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Let today be the day you decide he doesn’t walk through your door ever again. Your home is supposed to be a place where you feel safe – it’s your haven, your sanctuary from the world. Don’t allow him to continue to desecrate your sacred space. You have every right to demand that he no longer enters your residence. Notify him that you have made this decision. If he attempts to disrespect your request, inform him that you will notify the authorities if necessary. Then, follow through. Feel the fear, and do it anyway. The purpose of doing this is not only to implement a new way of life for you, but also to eliminate the under-handed tactics often employed by the disordered personality to stay in your head and keep you feeling off-balance. These tactics might include planting spyware on your computer and/or in your home, stealing heirlooms and other valuables (including cash), or raiding your home in search of evidence of a new partner, which is absolutely none of their business.
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Shahida Arabi (Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself)