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When you mess up, and you will, here are some helpful things to consider. First, your failure is not proof of your inability to pull off sobriety; it is proof of your courage. Second, your mistake doesn’t equal losing something, and it doesn’t mean you go back to the place from which you came—sobriety isn’t a zero-sum game, it is a sum of its parts, and failure is one of its parts. Third, the failure point isn’t the moment to get out the whip and tell yourself what a piece of crap you are; if you hope to learn from it and use it, the failure point is the moment you bring in severe compassion for the person who is trying, which is you. Last, the only way to get to success is by navigating the shitty sea of failure and mediocrity. To get where you are going, there is no other way but through, and failure is the way through.
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Holly Whitaker (Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol)