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Beauty is power; a smile is tls sword.

Paper remains the standard to which digital media can only aspire.

Secure Sockets Layer (SSL) Stripping Secure sockets layer (SSL) stripping is a man in the middle attack against all SSL and early versions of TLS connections. The attack is performed anywhere a man in the middle attack can happen, which makes wireless hotspots a prime location. The attack works by intercepting the initial connection request for HTTPS, redirecting it to an HTTP site, and then mediating in the middle. The reason the attack works is because the beginning of an SSL or TLS (v1.0 or v1.1) handshake is vulnerable to attack. The main defense is technical: only use TLS 1.2 or 1.3, as these versions have protections against the specific attack method.

How others see me is how I see myself. When others see me as good, smart, attractive, important and other positive things, I can see myself that way and I like that a lot. I also need these reflections because I have no ability to create a stable self-image, so if I can't find anyone to reflect a positive image of myself back to me, my self-worth crashes and I have no way to do anything about it. I literally live on the opinions of others. If others do not verify my existence through giving me some kind of reflection and feedback via reactions to me, I cannot see myself. I do not exist. And remember, "positive" in this context doesn't necessarily mean "good." That is ideal and would probably always be the preferred situation, but many, many narcissistic people can survive on mostly negative attention, too. As long as their existence can be verified through reactions (attention) and they can experience themselves as important in some way - even if it's by making other people angry or upset at them, or through hurting others - that is enough. Some masochistic or sadistic narcissists may have even learned to thrive on negative attention and may gear their efforts toward doing things that constantly result in them being punished or in punishing others.

This is one of the reasons it can be so hard to prove you are a victim of narcissistic abuse. For instance, your behavior toward the narcissist as a result of being terrorized, abused, gaslighted, manipulated, tricked, put in no-win situations, and lied to for so long could come across as abusive to people who don't understand the situation. That's one of the dangers of pathologizing behavior instead of understanding the entire situation.

This propensity for living in the moment can manifest in various different ways. One of the most troublesome ones for people dealing with pathologically narcissistic loved ones is the manifestation of this mindset as poor impulse control. It often seems that narcissistic people cannot let opportunities pass them up. Whether it is sleeping with people, reckless spending, quitting jobs, binge drinking and using drugs, stealing, gambling, rage behavior or any other type of impulsive behavior, this is one of the most dangerous aspects of toxic narcissism.

For you, considering the feelings and experiences of others is second nature; you couldn't stop doing it if you tried. It's very easy to make the mistake of assuming everyone is like that, but think of all the times the narcissistic person in your life had to be reminded to consider other people's feelings, of all the times they legitimately did not seem to understand that other people even have feelings or needs. Think of all the times you had to explain basic respect, consideration and decency to this adult human being. No one is that good of an actor. These personalities are genuinely shocked and confused when you remind them that other people exist in this way. They don't recognize this fact or care. Watch their eyes when you try to point it out. It does not compute for them in any real way.

One of the most common and consistent ways that this mindset presents itself is as ingratitude. Pathologically narcissistic people are often very dismissive of the things that others have done for them in the past if they are not getting what they want in the moment. It doesn't seem to matter how much you have done for this person. The minute you say no, you are punitively withholding. If you have given them $100 yesterday, they want another $100 today or you never give them anything because you're selfish. If you spent the whole day with them today and you can't tomorrow, you never spend any time with them because you hate them. There is no end to the need with this type of person and no way to give them enough so that they will be satisfied. You could give to your absolute limit every day and they will still want more.

1. It must work. 2. It must be secure. 3. It should be as fast as reasonably possible. 4. It must be modular/extensible. 5. It must be easy to read/understand.

local 111.111.111.111 dev tun proto udp port 1194 ca /etc/openvpn/easy-rsa/keys/ca.crt cert /etc/openvpn/easy-rsa/keys/SERVERNAME.crt # TBD - Change SERVERNAME to your Server name key /etc/openvpn/easy-rsa/keys/SERVERNAME.key # TBD - Change SERVERNAME to your Server name dh /etc/openvpn/easy-rsa/keys/dh1024.pem    # TBD - Change if not using 2048 bit encryption server 10.8.0.0 255.255.255.0 ifconfig 10.8.0.1 10.8.0.2 push "route 10.8.0.1 255.255.255.255" push "route 10.8.0.0 255.255.255.0" push "route 111.111.111.111 255.255.255.0" push "dhcp-option DNS 222.222.222.222" push "redirect-gateway def1" client-to-client duplicate-cn keepalive 10 120 tls-auth /etc/openvpn/easy-rsa/keys/ta.key 0 comp-lzo persist-key persist-tun user nobody group nogroup cipher AES-128-CBC log /var/log/openvpn.log status /var/log/openvpn-status.log 20 verb 1 Note: To paste in

they will only implement http2 over TLS: the Mozilla Firefox lead and the Google Chrome lead. Two of the leading web browsers of today.

Described as “an immersive experience in dynamic mindfulness,” the Transformative Life Skills (TLS) program was developed by the Niroga Institute in collaboration with Jennifer Frank, a professor at Penn State University. The program combines mindful yoga, breathing techniques, and meditation to help children and youth deal with life challenges with greater confidence and peace.

The Niroga Institute also offers a professional development program to prepare teachers and others to teach the TLS curriculum.

People can lie. They can be wrong. They can misunderstand. But patterns don't lie, and they aren't wrong. They are reliable when someone's real-time words or behavior are not.

Then there is the curious phenomenon that happens in which a person who is actually not pathologically narcissistic at the beginning of the relationship takes on narcissistic traits and behaviors picked up from the narcissistic person. Toxic narcissism really is "contagious" in this way. Part of the reason for this phenomenon is self-defense due to the abuse, manipulation and punishment received from the narcissist; the narcissist inflicts the same injuries on other people as were inflicted on them and if it goes on long enough, the other people will begin to react the same way. Part of it is because, due to the narcissist's endless campaigning and salesmanship, the person has become convinced that the narcissist's way of doing, thinking or acting is better, and part of it is because this is the type of behavior the environment supports.

This is one of the main functions of relationships for narcissists: they require others to take delivery of their packages. Their pain, their anger, their shame, their frustration, their failure, their inability. Someone has to answer for all of those things and it can't be the narcissist themselves; they cannot tolerate it. It is possible that many are not even capable of it by now. They must simply offload these things onto others, and the things must be received or they cannot be gone. That's where you come in. You are the person who is required to take all of these things. If you don't, you're considered to be a bad person who doesn't care - or whatever else will make you feel bad enough to do it.

One of the most difficult things to deal with when you are dealing with narcissistic people is the level of punishment involved in these relationships. Whether it is physically assaulting you, smearing you to others behind your back, freezing you out in cold silence, calling you names, throwing tantrums when they don't get their way, doing things on purpose to make you angry or jealous, disappearing to worry, upset or scare you, trying to make you feel guilty or otherwise bad, withholding things you want or need, destroying your things, cheating on you, or anything else, there has most likely been a large amount of punitive behavior on the part of the narcissistic person you're dealing with regardless of the type of relationship.

Mirroring is the reason we often find that superficial relationships are more important to the narcissist than those with family or people who know them well. The reflection they perceive from those who know them is not perfect. A lot of times, in fact, it's awful. Even if it isn't, they often perceive it to be, because how could it not be? But those who do not know the narcissist have not been tainted with knowledge of the narcissist's abusive, reckless or uncaring behavior. They are pure in that sense and the image they mirror back to the narcissist reflects that.

Through the process of mirroring, the narcissist presents a "good" image of themselves to someone and receives approval, admiration, sympathy or whatever from the other person in return. They are not doing it to benefit the other person in any way, no matter how it looks. It is done only so that the other person "reflects" positive feelings about the narcissist back to them like a mirror - which they then process into temporary self-worth. It's the only way they have to create any, because as stated earlier, they cannot create their own. Through careful examination of the narcissist's relationships, this behavior often becomes very obvious. Love-bombing is a perfect example of narcissistic mirroring and it's one of the reasons love-bombing is not proof that narcissists can give in relationships. Love-bombing is not giving - ever. It's taking.

Most people cannot stand up in the face of this for as long as it would take for the narcissist to realize that this behavior will not work any longer. Even when it does not include violence, it can include hours, days or even weeks of nonstop harassment, insults, accusations, begging, pleading, screaming, sobbing, hysteria, threats of self-harm or suicide, threats of violence, breaking things, silent treatment, constant attempts at manipulation, constant selling and pitching and convincing... Most of these personalities will legitimately beat you to death psychologically and wear you down over time. Most people simply cannot stand up to this without reacting somehow, and then the narcissist's behavior has been rewarded (even though this is completely unintentional on the other person's part), thus reinforcing it further and helping to guarantee that it will continue.

They can only see, interpret and understand things as far as how the things affect them. This is really important to understand, because it underscores the futility of trying to get through to these personalities, or trying to get them to recognize something outside of themselves. If they are pathologically narcissistic, they don't have this capability - period. What many people interpret as narcissists "playing dumb" in this area is often the narcissist's legitimate inability to see what the other person sees. There is a supreme selfishness and self-focus here, so total and all-encompassing that there is not even an ability to see the selfishness and self-focus. It's too big to see. It's like trying to look at the earth while you're standing on it.

Narcissistic people use others as mirrors to see themselves the same way that very small children do, as we discussed. Whatever their reflection is in whatever particular mirror will determine how they can feel about themselves at that time. If someone has a negative opinion of them, the narcissist's image in the reflection will be negative and unpleasant. If someone has a positive opinion of them, the narcissist's image in the reflection will be positive and pleasant. This is very obvious in the way they value the opinions of strangers over those who know them; the reflection from strangers is usually more positive because that person does not know the narcissist.

The Big Con – perhaps the biggest and most damaging con – regarding narcissists is the impression that you're dealing with a whole adult person in the first place. You're not.

That is usually done using one of the three Ds: denying the thing, defending against the thing by deflecting it away from them somehow (and often onto others), or by detonating so that the offending person leaves them alone.

This is not a person who can understand that other people matter. This is not a person who understands that they don't understand that. This isn't even a person who can be told that they don't understand that.

And they don't care when they're told because what does it have to do with them? They don't see the problem. It's beyond not caring; it's not even seeing. It's not even comprehending that this is a thing.

The Big Con – perhaps the biggest and most damaging con – regarding narcissists is the impression that you're dealing with a whole adult person in the first place.

They are things that people don't like or that make them uncomfortable. Narcissists are not capable of tolerating even mild distress, so facing consequences of any kind feels extremely punitive and cruel to them. It also triggers shame in them, which magnifies the negative interal experience they are having quite a bit.

This is the same for narcissists by the way, and it's the reason why we don't need to wonder if they will ever treat some other person differently or better. The answer is NO. They see everybody the same, just like every other human being does. They don't see everyone the way that you do, no, but that doesn't mean they don't see them all the same as each other. They do, and you can actually see that when you look at relationships over the course of their lives. The way we humans treat other humans is not about the other humans. It's about us, and narcissists are no different in this regard.

This is what is meant by, "When you fall in love with a narcissist, you've fallen in love with yourself." Not only are they mimicking your behavior and things like that, but they are reflecting an idealized image of yourself back to you. That is really what initially captivates most people in these situations. It isn't that the narcissist themselves was so amazing. It's that they treated you like you were.

Instead of drawing sustenance through the reflection from this amazing perfect person that loves them -which made them feel perfect and good, they draw it from punishing and shaming this person who lied and betrayed them - which makes them feel strong, superior and vindicated. Or perhaps they simply leave the relationship altogether when they find another person who will again be their perfect reflection. For now.

There is no understanding from the narcissistic person of sacrifices made for them, of the hardship they are encouraging for another person, of gratitude, of anything. If you can't afford it - emotionally, financially, or any other way - there is no recognition of this, no empathy for it. It just doesn't matter. All that matters is that you give them what they want. What they need. If you don't, they will often mistreat you until you do. They may freeze you out in cold silence, cut you off, rage and terrorize the house, become hysterical, depressed, suicidal or engage in any manner of other behaviors designed to torment, harass and punish you until you do.

Dealing with a narcissistic person is a situation that cannot be comprehended if someone has not experienced it. It is very difficult for empathetic, caring people to understand the extent of the selfishness, the pernicious lack of empathy, the callousness, the indifference, the level of pathology and the abuse that is inherent to the pathologically narcissistic personality, and it is even more difficult for caring people to understand the toll this takes on someone who feels trapped in the web of such a person. There is a reason people who finally escape these relationships are so often diagnosed with PTSD. It is like being at war in your own home.

The worst position you can be in with a narcissist is when they have something you want, or even worse - something you need. By definition, this automatically puts them in the power position and not only do they believe they need to hold onto that literally for dear life, many of them enjoy it.

The more you want or need the thing, the harder you try to get it, the more you ask for it, the more power they feel like they have and just like little children, they often become cruel and mean about it because empathy is a function of maturity. Narcissistic adults don't appear to consider or care about what the thing is that they are withholding, probably because it doesn't really matter. What matters is that they have it and you want it, and giving it to you would be giving up the power position.