Anubhav Quotes

Books are my refuge. I can crawl into the space between the pages and curl my back to loneliness.

I love this constant motion between ' Solitude' and ' Loneliness '. On one end it's the desire and achievement of being alone ( glorious) on the other it's the utter despair and pain of being alone..

All the GOOD things doesn't comes in a single package.

Try me, and you will start LOVING..!!

Jump high brother!! So high that if you fall, then people should remark on not how far you fell but how high you jumped

It's impossible to know everything about everything but the real pleasure lies in knowing something about everything

Believe in things impossible, love the magic of a place, mystery in a person, passion in a relationship and seek adventures in life.. Live the life don't go through it..

I love who you are and not how you look.

It's never too late to turn around your life; all you need is a strong push from inside.

Humans are creatures of contradictory emotions; one day, we may die for someone; on another day, we may fail even to admire their presence!

When people say they try to find themselves, their inner self, to understand the meaning of life I smile and I say, instead why don't you create yourself and give a new meaning to your life

The heart makes a mistake and the soul is the one that suffers the consequences.

You are in control of your actions but not always the result of those actions and there are far more factors at play than your own will that will decide what you get out of life.

Kabhi kabhi beintehaan mohabbat bhi, Thodi reh jaati hai...

Love doesn’t provide you with benefits or losses, it just happens. No conditions and no guidelines. And it's never in control.

Be happy, for what you have today; for yesterday you were PRAYING for it.

If you succeed in cheating someone, don’t think that the person is a fool, realise that the person trusted you much more than you deserved.

We are not meant to be happy all the time, at least in terms of constant bliss. Our brains cannot always be high on dopamine. If they were meant to be then narcotic drugs wouldn’t be so harmful. A better and more realistic aspiration than constant happiness, is “reasonable peace

the most and couldn’t even apologize. The little child had nowhere to go, no food to eat, and no one to look after him. He lost interest in everything, just wanted to see his mother once again. His uncle, who was his mother's cousin and their closest relative, was forced by relatives and neighbours to keep him. Finally, in fear of society, his uncle allowed him to stay at his farm. It had been a month now, but he could still not believe that his mother would never come back.

Try me, and you start LOVING!!

Try me, amd you will start LOVING!

All your life you have lived for society. You have lived for your relatives, your employer, your parents, your spouse, your children, your community, your country and even your dead ancestors, because that is what you have been told is the right thing to do. One fine day, your life is going to end, and you are going to finally realize, you have lived for everyone, except yourself.

Change might be the law of the universe. But a radical positive change in your life will rarely happen if you aren't thoroughly fed up with your present circumstances and decide to do something about it.

If possible, drop the word “goal” completely for anything outside your direct control, because it forces you to stress about the future and ties your self-worth to a future objective that may or may not happen or maybe something you may not even have control over.

Please get rid of pseudoscientific beliefs in statements like “If you really want something, the universe conspires to make it a reality!” The truth is the universe has better things to do than conspiring. The universe doesn’t care about you and your goals. It’s too busy balancing galaxies and black holes.

Understand that every relationship in the world is a “give and take” relationship. Every single one. Unless you can prove you will provide value to people even if its years down the line, or at least have a high “perceived value,” you can’t expect anything in return.

Having self-respect and having an ego are two different things. An ego is all about trying to establish superiority over the other person, it’s about trying to show the other person that it is they that wield power and the other person should bow down to their whims. Self-respect is different. It is about having a healthy self-image of yourself and being confident. It’s about thinking highly of yourself without thinking low of others. It’s about looking at yourself in the mirror and being proud of who you are, instead of being ashamed of what you are being forced to become

Most “nice” people are terribly afraid of judgement. They are afraid of what people will say about them should they stop saying yes to everything or display a change of attitude. Well guess what, people are always going to form an opinion. Do you really think people respect you because you are a very nice person who never says no? Of course not, they most probably make fun of you and tell others how easy it is to manipulate someone like you. In their eyes, you have no respect. They are still forming opinions about you while you are miserable. When you change, their opinions will change, but they will still have an opinion. They are probably not going to make fun of you and instead complain about how you have changed or become rude just because it is no longer so easy to manipulate you. The criticism will always be there. If they don’t like your change in attitude, who cares? It’s not like you were treated with genuine respect and dignity earlier. They are going to still have an opinion, albeit a changed one, but at least this time you are actually happy instead of being miserable!

There is a fine line between sacrificing for the future and completely ruining your present. Forcing yourself to work harder and harder, making yourself miserable and forgoing sleep, if your body doesn't allow it, won't make you luckier but only unhealthier, both physically and mentally. And bad health brings no good luck.

Goal Setting is propagated by modern society as some kind of panacea or solution for overcoming any life obstacle. The problem is most of the popular advice that modern society gives you is either wrong or consists of half-truths at best. I reiterate, that as individuals, it is better NOT to set Goals that obsessively focus on the RESULTS you are going to achieve, especially in areas where the outcome is inherently unpredictable and out of your control. Those goals will only stress you out and do more harm than good in the long run.

Life often tricks you into believing that you can only be happy when you accomplish something. The problem is accomplishing some goals is not totally under your control and even if you accomplish them, sometimes they may not give you the happiness you think you will get. For example, you may achieve what you were looking for, but in the obsession for finding happiness in the future, you may very well ruin everything good that you have today including health, relationships and peace of mind. How can you anyway enjoy any of your "success" without those three things? So, stop believing that happiness lies at the end of the tunnel. Instead try to cultivate happiness in the process, regardless of the result. This way, whether you succeed or fail, everything will still be worth it. Here's a hard truth. Almost no one really cares about you, so make sure you start caring for yourself!

Following your passion may not always give you an easy life but it will certainly give you a life worth living.

People often believe that the head and the heart always have to be contradictory. That's why they are always in a dilemma over whether they should follow their hearts or their heads. The truth is if you follow your heart but do not use your head you shall only make foolish, emotional decisions. If you follow only your head but do not put your heart into it, you will never be happy. The heart and the head have to be aligned. The passion in your heart has to be complimented by a strategy in your head

Success often breeds arrogance by tricking you into believing you did it all on your own. The truth is that not a single person is truly self made. Someone, somewhere helped you along the way. Remain grateful to those who opened their doors for you when everyone else shut them in your face

We have a tendency of reacting to various hardships in life by saying "Why me?" We often wonder why it is us who has to deal with pain when everyone around us seems happy. Well, it's simply not true. While their pain maybe different from yours, everyone you see is dealing with pain and hardship in their own way, no matter how happy they seem. Instead of dwelling over the few things that make us unhappy, if we choose to be grateful for the vastly greater number of things in life that work in our favor, we will find happiness even when surrounded by misery.

The root of low self esteem is people judging themselves by all the things they aren’t good at. When you start judging your self-worth based on that one thing you are amazing at, and there always is, you will start realizing how unique and gifted you are. There is no one like you.

A clever person learns from other’s mistakes, a sane person learns from his own mistakes, a foolish person keeps on making the same mistakes.

Emulate everyone because everyone has qualities worth emulating. Imitate no one because not even a single person in the world is perfect.

Every person is superior to another in at least one field or area. There is not a single person on earth from whom we can’t learn anything.

You may become a success by beating others at the race to the top. But when you choose to uplift them along with you, you become great.

We judge them by calling "negative", "pessimistic" or "glass is half empty" kinds of people. What we don't see is that it's not entirely someone's fault that they see they become cynical about life. Nobody is a born pessimist. Every single baby, whether human or non-human, starts off their journey in this world as an optimist and filled with hope, it is what they encounter in life as they grow older that either keeps them positive or slowly turns them negative.

Most animals in the wild spend their entire lives interacting with other animals without EVER knowing what they themselves look like. Unfortunately, we aren't too different. All our life, we play characters - the child, the student, the employee, the friend, the partner, the parent, the professional etc. We have assumed these to be our real identity because we have only been taught to interact with the world around us, but never with ourselves. Start giving time to yourself or your entire life will go by without knowing the actual actor behind these characters.

Some people have been brainwashed with the idea that they should always be a people pleaser under all circumstances. They bend over backwards so many times and try so hard to win the respect of everyone else, that ultimately people only see them as soft targets that can be manipulated and used as per their wishes. And no, they are not respected. Respect is commanded, it can never be begged for.

I read a joke somewhere about how Bollywood movies exaggerating about people getting heart attacks as a result of being humiliated was nonsense, because if that were the case, then everyone working in toxic jobs would get one every week. Reading that “joke” actually made me pretty sad about the kind of lives many are being forced to lead. Obviously, people will say they have no choice. Because they need to put food on the table. This is a valid reason. But it’s not just food but also expensive clothes, gadgets, jewelery and accessories. And they need expensive furniture in an expensive house. And then they need an expensive car outside, or maybe two. The more the better The best part, they buy almost all of that using bank loans. Congratulations, now you are a slave till every single one of your debts is paid off, which is probably the next 30 years. Now you just need to choose whom you prefer to make your life hell - Your toxic workplace or the "friendly" people from the collection agency when you default on the loan? What a beautiful life indeed!

Define your own success. Success means different things to different people. For some people success means earning a living that can support a lifestyle that an individual wants for himself/herself and their family. For some people success means being a good spouse, son, father, mother etc. For some success just means doing the best they can at their job while remaining happy and content, no matter how little they earn. In the end, however, personal happiness remains the best yardstick of success. Once you are clear about what success truly means FOR you the chances of you having thoughts about someone else go down drastically and you learn how to deal with jealousy better.

One of the best ways to learn how to deal with jealousy productively is to identify the root cause of what is causing your jealousy. If someone gets a big car or house or something, is it really their material possessions that bother you or is there something deeper that you crave? Going from this example you may analyse your jealousy and come to a conclusion to it may not be riches you want but maybe the respect and adulation from society that come along with it. If you go after the material possessions without knowing your true desires, you may not be happy even if you get them, because what you really wanted was something else.

One of the best ways to learn how to deal with jealousy productively is to identify the root cause of what is causing your jealousy. If someone gets a big car or house or something, is it really their material possessions that bother you or is there something deeper that you crave? Going from this example you may analyse your jealousy and come to a conclusion to it may not be riches you want but maybe the respect and adulation from society that come along with it. If you go after the material possessions without knowing your true desires, you may not be happy even if you get them, because what you really wanted was something else.

The person you feel jealous of might be craving the exact same thing that you already have but just don’t see it. If you are someone who has a loving spouse and are craving the wealth of your neighbour, that neighbour may be craving having a loving spouse while their wealth means nothing to them. If you are someone who is jealous of someone’s athletic abilities or looks, they might be jealous of your brains or other skills. The truth is that no one in the world is better than one or the other in all aspects. Everyone is a master in something and a rookie in another. Everyone has a few things others might crave but will never have.

We all have subconsciously trained ourselves to look for what we lack instead of appreciating what we have. We may be amazingly blessed with great talents, relationships or friends and yet we only focus on the talents we lack, the relationships we lack and the life we lack. When you focus on what you have your whole perspective towards life will change. You will realize that life is meant to be a mixed bag. You are not going to always have it all, nor are you going to have nothing. Count your blessings because no matter what you have, it is guaranteed there is someone else in the world that does not have it.

A man was once told by an astrologer that his wife would leave him for someone else and that would lead to his death. As a result of that prediction the man became increasingly fearful. He became extremely suspicious towards his wife even though she was devoted towards him. He also started hating her and hitting because he believed she would not be loyal towards him and leave him. After ten years of constant physical and emotional abuse the wife had enough and became attracted to another man, she felt was much kinder. One day after yet another violent episode from the suspicious husband, she decided that she would leave him for the other man and ran away that evening! Shocked, the man committed suicide. The man made that very thing happen that he feared! His own fear led him to commit actions that ultimately made his wife desert him. He made his life a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you are going to make your life a self-fulfilling prophecy, might as well make it a constructive one, not a destructive one fueled by endless fear! On a lighter note, if you are the impressionable kind, which many of us are, this is why sometimes it is best to not try and know your future!

You can place trust in the idea that some people may want good things for you, but necessarily do good things for you.

Never trust anyone blindly, including your parents for while they'll almost always have good intentions, they won't always be right.

Regardless of any “wise” advice anyone gives you, including mine in this book, try doing the opposite at least once (as long as it is not illegal or does not carry with it a risk of ruin). What worked for them might be terrible advice for you and what they think is useless maybe your greatest life changer.

Be extremely careful as to who you let into your life and once you realize they are super toxic of harmful, try and let go of them as quickly as possible. No matter, how smartly, honestly or peacefully you are leading your life until now, are just ONE step away from ruining it, thanks to the potential actions of the person you have let into your own life.

Not everything needs to be “fixed”. Many life situations often come and go on their own. You don’t necessarily need to DO something about everything. Have you ever noticed that sometimes the more you try to fix something, the worse it gets? By knowing that sometimes doing nothing is the best thing to do, you have achieved action in inaction.

Always remember that even if you fail when you take your own decisions, at least it will never lead to resentment because whatever you chose to do was your own decision. On the other hand, if you live a life dictated by others you may slowly grow to hate and resent even the people you love.

We get stuck in a rut whether it is in a “9 to 5” job that actually makes us work 80 hours a week or working constantly when you run your own business. It’s always about planning for the future, it is always about striving for more, even if that striving for more ends up ends up totally destroying your life. Why? Because having a lot of “fire in the belly” is portrayed as a virtue, REGARDLESS of whether that fire in the belly is doing you or even the world at large any good!! The truth is your work is NOT THAT important in the grand scheme of things, and if you hate doing it, it’s not even important for you. You may consider yourself super important, but no matter how successful you are, you are most likely a cog in the wheel of the system who will find a replacement for you, the moment your body can no longer take it.

Too much fire in the belly will only give you severe acidity.

When the going gets tough, the tough may get going but the wise analyze whether going further is even worth it.

A winner never quits and a quitter never wins is not necessarily true. Suppose you really like a person and you want to date them. Now let’s say you approach them and they keep turning you down again, and again and again to the point that they are really annoyed with you. Do you think you should never quit or do you think you should quit? You should quit or you are going to be labelled a stalker, get beaten up or have a police complaint filed against you.

Being Self Made is a lie if it's crafted as a story sold to people. It is an illusion for those who sincerely believe they are self-made. No one is self-made. You didn't choose the family you were born in, the economic class you were born in, the country you were born in, the era you were born in, the intelligence level you have, the special talent you are born with, the early education you got, the mentoring you received, your level of ambition, your macro-economic environment, being at the right place at the right time or generally having unexpected things turn in your favor. I will argue that even if you say you came from an extremely poor background and have worked extremely hard to achieve your success and you deserve 100 percent credit, even that is a partially false statement, as you have been lucky to see your hard work pay off (in some cases, exponentially)

Whenever someone talks about luck, “positive thinkers” are quick to pounce on them and say only losers talk about luck, winners are self-made. For too long, people have been made to feel like losers, often for no fault of their own and very often, people have also been made to feel like winners, as if it were their actions alone, and their effort, knowledge, persistence, perseverance etc. that made them so successful. This fake narrative completely discounts the one thing that perhaps plays the absolute biggest role in where one ends up in life – Luck and Randomness. If you are alive today, it is luck. If you are not disabled, it is luck. If you are intelligent, it is luck. You may again say that only failures talk about luck, but I openly admit that ALL my “wins” have a significant element of luck too and so do yours.

Believing that you created or manifested or your own success 100 percent, does not make you right, it just shows you are blinded by ego. Our egos are too fragile to admit that anything other than our efforts could make us “successful.” I am NOT saying everything in life is luck. What I am saying is – Yes, you deserve credit for swimming and struggling in the ocean for as long as you did, but you need to be humble enough to admit that you didn't create the wave that carried you to the shore. You also need to thank your good fortunes that a shark didn't eat you.

If you have mostly seen your hard work and strategy pay off, you may probably still be under the illusion that you are self-made and I won’t blame you for that. I have had plenty of such illusions myself. It is only when you go through circumstances when the SAME hard work that used to work, now gives you failure after failure, will you acknowledge the role of timing and luck. This is not a "negative" mentality, if anything it is a mentality that helps you tame your ego and be more sensitive to those around you who are not so fortunate. The first step to bring about positive change in your life, which is confidence if you have constantly been failing, or humility if you have constantly been winning, is to UNLEARN the FALSE notions that modern society has brainwashed you with. Not everyone who is at the top deserves to be there, and almost no one at the bottom truly deserves to be there.

Conventional wisdom says that positive thinking is the key to success. You need to picture yourself or visualize for yourself the perfect outcome, the best possible result. You need to go into what you are doing with an absolutely positive mindset, whether it is a presentation, a job interview, a date, or a much bigger project as if nothing could go wrong. While positive thinking has always been preached, it has gained much more popularity recently thanks to the books that talk about the Law of Attraction as if it is a scientific law that always works. I am here to tell you that if you are always thinking positive and have been indoctrinated by the positive thinking mantras, believing that nothing could go wrong, you are dramatically lowering your chances of success, because in real life things go wrong all the time.

Would you be comfortable travelling in a car or an air plane or maybe in a space shuttle in the future, knowing that the only safety mechanism that the engineers relied upon was positive thinking and visualization of everything being perfect? Would you feel safe knowing that engineers did not imagine and solve most of the possible negative outcomes that could happen that dramatically increase the chances of an accident? Would you want to live in a building built by someone who only relied on positive thinking and did not thinking of how to safeguard it from possible disasters? The buildings we live in, the things we travel in and the devices we use are relatively safe today BECAUSE of the positive steps taken as a result of negative and cautious thinking. Confidence is a great thing but sometimes the lack of it is an even better thing. The fear motivates you to settle for nothing less than excellence.

People with too much positive thinking rely on visualizations, affirmations and a positive outcome for their dreams. People with negative thinking actually prepare hard to do what it takes. People with too much positive thinking, believe nothing bad can ever happen to them and live in a rosy world. Thus, when life hits them, it hits them in a way they never expected. People with negative thinking know it can get bad at any moment. Therefore, they save, invest and get Insurance for the same! Thus sometimes, negative thinking is better than positive thinking!

Every inspirational and motivational advice given to you is not good advice." - Sir Anubhav Srivastava (Inspirational & Motivational Advice Giver)

The reality is that businesses fail all the time and if you go into business thinking absolutely positive, selling your land or taking a huge loan and assuming everything will be rosy, you are going to fail, unless you are incredibly lucky. You may be seen as an inspiration to naïve people, but you are still a bad role model, because your decision-making process will lead to failure for anyone following you.

The next time someone annoys you about the miraculous benefits of practicing positive thinking or the Law of Attraction ALL THE TIME, ask them to jump off a plane and bet on the Law of Attraction saving them from the Law of Gravity.

Motivational Gurus often ask people their 5-year goals, 10-year goals or even 20-year goals. Those who can’t answer that are considered aimless. We are given the illusion that we can plan out our entire life with extreme precision. You couldn’t be more wrong. Life is not a game of chess where you can plan all your moves ahead or have a backup move for everything. There are countless forces influencing what happens to you.

For an organization with ample resources that is dependent on multiple individuals, goal setting is incredibly powerful. For individuals themselves though, long term goal setting is more of a recipe for frustration and burnout, especially if they are goals not within your direct control and your self-worth is tied to that goal.

I used to think that I could plan out my entire life to minutest details when I was a teenager, but as I get older, and hopefully wiser, I have realized that in order to set 10 year or 20 goals with extreme precision and hit the target every single time, you need to be in complete control of your destiny. And the truth is, on an individual level, you are not.

Large scale goal setting works best at an organizational level but not an individual level. It's because the more resources you have the more you can ensure that you take all the steps necessary to lead to a predictable outcome. Even if one or more resources fail, as long as you have the muscle power you still have higher chances of a predictable outcome. This is the reason why the chances of a major Hollywood studio that hires famous stars and putting in loads of money striking box office gold and making hundreds of millions of dollars are much higher than an independent filmmaker’s chances, which could pretty much be one in a million no matter how well he/she plans.

The truth is you can’t plan out your entire life 50 years into the future. If there is a God, only he/she can. It is thus much better to focus on goals that are much closer to the present day because then you will not only be much more motivated to perform because you can see the reward right in front of you, you will also be in a much better position to adapt and change course with changing priorities. Most importantly you will learn to live close to the present moment and enjoy life while it happens instead of postponing your happiness in the hopes of a reward 20 years later that may not even come.

Have a sense of direction, or a rudder that keeps you on a path to progress without obsessing that it has to be achieved within a certain time frame. Some goals like weight loss, are more under your control than financial goals or goals to marry a specific person. Completely drop the goals that are not in your hands and adopt an approach where you have a general direction, but your sense of self-worth is not tied to the achievement of that thing.

Success in life is not a debate competition. Don’t you assume that just because you prove yourself right in a conversation, it is always going to have a positive effect on you and your career.

People who say they create their own fate, by their own logic, must have also created their own birth.

The world is a huge place. Whether it is a romantic partner you are looking for or a business partner or a customer, remember it is better to spend your energy trying to woo someone who is already interested than annoying the hell out of someone who has already said no. Devote your energy to someone who already sees your worth, not those who are blind to it!

Sleep is NOT the enemy of productivity, but rather the foundation of productivity.

You are responsible for your actions, but not always the result of that action. You have the power to make attempts to influence your fate but not always in control of what eventually happens. If you made mistakes on your part, learn from them, but stop blaming yourself for the mistakes you never made. As long as you know in your heart that you did absolutely everything under your control, you are someone worthy of admiration.

The most powerful thing in the world is not a weapon. It is a persistent belief that is so deeply engrained in your subconscious mind that it propels every decision you take in life. People possessed by such intense beliefs have the capability to change the world, for the better or worse. Because the stronger their belief and subsequent action is, the more the chances are for others to become affected by it. It can then spread like an epidemic and can change the world positively or it can destroy it completely. Choose what you believe in wisely. Do not let others brainwash you into it

Diamond and coal are made from the same element. The only difference lies in their crystal structure. Great people and mediocre ones also possess similar physical characteristics. The only difference lies in their thinking

Humility is a lesson best learned willingly. Because if you don't, time will eventually teach it to you in a cruel fashion

If you present a monkey with a diamond on one hand and a banana in the other, the monkey will pick the banana every time, not knowing that the diamond can be traded for a million bananas. So don't worry if you keep meeting people who can't see your worth immediately. You just need to stop dealing with the monkeys and look for people with more evolved minds.

A lot of things that happen in life are random. Let’s explore this through an analogy: Grains of Sand in a bucket If you pour sand into a bucket, statistically, there will be some grains on the top, most in the middle and some on the bottom. All grains can’t be at the top. So, does it mean the grains of sands at the top special/better than the ones at the bottom? or is it just blind randomness at play? You might say the human mind is not a grain of sand, it has talent and the capacity to think. Well, what determined your talents and thoughts? Did you choose them or were they too influenced by factors beyond your control? I would argue that your talents and your thoughts themselves are not conjured up by you alone, but are also the result of luck and circumstances.

Why Long Term Goal Setting is Largely Pointless. Desires change, motivations change. What you wanted the most in high school is probably not what you wanted the most 10 years after that. In high school, being popular with the opposite sex and trying to look cool was probably the number one priority. After ten years, the number one priority is to probably get a good job or have a stable income. And if you have that, to find the right relationship for life. Twenty years after high school, it is probably to see your Kids do well in school and so on. Having a dream that you desire with the same extreme intensity as you desired it when you were 16 is possible but uncommon. Most of the times, you will realize that you probably don’t desire it after twenty or if you do, you probably don’t care AS much as you used to. How can a fire keep on raging once the fuel is burnt up? How can anything be accomplished if the burning desire to achieve it is no longer there after a long stretch of time? And there is nothing wrong with wanting something else after twenty years. That’s human nature. You don’t have to keep slogging on for something that you don’t care about. The point is this is why super long term individualistic goals can sometimes get vague and pointless because you may realize midway that you don’t even care about them anymore.

Nobody cares about you. Except maybe your family, some of your extremely close friends and your dog. That’s it. No body else genuinely cares about you UNLESS you are directly or indirectly doing something that matters to them.

Others are too bothered about their own lives and worrying about what you think of them. Even if they do judge you, it only reflects their character and insecurities. That’s it. So, when someone doesn’t care if you died today, why should you care about their criticism if they talk crap behind your back just because you chose to do what you want? They are not the ones putting food on your table, are they?

Everybody at some point needed the support of someone or the embrace of someone. Someone who would open the door for them when nobody else did. Someone who pushed them up the ladder while everybody else was trying to pull them down. Whether you realize this or not, whatever you will achieve out of life will never be out of your efforts alone.

Some leaders keep repeating or mentioning that there was some study conducted in Harvard or Yale that only 3 percent of people had set goals and written down these goals and they made more money than 97 percent of people! Well first of all, statements containing precise statistics, particularly ones with little empirical evidence, are often based on cooked up or questionable data. And secondly, there was no such study at either Harvard or Yale. It has just been repeated from one inspirational dude to another until it become a part of folklore. It has also been incorrectly repeated in another inspirational dude, Sir Anubhav Srivastava’s film Carve Your Destiny ten years ago. On a sidenote, I have no connections whatsoever with this gentleman. Who is he?!

Practicing what you preach is not enough. You have to practice before you preach

The life of an animal is limited to fulfilling biological needs, doing the same things everyday and going through life without a greater purpose. They can't do much about it since their brains aren't programmed for something beyond that. But the greatest irony is that most people live the same way.

They say if life gives you lemons, make lemonade. But sometimes life gives you much worse. In that case, if life gives you rotten grapes, make wine!

Don't ruin your present by constantly worrying about the mistakes of the past or the uncertainties of the future. What has happened cannot be changed but can be learned from. What is supposed to happen will happen only at the right time. Do your best and enjoy your present, don't make it yet another regret.

Once upon a time slavery used to happen against a person's will. Today most of us willingly spend time and money on expensive education with the hopes of becoming indentured servants to someone else.

Self-Respect is about knowing that nothing is more important than your dignity. It’s about not letting others get away with treating you horribly. If you are being treated like you are a nobody then even the highest amount of money you get in the job won’t change the fact that in the eyes of your employer, you are a commodity, not a person. If you are always being belittled, insulted or abused, whether emotionally or physically by someone who says they love you, then no matter what they claim, the truth is in their eyes you are nothing more than a toy over which they think they have complete power. Do you really think you can be happy in such kind of a life, where your very existence becomes that of a thing, not an individual? Take a stand, let people know you have had enough and you will not let them use you anymore. Once you develop a backbone, not only will you start respecting yourself, others will start giving you the respect you deserve as well.

The unfortunate truth is that for most of us our happiness is relative. In other words, we tend to feel worse if the other person is doing better even if we are doing very well according to society’s standards.

Understand the truth is far different from what appears on the surface. It is natural for most people to want to avoid presenting what really goes on in their life, the struggle, the heartbreak, the low self-esteem, the doubts, the things gone horribly wrong and instead only present a version of themselves that appears flawless. This is particularly true for celebrities but applies to even you, me, your next door neighbour, your friends and your enemies.

The truth is that everyone is undergoing some sort of pain which they won’t talk about. Everybody hates some aspect of their life. The person you may see having a nice time abroad may be going through a real stressful time with his boss humiliating him daily. The person that seems perfectly healthy may have a horrible condition he refuses to talk about. People clicking photographs with their spouses as if they are in heaven maybe facing greatest marital discords. When you realize that truth is not what always what it seems on the surface, you will automatically be able to shift perspective and realize everyone’s life has a little bit of heaven and a little bit of hell. By shifting perspective, you can learn how to deal with jealousy better. It is up to you whether you want to enjoy the heaven or complain about the hell.