Mateo Sol Quotes

The sad thing that many of us empaths don’t realize is that often our desire to heal others is a disguised cry for help for our own healing. Because many of us weren’t taught how to value or nurture ourselves at a young age, we tend to unconsciously seek out our own healing in the healing of others.

When we meet and fall into the gravitational pull of a narcissist, we are entering a significant life lesson that involves learning how to create boundaries, self-respect, and resilience. Through trial and error (and a lot of pain), our connection with narcissists teaches us the necessary lessons we need to become mature empaths.

Empaths feel more deeply, more intensely, and more persistently than those around us. We even feel what other people are afraid to feel within themselves.

A big issue that some empaths face is unrequited love and all the grief that accompanies this experience. If someone truly is your soulmate or twin flame, the relationship will happen sooner or later. Don’t put your life on hold for another person, no matter how badly you want to be with them. If it’s meant to be, it will be.

Derived from the Greek word “em” (in) and “pathos” (feeling), the term “empath” refers to a person who is able to “feel into” the feelings of others.

Instead of trying to “shield” yourself as an empath, try to create boundaries instead -- this is a much more healthy, sustainable, and long term practice.

Dear empath: You are a being of immense depth, wisdom, and compassion. You are a pioneer and trailblazer of humanity, a model for others on how to be sensitive and powerful. All the strength and love you need is already within you, waiting to be discovered.

Your Shadow is a dark omen, a powerful teacher that reveals to you the places in your life where you are energetically blocked. When you continue to ignore these signs, you perpetuate the cycle of your suffering.

A narcissist, on the other hand, is the exact opposite of an empath. Emotionally, narcissists are like brick walls who see and hear others but fail to understand or relate to them. As a result of their emotional shallowness, narcissists are essentially devoid of all empathy or compassion for other people. Lacking empathy, a narcissist is a very destructive and dangerous person to be around.

As an empath, it’s vital that you learn how to hold space for your emotions, even the most painful ones. By anchoring yourself in your breath, you can learn how to witness the emotional energy of others within you, without attaching yourself to these sensations.

The very best thing we can do for others isn’t soaking up their pain, it is actually holding space for them. Holding space for a person means giving them the room to grieve or vent while still maintaining our own boundaries.

If you’ve ever met an energy vampire (and you probably have), you’ll get the distinct feeling that this person has an intense need to prey off the vitality of others. There is a kind of acute neediness present in energy vampires which can be quite overwhelming and depleting to those they come in contact with.

Genuine self-love is the most profound experience in the universe. However, it usually takes time, sincere dedication, and discipline to develop. We are surrounded by so many images, beliefs, and behaviors that reinforce the idea of self-hatred every day that it can be extremely difficult for us to connect to the love inside of us.

It is in no way, shape or form your cosmic duty or responsibility to take away the pain of other people. This is because by absorbing the pain of others, you are depriving them of a vital element of their spiritual evolution and karmic responsibility.

The shamanic Quechuan word for empath is “Qawaq” which means “one who sees.” It comes from the verb “Qaway” which means “to see” the living energy. The Incas believe that people born with the ability to experience the energy of others have a great blessing as they are able to connect to their Souls and the Spirit of existence much more easily than others.

When it comes to relationships, empaths truly shine. This is because it is not the face, body or personality of a person that empaths fall in love with, it is their Soul.

Your Soul is the place within you that is timeless, ageless, and eternal: it is the ultimate core and essence of who you truly are.

As emotional radars, empaths instantly pick up on the vibes around them and tend to gravitate the most towards those who are hurting – even if they’re not in a good place. Their intense desire to help and soothe the pain of others often results in a whole range of interpersonal and inner issues.

While the Dark Night of the Soul is a process of death, the Spiritual Awakening Process is the rebirth.

Twin flames do not “complete” you because you are already innately “complete” at a soulful level. Instead, they compliment you deeply and help you to grow.

Acceptance is also about realizing that whatever emotional energy you’re experiencing is temporary. All emotions are like visitors which come and eventually go. The more you resist these emotions, the more they hang around you.

Empath children are highly influenced by the energy of the household, including the energy of you as a parent. This means that your child will be perceptive of your moods and will feel everything that you feel, regardless of whether you want them to or not.

As empaths, one of the quickest ways to completely losing our grounding in reality is by deferring our needs and wants in relationships.

Solitude is the catalyst that helps us develop self-trust, and only with self-trust can we courageously pursue anything of meaning or significance in this life.

According to studies, empathic children are more susceptible to developing problems such as anxiety and depression in later life, especially if they experience emotionally turbulent upbringings.

Attracting a person into your life who is genuinely compatible with you requires inner work. How can you discover who your soul mate is without first knowing who you really are and what you really want out of life? You’ll always be clambering around in the dark.

As children, a great number of us were taught by our parents, carers, extended family members, and teachers, that showing any form of emotional vulnerability was “not OK.” We were conditioned to believe that in order to be acceptable as human beings, we had to be like the other children. We were taught to “suck it up,” “stop being cry babies,” “get thicker skin,” “stop being so sensitive” and go participate with the other kids, even if they overwhelmed us with their energy.

A twin flame is a person who is your friend, lover, and teacher in this life. He or she is the catalyst of your spiritual growth and the mirror of your deepest desires, needs, and fears. Your twin flame will reflect back to you all of your inner shadows, but also your deepest beauty and greatest strengths. In this way, your twin flame helps you to access tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.

Unlike traditional marriages that are committed to material safety and comfort, the spiritual partnership goes one step further and makes a commitment to mutual spiritual growth. Within spiritual partnerships, the focus is not just on us, our needs, our desires, and our petty grievances – instead, the focus gradually becomes local, national, and global.

When we lose touch with our Souls, we lose touch with our inner guidance, wisdom, and strength. Sometimes, it can take us many years to get back in touch with the divine presence within us. This period of feeling lost and disconnected from the divine is called the Dark Night of the Soul.

An energy vampire can never “steal” energy from us unless we consciously or unconsciously permit them to.

Soul mates are people in our lives whom we connect to on a deep level. As the name implies, soul mates are primarily friends of the soul. If you have found your soul mate they will likely be the best, and truest friend, you will ever have. You’ll be able to share everything with your soul mate, from your wildest dreams to your most shameful secrets. Nothing is off limits.

It’s a sad reality, but in our relationships as a species, we treat each other as objects to be owned and possessed. But once we do manage to cage or “secure” our partners to “be our everything,” we suffer horribly. Once we metaphorically capture that beautiful bird we were initially attracted to, we feel guilty every time the bird chirps: we are reminded that we’ve taken away the very thing that made the bird so beautiful in the first place.

Soul mate and twin flame relationships are perhaps one of the most powerful vehicles of spiritual awakening in existence. They challenge you on every level, demand that you grow and become all that you’re destined to be – all in a loving and nurturing space.

Prematurely labeling your relationship as a ‘twin flame’ or ‘soul mate’ partnership can create unnecessary stress. “Why?” you may wonder. The answer is that when we label love too early, we create the unnecessary pressure of having to live up to these beliefs and expectations.

No matter what level of mental and emotional maturity both partners are at, a twin flame relationship is based on mutual respect, compassion, and the desire to grow. Any form of intentionally inflicted physical, emotional, psychological, or spiritual abuse should be seen as a BIG red flag – and I would advise running for the hills as soon as possible.

When we feel incomplete, lonely and disconnected from ourselves, the ideal of true love becomes a beacon of hope promising to save us. Soon we start sincerely believing that our beloved will “complete us,” and thus make our lives meaningful again. Unfortunately, such a myth is destructive to our mental, emotional, and psychological well-being in the long term.

Just think about this: how long can you hold your arms outwards in an attempt to block another person? Creating cloaks, walls, and energy “bubbles” works on the exact same premise. Resisting other’s energy gets very exhausting, very quickly! Not only that but because we can’t choose what energy we block out, we also tend to block out positive energy. When we block out the good, we tend to block many wonderful opportunities and people who enter our lives.

Ateísmo burgués del siglo XIX, llamó Hugo Hiriart a la religiosidad en la que imagino vivir. No sé cómo apareció esta terminante descripción en el espléndido discurso en torno a la Ilíada, con el que entró a formar parte de la Academia Mexicana de la Lengua. Pero me sentí cómoda arropándome en semejante categoría. Hasta cuando me creo moderna soy anticuada. Esto de ser ateo viene del siglo XIX. Hasta del tardío XVIII. Mi bisabuelo liberal ya era obsoleto. Con todo, yo tengo mi fe. Creo en la madre naturaleza y en los seres humanos que son generosos y buenos. Ahí está el dios de esta atea. Creo en Elizabeth Bennet, en Úrsula Iguarán, en Isaac Dinesen. Creo en la Maga y en la valentía de Leonor. Creo que tiene razón Mateo cuando lo aflige que haya guerra en Ucrania, cuando dilucida que si aletea una mariposa en África, tiembla en México. Creo en Verónica cuando se niega a heredarles a nuestros hijos la mugre del río Atoyac. Creo en los trabajadores obsesivos, como Roberto, Kathya, Héctor y Catalina. Creo en los misterios del fondo del mar, en el cine, en la poesía del Siglo de Oro y en la del siglo XX. Creo en la memoria, en la escuela primaria, en el amor de los quince años y en el sexo de los cincuenta. Creo en las comedias musicales, las jacarandas y los rascacielos. Creo en el caldo de frijoles y el arroz blanco, creo en el horizonte y en que un día tendré más nietos. Creo en la música de Rosario, en las películas de Catalina, en el libro que me cuenta Mateo. Creo en las historias que Virginia trae del Metro, creo que tenemos remedio, creo en los lápices del número tres, en la punta de las plumas Mont Blanc, en la ciencia del doctor Goldberg, en la incredulidad del doctor Estañol, en los barcos con que soñaba una mujer frente a la bahía de Cozumel, en el perro volando que vió doña Emma en un ciclón, en la frente lúcida y la nariz perfecta de la antropóloga Guzmán, en la Sierra Negra cuando la recorre Daniela, en las mujeres que han llamado a su grupo “Los varitas de nardo” y son diez gordas reunidas para cambiar sus hornos de leña por unos que contaminen menos. Creo en el hipo con que mi perro anuncia que está soñando un vuelo alrededor del mundo, creo en el diccionario de la RAE y en las cartas que mandan mis amigos. Creo que aún camina bien mi camioneta vieja y que mis hermanos hicieron una empresa en donde había un sueño. Creo, ingenua yo, en que les irá mal a los malos. Creo en la luz de mi iPhone, en la cocina de mi abuela, en la esperanza de quienes, a pesar del miedo, siguen viviendo en Michoacán. Bendigo el correo electrónico, las orquídeas y los zapatos cómodos. Les rezo a las puestas de sol, a la vitamina B12, a mis rodillas y a las fotos de mis antepasados. Comulgo con quienes saben conversar, oigo misa en las sobremesas de mi casa. Soy una atea con varios dioses. Tantos y de tan buen grado que ahora, presa de la aflicción que es la desmemoria, voy a acudir al único dios de la trilogía de mi madre que me sigue pareciendo confiable: Espíritu Santo, fuente de luz: ilumíname. ¿A qué horas tiré el trébol y cómo es que olvidé tan memorable catástrofe?

Similarly, you can judge and criticize yourself for not being your version of "perfect," but you'll never feel truly happy in your skin until you stop resisting who you are. This means that it is vital to accept even the most flawed or "ugly" parts of yourself, for they need your acceptance the most.

Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within." — Eckhart Tolle

By refusing to enter the call of solitude, so many people get stuck in the addictive patterns of desire.

Through the development of courage and self-reflection in solitude, these people are accepting towards themselves, and thus, they are accepting towards life.

Firstly, we need to understand that the opposite of acceptance is not only desire but also expectation.

The sooner you let everything be as it is, with no desire or expectation for something different, the better your life will be. Acceptance is a quality that can transform every layer of life, from the inside out.

we are not our thoughts or emotions. How can we be if we don't control them? While we have the capacity to be mindful of them, we don't set up, organize or even manage the thoughts and emotions that arise within us. This discovery itself helps us to realize how important the development of acceptance is, and how important solitude is for cultivating this quality!

In fact, pursuing anything in life creates tension, and it is this tension that makes you unhappy. In turn, this unhappiness continues the pursuit of happiness in a never-ending exhausting cycle.

In other words, the pursuit of happiness is self-defeating and self-perpetuating.

How Desire Creates Suffering “Desire is the root of evil.” – Buddha When we want something we don’t have, pain and tension erupts inside of us. And if that pain is big enough, we tend to inflict that pain on other people as well.

Once you completely accept these should/shouldn't perceptions, they will naturally dissolve. As a result, you'll be left with more inner openness.

good example of this false belief surrounding happiness is summarized perfectly in a well-known saying: "Happiness is having someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to." This saying has some truth to it: we do feel happy when we have a person to love, something to do, and something to look forward to in the future. However, this belief is self-defeating. What happens when your beloved dies or your expectations for future happiness aren't met? You feel deep unhappiness.

For most people, lacking acceptance is the leading cause of pain and suffering in life. How can we embrace the reality of this present moment if we have conflicting expectations and desires for something different? The answer is we can't find peace in the present without learning acceptance.

When we desire more wealth, possessions, fame, respect, titles, admiration and love, we suffer because they are transient; they can all be taken away from us. In other words, when we fail to feel gratitude for what we have by wanting more, we are perpetually in an unhappy state.

In order to escape their lives, many men and women enjoy the stimulation of courting other people. Who cares about the kids, or the family and its stability? Desire has an addictive quality that causes a lot of pain.

When we desire something, we are fundamentally dissatisfied with the way our lives are in the present moment. Because we have looked for our happiness in the external world, our entire perception of the world becomes warped.

Ask yourself, how many expectations do you have when you interact with other people? Do you expect them to be kind to you? Do you expect them to treat you with respect?

the belief that we can change the people in our lives is one of the major sources of our depression, anger, fear, and bitterness.

The only true, long-lasting change happens when a person consciously decides to change. And that is their responsibility, not yours.

And in fact, the desire to control others is one of the biggest sources of your anger and anxiety.

Mi sol, you are enough for an army of men.” “Oh my God, that’s a lot of men. A lot of peen too. I’d have to work out an extensive rota. Maybe do it alphabetically, but would I do it by first names or last names? Oh no, I don’t want all those men, Mateo, I’d have to clone my vagina, and I definitely don’t know the science involved for that. I mean, I’m sure there’s glue and a photocopier involved somewhere, but I don’t know where exactly.

En este mundo la guerra tiene lo mismo de estrategia que de magia, y su resultado no depende tanto de nuestro esfuerzo como de los misteriosos acuerdos de los dioses.

The sole purpose of twin flame relationships is to help us spiritually mature and become the best versions of ourselves possible. Perhaps the most powerful aspect of these connections is their ability to expose the dark, disowned, fractured parts of ourselves that we’ve hidden away (known as the ‘shadow self’) relentlessly.