Mel Robbins High Five Quotes

jealousy is simply blocked desire. If you could flip that jealousy into inspiration, the block would disappear. If you could celebrate jealousy as a sign of your next big step in life, it immediately lifts the burden of frustration and insecurity you feel, and gets you moving forward with a high five attitude again.

The high five was hands down the best motivator. Here’s why: The kids who were told they were smart, talented, or skilled were the least motivated and had the least fun. Those praised for their effort showed greater enjoyment and exhibited a higher level of persistence. But kids who got a simple high five? They felt the most positive about themselves and their efforts, and they kept going for the longest time (persistence, people!),

Researchers concluded that giving a high five to someone is a shared celebration.

When you get a high five, you are seen and affirmed as a person. Not for your skills, your effort, or your grades. You are being praised and recognized just for being YOU. And what I am telling you

The best NBA teams—those who made it to the championships—were the ones who gave the most high fives at the start of the season. Why are high fives such good predictors of a positive outcome? It comes down to trust. The teams who high fived constantly lifted each other up. The physical touch says, I’ve got your back. Let’s go, we’ve got this.

When you high five yourself first thing in the morning, you set a positive tone for your day—and research shows your mood in the morning impacts your productivity for the rest of the day.

And that’s the thing: a high five is so much more than a slap of a hand. It’s a transfer of energy and belief from one person to another. It awakens something within you. It’s a reminder of something you’ve forgotten. Every high five said I believe in you, which made me believe in myself and in my ability to push forward, step by

Start the day in a positive state and you’re more likely to take action. And action is the secret. You can’t think your way to a new life. You must take the steps to create it. Basically, the high five sets you in motion to take control of your life.

high-performing teams, in work and in life, are ones where every team member feels seen, heard, and can trust their teammates. The best teams create “psychological safety.” Feeling like other people have your back and will cheer you on makes you more resilient and optimistic. It creates an atmosphere of trust and respect. And, to take it a layer deeper, research also shows that the single biggest difference in whether or not you enjoy your job and find your work meaningful is not the quality of what you’re producing or the number of vacation days you get or even how much you’re paid. The lynchpin to your happiness at work is whether or not you have a manager who cares about you. A high five manager has your back and is someone you can trust—and who trusts you. When you walk into work, you want to feel like you matter. You feel seen and appreciated.

The important thing to take away from all this is that, just like a computer, your brain has specific programming. No one else can change it. Just like I can’t change my husband’s or my daughter’s beliefs, I can’t change yours either. YOU have to decide that you’re tired of thinking this crap. The programming (your beliefs and your RAS) is something you can CHANGE. Your mind is standing by, just waiting for you to tell it how to help you, and your RAS is the key. And perhaps this will help you too: No one else is still thinking about what happened five years ago, but you. No one else is keeping score as diligently as you. You are the one cataloging all your flaws, mistakes, and problems, and it’s keeping you focused on (you guessed it!) all your flaws, mistakes, and problems. It’s creating these toxic, untrue beliefs about yourself that act like walls, keeping you trapped in the past. How about you let yourself out of that mental jail? You’ve served your time. You’ve beaten yourself up. It’s time to free yourself from the past and start focusing on the future you want to create. It starts with recognizing that you do have a story or belief about yourself. And that belief is bringing you down.

When you repeat negative self-talk, your RAS believes it’s important. Just like the red Acura, your RAS is scanning your environment for ways to affirm negative thoughts like: “I look disgusting,” “I hate my body,” “Why can’t I be pretty?” Your thoughts tell your RAS what’s important. That’s why you feel trapped in a world that feels aimed against you. Retraining your RAS to get out of the self-degradation begins in the bathroom mirror every single morning. What you say to that person in the mirror and how you treat them matters. So starting tomorrow, you better wake up every day and high five yourself, because your RAS is watching. It always is.

Right now you have a tendency to live in a low mental and emotional state—thanks to your past. That’s why you have low confidence, low self-esteem, and low levels of motivation. The High 5 Habit flips this on its head and helps you restore yourself back to the higher mental and emotional state that you were designed for—a state that inspires you to take action. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You cannot think your way to a new life. You must act your way there, one high five at a time. Taking consistent action toward change is not always easy, but you can do it.

Change the way you look at the world, and the world you’re looking at changes. Yes, it is that simple. And let me repeat—I understand that your problems are big and overwhelming and real. The High 5 Habit doesn’t change those realities. It changes YOU. How you see yourself and what you are capable of achieving. How YOU see the world and what opportunities or solutions you can create. And it’s how YOU push yourself forward grounded in faith and belief that when you do, something amazing will happen. Every single day, your brain will start to get the new message about what’s important to YOU and to your future. It will fall in line and begin to filter the world in an entirely new way to help you get what you want. Seeing things differently won’t make your problems disappear, but it will have you seeing different solutions, different opportunities, and different possibilities that you haven’t seen before. And that makes all the difference in the world. The question is, aside from that high five, how else can I train my RAS to work for me? Brace yourself, this is going to sound just as silly as high fiving yourself in the mirror. At least, that was our daughter’s reaction. So let’s get those dark glasses off, chuck those horrible things you say in the trash, and start training your brain to see you and your future in a whole new way.

me, it was the slap of a stranger’s hand that kept me from quitting. And that’s the thing: a high five is so much more than a slap of a hand. It’s a transfer of energy and belief from one person to another.

How exactly do I start doing it? It’s very simple. Every morning, before you look at your phone or let the world in, take a moment to be with your reflection. The second you leave that bathroom, almost every moment is going to be about other people. You’ll be distracted by your phone, what’s going on at work, or what your kids need. The High 5 Habit is a moment every morning for you. It has two simple, but powerful, steps: Standing in front of the mirror, just be with yourself for a second. Don’t focus on your appearance. Go deeper. See the person who is inside that body. The spirit beneath the skin and the soul behind that face. When you feel ready, high five yourself in the mirror. Notice how your mind goes quiet. You might feel a boost of energy. You might feel a sense of comfort: It’ll be okay. You might think, I got this. It’s a powerful moment. Without saying a word you’re telling yourself, I love you. I see you. I believe in you. Let’s go. Don’t rush it. Revel in it. This moment is for you.

It starts when your alarm rings. Below, you’ll see both the action you’re going to take, and the deeper thing it’s teaching you to do. Here’s how it goes: Put yourself first—Get up when the alarm rings. Tell yourself what you need to hear—Say, “I’m okay. I’m safe. I’m loved.” Give yourself a gift—Make your bed. Celebrate yourself—High five the mirror. Take care of yourself—Put your exercise clothes on. Train your RAS—Dream in the morning.

you and me. Well done! Let me recap quickly where we’ve been: Never leave a bathroom without high fiving yourself in the mirror. It creates new neural pathways in your brain to help make cheering for yourself your new default. Yes, life has left residue that is impacting the filter in your mind—but you can change that by adopting this new habit. Sign up for the #High5Challenge at High5Challenge.com.

And, to take it a layer deeper, research also shows that the single biggest difference in whether or not you enjoy your job and find your work meaningful is not the quality of what you’re producing or the number of vacation days you get or even how much you’re paid. The lynchpin to your happiness at work is whether or not you have a manager who cares about you. A high five manager has your back and is someone you can trust—and who trusts you. When you walk into work, you want to feel like you matter. You feel seen and appreciated.

word you’re telling yourself, I love you. I see you. I believe in you. Let’s go. Don’t rush it. Revel in it. This moment is for you. Q: Why do it first thing in the morning? There are two reasons to make it the start of your day: It will impact your productivity and how you show up all day. When you high five yourself first thing in the morning, you set a positive tone for your day—and research shows your mood in the morning impacts your productivity for the rest of the day. You may be surprised by the shift. Caroline told me that she was amazed by how “weirdly motivated” she felt all day after doing the high five.

love this insight that Nina shared with me: “How is it that I’m able to encourage others all day long, and yet don’t take the time to encourage myself? In fact, I just now shared this with a friend: ‘You are enough all on your own!!! You are beautiful, unique, and creative—learn to love and embrace YOURSELF!’ And . . . wouldn’t you know . . . THAT is the very thing I, I, I, ME—that I needed to hear! It made me realize, I put others before me.” Instead of getting up and looking at social media, or emails, or taking care of everyone else— just take a moment and give that same love, support, and attention to yourself. As Nina said, “It’s time to go look in the mirror and give myself that pep talk and a high five for being so awesome.

The High 5 Habit is a moment every morning for you. It has two simple, but powerful, steps: Standing in front of the mirror, just be with yourself for a second. Don’t focus on your appearance. Go deeper. See the person who is inside that body. The spirit beneath the skin and the soul behind that face. When you feel ready, high five yourself in the mirror. Notice how your mind goes quiet. You might feel a boost of energy. You might feel a sense of comfort: It’ll be okay. You might think, I got this. It’s a powerful moment. Without saying a

Put yourself first—Get up when the alarm rings. Tell yourself what you need to hear—Say, “I’m okay. I’m safe. I’m loved.” Give yourself a gift—Make your bed. Celebrate yourself—High five the mirror. Take care of yourself—Put your exercise clothes on. Train your RAS—Dream in the morning.

that’s the thing: a high five is so much more than a slap of a hand. It’s a transfer of energy and belief from one person to another.