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Anxiety = Uncertainty x Powerlessness
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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Curiosity = Wonder + Awe
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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According to noted hotelier Chip Conley, “Culture is what happens when the boss leaves.
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Salim Ismail (Exponential Organizations: Why new organizations are ten times better, faster, and cheaper than yours (and what to do about it))
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Chip Conley, the renowned entrepreneur who founded Joie de Vivre Hotels, explains, “Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it’s valuable in a marathon
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Adam M. Grant (Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success)
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EVENT + REACTION = OUTCOME Many people do not distinguish between something that happens to them and their reaction to it. Yet it isn’t the event or situation that holds the emotional charge; it’s our beliefs that create our response.
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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This equation has helped many people I know identify the difference between practicing happiness and pursuing it. When my happiness feels elusive, I tend to ask myself, “What am I not being grateful for, and what am I pursuing that’s distracting me from that gratitude?
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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Think of your emotions as messages that give you the freedom, rather than the obligation, to respond. Fear protects. Regret teaches. Sadness releases. Joy uplifts. Empathy unites. Emotions
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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As Viktor Frankl wrote, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” You have the power to choose how you respond. You are a product of your decisions, not your conditions. In
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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Economic gloom lightens your wallet while weighing down your spirit. Five of the ten most stressful life events are related to whether you are employed and whether the quality of your work experience is good. Your work does more than affect your self-esteem; it organizes your day, connects you with others, and can give you a sense of purpose. Not
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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Mark Twain didn’t dabble in psychological focus groups, but he certainly knew something about human nature when he wrote, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” A series of surveys explored the premise that time is an important variable in this equation. Researchers asked a random sampling of people, “When you look back on your experiences in life and think of those things that you regret, what would you say you regret more, those things that you did, but wish you hadn’t, or those things that you didn’t do, but wish you had?” The results found that regrettable “failures to act” outnumbered “regrettable actions” by a two-to-one margin and that this was true for both sexes.
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple formulas to help your life work better)
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Ser doador não é bom nas corridas de 100 metros, mas é valioso nas maratonas. Chip Conley
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Adam M. Grant (Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success)
Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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She rejected the values that society imposed on her without her permission, and now she says, “I am an invisible woman. What a relief!
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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MY job is to be grateful for MY life, for the things I have.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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focus on improving ourselves instead of just proving ourselves.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Rather than see my body as a vanity vehicle, the physical manifestation of my ego, I now see it as a trusted best friend. We’re not always in sync, but I assume the best intentions of my body, and it holds me accountable when I’ve neglected it. It is not a machine to be optimized, but instead a friend to be loved. What if your body isn’t at war with you? What if your body is your wisest teacher, guiding you to the truths you need to learn? Before going to bed each night, maybe you can ask your wise body, “How can you teach me to live a better life?
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Philosopher Henry David Thoreau says that “the cost of a thing is the amount of… life which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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as we age, we also have to remember that time is our most precious resource and then ask Is the cost worth it?
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Don’t give up at halftime.” Good advice for us all. How are you preparing for the second half of your adult life? If the first half was learning the rules, could the second half be about breaking them? And one of the key rules to break is the societal mindset that midlife is boring and uninspired. Break convention. Break habits. Break free!
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Our extra longevity means we’re not old longer but in midlife longer.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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create a life that’s as deep and meaningful as it is long.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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That may seem like a brain tease, but think of it this way: “Wanting What You Have” is like practicing gratitude. It means appreciating the good fortune in your life. “Having What You Want,” to me, means that you are pursuing something that will give you gratification, potentially to the neglect of what you already have. In other words, The
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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Wanting What You Have” is like practicing gratitude. It means appreciating the good fortune in your life. “Having What You Want,” to me, means that you are pursuing something that will give you gratification, potentially to the neglect of what you already have.
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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Gravity can also shape our emotional selves. Emotional baggage, for instance, is a form of gravity; we acquire more of it as we get older, and it weighs us down. The more emotional gravity we’re fighting, the more force we require to move forward. And force moving against gravity creates a lot of friction. On
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Chip Conley (Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success)
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The purpose of life is to discover your gift. The work of life is to develop it. The meaning of life is to give your gift away.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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tips for not being triggered when I shouldn’t give a flying fuck: 1. I ask myself, “Over the course of my lifetime, how important is this?” 2. I spend less time on social media and refuse to “doom-scroll.” 3. I’ve stopped seeking a “permission slip” to do something I care about. 4. I feel comfortable saying no to more of the things that have historically felt obligatory.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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We have a choice in how we tell our life story. We don’t write it in permanent ink. There are no points for consistency, or even accuracy. We can change it at any time, for any reason, including one as simple as making ourselves feel better. After all, a primary function of our life story is to allow us to place difficult experiences firmly in the past and take from them something beneficial that will allow us to thrive in the future. Only when that happens will we know our transition is complete.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Babies are not self-conscious when they learn to walk. Yet, as we age, our self-judgment and our ego-preservation rob us of all kinds of opportunities to be a neophyte.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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we are in the process of growing old, but we’re also growing whole.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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Yale’s Dr. Becca Levy has shown that when we shift our perspective on aging from negative to positive, our health outcomes improve. Better balance, more openness to new experiences, better cognitive functioning, more satisfying sex life, and all kinds of other benefits. She’s also shown that we’re granted seven and a half years of additional life when we reframe our mindset on aging.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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No one helped anyone through liminality. Today, however, there are resources to help you. A good example is the Modern Elder Academy, started by Chip Conley.
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Arthur C. Brooks (From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life)
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As a society, it’s like we’ve won the longevity lotto, but we just haven’t figured out what to do with the winnings of a longer life. It became clear that the societal roadmap I’d been referencing in my life ran out around midlife. I was betwixt and between, at a crossroads that felt both exciting and full of possibility but also terrifying and full of the unknown.
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Chip Conley (Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age)
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It takes time for givers to build goodwill and trust, but eventually, they establish reputations and relationships that enhance their success. In fact, you’ll see that in sales and medical school, the giver advantage grows over time. In the long run, giving can be every bit as powerful as it is dangerous. As Chip Conley, the renowned entrepreneur who founded Joie de Vivre Hotels, explains, “Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it’s valuable in a marathon.” In
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Adam M. Grant (Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success)
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He summarizes his approach to change in this simple phrase (inspired by Aristotle’s “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”): “We are what we practice and we’re always practicing something. Thus, to make changes we need to practice something new and different.
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Chip Conley (Wisdom at Work: The Making of a Modern Elder)
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Perennials are ever-blooming, relevant people of all ages who know what’s happening in the world, stay current with technology and have friends of all ages. We get involved, stay curious, mentor others, and are passionate, compassionate, creative, confident, collaborative, global-minded risk takers.
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Chip Conley (Wisdom at Work: The Making of a Modern Elder)
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Chesky read the book Peak: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo from Maslow. The book’s author was Chip Conley, the founder of the Joie de Vivre boutique hotel chain, which he started in San Francisco in 1987.
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Leigh Gallagher (The Airbnb Story: How Three Ordinary Guys Disrupted an Industry, Made Billions . . . and Created Plenty of Controversy)