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You can break this cycle by meeting your own internal pain with self-love and a heartfelt understanding that this experience truly was not your fault. Whatever happened to them to cause this disorder was likely not their fault either, but now you see that your love cannot possibly break that psychological barrier. Your first priority is to turn your focus inward, allowing yourself to feel the emotions you were told were wrong.
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Jackson MacKenzie (Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse)
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Healing generational trauma takes courage and strength. It’s common for dysfunctional families to deny their abuse. They silence victims and dump toxic shame onto them. Complicit families keep abuse alive from generation to generation, until one brave survivor boldly ends the cycle of abuse.
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Dana Arcuri (Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma)
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What I hadn’t learned was how to break the intergenerational cycle of toxic stress.
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Nadine Burke Harris (The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity)
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This toxic pattern within the broken family system will continue from one generation to the next, until one brave survivor finally ends the cycle of abuse. The dysfunction, bullying, and abuse didn’t start with you, but it most certainly can end with you.
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Dana Arcuri (Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma)
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The point is to break the fucking cycle. Women aren't rehab centers for emotionally stunted man-babies who think the key to a serious relationship is to just wait for the right woman to come along. You have to be ready to be uncomfortable, to stretch yourself, to be vulnerable.... One of the most insidious ways that toxic masculinity destroys men is that it strips us (men) of the ability to express our emotions and to connect, not just with women, but with other men. Because "real men" don't do that, right?
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Lyssa Kay Adams (Crazy Stupid Bromance (Bromance Book Club, #3))
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Imagine the daughter of a narcissistic father as an example. She grows up chronically violated and abused at home, perhaps bullied by her peers as well. Her burgeoning low self-esteem, disruptions in identity and problems with emotional regulation causes her to live a life filled with terror. This is a terror that is stored in the body and literally shapes her brain. It is also what makes her brain extra vulnerable and susceptible to the effects of trauma in adulthood. Being verbally, emotionally and sometimes even physically beaten down, the child of a narcissistic parent learns that there is no safe place for her in the world. The symptoms of trauma emerge: disassociation to survive and escape her day-to-day existence, addictions that cause her to self-sabotage, maybe even self-harm to cope with the pain of being unloved, neglected and mistreated. Her pervasive sense of worthlessness and toxic shame, as well as subconscious programming, then cause her to become more easily attached to emotional predators in adulthood. In her repeated search for a rescuer, she instead finds those who chronically diminish her just like her earliest abusers. Of course, her resilience, adept skill set in adapting to chaotic environments and ability to “bounce back” was also birthed in early childhood. This is also seen as an “asset” to toxic partners because it means she will be more likely to stay within the abuse cycle in order to attempt to make things “work.” She then suffers not just from early childhood trauma, but from multiple re-victimizations in adulthood until, with the right support, she addresses her core wounds and begins to break the cycle step by step. Before she can break the cycle, she must first give herself the space and time to recover. A break from establishing new relationships is often essential during this time; No Contact (or Low Contact from her abusers in more complicated situations such as co-parenting) is also vital to the healing journey, to prevent compounding any existing traumas.
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Shahida Arabi (Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery)
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Eating even two teaspoons of sugar creates a wide range of deficiencies and toxicities for a period of six to eight hours, causing massive cellular malfunction.
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Raymond Francis (Never Be Fat Again: The 6-Week Cellular Solution to Permanently Break the Fat Cycle)
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also to a degree subconsciously because we think we deserve it, or that we can change it and overcome it – thus healing wounds of the past.
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Miriam Sutton (Emotional Abuse and Trauma Recovery: Break The Cycle of Manipulation, Heal From Toxic Relationships, and Rebuild Your Self-Esteem)
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Sons, don't let the chains of inheritance bind you to a legacy of addiction and toxicity. Break free from the cycles of destructive patterns passed down from your fathers. Renounce the harmful habits and renounce the sins of your fathers. Choose to be a vessel for God's glory, not a victim of inherited bondage. Rise up and claim your rightful place as a son of the Most High, living a life that honors God and His kingdom.
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Shaila Touchton
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When we are dealing with inner child wounds of rejection, we tend to find ourselves trapped in a cycle of toxic relationships, a pattern often rooted in the trauma we repeatedly endured, particularly during our formative years. The wound of rejection is the source of feelings of shame and abandonment. Unaware of how to break free from this cycle and heal, we unconsciously recreate situations that perpetuate our rejection wounds, resulting in a painful cycle of self-sabotage within our relationships.
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Mathew Micheletti (The Inner Work of Relationships: An Invitation to Heal Your Inner Child and Create a Conscious Relationship Together)
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BOND OR BONDAGE? Lauren has always rushed into relationships. When she met Tyler, she ignored his controlling behavior and the way he isolated her from family and friends. Soon, she was trapped in a vicious cycle of manipulation and emotional abuse followed by profuse apologies and showers of affection. In the past three years, Lauren has broken up with Tyler more than five times, but can’t seem to stay away. Tyler’s charm always convinces her that he has changed.
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Christy Johnson (Love Junkies: 7 Steps for Breaking the Toxic Relationship Cycle)
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The most obvious danger a codependent person faces is the potential for toxic relationships. When a codependent person enters a relationship, they automatically attach their personality, desires, and self-worth to their partner. This can lead to many problems, such as suppression of their true feelings, needs, or wants out of a fear of losing the relationship. It can also lead to them ignoring their own needs to keep their partner happy. These relationships don’t allow the codependent individual to feel at ease when they’re alone and make it very difficult for them to receive help because they always feel like they should be the ones helping.
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Jean Harrison (Codependent Cure: The No More Codependency Recovery Guide For Obtaining Detachment From Codependence Relationships (Codependency and Narcissism: Breaking the Cycle Book 1))
Christy Johnson (Love Junkies: 7 Steps for Breaking the Toxic Relationship Cycle)
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Psychologists tell us that much of our self-image is formed in early childhood through our experiences and our perception of how others judge us. If these experiences and perceptions are negative, we assume the blame.
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Christy Johnson (Love Junkies: 7 Steps for Breaking the Toxic Relationship Cycle)
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Psychologists tell us that much of our self-image is formed in early childhood through our experiences and our perception of how others judge us. If these experiences and perceptions are negative, we assume the blame. When we don’t heal from the shame, we may carry wounds into adulthood that create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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Christy Johnson (Love Junkies: 7 Steps for Breaking the Toxic Relationship Cycle)
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find my peace in knowing that every day I wake up, I’m living the life I chose and breaking the toxic cycle I don’t care to be a part of.
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A. Blossom (Finding My Bodyguard (The Bodyguard Series Book 1))