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So be sure when you step, Step with care and great tact. And remember that life's A Great Balancing Act. And will you succeed? Yes! You will, indeed! (98 and ΒΎ percent guaranteed) Kid, you'll move mountains.
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Dr. Seuss (Oh, the Places You'll Go!)
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Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip.
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Winston S. Churchill
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Albus Severus," Harry said quietly, so that nobody but Ginny could hear, and she was tactful enough to pretend to be waving to Rose, who was now on the train, "you were named for two headmasters of Hogwarts. One of them was a Slytherin and he was probably the bravest man I ever knew.
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J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows (Harry Potter, #7))
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You'll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You'll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.
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Dr. Seuss (Oh, The Places Youβll Go!)
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Tact: the ability to describe others as they see themselves.
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Abraham Lincoln
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Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.
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Isaac Newton
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Real love amounts to withholding the truth, even when you're offered the perfect opportunity to hurt someone's feelings
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David Sedaris (Dress Your Family in Corduroy and Denim)
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Tact is just lying for adults.
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Cassandra Clare
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Truth without love is brutality, and love without truth is hypocrisy.
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Warren W. Wiersbe
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Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.
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Benjamin Franklin
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Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them.
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Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.
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I hate the way, once you start to know someone, care about them, their behavior can distress you, even when it's unreasonable and not your fault, even if you were really trying to be careful, tactful.
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Tanith Lee (Wolf Star (Claidi Journals #2))
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Never start a sentence with the words 'No offense.
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Gretchen Rubin (The Happiness Project)
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It is not good to want a thing too much. It sometimes drives the luck away. You must want it just enough, and you must be very tactful with Gods or the gods.
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John Steinbeck (The Pearl)
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No, he is not tactful, yet have you ever noticed that there are people who do things which are most indelicate, and yet, at the same time, beautiful?
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E.M. Forster (A Room with a View)
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This should be a pleasant little interview. All I have to do is put on my scary face."
"You have a scary face?" Ingrid sounded skeptical.
"Yes," said Myfanwy indignantly. "I have a very scary face."
Ingrid surveyed her for a moment. "You may wish to take off the cardigan then, Rook Thomas," she advised tactfully. "The flowers on the pocket detract somewhat from your menace.
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Daniel O'Malley (The Rook (The Checquy Files, #1))
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Tact is the ability to step on a man's toes without messing up the shine on his shoes.
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Harry Truman
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Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy.
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Isaac Newton
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Every time you remember something, the memory weakens, as youβre remembering the last recollection, rather than the memory itself. Nothing can remain in tact. Still, it does not stop you wanting, does not stop you longing.
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Caleb Azumah Nelson (Open Water)
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If you donβt find the right set of eyes to see through your bull, you will always be surrounded by friends that will tell you white lies because they like your company and donβt want to ruin the evening.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Everything I think of now is too rude to actually say.
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Craig Ferguson
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If you never stepped on anybody's toes, you never been for a walk.
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Barbara Kingsolver (Prodigal Summer)
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I don't know how to talk.
Oh! talk to every woman as if you loved her, and to every man as if he bored you, and at the end of your first season you will have the reputation of possessing the most perfect social tact.
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Oscar Wilde (A Woman of No Importance)
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Politeness is the first thing people lose once they get the power.
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Amit Kalantri (Wealth of Words)
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Donβt flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.
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Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr.
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Silence is not always tact and it is tact that is golden, not silence.
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Samuel Butler
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Buddha said: βHatred is never ended by hatred but by love,β and a misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation and a sympathetic desire to see the other personβs viewpoint.
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Dale Carnegie (How to Win Friends and Influence People)
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Did I offend you?β Lannister said. βSorry. Dwarfs donβt have to be tactful. Generations of capering fools in motley have won me the right to dress badly and say any damn thing that comes into my head.
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George R.R. Martin (A Game of Thrones (A Song of Ice and Fire, #1))
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Sometimes my tact takes a vacation. Tonight it must've gone to Kuwait or somewhere.
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Tim Tharp (The Spectacular Now)
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What in the world is this abomination?β
Lissa, only slightly more tactful, asked, βAdrian, is this some kind of joke?
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Richelle Mead (Silver Shadows (Bloodlines, #5))
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It was not that ladies were inferior to men; it was that they were different. Their mission was to inspire others to achievement rather than to achieve themselves. Indirectly, by means of tact and a spotless name, a lady could accomplish much. But if she rushed into the fray herself she would be first censured, then despised, and finally ignored.
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E.M. Forster (A Room with a View)
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Be an example to your men, in your duty and in private life. Never spare yourself, and let the troops see that you don't in your endurance of fatigue and privation. Always be tactful and well-mannered and teach your subordinates to do the same. Avoid excessive sharpness or harshness of voice, which usually indicates the man who has shortcomings of his own to hide.
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Erwin Rommel
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I've given up the looking glass; quicksilver has no sense of tact.
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James Goldman (The Lion in Winter)
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Never ask a man if he is from Sparta: If he were, he would have let you know such an important fact - and if he were not, you could hurt his feelings.
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Nassim Nicholas Taleb (Fooled by Randomness: The Hidden Role of Chance in Life and in the Markets (Incerto))
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We should be sensible, tactful, considerate and humble without being servile or scraping. As God's people we stand on our feet; we don't crawl before anyone.
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Alcoholics Anonymous
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That is what I like about you, Mr. Dashwood," she said. "You are so decisive. It saves me the bother of thinking for myself."
"That is what I like about you, Mrs. Dashwood," he said. "You are so sarcastic. It saves me the trouble of trying to be tactful and charming.
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Loretta Chase (Lord Perfect (Carsington Brothers, #3))
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Kindness is unconquerable, so long as it is without flattery or hypocrisy. For what can the most insolent man do to you, if you contrive to be kind to him, and if you have the chance gently advise and calmly show him what is right...and point this out tactfully and from a universal perspective. But you must not do this with sarcasm or reproach, but lovingly and without anger in your soul.
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Marcus Aurelius
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Arrogance, disrespect and demand have higher price.
Kindness, respect and tact give better prize.
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Angelica Hopes
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I never say the things I really want to. If I did, I'd have no friends.
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Chelsea Handler (My Horizontal Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands)
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Tact is after all a kind of mind-reading.
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Sarah Orne Jewett
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He was kind of an asshole. Julian was abrasive, sometimes rude, and didn't seem to have much tact. But, for some reason, Yadriel's heart still fluttered in his chest.
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Aiden Thomas (Cemetery Boys (Cemetery Boys, #1))
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They don't want clever men; clever men have ideas, and ideas cause trouble; they want men who have charm and tact and who can be counted on never to make a blunder.
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W. Somerset Maugham (The Painted Veil)
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Any man with money to make the purchase may become a dog's owner. But no man --spend he ever so much coin and food and tact in the effort-- may become a dog's Master without consent of the dog. Do you get the difference? And he whom a dog once unreservedly accepts as Master is forever that dog's God.
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Albert Payson Terhune (Lad: A Dog (Lad, #1))
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It is arrogance in us to call frankness, fairness, and chivalry βmasculineβ when we see them in a woman; it is arrogance in them to describe a manβs sensitiveness or tact or tenderness as βfeminine.
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C.S. Lewis
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He seemed determines, his resolve unwavering. This would take tact. Prudence. Possible Milk Duds.
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Darynda Jones (Third Grave Dead Ahead (Charley Davidson, #3))
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We need to have far less confidence in what man can do and far more
confidence in what God can do for every believing soul. He longs to have
you reach after Him by faith. He longs to have you expect great things
from Him. He longs to give you understanding in temporal as well as in
spiritual matters. He can sharpen the intellect. He can give tact and
skill. Put your talents into the work, ask God for wisdom, and it will be
given you.
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Ellen Gould White
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If hatred strikes you, if you get accused, thrown to the lions, you can expect one of two reactions from people who know you: some of them will join in the kill, the others will discreetly pretend to know nothing, hear nothing, so you can go right on seeing them and talking to them. That second category, discreet and tactful, those are your friends. 'Friends' in the modern sense of the term. Listen, Jean-Marc, I've known that forever.
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Milan Kundera (Identity)
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Tact is the ability to help someone out or show them something they need to know without hurting their feelings. Your aunt and uncle may be a bit old fashioned. You can learn from that. But you may also need to help them. They donβt usually have children stay with them. You will really need to use tact with them. Okay? And here, take this. If your aunt or uncle need something, use βtactβ and buy it for them.
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R. Gerry Fabian (Just Out Of Reach)
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Tact, if it be genuine, never sleeps.
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Charlotte BrontΓ« (The Professor)
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Gundar, seeing Halt upright for the first time in two days, stumped up the deck to join them.
'Back on your feet then?' he boomed cheerfully, with typical Skandian tact. 'By Gorlag's toenails, with all the heaving abd puking you've been doing, I thought you'd turn yourself inside out and puke yourself over the rail!'...
'You do paint a pretty picture, Gundar,' Will said...
'Thank you for your concern,' Halt said icily...
'So, did you find Albert?' Gundar went on, unabashed. Even Halt was puzzled by this sudden apparent change of subject.
'Albert?' he asked. Too late, he saw Gundar's grin widening and knew he'd stepped into a trap.
'You seemed to be looking for him. You'd lean over the rail and call, 'Al-b-e-e-e-e-e-r-t!' I thought he might be some Araluen sea god.'
'No, I didn't find him. Maybe I could look for him in your helmet.'
He reached out a hand. But Gundar had heard what happened when Skandians lent their helmets to the grim-faced Ranger while onboard ship...
'No, I'm pretty sure he's not there,' he said hurriedly.
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John Flanagan (The Emperor of Nihon-Ja (Ranger's Apprentice, #10))
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Slender Youth. A tour companion who may be either a lost prince or a girl/princess in disguise. In the latter case it is tactful to pretend you think she is a boy. She/he will be ignorant, hasty and shy, and will need hauling out of trouble quite a lot. But she/he will grow up in the course of the Tour. In fact she/he will be the only Companion who will change in any way. Quite often, she/he will soon exhibit a very useful talent for magic and end up by hauling everyone else out of trouble. But this will not be until midway through your second brochure.
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Diana Wynne Jones (The Tough Guide to Fantasyland)
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For us, eating and being eaten belong to the terrible secret of love. We love only the person we can eat. The person we hate we βcanβt swallow.β That one makes us vomit. Even our friends are inedible. If we were asked to dig into our friendβs flesh we would be disgusted. The person we love we dream only of eating. That is, we slide down that razorβs edge of ambivalence.
The story of torment itself is a very beautiful one. Because loving is wanting and being able to eat up and yet to stop at the boundary. And there, at the tiniest beat between springing and stopping, in rushes fear. The spring is already in mid-air. The heart stops. The heart takes off again. Everything in love is oriented towards this absorption.
At the same time real love is a donβt-touch, yet still an almost-touching. Tact itself: a phantom touching.
Eat me up, my love, or else Iβm going to eat you up.
Fear of eating, fear of the edible, fear on the part of the one of them who feels loved, desired, who wants to be loved, desired, who desires to be desired, who knows there is no greater proof of love than the otherβs appetite, who is dying to be eaten up, who says or doesnβt say, but who signifies: I beg you, eat me up. Want me down to the marrow. And yet manage it so as to keep me alive. But I often turn about or compromise, because I know that you wonβt eat me up, in the end, and I urge you: bite me.
Sign my death with your teeth
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Hélène Cixous (Stigmata: Escaping Texts)
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He looked as if he were anxiously balancing a large handful of tact, without quite knowing where to put it down.
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Mary Renault (The Charioteer)
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Girls possess sexual tact in inverse proportion to their standard of education.
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John Fowles (The Magus)
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βYou're Ned Stark's bastard, aren't you?β
Jon felt a coldness pass right through him. He pressed his lips together and said nothing.
βDid I offend you?β Lannister said. βSorry. Dwarfs don't have to be tactful. Generations of capering fools in motley have won me the right to dress badly and say any damn thing that comes into my head.β He grinned. βYou are the bastard, though.β
βLord Eddard Stark is my father,β Jon admitted stiffly.
Lannister studied his face. βYes,β he said. βI can see it. You have more of the north in you than your brothers.β
βHalf brothers,β Jon corrected. He was pleased by the dwarf's comment, but he tried not to let it show.
βLet me give you some counsel, bastard,β Lannister said. βNever forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strenght. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.β
Jon was in no mood for anyone's counsel. βWhat do you know about being a bastard?β
βAll dwarfs are bastards in their father's eyes.β
βYou are your mother's trueborn son of Lannister.β
βAm I?β the dwarf replied, sardonic. βDo tell my lord father. My mother died birthing me, and he's never been sure.β
βI don't even know who my mother was,β Jon said.
βSome woman, no doubt. Most of them are.β He favored Jon with a rueful grin. βRemember this, boy. All dwarfs may be bastards, yet not all bastards need be dwarfs.β And with that he turned and sauntered back into the feast, whistling a tune. When he opened the door, the light from within threw his shadow clear across the yard, and for just a moment Tyrion Lannister stood tall as a king.
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George R.R. Martin (A Game of Thrones (A Song of Ice and Fire, #1))
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Maybe it was tact that made Benjamin sigh. He didn't roll his eyes or look pained, which was pretty damn magnanimous of him.
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Lili St. Crow (Jealousy (Strange Angels, #3))
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...one had to expect very littleβalmost nothingβfrom life, Aaron knew, one had to be grateful, not always trying to seize the days like some maniac of living, but to give oneself up, be seized by the days, the months and years, be taken up in the froth of sun and moon, some pale and smoothie-ed river-cloud of life, a long, drawn-out, gray sort of enlightenment, so that when it was time to die, one did not scream swear words and knock things down, did not make a scene, but went easily with understanding and tact, and quietly, in a lightly pummeled way, having been consoledβhaving allowed to be consoledβby the soft, generous, worthlessness of it all, having allowed to be massaged by the daily beating of life, instead of just beaten.
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Tao Lin (Bed)
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Often people that tell others they are "extremely polite" when the situation calls for tact and bluntness are not actually polite people. Instead, they hide behind the word βpoliteβ because they have low self esteem or hidden agendas. Sadly, they impolitely confuse the hell out of everyone, send mixed signals, which then makes people question their sanity and motives.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Bathroom, huh? OK.β she tittered nervously. βIβll carry you. Just donβt pee on me.β
Helen laughed gratefully. Aridane was making an embarrassing situation as humorous as possible so Helen would feel more comfortable.
It was something Claire would have done. Helen was still embarrassed, but with a few jokes and little bit of tact they both made it through.
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Josephine Angelini (Starcrossed (Starcrossed, #1))
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Be a little less honest and a little more tactful.
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Mackenzi Lee (The Gentleman's Guide to Vice and Virtue (Montague Siblings, #1))
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In life......
Play Tactfully!
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Granthana Sinha
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I shifted in my chair as Dad waited for a response. He seemed determined, his resolve unwavering. This would take tact. Prudence. Possibly Milk Duds.
βAre you psychotic?β I asked, realizing my plan to charm and bribe him if need be flew out the window the minute I opened my mouth.
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Darynda Jones (Third Grave Dead Ahead (Charley Davidson, #3))
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Volger looked out across the glacier, his hands deep in his pockets. "May I be frank?"
Alek laughed. "Feel free to put aside your usual tact."
"I shall," Volger said. "When your father decided to marry Sophie, I was one of those who tried to talk him out of it."
"So I have your dismal powers of
persuasion to thank for my existence."
"You're very welcome.
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Scott Westerfeld (Leviathan (Leviathan, #1))
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The worst of having so much tact was that you never quite knew whether other people were acting naturally or being tactful too.
[The human element]
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W. Somerset Maugham
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Great tact and delicacy is necessary for the care of the mind of a child from three to six years, and an adult can have very little of it.
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Maria Montessori (The Absorbent Mind)
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that narrow window of life where he hadnβt yet learned either tact or guile.
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Todd Burpo (Heaven is for Real: A Little Boy's Astounding Story of His Trip to Heaven and Back)
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Youβre a prickly, stubborn, spirited woman.β
βDonβt forget crude, rude, and vulgar.β
βOnly when it suits you. Youβre sly when occasion calls for it, direct to the point of forgetting tact even exists, sarcastic, fierce, I did mention stubborn, didnβt I?β
βYes,β she said dryly.
βYouβre also smart, kind, gentle, beautiful, and always cling to your personal integrity, even when itβs in your best interests to abandon it.β A little warm feeling spread through her chest, and even her natural suspicion that he was lying couldnβt quite extinguish it. Where was he going with this? βYouβre also quite funny,β he said.
βOh, I amuse you?β He gave her one of his devastating, slightly wicked smiles.
βYou have no idea.β Arrogant ass.
βAnd all of that means what?β
βJust that I mean to have you.β She frowned at him. βI mean to have you, Rose, you and all of your thorns. Iβm a disagreeable and stubborn bastard, but Iβm not a fool. You didnβt really expect me to pass you up, did you?
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Ilona Andrews (On the Edge (The Edge, #1))
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Even from a young age I undersood that when a girl is unlikable, a girl is a problem. I also understand that I wasn't being intentionally mean. I was being honest (admittedly, without tact), and I was being human. It is either a blessing or a curse that those are rarely likable qualities in a woman.
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Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist)
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Was that job offer you worked into the blessing? I never saw such tact.
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Thomas Harris (Hannibal (Hannibal Lecter, #3))
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I have motherfucking finesse. Just because I speak my mind means I'm not tactful?
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Jamie McGuire (Beautiful Redemption (The Maddox Brothers, #2))
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Tact was a quality unknown to her, discretion too, and because gossip was the breath of life to her this stranger must be served for her dissection.
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Daphne du Maurier (Rebecca)
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For whoever habitually suppresses the truth in the interests of tact will produce a deformity from the womb of his thought.
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B.H. Liddell Hart (Strategy)
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Tact is the ability to formulate your thoughts, carefully choose your words and effectively communicate them without offending anyone. This is the most difficult skill to achieve, the best skill anyone can possess, and the most important skill in our daily lives.
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Uzoma Nnadi
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Oh! talk to every woman as if you loved her and to every man as if he bored you, and at the end of your first season you will have the reputation of possessing the most perfect social tact.
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Oscar Wilde (A Woman of No Importance)
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Mom is talking to Jack. "I hear you're interested in zoo animals."
I snort. There's a sentence you don't hear too often. I fake an insulted sigh.
"Well, thank-you, Mother. Yes, I'm hungry, but you don't have to be so honest about it. Your tact is amazing.
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Erynn Mangum (Latte Daze (Maya Davis, #2))
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Tact is the knack of keeping quiet at the right time; of being so agreeable yourself that no one can be disagreeable to you; of making inferiority feel like equality. A tactful man can pull the stinger from a bee without getting stung.
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George Horace Lorimer
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Many writing texts caution against asking friends to read your stuff, suggesting you're not apt to get a very unbiased opinion[.] ... It's unfair, according to this view, to put a pal in such a position. What happens if he/she feels he/she has to say, "I'm sorry, good buddy, you've written some great yarns in the past but this one sucks like a vacuum cleaner"?
The idea has some validity, but I don't think an unbiased opinion is exactly what I'm looking for. And I believe that most people smart enough to read a novel are also tactful enough to find a gentler mode of expression than "This sucks." (Although most of us know that "I think this has a few problems" actually means "This sucks," don't we?)
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Stephen King (On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft)
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One of the advantages a sister has when arguing with a brother is that she is under no obligation to be tactful. If she wishes to tell him that he is an idiot and ought to have his head examined, she can do so and, going further, can add that it is a thousand pities that no-one ever thought of smothering him with a pillow in his formative years.
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P.G. Wodehouse (The Girl in Blue)
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The offender needs pity, not wrath; those who must needs be corrected, should be treated with tact and gentleness; and one must be always ready to learn better. 'The best kind of revenge is, not to become like unto them.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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Think of my Pleasure in Solitude, in comparison of my commerce with the world - there I am a child - there they do not know me not even my most intimate acquaintance - I give into their feelings as though I were refraining from irritating a little child - Some think me middling, others silly, other foolish - every one thinks he sees my weak side against my will; when in thruth it is with my will - I am content to be thought all this because I have in my own breast so graet a resource. This is one great reason why they like me so; because they can all show to advantage in a room, and eclipese from a certain tact one who is reckoned to be a good Poet - I hope I am not here playing tricks 'to make the angels weep': I think not: for I have not the least contempt for my species; and though it may sound paradoxical: my greatest elevations of Soul leave me every time more humbled - Enough of this - though in your Love for me you will not think it enough.
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John Keats
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...condemning Nyasha to whoredom, making her a victim of her femaleness, just as I had felt victimised at home in the days when Nhamo went to school and I grew my maize. The victimisation, I saw, was universal. It didn't depend on poverty, on lack of education or on tradition. It didn't depend on any of the things I had thought it depended on. Men took it everywhere with them. Even heroes like Babamukuru did it. And that was the problem. You had to admit Nyasha had no tact. You had to admit she was altogether too volatile and strong-willed. You couldn't ignore the fact that she had no respect for Babamukuru when she ought to have had lots of it. But what I didn't like was the way that all conflicts came back to the question of femaleness. Femaleness as opposed and inferior to maleness.
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Tsitsi Dangarembga (Nervous Conditions)
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Conquer, but never triumph.
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Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach (Aphorisms (STUDIES IN AUSTRIAN LITERATURE, CULTURE, AND THOUGHT TRANSLATION SERIES))
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This is supposed to be a touch-feely conversation where we tell you, βDonβt worry, youβll always have a family here with us.β And then we may or may not have sappy music piped in.β
Ted rolled his eyes. βThat was tactful, Eve. Wonderful.
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Debra Anastasia (Poughkeepsie (Poughkeepsie Brotherhood, #1))
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The library at Pemberley was as freely open to her as it was to Darcy, and with his tactful and loving encouragement she had read more widely and with greater enjoyment and comprehension in the last six years than in all the past fifteen, augmenting an education which, she now understood, had never been other than rudimentary.
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P.D. James (Death Comes to Pemberley)
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Love is the divine Mother's arms; when those arms are spread, every soul falls into them.
The Sufis of all ages have been known for their beautiful personality. It does not mean that among them there have not been people with great powers, wonderful powers and wisdom. But beyond all that, what is most known of the Sufis is the human side of their nature: that tact which attuned them to wise and foolish, to poor and rich, to strong and weak -- to all. They met everyone on his own plane, they spoke to everyone in his own language. What did Jesus teach when he said to the fishermen, 'Come hither, I will make you fishers of men?' It did not mean, 'I will teach you ways by which you get the best of man.' It only meant: your tact, your sympathy will spread its arms before every soul who comes, as mother's arms are spread out for her little ones.
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Hazrat Inayat Khan
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It was my teacher's genius, her quick sympathy, her loving tact
which made the first years of my education so beautiful. It was
because she seized the right moment to impart knowledge that made
it so pleasant and acceptable to me. She realized that a child's
mind is like a shallow brook which ripples and dances merrily
over the stony course of its education and reflects here a
flower, there a bush, yonder a fleecy cloud; and she attempted to
guide my mind on its way, knowing that like a brook it should be
fed by mountain streams and hidden springs, until it broadened
out into a deep river, capable of reflecting in its placid
surface, billowy hills, the luminous shadows of trees and the
blue heavens, as well as the sweet face of a little flower.
Any teacher can take a child to the classroom, but not every
teacher can make him learn. He will not work joyously unless he
feels that liberty is his, whether he is busy or at rest; he must
feel the flush of victory and the heart-sinking of disappointment
before he takes with a will the tasks distasteful to him and
resolves to dance his way bravely through a dull routine of
textbooks.
My teacher is so near to me that I scarcely think of myself apart
from her. How much of my delight in all beautiful things is
innate, and how much is due to her influence, I can never tell. I
feel that her being is inseparable from my own, and that the
footsteps of my life are in hers. All the best of me belongs to
her--there is not a talent, or an aspiration or a joy in me that
has not been awakened by her loving touch.
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When I was a child," Theodora said lazily, "'--many years ago,' Doctor, as you put it so tactfully--I was whipped for throwing a brick through a greenhouse roof. I remember I thought about if for a long time, remembering the whipping but remembering also the lovely crash, and after thinking about it very seriously I went out and did it again.
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Shirley Jackson (The Haunting of Hill House)
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Tact by its nature entails staying mum, prudently electing to forgo urging other people to pursue an alternative course of action. Creation of silent spaces in our own life and equitable distribution of periods of respite that allow for periods of equable inner reflection is necessary to spur personal growth. It is equally important to honor other peopleβs intrinsic need for periods of introspection, uninterrupted by unsolicited advice
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Kilroy J. Oldster (Dead Toad Scrolls)
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I'm accustomed to reading Georgian and Victorian letters and sometimes you simply know in your gut that a blithe sentence is covering up a deeper emotion.
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Sara Sheridan
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A fulfilling long-term relationship is not accomplished by just finding the one. It is rather a co-operation between two passionate and highly motivated partners working together, figuring out every single situation holding hands. If there is trust at the root of the relationship, if the partners make an effort to keep it interesting, if difficulties are handled tactfully and if you can appreciate every single deed of your partner no matter how insignificant it is, the flames of love would never burn out and your love can truly live happily ever after.
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You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go...
Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You'll be as famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.
Except when they don't
Because, sometimes they won't.
I'm afraid that some times
you'll play lonely games too.
Games you can't win
'cause you'll play against you.
All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you'll be quite a lot.
And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won't want to go on...
You'll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You'll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life's
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never foget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)
KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!
So...
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
You're off the Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!
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Dr. Seuss (Oh, the Places Youβll Go!)
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She never indulged in reveries or tried to be clever in her conversation; she seemed to have drawn a line in her mind beyond which she never went. It was quite obvious that feelings, every kind of relationship, including love, entered into her life on equal terms with everything else, while in the case of other women love quite manifestly takes part, if not in deeds, then in words, in all the problems of life, and everything else is allowed in only in so far as love leaves room for it. The thing this woman esteemed most was the art of living, of being able to control oneself, of keeping a balance between thought and intention, intention and realization. You could never take her unawares, by surprise, but she was like a watchful enemy whose expectant gaze would always be fixed on you, however hard you tried to lie in wait for him. High society was her element, and therefore tact and caution prompted her every thought, word, and movement.
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Ivan Goncharov (Oblomov)
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The bond between husband and wife is a strong one. Suppose the man had hunted her out and brought her back. The memory of her acts would still be there, and inevitably, sooner or later, it would be cause for rancor. When there are crises, incidents, a woman should try to overlook them, for better or for worse, and make the bond into something durable. The wounds will remain, with the woman and with the man, when there are crises such as I have described. It is very foolish for a woman to let a little dalliance upset her so much that she shows her resentment openly. He has his adventures--but if he has fond memories of their early days together, his and hers, she may be sure that she matters. A commotion means the end of everything. She should be quiet and generous, and when something comes up that quite properly arouses her resentment she should make it known by delicate hints. The man will feel guilty and with tactful guidance he will mend his ways. Too much lenience can make a woman seem charmingly docile and trusting, but it can also make her seem somewhat wanting in substance. We have had instances enough of boats abandoned to the winds and waves.
It may be difficult when someone you are especially fond of, someone beautiful and charming, has been guilty of an indiscretion, but magnanimity produces wonders. They may not always work, but generosity and reasonableness and patience do on the whole seem best.
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Murasaki Shikibu (The Tale of Genji)
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Her grey, sun-strained eyes stared straight ahead, but she had deliberately shifted our relations, and for a moment I thought I loved her. But I am slow-thinking and full of interior rules that act as brakes on my desires, and I knew that first I had to get myself definitely out of that tangle back home. I'd been writing letters once a week and signing them: "Love, Nick," and all I could think of was how, when that certain girl played tennis, a faint mustache of perspiration appeared on her upper lip. Nevertheless there was a vague understanding that had to be tactfully broken off before I was free.
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F. Scott Fitzgerald (The Great Gatsby)
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Are you afraid of the tigers? Do you hear them padding all round you on their fierce fine velvet feet? The speed of growth of tigers in the nightland is a thing which ought to be investigated some time by the competent authority. You start off with one, about the size of a mouse, and before you know where you are heβs twice the size of the Sumatra tiger which defeats all comers in that hemisphere. And then, before you can say Knife (not a very tactful thing to say in the circumstances anyhow), all his boy and girl friends are gathered round, your respectable quiet decorous docile night turns itself into a regular tiger-garden.
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Anna Kavan (Sleep Has His House)
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When the ancient Romans would conquer a new place or a new people, they would leave the language and the customs in tact β they would even let the conquered people rule themselves in most cases, appointing a governor to maintain a foothold in the region.β Wilson leaned against the whiteboard as he spoke, his posture relaxed, his hands clasped loosely.βThis was part of what made Rome so successful. They didn't try to make everyone Romans in the process of conquering them. When I went to Africa with the Peace Corp, a woman who worked with the Corp said something to me that I have often thought about since. She told me 'Africa is not going to adapt to you. You are going to have to adapt to Africa.' That is true of wherever you go, whether it's school or whether it's in the broader world.
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Upon seeing Evie, her friends rushed toward her with unladylike squeals, and Evie let out her own laughing shriek as they collided in a circle of tightly hugging arms and exuberant kisses. In their shared excitement, the three young women continued to exclaim and scream, until someone burst into the room.
It was Cam, his eyes wide, his breathing fast, as if he had come at a dead run. His alert gaze flashed across the room, taking in the situation. Slowly his lean frame relaxed. "Damn," he muttered. "I thought something was wrong."
"Everything is fine, Cam," Evie said with a smile, while Annabelle kept an arm around her shoulders. "My friends are here, that's all."
Glancing at Sebastian, Cam remarked sourly, "I've heard less noise form the hogs at slaughter time."
There was a sudden suspicious tension around Sebastian's jaw, as if he were fighting to suppress a grin. "Mrs. Hunt, Miss Bowman, this is Mr. Rohan. You must pardon his lack of tact, as he is..."
"A ruffian?" Daisy suggested innocently.
This time Sebastian could not prevent a smile. "I was going to say 'unused to the presence of ladies at the club.'"
"Is that what the are?" Cam asked, casting a dubious glance at the visitors, his attention lingering for a moment on Daisy's small face.
Pointedly ignoring Cam, Daisy spoke to Annabelle. "I've always heard that Gypsies are known for their charm. An unfounded myth, it seems."
Cam's golden eyes narrowed into tigerish slits.
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Lisa Kleypas (Devil in Winter (Wallflowers, #3))
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It was fun to see him becoming sententious again, glorying in a science he had invented, and as positive as a village soothsayer.
'So one should neither give nor receive?' I laughed. 'And if the lover is poor, his mistress indigent, then both she and he must tactfully let themselves and each other die?'
'Let them die,' he repeated.
I had accompanied him as far as the revolving glass door of the lobby.
'Let them die,' he said again. 'It's less dangerous. I can swear on my word of honor that I never gave a present or made a loan or an exchange of anything except . . . this . . .'
He waved both hands in a complicated gesture which fleetingly indicated his chest, his mouth, his genitals, his thighs. Thanks no doubt to my fatigue, I was reminded of an animal standing on its hind legs and unwinding the invisible. Then he resumed his strictly human significance, opened the door, and easily mingled with the night outside, where the sea was already a little paler than the sky.
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Should I leave you two alone?" he asked, changing the subject.
"He's taken," I said, accepting the fact that forgiving himself was something Reyes didn't do. "Osh. By someone very special."
"And who might that be?"
This might be a little hard for him to swallow. Tact was definitely in order. Or I could just blurt it out and watch his expression go from content to disbelief to horror to a bristly, murderous kind of fury. I chose door number two. "He's destined to be with our daughter."
Reyes's expression slowly changed from content to disbelief to horror to a bristly, murderous kind of fury. "Oh, hell, no." He shot to his feet. "A Daeva? Are you fucking kidding me?"
Just like a dad.
"Yes, a Daeva. But I wouldn't dismiss him so offhandedly."
He whirled around and scowled. Not really at me. Just in general. "What do you mean?"
I pressed one corner of my mouth together in thought. "Okay, you know how I was the grim reaper all of my life, then suddenly I'm also this god from another dimension? And how you're the son of Satan all your life, then suddenly you're a god from this dimension? Who does that? Our lives are so weird. I think that maybe Osh is something else, too." I traced one of the dark lines on his face. "I think there's more than meets the eye. I see greatness in him, Reyes. I see a power beyond our imaginings. I see him giving his life for our daughter."
"Oh." He sat back down, satisfied. "As long as he dies in the end.
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Darynda Jones (The Curse of Tenth Grave (Charley Davidson, #10))
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What's Toraf's favorite color?"
She shrugs. "Whatever I tell him it is."
I raise a brow at her. "Don't know, huh?"
She crosses her arms. "Who cares anyway? We're not painting his toenails."
"I think what's she's trying to say, honey bunches, is that maybe you should paint your nails his favorite color, to show him you're thinking about him," Rachel says, seasoning her words with tact.
Rayna sets her chin. "Emma doesn't paint her nails Galen's favorite color."
Startled that Galen has a favorite color and I don't know it, I say, "Uh, well, he doesn't like nail polish." That is to say, he's never mentioned it before.
When a brilliant smile lights up her whole face, I know I've been busted. "You don't know his favorite color!" she says, actually pointing at me.
"Yes, I do," I say, searching Rachel's face for the answer. She shrugs.
Rayna's smirk is the epitome of I know something you don't know. Smacking it off her face is my first reflex, but I hold back, as I always do, because of the kiss I shared with Toraf and the way it hurt her. Sometimes I catch her looking at me with that same expression she had on the beach, and I feel like fungus, even though she deserved it at the time.
Refusing to fold, I eye the buffet of nail polish scattered before me. Letting my fingers roam over the bottles, I shop the paints, hoping one of them stands out to me. To save my life, I can't think of any one color he wears more often. He doesn't have a favorite sport, so team colors are a no-go. Rachel picked his cars for him, so that's no help either. Biting my lip, I decide on an ocean blue.
"Emma! Now I'm just ashamed of myself," he says from the doorway. "How could you not know my favorite color?"
Startled, I drop the bottle back on the table. Since he's back so soon, I have to assume he didn't find what or who he wanted-and that he didn't hunt them for very long. Toraf materializes behind him, but Galen's shoulders are too broad to allow them both to stand in the doorway. Clearing my throat, I say, "I was just moving that bottle to get to the color I wanted."
Rayna is all but doing a victory dance with her eyes. "Which is?" she asks, full of vicious glee. Toraf pushes past Galen and plops down next to his tiny mate. She leans into him, eager for his kiss. "I missed you," she whispers.
"Not as much as I missed you," he tells her.
Galen and I exchange eye rolls as he walks around to prop himself on the table beside me, his wet shorts making a butt-shaped puddle on the expensive wood. "Go ahead, angelfish," he says, nodding toward the pile of polish.
If he's trying to give me a clue, he sucks at it. "Go" could mean green, I guess. "Ahead" could mean...I have no idea what that could mean. And angelfish come in all sorts of colors. Deciding he didn't encode any messages for me, I sigh and push away from the table to stand. "I don't know. We've never talked about it before."
Rayna slaps her knee in triumph. "Ha!"
Before I can pass by him, Galen grabs my wrist and pulls me to him, corralling me between his legs. Crushing his mouth to mine, he moves his hand to the small of my back and presses me into him. Since he's still shirtless and I'm in my bikini, there's a lot of bare flesh touching, which is a little more intimate than I'm used to with an audience. Still, the fire sears through me, scorching a path to the furthest, deepest parts of me. It takes every bit of grit I have not to wrap my arms around his neck.
Gently, I push my hands against his chest to end the kiss, which is something I never thought I'd do. Giving him a look that I hope conveys "inappropriate," I step back. I've spent enough time in their company to know without looking that Rayna's eyes are bugging out of their sockets and Toraf is grinning like a nutcracker doll. With any luck, Rachel didn't even see the kiss. Stealing a peek at her, she meets my gaze with openmouthed shock.
Okay, it looked as bad as I thought it did.
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Anna Banks (Of Poseidon (The Syrena Legacy, #1))