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Your childhood trained you to believe you’d always be invited, friendship would be easy, that you’d see your friends all the time—and something fun would always be going on. And then BOOM. You enter your 20s, and into a phase of friendship I call the Great Scattering. The Great Scattering looks like this: High school or college ends, and all friends scatter in different directions. Suddenly, everyone is living in different places, and very soon, all your friends are on different timelines, working different jobs, hanging out with different people, and achieving milestones at different paces. And the structure that supported all your friendships is gone. That’s why you feel a tremendous loss of control about every aspect of your life.
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