. If you have a goal, a dream, or an aspiration…believe in yourself while you are on the way to your destination, and you will have already arrived.

If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you'll create a void. Then to replace what you give up, you'll start to expect and need more from your partner.

It isn’t about looks; gorgeous women get dumped every day.

if the sex was too easy to get, it was not that great.

Instead of working so hard to please him, work harder to please yourself…because ultimately, this is what will truly please him.

Men can shift gears from romantic to practical - and so can the bitch.

If a relationship is on-and-off within the first year, that’s an immediate sign you are wasting your time.

If he still isn’t giving you what you want, the question to ask yourself is whether you really want him.

If you want to control your emotions, you have to control your thoughts.

There is no way to hold your own in a relationship and simultaneously accept rude behavior.

Expressing your feelings constantly is like pleading. It comes across as needy rather than dignified.

When you meet someone who is truly great, he makes you believe you can be great, too.

When a nice girl overcompensates, her behavior says, “What I have to offer isn’t enough, and who I am isn’t enough.

If you appear weak, people take advantage of you.

Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings.

One man’s “ugly” is another man’s “beautiful.

Keeping it short and to the point is essential, otherwise he won’t hear a single word.

For a woman the objective is often a committed relationship also known as the destination. For a men roadtrip on the way to the destination is often the more fun.

It's that a bit of irreverence is necessary to have any self-esteem at all. Not irreverence for people, but rather, for what other people think.

She doesn’t realize that she becomes so involved in him that she loses herself, and in the process, she risks losing him as well.

Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on.

If you chase him in a black nightie, first he’ll have sex with you . . . and then he’ll run.

More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.

Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.

Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them.

Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got, and 50% what people think you’ve got.” —SOPHIA LOREN

If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he'll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he'll also take time to appreciate who she is.

The person who is least dependent on the outcome of the relationship will automatically draw the other person in.

Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.

Many women are so gripped with fear over the loss of a man that they think of him constantly.

The woman who is too nice senses that he “needs her” and she runs to his aid like a Red Cross rescue missionary. And she gives—blindly.

And remember, it's always her fault. That's your story and you're sticking to it.

You always want what you cant have

Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun.

He’ll do what you like just long enough to get what he wants.

One of the things women have to get out of their mindset is the notion of what a bitch is. A bitch is nice. She’s sweet as a Georgia peach. She smiles and she is feminine. She just doesn’t make decisions based on the fear of losing a man.

If she has six good points and you have one semigood little point, place all of the emphasis on your one semigood little point.

If she is clearly right, find fault with her that has nothing to do with the incident, and use that.

If you are nice, but you give of yourself with strings attached, the demand for reciprocity will send him several steps backward.

Never assume you are not attractive enough, and therefore you have to overcompensate or chase a man. Taste is subjective.

When a woman is secure with herself, she isn't afraid to define herself and defy public opinion. She has her own look. Her own style. Her own charisma. Her own brand of charm. A man wants something he doesn't see every day. Not in terms of a redhead versus a blonde. He wants the rare woman who can think for herself.

Familiarity breeds contempt and predictability breeds boredom.

A woman who is comfortable in her own skin and cannot be made to feel bad about herself.

There will always be people who will be there to plant negative seeds in your garden, if you make yourself available for that.

The nice girl loses an important protective mechanism when she assumes that life is fair, or that Prince Charming will always protect her. The smart fox is not governed by wishful thinking or the hope of a fantasy outcome, like Cinderella. Despite appearances, she trusts herself to watch her OWN back instead of giving a man the responsibility of doing it for her.

Don’t learn the tricks of the trade. Learn the trade.

He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover.

It becomes a burden if you lean on him too much. He is only human, and he has his own problems. Show him that you'll be an equal partner, which means that you also have something to contribute.

The best advice I ever heard is, don’t take anyone else’s advice.” There’s power in this because it puts you in the conductor’s seat, right at “the controls” in your life. It doesn’t mean you should stop seeking information or outside input, it just means that you’re the one driving. You choose your own destination.

The bitch isn't afraid to be different, which is why she won't be a "booty call" or a pearl on a long string of pearls. She won't be a man's late-night convenience. She won't be doing lap dances. She won't be afraid to turn thirty or forty years old. At any age, this woman will feel like a "prize." She won't be defined by the media's perception of aging; she won't be made to feel like detective livestock because she is no longer a teenager. Married, single, or divorced, this woman feels good about herself.

Being a Dream Girl is never going to be about what you look like or how much you weigh. After all, our physical appearances are just reflections of our inner worlds. What makes you a Dream Girl is your emotional sensitivity, your self-awareness, and your ability to communicate who you are effectively and compassionately in the world.

A girlfriend went on a couple of dates with a guy who criticized the color of her nail polish. She said, "The suggestion department is closed for the evening, but fax your idea tomorrow and we'll file it right over there in the suggestion box." (Then she pointed to the kitchen trash.)

It isn't about the looks; gorgeous women get dumped every day. It isn't about intelligence. Women of all types, from brilliant women to women with the IQ equivalent of plant life, pull it off every day. It's about mystery and learning how to create intrigue.

She knows what she wants but won't compromise herself to get it. But she's feminine, like "Steel Magnolia" -- flowery on the outside, steel on the inside. She uses this very femininity to her own advantage. It isn't that she takes undue advantage of men, because she plays fair. She has one thing the nice girl doesn't: a presence of mind because she isn't swept away by a romantic fantasy. This presence of mind enables her to wield her power when it is necessary.

Certainly, the average fashion magazine gives women ridiculous relationship advice that makes it easy to understand why women are so eager to overcompensate: “Play hard to get, then cook him a four-course meal … bake him Valentine’s cookies with exotic sprinkles shipped from Malaysia (just like Martha Stewart). Don’t forget the little doilies and the organic strawberries that you drove two hours to get. Then serve it all to him on the second date, wearing a black lace nightie.” And what is this a recipe for? Disaster.