Sara Sheehan Quotes

I take accountability for the souls I hurt in the crossfire of finding myself.

Walking away isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. It’s a sign of saving yourself when you’re drowning from the pain you didn’t create. Toxicity is one hell of a drug, one we often overlook because of love.

Think about what you love to do; imagine doing it, succeeding at it, and loving it. Your purpose will never disappoint you. Your purpose is whatever makes you feel safe in this cold world, something that won’t make you feel alone.

Some people will never love you the way you need to be loved, because they haven't yet loved themselves in that capacity.

I don’t speak on my beliefs out loud; I don’t always feel it’s needed nor anyone’s business. What you do with your life is your personal belief to choose what you think is suitable for your being. No one has the right to tell you what to do, with your body, your voice, of deciding what’s right for you. It’s you, only you; no one has the right to make you feel small because of your decisions. No one has the right to manipulate you into believing you’re a terrible human for being you. It’s not their choice; it’s yours.

Healing can get dark, but there’s so much beauty in the darkness - I said to the moon.

The truth is, I don't know where I'll be in 10 years, I didn't know 10 years ago I'd be here, but here I am all because I didn't fear the outcome

I couldn’t imagine living in a cycle of never feeling good enough and always living in fear of the unknown.

Grief is so heavy, It’s something that you carry forever, In the shadows. In the light. It’s something that’s embedded in you. You won’t forget it. It will always linger, You find a way to survive with it.

Knowing I found my person, sometimes I dwell in the moment and smile. Sometimes I soak in the happiness and am blessed to have found a beautiful, healthy, and at home kind of love. To have found growth and inspiration. You are my favorite soul experience

Love isn’t an obligation; it’s a testimony. Holding onto something that won’t ever be yours will only keep you from falling into what’s destined for you.

You need to be ready to embrace the beauty of what’s to come, you are the only one who’s holding you back.

Don’t be afraid to move on when your intuition has spoken.

I’ve dreamt of the life I’m currently living.

I will always love, grow, and be more resilient. Over the years I thought living was about surviving but it’s about feeling alive. It’s about being happy. It’s about peace. I was living wrong for so long but at this very moment in time—I’m happy, I’m healthy, and I’m at peace. I won’t ever take this life for granted. It’s the only one I got.

You will always align with the wrong person when you seek to be chosen instead of loved.

Don’t search for the old versions of yourself, they don’t exist anymore. It’s time to face your growth.

I’m someone worth loving. I’m someone worth remembering.

If you put in the work you will always find a way.

it wasn’t until I started to believe I deserved better, better started forming. It wasn’t until I spoke to myself with kindness… I was treated with grace.

How do I know to respect your silence if you don’t tell me you need time? How do I know everything will be okay if all you do is act as if nothing happened? Silence can kill a lot of things, especially when communication stays absent.

SELF-LOVE It’s a beautiful thing— to love who you are and not give that love up. It’s a beautiful thing— to give yourself the same effort you pour into everyone else.

I believed the broken deserve a home too.

Nurture your heart and heal the parts of you before you let someone close. Meet your demons, it’s not fair to anyone to fall in love with a work in progress when they deserve someone ready to embrace them. Someone who won’t hurt them. You deserve that too.

NOTE TO SELF: Don’t make excuses for people who hurt you. The story played out how it did, even if it was something deeper within them, you didn’t deserve to be dragged through hell. You shouldn’t be punished because you loved someone who couldn’t appreciate themselves.

I’m a lover and a healer, I care too much about making sure everyone is comfortable, loved, and understood. I let the emotions of everyone impact me. I need to learn not to let their projections ruin me. I need to learn I can love them without trying to fix them.

I was afraid of the fantasy. I was afraid I could be loved the way I always wanted to be, but this time around I didn’t think I was deserving enough to be. What if I hurt them? What if I couldn’t be enough?

Celebrating myself more. Giving myself the flowers I deserve, I’m not waiting for anyone to show up and make me deserving of them. I nurture my own. I heal my soul. I know I’m worthy enough. I won’t wait for anyone to validate me.

When they showed up, they brought themselves to the table but didn’t bring inspiration, support, or growth. They didn’t believe they needed to bring anything more than themselves; because it was the love I was looking for, and they were right; but as I grew I learned it wasn’t just about love,

Self-love begins as soon as you choose yourself. It starts when you leave behind the life you wanted that wasn’t yours and embrace the life that’s awaiting you.

Self-love is validating yourself in the absence of everyone who couldn’t appreciate you.

Don’t hide who you are from anyone. Don’t dim yourself to be loved. Don’t change who you are to be accepted. Love yourself the same way you give love to everyone. The most important thing, live while you have the chance. Don’t have any regrets—only lessons learned.

Continued patterns of lust that are confused with love.

I’m healed, and you won’t get access to who I am now. Why do you think you deserve my forgiveness when you can’t admit to a thing you did, to almost shatter me?

You were wondering how everyone else had it figured out while you were living in the moment, wondering when it would happen for you, to feel something, anything

The sad part of loving someone is the memories will always be there, no matter the situation or timing; seeing them will instantly make you remember, and you will feel it, every emotion you last left things. That doesn't mean it's real. You let go and left it all behind you. Don't let it control you into thinking they have control over you. When you see them, remember the reasons you left and where you're at now, and compare the differences in why you decided to leave. Keep remembering until you're no longer mad, upset, or sad. You'll be able to look at them and smile, wishing them the best because the pain they brought upon you is no longer holding you from happiness. You're happier now without them, and you need to remember that. Remember, there's no point in holding onto grudges that only affect you in the end. So the next time you see them, look at them; you'll remember everything intensely and feel nothing.

I want to breathe" The past that haunts me, the past that needs to die. I don't want the memories, let them die, let them leave. I want to forget them, I want to breathe.

Each day gets easier to live with my flaws because instead of letting them define me, I let them motivate me to become a better version of myself.

Why do we feel the need to rush and chase these fantasies of dreams we write into our story. Instead of living, loving and being present.

I was gifted the most valuable lesson this year, that I will make mistakes, and sometimes I needed to create a place of discomfort to grow.

So, I said, fuck “coming out” I don’t owe anyone an explanation, especially when it comes to love.

Get out the mindset that when someone leaves you, you gotta resort to who’s to blame. Sometimes it’s the universe redirecting you to a new path, yes it will sting for some time, probably even ruin you until you see the silver lining. Not everything is meant to be.

your love isn’t meant to be matched, it’s to be experienced

If I die, I’d be happy with what I have now and cherish it.

I usually call them like I see them, Too bad I was blind when it came to you.

Accept that happiness relies on yourself, not based on someone else. The key to true happiness is believing in yourself.

Placing your happiness in someone else’s hands, you’re bound to hurt. Happiness isn’t promised; it’s a temporary emotion.

I’d do anything to make someone happy, but that’s just my heart. When this happens, I fall into this place where happiness takes over me, not within myself but the other person. They end up ruining me and my peace with myself.

I don’t care if I lose in the situation, as long as I don’t lose myself in the situation.

The happiness of being alone is so real.

I’ll always carry the weight on my heart of all the times I was ignored, unappreciated, and left torn apart. I can’t begin to understand why I made myself put up with someone so cold while I had a heart of gold.

Maybe it’s anger I hold inside of me towards you. Because… I couldn’t love myself enough to see right through you.

I always wondered how you felt at that moment, but I realized I don’t care as I'm writing this. I don’t care how I made you feel because you never cared to wonder how I felt when you chose you every time over me.

My heart’s begging for someone to heal it; just everyone I always thought was right… was wrong.

We talk to each other like we didn’t know each other when yesterday we were one. Now it’s like the distance is taking what’s left of us. I’m scared to sit back and watch this terrible thing happen. How did we let this happen? We could pick up where we left off but would it work? Could we go back to what we almost had?

I’m sorry I wasn’t good enough. I’m sorry you felt as if everything was my fault. I’m sorry you feel hurt by the distance I created between us, but it’s what we both need. Our love became unhealthy; I didn’t know who I was anymore. I was fighting for someone I lost long ago. I was searching for you for who you used to be. The one who loved me for everything I was.

I just want you to know I’m more hurt than angry. I chose this decision, and I’ll live with it forever.

How could you promise me so much just to make me feel less? Build up my love just to break me down.

It’s not even you; it’s me… lately, I haven’t been feeling like me. I haven’t felt the vibe of being happy. The whole smile isn’t real. I don’t know the deal.

I would never have left you without speaking on why if I didn’t feel like I needed to. Everything I chose was thought through. I need you to understand that.

I let go of people I wanted to keep around forever. To me, that’s become my biggest strength. If you know me, you know my heart’s big and my love is unconditional. If I let you go, It was for reasons that don’t need explanation, other than it wasn’t me, It was you.

Love is supposed to be something that creates happiness, not something that destroys it.

I believe happiness is within; if you can’t find it within yourself, you’ll never find it within anyone else.

It’s not a loss anymore, to me, when someone decides to walk out of my life. It’s a loss to them, having to remember me for everything I am, knowing they chose to let me go.

All I wanted was closure; I was in until it was over. I never thought I’d see the day, but it came so quickly, that I took it in, let it out, and moved on with my life.

If you push me away, I promise you, you won’t find me where you left me. My heart’s big, but not big enough to deal with people who decide to love me when it’s convenient for them.

I always wanted forever, but in this life, forever is shorter than it seems.

When I finally opened my eyes and saw, Love doesn’t live here anymore, all because of you…

To think when you said we’d make it through whatever, you promised me you’d never leave… when you should have promised me you’d never change.

My light, you envied. It threatened you because you feared never knowing what you’d become. If you’d make it out of your darkness, if you’d ever be enough. I sympathize, I do but the cost was too high. I loved you, but at the expense of sacrificing myself, I’d rather pay my dues than lose myself saving you. I wasn’t your healer, I was your friend I wasn’t your savior, I was your lover I could only do and give so much.

Please come whole if you plan to love me I don’t have what it takes, to build a home that’s fitting for us two. That’s not love.

People are allowed to walk away from you, they’re entitled to their own journey, and if you’re no longer a part of the story that’s okay.

Love yourself enough so you won’t lose yourself trying to be enough for someone else.

I deserve someone who brings me peace, someone who feels like home to me.

I deserve someone who doesn’t mix pain with love and creates an unhealthy environment to grow; someone who can flourish with me.

I watched them change, It all makes me think, I miss the person I believed them to be.

You could tell the page we’re on isn’t the same and I don’t know how it got this way.

I just pray that one day the ones who hate me for letting them go can find the love within themselves, the love I found in them. The same love they decided to give everyone but themselves. The love they always needed. Because I couldn’t give them that.

You can’t expect to grow while holding onto what’s holding you back from your growth. Sometimes you must choose, always be lost loving them, or let them go and love you.

Looking at the situation now, I know I’ll never get it back. I know it will never be the same. No more I love you; I miss you… it’s all thrown away. We told each other our final goodbyes; we said exactly what we felt inside. Now we’re frustrated; we’re nothing we once knew. We’re everything we said we’d never be. In my eyes, it was all a lie.

I’m sorry you never understood how important it was to put yourself first. I’m sorry I never helped guide you to the part of you that needed help. I let you drown in yourself without thinking about what the outcome could be.

Who makes someone fall in love with them and then back out? How could you break the heart of someone who always cared? Someone who would, no matter what, always be there. The situation may have been wrong. The timing could have been off. But there’s no need to break an innocent heart. Why would you be so selfish?

Everything is now in the past. Every I love you, every I miss you. Everything was a lie.

I’m sorry you never realized the damage that’s been done. I’m sorry you didn’t see them for who they were the whole time. Because that’s what it’s about… them. They made you forget about yourself while trying to love them with everything you had while not giving yourself the love you deserved all along.

I’m at war with my own heart, and I try hard to understand why it’s so hard to forget how badly I’ve been hurt.

There comes a time when you never think it’s going to get easier because you put so much effort into someone else’s happiness; being alone meant no happiness. We rely on others to make us happy and in the long run, it ends up a long time coming.

My heart never understood why I kept letting someone like you in. But I know now why I had to open my heart to you. I understand why I needed to give you a piece of me I’ll never receive back. It’s a piece I don’t ever need back.

Happiness is indulging in your desires without having shame.

Many won’t know how to love you and it’s not your job to teach them. Many will treat you like you’re hard to love because they can’t love themselves and it’s not your fault. Many will destroy all the good left in you, or try because they can’t seem to find the good in themselves. Their insecurities aren’t your responsibility to soothe. Many will mistreat you and blame you for their mistake because they know they don’t deserve you. It’s not up to you to save them, save yourself instead.

Love isn’t an excuse to fight for a connection that isn’t healthy for you. Love isn’t sacrificing everything that brings bliss to fill someone else up with that same happiness.

You’re not obligated to keep opening the door for those who closed it on you and left you behind.

Too many times people don’t ask to be saved, but we extend our superpowers for as long as we can until we’re the ones in need of saving.

Those who loved me because of me, not for their need.

MY CONDOLENCES