Anubhav Quotes

Books are my refuge. I can crawl into the space between the pages and curl my back to loneliness.

I love this constant motion between ' Solitude' and ' Loneliness '. On one end it's the desire and achievement of being alone ( glorious) on the other it's the utter despair and pain of being alone..

All the GOOD things doesn't comes in a single package.

Believe in things impossible, love the magic of a place, mystery in a person, passion in a relationship and seek adventures in life.. Live the life don't go through it..

Try me, and you will start LOVING..!!

I love who you are and not how you look.

It's impossible to know everything about everything but the real pleasure lies in knowing something about everything

Jump high brother!! So high that if you fall, then people should remark on not how far you fell but how high you jumped

Humans are creatures of contradictory emotions; one day, we may die for someone; on another day, we may fail even to admire their presence!

It's never too late to turn around your life; all you need is a strong push from inside.

When people say they try to find themselves, their inner self, to understand the meaning of life I smile and I say, instead why don't you create yourself and give a new meaning to your life

Kabhi kabhi beintehaan mohabbat bhi, Thodi reh jaati hai...

You are in control of your actions but not always the result of those actions and there are far more factors at play than your own will that will decide what you get out of life.

Be happy, for what you have today; for yesterday you were PRAYING for it.

If you succeed in cheating someone, don’t think that the person is a fool, realise that the person trusted you much more than you deserved.

Love doesn’t provide you with benefits or losses, it just happens. No conditions and no guidelines. And it's never in control.

The heart makes a mistake and the soul is the one that suffers the consequences.

We are not meant to be happy all the time, at least in terms of constant bliss. Our brains cannot always be high on dopamine. If they were meant to be then narcotic drugs wouldn’t be so harmful. A better and more realistic aspiration than constant happiness, is “reasonable peace

the most and couldn’t even apologize. The little child had nowhere to go, no food to eat, and no one to look after him. He lost interest in everything, just wanted to see his mother once again. His uncle, who was his mother's cousin and their closest relative, was forced by relatives and neighbours to keep him. Finally, in fear of society, his uncle allowed him to stay at his farm. It had been a month now, but he could still not believe that his mother would never come back.

भक्त हमसे बहुत महान व श्रेष्ठ होते है क्योंकि उन्हें क्रोध नहीं आता है तथा अहंकार से रहित होते है। भक्ति अत्यन्त कठिन मार्ग है, मगर योग का अभ्यास करने के लिए दृढ़ता आवश्यक है। दृढ़ता में कठोरता व रूखापन होता है। हमने यह भी देखा है जो साधक रूखे होते हैं उनकी साधना अच्छी होती है। ऐसे साधकों के अन्दर दृढ़ता बहुत होती है, जिस कार्य में उनकी लगन लग जाये वह कार्य करके ही छोड़ते हैं। कठिन कार्यों से वे विचलित नहीं होते हैं। ऐसे साधकों का मस्तिष्क अधिक क्रियाशील रहता है, मगर भक्ति भाव वाला साधक तर्क-वितर्क ज्यादा नहीं करता है क्योंकि वह भावना प्रधान होता है।

पहले आप गुरू का अर्थ समझ लें– “अंधकार से दूर करने वाला अर्थात् प्रकाश में गमन कराने वाला, अंधकार दूर होते ही प्रकाश की अनुभूति होने लगती है, ऐसा प्रकाश जो कभी नष्‍ट नहीं होता हो अर्थात् सत्य ही नष्‍ट नहीं होता है। सत्य सिर्फ ब्रह्म होता है।

ध्यानवस्था की अनुभूतियाँ, स्थूल संसार की तरह क्षणिक मात्र नहीं होती हैं बल्कि चैतन्यमय होती हैं, इसलिए ऐसी अनुभूतियाँ सदैव याद रहती हैं। ऐसा लगता है यह अनुभूति अभी-अभी हुई है, चाहे मैने वर्षों पहले वह अनुभूति की हो, ध्यानावस्था में आये अनुभवों की यही खासियत होती है।

You should realize that even the thoughts originating in your mind are not always your own. They don’t just happen when you want them to arise, but often arise within a certain dictated framework. Let me explain. In some ways, our minds have some similarities to AI models of the current era. Just like AI, we are trained on large sets of data and facts, fed by our operator (the society and world around us) and our thinking is limited within the current evolutionary constraints of our own brains, just like other animals cannot possess the cognitive capabilities of a human. To think beyond this framework is almost a superhuman task, truly demonstrated by only a few known people in history, the Buddha being one example. In other words, the one who is blind from birth, has no idea what “seeing” feels like.

Motivation can be a good building block or serve as basic learning, just like you learn basic math and arithmetic when you are really young, but if counting numbers is all you know even when you are old, and refuse to see the truth in anything beyond what was taught when you were young, you my friend have failed to grow in life.

If you are constantly trying to be less stupid, or if experience tells you that you are wrong, every few years, your perception of life will change.

Remember, that in any objective, where the outcome depends significantly on factors other than ones that you directly control, the correlation between effort and reward, COMPLETELY breaks down.

Large scale goal setting works best at an organizational level but not an individual level. It's because the more resources you have the more you can ensure that you take all the steps necessary to lead to a predictable outcome. Even if one or more resources fail, as long as you have the muscle power you still have higher chances of a predictable outcome. This is the reason why the chances of a major Hollywood studio that hires famous stars and putting in loads of money striking box office gold and making hundreds of millions of dollars are much higher than an independent filmmaker’s chances, which could pretty much be one in a million no matter how well he/she plans.

Goal setting works best when there is the will, the skill, the resources and a very strong risk management strategy. Have any of these missing and the chances of your goals being successfully achieved goes down. Even with all of the four, the chances of success are not guaranteed because the uncertainty factor can be lowered with proper planning but can never be zero. Conventional, long term goal setting is thus great for an organization that has the will, the skill, the resources, a methodical approach to goal setting and a solid risk management strategy. But on an individual level, extremely long-term goal setting is largely a hit or miss game.

You may set out with the goal of becoming a billionaire or a Nobel Prize winning Scientist or Author within the next 20 years. But most of the times, life will throw a curve ball at you that may displace all your plans. Your business ventures that you thought would work out exceedingly well and become your stepping stone to becoming a billionaire may become a super flop and leave you with a huge debt instead. The miraculous scientific discoveries you intend to make to win the Nobel Prize may never come across your way. You may make discoveries that are not that important or someone else who is much better funded may beat you to it. You may experience a personal tragedy which leaves you extremely disadvantaged. You may experience unexpected immediate responsibilities that may throw you off course of your goal. For example, a serious medical condition or the death of a family member. The world may not reward your actions the way you expected. What happens to your twenty-year goal? Nothing, it goes down the drain.

Why Long Term Goal Setting is Largely Pointless. Desires change, motivations change. What you wanted the most in high school is probably not what you wanted the most 10 years after that. In high school, being popular with the opposite sex and trying to look cool was probably the number one priority. After ten years, the number one priority is to probably get a good job or have a stable income. And if you have that, to find the right relationship for life. Twenty years after high school, it is probably to see your Kids do well in school and so on. Having a dream that you desire with the same extreme intensity as you desired it when you were 16 is possible but uncommon. Most of the times, you will realize that you probably don’t desire it after twenty or if you do, you probably don’t care AS much as you used to. How can a fire keep on raging once the fuel is burnt up? How can anything be accomplished if the burning desire to achieve it is no longer there after a long stretch of time? And there is nothing wrong with wanting something else after twenty years. That’s human nature. You don’t have to keep slogging on for something that you don’t care about. The point is this is why super long term individualistic goals can sometimes get vague and pointless because you may realize midway that you don’t even care about them anymore.

Long term goals often make you complacent. If you want to be a billionaire in twenty years and you are broke in five years, you will probably think, hey at least I still have fifteen years! I once met a guy who wanted to be a screenwriter. I asked him by when he wanted to make his mark. He said, he wanted to be a leading screenwriter maybe after 20 years. I asked him, “Don’t you think that’s kind of way too vague? He said, “No, time is unlimited anyway.” Anyone with common sense knows that time is not unlimited. Maybe time is unlimited in a cosmic sense but not in the life of a human. This kind of vagueness and extremely long-term goal setting was only setting him up for complacence.

You may plan to represent your country at the Olympics but what do you do when you don’t even make it to your high school team? Or have to let go of that dream because of an injury? With short term objectives, you can be more adaptable. If you achieve it within the next one year, you can decide upon what to do next or whether you want to go higher. If you do not achieve it in the next one year, you can decide upon what changes you need to make much more quickly or to make a complete switch while you still have time. In simple terms, if you have taken a wrong path to your destination, it is better to realize that after one mile, rather than heading 100 miles in the wrong direction and then getting lost in wilderness.

Most of us have been taught about the importance of planning and goal setting in order to achieve whatever we want out of life. After all, unless you know where you are going, how will you end up at your destination? Goal setting has been shown to be incredibly useful when it comes to an organizational level as well. Man reaching the moon and various other progresses that we have seen in the 20th and 21st century are all results of goal setting. There is one major problem with long term goal setting though. You can’t really plan life when it concerns a single individual. John F. Kennedy, the person who set the goal for Mankind to reach the moon, himself never lived to see that day.

The truth is you can’t plan out your entire life 50 years into the future. If there is a God, only he/she can. It is thus much better to focus on goals that are much closer to the present day because then you will not only be much more motivated to perform because you can see the reward right in front of you, you will also be in a much better position to adapt and change course with changing priorities. Most importantly you will learn to live close to the present moment and enjoy life while it happens instead of postponing your happiness in the hopes of a reward 20 years later that may not even come.

If possible, drop the word “goal” completely for anything outside your direct control, because it forces you to stress about the future and ties your self-worth to a future objective that may or may not happen or maybe something you may not even have control over.

Have a sense of direction, or a rudder that keeps you on a path to progress without obsessing that it has to be achieved within a certain time frame. Some goals like weight loss, are more under your control than financial goals or goals to marry a specific person. Completely drop the goals that are not in your hands and adopt an approach where you have a general direction, but your sense of self-worth is not tied to the achievement of that thing.

Please get rid of pseudoscientific beliefs in statements like “If you really want something, the universe conspires to make it a reality!” The truth is the universe has better things to do than conspiring. The universe doesn’t care about you and your goals. It’s too busy balancing galaxies and black holes.

Nobody cares about you. Except maybe your family, some of your extremely close friends and your dog. That’s it. No body else genuinely cares about you UNLESS you are directly or indirectly doing something that matters to them.

Others are too bothered about their own lives and worrying about what you think of them. Even if they do judge you, it only reflects their character and insecurities. That’s it. So, when someone doesn’t care if you died today, why should you care about their criticism if they talk crap behind your back just because you chose to do what you want? They are not the ones putting food on your table, are they?

Everybody at some point needed the support of someone or the embrace of someone. Someone who would open the door for them when nobody else did. Someone who pushed them up the ladder while everybody else was trying to pull them down. Whether you realize this or not, whatever you will achieve out of life will never be out of your efforts alone.

I don’t go to a lot of networking events, especially not random ones because it seems everyone is only pushing themselves. And why not ? After all, isn’t the point of networking trying to find people who can become allies in helping you achieve your goals? Technically, yes. But most people do it the wrong way, over promote themselves and become super annoying. Instead of trying to show how they can provide value to the other person, they are interested in how they can extract value out of the other person. Again, there is nothing wrong with pushing your own interests, but unless you are giving something of value to people in return, it’s not going to happen

Understand that every relationship in the world is a “give and take” relationship. Every single one. Unless you can prove you will provide value to people even if its years down the line, or at least have a high “perceived value,” you can’t expect anything in return.

Understand that every relationship in the world is a “give and take” relationship. Every single one. Unless you can prove you will provide value to people even if it's years down the line, or at least have a high “perceived value,” you can’t expect anything in return.

Success in life is not a debate competition. Don’t you assume that just because you prove yourself right in a conversation, it is always going to have a positive effect on you and your career.

The world is a huge place. Whether it is a romantic partner you are looking for or a business partner or a customer, remember it is better to spend your energy trying to woo someone who is already interested than annoying the hell out of someone who has already said no. Devote your energy to someone who already sees your worth, not those who are blind to it!

Sleep is NOT the enemy of productivity, but rather the foundation of productivity.

There is a fine line between sacrificing for the future and completely ruining your present. Forcing yourself to work harder and harder, making yourself miserable and forgoing sleep, if your body doesn't allow it, won't make you luckier but only unhealthier, both physically and mentally. And bad health brings no good luck.

Life often tricks you into believing that you can only be happy when you accomplish something. The problem is accomplishing some goals is not totally under your control and even if you accomplish them, sometimes they may not give you the happiness you think you will get. For example, you may achieve what you were looking for, but in the obsession for finding happiness in the future, you may very well ruin everything good that you have today including health, relationships and peace of mind. How can you anyway enjoy any of your "success" without those three things? So, stop believing that happiness lies at the end of the tunnel. Instead try to cultivate happiness in the process, regardless of the result. This way, whether you succeed or fail, everything will still be worth it. Here's a hard truth. Almost no one really cares about you, so make sure you start caring for yourself!

Some leaders keep repeating or mentioning that there was some study conducted in Harvard or Yale that only 3 percent of people had set goals and written down these goals and they made more money than 97 percent of people! Well first of all, statements containing precise statistics, particularly ones with little empirical evidence, are often based on cooked up or questionable data. And secondly, there was no such study at either Harvard or Yale. It has just been repeated from one inspirational dude to another until it become a part of folklore. It has also been incorrectly repeated in another inspirational dude, Sir Anubhav Srivastava’s film Carve Your Destiny ten years ago. On a sidenote, I have no connections whatsoever with this gentleman. Who is he?!

You can be the most loyal person on earth and some people will still have problems with what you didn't do instead of appreciating what all the great things you did!

Having self-respect and having an ego are two different things. An ego is all about trying to establish superiority over the other person, it’s about trying to show the other person that it is they that wield power and the other person should bow down to their whims. Self-respect is different. It is about having a healthy self-image of yourself and being confident. It’s about thinking highly of yourself without thinking low of others. It’s about looking at yourself in the mirror and being proud of who you are, instead of being ashamed of what you are being forced to become

Many people often try to make you feel guilty when you choose to relax. They say, you should suffer now and enjoy the rewards later. The truth is you can regret working too hard. In my life, ironically, I have no regret for the times I had fun and stayed away from "work.". I regret the years where I have worked so hard that I have completely missed out on making good memories.

Goal Setting is propagated by modern society as some kind of panacea or solution for overcoming any life obstacle. The problem is most of the popular advice that modern society gives you is either wrong or consists of half-truths at best. I reiterate, that as individuals, it is better NOT to set Goals that obsessively focus on the RESULTS you are going to achieve, especially in areas where the outcome is inherently unpredictable and out of your control. Those goals will only stress you out and do more harm than good in the long run.

If a group or an organization can work like a machine with access to plenty of resources and has no bias towards negative emotions, goal setting can STILL be useful. As individuals though, our lives are highly unpredictable and we have a huge tendency towards being overly emotional about the result. The wrong result can put you into a deep depression, and the rare, “right result” inflate your ego far more than it is good for you, and eventually mess up your life anyway. Let me explain even further. A machine or a crane can work for far more hours, with far more power at a far more efficient pace than any human without getting tired, getting hungry, getting restless or feeling frustrated. Can a human do it? NO! Because we are built differently! The same kind of outcome driven goal setting that may work for organizations is usually a terrible idea for individuals. Here is what you should remember - If you are setting goals, especially goals where the results depend greatly on factors outside your control, the only ones you should set are the ones that focus on the ACTIONS you will take.

If you are always in the “GO GO GO!” mode, you won’t stop to think that there might be a much faster, efficient and less labor-intensive way of doing things. These are the kinds of people who in the stone age would have preferred to drag slides full of stones and called the person who thought about inventing the wheel “Lazy!

People say success is a science and there are laws for success, like a science. That is the most unscientific thing to ever say. If something cannot be regularly replicated under similar conditions, it’s far from a science, unless we are talking about quantum physics, which is clearly not what the “success is a science” people are referring to!

The idea of individuals being in control of their destinies gained significant popularity during the late 17th century and continued through the 18th century. The subsequent Industrial Revolution further reinforced these ideas by emphasizing self-made success and personal agency. They do motivate people to take matters into their own hands, but taken to the extreme, they have surely done more harm than good, because it divided the world into “winners” and “losers”, regardless of whether they deserved to be.

Changing your views does not mean you are flip flopping. Changing your views in response to new evidence is the basic pre-requisite of progress.

Books on the “best seller” lists do not always contain the best information relevant for you! Only reading books on the best seller lists or purchasing the “popular” products means replacing social media algorithms for society promoted algorithms. Always dig deeper, if you wish to get closer to the truth!

The worst time to start a business is when you need the money.

Sales is the backbone of almost everything we do in the world, whether it is monetary or not and when done ethically it is the single biggest factor for any kind of success. If you know you can provide value to someone or solve a big problem of theirs, it is your duty to sell it to them and it is your right to be rewarded fairly for it.

Never start a new untested business idea on a loan, especially as a first-time entrepreneur.

Get out of the customer is king mentality. You are a partner of the customer. You provide something of value and get paid fairly for it. The customer gets value in what you do and that’s why you are paid. No one is doing each other any special favor. If you insist on the customer being the king, then see yourself as the king/queen of an allied kingdom. If you can’t respect yourself, no one else will respect you.

In Business, if you exit a losing proposition on time and can live to fight another day, that in itself is a positive outcome and gives you a chance for future success!!

REMEMBER IF YOU WISH TO MAKE MONEY, you should preferably sell to someone who themselves has the money!

Never believe market research when the customer doesn't have to pay anything.

Fortune actually favors the cowards way more than it favors the brave, but the cowards never get the attention and the most of the brave are already dead

In the beginning you really do have to work hard so that you can realize what is worth working hard on and what is not. If you happen to get some success, over time shift focus to what works and completely let go of what doesn’t. You will find your time frees up. Use it to learn new skills, strategies, upgrade your thinking and processes further

Don’t make your business completely reliant on a social media platform, unless you are that social media platform.

The most important in order to result in a profitable business is low expenses and high paying clients. Most entrepreneurs who start out have this in reverse and fail.

If you are a small business, focus on margins, NOT VOLUME. When you have higher margins: You are less likely to go out of business when the volume of your business is impacted due to any reason. You have more money to spend on advertising, increasing sales further You have more money to spend on hiring the best talent that grows your company further Except for the largest of businesses with massive capital and resources, competing purely on price is sure way to eventual failure. You walk on such razor thin margins, that even the slightest of variations could make your business unprofitable overnight!

Contrary to popular opinion, constant intense hard work is not always the key to getting what you want. At times, it is best to take a break or take time off to think and learn. Sometimes, you have to be willing to take a few steps backwards in order to be able to jump several feet ahead.

NEVER EVER Invest more than you can afford to lose, no matter how tempting the so-called opportunity looks. Some people believe massive risk is the secret to quicker success, misguided by popular media of today. The truth is, a person over-speeding and driving his car at 200 km/per hour may reach the destination quicker, but there is a bigger chance that he will crash and never reach it at all. Drive fast enough to be making significant progress in the journey, but don't drive so fast that you crash and burn. The most important thing is to know YOURSELF, and be aware of what you can or cannot handle emotionally and financially. That is the only way to stay do ANYTHING term without losing your sleep and ruining your health.

The only way to be able to create work you are proud of is when you don’t have to worry too much about the money!

These days the success of a business is perceived by how many fancy offices it has and how many people are working for it. Of course, this doesn’t pay any attention to the fact that the same business maybe posting growing losses every year with no recovery in sight. The objective of a business is to turn a profit, not to be bloated. The more bloated a company is, the slower it is and the more trouble it gets in if sales slowdown. Quite often, what many companies accomplish with 50 people can be accomplished with 10 people armed with the right technology. Don’t fall into the bigger is always better trap. What is better depends on what kind of business you want to run.

Sales is super easy! Just sell a product that cost 100 dollars to make for 1 dollar!” - Sir Anubhav Srivastava (Sales Grandmaster and CEO of the fastest growing company in the universe, TROLLS United.)

There is absolutely no denying that focused work is a component of success, but if we fall into the trap of only working hard for the sake of working hard, we become like a person who insists on walking around the world, but refuses to spend money to board a plane. It may be an odd, acceptable hobby but is disastrous in business.

It is wise to do what you love only if it loves you back. Follow your passion only if it rewards you in return. We have been made to believe that there is glory in suffering when you follow your passion. Suffering for a certain time when the reward or the result will make up for it is certainly worth it, but there is no glory in mindless suffering for years when there is not even a light at the end of the tunnel. So do what you love but ensure that it loves you back and if it doesn’t it is ok to love something else. When you follow your passion and it does not reward you despite your best efforts, it is okay to pursue another passion.

Suppose you love a person deeply and have done everything in your capacity to win their affection or try to keep them happy, but they just seem to never love you back, in fact they treat you harshly or cruelly, is it wise to keep loving that person for the rest of your life? You may love that person but is that love making you happy? No in fact it is making you cry. It is better to realize that despite your best efforts, maybe that love is not worth it and it is better to find a partner who loves you the way you love them so that you live a happy life. The same is true for your career.

People don’t care about you, they care about what you can do FOR THEM.

Don’t buy into pseudo-motivational words like “Talent is overrated. Hard Work is everything.” The truth is talent is the base, the starting point of everything, and no matter how hard you try to run as a dog, you are never going to beat a Cheetah. Humans currently “rule” this world because of their unique intellectual talent, that no other animal currently possesses, not because of their so called hard work.

Nobody can be a better friend for you than yourself

You don't have to be similar to be true friends. You don't have to think like each other, you just have to think for each other.

Sometimes, the worst thing you can do is to not listen to the criticism.

If you fail, critically analyze your mistakes, don’t criticize yourself. Analyzing your mistakes in order to learn from something and succeed the next time is great but critical analysis is done with a sense of objectivity and facts, not subjectivity and opinions. Most of us get so emotionally attached to the result that we start finding faults in ourselves, not in our methods or other uncontrollable factors. Attack the faults, not yourself.

People often try to motivate everyone by saying nonsensical statements like, “Try to be the best in the world at something, and you will be rewarded MASSIVELY.” The problem with that statement is that by the very definition of that statement, you have clearly admitted that this advice only works for ONE person per field. There can only be “one best in the world at something.” Last I checked, there were billions of people in the world who still needed to make a living.

Sometimes, you are as significant or insignificant to the world, as you believe you are in your own mind.

Practicing what you preach is not enough. You have to practice before you preach

It is ironic how universities make their students slog for years for a degree, but often award honorary doctorates to those who succeed by doing the exact opposite of what the education system teaches

Following your passion is important but so is identifying your strength. If you are passionate about something but that is not your core strength, you will probably not become great at it. Therefore, identify that one thing where your passion and strength merge. Think about how you can give value to people around you while pursuing it. Finally, have the courage to follow your convictions. This is the key to leading a life that keeps you relatively happy and also makes a difference in the world.

People often believe that the head and the heart always have to be contradictory. That's why they are always in a dilemma over whether they should follow their hearts or their heads. The truth is if you follow your heart but do not use your head you shall only make foolish, emotional decisions. If you follow only your head but do not put your heart into it, you will never be happy. The heart and the head have to be aligned. The passion in your heart has to be complimented by a strategy in your head

No person can succeed in the long term whilst going against their true nature. Identify the productive aspects of your true nature and then double down on them. That is the way to maximize your potential in life.

There is no such thing as selfless love because every single form of love is inherently selfish.

Nobody cares about what you know, it is what you do with what you know that matters.

An idea cannot change your life. Only the guts to implement that idea can

If you live life on your own terms you will die loved by some and despised by many but never ignored by any.

The only thing you get from insisting on winning an argument is a temporarily inflated sense of self worth and permanently alienated friends.

A true friend is someone who does not abandon you in bad times and does not envy you in good ones.

If you do something to appease your critics, they will find something else to be critical about. Even if you eventually manage to win them over, your actions will probably create more critics. Trying to fight or eliminate criticism is therefore pointless because it will always be there in some form. The only important thing is being true to your conscience. If your conscience says what you are doing is right, nothing else matters.

You have no control over what someone says to you or about you. But you have absolute control over how you feel about it or how you react to it. It is fine to analyze these statements for an honest assessment, but beyond that it is pointless to continuously be plagued with self doubt just because somebody else decides to attack you.