Chelsea Fagan Quotes

Of course, you never really forget anyone, but you certainly release them. You stop allowing their history to have any meaning for you today. You let them change their haircut, let them move, let them fall in love again. And when you see this person you have let go, you realize that there is no reason to be sad. The person you knew exists somewhere, but you are separated by too much time to reach them again.

And though I am not nostalgic for what we did have, I am hopeful about life being filled with everything we didn’t.

Sometimes we say that we met people at the wrong time. But maybe we meet them when we are the wrong person, when we have not yet met and fallen in love with ourselves. We are only half of a thing—even if we can imagine that there is a better version of us out there—and we are hoping that someone else will fill in the missing parts so that we don’t have to.

It’s a cliché because it is true. If you are not happy with yourself and willing to show yourself the same kind of love and respect you want to give to others, no relationship will magically fix you. And while it can certainly be tempting to jump from relationship to relationship, because the space in between them is scary and unknown, learning how to demonstrate that love and compassion for yourself is essential (and surprisingly fulfilling). Going on a solo vacation, or even spending a few days alone — leaving your laptop at home, if you can manage it — might seem like a strange way to feel loved, but if you can be happy with your own company, you can be happy with anything.

I try to pay bills as efficiently as I can, and work hard, and be comfortable in what I've achieved at the end of each day. And I try, most of all, to be a little easier on myself.

Saving money isn't about depriving yourself. It's about deciding you love Future You as much as you love Today You.

We told each other we should get coffee sometime, but did not exchange our new numbers.We knew we were not going to see each other again.

As I've said before, money doesn't buy you happiness, but it buys you the Lego kit of happiness. It buys you comfort, security, and options, even if you still have to build your happiness on top of it.

So you have chosen aloneness. You have chosen the security and the relative freedom of solitude, because there is no risk involved. You can stay up every night and watch your TV shows and eat ice cream out of the box and scroll through your Tumblr and never let your brain sit still, not even for a moment. You can fill your days up with books and coffees and trips to the store where you forget what you wanted the second you walk in the automatic sliding door. You can do so many little, pointless things throughout the day that all you can think of is how badly you want to sleep, how heavy your whole body is, how much your feet hurt. You can wear yourself out again and again on the pavement, and you do, and it feels good. No one will ever bridge that gap and point to your stomach or your hair or your eyes in the mirror and magically make you see the wonderful things about getting to be next to you. And maybe that’s it, after all, this fear that no one will ever truly feel about you the way you want to be felt about. Maybe what you want is someone to make you love yourself, to put sense into all that positive rhetoric, to make it so the aloneness of TV and blasting music in your ears at all times isn’t the most happy place you can think of. Maybe you want someone who makes you so sure of how wonderful things are that you cannot help but to tell them your feelings first, even at the risk of being humiliated. Because you will know that, when you’re telling them you love them, what you’re really saying is “I love who I become when I am with you.

It's by far the best decision to find someone who, right out of the gate, is at least a moderately good person who won't constantly leave you shakily checking your phone like some lovestruck cokehead.

The worst thing about being an adult is the fact that we can do basically whatever we want. You can have Chicken McNuggets and champagne for dinner, but you know that the next day you'll feel like a whoopee cushion made of alcohol and sodium. Yeah, adulthood.

Finding your independence, experiencing the world, meeting new people and opening your eyes and your mind are just a few of the completely invaluable things that traveling brings you. It really, truly is the only thing that you buy that actually makes you richer.

Creating a home that makes you feel wonderful is a gift you give yourself that echoes through the rest of your life. A bedroom you love is one in which you want to have an organized, well-cared-for wardrobe, which means less money spent replacing your battered items. A happy, practical, smartly appointed kitchen is one you actually *want* to cook in, which means much less money spent eating out or ordering in. A chic and comfortable living room means more entertaining at home and embracing the lost art of dinner parties (always cheaper than doing drinks and a restaurant dinner!). Even a Zen, candle-filled, clean bathroom is one in which you want to spend time doing home spa treatments instead of feeling like you have to go somewhere expensive to feel beautiful. If you create a home that is most attuned to your life and somewhere you really enjoy being, everything benefits.

It can be helpful to remind yourself on a regular basis that you should't spend on luxuries just because you think that's the life you should be living.

It's not unhealthy or wrong to change your mind, career wise, nor is it selfish to dream for something better than what you have, even if what you already have is "pretty good" compared to what other people have.

It’s easy to tell yourself “whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” but it’s another thing to live it, to do something so actively uncomfortable knowing that in a short time it’s going to be one of the best experiences of your life.

تستحق أن تكون على ما يرام، تستحق أن تعرف أن يومًا بالكاد تستطيع فيه أن تقوم من سريرك لأنك حزينٌ أو متعبٌ أو بكل ببساطةٍ لست مستعدًا لترى الخارج ليس نهاية العالم. تستحق أن تعرف بأن لحظات الضعف لا تجعلك ضعيفًا جوهريًا، بل إنسانًا بجوهرك، وبأننا أحيانًا لن نفيض بالسعادة، ولا بأس بذلك.

Ultimately, a job, no matter how much you love it, will never hit every note for you, and it shouldn't. We should all strive to find multiple steams of fulfillment, challenges, and income. The more we rely on one role as an all-encompassing definition, the unhealthier our relationship with that role becomes.

... we have to give up that vague notion of getting all our fulfillment from one thing. We have to set our goals in little, manageable steps, and embrace the idea that not all of our emotional eggs can be put in one basket. If we can love our jobs, relatively speaking, that's awesome. But we also need to love our friends and families and significant others and hobbies and time alone as much as possible, and not expect any one thing--even our Big Dreams--to make us suddenly feel whole.

Saving money isn't about depriving yourself. It's about deciding you love Future You as much as you love Today You.

The desire to fill your life with all the things that you believe will make you a more whole or realized person has to go because it drains your checking account and fills your life with clutter.

Unless you are very, very lucky, getting what you want isn't going to be some fairy-tale narrative-- the stories are messy and the results are never exactly what we expect them to be, but the thread that connects them all is the same: prepare for the unexpected, be ready to work harder, and put all your happiness in one basket.

No matter how much I'm achieving in any other aspect of my life, knowing that I'm still capable of treating people like an impatient, selfish child when it suits me reminds me that, in many ways, I am still very much using the training wheels on my independence.

It wasn’t until a friend told me she made it a rule to transfer her savings automatically when her paycheck hit so she would never “see” the money

We recommend that you have three months’ worth of all living costs saved up in an easily accessible, regular savings account.

but all of the beautiful things in life happen when we let go of control.

Tourists go to see the major sites, but travelers travel for the experience of moving from one place to another.

the real reward was the freedom and absolute joy that comes from setting out one day and not knowing where you are going to end up that night.

The distance or location doesn’t matter; rather it is the people you’re with and the people you meet that make a journey memorable.

Do something incredible – search the world, and seek perfection. Your way. 5 Lessons I Learned From Traveling Alone By Chantal Anderson I was afraid they weren’t going to let me through customs.

Learning basic skills like how to install a shelf or pick out a jacket that will last more than one New York winter has done more for me financially than any raise on a biweekly paycheck.

She had never been so relaxed or so open to every possible outcome. She twirled a dandelion between her fingers, struggling to remember the version of herself who was afraid of loving him.

If you create the home that is most attuned to your life and somewhere you really enjoy being, everything benefits. And learning to be grateful for the space you have created will mean you spend less money trying to keep up with your own unrealistic expectations for how your home should look. It’s important to remind ourselves to be grateful and to think as proactively as possible about our home. I’d like to own property someday, so sacrificing on rent now and not paying for things I can’t afford is a fair exchange. Being smart about when