Bedford Quotes

It is impossible to be both selfish and happy

War means fighting, and fighting means killing.

The war of my life had begun; and though one of God's most powerless creatures, I resolved never to be conquered.

WESTMORELAND. O that we now had here But one ten thousand of those men in England That do no work to-day! KING. What's he that wishes so? My cousin Westmoreland? No, my fair cousin; If we are mark'd to die, we are enow To do our country loss; and if to live, The fewer men, the greater share of honour. God's will! I pray thee, wish not one man more. By Jove, I am not covetous for gold, Nor care I who doth feed upon my cost; It yearns me not if men my garments wear; Such outward things dwell not in my desires. But if it be a sin to covet honour, I am the most offending soul alive. No, faith, my coz, wish not a man from England. God's peace! I would not lose so great an honour As one man more methinks would share from me For the best hope I have. O, do not wish one more! Rather proclaim it, Westmoreland, through my host, That he which hath no stomach to this fight, Let him depart; his passport shall be made, And crowns for convoy put into his purse; We would not die in that man's company That fears his fellowship to die with us. This day is call'd the feast of Crispian. He that outlives this day, and comes safe home, Will stand a tip-toe when this day is nam'd, And rouse him at the name of Crispian. He that shall live this day, and see old age, Will yearly on the vigil feast his neighbours, And say 'To-morrow is Saint Crispian.' Then will he strip his sleeve and show his scars, And say 'These wounds I had on Crispian's day.' Old men forget; yet all shall be forgot, But he'll remember, with advantages, What feats he did that day. Then shall our names, Familiar in his mouth as household words- Harry the King, Bedford and Exeter, Warwick and Talbot, Salisbury and Gloucester- Be in their flowing cups freshly rememb'red. This story shall the good man teach his son; And Crispin Crispian shall ne'er go by, From this day to the ending of the world, But we in it shall be remembered- We few, we happy few, we band of brothers; For he to-day that sheds his blood with me Shall be my brother; be he ne'er so vile, This day shall gentle his condition; And gentlemen in England now-a-bed Shall think themselves accurs'd they were not here, And hold their manhoods cheap whiles any speaks That fought with us upon Saint Crispin's day.

Sleeping in a hallway around Bedford Park later that week, I took out my blank transcripts and filled in the grades I wanted, making neat little columns of A’s. If I could picture it—if I could take out these transcripts and look at them—then it was almost as if the A’s had already happened. Day by day, I was just catching up with what was already real. My future A’s, in my heart, had already occurred. Now I just had to get to them.

Mr. Herbert Demarest Alexander Hamilton Jr. High 2236 Bedford Avenue Brooklyn NY Dear Mr Demarest, Then why don't you give him 'Withering Heights'? At least Heathcoat knew how to kick some ass. Chas. Banks 3d Base

A rose is still a rose, even hidden under different petals.

To remain monolingual reduces the mind to the confines of a tramline.

Goes to show you can’t judge a fish by the hook in it’s mouth.

Did people come here to commit suicide? They were bound to. Cliffs, bridges, tall buildings, they were like an invitation. Just stand there, looking down, was to create an optical illusion of the ground rushing up to meet you.

By afternoon, a dense crowd had gathered around the Bedford as word spread that an enormous infidel in brown pajamas was loading a truck full of supplies for Muslim schoolchildren. ...Mortenson's size-fourteen feet drew a steady stream of bouncing eyebrows and bawdy jokes from onlookers. Spectators shouted guesses at Mortenson's nationality as he worked. Bosnia and Chechnya were deemd the most likely source of this large mangy-looking man. When Mortenson, with his rapidly improving Urdu, interrupted the speculation to tell them he was American, the crowd looked at his sweat-soaked and dirt-grimed shalwar, at his smudged and oily skin, and several men told him they didn't think so.

[Richard Bedford Bennett] was the richest Prime Minister and the only millionaire to hold office before Pierre Trudeau. His money obviously colored his thinking -- colored it true blue -- but he did not consider it a political drawback. No leader, he said, could serve the public properly if he was constantly looking over his shoulder at the shadow of debts. This theory is now widely accepted in the United States where it has become practically impossible for a non-millionaire to run for high office without selling pieces of himself like a prize-fighter. Yet the public still suspects a self-made millionaire like Lyndon Johnson while revering the much-richer John F. Kennedy, who got it all from his father.

What I learnt came to me . . . at second and at third hand, in chunks and puzzles, degrees and flashes.

In New Bedford, fathers, they say, give whales for dowers to their daughters, and portion off their nieces with a few porpoises a-piece.

he which hath no stomach to this fight, Let him depart; his passport shall be made, And crowns for convoy put into his purse; We would not die in that man's company That fears his fellowship to die with us. This day is call'd the feast of Crispian. He that outlives this day, and comes safe home, Will stand a tip-toe when this day is nam'd, And rouse him at the name of Crispian. He that shall live this day, and see old age, Will yearly on the vigil feast his neighbours, And say 'To-morrow is Saint Crispian.' Then will he strip his sleeve and show his scars, And say 'These wounds I had on Crispian's day.' Old men forget; yet all shall be forgot, But he'll remember, with advantages, What feats he did that day. Then shall our names, Familiar in his mouth as household words- Harry the King, Bedford and Exeter, Warwick and Talbot, Salisbury and Gloucester- Be in their flowing cups freshly rememb'red. This story shall the good man teach his son; And Crispin Crispian shall ne'er go by, From this day to the ending of the world, But we in it shall be remembered- We few, we happy few, we band of brothers; For he to-day that sheds his blood with me Shall be my brother; be he ne'er so vile, This day shall gentle his condition; And gentlemen in England now-a-bed Shall think themselves accurs'd they were not here, And hold their manhoods cheap whiles any speaks That fought with us upon Saint Crispin's day.

In a shelter meant for battered women, there were only two reasons a person would decide to leave. One, she had decided to launch out on her own and begin a new life. Or two, she had decided to go back to someone who had hurt her.

Her soliloquy crystallized itself into little fragmentary phrases emerging suddenly from the turbulence of her thought, particularly when she had to exert herself in any way, either to move, to count money, or to choose a turning. "To know the truth--to accept without bitterness"-- those, perhaps, were the most articulate of her utterances, for no one could have made head or tail of the queer gibberish murmured in front of the statue of Francis, Duke of Bedford...

When one’s young, everything is a rehearsal. To be repeated ad lib, to be put right when the curtain goes up in earnest. One day you know that the curtain was up all the time. That was the performance.

Dad reckoned there was a rational explanation for everything, even things that made no sense at all. UFOs, ghosts, God - they're just the names people came up with for stuff they haven't worked out yet.

In about four months after I went to New Bedford, there came a young man to me, and inquired if I did not wish to take the "Liberator." I told him I did; but, just having made my escape from slavery, I remarked that I was unable to pay for it then. I, however, finally became a subscriber to it. The paper came, and I read it from week to week with such feelings as it would be quite idle for me to attempt to describe. The paper became my meat and my drink. My soul was set all on fire. Its sympathy for my brethren in bonds—its scathing denunciations of slaveholders—its faithful exposures of slavery—and its powerful attacks upon the upholders of the institution—sent a thrill of joy through my soul, such as I had never felt before!

She was also incapacitated by much of daily life and had 'no aptitude whatsoever' for domesticity.

A biographer is an artist under oath.

The top landing of any Bedford Park building’s stairwell felt so much safer. Lying there, flat on a bed of marble, using my backpack for a pillow, whole lives played out beneath me: the smell of food cooking; lovers’ arguments; dishes clanking; TVs blasting at top volume; my old shows, The Simpsons and Jeopardy!; rap music—all carrying me back to University Avenue. Mostly, though, I heard families: children calling out for mothers, husbands speaking their wives’ names, sending me reminders of the way love stretched between a handful of people fills a space, transforms it into a home.

But God did not utterly leave me, but followed me still, not now with convictions, but judgments; yet such as were mixed with mercy.  For once I fell into a creek of the sea, and hardly escaped drowning.  Another time I fell out of a boat into Bedford river, but, mercy yet preserved me alive: besides, another time, being in a field, with one of my companions, it chanced that an adder passed over the highway, so I having a stick in my hand, struck her over the back; and having stunned her, I forced open her mouth with my stick, and plucked her sting out with my fingers; by which act had not God been merciful unto me, I might by my desperateness, have brought myself to my end.

Guillermo was lonely and serviceable and always rushed in to do the things one wanted in a way one did not want them done.

People naturally despise a dependant.

Be mindful of how you approach time. Watching the clock is not the same as watching the sun rise.

New York is an exploited colony called Brownsville Bedford Stuyvesant or Harlem Where tiny fat Jews are holding the fiery hoop Watching you burn your ass jumping through it

As for my feet, the little feet You used to call so pretty, There's one, I know, in Bedford Row, The t'other's in the City.

He wanted to go out with Nick Bedford (and in and out and in and out…),

And the women of New Bedford, they bloom like their own red roses. But roses only bloom in summer; whereas the fine carnations of their cheeks is perennial as sunlight in the seventh heavens.

I was quite disappointed at the general appearance of things in New Bedford. The impression which I had received respecting the character and condition of the people of the north, I found to be singularly erroneous. I had very strangely supposed, while in slavery, that few of the comforts, and scarcely any of the luxuries, of life were enjoyed at the north, compared with what were enjoyed by the slaveholders of the south. I probably came to this conclusion from the fact that northern people owned no slaves. I supposed that they were about upon a level with the non-slaveholding population of the south. I knew they were exceedingly poor, and I had been accustomed to regard their poverty as the necessary consequence of their being non-slaveholders. I had somehow imbibed the opinion that, in the absence of slaves, there could be no wealth, and very little refinement. And upon coming to the north, I expected to meet with a rough, hard-handed, and uncultivated population, living in the most Spartan-like simplicity, knowing nothing of the ease, luxury, pomp, and grandeur of southern slaveholders. Such being my conjectures, any one acquainted with the appearance of New Bedford may very readily infer how palpably I must have seen my mistake.

«Uman…» ho cominciato. E in quel momento, lui si è girato verso di me e mi ha detto: «Perché sei ancora qui?» «Voleva che tu te ne andassi?» mi chiede l’ispettore Ryan. Scuoto la testa. «No. Non capiva perché non lo avessi lasciato»

Hoisting sail, it glided down the Acushenet River.. On one side, New Bedford rose in terraces of streets, their ice-covered trees all glittering in the clean, cold air. Huge Hills and mountains of casks on casks were piled upon her wharves , and side by side the world-wandering whale-ships lay silent and safely moored at last; while from others came a sound of carpenters and coopers, with blended noises of fires and forges to melt the pitch, all betokening that new cruises were on the start; that one most perilous and long voyage ended, only begins a second, and a second ended, only begins a third, and so on, for ever and aye. Such is th endlessness,yea, the intolerableness of all earthly effort.

The whaling era that opened after the War of 1812, from about 1817 to the mid-1850s, has come to be called whaling’s golden age. Its primary anchorage shifted from Nantucket Island to New Bedford, below Cape Cod at the mouth of the Acushnet River.

Hanno avuto troppa paura di avermi persa per sempre. E poi sono tornata. E' un miracolo. Io sono un miracolo. E loro non riescono a credere che non sparirò un'altra volta. E' buffo, io non mi sono mai considerata scomparsa. Come si sparisce da se stessi?

Ebbets Field was a narrow cockpit, built of brick and iron and concrete, alongside a steep cobblestone slope of Bedford Avenue. Two tiers of grandstand pressed the playing area from three sides, and in thousands of seats fans could hear a ball player’s chatter, notice details of a ball player’s gait and, at a time when television had not yet assaulted illusion with the Zoomar lens, you could see, you could actually see, the actual expression on the actual face of an actual major leaguer as he played. You could know what he was like!

Buttercups" When we were children our papas were stout And colorless as seaweed or the floats At anchor off New Bedford. We were shut In gardens where our brassy sailor coats Made us like black-eyed susans bending out Into the ocean, Then my teeth were cut: A levelled broom-pole butt Was pushed into my thin And up-turned chin-- There were shod hoofs behind the horseplay. But I played Napoleon in my attic cell Until my shouldered broom Bobbed down the room With horse and neighing shell. Recall the shadows the doll-curtains veined On ancrem Winslow's ponderous plate from blue China, the breaking of time's haggard tide On the huge cobwebbed print of Waterloo, With a cracked smile across the glass. I cried To see the Emperor's sabered eagle slide From the clutching grenadier Staff-officer With the gold leaf cascading down his side-- A red dragoon, his plough-horse rearing, swayed Back on his reins to crop The buttercup Bursting upon the braid

As most young candidates for the pains and penalties of whaling stop at this same New Bedford, thence to embark on their voyage, it may as well be related that I, for one, had no idea of so doing. For my mind was made up to sail in no other than a Nantucket craft, because there was a fine, boisterous something about everything connected with that famous old island, which amazingly pleased me. Besides though New Bedford has of late been gradually monopolizing the business of whaling, and though in this matter poor old Nantucket is now much behind her, yet Nantucket was her great original— the Tyre of this Carthage;—the place where the first dead American whale was stranded. Where else but from Nantucket did those aboriginal whalemen, the Red-Men, first sally out in canoes to give chase to the Leviathan? And where but from Nantucket, too, did that first adventurous little sloop put forth, partly laden with imported cobblestones—so goes the story— to throw at the whales, in order to discover when they were nigh enough to risk a harpoon from the bowsprit?

You can never know the odds. If you don't play, you'll never win

I have not the slightest desire to see the wonders of nature', said E. 'Of course not my dear. But what else can we do?

Every one is expected to look out for himself here. I fancy that there would be very little rising if men were expected to rise for the sake of others, in America.

Per un attimo penso di non risponderle. Alla fine però lo faccio. Magari non sembrerà granché coerente, ma cerco di spiegare che invidiavo Uman perché sapeva spezzare i vincoli che la vita ci impone. Perché sapeva essere quello che voleva e se ne fregava di cosa gli altri pensavano di lui. Che conoscere Uman mi aveva fatto capire quanto ero diventata prevedibile.

Ci eravamo detti «ti amo» un mucchio di volte dalla dichiarazione di Uman al bancomat di Bristol. Come se avessimo scoperto un nuovo, fantastico gusto di gelato e non potessimo resistere a mandarne giù un’altra cucchiaiata ogni volta che ne avevamo voglia. Non mi ero mai innamorata prima, e nemmeno ero mai stata amata. Ma sapevo già più cose dell’essere innamorati di chiunque altro

«Mi dispiace davvero tanto. Ti ho rovinato il tuo posto felice.» «Uman, non hai niente di cui scusarti. In quel momento era un’ottima idea, quella di venire qui, ma poi non lo è stata più. Tutto qui.» Ho intrecciato il mignolo al suo. «E comunque, non sono i posti a essere felici. Sei tu che devi portarti dietro la felicità, oppure crearne una scorta nuova ovunque ti capiti di trovarti.»

Mentally subtract positive events. To take the hurt out of a regret, try a mental trick made famous in the 1946 movie It’s a Wonderful Life. On Christmas Eve, George Bailey stands on the brink of suicide when he’s visited by Clarence, an angel who shows George what life in Bedford Falls would be like had he never been born. Clarence’s technique is called “mentally subtracting positive events.

George Bailey: [on Mary being caught naked in the bushes after her robe slips off] This is a very interesting situation! Mary: Please give me my robe. George Bailey: A man doesn't get in a situation like this every day. Mary: I'd like to have my robe. George Bailey: Not in Bedford Falls anyway. Mary: [after the bushes' thorns starting hurting her] Ouch! Oh! George Bailey: Gezundheit. Mary: George Bailey! George Bailey: Inspires a little thought! Mary: Give me my robe. George Bailey: I've read about things like this. Mary: Shame on you! I'm going to tell your mother on you. George Bailey: Well, my mother is way up on the corner. Mary: I'll call the police! George Bailey: Well, they're all the way downtown. They'd be on my side. Mary: Then I'll scream! George Bailey: Maybe I can sell tickets.

George meanwhile, with his hat on one side, his elbows squared, and his swaggering martial air, made for Bedford Row, and stalked into the attorney’s offices as if he was lord of every pale-faced clerk who was scribbling there. He ordered somebody to inform Mr. Higgs that Captain Osborne was waiting, in a fierce and patronizing way, as if the pekin of an attorney, who had thrice his brains, fifty times his money, and a thousand times his experience, was a wretched underling who should instantly leave all his business in life to attend on the Captain’s pleasure. He did not see the sneer of contempt which passed all round the room, from the first clerk to the articled gents, from the articled gents to the ragged writers and white-faced runners, in clothes too tight for them, as he sate there tapping his boot with his cane, and thinking what a parcel of miserable poor devils these were. The miserable poor devils knew all about his affairs. They talked about them over their pints of beer at their public-house clubs to other clerks of a night. Ye gods, what do not attorneys and attorneys’ clerks know in London! Nothing is hidden from their inquisition, and their families mutely rule our city.

«Mi piace. Quando parlo con te mi sembra di essere più intelligente. Mi costringi a pensare.» «Pensare è una bella cosa» ha osservato Uman. «Pensare ci piace.» Quello che avevo detto era vero. Tutte le volte che ero con lui mi sentivo più intelligente, più acuta, più spiritosa. Mi sentivo tirata al limite. Le nostre conversazioni erano casuali, ma sotto la superficie ribolliva sempre qualcosa. Un «sottotesto», lo avrebbe probabilmente definito Uman.

Ed è allora che noto una cartolina, seminascosta fra due cose da buttare. La tiro fuori. La fotografia sul davanti mostra una gola dalle pareti a picco con un sentiero angusto che si snoda sul versante roccioso e molto, molto più in basso, il nastro bianco di un fiume. Nella striscia di cielo azzurro e terso sopra la foto la didascalia recita: El Caminito del Rey, Andalusia. La mano mi trema talmente che quando giro la cartolina rischio di farla cadere. Ho visto la sua scrittura una volta soltanto, sui foglietti dei «posti felici» che mi aveva mostrato dopo che avevamo estratto «Bryher», ma la riconoscerei ovunque. Tre parole. Una sottolineatura. E un punto di domanda. Vorresti essere qui?

He had been the one to set the course of their lives by migrating to New York before they were born. The parts of the city that black migrants could afford—Harlem, Bedford-Stuyvesant, the Bronx—had been hard and forbidding places to raise children, especially for some of the trusting and untutored people from the small-town South. The migrants had been so relieved to have escaped Jim Crow that many underestimated or dared not think about the dangers in the big cities they were running to—the gangs, the guns, the drugs, the prostitution. They could not have fully anticipated the effects of all these things on children left unsupervised, parents off at work, no village of extended family to watch over them as might have been the case back in the South. Many migrants did not recognize the signs of trouble when they surfaced and so could not inoculate their children against them or intercede effectively when the outside world seeped into their lives.

Nevertheless, out of the 580-man garrison, 66 percent of the blacks and 35 percent of the whites were killed. Most of these casualties seem to have occurred during the melee immediately after the Confederates entered the walls, but not all. One

Se Uman non aveva preso la tenda, non poteva avere davvero lasciato l’isola senza di me. O averla lasciata e basta. Un’altra delle bugie che mi sono detta. Ha abbandonato la tenda perché non avrebbe potuto prenderla senza svegliarmi, senza dirmi quello che stava facendo. Aveva abbandonato la tenda proprio perché voleva partire senza di me. Come deve essere sgusciato via silenziosamente, cautamente, per non disturbarmi. Per evitare di dovermi chiedere: «Vieni con me?» Per evitare di dovermi dire addio

The Stevens brothers had shared everything except women since they could remember: poker winnings, uniform, Red Cross parcels, news from home, and their most intimate fears and hopes. But in a few hours' time, after years of being inseparable, they would not share the same landing craft bound for the beaches of northern France. For the first time since they had joined the National Guard, a week apart in 1938, they would not be side by side. They would not face their greatest test together. They would arrive on Omaha Beach in different boats.

«Stavamo parlando di te» mi ha detto. «Com’è che siamo tornati a parlare di me?» «Perché tu sei uno con il tetto a strisce mentre il mio è di un banalissimo grigio.» «No, non dentro di te. Dentro di te, Gloria, tu sei un caleidoscopio di rosa e viola. Davvero, però, che motivo ho di essere stufa?» «L’infelicità non è una scelta razionale» ha detto Uman. «Neppure la felicità. Non si può decidere di non essere infelici come non si può decidere di non essere stanchi dopo avere dormito male per tutta la notte.» Era vero? Sembrava che dovesse esserlo....

Anche se Uman mi aveva già dimostrato la sua capacità di essere giù di morale, non era mai stato così depresso o così a lungo. Non con me. Ho ripensato a tutti quei giorni in cui non si era presentato a scuola e mi sono chiesta se anche allora fosse stato così. Ti prego, torna te stesso, mi sono sorpresa a sperare. Ma ovviamente, lui era se stesso. Anche quella era una parte di Uman. Se ami qualcuno – e io lo amavo, lo amo – devi amare tutto di quella persona, le cose brutte oltre a quelle belle. Ma è difficile, se quella persona si chiude in se stessa e ti esclude

But upon a day, the good providence of God called me to Bedford, to work on my calling; and in one of the streets of that town, I came where there were three or four poor women sitting at a door, in the sun, talking about the things of God; and being now willing to hear them discourse, I drew near to hear what they said, for I was now a brisk talker also myself, in the matters of religion; but I may say, I heard but understood not; for they were far above, out of my reach.  Their talk was about a new birth, the work of God on their hearts, also how they were convinced of their miserable state by nature; they talked how God had visited their souls with His love in the Lord Jesus, and with what words and promises they had been refreshed, comforted, and supported, against the temptations of the devil: moreover, they reasoned of the suggestions and temptations of Satan in particular; and told to each other, by which they had been afflicted and how they were borne up under his assaults.  They also discoursed of their own wretchedness of heart, and of their unbelief; and did contemn, slight and abhor their own righteousness, as filthy, and insufficient to do them any good.

A devastating, a traumatic defeat, [to Germany] and the Danes might well have fallen into a Treaty of Versailles mentality. Mysteriously, they did not. Instead they redirected their aims and will; they did turn inward. They changed their agriculture from grain to dairy products, they set up cooperatives, gave their attention to social and economic advancement, chose a neutral policy, developed an altogether new kind of adult schooling. It was a chain reaction, but the links gradually forged themselves into a virtuous circuit. It has turned out well. [from "Portrait Sketch of a Country: Denmark 1962"]

War and the threat of war begin when all is not well at home. Countries that solve their own problems are no problem to others. How did it all come about; how did the Danes get that way? Why are they what they are? Was the country particularly favored? Did they try to keep the peace in the past? Did they practice religious tolerance? The answers are no. Is it then all hit or miss? As People holding a territory poor rather than rich, with a history as long, mixed, and disturbed as the next country's–are these facts that must be fed into the computer, and what might the computer's answer be? Portugal? Switzerland? Prussia? – "Portrait Sketch of a Country" (Denmark 1962)

But as to our country and our race, as long as the well compacted structure of our church and state, the sanctuary, the holy of holies of that ancient law, defended by reverence, defended by power, a fortress at once and a temple, shall stand inviolate on the brow of the British Sion—as long as the British Monarchy, not more limited than fenced by the orders of the State, shall, like the proud Keep of Windsor, rising in the majesty of proportion, and girt with the double belt of it’s kindred and coeval towers, as long as this awful structure shall oversee and guard the subjected land—so long the mounds and dykes of the low, fat, Bedford level will have nothing to fear from all the pickaxes of all the levellers of France. As long as our Sovereign Lord the King, and his faithful subjects, the Lords and Commons of this realm, the triple cord, which no man can break; the solemn, sworn, constitutional frank-pledge of this nation; the firm guarantees of each others being, and each others rights; the joint and several securities, each in it’s place and order, for every kind and every quality, of property and of dignity—As long as these endure, so long the Duke of Bedford is safe: and we are all safe together—the high from the blights of envy and the spoliations of rapacity; the low from the iron hand of oppression and the insolent spurn of contempt.

Era come se stare su quel promontorio – sferzato dal vento, levigato dalla schiuma del mare – avesse portato via tutti i residui dei giorni precedenti per lasciarci freschi e vivi e dinamici. Non sono mai stata più piena di vita di quando ero lassù, con Uman, e quella sensazione mi ha pervasa per il resto della giornata e per buona parte di quella successiva. Le nostre ultime ore sull’isola. Lo stesso valeva per lui. Gliel’ho visto negli occhi. Lo stesso valeva per noi. Come se fossimo stati fatti a pezzi e poi rimessi insieme. È stata la nostra ultima mattina, anche se noi non lo sapevamo. Perlomeno io. Se Uman lo sapeva già, lo ha nascosto bene. O forse sono io che non ho voluto notare la differenza in lui.

The campaign’s most chilling feature was the huge wave of murder and arson orchestrated by the Ku Klux Klan against black and white Republicans in the South. As state conventions drafted new constitutions that endowed blacks with the franchise, the white South acted to stamp out that voting power through brute force. Nathan Bedford Forrest boasted that the Klan had recruited forty thousand men in Tennessee alone, half a million across the South. This bloodthirsty backlash grew out of simple arithmetic: in South Carolina and Mississippi, blacks made up a majority of the electorate, while in other southern states, the substantial black populace, joined with white Republicans, appeared set to prevail during Reconstruction.

Noi siamo la somma delle nostre scelte. A vederla così, è possibile essere chiunque si voglia essere, vivere qualsiasi vita si voglia vivere. Più o meno. Quell’ultima sera, a Bryher, ho avuto la possibilità di scegliere, quando Uman ha parlato di rubare una barca. Tutto quello che dovevo fare era dire la parola che lui sperava di sentire. Sì. Ho avuto la possibilità di scegliere – più tardi, quella notte – quando ero sulla spiaggia, ad ascoltare il rumore del motore e a guardare nel buio per cercare di scorgerlo un’ultima volta. Non dovevo fare altro che sollevare la torcia. Puntarla sull’acqua. Fargli un segnale prima che fosse troppo tardi. Torna a prendermi. Portami con te. Queste scelte non ci sono più. Ma ce ne saranno altre. Migliaia e migliaia di scelte

Che senso ha tutto questo? Giorno dopo giorno, anno dopo anno, vai a scuola per studiare cose per passare gli esami, e ti danno un foglio di carta che dice che hai imparato tutte quelle cose (la maggior parte delle quali finirai per dimenticare o non ti servirà conoscere), e poi quel pezzo di carta ti farà entrare al college o all’università in modo che tu possa imparare altra roba, per avere altri fogli di carta, in modo da poter usare quei fogli di carta per trovare un lavoro che non vuoi fare e che non ti piace, per lavorare giorno dopo giorno, anno dopo anno, per guadagnare quanto ti serve per mantenere una casa che non ti piace (oppure che ti piace ma che non ti potresti permettere), che assomiglia a tutte le altre case, in una città piena di gente come te, che vive una vita come la tua, dove vivi con un compagno e hai 2,0 figli in modo da poterli allevare perché facciano ESATTAMENTE LE STESSE COSE mentre tu diventi sempre più vecchio e alla fine muori. E con l’ultimo respiro, bisbigli: Tutto qui? È per questo che siamo qui? Non è stato Uman a farmi pensare in quel modo. Mi ha solo fatto capire che pensavo già così. Non è stato Uman a farmi fare quello che facevo. Mi ha solo fatto capire che era quello che volevo fare.

My hair is dreadlocked and hangs down to the middle of my back. Several of the locs are jazzed up with gold strings, charms, and cowrie shells. I decorate my body heavily, choosing brightly colored clothes, adorning my ears and nose with many piercings, and draping my fingers and wrists with what some would consider an excess of brass and copper jewelry. I scent myself with frankincense and myrrh. People stare at me wherever I go. Significantly more in Janna, Sri Lanka, than in Bedford-Stuyvesant, Brooklyn. But no matter--I'm gonna give them something worth looking at. I'm only here for a small amount of time. So I insist on taking up space in the world, in rooms, in my life, and in my relationships. I wouldn't have it any other way. I am here. This is my body. It is the place I live and also the place where I will die.

Architecture without pain, art looked at in undiluted pleasure, enjoyment without anxiety, compunction, heartache: there is no beggar woman in the church door, no ragged child or sore animal in the square. The water is safe and the wallet is inside the pocket. There will be no missed plane connection. We are in a country where the curable ills are taken care of. We are in a country where the mechanics of living from transport to domestic heating (alack, poor Britain!) function imaginatively and well; where it goes without saying that the sick are looked after and secure and the young well educated and well trained; where ingenuity is used to heal delinquents and to mitigate at least the physical dependence of old age; where there is work for all and some individual seizure, and men and women have not been entirely alienated yet from their natural environment; where there is care for freedom and where the country as a whole has rounded the drive to power and prestige beyond its borders and where the will to peace is not eroded by doctrine, national self-love, and unmanageable fears; where people are kindly, honest, helpful, sane, reliable, resourceful, and cool-headed; where stranger–shyly–smiles to stranger. "Portrait Sketch of a Country: Denmark 1962

Quando ti piace uno, diventi un po’ come lui. È proprio vero: mi piaceva Uman ed ero diventata un po’ come lui. Però ero diventata anche un po’ come me stessa, o comunque come lo spirito libero che ero da piccola. Con Uman avevo riscoperto quella prima versione di me. Avevo dimenticato quanto mi piaceva quella «me». Ma non puoi continuare ad avere sette, otto, nove, dieci anni per tutta la vita, giusto? E non puoi neppure scappare. Non per sempre, neppure per tanto tempo. Non quando hai quindici anni. Forse mai. Il mondo che Uman mi aveva mostrato era un mondo falso, adesso lo capisco. False speranze. False promesse. Non potevo traboccare di vita come lui, non potevo essere così intensa, così trasgressiva, così indifferente alla vita e alla morte. D’accordo, per un po’ siamo stati felici insieme, ma quella felicità non portava da nessuna parte.

This time he was underwater, running, feet sinking deeper and deeper into the seabed. The surface was within reach if he raised his arms, but he couldn’t get his head out of the water. He had to breathe. The compulsion to inhale was huge. But he couldn’t, musn’t. Still he ran, getting nowhere, each frantic step burying his feet in the wet sand until he was no longer able to lift them. Finally, with one great gulp, he opened his mouth, his lungs to the flood of seawater.

So Anna did not blame the women of her time for what they had created; it was different only in kind from what she had made herself. And if the old soldiers wanted only to forgive, Anna understood that, too, though in her own memory she could no longer find anything that needed forgiving. In the sunlight by her cousin’s grave, she would touch the black ostrich plume in her hat—the plume that, like herself, grew a little older and little more frayed every year—and think about what all of it meant to her. Down the hill slept the soldiers, and she would visit certain of them in a little while, and the thought of them—their faces, their voices, their particular ways—always made her smile. General Nathan Bedford Forrest himself told her once that she had seen the last of a great army, but he was wrong in that, for they still moved out there in the sunlight, all of them. He was right about one thing though: there was no shame in it, not ever.

How do you build peaks? You create a positive moment with elements of elevation, insight, pride, and/ or connection. We’ll explore those final three elements later, but for now, let’s focus on elevation. To elevate a moment, do three things: First, boost sensory appeal. Second, raise the stakes. Third, break the script. (Breaking the script means to violate expectations about an experience—the next chapter is devoted to the concept.) Moments of elevation need not have all three elements but most have at least two. Boosting sensory appeal is about “turning up the volume” on reality. Things look better or taste better or sound better or feel better than they usually do. Weddings have flowers and food and music and dancing. (And they need not be superexpensive—see the footnote for more.IV) The Popsicle Hotline offers sweet treats delivered on silver trays by white-gloved waiters. The Trial of Human Nature is conducted in a real courtroom. It’s amazing how many times people actually wear different clothes to peak events: graduation robes and wedding dresses and home-team colors. At Hillsdale High, the lawyers wore suits and the witnesses came in costume. A peak means something special is happening; it should look different. To raise the stakes is to add an element of productive pressure: a competition, a game, a performance, a deadline, a public commitment. Consider the pregame jitters at a basketball game, or the sweaty-hands thrill of taking the stage at Signing Day, or the pressure of the oral defense at Hillsdale High’s Senior Exhibition. Remember how the teacher Susan Bedford said that, in designing the Trial, she and Greg Jouriles were deliberately trying to “up the ante” for their students. They made their students conduct the Trial in front of a jury that included the principal and varsity quarterback. That’s pressure. One simple diagnostic to gauge whether you’ve transcended the ordinary is if people feel the need to pull out their cameras. If they take pictures, it must be a special occasion. (Not counting the selfie addict, who thinks his face is a special occasion.) Our instinct to capture a moment says: I want to remember this. That’s a moment of elevation.