Upile Chisala Quotes

it is when we don't believe we are enough for ourselves that we start looking for people to drown in.

I am dripping melanin and honey. I am black without apology.

fighting sadness is necessary war.

get in the habit of celebrating yourself from skin to marrow, you are magic.

and today, your bones gathered your skin and said 'Come on, let's do it again

Today and all days, I am thankful for women of color who love/write/create/emote from the root and never apologize for their magic.

He has found galaxies in between the thighs of other girls and suddenly the world I was planning to offer him just isn't enough

I hope you never stop talking about your dreams and what you want out of this rough, beautiful life.

honey, you need to say the thing before it forms a storm in your chest. you can't keep carrying anger in your bones because you are too afraid of letting poison out. freeing yourself from the thing won't make you serpentine.

all the lovely women living in your blood are trying to teach you their soft magic, please pay attention to them.

I write you poems because God spoke the universe into existence, so don’t ever let me hear you say that words are just words. that words don’t leave a mark, make a change, create where once was nothing.

now that I know the soft magic of your laugh and how your body moves like art, why would I ever go back? what was before you?

You do yourself and those who could love you a disservice when you make yourself smaller; when you eat your words or use less of your light.

I hope to do with words what dancers do with limbs.

Darling, you deserve a full meal of love. Stop snacking.

don’t ever let me hear you say that words are just words. that words don’t leave a mark, make a change, create where once was nothing.

Don’t stay angry at the world too long.

here you are, black and woman and in love with yourself. you are terrifying. they are terrified. (as they should be)

Please try not to cheat yourself out of happiness You deserve all the damned chances and all the damned tries

you were the first thing outside of myself that I looked at and felt connected to, do you understand this?

Do not accept the love of a man who makes you feel small, the universe is already so vast. 2. You are innately beautiful and completely irreplaceable. 3. You don’t have to go far to find love and validation, start from within. 4. Boys are boys and men are mean, tell them apart. 5. Be alone often, as you are, but don’t that turn into loneliness. 6. Remember to remain gentle. 7. Don’t stay angry at the world too long. Seek out life in little things and move past sadness. 8. Touch somebody, with your hands or with your heart, with your words or with your silence. Share yourself. 9. Celebrate your skin. 10. Be yourself and never apologize for being someone you love.  

My darling, you are the color of the earth you inherited holy. Let no one silence the goodness inyour bones. Let no one ever make you doubt your might. You are important.

Touch somebody, with your hands or with your heart, with your words or with your silence.

people who only wish to stifle your bloom, do not belong in your garden.

darling, I am a country you shouldn’t go near. I am at war with myself.

Trust me I know how to fix myself, how to mend and burn and bend and shape, I know how to make myself something new, so don't stay around out of pity, leave me broken and I will find my way back to wholeness

Your mother was a myth. Your father was a story. But that never kept you from loving deeply. Even absence is a teacher.

I am dripping melanin and honey I am black without apology.

Get in the habit of celebrating yourself from skin to marrow. You are magic.

My father gave me math. My mother gave me magic. I have been using both to love you.

Tell me all the stories that start in your smile and end in your eyes.

You were the first thing outside of myself that I looked at and felt connected to, do you understand this?

If you got out of bed today and chose to face the world, I'm proud of you. If you're still struggling to, I'm rooting for you.

If no one has called you brave lately, I will. You are fighting sadness with everything you've got and for that you are mighty.

Be careful with how you choose to love people, Don't destroy them, Don't destroy yourself.

Darling, There is no such thing as a coin with one side. I am both honey and lemon.

Darling, fighting sadness with the bottle hasn't worked for anyone in your bloodline yet. Make a warm meal instead. Wear something clean, meet the day, and do the work of living.

I must warn you, There is soft juju in my thighs.

Please Feed your sons the same softness you feed your daughters.

Darling, your body is not a burial ground for the insecurities of others.

Yes, I've got all kinds of misery. I've got it and it's got me. But I've been growing the language to cast it out. And the feet to dance it gone. And the bravery to let something kinder take its place.

Tomorrow, you might remember these things differently. Maybe with less angst, less spite, less water in your eyes. Tomorrow, these things might not hurt you as much.

Crie o hábito de celebrar a si mesma da pele à medula dos ossos. Você é pura magia.

Você é aterrorizantemente incrível. E eles ficam incrivelmente aterrorizados.

we used to burn for each other, remember?

Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is thankless heart work.

Fall for yourself, shamelessly.