Lund Quotes

Even if toxic people are right about what is "good," they are wrong if the approach is not healthy.

If accusations fit your prejudices, truth is easily pushed aside.

For instance, why do we still work eight hours a day, 50 weeks a year, when we're twice as productive as we were 50 years ago?

We are nothing without passion.

Remember all frustration is based on unmet expectations. If we did not expect anything we would not be frustrated.

When I get too old to write, give me chocolate covered sponge toffee and a glass Anisovaya vodka. Sit me beside the Atlantic and let me watch the Milky Way rise over the starlit ocean. I won't be any trouble.

Without knowledge we are nothing. Without knowledge we are animals. After that I became more focused. I did not want to learn solely for the sake of learning, I wanted to learn to understand.

I needed seven hours of sleep. At least. I've always envied those who don't need much sleep. Those who wake up after five hours and are ready to preform at their best. They're the ones who really go far in life, I've heard.

It is good to look to the past to gain appreciation for the present and perspective for the future. It is good to look upon the virtues of those who have gone before, to gain strength for whatever lies ahead. It is good to reflect upon thw work of those who labored so hard and gained so little in this worls, but out of whose dreams and early plans, so well nurtured, has come a great harvest of which we are the beneficiaries. Their tremendous example can become a compelling motivation for us all. Gordon B. Hinckley

-Bumblebee bat, how do you see at night? -I make a squeaky sound that bounces back from whatever it hits. I see by hearing.

People aren’t fundamentally good or bad. It’s all about the choices you make. You have to choose to be a good person over and over. You can’t change the past; you can’t fix the mistakes you’ve made. You just have to choose to be better.

If you have debt, you're not a free person. You're explicitly owned by your debt and implicitly owned by the creditor.

Pa, I can't ask her to marry me until I have a way to care for her.

Because this was what education was actually about, defying the nature in oneself.

Scott Lund, men want to be like him, women want to be with him and children look up to him.

To paraphrase Einstein, you can't solve your problems with the same mindset that created them.

What will your legacy be--what you owned or who you were?

Love is when your weirdness matches up with someone else’s weirdness.

I withdrew a small card from the pouch. The front of it was filled with lines of elegant, hand-lettered script. "What does it say?" Dad asked, leaning forward. "The Four Remembers of Life," I read. "Number one: Remember, you are unique. Number two: Remember, there is purpose to your life. Number three: Remember you are free to choose what you are and what you become. And number four: Remember, you are not alone.

When you listen to people, they feel valued. A 2003 study from Lund University in Sweden finds that “mundane, almost trivial” things like listening and chatting with employees are important aspects of successful leadership, because “people feel more respected, visible and less anonymous, and included in teamwork.”10 And a 2016 paper finds that this form of “respectful inquiry,” where the leader asks open questions and listens attentively to the response, is effective because it heightens the “follower’s” feelings of competence (feeling challenged and experiencing mastery), relatedness (feeling of belonging), and autonomy (feeling in control and having options). Those three factors are sort of the holy trinity of the self-determination theory of human motivation, originally developed by Edward L. Deci and Richard M. Ryan.11

The question you need to answer is what you want to do with your life given that you don't have the time to do everything? Do you want to spend most of your life paying off the interest of a 30-year mortgage and working so you can fill increasingly bigger houses with increasingly more stuff while being stuck in your daily commute in increasingly nicer cars? Or are you prepared to give up the stuff so that you can do whatever you want, whenever, and wherever, within reason? What will your legacy be--what you owned or who you were?

People aren't absolutes. We are all layered: mean sometimes, and flawed, but also funny, and caring, and happy, and in love. We are all so many different things at once.

You do know he loves to write. He always has.” “I love Star Wars. Haven’t become no Jedi, though.

I didn't want to love you,” he says. “I couldn’t help it." - Julien, Retribution

Aunque pasen los días y el amor también y nos digan que el amor lo cura todo, no te lo creas, tú no te lo creas

It wasn’t like she hadn’t come across hot guys throughout the course of the last three years, so why was her heart racing? Why did she feel flushed?

Without knowledge we are nothing.without knowledge we are animals.

I realize that this is what love is- this constant ache for the rest of my life that someone or something could take him away.

I think maybe we're meanest to the people we love the most because we want to believe they'll love us no matter what.

The question you need to answer is what you want to do with your life given that you don't have the time to do everything?

Muistatko sateen äänen?" kysyin. "Muistan", hän sanoin. Sitten hän mietti. "En.

Um in der Natur und mit der Natur zu leben, müssen wir uns von der eigenen Natur entfernen.

Lund Lund e Pakistan! Maa Chudaega Pakistan! Chuchhi Chodu Pakistan! Kargil Me Mushi ki begam chodo subah shaam

To strengthen our faith and deepen our testimony to the point that we can successfully endure to the end, we must know for ourselves with a surety that: God is our Heavenly Father, and we are His literal children. He and His Beloved Son want us to be happy and eventually come to a fulness of joy. They know us intimately and love us infinitely. They want to bless us, and they actually take great joy in doing -so. I am deeply convinced that this is the bedrock of which Christ spoke. And if we build our house on this rock, we can withstand the rains, the storms, and the floods that may come our way. With this testimony, we will endure. Without it, we are-vulnerable.

There is a spirit out there that lifts the heart and renews one’s determination to be better, to try harder, to strive to be more faithful. That is the legacy those wonderful Saints have handed to us.

But there is hoping to believe, and then there is taking the plunge: diving head first right down into that cold, wild North Sea, rolling the stone away from the tomb, and resurrecting God for yourself.

Walkers easily travel three miles by foot. Drivers get in their cars to get from one side of the parking lot to the other. Neither quite understand why the other is so crazy, when it's so easy to do things their way.

Mention the ‘Sarah Lund jumper’ (also known as ‘The Killing jumper’, which sounds less benign) to a certain kind of Nordic noir fan and they’ll immediately enthuse about how much they adore Gudrun & Gudrun’s sweaters.

Health is thus a condition of well-being and an ability to appreciate life. It's not necessarily optimizing or conforming to a set of measurable quantities like life expectancy or blood pressure, nor is it removing all symptoms using drugs. Health is the presence of something positive, rather than the absence of something negative.

Joshua walked to the back of the tent.Caroline and Savannah were there but had their backs to him. They were bent over,an he could hear a wailing and he knew it was coming from Livvy. ...The wailing stopped as Livvy looked up and saw her father. Then there was a horrified howl."Daddy!Not dressed!" Oh!Sorry."... Livvy, Papa nhas to go help some people. Can I come kiss you goodbye?" There was another howl."Daddy,NOT DRESSED!" Can I blow you a kiss?" Eyes Closed?" I promise." He closed his eyes and turned around, than blew her a kiss. He then opened his eyes. "I think your'e kindof cute, actually. DADDY!!

First of all, there is a difference between redemption and restoration. What you're talking about is restoration, putting things back as they were before. That is not what redemption is. Christ is the Redeemer because he paid the price for our sins, Joshua. In his sacrifice he took the pain of our sins upon him, he took the effects of our transgressions upon himself.

After all, how many of our todays and of our tomorrows do we want to give our yesterdays? It is one thing to be victimized by another. It is quite another to victimize ourselves because we cannot learn from the past or forgive. Those who choose to live in the past, to live in the land of regret and complaint, do so at the sacrifice of their todays and their tomorrows.

If we believe that God knits us together in our mother's womb, do we therefore beleive that God knits crazy into our being? If God is in all places and is present at all times, is God also in mental illness? If we are made in God's image, then is God crazy too?

Happiness is fleeting, fickle, often based on our circumstances....If you chase happiness, you will more often than not end up disappointed by the very nature of life. Life is hard, brutal at times, and often unfair. But following your bliss, that's entirely different. It means facing your present reality with honesty and courage and, in the midst of it all, continuing to pursue each spark of joy, even if it is a tiny pinpoint in the darkness of your life. Do not give up. Continue to look for the light in your life--it is always present somewhere, some small thing to be grateful for, something to celebrate, a way to give joy to others, a new way to grow. Move toward the light in life, seek it out no matter what. This is the essence of what it means to follow your bliss. You must be honest. Pay attention. Seek joy. [GERTRUDE LUND, to her great-niece Lolly Blanchard]

In the winter four hundred whales were beaches in New Zealand — they couldn’t leave because they waited for each other. The smallest whales could have managed it, at high tide they could have swum away, but they stayed, never abandoned their parents, stayed with the pod, dying with the others instead.

When our lives are congruent with the Lord’s will, we are empowered spiritually. Remember what Joseph Smith was taught in Liberty Jail? If we let ‘virtue garnish [our] thoughts unceasingly; then shall [our] confidence wax strong in the presence of God’ (D&C 121:45). That is what we want as we seek to strengthen our faith. We want our confidence to be strong in God’s presence. We don’t want to shrink away because we are filled with shame. We want the kind of faith that caused Amanda Barnes Smith to immediately ask God for help in a time of extreme need. She did so in full confidence that He would answer because by then she had been hated and persecuted for His name’s sake. And so she knew her life was pleasing to her Heavenly Father! I believe this is what Paul meant when he said, ‘let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need’ (Hebrews 4:16). That kind of confidence, that kind of boldness comes from having actual knowledge we are living as God would have us live, doing what God would have us do. Here is another reason why these tender mercies and divine signatures are so important to us. They not only teach us about God’s nature, which strengthens our faith, but they are also a confirming witness that god is pleased with us—sometimes even delighted with us.

If you’re contemplating having sex with someone, you should be able to be honest. If you can’t be honest, then you’re not ready.

Most toxic people cannot make a personal progress plan for their own individual lives short of perfection.

- No to w takim razie jak opisałbyś mnie? - spytał Tom. - Ciebie? - Tak. Co ja lubię? W czym jestem dobry? Czego się boję? - Ty jesteś moim synem - rzekłem. Tom westchnął.

Practice is important. So is integrity. I want you to remember that once I'm gone.

How deep the decay has been, we can perhaps particularly notice in the music.

He'd started walking late, not having the necessary restlessness inside of him.

In other words, money is paid and gas is burned to make one's possessions as comfortable temperature-wise as the inhabitants

Complexity, therefore, results in flexibility. Increasing complexity always increases capability and adaptability.

The real problem is not how much we earn; it's how much we waste, perhaps to demonstrate our supposed wealth, when we spend it.

My body needed me to love it all the way.

Doing something that is considered very difficult at least once in your life is highly recommended.

Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”   Maya Angelou

Excessive sorrow laughs. Excessive joy weeps." William Blake

Hon får för sig att han vet, hur det är att inte vilja prata om något, men ändå längta efter att få göra det.

I am not conniving. I am calculating. I plan. I analyze a problem, breaking it down into its component parts, then I solve each problem so I can have the outcome that I want.

Press forward with all diligence so that you may claim the promises of the Lord.

Falling in love with a high school boy is the stupidest thing you can do.

لم تستطع أن تبقي أصابعها بعيدة عنه؛ بعد أن تراكمت أشهرٌ من الحنين -إليه- في يديها.

Here's what I've realized about moments: you can't plan for them. The best ones are always the ones that take you by surprise.

It's man's most basic and sacred stewardship-to serve as the guardian of his own behavior. And it's man's blackest and most fundamental evil to try and overthrow that stewardship

How can I?” Kennedy asked. “How can I trust someone again?” Sabrina adjusted her veil and squeezed her fist around the white-with-blue-embroidery handkerchief in her hand. “You just do. I don’t know how to explain it. You just reach a point where you realize this man is the one, and you are going to put all of your trust in him because you are so in love you don’t really have a choice.

She read about knowledge. About acting against one’s instincts, because one knows better, about how in order to live in nature, with nature, we must detach ourselves from the nature in ourselves.

this case it's sensible to develop a skill to just before the point that it begins to require maintenance, continued practice--beyond this point, replacing skill and time with capital assets makes more sense.

People with more money than time buy $3,000 road racing bicycles with ultralight carbon frames to shave two pounds off the bike, regardless of the fact that they themselves are probably at least 10 pounds overweight.

I can't think of a film I've worked on where everybody just chilled out while they worked. Even if we had two more years, we'd still be stressing about shots. It's what we signed up for when we wanted to be filmmakers.

Any connection with nature and most connections with technology are lost. There's a belief that nature is irrelevant and that anything can be solved using the current methods--now technology; previously magic or praying.

Samma ord som Ava alltid använder om hon får frågan. Hon har slipar ner dem, så att de inte gör ont. Det känns som ett svek varje gång. När hon berättar borde hon känna någonting. Men hon klarar inte av det på något annat sätt.

The mass education in high schools reflects the mass production of the real world. The teaching style has one teacher (supervisor) lecturing (leading) 20-25 students (workers) sitting in rows, much like a manager and his employees.

Don't mention that you also happen to manage a six-figure portfolio to your "voluntary simplicity" friends and don't mention that you only have one bedroom to your investment friends unless you're prepared for the resulting discussion.

Many profit-driven corporate strategies are based on fashion, planned obsolescence, unneeded upgrades, and masterful emotional manipulation --marketing--causing people to continuously replace goods which are still in good working order.

She wore a fitted white scoop neck shirt under a thin jacket, slim brown pants and tennis shoes. He bet she looked hot in four-inch heels. He wondered how long she’d last in this town, and he decided he wanted to sleep with her before she left.

Are any of us good people, really? I mean, you're not fundamentally one or the other. You just have to try to make the right choices, you know? And if you make a bad choice, you have to fix it. You have to put in the work to make things better.

It is strange—no, surreal, surreal is the word—that I’m one of them, the old people, when I am still so completely myself through and through, the same person I have always been. Whether I am fifteen, thirty-five, or fifty, I am a constant, unchanged mass. Like the person I am in a dream, like a stone, like one-thousand-year-old ice. My age is disconnected from me. Only when I move does its existence become perceptible—then it makes itself known through all its pains, the aching knees, the stiff neck, the grumbling hip.

How can a cross of mental illness be transformed into a symbol of God’s power to heal us? I believe that by telling our stories of mental illness, by giving our own testimonies for mental health, we carry our crosses to more healing places, even places of transformation.

He did that slow perusal thing with his eyes that guys did when they wanted a girl to know they liked what they saw. A slow smile curved his lips. “Yep.” She recognized that look. She may have been out of the dating game for far too long, but she still understood the process. What she didn’t know was how to respond.

Poor Henriette Lund, there to grieve for her beloved uncle, was overwhelmed by a gang of gawkers who pushed their way into the church. The scene she relates was one of a ceremony on the verge of chaos, much like a restless mob waiting for something, anything, to happen. “The tightly packed mass of people surged like an angry sea,” she wrote, “while a ring of rather unpleasant-looking characters had placed themselves around the small flower-decked coffin.” This group was largely composed of self-declared supporters of Søren, upset that with this funeral the church was attempting to absorb into its own one of its most outspoken opponents.

The structure of the ideal novel. It's an idea by Thure Erik Lund, an untranslated (as of 2016)Norwegian author. It is mentioned in at least two interviews with Karl-Ove Knausgaard: Among the writers he’d like to see translated are Kristine Naess, Cathrine Knudsen, and Thure Erik Lund. Of Lund, Knausgaard says, “his literature is wild, megalomanic, dystopic, and breathtakingly original. I once interviewed him, and he revealed his idea of the perfect novel, which should start in the familiar and gradually lead the reader into more and more unfamiliar areas, until the end, which should be in Chinese, in such a way that the reader doesn’t notice that she had learned it during the reading.” And: You wouldn’t have read him, there’s a Norwegian writer, Thure Erik Lund, he’s the greatest prose writer in my generation. He’s ten years older than me. He’s very wild. His novels start in one place and end up somewhere completely different. His dream novel, he told me, was a novel that starts here and ends up in Chinese, and the readers should have learned Chinese by the time they got to the end. He’s untranslatable. In one of his books, there’s no people in it, it’s completely empty, but it still works, it’s just great. In Norway, Lund was the only expansive writer I knew of. And there was the example of Marcel Proust — his are books that just grow.

Nauczycielka nie znała książki, ale zafascynowała się nią podobnie jak ja. Odczytywała na głos różne fragmenty. Czytała o wiedzy, o działaniu niezgodnym z instynktem, ponieważ człowiek jest przekonany, że wie lepiej. Że aby żyć w naturze, z naturą, musimy okiełznać naturę w nas samych. A także o wartości wykształcenia. Bo o to właśnie chodzi w wykształceniu - by tłumić naturę w sobie".

LIVE TO YOUR OWN DEFINITION OF ENOUGH. You can at least please yourself. If your expectation is ‘pleasing others,’ you have no control over doing so, because the toxic personality will keep redefining the standard in such a way that you can never measure up. The thing to keep in mind about a toxic person is that you are ‘darned if you do’ or ‘darned if you don’t.’ They are going to be frustrated with you, regardless of your behavior. You cannot be governed by their frustration. Keep in mind that they use the frustrations of others as a tool to manipulate, control, and intimidate. They also have endless lists of expectations. Just as you get close to doing everything on the list, Aaron will change the list. He can never let you be enough.          “When you see the insanity of this treadmill, you will come to realize that toxic people are ‘crazy makers.’ They drive you crazy trying to please them. The crazier your life becomes, the more in control they become; and because you are going crazy, the focus can be on your aberrant behavior. You are the one out of your mind, and they are the ones who are justified. Most toxic people were raised that way in their families. They were never enough as individuals, as children, or as siblings, so, what’s the big deal? Not measuring up, not being enough, trailing barbs, constant criticism, or blame-fixing is normal to them.

What’s your version of the perfect guy?” “I guess I’d like someone who proves he cares by his actions instead of just saying it all the time.” “That’s reasonable.” “And I’d like someone who has his own life, too. You know I work a lot of hours at the hospital, and I like what I do. I imagine I’d come to resent a guy who expects me to work a nine-to-five schedule just because it fits his needs.” “Anything else?” “But he still has to be—” she cut herself off. “Good in bed?

The Dark Ages gradually ended six centuries ago with the Renaissance, which seeded new ideas for a different world. The Renaissance ideal dominated our culture until three centuries ago, from the 14th to the 18th century, when it was superseded by modernism. Not surprisingly, this human ideal has almost been forgotten in our culture. The Renaissance, literally "re-birth", was a revival and rediscovery of classical Greek and Roman culture following the decline of culture, trade, and technology during the Dark Ages.

But that's mostly for sentimental reasons. Or as Ma puts it, seventy mental reasons.

I’m the office manager for Executive Enterprises for Job Intuitive Technologies, otherwise known as EEJIT.

broad spectrum of stress. The more stressed I get, the louder I up the food volume.

Toxic people cannot fully give you love. When they give you love, it is a reward... They fear that unconditional love will result in a loss of control... Most toxic people believe they themselves are not sufficient, so how could anyone else be enough?

An emotionally healthy person accepts responsibility for his own happiness and unhappiness and owns his expectations and behaviors.

True parenting involves gradually transferring the responsibility for life to the shoulders of the child.

Most of them lack the knowledge and the skills of positive reinforcement.

A toxic personality is one you cannot please. He or she is incapable of giving total acceptance. YOU WILL NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH.

There is a difference between appropriate and inappropriate selfishness. Seeking to become your healthiest and best self is an appropriate selfishness. Wanton disregard for others becoming their best selves and exploiting them for selfish purposes is by definition an inappropriate selfishness.

I'm not perfect - because no one is. People aren't absolutes. We are all layered: mean sometimes, and flawed, but also funny, and caring, and happy, and in love. We are all so many different things at once. " -Penny

People aren't fundamentally good or bad. It's all about the choices you make. You have to choose to be a good person over and over. You can't change the past; you can't fix the mistakes you've made. You just have to choose to do better" -Penny

We always said we'd be best friends forever - we even had the necklaces to prove it - but sometimes you outgrow friendships. Forever is such a long time" -Penny

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