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The Girlfriend 911 Cheat Sheet:
1) Change your behavior, and you’ll change his.
2) Create a high standard for yourself.
3) Create a boundary for yourself and for him.
4) Allow him to take the lead every step of the way. It’s a chess game. He makes his move, then you make yours.
5) Don’t contact him unless he contacts you first. Don’t play games or lead him on if you’re not interested. Always be honest and up-front with your intentions.
6) Pay close attention to signs and red flags. Don’t ignore them. When you see one, figure out what it means and act accordingly.
7) If you want a long-term relationship, postpone sleeping with him. Wait until a good amount of time has gone by, both of you are on the same page, and you both want to be in a committed relationship. If there’s any doubt on his part, don’t sleep with him. If he tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, take him at his word and move on.
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Jacquee Kahn
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JAY: Why is a story more upfront than life?
LENORE: It just seems more honest, somehow.
JAY: Honest meaning closer to the truth?
LENORE: I smell trap.
JAY: I smell breakthrough. The truth is that there's no difference between a life and a story? But a life pretends to be something more? But it really isn't more?
LENORE: I would kill for a shower.
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David Foster Wallace (The Broom of the System)
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I Don’t Even Like Him—How Can I Pray for Him? Have you ever been so mad at your husband that the last thing you wanted to do was pray for him? So have I. It’s hard to pray for someone when you’re angry or he’s hurt you. But that’s exactly what God wants us to do. If He asks us to pray for our enemies, how much more should we be praying for the person with whom we have become one and are supposed to love? But how do we get past the unforgiveness and critical attitude? The first thing to do is be completely honest with God. In order to break down the walls in our hearts and smash the barriers that stop communication, we have to be totally up-front with the Lord about our feelings. We don’t have to “pretty it up” for Him. He already knows the truth. He just wants to see if we’re willing to admit it and confess it as disobedience to His ways. If so, He
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Stormie Omartian (The Power of a Praying® Wife)
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I don't deny that impulse drew us together, but while physical gratification began and ended it for you, in making love, dumbo here——' she jerked a thumb at her chest '—was also demonstrating that she cared.'
His tongue moistened his lips. 'You're very up-front, aren't you?'
'You mean none of your other rejects have ever looked you in the eye and complained?' Sian queried. She might have made things easy last night, but she refused to make anything easy for him now. 'I suppose you'd prefer it if I shrugged my shoulders, muttered something about it being nice while it lasted, and filed the experience away under lessons learned? Well, sorry, but for me, and for most women if they're honest, going to bed with someone is a darn sight more complicated than that!
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Elizabeth Oldfield (An Accidental Affair)
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I have said this all My Life. Be honest I am an easy going person and I realize no one is perfect, We all have faults and issues. If you can't be upfront and honest I do not have time for you!
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Charles Elwood Hudson
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Service is not about being up-front and honest. Service is about minimizing negatives and creating the illusion of perfection. Here’s how it’s done: Lie. Smile. Finesse. Barter. Convince. Lie again. Smile again.
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Jacob Tomsky (Heads in Beds: A Reckless Memoir of Hotels, Hustles, and So-Called Hospitality)
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Service is not about being up-front and honest. Service is about minimizing negatives and creating the illusion of perfection.
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Jacob Tomsky (Heads in Beds: A Reckless Memoir of Hotels, Hustles, and So-Called Hospitality)
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Being honest and upfront about the very real limitations I experience because of my pain is not “being a pessimist.” People are allowed to feel how they feel, myself included. It is not up to others to decide whether or not the emotions someone is experiencing are valid or not. No one on earth was appointed Gatekeeper of Valid Emotions.
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Lara Parker (Vagina Problems: Endometriosis, Painful Sex, and Other Taboo Topics)
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Upfront investment is proof of long-term commitment, which is a guarantor of honest behaviour.
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Rory Sutherland (Alchemy: The Surprising Power of Ideas That Don't Make Sense)
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How about you?”
“I’m pretty upfront,” he responds, his tone casual but honest. “No names, no attachments . . . never callbacks.”
“So your number is really big, huh?”
“Not really. I’ve never had a relationship or been in love. I consider it zero. You on the other hand have tried fifteen times to fall in love—find your soulmate. I think that’s brave. Many would’ve given up by now.
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Kendall Hale (The Ex-cavenger Hunt (Happily Ever Mishaps, #1))
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People would say, “No, no, don’t be offended by Orion, he’s Autistic. He’s very upfront. He’s very honest. His words sound really frank and honest, maybe a bit harsh, but he does it for the right reasons. His brain thinks in open and direct ways of communicating.
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Orion Kelly (Autism Feels ...: An Earthling's Guide)
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refreshingly honest and upfront;
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Yvonne McHale (The Trials and Tribulations of a Headteacher (words of wisdom from a wise old owl))
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Experiencing the extreme lows, and being honest with the people in my life, up-front with how I was feeling…this was key to moving through my dark emotions.
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Hillary Allen (Out and Back)
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I think the whole team is pretty upfront and honest. If you don't like something everyone knows. And I think that's good because that's the way my brain works. I'm not very good at lying and sugar coating things. So yeah, it's a great environment to work in. We get shit done.
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Harley Stretton