Mel Robbins Confidence Quotes

You can’t control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act.

Start before you're ready. Don't prepare, begin.

You Are One Decision Away from a Completely Different Life

There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you

You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.

Your feelings don’t matter. The only thing that matters is what you DO.

Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for a just nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than—you guessed it—five seconds.

The 5 Second Rule The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must 5-4-3-2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you.

There’s one thing that is guaranteed to increase your feelings of control over your life: a bias toward action.

I was the problem and in five seconds, I could push myself and become the solution.

Passion is not a thing, it's a state of mind.

Life is gritty and hard and then suddenly it is brilliant and amazing.

it’s not the big moves that change everything—it’s the smallest ones in your everyday life that do.

When it comes to change, goals, and dreams, you have to bet on yourself. That

I may not be perfect, but I am worthy.

Procrastination is not a form of laziness at all. It’s a coping mechanism for stress.

I have a hard time finding the balance between not beating myself up when it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it to, and not wasting time while I wait for it to happen.

Win or lose, at least I'm doing something.

Change your decisions and you’ll change your life. And what will change your decisions more than anything? Courage.

pushing yourself to take simple actions creates a chain reaction in your confidence and your productivity.

Every phase of your life and career will require a different you. Using the Rule, you’ll become the person you’re meant to become in this next phase of your life.

If you have the courage to start, you have the courage to succeed.

There will always be someone who can’t see your worth. Don’t let it be you.

We are all capable of greatness. I believe that. It is our feelings and fears that convince us now is not the right time and keep us from achieving greatness.

It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.

You aren't battling your ability to stick to a diet, execute a business plan, repair a broken marriage and rebuild your life, hit your goals, or win over a bad manager- you are battling your feelings about doing it. You are more than capable of doing the work to change anything for the better, despite how you feel. Feelings are merely suggestions, ones you can ignore. To change you must do the same, you must ignore how you feel, and just do it anyway.

What Exactly Is the #5SecondRule? The Rule is a simple, research-backed metacognition tool that creates immediate and lasting behavior change. Metacognition,

Anytime there’s something you know you should do, but you feel uncertain, afraid, or overwhelmed…just take control by counting backwards 5- 4- 3- 2- 1. That’ll quiet your mind. Then, move when you get to “1.” Counting

We are all so afraid of uncertainty that we want a guarantee before we even try. We want evidence that if we take a risk we will "get the girl" Its a numbers game. To play any game, you have to start. To win, you need to keep going. If you want to make your dreams come true, get ready for the long game. Life is not a one and done sort of deal. You've got to work for what you want. Picasso created nearly 100 masterpieces in his lifetime. But what most people don't know is that he created a total of more then 50,000 works of art. .. Thats two pieces of art a day. Success is a numbers game. You are not going to win if you keep telling yourself to wait. The more often that you choose courage, the more likely you'll succeed.

If you can’t get yourself out of bed, then you’ll never be able to pursue all of the other changes that you want to make in your life. And if you take that simple step of taking control of your mornings, you’ll catalyze a chain of events that leads to change everywhere.

There is only one you. And there will never be another one. Thats your power

What I discovered is powerful: pushing yourself to take simple actions creates a chain reaction in your confidence and your productivity.

Will it be your Heart that wins, or your Fear?

Forget motivation; it’s a myth. I don’t know when we all bought into the idea that in order to change you must “feel” eager or “feel” motivated to act. It’s complete garbage. The moment it’s time to assert yourself, you will not feel motivated. In fact, you won’t feel like doing anything at all.

You change your life one five-second decision at a time. In

That’s an instinct reminding you of the goal. That’s your inner wisdom, and it’s important to pay attention to it, no matter how small or silly that instinct may seem.

Whatever is happening right now, this is it. This is your life. And it’s not going to begin again. You can’t change the past, but in five seconds you can change your future.

It’s so sad because waiting for validation will be the death of your dreams.

Seth Godin once wrote “a different part of our brains is activated when we think about what’s possible rather than what’s required.” I believe the same is true when we think about being courageous, rather than focusing on the fears that stop us. It’s the difference between focusing on the solution rather than the problem, and that tiny switch is mentally liberating.

Right before we’re about to do something that feels difficult, scary or uncertain, we hesitate. Hesitation is the kiss of death. You might hesitate for a just nanosecond, but that’s all it takes. That one small hesitation triggers a mental system that’s designed to stop you. And it happens in less than—you guessed it—five seconds.

Pick a plan to follow, any plan will do—and then 5- 4- 3- 2- 1-GO. The only thing you will need to choose after that is choosing each and every day to DO IT

This is where the #5SecondRule comes into play—you don’t have to want to do it, you just have to push yourself to do it.

The problem was very clear. It was me. I was holding myself back, five seconds at a time.

If you want to make your dreams come true, get ready for the long game.

work expands to whatever time you give it.

Waiting until you are ready will not make it happen. The world doesn’t work that way.

Sometimes there is no next time, no second chance, or no time out. Stop waiting. It’s now or never. When you wait, you aren’t procrastinating. You are doing something more dangerous. You are deliberately convincing yourself “now is not the time.” You are actively working against your dreams.

I owe my morning routine to Duke University professor Dan Ariely. According to Ariely, the first two to three hours of the day are the best hours for your brain, once you fully wake up. So, if you pop out of bed at 6 a.m., your peak thinking and productivity window is 6:30 a.m. to 9 a.m. And so on.

Small things are not small at all. They are the most important things of all. And they add up.

If you don’t learn how to untangle your feelings from your actions, you’ll never unlock your true potential.

If you have one of those impulses that are pulling you, if you don’t marry it with an action within 5 seconds, you pull the emergency break and kill the idea.

it’s not the big moves that define our lives; it’s the smallest ones.

locus of control.” The more that you believe that you are in control of your life, your actions and your future, the happier and more successful you’ll be. There

the most obvious, important realities are often the ones that are the hardest to see and talk about.

Change requires you to do things that feel hard and scary. Change requires courage and confidence

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changing people’s behavior first, which in turn changes their self-perception of the kind of person that they are based on the kinds of things that they do.

the end of the day, you are going to need to do more than think if you want to change your life.

One thing most of us don’t realize is that patterns of thinking like worrying, self-doubt, and fear are all just habits—and you repeat these thought patterns without even realizing it.

When you wait, you aren’t procrastinating. You are doing something more dangerous. You are deliberately convincing yourself “now is not the time.” You are actively working against your dreams.

Life is not a one and done sort of deal. You've got to work for what you want. Picasso created nearly 100 masterpieces in his lifetime. But what most people don't know is that he created a total of more then 50,000 works of art. .. Thats two pieces of art a day. Success is a numbers game. You are not going to win if you keep telling yourself to wait. The more often that you choose courage, the more likely you'll succeed.

when you count backwards, you mentally shift the gears in your mind. You interrupt your default thinking and do what psychologists call “assert control.” The counting distracts you from your excuses and focuses your mind on moving in a new direction. When you physically move instead of stopping to think, your physiology changes and your mind falls in line.

Forget motivation; it’s a myth. I don’t know when we all bought into the idea that in order to change you must “feel” eager or “feel” motivated to act. It’s complete garbage. The moment it’s time to assert yourself, you will not feel motivated. In fact, you won’t feel like doing anything at all. If you want to improve your life, you’ll need to get off your rear end and kick your own butt. In my world, I call that the power of a push.

That moment of hesitation is a killer. Hesitation sends a stress signal to your brain. It’s a red flag that signals something’s wrong—and your brain goes into protection mode. This is how we are wired to fail. Think about this for a minute.

Waiting won’t help. Waiting will only make it worse. When you sit with fear and uncertainty your mind makes it expand; it’s called “the spotlight effect” and it’s one of the many tricks your brain plays in an attempt to keep you “safe.

When it comes to change, goals, and dreams, you have to bet on yourself. That bet starts with hearing the instinct to change and honoring that instinct with action.

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some of our traits are more fixed and automatic, but many are “free traits” that we can adjust in order to advance a core project in our lives.

So I made myself a simple promise: If I knew that I should do something that could change me for the better, then I would use the Rule to push myself to do it, regardless of how I felt.

It’s called “locus of control.” The more that you believe that you are in control of your life, your actions and your future, the happier and more successful you’ll be.

Using the Rule strengthens your belief that you do have the ability to control your own fate—because you are proving it to yourself one push at a time.

Most of us don’t even realize how often we hesitate because we’ve done it so often that it’s become a habit.

Change is hard. Logically, we know what we should do, but our feelings about doing it make our decision for us. How you feel in the moment is almost never aligned with your goals and dreams. If you only act when you feel like it, you will never get what you want. You must learn how to separate what you feel from the actions that you take. You can't control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act.

The more that you believe that you are in control of your life, your actions and your future, the happier and more successful you’ll be.

Only through action have I unlocked the power inside of me to become the person that I’ve always wanted to be.

there’s a powerful connection between your brain and your instinct to act. When you set a goal, your brain opens up a task list. Whenever you are near things that can help you achieve those goals, your brain fires up your instincts to signal to get that goal completed. Let me give you an example.

There is no right time. There is only right now. You get one life. This is it. And it’s not going to begin again. It’s up to you to push

Exercise and health comes down to one simple rule—you don’t have to feel like it. You just have to do it.

Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living. Heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.

If you are wondering if the Rule works if you count forward 1- 2- 3- 4- 5, instead of backwards 5- 4- 3- 2- 1, the answer is no—it doesn’t. Just

#5SecondRule. When it comes to goals, dreams, and changing your life, your inner wisdom is a genius. Your goal-related impulses, urges, and instincts are there to guide you. You need to learn to bet on them.

Robbins notes that she herself has wasted many opportunities and years of her life by “waiting for the right time, waiting until I’m sure, waiting until I think my work is perfect, or waiting until I feel like it.” This was ultimately a shield against rejection, negative judgment and the possibility of upsetting someone close to her.

hindsight,

Everyday life is full of moments that are scary, uncertain, and difficult. Facing these moments and unlocking the opportunity, magic, and joy in your life requires tremendous courage.

People pleasers think they’re being “nice.” Nope, we’re liars. If you’re a people pleaser, you will behave in a way to manipulate what somebody thinks about you. That’s why you spend most of your energy curating yourself so that you fit in, or will be liked, or so that no one’s mad at you. You are manipulating what people think about you. Instead of just showing up as yourself and making decisions that work for you, you twist yourself (or your renovated playroom, in this case) in knots so that other people won’t be upset with you. Courage and confidence dissolve guilt.

Then I asked myself two simple questions: “What am I grateful for in this moment? What do I want to remember?” When you ask that simple question, you impact your brain at a biological level. In order to respond you have to take stock of your life, relationships, and work and search for an answer in the moment. It forces you to focus on the positive aspects of your life. As soon as you think about what you are grateful for, you’ll start feeling grateful instead of worried.

If procrastinating is a habit, you have to replace the bad behavior pattern (avoidance) with a new positive one (getting started). The moment you feel yourself hesitate, doing easier tasks, or avoiding hard work, use the Rule, 5- 4- 3- 2- 1 push yourself to start the important thing you need to do.

There’s an important concept in psychology put forth by Julian Rotter in 1954. It’s called “locus of control.” The more that you believe that you are in control of your life, your actions and your future, the happier and more successful you’ll be.

Scientists have recently discovered that when you hit the snooze button it has a negative impact on brain function and productivity that can last up to four hours!

When it comes to goals, dreams, and changing your life, your inner wisdom is a genius. Your goal-related impulses, urges, and instincts are there to guide you. You need to learn to bet on them.

waiting for validation will be the death of your dreams.

Study after study shows that we opt for what feels good now or feels easier rather than doing the things that we know in our hearts will make us better in the long run.

You aren’t battling your ability to stick to a diet, execute a business plan, repair a broken marriage and rebuild your life, hit your sales goals, or win over a bad manager—you are battling your feelings about doing it.

Right now you have a tendency to live in a low mental and emotional state—thanks to your past. That’s why you have low confidence, low self-esteem, and low levels of motivation. The High 5 Habit flips this on its head and helps you restore yourself back to the higher mental and emotional state that you were designed for—a state that inspires you to take action. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. You cannot think your way to a new life. You must act your way there, one high five at a time. Taking consistent action toward change is not always easy, but you can do it.

Everything that you think might be set in stone, including your habits, mindset, and personality are flexible. The implications of this for your life are absolutely thrilling. You can change your “default” mental settings and your habits one five-second decision at a time. Those small decisions add up to major changes in who you are, what you feel, and how you live.

Life is amazing. And then it’s awful. And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and the awful, it’s ordinary and mundane and routine. Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary. That’s just living. Heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful, ordinary life. And it’s breathtakingly beautiful. -LR Knost

the main thing driving procrastination is not avoiding work. It’s avoiding stress. Procrastination is “a subconscious desire to feel good right now” so you can feel a little stress relief.

When your mind takes you somewhere sad, dark, doubtful, or negative, you don’t have to go with it.

Doing what’s right for you will be hard in the beginning. You’ll raise eyebrows. You’ll be gossiped about. So what. Your life is hard now. People gossip about you now. You are unhappy now. The only thing that you have to lose is the weight of everybody else’s opinions and the miserable job or relationship weighing you down. What you gain is freedom, happiness, and most importantly—the rock solid confidence of knowing you put yourself first.

You can change your “default” mental settings and your habits one five-second decision at a time. Those small decisions add up to major changes in who you are, what you feel, and how you live.