Reconciliation Healing The Inner Child Quotes

The reality is that we are safe and we have the capacity to enjoy the wonders of life in the present moment. When we recognize that our suffering is based on images instead of current reality, then living happily in the present moment becomes possible right away.

There is no distinction between means and ends. There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way. There is no way to enlightenment, enlightenment is the way.

Without suffering there cannot be happiness. Without mud there cannot be any lotus flowers.

Go back and take care of yourself. Your body needs you, your perceptions need you, your feeling needs you. The wounded child in you needs you. Your suffering needs you to acknowledge it.

Sometimes our parents are full of love and sometimes they are full of anger. This love and anger comes not only from them, but from all previous generations. When we can see this, we no longer blame our parents for our suffering.

If you can see your mother as a fragile five-year-old girl, then you can forgive her very easily with compassion. The five-year-old girl who was your mother is always alive in her and in you.

Even if we have time, we don't come home to ourselves. We try to keep ourselves constantly entertained - watching television, socialising, or using alcohol or drugs - because we don't want to experience that suffering all over again.

You have to practice going back to your wounded child every day. You have to embrace him or her tenderly, like a big brother or a big sister.

When you climb a beautiful mountain, invite your child within to climb with you. When you contemplate the sunset, invite her to enjoy it with you.

Fear is based on ignorance. Lack of understanding is also a primary cause of anger.

If we want to reconcile with our family or with friends who have hurt us, we have to take care of ourselves first. If we’re not capable of listening to ourselves, how can we listen to another person? If we don’t know how to recognise our own suffering, it won’t be possible to bring peace and harmony into our relationships.

When we pay attention to our breathing, our in-breath and out-breath become peaceful and relaxed. When we walk with attention and we just walk without thinking or being carried away by anything, we already begin to heal.

One day my left hand was holding a nail and my right hand a hammer. I was trying to hang a picture and I was not very mindful. Instead of pounding on the nail I pounded on the finger. Right away my right hand put the hammer down and took care of my left hand as if she were taking care of herself.

If you know how to go back to her and listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, healing will take place.

If we can heal our wounded child, we will not only liberate ourselves, but we will also help liberate whoever has hurt or abused us. The abuser may also have been the victimg of abuse.

Many people still believe that we can only be happy when we have a lot of money and power. Looking around, we see many people who have plenty of money and power, but who still suffer very deeply from stress and loneliness. So power and money are not the answer. We have to educate ourselves in the art of living mindfully.

Do everything in mindfulness so you can really be there, so you can love.

Ignorance is in each cell of our body and our consciousness. It's like a drop of ink diffused in a glass of water.

If one person keeps calm and smiles at a provocation, the whole world will have a better chance for peace.

God the Father is in God the Son; and the Holy Spirit is in the Son and in the Father. That is interbeing.

Ending our consumption of violent images and toxic communication gives us the chance to transform the violence and suffering in us.

if you know how to suffer, suffering is okay. And the moment you have that attitude, you don’t suffer much anymore. And out of suffering, a lotus flower of happiness can open.

What we have is enough for us. Once we adopt that style of living, we become a happy person right away.

With mindful walking, our steps are no longer a means to arrive at an end.

No one can be by himself or herself alone. We have to inter-be, connected with everyone and everything else.

When we compare, we see ourselves as superior, inferior, or as trying to be equal. But with this kind of comparing comes discrimination, and with discrimination comes suffering.

4. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to change. There is no way to escape being separated from them. I cannot keep anything. I come here empty-handed, and I go empty-handed.

Suppose we give something to someone. With the wisdom of nondiscrimination, we see that there is no giver and no receiver. If we still think that we’re the giver and the other person is the receiver, then that’s not perfect giving. We give because the other person is in need of what we’re giving and the act is very natural. If we’re really practicing generosity, we won’t say, “He’s not grateful at all.” We won’t have these kinds of ideas.

We produce ourselves, we product our own future. We have to offer our best thoughts, speech and actions. Mindfulness helps us to know whether we're producing the right thing for future and helps us remember that what we produce is us, is our continuation.

If we accept life and everything that belongs to life—the moments of happiness, joy, and peace, but also sickness, old age, and death—then we don’t suffer anymore. So suffering is okay. Not only is suffering okay, but thanks to suffering we have an opportunity to experience well-being.

Sometimes we say, “I didn’t want to do it, but it’s stronger than me, it pushed me. So that is a seed, a habit energy, that may have come from many generations in the past.We can smile at our shortcomings, at our habit energy. With awareness, we have a choice; we can act another way. We can end the cycle of suffering right now.

When our mind is carried away by strong pain, it helps to go back to our relaxed and peaceful in-breath and out-breath. Eventually, when our painful feeling comes back, we accept it as it is instead of letting it carry us away and make us more agitated. We don’t fight the painful feeling because we know it is part of us, and we don’t want to fight ourselves. Pain, irritation, and jealousy are all part of us. As they arise, we can calm them by going back to our in-breath and out-breath. Our peaceful breathing will calm those strong emotions. When an emotion becomes calmer, we can see the roots of our suffering and see that those who cause us pain are also suffering. Usually when we suffer we think we’re the only person who suffers, and that the other person is very happy. But in fact, it’s likely that the person who hurts us also has a lot of pain and doesn’t know how to handle his strong emotions. Breathing with awareness, we generate our energy of mindfulness, and we can have insight into

When our mind is carried away by strong pain, it helps to go back to our relaxed and peaceful in-breath and out-breath. Eventually, when our painful feeling comes back, we accept it as it is instead of letting it carry us away and make us more agitated.

Darling, I am angry at you, I suffer very much, I want you to know it.” “I am doing my best to deal with my suffering.” “Please help.

appeal to the best in ourselves in order to deal with the situation. We don’t just react and allow our anger, our violence to cause more suffering.

Listening When we speak of listening with compassion, we usually think of listening to someone else. But we must also listen to the wounded child inside of us. Sometimes the wounded child in us needs all our attention. That little child might emerge from the depths of your consciousness and ask for your attention. If you are mindful, you will hear his or her voice calling for help. At that moment, instead of paying attention to whatever is in front of you, go back and tenderly embrace the wounded child. You can talk directly to the child with the language of love, saying, “In the past, I left you alone. I went away from you. Now, I am very sorry. I am going to embrace you.” You can say, “Darling, I am here for you. I will take good care of you. I know that you suffer so much. I have been so busy. I have neglected you, and now I have learned a way to come back to you.” If necessary, you have to cry together with that child. Whenever you need to, you can sit and breathe with the child. “Breathing in, I go back to my wounded child; breathing out, I take good care of my wounded child.” You have to talk to your child several times a day. Only then can healing take place. Embracing your child tenderly, you reassure him that you will never let him down again or leave him unattended. The little child has been left alone for so long. That is why you need to begin this practice right away. If you don’t do it now, when will you do it? If you know how to go back to her and listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, healing will take

During the Vietnam War millions of people believed that I was a Communist, and other people believed that I was an agent of the CIA. If you were in such a position you might suffer a lot. You might feel that you’re a victim of misunderstanding and injustice. You might think your suffering would end only when people stop thinking of you as a Communist or as an agent of the CIA. But you can do something else: you can accept the situation. Yes, there are millions of people who believe that you are a Communist and there are millions of other people who believe that you’re a supporter of the CIA.

The Buddha spoke about the practice of samtusta, recognizing that we have enough conditions to be happy right here and right now. We don’t need to obtain any more. Samtusta has been translated as realizing that one is satisfied with little.

When we recognize that our suffering is based on images instead of current reality, then living happily in the present moment becomes possible right away.

We have a lamp inside us, the lamp of mindfulness, which we can light anytime. The oil of that lamp is our breathing, our steps, and our peaceful smile. We

We have to embrace our suffering and look deeply into it; we can learn a lot from it. When the seed of fear in the depths of our store consciousness comes up on the level of mind consciousness, the practice is to invite the seed of mindfulness to manifest also. Mindfulness helps us to really be there in order to recognize and embrace the suffering, and not run away from it. In the beginning our mindfulness is not strong enough to hold our pain and our sorrow. But as we practice, and especially when we have a community to support our practice, our mindfulness will grow strong enough for us to hold our pain, our sorrow, and our fear.

Sometimes we act without intention, but that is also action. “Habit energy” is pushing us; it pushes us to do things without our being aware. Sometimes we do something without knowing we’re doing it. Even when we don’t want to do something, we still do it. Sometimes we say, “I didn’t want to do it, but it’s stronger than me, it pushed me.” So that is a seed, a habit energy, that may have come from many generations in the past.

When we invite our seed of fear up like this, we will be better equipped to take care of our anger. Fear gives life to anger. We don’t have peace when fear is there, so it becomes the soil in which anger can grow.

give your anger, your despair, your fear, a bath of mindfulness every day.

There’s no feeling of superiority, of inferiority, or even of equality.

When we’re able to smile at a provocation, we can be aware of our ability, appreciate it, and continue in this way.

The fifth characteristic of manas is ignoring the law of moderation. Mind consciousness has to remind manas of the wisdom of moderation. With mindful breathing, we can help our mind consciousness to look deeply, to recognize manas with all its delusion, and to realize that there is the seed of wisdom in store consciousness

As a tender baby, we have arms and feet, but we can’t use them. We need someone to take care of us. With original fear comes original desire. There is the fear of being left alone and there is the desire to survive. Even when we’ve grown up to be an adult, the original fear and original desire are still there.

Suppose a friend who has come a long way to visit is having a cup of tea with us. Mindfulness helps the time we spend with her to be a time we won’t forget.

There are four elements that make up true love, the four immeasurable minds. They are maitri (loving kindness), karuna (compassion), mudita (joy), and upeksha (equanimity, nondiscrimination).

We transmit our thoughts, speech and actions - collectively known as our karma to our children and to the world, that is our future.

When we don’t run away from our suffering, but we recognize it, embrace it, and look deeply into it, suffering begins to transform, and liberation and enlightenment manifest.

Ignorance is in each cell of our body and our consciousness. It’s like a drop of ink diffused in a glass of water. That ignorance stops us from seeing reality; it pushes us to do foolish things that make us suffer even more,

So the second step in transformation is to create the intention to stay where we are, look deeply at our fear, and accept it.

One day my left hand was holding a nail and my right hand a hammer. I was trying to hang a picture and I was not very mindful. Instead of pounding on the nail I pounded on the finger. Right away my right hand put the hammer down and took care of my left hand as if she were taking care of herself. My left hand didn’t get angry at my right hand, because she has the wisdom of nondiscrimination. My right hand didn’t say, “I’m taking care of you, left hand, you have to remember that.” My left hand didn’t say, “Right hand, you have done me an injustice; I want justice, give me that hammer.” There’s no you, no I, no discrimination; they are one. It’s like the Trinity. God the Father is in God the Son; and the Holy Spirit is in the Son and in the Father. That is interbeing. In one you can see the other two. There was some pain, but both my hands shared the suffering, because in a loving relationship there is no discrimination. That is equanimity (upeksha).

In each of us, there is a young, suffering child. We have all had times of difficulty as children and many of us have experienced trauma. To protect and defend ourselves against future suffering, we often try to forget those painful times.