Midnight Library Quotes

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The only way to learn is to live.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Never underestimate the big importance of small things
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You don’t have to understand life. You just have to live it.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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If you aim to be something you are not, you will always fail. Aim to be you. Aim to look and act and think like you. Aim to be the truest version of you. Embrace that you-ness. Endorse it. Love it. Work hard at it. And don't give a second thought when people mock it or ridicule it. Most gossip is envy in disguise.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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As Thoreau wrote, β€˜It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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You’re overthinking it.’ β€˜I have anxiety. I have no other type of thinking available.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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A person was like a city. You couldn't let a few less desirable parts put you off the whole. There may be bits you don't like, a few dodgy side streets and suburbs, but the good stuff makes it worthwhile.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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We only need to be one person. We only need to feel one existence. We don't have to do everything in order to be everything, because we are already infinite. While we are alive we always contain a future of multifarious possibility.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Sometimes just to say your own truth out loud is enough to find others like you.
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Want,’ she told her, in a measured tone, β€˜is an interesting word. It means lack. Sometimes if we fill that lack with something else the original want disappears entirely.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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You see, doing one thing differently is very often the same as doing everything differently.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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It is quite a revelation to discover that the place you wanted to escape to is the exact same place you escaped from. That the prison wasn't the place, but the perspective.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Dance with me, Celaena," he said again, his voice rough. When her eyes met his she forgot about the cold, and the moon, and the glass palace looming above them. The secret library and the king's plans and Mort and Elena faded into nothing. She took his hand and there was only the music and Chaol.
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Sarah J. Maas (Crown of Midnight (Throne of Glass, #2))
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And that sadness is intrinsically part of the fabric of happiness. You can’t have one without the other. Of course, they come in different degrees and quantities. But there is no life where you can be in a state of sheer happiness for ever. And imagining there is just breeds more unhappiness in the life you’re in.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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It is easy to mourn the lives we aren't living. Easy to wish we'd developed other other talents, said yes to different offers. Easy to wish we'd worked harder, loved better, handled our finances more astutely, been more popular, stayed in the band, gone to Australia, said yes to the coffee or done more bloody yoga. It takes no effort to miss the friends we didn't make and the work we didn't do the people we didn't do and the people we didn't marry and the children we didn't have. It is not difficult to see yourself through the lens of other people, and to wish you were all the different kaleidoscopic versions of you they wanted you to be. It is easy to regret, and keep regretting, ad infinitum, until our time runs out. But it is not lives we regret not living that are the real problem. It is the regret itself. It's the regret that makes us shrivel and wither and feel like our own and other people's worst enemy. We can't tell if any of those other versions would of been better or worse. Those lives are happening, it is true, but you are happening as well, and that is the happening we have to focus on.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Between life and death there is a library, and within that library, the shelves go on forever. Every book provides a chance to try another life you could have lived. To see how things would be if you had made other choices… Would you have done anything different, if you had the chance to undo your regrets?
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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The thing that looks the most ordinary might end up being the thing that leads you to victory.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Regrets don’t leave. They weren’t mosquito bites. They itch for ever.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She realised that you could be as honest as possible in life, but people only see the truth if it is close enough to their reality.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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It was interesting, she mused to herself, how life sometimes simply gave you a whole new perspective by waiting around long enough for you to see it.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Sometimes regrets aren't based on fact at all
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Happy moments can turn into pain, given time.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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The paradox of volcanoes was that they were symbols of destruction but also life. Once the lava slows and cools, it solidifies and then breaks down over time to become soil - rich, fertile soil. She wasn't a black hole, she decided. She was a volcano. And like a volcano she couldn't run away from herself. She'd have to stay there and tend to that wasteland. She could plant a forest inside herself.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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That was how she had felt most of her life. Caught in the middle. Struggling, flailing, just trying to survive while not knowing which way to go. Which path to commit to without regret.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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And even if you were a pawn - maybe we all are - then you should remember that a pawn is the most magical piece of all. It might look small and ordinary but it isn't. because a pawn is never just a pawn. A pawn is a queen-in-waiting. All you need to do is find a way to keep moving forward. One square after another. And you can get to the other side and unlock all kinds of power.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Of course, we can't visit every place or meet every person or do every job, yet most of what we'd feel in any life is still available. We don't have to play every game to know what winning feels like. We don't have to hear every piece of music in the world to understand music. We don't have to have tried every variety of grape from every vineyard to know the pleasure of wine. Love and laughter and fear and pain are universal currencies. We just have to close our eyes and savour the taste of the drink in front of us and listen to the song as it plays. We are as completely and utterly alive as we are in any other life and have access to the same emotional spectrum.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Maybe that's what all lives were, though. Maybe even the most seemingly perfectly intense or worthwhile lives ultimately felt the same. Acres of disappointment and monotony and hurts and rivalries but with flashes of wonder and beauty. Maybe that was the only meaning that mattered. To be the world, witnessing itself.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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So long as there are still books on the shelves, you are never trapped. Every book is a potential escape.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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The lonely mind in the busy city yearns for connection because it thinks human-to-human connection is the point of everything. But amid pure nature (or the β€˜tonic of wildness’ as Thoreau called it) solitude took on a different character. It became in itself a kind of connection. A connection between herself and the world. And between her and herself.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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You can have everything and feel nothing.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Librarians have knowledge. They guide you to the right books. The right worlds. They find the best places. Like soul-enhanced search engines.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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To be human was to continually dumb the world down into an understandable story that keeps things simple.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Why want another universe if this one has dogs?
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Is happiness the aim?" "I don't know. I suppose I want my life to mean something. I want to do something good,
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She realised that she hadn’t tried to end her life because she was miserable, but because she had managed to convince herself that there was no way out of her misery.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Regrets ignore chronology. They float around.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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The sky grows dark The black over blue Yet the stars still dare To shine for you
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Fear was when you wandered into a cellar and worried that the door would close shut. Despair was when the door closed and locked behind you.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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That the prison wasn’t the place, but the perspective.
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When you stay too long in a place, you forget just how big an expanse the world is. You get no sense of the length of those longitudes and latitudes. Just as, she supposed, it is hard to have a sense of the vastness inside any one person. But once you sense that vastness, once something reveals it, hope emerges, whether you want it to or not, and it clings to you as stubbornly as lichen clings to rock.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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We only know what we perceive. Everything we experience is ultimately just our perception of it. β€œIt’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”’ β€˜You know Thoreau?
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Nora wanted to live in a world where no cruelty existed, but the only worlds she had available to her were worlds with humans in them.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Sometimes regrets aren’t based on fact at all. Sometimes regrets are justΒ .Β .Β .’ She searched for the appropriate term and found it. β€˜A load of bullshit.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Love and laughter and fear and pain are universal currencies.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Every second of every day we are entering a new universe. And we spend so much time wishing our lives were different, comparing ourselves to other people and to other versions of ourselves, when really most lives contain degrees of good and degrees of bad.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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You can choose choices but not outcomes.
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Never trust someone who is willingly rude to low-paid service staff –
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Look at that chessboard we put back in place,’ said Mrs Elm softly. β€˜Look at how ordered and safe and peaceful it looks now, before a game starts. It’s a beautiful thing. But it is boring. It is dead. And yet the moment you make a move on that board, things change. Things begin to get more chaotic. And that chaos builds with every single move you make.’ β€˜It’s an easy game to play,’ she told Nora. β€˜But a hard one to master. Every move you make opens a whole new world of possibilities...In chess, as in life, possibility is the basis of everything. Every hope, every dream, every regret, every moment of living...never underestimate the big importance of small things.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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There is no rejection, there is only redirection.
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It seems impossible to live without hurting people.' 'That's because it is.' 'So why live at all?' 'Well, in fairness, dying hurts people too.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She was a waterfall of apologies. She was drowning in herself.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Because, Nora, sometimes the only way to learn is to live.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Do you ever think "how did I end up here?" Like you are in a maze and totally lost and it's all your fault because you were the one who made every turn? And you know that there are many routes that could have helped you out, because you hear all the people on the outside of the maze who made it through, and they are laughing and smiling. And sometimes you get a glimpse of them through the hedge. A fleeting shape through the leaves. And they seem so damn happy to have made it and you don't resent them, but you do resent yourself for not having their ability to work it all out. Do you? Or is this maze just for me?
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Compassion is the basis of morality,’ the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer had written, in one of his softer moments. Maybe it was the basis of life too.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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But you will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life,
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Every life contains many millions of decisions. Some big, some small. But every time one decision is taken over another, the outcomes differ. An irreversible variation occurs, which in turn leads to further variations
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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We only know what we perceive. Everything we experience is ultimately just our perception of it. β€œIt’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Nora had always had a problem accepting herself. From as far back as she could remember, she'd had the sense that she wasn't enough. Her parents who both had their own insecurities, had encouraged that idea. She imagined, now, what it would be like to accept herself completely. Every mistake she had ever made. Every mark on her body. Every dream she had ever made. Every mark on her body. Every dream she hadn't reached or pain she had felt. Every lust or longing she had suppressed. She imagined accepting it all. The way she accepted nature. The way she accepted a glacier or a puffin or the breach of a whale. She imagined seeing herself as just another brilliant freak of nature. Just another sentient animal, trying her best. And in doing so, she imagined what it was like to be free.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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To be part of nature was to be part of the will to live.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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It is not the lives we regret not living that are the real problem. It is the regret itself. It’s the regret that makes us shrivel and wither and feel like our own and other people’s worst enemy. We can’t tell if any of those other versions would have been better or worse. Those lives are happening, it is true, but you are happening as well, and that is the happening we have to focus on.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Life begins,’ Sartre once wrote, β€˜on the other side of despair.
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I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude.
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True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing.’ – Socrates (after losing our quiz!!!!)
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Equidistant. Not aligned to one bank or the other...caught in the middle. Struggling, flailing, just trying to survive while not knowing which way to go. Which path to commit to without regret.
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Life is frightening, and it is frightening for a reason, and the reason is that it doesn’t matter which branch of a life we get to live, we are always the same rotten tree. I wanted to be many things in my life. All kinds of things. But if your life is rotten, it will be rotten no matter what you do. The damp rots the whole useless thing...
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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I don’t think your problem was stage fright. Or wedding fright. I think your problem was life fright.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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One life of sadness was enough. What is the point of risking more?
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Never underestimate the big importance of small things,’ Mrs Elm said. β€˜You must always remember that.
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Disobedience is the true foundation of liberty. The obedient must be slaves.
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Well, that you can choose choices but not outcomes.
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She had gone to the library in search of hope, but what she'd found instead was a child. It would take her many years to realize that the two were not so different.
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Melissa Grey (The Girl at Midnight (The Girl at Midnight, #1))
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She had shrunk for him and he still hadn't found the space he needed. No more.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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I may have not been sure about what really did interest me, but I was absolutely sure about what didn’t.
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At the beginning of a game, there are no variations. There is only one way to set up a board. There are nine million variations after the first six moves. And after eight moves there are two hundred and eighty-eight billion different positions. And those possibilities keep growing. There are more possible ways to play a game of chess than the amount of atoms in the observable universe. So it gets very messy. And there is no right way to play; there are many ways. In chess, as in life, possibility is the basis of everything. Every hope, every dream, every regret, every moment of living.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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The rook is my favourite piece,’ she said. β€˜It’s the one that you think you don’t have to watch out for. It is straightforward. You keep your eye on the queen, and the knights, and the bishop, because they are the sneaky ones. But it’s the rook that often gets you. The straightforward is never quite what it seems.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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He was rather clumsy and shy and looked as if he'd spent the last ten years of his life locked up in a library - hardly the kind of man any girl your age dreams of ...
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Carlos Ruiz ZafΓ³n (The Midnight Palace (Niebla, #2))
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I’m having a pretty shit time too, if we’re doing the Misery Olympics.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She had thought, in her nocturnal and suicidal hours, that solitude was the problem. But that was because it hadn't been true solitude. The lonely mind in the busy city yearns for connection because it thinks human-to-human connection is the point of everything. But amid pure nature (or the 'tonic of wildness' as Thoreau called it) solitude took on a different character. It became in itself a kind of connection. A connection between herself and the world. And between her and herself.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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A pawn is a queen-in-waiting. All you need to do is find a way to keep moving forward. One square after another.
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I can never be all the people I want and live all the lives I want. I can never train myself in all the skills I want. And why do I want? I want to live and feel all the shades, tones and variations of mental and physical experience possible in my life. Sylvia Plath
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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So let’s be kind to the people in our own existence. Let’s occasionally look up from the spot in which we are because, wherever we happen to be standing, the sky above goes on for ever. Yesterday I knew I had no future, and that it was impossible for me to accept my life as it is now. And yet today, that same messy life seems full of hope. Potential. The impossible, I suppose, happens via living. Will my life be miraculously free from pain, despair, grief, heartbreak, hardship, loneliness, depression? No. But do I want to live? Yes. Yes. A thousand times, yes.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Pressure makes us, though. You start off as coal and the pressure makes you a diamond.’ She didn’t correct his knowledge of diamonds. She didn’t tell him that while coal and diamonds are both carbon, coal is too impure to be able, under whatever pressure, to become a diamond. According to science, you start off as coal and you end up as coal. Maybe that was the real-life lesson
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Bertrand Russell wrote that β€˜To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three-parts dead’. Maybe that was her problem. Maybe she was just scared of living. But Bertrand Russell had more marriages and affairs than hot dinners, so perhaps he was no one to give advice.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Maybe that’s what all lives were, though. Maybe even the most seemingly perfectly intense or worthwhile lives ultimately felt the same. Acres of disappointment and monotony and hurts and rivalries but with flashes of wonder and beauty.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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I think it is easy to imagine there are easier paths,’ she said, realising something for the first time. β€˜But maybe there are no easy paths. There are just paths. In one life, I might be married. In another, I might be working in a shop. I might have said yes to this cute guy who asked me out for a coffee. In another I might be researching glaciers in the Arctic Circle. In another, I might be an Olympic swimming champion. Who knows? Every second of every day we are entering a new universe. And we spend so much time wishing our lives were different, comparing ourselves to other people and to other versions of ourselves, when really most lives contain degrees of good and degrees of bad.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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what we consider to be the most successful route for us to take, actually isn’t. Because too often our view of success is about some external bullshit idea of achievement – an Olympic medal, the ideal husband, a good salary. And we have all these metrics that we try and reach. When really success isn’t something you measure, and life isn’t a race you can win. It’s allΒ .Β .Β . bollocks, actuallyΒ .Β .Β .
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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That’s why everyone hates each other nowadays,’ he reckoned. β€˜Because they are overloaded with non-friends friends. Ever heard about Dunbar’s number?’ And then he had told her about a man called Roger Dunbar at Oxford University, who had discovered that human beings were wired to know only a hundred and fifty people, as that was the average size of hunter-gatherer communities.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She imagined, now, what it would be like to accept herself completely. Every mistake she had ever made. Every mark on her body. Every dream she hadn’t reached or pain she had felt. Every lust or longing she had suppressed. She imagined accepting it all. The way she accepted nature. The way she accepted a glacier or a puffin or the breach of a whale. She imagined seeing herself as just another brilliant freak of nature. Just another sentient animal, trying their best. And in doing so, she imagined what it was like to be free.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Want,’ she told her, in a measured tone, β€˜is an interesting word. It means lack. Sometimes if we fill that lack with something else the original want disappears entirely. Maybe you have a lack problem rather than a want problem. Maybe there is a life that you really want to live.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She knew that everything humans see is a simplification. A human sees the world in three dimensions. That is a simplification. Humans are fundamentally limited, generalising creatures, living on auto-pilot, who straighten out curved streets in their minds, which explains why they get lost all the time.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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There are patterns to life . . . Rhythms. It is so easy, while trapped in just the one life, to imagine that times of sadness or tragedy or failure or fear are a result of that particular existence. That it is a by-product of living a certain way, rather than simply living. I mean, it would have made things a lot easier if we understood there was no way of living that can immunise you against sadness. And that sadness is intrinsically part of the fabric of happiness. You can’t have one without the other. Of course, they come in different degrees and quantities. But there is no life where you can be in a state of sheer happiness for ever. And imagining there is just breeds more unhappiness in the life you’re in.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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You could eat in the finest restaurants, you could partake in every sensual pleasure, you could sing on stage in SΓ£o Paulo to twenty thousand people, you could soak up whole thunderstorms of applause, you could travel to the ends of the Earth, you could be followed by millions on the internet, you could win Olympic medals, but this was all meaningless without love.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Fleetfoot just zoomed on by, a blur of gold. A moment later, when the little librarian came waddling into view and asked if they'd seen a dog, Celaena only shook her head and said that she had heard something--from the opposite direction. And then she told him to keep his voice down, because this was a library. His eyes shooting daggers at her, the man huffed and scuttled away, his shouting a bit softer. When he was gone, Dorian turned to her, brows high on his head.
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Sarah J. Maas (Crown of Midnight (Throne of Glass, #2))
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She might not have felt everything she had felt in those lives, but she had the capability. She might have missed those particular opportunities that led her to become an Olympic swimmer, or traveller, or a vineyard owner, or a rock star, or a planet-saving glaciologist, or a Cambridge graduate, or a mother, or million other things, but she was still in in some way all of those people. They were all her. She could of been all those amazing people, and that wasn't depressing, as she had thought. Not at all. It was inspiring. Because now she saw the kinds of things she could do when she put herself to work.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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She realised that she hadn’t tried to end her life because she was miserable, but because she had managed to convince herself that there was no way out of her misery. That, she supposed, was the basis of depression as well as the difference between fear and despair. Fear was when you wandered into a cellar and worried that the door would close shut. Despair was when the door closed and locked behind you.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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What happened?” she breathed, staring at me. β€œI got hit in the face with a pie,” I said. Mags stopped, blinking. β€œYou got...hit in the face with a pie,” she repeated. β€œI...what? I’m sorry, but I’ve been in charge of this Library for a long time. I’ve seen a lot of really ridiculous things. I lived in Wales. And there is no way being hit with a pie should have turned you human.” β€œIt was a really evil pie,” I said.
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Seanan McGuire (Chimes at Midnight (October Daye, #7))
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The perfect Librarian is calm, cool, collected, intelligent, multilingual, a crack shot, a martial artist, an Olympic-level runner (at both the sprint and marathon), a good swimmer, an expert thief, and a genius con artist. They can steal a dozen books from a top-security strongbox in the morning, discuss literature all afternoon, have dinner with the cream of society in the evening, and then stay up until midnight dancing, before stealing some more interesting tomes at three a.m. That's what a perfect Librarian would do. In practice, most Librarians would rather spend their time reading a good book.
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Genevieve Cogman (The Masked City (The Invisible Library, #2))
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To the winter forest And nowhere to go This girl runs From all she knows The pressure rises to the top The pressure rises (it won't stop) They want your body They want your soul They want fake smiles That's rock and roll The wolves surrond you A fever dream The wolves surrond you So start the scream Howl, into the night, Howl, until the light, Howl, your turn to fight, Howl, just make it right Howl howl howl howl (Motherfucker) You can't fight fo ever You have to comply If your life isn't working You have to ask why Remember When we were young enough Not to fear tomorrow Or mourn yesterday And we were just Us And time was just Now And we were in Life Not rising through Like arms in a sleeve Because we had time We had time to breathe The bad times are here The bad times have come but life can't be over When it hasn't begun The lake shines and the water's cold All that glitters can turn to gold Silence the music to improve the tune Stop the fake smiles and howl at the moon Howl, into the night, Howl, until the light, Howl, your turn to fight, Howl, just make it right Howl howl howl howl
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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It is easy to mourn the lives we aren’t living. Easy to wish we’d developed other talents, said yes to different offers. Easy to wish we’d worked harder, loved better, handled our finances more astutely, been more popular, stayed in the band, gone to Australia, said yes to the coffee or done more bloody yoga. It takes no effort to miss the friends we didn’t make and the work we didn’t do and the people we didn’t marry and the children we didn’t have. It is not difficult to see yourself through the lens of other people, and to wish you were all the different kaleidoscopic versions of you they wanted you to be. It is easy to regret, and keep regretting, ad infinitum, until our time runs out. But it is not the lives we regret not living that are the real problem. It is the regret itself. It’s the regret that makes us shrivel and wither and feel like our own and other people’s worst enemy. We can’t tell if any of those other versions would have been better or worse. Those lives are happening, it is true, but you are happening as well, and that is the happening we have to focus on. Of course, we can’t visit every place or meet every person or do every job, yet most of what we’d feel in any life is still available. We don’t have to play every game to know what winning feels like. We don’t have to hear every piece of music in the world to understand music. We don’t have to have tried every variety of grape from every vineyard to know the pleasure of wine. Love and laughter and fear and pain are universal currencies. We just have to close our eyes and savour the taste of the drink in front of us and listen to the song as it plays. We are as completely and utterly alive as we are in any other life and have access to the same emotional spectrum. We only need to be one person. We only need to feel one existence. We don’t have to do everything in order to be everything, because we are already infinite. While we are alive we always contain a future of multifarious possibility. So let’s be kind to the people in our own existence. Let’s occasionally look up from the spot in which we are because, wherever we happen to be standing, the sky above goes on for ever. Yesterday I knew I had no future, and that it was impossible for me to accept my life as it is now. And yet today, that same messy life seems full of hope. Potential. The impossible, I suppose, happens via living. Will my life be miraculously free from pain, despair, grief, heartbreak, hardship, loneliness, depression? No. But do I want to live? Yes. Yes. A thousand times, yes.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)