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The moment I saw her, a part of me walked out of my body and wrapped itself around her. And there it still remains.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Enemies can't break your spirit, only friends can.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Who can know from the word goodbye what kind of parting is in store for us.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Forget about self-image and self-judgment. It's about self-love, and no one teaches you that at school. No one teaches you that if you accept and love yourself, nothing and no one can touch you.
This is the only face and body you're ever going to get, so be comfortable and happy in it. Own it. Own every aspect of who you are and present it to the world with the utmost pride.
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Connor Franta (A Work in Progress)
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Need was a warehouse that could accommodate a considerable amount of cruelty.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She wondered how to un-know certain things, certain specific things that she knew but did not wish to know
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Love, after all, is the ingredient that separates a sacrifice from ordinary, everyday butchery.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She knew heโd be back. No matter how elaborate its charade, she recognized loneliness when she saw it. She sensed that in some strange tangential way, he needed her shade as much as she needed his. And she had learned from experience that Need was a warehouse that could accommodate a considerable amount of cruelty.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Imagine there is a bank account that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening the bank deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to used during the day. What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course? Each of us has such a bank, it's name is time. Every morning, it credits you 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off at a lost, whatever of this you failed to invest to a good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no over draft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is yours. There is no drawing against "tomorrow". You must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and health. The clock is running. Make the most of today.
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Marc Levy (If Only It Were True)
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Even in the most uneventful of our lives, we are called upon to choose our battles...
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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If youโll pardon me for making this somewhat prosaic observation โ maybe thatโs what life is, or ends up being most of the time: a rehearsal for a performance that never eventually materializes.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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They had always fitted together like pieces of an unsolved (and perhaps unsolvable) puzzle- the smoke of her into the solidness of him, the solitariness of her into the gathering of him, the strangeness of her into the straightforwardness of him, the insouciance of her into the restraint of him. The quietness of her into the quietness of him.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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K H A D I J A S A Y S . . .
In Kashmir when we wake up and say โGood Morningโ what we really mean is โGood Mourningโ.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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If your employees are happy, they become your salespeople who speak with utmost passion for the company they work for.
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Pooja Agnihotri (17 Reasons Why Businesses Fail :Unscrew Yourself From Business Failure)
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Sleep came to them, quick and easy, like money to millionaires.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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There is no wealth but life. Life, including all its powers of love, of joy, and of admiration. That country is the richest which nourishes the greatest numbers of noble and happy human beings; that man is richest, who, having perfected the functions of his own life to the utmost, has also the widest helpful influence, both personal, and by means of his possessions, over the lives of others.
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John Ruskin (Unto This Last)
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I use the word love loosely, and only because my vocabulary is unequal to the task of describing the precise nature of that maze, that forest of feelings
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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In a while he reached across the table and took her hand in his. He could not have known that he was trying to comfort a building that had been struck by lightning.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She knew very well that she knew very well that she knew very well.
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The TV channels never ran out of sponsorship for their live telecasts of despair. They never ran out of despair
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Destroying us. You are constructing us. Itโs yourselves that you are destroying.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Trees raised their naked, mottled branches to the sky like mourners stilled in attitudes of grief.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Was it possible to live outside language? Naturally this question did not address itself to her in words, or as a single lucid sentence. It addressed itself to her as a soundless, embryonic howl.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Dear Doctor,
If you like you can change every inch of me. I'm just a story.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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But eventually, the Elixir of the Soul that had survived wars and the bloody birth of three new countries, was, like most things in the world, trumped by Coca-Cola.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Let men tremble to win the hand of woman, unless they win along with it the utmost passion of her heart! Else it may be their miserable fortune, when some mightier touch than their own may have awakened all her sensibilities, to be reproached even for the calm content, the marble image of happiness, which they will have imposed upon her as the warm reality.
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Nathaniel Hawthorne (The Scarlet Letter)
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Normality in our part of the world is a bit like a boiled egg: its humdrum surface conceals at its heart a yolk of egregious violence. It is our constant anxiety about that violence, our memory of its past labours and our dread of its future manifestations, that lays down the rules for how a people as complex and as diverse as we continue to coexist โ continue to live together, tolerate each other and, from time to time, murder one another. As long as the centre holds, as long as the yolk doesnโt run, weโll be fine. In moments of crisis it helps to take the long view.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She wasnโt a woman who smiled and said hello.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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I donโt know where to stop, or how to go on. I stop when I shouldnโt. I go on when I should stop. There is weariness. But there is also defiance. Together they define me these days. Together they steal my sleep, and together they restore my soul. There are plenty of problems with no solutions in sight. Friends turn into foes. If not vocal ones, then silent, reticent ones. But Iโve yet to see a foe turning into a friend. There seems to be no hope. But pretending to be hopeful is the only grace we have . . .
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are requiered for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect takes from the running tide the element it needs. Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual... Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude - the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed. Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high. We are good in the chrysalis.
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Elbert Hubbard
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It was herself she was exhausted by. She had lost the ability to keep her discrete worlds discreteโa skill that many consider to be the cornerstone of sanity. The traffic inside her head seemed to have stopped believing in traffic lights. The result was incessant noise, a few bad crashes and eventually gridlock.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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I believe that women ought to be more proactive about making choices in life. I think that I am not happy about seeing women take the passenger's seat and playing the victim game all too often. If you know a guy is engaged, don't kiss him! There is another woman in the situation whom you are hurting and that other woman could have very well been you, your sister, your mother! If someone is committed, don't sleep with him! There is another woman in the picture that is going to get hurt and that other woman is your sister, just because she is a woman too! This is the kind of proactive I want to see in women, everywhere. We're not victims of the choices that we make; we made those choices! Is another woman doing good? More successful? Happier? Good for her. Because she is your sister and she could very well be you. Let's respect the relationships, the personal paths, the doors and the walkways of our fellow women and let us wish one another the utmost happiness. Because this is the only way up and out.
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Nietzsche believed that if Pity were to become the core of ethics, misery would become contagious and happiness an object of suspicion
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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they asked the poor what it was like to be poor, the hungry what it was like to be hungry, the homeless what it was like to be homeless.
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Mar gayee bulbul qafas mein Keh gayee sayyaad se Apni sunehri gaand mein Tu thoons le fasl-e-bahaar She died in her cage, the little bird, These words she left for her captor โ Please take the spring harvest And shove it up your gilded arse
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The traffic inside her head seemed to have stopped believing in traffic lights. The result was incessant noise, a few bad crashes and eventually gridlock.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Conduct yourself in all matters, grand and public or small and domestic, in accordance with the laws of nature. Harmonizing your will with nature should be your utmost ideal.
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Epictetus (The Art of Living: The Classical Manual on Virtue, Happiness, and Effectiveness)
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Peopleโcommunities, castes, races and even countriesโcarry their tragic histories and their misfortunes around like trophies, or like stock, to be bought and sold on the open market.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The ocean-blue bowl wonโt
refuse to bruise, wonโt hold it back
from the gaping earth-wounds.
There will still come
water, chill wind and happy
goosebumps,
and in the utmost corners of oaks,
leaves laughing.
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Bryana Joy (Having Decided To Stay)
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With Partition, in 1947, Roy writes, "God's carotid burst open on the new border between India and Pakistan and a million people died of hatred. Neighbours turned on each other as though they'd never known each other, never been to each other's weddings, never sung each other's songs." The consequences of that terrible event form the main story of "The Ministry of Utmost Happiness.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Dealing with mental health can be lonely and scary and unfortunately there is still so much stigma around mental health which makes getting help even more difficult.
That's why I want you to know that you have nothing to be ashamed of. Accepting help and treatment doesn't make you weak, it makes you strong and brave.
Visit the resources I have listed for you below. It may feel scary and intimidating at first, especially if you have never done it before. But prioritizing your health is of utmost value.
You are important and you deserve to feel loved and happy.
You are not alone.
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Elicia Roper (All That You Are: a heartwarming and emotional novel (All That We Are #1))
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No matter how elaborate its charade, she recognized loneliness when she saw it.
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The word Hijra, she said, meant a Body in which a Holy Soul lives.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She gave the impression that she had somehow slipped off her leash. As though she was taking herself for a walk while the rest of us were being walked โ like pets. As
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Hide!' she whispered. 'The vegetarians are coming.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She thought of the city at night, of cities at night. Discarded constellations of old stars, fallen from the sky, rearranged on Earth in patterns and pathways and towers. Invaded by weevils that have learned to walk upright.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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To be present in history, even as nothing more than a chuckle, was a universe away from being absent from it, from being written out of it altogether. A chuckle, after all, could become a foothold in the sheer wall of the future.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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One day Kashmir will make India self-destruct in the same way. You may have blinded all of us, every one of us, with your pellet guns by then. But you will still have eyes to see what you have done to us. You're not destroying us. You are constructing us. It's yourselves that you are destroying. Khuda Hafiz.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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I saw a man on a bridge about to jump. I said, โDonโt do it!โ He said, โNobody loves me.โ I said, โGod loves you. Do you believe in God?โ He said, โYes.โ I said, โAre you a Muslim or a non-Muslim?โ He said, โA Muslim.โ I said, โShia or Sunni?โ He said, โSunni.โ I said, โMe too! Deobandi or Barelvi?โ He said, โBarelvi.โ I said, โMe too! Tanzeehi or Tafkeeri?โ He said, โTanzeehi.โ I said, โMe too! Tanzeehi Azmati or Tanzeehi Farhati?โ He said, โTanzeehi Farhati.โ I said, โMe too! Tanzeehi Farhati Jamia ul Uloom Ajmer, or Tanzeehi Farhati Jamia ul Noor Mewat?โ He said, โTanzeehi Farhati Jamia ul Noor Mewat.โ I said, โDie, kafir!โ and I pushed him over.
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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We ask God to endow human souls with justice so that they may be fair and may strive to provide for the comfort of all that each member of humanity may pass his life in the utmost comfort and welfare. Then this material world will become the very paradise of the Kingdom this elemental earth will be in a heavenly state and all the servants of God will live in the utmost joy happiness and gladness. We must all strive and concentrate all our thoughts in order that such happiness may accrue to the world of humanity.
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Abdu'l-Bahรก
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She could hear her hair growing. It sounded like something crumbling. A burnt thing crumbling. Coal. Toast. Moths crisped on a light bulb. She remembered reading somewhere that even after people died, their hair and nails kept growing. Like starlight, travelling through the universe long after the stars themselves had died. Like cities. Fizzy, effervescent, simulating the illusion of life while the planet they had plundered died around them.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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N O T H I N G
I would like to write one of those sophisticated stories in which even though nothing much happens thereโs lots to write about. That canโt be done in Kashmir. Itโs not sophisticated, what happens here. Thereโs too much blood for good literature.
Q 1: Why is it not sophisticated?
Q 2: What is the acceptable amount of blood for good literature?
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Be sure that your praise songs are numbered higher than your sorrowful dirges and your utmost hope, firmer than your woeful regrets. Be positive.
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Israelmore Ayivor
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Women are not allowed. Women are not allowed. Women are not allowed.
Was it to protect the grave from the women or the women from the grave?
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Life went on. Death went on. The war went on.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The purpose of life should be to attain happiness by serving humanity with love and utmost sincerity.
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Debasish Mridha
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This world belongs to our future generations, so we have to take utmost care of it.
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Debasish Mridha
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Having wounded each other thus, deeply, almost mortally, the two sat quietly side by side on someoneโs sunny grave, haemorrhaging.
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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India belongs not to Punjabis, Biharis, Gujaratis, Madrasis, Muslims, Sikhs, Hindus, Christians, but to those beautiful creaturesโpeacocks, elephants, tigers, bearsโฆ
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Normalcy was declared. (Normalcy was always a declaration.)
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Breathe gently here, for with fragility all is fraught, Here, in this workshop of the world, where wares of glass are wrought
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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An Urdu couplet by one of his favorite poets, Mir Taqi Mir: Jis sar ko ghurur aaj hai yaan taj-vari ka Kal uss pe yahin shor hai phir nauhagari ka The head which today proudly flaunts a crown Will tomorrow, right here, in lamentation drown.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Even if we tried our utmost best, it was all hopeless. We canโt do anything about those things. Weโre all human beings... so not everything will go out way. Itโs your decision to be happy or whatever. Whatโs most important here is โnowโ. We should work hard together to face the future fight.
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Koyoharu Gotouge (้ฌผๆป
ใฎๅ 11 [Kimetsu no Yaiba 11])
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Let men tremble to win the hand of woman, unless they win along with it the utmost passion of her heart! Else it may be their miserable fortune, as it was Roger Chillingworth's, when some mightier touch than their own may have awakened all her sensibilities, to be reproached even for the calm content, the marble image of happiness, which they will have imposed upon her as the warm reality. But Hester ought long ago to have done with this injustice. What did it betoken? Had seven long years, under the torture of the scarlet letter, inflicted so much of misery, and wrought out no repentance?
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Nathaniel Hawthorne (The Scarlet Letter)
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She wondered how to un-know certain things, certain specific things that she knew but did not wish to know. How to un-know, for example, that when people died of stone-dust, their lungs refused to be cremated.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Still the Amaltas bloomed, a brilliant, defiant yellow. Each blazing summer it reached up and whispered to the hot brown sky, Fuck You.
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Arundhati Roy
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To whom did it matter? Did those to whom it mattered matter?
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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History would be a revelation of the future as much as it was a study of the past.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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These days in Kashmir, you can be killed for surviving.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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All they have to do is to turn around and shoot. All the people have to do is to lie down and die.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She said, โIโm not marrying anybody.โ When I asked her why she felt that way, she said she wanted to be free to die irresponsibly, without notice and for no reason.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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She sensed that in some strange tangential way, he needed her shade as much as she needed his. And she had learned from experience that Need was a warehouse that could accommodate a considerable amount of cruelty.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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And yet , the burden of perpetual apprehension that she had carried around for years - of suddenly receiving news of death - had lightened somewhat. Not because she loved him any less, but because the battered angels in the graveyard that kept watch over their battered charges held open the doors between worlds (illegally, just a crack), so that the souls of the present and the departed could mingle, like guests at the same party. It made life less determinate and death less conclusive. Somehow everything became a little easier to bear.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The crowd made room for the press respectfully. It knew that without the journalists and photographers the massacre would be erased and the dead would truly die. So the bodies were offered to them, in hope and anger. A banquet of death.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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We went there to grope for our happiness, which all the world was threatening with the utmost ferocity. We were ashamed of wanting what we wanted, but something had to be done about it all the same. Love is harder to give up than life. In this world we spend our time killing or adoring, or both together. "I hate you! I adore you!" We keep going, we fuel and refuel, we pass on our life to a biped of the next century, with frenzy, at any cost, as if it were the greatest of pleasures to perpetuate ourselves, as if, when all's said and done, it would make us immortal. One way or another, kissing is as indispensable as scratching.
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Louis-Ferdinand Cรฉline
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With the sentiment of the stars and moon such nights I get all the free margins and indefiniteness of music or
poetry, fused in geometry's utmost exactness.
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Walt Whitman (Specimen Days)
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Socrates asked the key question:
why should we be moral?
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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They had always fitted together like pieces of an unsolved (and perhaps unsolvable) puzzle
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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In the end it didnโt matter of course.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The story ๏ฌared, then faded.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The frozen ๏ฌowers never go away. They hang around somewhere all the time. I think we need to talk about vases.
Did you hear the sound of the white ๏ฌower?
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Somehow the idea of dictating things, Tilo said, seemed to make her mother feel that she was still the captain of the ship, still in charge of something, and that calmed her down considerably.
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Arundhati Roy (Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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He told me that from now on, everything I did and everything he did was of the utmost importance: any word spoken, the slightest gesture, would take on a meaning, and everything that happened between us would change us continually. 'For that reason,'he said,'I wish I were able to suspend time at this moment and keep things exactly at this point, because I feel this instant is a true beginning. We have a definite but unknown quantity of experience at our disposal. As soon as the hourglass is turned, the sand will begin to run out and once it starts, it cannot stop until it's all gone. That's why I wish I could hold it back at the start. We should make a minimum of gestures, pronounce a minimum of words, even see each other as seldom as possible, if that would prolong things. We don't know how much of everything we have ahead of us so we have to take the greatest precautions not to destroy the beauty of what we have. Everything exists in limited quantity-especially happiness. If a love is to come into being, it is all written down somewhere, and also its duration and content. If you could arrive at the complete intensity the first day, it would be ended the first day. And so if it's something you want so much that you'd like to have it prolonged in time, you must be extremely careful not to make the slightest excessive demand that might prevent it from developing to the greatest extent over the longest period...If the wings of the butterfly are to keep their sheen, you mustn't touch them. We mustn't abuse something which is to bring light into both our lives. Everything else in my life only weighs me down and shuts out the light. This thing wih you seems like a window that is opening up. I want it to remain open...
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Franรงoise Gilot (Life With Picasso)
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She described how, when her brotherโs body was found in a field and brought home, his fists, clenched in rigor mortis, were full of earth and yellow mustard ๏ฌowers grew from between his fingers.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The habit of learning to appreciate to the utmost every situation in life adds wonderfully to the sum total of one's happiness. But many people are incapable of real happiness because they never learn to appreciate anything except that which appeals to their own comfort, pleasure, or appetite.
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Orison Swett Marden (The Joys of Living)
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I am weary of worldly gatherings, O Lord What pleasure in them, when the light in my heart is gone? From the clamor of crowds I flee, my heart seeks The kind of silence that would mesmerize speech itself
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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He sensed she was drifting on a tide that neither he nor she could do much about. He couldn't tell whether her restlessness, her compulsive and increasingly unsafe wandering through the city, marked the onset of an unsoundness of mind or an acute, perilous kind of sanity. Or were they both the same thing?
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The rain set early in tonight,
The sullen wind was soon awake,
It tore the elm-tops down for spite,
And did its worst to vex the lake:
I listened with heart fit to break.
When glided in Porphyria; straight
She shut the cold out and the storm,
And kneeled and made the cheerless grate
Blaze up, and all the cottage warm;
Which done, she rose, and from her form
Withdrew the dripping cloak and shawl,
And laid her soiled gloves by, untied
Her hat and let the damp hair fall,
And, last, she sat down by my side
And called me. When no voice replied,
She put my arm about her waist,
And made her smooth white shoulder bare,
And all her yellow hair displaced,
And, stooping, made my cheek lie there,
And spread, o'er all, her yellow hair,
Murmuring how she loved me โ she
Too weak, for all her heart's endeavor,
To set its struggling passion free
From pride, and vainer ties dissever,
And give herself to me forever.
But passion sometimes would prevail,
Nor could tonight's gay feast restrain
A sudden thought of one so pale
For love of her, and all in vain:
So, she was come through wind and rain.
Be sure I looked up at her eyes
Happy and proud; at last l knew
Porphyria worshiped me: surprise
Made my heart swell, and still it grew
While I debated what to do.
That moment she was mine, mine, fair,
Perfectly pure and good: I found
A thing to do, and all her hair
In one long yellow string l wound
Three times her little throat around,
And strangled her. No pain felt she;
I am quite sure she felt no pain.
As a shut bud that holds a bee,
I warily oped her lids: again
Laughed the blue eyes without a stain.
And l untightened next the tress
About her neck; her cheek once more
Blushed bright beneath my burning kiss:
I propped her head up as before,
Only, this time my shoulder bore
Her head, which droops upon it still:
The smiling rosy little head,
So glad it has its utmost will,
That all it scorned at once is fled,
And I, its love, am gained instead!
Porphyria's love: she guessed not how
Her darling one wish would be heard.
And thus we sit together now,
And all night long we have not stirred,
And yet God has not said aword!
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Robert Browning (Robert Browning's Poetry)
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Duniya ke mehfilon se ukta gaya hoon ya Rab
Kya lutf anjuman ka , jab dil hi bujh gaya ho
Shorish se bhagta hoon, dil dhoondta hai mera
Aisa sukoot jis pe taqreer bhi fida ho
I am weary of worldly gatherings, O Lord
What pleasure in them, when the light in my heart is gone?
From the clamour of crowds I flee, my heart seeks
The kind of silence that would mesmerize speech itself
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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Diclofenac, cow aspirin, given to cattle as a muscle relaxant, to ease pain and increase the production of milk, worksโworkedโlike nerve gas on white-backed vultures. Each chemically relaxed, milk-producing cow or buffalo that died became poisoned vulture bait.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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There was no tour guide on hand to tell her that in Kashmir nightmares were promiscuous. They were unfaithful to their owners, they cartwheeled wantonly into other peopleโs dreams, they acknowledged no precincts, they were the greatest ambush artists of all. No fortification, no fence-building could keep them in check. In Kashmir the only thing to do with nightmares was to embrace them like old friends and manage them like old enemies.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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When the sun grew hot, they returned indoors where they continued to float through their lives like a pair of astronauts, defying gravity, limited only by the outer walls of their fuchsia spaceship with its pale pistachio doors. It isnโt as though they didnโt have plans. Anjum waited to die. Saddam waited to kill.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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When we strike a balance between the challenge of an activity and our skill at performing it, when the rhythm of the work itself feels in sync with our pulse, when we know that what we're doing matters, we can get totally absorbed in our task. That is happiness.
The life coach Martha Beck asks new potential clients, "Is there anything you do regularly that makes you forget what time it is?"
That forgetting -- that pure absorption -- is what the psychologist Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi calls "flow" or optimal experience. In an interview with Wired magazine, he described flow as "being completely involved in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you're using your skills to the utmost."
In a typical day that teeters between anxiety and boredom, flow experiences are those flashes of intense living -- bright against the dull. These optimal experiences can happen when we're engaged in work paid and unpaid, in sports, in music, in art.
The researchers Maria Allison and Margaret Duncan have studied the role of flow in women's lives and looked at factors that contributed to what they call "antiflow." Antiflow was associated with repetitive household tasks, repetitive tasks at work, unchallenging tasks, and work we see as meaningless. But there's an element of chaos when it comes to flow. Even if we're doing meaningful and challenging work, that sense of total absoprtion can elude us. We might get completely and beautifully lost in something today, and, try as we might to re-create the same conditions tomorrow, our task might jsut feel like, well, work.
In A Life of One's Own, Marion Milner described her effort to re-create teh conditions of her own recorded moments of happiness, saying, "Often when I felt certain that I had discovered the little mental act which produced the change I walked on air, exulting that I had found the key to my garden of delight and could slip through the door whenever I wished. But most often when I came again the place seemed different, the door overgrown with thorns and my key stuck in the lock. It was as if the first time I had said 'abracadabra' the door had opened, but the next time I must use a different word. (123-124).
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Ariel Gore (Bluebird: Women and the New Psychology of Happiness)
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But the man who, by dint of long study and sober reflection, has succeeded in training his mind not to detect evil in anything, to consider all human actions with the utmost indifference, to regard them all as the inevitable consequences of a power - however it's defined - which is sometimes good and sometimes perverse but always irresistible, and gives rise to both what men approve and to what they condemn and never allows anything to distract or thwart its operations, such a man, I say, as you will agree, sir, may be as happy behaving as I behave as you are in the career which you follow. Happiness is an abstraction, a product of the imagination. It is one manner of being moved and depends exclusively on our way of seeing and feeling. Apart from the satisfaction of our needs, there is no single thing which makes all men happy. Every day we observe one man made happy by the circumstance which makes his neighbour supremely miserable. There is therefore nothing which guarantees happiness. It can only exist for us in the form given to it by our physical constitution and our philosophical principles. [...] Nothing in the world is real, nothing which merits praise or blame, nothing deserving reward or punishment, nothing which is unlawful here and perfectly legal five hundred leagues away, in other words, there is no unchanging, universal good.
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Marquis de Sade (The Crimes of Love)
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Once you have fallen off the edge like all of us have, including our Biroo,โ Anjum said, โyou will never stop falling. And as you fall you will hold on to other falling people. The sooner you understand that the better. This place where we live, where we have made our home, is the place of falling people. Here there is no haqeeqat. Arre, even we arenโt real. We donโt really exist.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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It little profits that an idle king,
By this still hearth, among these barren crags,
Matched with an aged wife, I mete and dole
Unequal laws unto a savage race,
That hoard, and sleep, and feed, and know not me.
I cannot rest from travel; I will drink
life to the lees. All times I have enjoyed
Greatly, have suffered greatly, both with those
that loved me, and alone; on shore, and when
Through scudding drifts the rainy Hyades
Vexed the dim sea. I am become a name;
For always roaming with a hungry heart
Much have I seen and known---cities of men
And manners, climates, councils, governments,
Myself not least, but honored of them all---
And drunk delight of battle with my peers,
Far on the ringing plains of windy Troy.
I am part of all that I have met;
Yet all experience is an arch wherethrough
Gleams that untraveled world whose margin fades
Forever and forever when I move.
How dull it is to pause, to make an end.
To rust unburnished, not to shine in use!
As though to breathe were life! Life piled on life
Were all too little, and of one to me
Little remains; but every hour is saved
From that eternal silence, something more,
A bringer of new things; and vile it were
For some three suns to store and hoard myself,
And this gray spirit yearning in desire
To follow knowledge like a sinking star,
Beyond the utmost bound of human thought.
This is my son, my own Telemachus,
To whom I leave the scepter and the isle---
Well-loved of me, discerning to fulfill
This labor, by slow prudence to make mild
A rugged people, and through soft degrees
Subdue them to the useful and the good.
Most blameless is he, centered in the sphere
Of common duties, decent not to fail
In offices of tenderness, and pay
Meet adoration to my household gods,
When I am gone. He works his work, I mine.
There lies the port; the vessel puffs her sail;
There gloom the dark, broad seas. My mariners,
Souls that have toiled, and wrought, and thought with me---
That ever with a frolic welcome took
The thunder and the sunshine, and opposed
Free hearts, free foreheads---you and I are old;
Old age hath yet his honor and his toil.
Death closes all; but something ere the end,
Some work of noble note, may yet be done,
Not unbecoming men that strove with gods.
The lights begin to twinkle from the rocks;
The long day wanes; the slow moon climbs; the deep
Moans round with many voices. Come, my friends.
'Tis not too late to seek a newer world.
Push off, and sitting well in order smite
the sounding furrows; for my purpose holds
To sail beyond the sunset, and the baths
Of all the western stars, until I die.
It may be that the gulfs will wash us down;
It may be that we shall touch the Happy Isles,
And see the great Achilles, whom we knew.
Though much is taken, much abides; and though
We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are---
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.
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Alfred Tennyson
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She remembered reading somewhere that even after people died, their hair and nails kept growing. Like starlight, traveling through the universe long after the stars themselves had died. Like cities. Fizzy, effervescent, simulating the illusion of life while the planet they had plundered died around them.
She thought of the city at night, of cities at night. Discarded constellations of old stars, fallen from the sky, rearranged on earth in patterns and pathways and towers.
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Arundhati Roy (The Ministry of Utmost Happiness)
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The bulk of the population of every country is persuaded that all marriage customs other than its own are immoral, and that those who combat this view do so only in order to justify their own loose lives. In India, the remarriage of widows is traditionally regarded as a thing too horrible to contemplate. In Catholic countries divorce is thought very wicked, but some failure of conjugal fidelity is tolerated, at least in men. In America divorce is easy, but extra-conjugal relations are condemned with the utmost severity. Mohammedans believe in polygamy, which we think degrading. All these differing opinions are held with extreme vehemence, and very cruel persecutions are inflicted upon those who contravene them. Yet no one in any of the various countries makes the slightest attempt to show that the custom of his own country contributes more to human happiness than the custom of others.
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Bertrand Russell (The Will to Doubt)
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Beyond these the flowers were more frequent, but paler, less glossy, more thickly seeded, more tightly folded, and disposed, by accident, in festoons so graceful that I would fancy I saw floating upon the stream, as though after the dreary stripping of the decorations used in some Watteau festival, moss-roses in loosened garlands. Elsewhere a corner seemed to be reserved for the commoner kinds of lily; of a neat pink or white like rocket-flowers, washed clean like porcelain, with housewifely care; while, a little farther again, were others, pressed close together in a floating garden-bed, as though pansies had flown out of a garden like butterflies and were hovering with blue and burnished wings over the transparent shadowiness of this watery border; this skiey border also, for it set beneath the flowers a soil of a colour more precious, more moving than their own; and both in the afternoon, when it sparkled beneath the lilies in the kaleidoscope of a happiness silent, restless, and alert, and towards evening, when it was filled like a distant heaven with the roseate dreams of the setting sun, incessantly changing and ever remaining in harmony, about the more permanent colour of the flowers themselves, with the utmost profundity, evanescence, and mystery โ with a quiet suggestion of infinity; afternoon or evening, it seemed to have set them flowering in the heart of the sky.
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Marcel Proust (In Search of Lost Time [volumes 1 to 7])
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The concept of happiness is not one which man abstracts more or less from his instincts and so derives from his animal nature. It is, on the contrary, a mere idea of a state, and one to which he seeks to make his actual state of being adequate under purely empirical conditions--an impossible task. He projects this idea himself, and, thanks to his intellect, and its complicated relations with imagination and sense, projects it in such different ways, and even alters his concept so often, that were nature a complete slave to his elective will, it would nevertheless be utterly unable to adopt any definite, universal and fixed law by which to accommodate itself to this fluctuating concept and so bring itself into accord with the end that each individual arbitrarily sets before himself. But even if we sought to reduce this concept to the level of the true wants of nature in which our species is in complete and fundamental accord, or, trying the other alternative, sought to increase to the highest level man's skill in reaching his imagined ends, nevertheless what man means by happiness, and what in fact constitutes his peculiar ultimate physical end, as opposed to the end of freedom, would never be attained by him. For his own nature is not so constituted as to rest or be satisfied in any possession or enjoyment whatever. Also external nature is far from having made a particular favorite of man or from having preferred him to all other animals as the object of its beneficence. For we see that in its destructive operations--plague, famine, flood, cold, attacks from animals great and small, and all such things--it has as little spared him as any other animal. But, besides all this, the discord of inner natural tendencies betrays man into further misfortunes of his own invention, and reduces other members of his species, through the oppression of lordly power, the barbarism of wars, and the like, to such misery, while he himself does all he can to work ruin to his race, that, even with the utmost goodwill on the part of external nature, its end, supposing it were directed to the happiness of our species, would never be attained in a system of terrestrial nature, because our own nature is not capable of it. Man, therefore, is ever but a link in the chain of nature's ends.
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Immanuel Kant (Critique of Judgment)