Ttc Quotes

Charlie Chaplin once said, “The difference between tragedy and comedy is distance.” Up close, things seem tragic. Distance yourself from it, and you get comedy. The formula T+T=C (Tragedy plus Time equals Comedy) seems to reinforce this concept.

Back in the twentieth century, American girls had used baseball terminology. “First base” referred to embracing and kissing; “second base” referred to groping and fondling and deep, or “French,” kissing, commonly known as “heavy petting”; “third base” referred to fellatio, usually known in polite conversation by the ambiguous term “oral sex”; and “home plate” meant conception-mode intercourse, known familiarly as “going all the way.” In the year 2000, in the era of hooking up, “first base” meant deep kissing (“tonsil hockey”), groping, and fondling; “second base” meant oral sex; “third base” meant going all the way; and “home plate” meant learning each other’s names. Getting to home plate was relatively rare, however. The typical Filofax entry in the year 2000 by a girl who had hooked up the night before would be: “Boy with black Wu-Tang T-shirt and cargo pants: O, A, 6.” Or “Stupid cock diesel”—slang for a boy who was muscular from lifting weights—“who kept saying, ‘This is a cool deal’: TTC, 3.” The letters referred to the sexual acts performed (e.g., TTC for “that thing with the cup”), and the Arabic number indicated the degree of satisfaction on a scale of 1 to 10. In the year 2000, girls used “score” as an active verb indicating sexual conquest, as in: “The whole thing was like very sketchy, but I scored that diesel who said he was gonna go home and caff up [drink coffee in order to stay awake and study] for the psych test.” In the twentieth century, only boys had used “score” in that fashion, as in: “I finally scored with Susan last night.” That girls were using such a locution points up one of the ironies of the relations between the sexes in the year 2000. The continuing vogue of feminism had made sexual life easier, even insouciant, for men. Women had been persuaded that they should be just as active as men when it came to sexual advances. Men were only too happy to accede to the new order, since it absolved them of all sense of responsibility

It’s strange territory, this desertland between maidenhood and motherhood. I suppose it was ingrained from an early age that one stage naturally and effortlessly follows the next. Yet, here I stand, longing to make that transition, both ready and eager to enter an elusive place, the door to which remains tightly shut. So, I rest on the periphery, a wandering nomadic drifter waiting my turn. I am lost in an eternal dance of emotion, shifting between hopefulness, grief, frustration and fear. Some days I feel strongly that my time is coming soon and I will be a mother. Other days I am impatient and not so sure it will ever happen for me.

perspective distortion to the extreme, if you go all the way to the TTC, those bursts behind the castle will appear huge in relation to the castle.

Are you TTC? You probably are, if you’re reading this book—yet you may not have the slightest idea of what “TTC” means (it’s short for “trying to conceive”).

Г. Е. ЗИНОВЬЕВУ 26/VI. 1918. Также Лашевичу и другим членам Τ TTC Тов. Зиновьев! Только сегодня мы услыхали в ЦК, что в Питере рабочие хотели от­ветить на убийство Володарского массовым террором и что вы (не Вы лично, а питер­ские цекисты или пекисты) удержали. Протестую решительно! Мы компрометируем себя: грозим даже в резолюциях Совдепа массовым террором, а когда до дела, тормозим революционную инициативу масс, вполне правильную. Это не—воз—мож—но! Террористы будут считать нас тряпками. Время архивоенное. Надо поощрять энер­гию и массовидность террора против контрреволюционеров, и особенно в Питере, пример коего решает. Привет! Ленин P. S. Отряды и отряды: используйте победу на перевыборах. Если питерцы двинут тысяч 10—20 в Тамбовскую губернию и на Урал и т. п., и себя спасут и всю рево­люцию, вполне и наверное. Урожай гигантский, дотянуть только несколько недель.

How does one navigate this territory in the interim? This tricky place of peripheral connection to motherhood? Also, considering that the partial or what I’ve taken to calling ‘perimatrescence’ triggers not only the desire to have a baby, but also awakens the need to express and share your nurturing or mothering qualities - How do you give yourself permission to nurture or embody your ‘mothering heart’, so to speak? In other words, how do you express the energy of the wild mother archetype in daily life while you are still journeying towards motherhood?