Thibaut Meurisse Quotes

Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality, by understanding that we don’t need people.

Your attitude towards life influences your happiness, not what happens to you.

With practice, you learn to distance yourself from thoughts, reducing their power and their impact.

Focus acts like an ax. If you try to cut down a tree by hitting it in thousands of different spots, you’ll never succeed. But when you focus and hit the same spot over and over, you can cut down even the biggest tree. With laser-sharp focus you can achieve almost anything you desire.

Trick #3—excitement is not the same thing as fulfillment

What it means is that, in the long run, external events have minimal impact on your level of happiness.

The mind in its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of Hell, a hell of Heaven. ​— ​John Milton, poet.

Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone. ​— ​Pablo Picasso

Without fear, there is no courage. As you face fear on a regular basis, you cultivate courage and turn it into a habit.

Once you realize you don’t actually need anyone, you can start enjoying people’s company. You can see them as they really are rather than trying to get something from them.

What people think of you is none of your business

Studies have shown that exercising can treat mild to moderate depression as effectively as antidepressants.

Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.

Non-clinical depression occurs when you’re not where you want to be in life, you have lost any hope to ever be, and can’t accept it.

Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality, by understanding that we don’t need people. ​— ​Anthony de Mello

You’re not responsible for people’s thoughts. In fact, what people think of you is none of your business. Your job is to express your personality the best way you can while having the purest intent possible. In short, your responsibility is to do your best to be your true self. Then, people may or may not like you, and either way is fine. Remember, the most influential people such as presidents and statesmen and women are often hated by millions.

Here’s my point. The world is working against you. There will always be someone trying to grab your attention. As such, you have two choices. You can protect your focus by building habits and systems, or you can remain unprepared and let anyone distract you from the important things you should be doing with your time.

according to Sonja Lyubomirsky, author of The How of Happiness, fifty percent of our happiness is determined by genetics, forty percent by internal factors, and only ten percent by external factors. These external factors include such things as whether we’re single or married, rich or poor, and similar social influences.

Move out of your comfort zone

Extraordinary people have extraordinary habits, while average people have average habits.

Resentment often builds up when you fail to communicate effectively with the people you resent. That is, when you didn’t tell them you felt hurt, or didn’t communicate your needs and wants, assuming they would naturally cater to them. It can also grow when you did express your feelings but can’t let go of them and forgive.

can’t be happy unless *insert your answer(s)*: You don’t need to have the perfect life to be happy. Happiness is a choice you need to make every day. You must practice it since, as we’ve seen before, external factors won’t significantly affect your happiness.

Dopamine and constant stimulation can impair your ability to think long term

It's what you do every day that counts. Eating seven apples on Sunday won't keep the doctor away!

We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.

Bless your problems: Thank your problems. Understand they are here for a reason and will serve you in some way.

Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance.

the way you interpret emotions, as well as the blame game you engage in, creates suffering, not the emotions themselves.

A life full of excuses is a life full of regrets

Change your emotional state Distract yourself: An emotion is only as strong as you allow it to be. Whenever you experience a negative feeling, instead of focusing on it, get busy right away. If you’re angry about something, cross something off your to-do list. If possible, do something that requires your full attention. Interrupt: Do something silly or unusual to break the pattern. Shout, do a silly dance or speak with a strange voice. Move: Stand up, go for a walk, do push-ups, dance, or use a power posture. By changing your physiology, you can change the way you feel. Listen to music: Listening to your favorite music may shift your emotional state. Shout: Talk to yourself with a loud and authoritarian voice and give yourself a pep talk. Use your voice and words to change your emotions.

Emotions work the same way. They signal you to do something about your current situation. Perhaps, you need to let go of some people, quit your job, or remove a disempowering story that creates suffering in your life.

As Zig Ziglar said, “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” Remember, what other people can do, you can do as well. Remember also, success is not a limited resource.

Try to see that a thought about a person or event is merely a thought about that person or event. It is the thought about them that makes you feel the way you do. To change the way you feel, change the way you think. ​— ​Vernon Howard, The Power of Your Supermind

The fear of rejection can also lead you to over-dramatize events. If your boss criticized you at work, your brain may see the event as a threat and you now think, “What if I’m fired? What if I can’t find a job quickly enough and my wife leaves me? What about my kids? What if I can’t see them again?” While you are fortunate to have such an effective survival mechanism, it is also your responsibility to separate real threats from imaginary ones.

Social media notifications are a great example of how your brain is being hijacked. Whenever you see a notification, you anticipate the reward you’ll receive when clicking on it, which triggers the release of dopamine in your brain. However, this doesn’t make you happy or fulfill you—at least not for long.

Each time you tell yourself you’ll do something but don’t, your self-esteem suffers. If you do it repeatedly, the empty promises you make to yourself lose their power. If you know that whatever you promise won't get done, what's the point in making promises to yourself? Breaking promises to yourself will ultimately cause you to stop setting goals.

Imagine if the task was lots of fun, perceived as important, and so easy you couldn’t fail, would you procrastinate?

Know what you want. Clarity is power. And vague goals promote vague results.

Always assume that what you’re doing today is what you’ll do tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and so on and so forth.

Marketers correctly understand people’s need to identify with things. They know people don’t just buy a product, they also purchase the emotions or story attached to the product.

The good news is that because you have the power to ‘create’ depression, you also have the power to climb out of it.

Identify your biggest temptations and/or distractions and write them down on the sheet of paper. Then, make sure you put the sheet in a prominent position.

Build the foundations for success one brick at a time. Build them strong so that they won’t collapse at the first obstacle or setback.

Music (except perhaps for relaxation music), Phone, Social media, Sugar/processed foods, and Video games.

you need to remove the following things from your life for 48 hours: Drug/alcohol consumption, Exercising, Internet, Movies,

Being intentional with your day is an effective way to boost your productivity.

Practicing doing nothing is a good way to lower your level of stimulation.

During the ten days, the participants are required to: Maintain complete silence (and have no gesture or eye contact with anyone), Have no physical contact, Take no physical exercise,

fact, for the most part, people do not care about you. While it may sound depressing, it’s actually liberating. It means you don’t have to worry so much about what people think of you.

yourself the following questions: What triggered my emotions? What fueled them over the two days? What story was I telling myself? How and why did I get out of my slump? What can I learn from this episode?

Feeling unmotivated or depressed doesn’t make you less of a person than you were a few days or weeks ago when you were happy and enthusiastic. Give yourself a break. Take it easy. Release the pressure and allow yourself to relax for a while.

Another example of mental suffering is procrastination. Have you ever delayed starting a task for days or weeks just to realize it wasn’t a big deal once you’d completed it? I have. What was the most exhausting part, the task itself, or the time you spent worrying about it?

Studies have shown that one of the best predictors of success is the ability to think long term. People who repeatedly focus on where they want to be in the future, make better decisions in the present. They tend to eat healthier food, be more productive at work and save and invest more money than others.

Reflect on your life When we’re constantly busy and overstimulated, we sometimes fail to take a step back. We can’t see the forest for the trees. Use your dopamine detox as a way to zoom out. To do so: Reflect on your goals. What goals are you pursuing? Are they the right ones for you? Are you making progress toward them each day? And if you keep doing what you’re doing, will you reach them? Assess how you’re using your time. Are you being truly productive each day? Do you spend time on things that matter? Which activities or projects do you really need to focus on? Which ones do you want to stop doing? Self-reflect. Are you where you want to be in life? What inner work could you do to improve yourself?

When you reclaim your focus and use it to achieve your biggest goals, you can transform your life radically. You can make more money by channeling your focus into great work, and you can increase your well-being by redirecting it toward more meaningful activities (i.e., spending time with your family and friends or engaging in your favorite hobbies). Here’s my point. The world is working against you. There will always be someone trying to grab your attention. As such, you have two choices. You can protect your focus by building habits and systems, or you can remain unprepared and let anyone distract you from the important things you should be doing with your time.

The billionaire investor and former senior executive at Facebook, Chamath Palihapitiya, argues that we must rewire our brain to focus on the long term, which starts by removing social media apps from our phones. In his words, such apps, “wire your brain for super-fast feedback.” By receiving constant feedback, whether through likes, comments, or immediate replies to our messages, we condition ourselves to expect fast results with everything we do. And this feeling is certainly reinforced through ads for schemes to help us “get rich quick”, and through cognitive biases (i.e., we only hear about the richest and most successful YouTubers, not about the ones who fail).

I believe that social media, and the internet as a whole, have negatively impacted our ability to both think long-term and to focus deeply on the task in front of us. It is no surprise, therefore, that Apple CEO, Steve Jobs, prohibited his children from using phones or tablets—even though his business was to sell millions of them to his customers! The billionaire investor and former senior executive at Facebook, Chamath Palihapitiya, argues that we must rewire our brain to focus on the long term, which starts by removing social media apps from our phones. In his words, such apps, “wire your brain for super-fast feedback.” By receiving constant feedback, whether through likes, comments, or immediate replies to our messages, we condition ourselves to expect fast results with everything we do. And this feeling is certainly reinforced through ads for schemes to help us “get rich quick”, and through cognitive biases (i.e., we only hear about the richest and most successful YouTubers, not about the ones who fail). As we demand more and more stimulation, our focus is increasingly geared toward the short term and our vision of reality becomes distorted. This leads us to adopt inaccurate mental models such as: Success should come quickly and easily, or I don’t need to work hard to lose weight or make money. Ultimately, this erroneous concept distorts our vision of reality and our perception of time. We can feel jealous of people who seem to have achieved overnight success. We can even resent popular YouTubers. Even worse, we feel inadequate. It can lead us to think we are just not good enough, smart enough, or disciplined enough. Therefore, we feel the need to compensate by hustling harder. We have to hurry before we miss the opportunity. We have to find the secret that will help us become successful. And, in this frenetic race, we forget one of the most important values of all: patience. No, watching motivational videos all day long won’t help you reach your goals. But, performing daily consistent actions, sustained over a long period of time will. Staying calm and focusing on the one task in front of you every day will. The point is, to achieve long-term goals in your personal or professional life, you must regain control of your attention and rewire your brain to focus on the long term. To do so, you should start by staying away from highly stimulating activities.

Do you see how much easier it is to attract negative thoughts when you’re feeling low? To prevent this from happening, must remove the habit of clustering negative thoughts together.

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Another simple model you can use is the Fear vs. Love Model. Throughout your day, you either act out of fear or out of love. You act out of fear when your focus is on getting something, be it other people’s approval or attention, money or power. On the other hand, when you act out of love, your main focus is on giving, be it your time, money, love, or attention. You want to share and improve the lives of people around you, not for your own interest, but simply for the sake of it.

Fear of rejection is one example of a bias toward negativity. In the past, being rejected by your tribe would reduce your chances of survival significantly. Therefore, you learned to look for any sign of rejection, and this became hardwired in your brain. Nowadays, being rejected often carries little or no consequence to your long-term survival. You can be hated by the entire world and still have a job, a roof and plenty of food on the table, yet, your brain remains programmed to perceive rejection as a threat to your survival.

While you are fortunate to have such a useful survival mechanism, it is also your responsibility to separate real threats from imaginary ones. If you don’t, you’ll experience unnecessary pain and worry that will negatively impact the quality of your life.

To better control your emotions, you must recognize and shed the light on your addictions as they can rob you of your happiness.

The ‘one day I will’ myth Do you believe that one day you will achieve your dream and finally be happy? It is unlikely to happen. You may (and I hope you will) achieve your goal, but you won’t live ‘happily ever after.’ This thinking is just another trick your mind plays on you. Your mind quickly acclimates to new situations, which is probably the result of evolution and our need to adapt continually to survive and reproduce. This acclimatization is also probably why the new car or house you want will only make you happy for a while. Once the initial excitement wears off, you’ll move on to crave the next exciting thing. This phenomenon is known as ‘hedonic adaptation.

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Me encanta estar seguro de mí mismo.

I can use my thoughts to shape my reality. The universe is on my side. If others can, I can. I can always improve. If I can do it once, I can do it again. I can figure things out. Failure is not inevitable. Success is inevitable.

Experts are continuously learning. They never stop improving their skills. Ironically while they’re probably the ones needing it the least, they’re the ones studying the most.

So start becoming an expert in your field, too. Be curious about your goals. Learn as much as you can. Look for the best approaches and strategies. Identify areas in which you can improve. Never assume you’re as good as you can be. Instead, demand more of yourself and you will inevitably become better and move closer to your goals.

The smarter way is to make as few assumptions as possible, remain curious and experiment with new ideas on a regular basis.

What we could do instead is to test. So rather than making assumptions, we should be running experiments.

Poor assumptions lead to ineffective actions (or no action at all) which generate poor results. Therefore never stop experimenting. Be open-minded and verify any assumptions you may hold by taking action and testing them.

Breathwalk: Breathing Your Way to a Revitalized Body, Mind and Spirit, Gurucharan Singh Khalsa and Yogi Bahjan mentioned the following benefits from slow breathing: Eight breathing cycles per minute: Relief from stress and increased awareness. Four breathing cycles per minute: Intense feelings of awareness, increased visual clarity, heightens bodily sensitivity. One breathing cycle per minute: Optimized cooperation between brain hemispheres, dramatic calming of anxiety, fear, and worry. Rapid

No tenemos que cambiar lo que ocurre fuera, solo lo que ocurre dentro.

Therefore, don’t make it your personal mission to change people’s image of you. People are entitled to their beliefs and values, and they have the right to dislike you. They are free to interpret your actions and behaviors through their own filter. Part of your personal growth is to accept you don’t have to be liked by everybody, and finally, you can be yourself.

You have to realize the same goes for every other human on the planet. For me, you’re not the most important person in the world—I am. And, from their perspective, so are your close friends, family members and colleagues. Because you live with yourself 24/7 you incorrectly assume, often unconsciously, people think about you significantly more often than they actually do. In fact, for the most part, people do not care about you. While it may sound depressing, it’s actually liberating. It means you don’t have to worry so much about what people think of you.

ask yourself what you can do to move from ‘wanting to get’ to ‘wanting to give.

How to deal with resentment To start letting go of resentment, we’ll discuss the importance of: Changing/reevaluating your interpretation Confronting the situation Forgiving (breaking free from identification), and Forgetting (stopping the repetition).

eres en gran parte el resultado de tu entorno.

Una razón por la que puedes sentirte insatisfecho es que actúas como consumidor en vez de actuar como creador.

Simplemente dedícate más a lo que te apasiona y mira a dónde te conduce el viaje.

No son nuestros recuerdos lo que deberíamos atesorar, sino la persona en que nos hemos convertido debido a esas experiencias pasadas”.

Who would you be if you were no longer the man or woman who’s never good enough? As strange as it may seem, there’s something scary about that. At least, the certainty of not being good enough gives you some comfort.

To enhance your confidence, replace words that show self-doubt with words that display confidence as shown below. Words to be avoided: Would/could/should/might Try/hope/wish Maybe/perhaps If everything is okay If everything goes well Words to be used instead:

I will Absolutely Definitely Of course Sure Certainly Obviously Without any doubt No problem

Record your negative emotions. Look at what triggers them. The more you do this, the more you will uncover specific patterns. For example, let’s say you felt sad for a couple of days, ask yourself the following questions: What triggered my emotions? What fueled them over the two days? What story was I telling myself? How and why did I get out of my slump? What can I learn from this episode?

How you feel determines the quality of your life. Your emotions can make your life miserable or truly magical. That’s why they are among the most essential things on which to focus.

The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

Successful people constantly focus on what they want with positive expectation while unsuccessful people focus on what they don’t want or what they lack.

To start taking control of your emotions you must accept they are transient. You must learn to let them pass without feeling the need to identify strongly with them.

Often, a vicious circle builds up between your thinking and the emotion: they feed each other. The thought pattern creates a magnified reflection of itself in the form of an emotion, and the vibrational frequency of the emotion keeps feeding the original thought pattern.

Negative emotions are not the problem, the mental suffering you create out of these emotions is.

What you don’t focus on doesn’t exist: A problem only exists when you give it your attention. From your mind’s perspective, what you don’t give any thought to doesn’t exist.

Your thoughts define who you are and create your reality. That’s why you should channel your thoughts towards what you want, not what you don’t want. As the success expert Brian Tracy says, “The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire, not things we fear.

If you do ill, speak ill and think ill, the residue is going to leave you sick. If you do well, speak well and think well, the outcome is going to be well.

Your emotions can also act as a powerful guide. They can tell you something is wrong and allow you to make changes in your life. As such, they may be among the most powerful personal growth tools you have.

when you feel depressed, everything seems dull. You have little energy and you become unmotivated. You feel stuck in a place (mentally and physically) you don’t want to be, and the future looks gloomy.

attain the level of fulfillment you truly deserve in life. These principles are the foundation on which you should base your personal development work. They will require that you work on yourself before you master them but I assure you that the investment of time and effort is well worth it. As Jim Rohn said “Learn to work harder

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Remember, what differentiates people who live a happy life from people who are miserable is often how they choose to interpret their lives.

To narrow your options, you need to establish a clear strategy. Having a strategy will help you determine your best plan of action and perhaps more importantly, it will also identify what you should avoid doing.

for whatever goals you have, there are usually a few key tasks that will generate the desired tangible results. Your job is to find them and create an effective process around them.

Emotions are just emotions. They are not you, they are not facts, and you can let them go. ​— ​Hale Dworkin, The Sedona Method.

You are not your emotions. You are not sad, you merely experience feelings that you may call ‘sadness’ at a given point in time.

Try to see that a thought about a person or event is merely a thought about that person or event. It is the thought about them that makes you feel the way you do. To change the way you feel, change the way you think. ​— ​Vernon Howard, The Power of Your Supermind.

In the same way that physical pain tells you something is wrong with your body, emotional suffering tells you something is wrong with your mind.

El mañana es un concepto, no una realidad.

Our love of being right is best understood as our fear of being wrong. ​— ​Kathryn Schulz, journalist and author.

Interestingly, most of your worries are unnecessary for the following reasons: They happened in the past and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about them, and/or They may happen in the future and you can’t control the future.

Why people have a bias towards negativity

You don’t need to avoid fear or numb yourself to it before you can take action. Instead, you must accept the fact that fear won’t go away and get used to it. Then, you must decide to take action.

Feelings manifest as physical sensations in your body, not as an idea in your mind.

However, despite what your inner voice may say, your emotions aren’t bad. Emotions are simply emotions. Nothing more.

fifty percent of our happiness is determined by genetics, forty percent by internal factors, and only ten percent by external factors.

Being right. The ego loves to be correct. It’s an excellent way for it to affirm its existence. Have you noticed that everybody, from Adolf Hitler to Nelson Mandela, believe they’re doing the right thing?

this shall pass.

You can be hated by the entire world and still have a job, a roof and plenty of food on the table, yet, your brain remains programmed to perceive rejection as a threat to your survival.

Events that happen to you bear no meaning in themselves. You give them meaning only through your interpretation of those events.

Marketers correctly understand people’s need to identify with things. They know people don’t just buy a product, they also purchase the emotions or story attached to the product. Often, you acquire certain clothes or a particular car because you want to tell a story about yourself.

The mind is its own place and, in itself, can make a heaven of Hell, a hell of Heaven. ​— ​John Milton, poet.

Your body, your voice, the food you eat, or how much you sleep, also play a role in determining the quality of your emotions and therefore the quality of your life.

On the contrary, your ego is restless. It wants you to be a go-getter. It wants you to do, acquire and achieve great things so you can become a ‘somebody.

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Neither a wise nor a brave man lies down on the tracks of history to wait for the train of the future to run over him.

Now, its founder, Jeff Bezos, could probably have made profits earlier, but, instead, he decided to reinvest in his business to create strong foundations that, he hoped, would enable Amazon to survive for decades. I encourage you to do the same in your personal and professional life. Build the foundations for success one brick at a time. Build them strong so that they won’t collapse at the first obstacle or setback.

Emotions always come and go, but I remain.

El ego se refiere a la identidad propia que has ido construyendo a lo largo de tu vida. ¿Cómo se ha creado esta identidad? Explicándolo de forma simple, el ego se ha creado a partir de tus pensamientos y, puesto que es una identidad creada por la mente, no tiene una realidad concreta.

I had to admit, while writing this book, I experienced highs and lows myself. At first, I was filled with excitement and thrilled at the idea of providing people with a guide to help them understand their emotions. I imagined how readers’ lives would improve as they learned to control their emotions. My motivation was high and I couldn’t help but imagine how great the book would be. Or so I thought. After the initial excitement, the time came to sit down to write the actual book, and that’s when the excitement wore off pretty quickly. Suddenly ideas that looked great in my mind felt dull. My writing seemed boring, and I felt as though I had nothing substantive or valuable to contribute. Sitting at my desk and writing became more challenging each day. I started losing confidence. Who was I to write a book about emotions if I couldn’t even master my own emotions? How ironic! I considered giving up. There are already plenty of books on the topic, so why add one more? At the same time, I realized this book was a perfect opportunity to work on my emotional issues. And who doesn’t suffer from negative emotions from time to time? We all have highs and lows, don’t we? The key is what we do with our lows. Are we using our emotions to grow and learn or are we beating ourselves up over them?

The mind always seeks to deny the Now and to escape from it. In other words, the more you are identified with your mind, the more you suffer. Or you may put it like this: the more you are able to honor and accept the Now, the more you are free of pain, of suffering—and free of the egoic mind. ​— ​ECKHART TOLLE, THE POWER OF NOW.

The subsequent investigation concluded the cause of death was heart failure induced by exhaustion and dehydration.

What if the assumption that you shouldn’t have any problems is wrong? What if you need to learn how to dance in the rain and make the most of your problems? What if problems are just challenges to be overcome—and part of life.

Emotions are just emotions. They are not you, they are not facts, and you can let them go.

From your mind’s perspective, what you don’t give any thought to doesn’t exist.

Your mind operates on the famous computing principle of GIGO - garbage in, garbage out. If you do ill, speak ill and think ill, the residue is going to leave you sick. If you do well, speak well and think well, the outcome is going to be well.

A problem exists only in time: A problem can only exist in the past or in the future. And where do the past and future exist? In your mind. To acknowledge a problem, you must use your thoughts, and thoughts exist in time, not in the present moment.

The influence of external factors is probably way less than you thought. The bottom line is this: Your attitude towards life influences your happiness, not what happens to you.

What meaningful things do I need to work on today, this week, or this year to obtain the approval of my future self?

Dopamine and constant stimulation can impair your ability to think long term Studies have shown that one of the best predictors of success is the ability to think long term. People who repeatedly focus on where they want to be in the future, make better decisions in the present. They tend to eat healthier food, be more productive at work and save and invest more money than others.

today’s society is designed to hijack your dopamine neurotransmitters.

La clave para reducir tus niveles de estimulación es implementar un sistema sencillo y sostenible.

it is precisely our ability to do what we should do, when we should do it, and whether or not we like it, that determines most of what we are able to accomplish in our lifetime.

pretending that our future self will do the work for us tomorrow, next week, or next year. It gets even worse when we perceive our future self in a completely unrealistic way. We see our future selves as better, stronger, and wiser than we currently are.

Negative emotions can actually be helpful. Sometimes, you need to touch rock-bottom before you can reach the top. Even the toughest people on earth become depressed. Elon Musk never imagined he would have a mental breakdown, but he did and he bounced back. After losing his fiancée, Abraham Lincoln was depressed for months. This tragic event didn’t prevent him from becoming president

excitement doesn’t equal fulfillment.

In truth, because we must live with ourselves 24/7, we lack perspective.

When something is important to you, you can and will find a solution. Otherwise, you will find an excuse.

According to Sonya Lyubomirsky, author of The How of Happiness, fifty percent of our happiness is determined by genetics, forty percent by internal factors and only ten percent by external factors.

We’re not our emotions.

Feelings are transient. It’s only when we obsess over a particular feeling that it becomes a powerful emotion that affects our mood and shapes our identity. Also, emotions don’t exist outside us. They aren’t a virus we can catch. Our feelings result from our interpretation of what’s happening to us.

This is the reason human beings are so powerful. Even after years of depression, failure or hardship, we can still utilize our ability to believe we can reach extraordinary goals—and most importantly—find happiness.

Staying calm and focusing on the one task in front of you every day will. The point is, to achieve long-term goals in your personal or professional life, you must regain control of your attention and rewire your brain to focus on the long term. To do so, you should start by staying away from highly stimulating activities.

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Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality, by understanding that we don’t need people. ​

No matter how depressed you are, how much grief you’re experiencing, or how horrible you feel at a given point in time, this shall pass.

ask yourself the following questions: What triggered my emotions? What fueled them over the two days? What story was I telling myself? How and why did I get out of my slump? What can I learn from this episode? Answering these questions will be invaluable and will vastly help you deal with similar issues in the future.

from them. They fail to realize one of the most important truths in this world: you are not your emotions. Your emotions will come and they will go. So, when you catch yourself saying, “I’m sad,” remember you are incorrect. Nobody has ever been sad, because your emotions are not who you are. They can appear to be you, but they will soon disappear, like clouds in the sky. Think of yourself as the sun, and the sun is always there whether or not you perceive it—whether or not its hidden by the cloud.

in the long run, external events have minimal impact on your level of happiness.

How you feel determines the quality of your life. Your emotions can make your life miserable or truly magical.

Instead, remember that negative emotions exist only in your mind.

Whenever you’re angry, get busy with any activity requiring your full attention. You’ll see your anger quickly dissipate. Conversely, keep dwelling on the feelings of anger, and you’ll see it grow until it becomes one of your major emotional states.

Why

La productividad estratégica no consiste en hacer más, sino en dedicarle menos tiempo a las actividades que brindan escasos resultados.

When you begin your working day with a closed system, you can avoid becoming overstimulated, which will make it easier for you to work on challenging tasks.

People who repeatedly focus on where they want to be in the future, make better decisions in the present. They tend to eat healthier food, be more productive at work and save and invest more money than others.

aprendizaje es un proceso continuo de estar al tanto de los cambios. Y la tarea más difícil es enseñar a la gente cómo aprender. ​— ​PETER DRUCKER, CONSULTOR DE NEGOCIOS.

En resumen, la productividad estratégica consiste en golpear un árbol en el mismo lugar hasta hacerlo caer. Requiere que: Te centres solamente en unos pocos objetivos al mismo tiempo, Implementes una estrategia cuidadosamente diseñada para alcanzarlos y Que progreses hacia esos objetivos cada día realizando acciones que se ajusten a tu estrategia.

Zig Ziglar said, “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” Remember, what other people can do, you can do as well. Remember also, success is not a limited resource.

Buy a notebook and write down your goals in each area of your life. Review them each morning and keep adding pictures, drawings or anything else to foster your enthusiasm.

The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.

Bruce Lee is quoted as saying, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.

If you want to thrive, you must understand that your brain is, in many respects, obsolete. You must overcome your fear of rejection, lack of motivation, and the other issues that stem from the way your old brain operates.

To reach the essence of who you are, you must take steps to eliminate your limiting beliefs and deconstruct the false reality that was created by your environment.

Part II. Aligning yourself with reality,

Your interpretation of reality creates suffering in your life. Reality in itself can never be upsetting.

one of the most important truths in this world: you are not your emotions. Your emotions will come and they will go.

As Benjamin Franklin said, “Some people die at twenty-five and aren’t buried until seventy-five.

Complaining is normal: Most complaining is a play of the ego and is not constructive. It doesn’t help you and doesn’t change anything. The only thing it does is strengthen your ego and offend people. Try to spend an entire week without complaining and see what happens.

You don’t need to have the perfect life to be happy. Happiness is a choice you need to make every day.

Sé estratégico con la productividad—haz menos cosas excepcionalmente bien, en vez de hacer más de forma promedio. ​— ​LAURIE BUCHANAN, COACH Y ESCRITORA.

Your interpretation of reality creates suffering in your life.

​VERNON HOWARD, THE POWER OF YOUR SUPERMIND.

long-time perspective, “was the most important determinant of financial and personal success in life.” He defined “long-time” as the “ability to think several years into the future while making decisions in the present.

For example, let’s say you felt sad for a couple of days, ask yourself the following questions: What triggered my emotions? What fueled them over the two days? What story was I telling myself? How and why did I get out of my slump? What can I learn from this episode?

Your brain’s primary responsibility is not to make you happy, but to ensure your survival. Thus, if you want to be happy, you must actively take control of your emotions rather than hoping you’ll be happy because it’s your natural state.

Have you noticed all these notifications that pop up regularly? They’re used to trigger a release of dopamine so you stay connected, and the longer you stay connected, the more money the services make.

Are we using our emotions to grow and learn or are we beating ourselves up over them?

If you spend your days doing the things you are poor or mediocre at, you’ll never achieve extraordinary results, and you will probably feel miserable as a result. Therefore, identify your strengths and use them as often as possible.

In many aspects, today’s society is designed to hijack your dopamine neurotransmitters.

How on earth can another’s thought about you harm you? It is your thought about his thought that harms. Change your thought.

Above the line, you are: Curious Listening consciously Feeling emotions Discussing without being argumentative Appreciating Taking responsibility, and Questioning your beliefs.

The fear of doing something new is often a sign you should go ahead and do it anyway. This indicates a great opportunity for personal growth. Fear, as with any other emotion, only exists in your mind. This is why we often realize what a fool we’ve been after we’ve completed something we were initially wary of starting.

I love being confident. I am independent of the good or bad opinions of others. I am beneath no one and no one is beneath me. I love you …. (add your name and say it while looking into your eyes in the mirror, e.g. “I love you, Thibaut”). Awkward, isn’t it? Thank you.

As Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” It just doesn’t work.

moving beyond resentment is making a declaration of love to yourself so you can move on, while, at the same time, showing compassion to others.

The point is, people do what they can, with what they have, based on who they are and how much they’ve been conditioned. They make tons of mistakes as well. We all do. It’s part of being human.

learning to manage your emotions properly is the key to overcoming your tendency towards delayed action.

To help you take action when you lack motivation it is important to: Have a system that allows you to stay on track with your goals Build the self-discipline needed to do things when you don’t feel like it, and Have self-compassion and love yourself instead of blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong in your life.

People will still see you the way they want to, because of their own values and beliefs.

Resentment often builds up when you fail to communicate effectively with the people you resent. That is, when you didn’t tell them you felt hurt, or didn’t communicate your needs and wants, assuming they would naturally cater to them. It can also grow when you did express your feelings but can’t let go of them and forgive. As Nelson Mandela once said, “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” It just doesn’t work.