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Deserves it! I daresay he does. Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement. For even the very wise cannot see all ends.
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J.R.R. Tolkien (The Fellowship of the Ring (The Lord of the Rings, #1))
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You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter.
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Nicholas Sparks (The Rescue)
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Reserving judgements is a matter of infinite hope.
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F. Scott Fitzgerald (The Great Gatsby)
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We never know the quality of someone else's life, though we seldom resist the temptation to assume and pass judgement.
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Tami Hoag (Dark Horse (Elena Estes, #1))
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Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement.
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J.R.R. Tolkien (The Fellowship of the Ring (The Lord of the Rings, #1))
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Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.
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Margaret Mead
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Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.
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Ann Landers
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Sometimes the Bible in the hand of one man is worse than a whisky bottle in the hand of (another)... There are just some kind of men who - who're so busy worrying about the next world they've never learned to live in this one, and you can look down the street and see the results.
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Harper Lee (To Kill a Mockingbird)
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If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
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Shannon L. Alder
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When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, 'I used everything you gave me.
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Erma Bombeck
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People hasten to judge in order not to be judged themselves.
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Albert Camus (The Fall (Vintage International))
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It is not for me to judge another man's life. I must judge, I must choose, I must spurn, purely for myself. For myself, alone.
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Hermann Hesse (Siddhartha)
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How easy it is to judge rightly after one sees what evil comes from judging wrongly.
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Elizabeth Gaskell (Wives and Daughters)
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Your sense of judgement could use a dash of common sense.
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Susan Ee (Angelfall (Penryn & the End of Days, #1))
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I ask you to judge me by the enemies I have made.
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Franklin D. Roosevelt
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We are all hypocrites. We cannot see ourselves or judge ourselves the way we see and judge others.
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JosΓ© Emilio Pacheco (Battles in the Desert & Other Stories)
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Ideally, what should be said to every child, repeatedly, throughout his or her school life is something like this: 'You are in the process of being indoctrinated. We have not yet evolved a system of education that is not a system of indoctrination. We are sorry, but it is the best we can do. What you are being taught here is an amalgam of current prejudice and the choices of this particular culture. The slightest look at history will show how impermanent these must be. You are being taught by people who have been able to accommodate themselves to a regime of thought laid down by their predecessors. It is a self-perpetuating system. Those of you who are more robust and individual than others will be encouraged to leave and find ways of educating yourself β educating your own judgements. Those that stay must remember, always, and all the time, that they are being moulded and patterned to fit into the narrow and particular needs of this particular society.
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Doris Lessing (The Golden Notebook)
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Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something is more important than fear; The brave may not live forever but the cautious do not live at all.
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Meg Cabot (The Princess Diaries (The Princess Diaries, #1))
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When I look at my life I realise that the mistakes I have made, the things I really regret, were not errors of judgement but failures of feeling.
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Jeanette Winterson
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Don't you find it odd," she continued, "that when you're a kid, everyone, all the world, encourages you to follow your dreams. But when you're older, somehow they act offended if you even try.
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Ethan Hawke (The Hottest State)
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What, if some day or night a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you: 'This life as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more' ... Would you not throw yourself down and gnash your teeth and curse the demon who spoke thus? Or have you once experienced a tremendous moment when you would have answered him: 'You are a god and never have I heard anything more divine.
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Friedrich Nietzsche (The Gay Science: With a Prelude in Rhymes and an Appendix of Songs)
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Of course." He picked up the brown bag of candy on the table. "What's your . . ." He trailed off as he weighed the bag in his hands. "Didn't I give you three pounds of candy?"
She smiled impishly.
"You ate half the bag!"
"Was I supposed to save it?"
"I would have liked some!"
"You never told me that."
"Because I didn't expect you to consume all of it before breakfast!"
She snatched the bag from him and put it on the table. "Well, that just shows poor judgement on your part, doesn't it?
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Sarah J. Maas (Throne of Glass (Throne of Glass, #1))
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Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks.
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Shannon L. Alder
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You think because he doesn't love you that you are worthless. You think that because he doesn't want you anymore that he is right -- that his judgement and opinion of you are correct. If he throws you out, then you are garbage. You think he belongs to you because you want to belong to him. Don't. It's a bad word, 'belong.' Especially when you put it with somebody you love. Love shouldn't be like that. Did you ever see the way the clouds love a mountain? They circle all around it; sometimes you can't even see the mountain for the clouds. But you know what? You go up top and what do you see? His head. The clouds never cover the head. His head pokes through, beacuse the clouds let him; they don't wrap him up. They let him keep his head up high, free, with nothing to hide him or bind him. You can't own a human being. You can't lose what you don't own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don't, do you? And neither does he. You're turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can't value you more than you value yourself.
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Toni Morrison
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Trust your instincts, and make judgements on what your heart tells you. The heart will not betray you.
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David Gemmell (Fall of Kings (Troy, #3))
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I want to be around people that do things. I donβt want to be around people anymore that judge or talk about what people do. I want to be around people that dream and support and do things.
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Amy Poehler
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Once in a golden hour
I cast to earth a seed.
Up there came a flower,
The people said, a weed.
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Alfred Tennyson (The Complete Works of Alfred Tennyson)
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People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.
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Shannon L. Alder
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As rain falls equally on the just and the unjust, do not burden your heart with judgements but rain your kindness equally on all.
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Gautama Buddha
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Good judgement is the result of experience and experience the result of bad judgement.
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Mark Twain
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What's the point in having a mind if you don't use it to make judgements?
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Sarah J. Maas (Throne of Glass (Throne of Glass, #1))
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Never judge others. You both know good and well how unexpected events can change who a person is. Always keep that in mind. You never know what someone else is experiencing within their own life.
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Colleen Hoover (Slammed (Slammed, #1))
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Be silent and safe β silence never betrays you;
Be true to your word and your work and your friend;
Put least trust in him who is foremost to praise you,
Nor judge of a road till it draw to the end.
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John Boyle O'Reilly (Life of John Boyle O'Reilly)
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I'm afraid of time... I mean, I'm afraid of not having enough time. Not enough time to understand people, how they really are, or to be understood myself. I'm afraid of the quick judgements or mistakes everybody makes. You can't fix them without time. I'm afraid of seeing snapshots, not movies.
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Ann Brashares
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...our impulses are too strong for our judgement sometimes
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Thomas Hardy (Tess of the DβUrbervilles)
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Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you
[Matthew 7:1-2]
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Anonymous (The Holy Bible: King James Version)
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When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself
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Earl Nightingale
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Are you proud of yourself tonight that you have insulted a total stranger whose circumstances you know nothing about?
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Harper Lee (To Kill a Mockingbird)
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The moment that judgement stops through acceptance of what it is, you are free of the mind. You have made room for love, for joy, for peace.
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Eckhart Tolle (Practicing the Power of Now: Essential Teachings, Meditations, and Exercises from the Power of Now)
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If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgement of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Waiting. Not waiting. One lover. A hundred lovers. There should be no judgement either way. A woman is not defined by what she does or doesnβt do in the bedroom.
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Tricia Levenseller (The Shadows Between Us (The Stathos Sisters, #1))
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Criticism of others is thus an oblique form of self-commendation. We think we make the picture hang straight on our wall by telling our neighbors that all his pictures are crooked.
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Fulton J. Sheen (Seven Words of Jesus and Mary: Lessons from Cana and Calvary)
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Beauty is not who you are on the outside, it is the wisdom and time you gave away to save another struggling soul like you.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Our lives can't be measured by our final years, of this I am sure.
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Nicholas Sparks (The Notebook)
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We should live our lives as though Christ was coming this afternoon.
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Jimmy Carter
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Insecure people only eclipse your sun because theyβre jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Even god doesn't propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?
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Dale Carnegie
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It's okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn't give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don't like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you read it, even if it means overcoming your pride and opening your mind beyond what is comfortable.
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Ashly Lorenzana
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I think fish is nice, but then I think that rain is wet, so who am I to judge?
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Douglas Adams
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There is strange comfort in knowing that no matter what happens today, the Sun will rise again tomorrow.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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...I think that people who make judgements about other people they don't even know are shallow, and people who start rumors are shallow, and I really don't care what shallow people say about me.
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Nina LaCour (Hold Still)
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Silence. I hate silence. Silence means thinking and thinking means judgement.
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Katie McGarry (Dare You To (Pushing the Limits, #2))
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One must not let oneself be misled: they say 'Judge not!' but they send to Hell everything that stands in their way.
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Friedrich Nietzsche (The Anti-Christ)
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What is morality, she asked.
Judgement to distinguish right and wrong, vision to see the truth, and courage to act upon it, dedication to that which is good, integrity to stand by the good at any price.
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Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged)
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I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see.
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Douglas Pagels
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What's the point in having a mind if you don't use it to make judgements?"
"What's the point of having a heart if you don't use it to spare others from the harsh judgements of your mind?
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Sarah J. Maas
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Don't judge a man by his opinions, but what his opinions have made of him.
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Georg Christoph Lichtenberg
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Walk on air against your better judgement.
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Seamus Heaney
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I don't judge people.
It blurs out the center of my attention,
my focus,
myself.
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Toba Beta (Betelgeuse Incident: Insiden Bait Al-Jauza)
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At the Day of Judgement we shall not be asked what we have read but what we have done.
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Thomas Γ Kempis (The Imitation of Christ)
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If a grasshopper tries to fight a lawnmower, one may admire his courage but not his judgement.
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Robert A. Heinlein (Farnham's Freehold)
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When blame and self-judgement are transformed, healed, and cease to be, we have reawakened without the myth, the mythos, of separation. We are One.
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Wendy E. Slater (Into the Hearth, Poems-Volume 14)
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Because it strikes me there is something greater than judgement. I think it is called mercy.
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Sebastian Barry (The Secret Scripture (McNulty Family))
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Some say life is the thing, but I prefer reading.
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Ruth Rendell (A Judgement in Stone)
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It is in the healing of self-blame and judgement, that the self is liberated from the constraints of binding emotions...And you come to remember your true authentic self." Β© 2015 W.E. Slater
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Wendy E. Slater (Into the Hearth, Poems-Volume 14)
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Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement. For even the very wise cannot see all ends.
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J.R.R. Tolkien (The Lord of the Rings)
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Clap her in chains," says Randalin.
Never have I so wished there was a way for me to show I was telling the truth. But there isn't. No oath of mine carries any weight.
I feel a guard's hand close on my arm. Then Cardan's voice comes.
"Do not touch her."
A terrible silence follows. I wait for him to pronounce judgement on me. Whatever he commands will be done. His power is absolute. I don't even have the strength to fight back.
"Whatever can you mean?" Randalin says. "She's-"
"She is my wife," Cardan says, his voice carrying over the crowd.
"The rightful High Queen of Elfhame. And most definitely not in exile.
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Holly Black (The Queen of Nothing (The Folk of the Air, #3))
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When you're too religious, you tend to point your finger to judge instead of extending your hand to help.
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Steve Maraboli (Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience)
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No one truly knows what they will do in a certain situation until they are actually in it. It's very easy to judge someone else's actions by what you assume your own would be, if you were in their shoes. But we only know what we THINK we would do, not what we WOULD do.
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Ashly Lorenzana
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No speech is ever considered, but only the speaker. It's so much easier to pass judgement on a man than on an idea.
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Ayn Rand (The Fountainhead)
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What a desperate, pathetic fool I was. Time after time, my "friends" had shown me their true colors. Yet, I still wanted to believe they were sorry for causing me pain. p. 128
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Jodee Blanco (Please Stop Laughing at Me... One Woman's Inspirational Story)
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Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgement. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. I have not much hope that Gollum can be cured before he dies, but there is a chance of it. And he is bound up with the fate of the Ring. My heart tells me that he has some part to play yet, for good or ill, before the end; and when that comes, the pity of Bilbo may rule the fate of many - yours not least.
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J.R.R. Tolkien (The Fellowship of the Ring (The Lord of the Rings, #1))
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When it comes to privacy and accountability, people always demand the former for themselves and the latter for everyone else.
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David Brin
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Often people that criticise your life are usually the same people that don't know the price you paid to get where you are today. True friends see the full picture of your soul.
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Shannon L. Alder
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The struggles we endure today will be the βgood old daysβ we laugh about tomorrow.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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Many of our most serious conflicts are conflicts within ourselves. Those who suppose their judgements are always consistent are unreflective or dogmatic.
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John Rawls (Justice as Fairness: A Restatement)
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your judgement judges you and defines you
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Jean-Paul Sartre
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Your success and happiness are forgiven you only if you generously consent to share them. But to be happy it is essential not to be too concerned with others. Consequently, there is no escape. Happy and judged, or absolved and wretched.
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Albert Camus (The Fall (Vintage International))
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When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits - anything that kept me small.
My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.
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Kim McMillen (When I Loved Myself Enough)
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We judge others instantly by their clothes, their cars, their appearance, their race, their education, their social status. The list is endless. What gets me is that most people decide who another person is before they have even spoken to them. What's even worse is that these same people decide who someone else is, and don't even know who they are themselves.
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Ashly Lorenzana
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These people who can see right through you never quite do you justice, because they never give you credit for the effort you're making to be better than you actually are, which is difficult and well meant and deserving of some little notice.
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Marilynne Robinson (Gilead (Gilead, #1))
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youth is quick in feeling but weak in judgement.
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Homer
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I think that my job is to observe people and the world, and not to judge them. I always hope to position myself away from so-called conclusions. I would like to leave everything wide open to all the possibilities in the world.
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Haruki Murakami
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Nothing that grieves us can be called little: by the eternal laws of proportion a child's loss of a doll and a king's loss of a crown are events of the same size.
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Mark Twain
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The way to move out of judgement is to move into gratitude
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Neale Donald Walsch
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Knowing a great deal is not the same as being smart; intelligence is not information alone but also judgement, the manner in which information is coordinated and used.
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Carl Sagan (Cosmos)
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...if you do not even understand what words say,
how can you expect to pass judgement
on what words conceal?
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H.D. (Trilogy: The Walls Do Not Fall / Tribute to the Angels / The Flowering of the Rod)
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It's hard to be wrongfully accused, but it's worse when the people looking down on you are clods who have never read a book or traveled more than twenty miles from the place they were born.
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Patrick Rothfuss (The Name of the Wind (The Kingkiller Chronicle, #1))
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There are two days in my calendar: This day and that Day.
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Martin Luther
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If you want to discover the true character of a person, you have only to observe what they are passionate about.
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Shannon L. Alder
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When I am sharply judgmental of any other person, it's because I sense or see reflected in them some aspect of myself that I don't want to acknowledge.
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Gabor MatΓ© (In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction)
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I'm too wacky for most weirdos. Who am I to judge?
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Tori Amos
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God will judge us, Mr. Harris, by--by what we did to relieve the suffering of our fellow human beings. I don't think God cares what doctrine we embrace.
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Abraham Verghese (Cutting for Stone)
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Non-judgment quiets the internal dialogue, and this opens once again the doorway to creativity.
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Deepak Chopra
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Tolerance doesnβt mean to accept, believe, understand, agree or ignore. Tolerance means yielding to beliefs that are not your own without judgement or condemnation.
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C. Toni Graham
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I intend to judge things for myself; to judge wrongly, I think, is more honorable than not to judge at all.
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Henry James
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The difference in judgement between you and me originates from different rules derived from past experience.
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Hajime Isayama
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We are so scared of being judged that we look for every excuse to procrastinate.
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Erica Jong (Seducing the Demon: Writing for My Life)
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I've always been pretty good at accepting the whole of someone, the good with the bad. I see it all, but try not to let it cloud my judgement. People are complicated. Life is complicated.
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Kim Holden (Bright Side (Bright Side, #1))
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A little (one) can sometimes see things in others that us older ones cannot because our judgement gets clouded.
βAbbot Saxtus
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Brian Jacques (The Bellmaker (Redwall, #7))
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Who has not, a hundred times, found himself committing a vile or silly action for no other reason than because he knows he should not? Have we not a perpetual inclination, in the teeth of our best judgement, to violate that which is Law, merely because we understand it to be such?
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Edgar Allan Poe (The Black Cat)
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Everyone prefers belief to the exercise of judgement.
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Seneca
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Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.
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Naya Rivera
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When we make judgements we're inevitably acting on limited knowledge, isn't it best to ask if we seek to understand, or simply let them be?
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Jay Woodman
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You aren't thinking or really existing unless you're willing to risk even your own sanity in the judgement of your existence.
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Frank Herbert (Children of Dune (Dune #3))
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You're remarkably judgmental.'
'What's the point in having a mind if you don't use it to make judgements?
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Sarah J. Maas (Crown of Midnight (Throne of Glass, #2))
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All books are judged by their covers until they are read.
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Maryrose Wood (The Mysterious Howling (The Incorrigible Children of Ashton Place, #1))
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Its not over, until the Lord says its over.
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T.D. Jakes
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She began now to comprehend that he was exactly the man who, in disposition and talents, would most suit her. His understanding and temper, though unlike her own, would have answered all her wishes. It was an union that must have been to the advantage of both: by her ease and liveliness, his mind might have been softened, his manners improved; and from his judgement, information, and knowledge of the world, she must have received benefit of greater importance.
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Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)
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We practically always excuse things when we understand them
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Mikhail Lermontov (A Hero of Our Time)
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To live is to war with trolls in heart and soul.
To write is to sit in judgement on oneself.
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Henrik Ibsen (Peer Gynt)
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Feeling without judgement is a washy draught indeed; but judgement untempered by feeling is too bitter and husky a morsel for human deglutition.
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Charlotte BrontΓ« (Jane Eyre)
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I really don't have the time to discuss the errors of your value judgements.
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John Kennedy Toole (A Confederacy of Dunces)
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One of the risks of being quiet is that the other people can fill your silence with their own interpretation: Youβre bored. Youβre depressed. Youβre shy. Youβre stuck up. Youβre judgemental. When others canβt read us, they write their own storyβnot always one we choose or thatβs true to who we are.
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Sophia Dembling (The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World (Perigee Book))
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Can you be happy with the movies, and the ads, and the clothes in the stores, and the doctors, and the eyes as you walk down the street all telling you there is something wrong with you? No. You cannot be happy. Because, you poor darling baby, you believe them.
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Katherine Dunn (Geek Love)
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You have been called selfish for the courage of acting on your own judgement and bearing sole responsibility for your own life. You have been called arrogant for your independent mind. You have been called cruel for your unyielding integrity. You have been calle anti social for the vision that made you venture upon undiscovered roads.
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Ayn Rand
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I want it absolutely clear when I stand before the judgement bar of God that I declared to the world, in the most straightforward language I could summon, that the Book of Mormon is true.
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Jeffrey R. Holland
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Never judge someone's character based on the words of another. Instead, study the motives behind the words of the person casting the bad judgment.
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Suzy Kassem (Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem)
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True saddness is when someone still thinks your the same person after all these years. They brand you because of their own ego, fear and lack of spirituality. What's sadder is when they are Christian.
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Shannon L. Alder
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When you see people only as personalities, rather than souls with life missions to fulfill, you forever limit the growth and possibilities of what God has in store for another person.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Styles may change, details may come and go, but the broad demands of aesthetic judgement are permanent.
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Roger Scruton
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Judgement can do without knowledge: but not knowledge without judgement.
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Michel de Montaigne (The Complete Essays)
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It's in those quiet little towns, at the edge of the world, that you will find the salt of the earth people who make you feel right at home.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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Responsibilites and expectations are the basis of guilt and shame and judgement, and they provide the essential framework that promotes performance as the basis for identity and value.
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William Paul Young (The Shack)
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People appear like angels until you hear them speak. You must not rush to judge people by the colour of their cloaks, but by the content of their words!
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Israelmore Ayivor
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Life is short. Art long. Opportunity is fleeting. Expierience treacherous. Judgement difficult.
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Geoffrey Chaucer
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Generosity without delicacy, like wit without judgement, generally gives as much pain as pleasure.
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Frances Burney (Evelina)
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Motherhood is hard enough without judgement from others who don't know the whole story.
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Sarah Addison Allen (First Frost (Waverley Family, #2))
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So you're Zach." Townsend didn't even try to hide the judgement in his voice as he looked Zach up and down in some sort of silent but dangerous examination.
Zach huffed but smiled. "so you're Townsend."
The two of them stared for a long time, wordless. It felt like I was watching a documentary on the Nature Channel, something about alpha males in the wild.
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Ally Carter (Out of Sight, Out of Time (Gallagher Girls, #5))
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Life may not be pretty but it's always beautiful. We may only see the ugliness on the surface. The shit that only the world chooses to notice. But, if we dig deep, if we get to the heart of life, where there's no pain or fear, where we can just be who we are and love freely without judgement, it's really beautiful.
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S.L. Jennings (Fear of Falling (Fearless, #1))
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Everyone complains of his memory, and no one complains of his judgment.
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FranΓ§ois de La Rochefoucauld (RΓ©flexions, Ou Sentences Et Maximes Morale (Γd.1665) (Litterature) (French Edition))
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I wake with a jolt that sends a shock of pain through my ankle. Crying out, I look around me. Floral wallpaper. Am I at home? Who's that man in the chair by the door, reading .... "Twilight?" Leon blinks at me, putting the book down in his lap. 'You went from unconscious to judgemental very quickly there.
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Beth O'Leary (The Flatshare)
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I think itβs okay to feel lost in your life. I think itβs okay not to reach that final goal (in your life). You may earn things while being lost or could make something out of it through the emotions you feel. I think it should be your judgement. You donβt have to make someone else judge the satisfaction of your life. I hope that you donβt feel too anxious about feeling lost in your life.
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Kim Jonghyun
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Friendship is an obstetric art; it draws out our richest and deepest resources; it unfolds the wings of our dreams and hidden indeterminate thoughts; it serves as a check on our judgements, tries out our new ideas, keeps up our ardor, and inflames our enthusiasm.
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Antonin Sertillanges (The Intellectual Life: Its Spirit, Conditions, Methods)
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What condemnation could possibly be more harsh than oneβs own, when self-pretense is no longer possible?
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Richard Matheson (What Dreams May Come)
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Life's trials will test you, and shape you, but donβt let them change who you are.β
~ Aaron Lauritsen, β100 Days Drive
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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you have to be the prude or the slut, and if you pick one, other people hate you for it, and you canβt trust anyone anymore, because theyβre all after the same thing, and you see that you can never go back to how was beforeβ¦
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Ned Vizzini
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By judging others, you make yourself easy to judge.
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Ashly Lorenzana
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Ancient Egyptians believed that upon death they would be asked two questions and their answers would determine whether they could continue their journey in the afterlife. The first question was, 'Did you bring joy?' The second was, 'Did you find joy?
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Leo F. Buscaglia
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The man who refuses to judge, who neither agrees nor disagrees, who declares that there are no absolutes and believes that he escapes responsibility, is the man responsible for all the blood that is now spilled in the world. Reality is an absolute, existence is an absolute, a speck of dust is an absolute and so is a human life. Whether you live or die is an absolute. Whether you have a piece of bread or not, is an absolute. Whether you eat your bread or see it vanish into a looter's stomach, is an absolute.
There are two sides to every issue: one side is right and the other is wrong, but the middle is always evil. The man who is wrong still retains some respect for truth, if only by accepting the responsibility of choice. But the man in the middle is the knave who blanks out the truth in order to pretend that no choice or values exist, who is willing to sit out the course of any battle, willing to cash in on the blood of the innocent or to crawl on his belly to the guilty, who dispenses justice by condemning both the robber and the robbed to jail, who solves conflicts by ordering the thinker and the fool to meet each other halfway. In any compromise between food and poison, it is only death that can win. In any compromise between good and evil, it is only evil that can profit. In that transfusion of blood which drains the good to feed the evil, the compromise is the transmitting rubber tube.
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Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged)
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He
was taught by the river. Incessantly, he learned from it. Most of all,
he learned from it to listen, to pay close attention with a quiet heart,
with a waiting, opened soul, without passion, without a wish, without
judgement, without an opinion.
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Hermann Hesse (Siddhartha)
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Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears;
I come to bury Caesar, not to praise him;
The evil that men do lives after them,
The good is oft interred with their bones,
So let it be with Caesar ... The noble Brutus
Hath told you Caesar was ambitious:
If it were so, it was a grievous fault,
And grievously hath Caesar answered it ...
Here, under leave of Brutus and the rest,
(For Brutus is an honourable man;
So are they all; all honourable men)
Come I to speak in Caesar's funeral ...
He was my friend, faithful and just to me:
But Brutus says he was ambitious;
And Brutus is an honourable manβ¦.
He hath brought many captives home to Rome,
Whose ransoms did the general coffers fill:
Did this in Caesar seem ambitious?
When that the poor have cried, Caesar hath wept:
Ambition should be made of sterner stuff:
Yet Brutus says he was ambitious;
And Brutus is an honourable man.
You all did see that on the Lupercal
I thrice presented him a kingly crown,
Which he did thrice refuse: was this ambition?
Yet Brutus says he was ambitious;
And, sure, he is an honourable man.
I speak not to disprove what Brutus spoke,
But here I am to speak what I do know.
You all did love him once, not without cause:
What cause withholds you then to mourn for him?
O judgement! thou art fled to brutish beasts,
And men have lost their reasonβ¦. Bear with me;
My heart is in the coffin there with Caesar,
And I must pause till it come back to me
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William Shakespeare (Julius Caesar)
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When one experiences truth, the madness of finding fault with others disappears.
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S.N. Goenka
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Together let us hold the intention that all aspects of this living planet come together in love, acceptance, and celebration of both our diversities and commonalities. Let us possess the common purpose that we heal from our hearts into compassion and forgiveness for ourselves. Together let us own the belief that we will no longer unite with blame and judgement, but come to accept that we all carry the same wounds. In acknowledging this, the hope is for the whole planet in its jubilant diversity to be healed from any and all woundings so that we come together on equal footing, living in peace and joy and setting the tone for a future of harmony within and on this planet.
Peace to all and healing to all.
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Wendy E. Slater (Of the Flame, Poems - Volume 15)
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With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victimβs self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically. He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse.
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Beverly Engel (The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing)
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True friends don't come with conditions.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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Be kind to people and donβt judge, for you do not know what demons they carry and what battles they are fighting.
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Vashti Quiroz-Vega
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βWhen you point your finger at someone, anyone, it is often a moment of judgement. We point our fingers when we want to scold someone, point out what they have done wrong. But each time we point, we simultaneously point three fingers back at ourselves.
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Christopher Pike (Evil Thirst (The Last Vampire, #5))
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So, if you're asking me if it's possible for you to make errors in judgement, the answer is yes. You make errors all the time... as does every other human being who has ever lived. Error is an intrinsic part of the human condition - and it is something I deeply love about humankind.
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Neal Shusterman (The Toll (Arc of a Scythe, #3))
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Perfectionism is not the same thing has striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame. Itβs a shield. Itβs a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, itβs the thing thatβs really preventing us from flight.
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BrenΓ© Brown (The Gifts of Imperfection)
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Cannibals? Who is not a cannibal? I tell you it will be more tolerable for the Fejee that salted down a lean missionary in his cellar against a coming famine; it will be more tolerable for that provident Fejee, I say, in the day of judgement, than for thee, civilized and enlightened gourmand, who nailest geese to the ground and feastest on their bloated livers in thy pate de fois gras.
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Herman Melville (Moby Dick)
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Without struggle, success has no value.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you're criticizing from a place where you're not also putting yourself on the line, I'm not interested in your feedback.
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BrenΓ© Brown
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Oh, my dear, if you only knew how strange is the matter regarding which I am here, it is you who would laugh. I have learned not to think little of any one's belief, no matter how strange it may be. I have tried to keep an open mind, and it is not the ordinary things of life that could close it, but the strange things, the extraordinary things, the things that make one doubt if they be mad or sane.
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Bram Stoker (Dracula)
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God is not needed to create guilt or to punish. Our fellow men suffice, aided by ourselves. You were speaking of the Last Judgement. Allow me to laugh respectfully. I shall wait for it resolutely, for I have known what is worse, the judgement of men. For them, no extenuating circumstances; even the good intention is ascribed to crime. Have you at least heard of the spitting cell, which a nation recently thought up to prove itself the greatest on earth? A walled-up box in which the prisoner can stand without moving. The solid door that locks him in the cement shell stops at chin level. Hence only his face is visible, and every passing jailer spits copiously on it. The prisoner, wedged into his cell, cannot wipe his face, though he is allowed, it is true. to close his eyes. Well, that, mon cher, is a human invention. They didn't need God for that little masterpiece.
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Albert Camus (The Fall (Vintage International))
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Then I felt too that I might take this opportunity to tie up a few loose ends, only of course loose ends can never be properly tied, one is always producing new ones. Time, like the sea, unties all knots. Judgements on people are never final, they emerge from summings up which at once suggest the need of a reconsideration. Human arrangements are nothing but loose ends and hazy reckoning, whatever art may otherwise pretend in order to console us.
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Iris Murdoch (The Sea, the Sea)
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No matter how many times you failed or have fallen, no matter how many times youβve denied God, He will not deny you.
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Gregory Dickow (Soul Cure: How to Heal Your Pain and Discover Your Purpose)
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Soul health turns into whole health. Soul sickness turns into whole sickness.
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Gregory Dickow (Soul Cure: How to Heal Your Pain and Discover Your Purpose)
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I didn't mind that it was always about you, Darrow. That was what burned Tactus, but not me. I'm not in love with you like Mustang. I don't worship you like Sevro or the Howlers. I was a true friend. I was someone who saw your light and your dark and accepted both without judgement, without agenda...
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Pierce Brown (Golden Son (Red Rising Saga, #2))
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The power of the Executive to cast a man into prison without formulating any charge known to the law and particularly to deny him the judgement of his peers is in the highest degree odious and is the foundation of all totalitarian government whether Nazi or Communist.
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Winston S. Churchill
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Arrogance is someone claiming to have come to Christ, but they won't spend more than five minutes listening to your journey because they are more concerned about their own well being, rather than being a true disciple of Christ. Blessed is the person that takes the time to heal and hear another person so they can move on.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Worry less about what other people think about you, and more about what you think about them.
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Fay Weldon
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Even if i'm setting myself up for failure, I think it's worth trying to be a mother who delights in who her children are, in their knock-knock jokes and earnest questions. A mother who spends less time obseessing about what will happen, or what has happened, and more time reveling in what is. A mother who doesn't fret over failings and slights, who realizes her worries and anxieties are just thoughts, the continuous chattering and judgement of a too busy mind. A mother who doesn't worry so much about being bad or good but just recognizes that she's both, and neither. A mother who does her best, and for whom that is good enough, even if, in the end, her best turns out to be, simply, not bad.
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Ayelet Waldman (Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace)
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That mess about judging people by the content of their character and not the color of their skinβthat's some bullshit. Nobody has the right to judge anybody else. Period. If you ain't been in my skin, you ain't never gonna understand my character.
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Emily Raboteau (The Professor's Daughter)
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The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among.
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Alain de Botton (Status Anxiety (Vintage International))
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There is a tendency at every important but difficult crossroad to pretend that it's not really there.
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Bill McKibben (The End of Nature)
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It's easy to look at people and make quick judgements about them, their present and their pasts, but you'd be amazed at the pain and tears a single smile hides. what a person shows to the world is only one tiny facet of the iceburg hidden from sight. And more often then not, it's lined with cracks and scars that go all the way to the foundation of their soul.
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Sherrilyn Kenyon (Acheron (Dark-Hunter, #14))
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I feel no grief for being called something
which
I am not;
in fact, it's enthralling, somehow, like a good
back rub
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Charles Bukowski (You Get So Alone at Times That it Just Makes Sense)
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By examining our priorities and adjusting them to better align with our standards, we can live authentically and with integrity and move beyond superficial judgments. ( "Lost the Global Story." )
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Erik Pevernagie
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From this point forward, you donβt even know how to quit in life.β
~ Aaron Lauritsen, β100 Days Drive
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Aaron Lauritsen
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As one judge said to another judge: be just. And if you canβt be just, be arbitrary
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William S. Burroughs
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When you go out into the woods, and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didnβt get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you donβt get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree.
The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying βYou are too this, or Iβm too this.β That judgment mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.
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Ram Dass
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For my part, I think we need more emotion, not less. But I think, too, that we need to educate people in how to feel. Emotionalism is not the same as emotion. We cannot cut out emotion - in the economy of the human body, it is the limbic, not the neural, highway that takes precedence. We are not robots...but we act as though all our problems would be solved if only we had no emotions to cloud our judgement.
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Jeanette Winterson (The Stone Gods)
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Since prejudices are shallow or false judgments, infiltrating our mind in the absence of dynamic reflection, we have got to coach ourselves to prevent intense emotional discomfort or irreparable harm. ("The day the mirror was talking back")
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Erik Pevernagie
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Freedom is not a reward or a decoration that you toast in champagne. On the contrary, it's hard graft and a long-distance run, all alone, very exhausting. Alone in a dreary room, alone in the dock before the judges, and alone to make up your mind, before yourself and before the judgement of others. At the end of every freedom there is a sentence, which is why freedom is too heavy to bear.
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Albert Camus (The Fall (Vintage International))
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You don't have the right to hold somebody accountable for standards you refuse to apply to yourself.
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Stephen A. Smith
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Itβs easy to minimize a personβs hurt without understanding the nature of pain. People often like to categorize how much a person should or shouldnβt hurt about things. For example, when someone is upset about something, they say, βAt least youβre not paralyzed, or starving in Africa.β While itβs imperative to be grateful for what we have, I think people often mistaken the nature of pain, when they βcategorizeβ in this way. The criteria for how much something hurts is not dependent on the thing itself. It is dependent on 2 things:
1. The strength of the attachment.
2. The level of Divine help.
Therefore to minimize the devastation of pain:
1. Donβt be attached to (dependent on) temporary things.
2. Seek Divine help.
And donβt assign judgement for peopleβs pain.
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Yasmin Mogahed
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If we all were judged according to the consequences
Of all our words and deeds, beyond the intention
And beyond our limited understanding
Of ourselves and others, we should all be condemned.
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T.S. Eliot (The Cocktail Party)
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At some point, you just gotta forgive the past, your happiness hinges on it.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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Those who achieve the extraordinary are usually the most ordinary because they have nothing to prove to anybody. Be Humble.
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Aaron Lauritsen (100 Days Drive: The Great North American Road Trip)
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People donβt really want to know anything about you. They just want to put you into their little preordained slots. They decide what you are in the first two seconds, and they only get nervous or upset if you donβt live up to their snap judgements. Thatβs the only way the normal worldβs like the Real β it all depends on who people think you are. Figure that out, play to what they expect, and itβs clear sailing.
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Lilith Saintcrow
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Jon wanted nothing more. No, he had to tell himself, those days are gone. The realization twisted in his belly like a knife. They had chosen him to rule. The Wall was his, and their lives were his as well. A lord may love the men that he commands, he could hear his lord father saying, but he cannot be a friend to them. One day he may need to sit in judgement on them, or send them forth to die.
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George R.R. Martin (A Dance with Dragons (A Song of Ice and Fire, #5))
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And I could never understand why you were insensitive to the sorrow and shame you inflicted on me with your words and judgements β it was as if you didnβt sense your own power.Β And I certainly made you ill with words; but I knew what I was doing, though it hurt me, but I couldnβt control myself, I couldnβt hold back my words β though I regretted them.Β But you landed blows with your words and you were clueless β you never pitied anybody, not then, not later β and people were defenceless before you. And
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Franz Kafka (Letter to My Father)
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In the deceitfulness of our hearts, we sometimes play with temptation by entertaining the thought that we can always confess and later ask forgiveness. Such thinking is exceedingly dangerous. Godβs judgement is without partiality. He never overlooks our sin. He never decides not to bother, since the sin is only a small one. No, God hates sin intensely whenever and wherever He finds it.
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Jerry Bridges (The Pursuit of Holiness)
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Sin is cosmic treason. Sin is treason against a perfectly pure Sovereign. It is an act of supreme ingratitude toward the One to whom we owe everything, to the One who has given us life itself. Have you ever considered the deeper implications of the slightest sin, of the most minute peccadillo? What are we saying to our Creator when we disobey Him at the slightest point? We are saying no to the righteousness of God. We are saying, βGod, Your law is not good. My judgement is better than Yours. Your authority does not apply to me. I am above and beyond Your jurisdiction. I have the right to do what I want to do, not what You command me to do.
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R.C. Sproul (The Holiness of God)
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Listen Chica-" Carlos says when we're driving to my mom's store
"don't call me that anymore" I tell him
"what do you want me to call you, then?"
I shrug "whatever. Just not Chica"
Carlos holds his hand up "what do you want me from me? You want me to tell you lies? Okay. Kara, without you i'm nothin'. Kara, you own my heart and soul. Kara,, i love you. Is that what you to hear?
"yes"
"No guy who actually says those things really mean them"
"I bet your brother says them to Brittney and means them"
"that's because he's lost all common sense. I though you the one girl who didn't fall for my bull"
"I don't. Consider my wanting you as my real boyfriend a lapse of judgement," I tell him "But i'm over it
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Simone Elkeles (Rules of Attraction (Perfect Chemistry, #2))
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Not marble nor the gilded monuments
Of princes, shall outlive this powerful rhyme,
But you shall shine more bright in these contents
Than unswept stone, besmeared with sluttish time.
When wasteful war shall statues overturn
And broils roots out the work of masonry,
Nor mars his sword nor war's quick fire shall burn
The living record of your memory.
'Gainst death and all-oblivious enmity
Shall you pace forth; your praise shall still find room
Even in the eyes of all posterity
That wear this world out to the ending doom.
So, till judgement that yourself arise,
You in this, and dwell in lovers eyes.
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William Shakespeare (Shakespeare's Sonnets)
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We are aware of the fallibility of our perception and know how easily our senses can deceive us. This should remind us to be cautious and reflective in our judgments and actions. Therefore, In navigating the uncertainties of life, let us cultivate a balance between groundedness and attunement. ( "Trompe le Pied - Trompe l'Oeil.")
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Erik Pevernagie
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Been eating candies, have you?"
"You sent those?" She kept her mouth closed as much as possible.
"Of course." He picked up the brown bad of candy on the table. "What's your..." He trailed off as he weighed the bad in his hands. "Didn't I give you three pounds of candy?"
She smiled impishly.
"You ate half the bag!"
"Was I supposed to save it?"
"I would have liked some!"
"You never told me that."
"Because I didn't expect you to consume all of it before breakfast!"
She snatched the bag from him and put it on the table. "Well, that just hows poor judgement on your part, doesn't it?
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Sarah J. Maas
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Mr Horsefry was a youngish man, not simply running to fat but vaulting, leaping and diving towards obesity. He had acquired at thirty an impressive selection of chins, and now they wobbled with angry pride.*
* It is wrong to judge by appearances. Despite his expression, which was that of a piglet having a bright idea, and his mode of speech, which might put you in mind of a small, breathless, neurotic but ridiculously expensive dog, Mr Horsefry might well have been a kind, generous and pious man. In the same way, the man climbing out of your window in a stripy jumper, a mask and a great hurry might merely be lost on the way to a fancy-dress party, and the man in the wig and robes at the focus of the courtroom might only be a transvestite who wandered in out of the rain. Snap judgements can be so unfair.
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Terry Pratchett (Going Postal (Discworld, #33; Moist von Lipwig, #1))
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How can I judge?" she said at last. "To me, he is a hero. To the world a monster." She let her head fall into her arms and started crying quietly. "I miss him! Curse him! I miss him!"
Mithorden put a hand on her shoulder and let her cry for a few minutes. A sad smile slowly spread across his face. "I'm glad you can forgive him," he said at last.
Luthiel lifted her head. "How do you know?"
Because you miss him.
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Robert Fanney
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I learned a lot from the stories my uncle, aunts and grandparents told me: that no one is perfect but most people are good; that people canβt be judged by their worst or weakest moments; that harsh judgements can make hypocrites of us all; that a lot of life is just showing up and hanging on; that laughter is often the best, and sometimes the only response to pain.
Perhaps most important, I learned that everyone has a story β of dreams and nightmares, hope and heartache, love and loss, courage and fear, sacrifice and selfishness. All my life Iβve been interested in other peopleβs stories. I wanted to know them, understand them, feel them. When I grew up into politics, I always felt the main point of my work was to people a chance to have better stories. - Page 15, Paragraph 5, βMy Lifeβ by Bill Clinton. βHard cover version-
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Bill Clinton (My Life)
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...research tells us that we judge people in areas where we're vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we're doing. If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard on each other because we're using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived shaming deficiency.
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BrenΓ© Brown (Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead)
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We are not easy to help. Nor are we easy to be around. Nobody with a serious illness is easy to be around. Although not obviously physically disabled, we struggle to get things done. Our energy levels are dangerously low. Sometimes, we find it hard to talk. We get angry and frustrated. We fall into despair. We cry, for no apparent reason. Sometimes we find it difficult to eat, or to sleep. Often, we have to go to bed in the afternoon or all day.
So do most people with a serious illness. We are no different.
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Sally Brampton (Shoot the Damn Dog: A Memoir of Depression)
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Men seek retreats for themselves, houses in the country, sea-shores, and mountains; and thou too art wont to desire such things very much. But this is altogether a mark of the most common sort of men, for it is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself. For nowhere either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble does a man retire than into his own soul, particularly when he has within him such thoughts that by looking into them he is immediately in perfect tranquility; and I affirm that tranquility is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind. Constantly then give to thyself this retreat, and renew thyself; and let thy principles be brief and fundamental, which, as soon as thou shalt recur to them, will be sufficient to cleanse the soul completely, and to send thee back free from all discontent with the things to which thou returnest. For with what art thou discontented? With the badness of men? Recall to thy mind this conclusion, that rational animals exist for one another, and that to endure is a part of justice, and that men do wrong involuntarily; and consider how many already, after mutual enmity, suspicion, hatred, and fighting, have been stretched dead, reduced to ashes; and be quiet at last.- But perhaps thou art dissatisfied with that which is assigned to thee out of the universe.- Recall to thy recollection this alternative; either there is providence or atoms, fortuitous concurrence of things; or remember the arguments by which it has been proved that the world is a kind of political community, and be quiet at last.- But perhaps corporeal things will still fasten upon thee.- Consider then further that the mind mingles not with the breath, whether moving gently or violently, when it has once drawn itself apart and discovered its own power, and think also of all that thou hast heard and assented to about pain and pleasure, and be quiet at last.- But perhaps the desire of the thing called fame will torment thee.- See how soon everything is forgotten, and look at the chaos of infinite time on each side of the present, and the emptiness of applause, and the changeableness and want of judgement in those who pretend to give praise, and the narrowness of the space within which it is circumscribed, and be quiet at last. For the whole earth is a point, and how small a nook in it is this thy dwelling, and how few are there in it, and what kind of people are they who will praise thee.
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Marcus Aurelius (The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius)
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People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they donβt understand is hatred canβt be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that donβt make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a personβs spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this "network of life" and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.
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Shannon L. Alder
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it seems a shame to have to sneak to get to the truth.To make the truth such a dirty old nasty thing.You gotta sneak to get to the truth, the truth is condemned.The truth is in the gas chamber.The truth has been in your stockyards.Your slaughterhouses.The truth has been in your reservations, building your railroads, emtying your garbage.The truth is in your ghettos.In your jails.In your young love,not in your courts or congress where the old set judgement on the young.What the hell do the old know about the young?They put a picture of old George on the dollar and tell you that he's your father, worship him.Look at the madness that goes on, you can't prove anything that happened yesterday.Now is the only thing that's real.Everyday, every reality is a new reality.Every new reality is a new horizon,a brand new experience of living.I got a note last night from a friend of mine.He writes in this note that he's afraid of what he might have to do in order to save his reality, as i save mine.You can't prove anything.There's nothing to prove.Every man judges himself.He knows what he is. You know what you are, as i know what i am,we all know what we are.Nobody can stand in judgement, they can play like they're standing in judgement.They can play like they stand in judgement and take you off and control the masses, with your human body.They can lock you up in penitentiaries and cages and put you in crosses like they did in the past,but it doesn't amount to anything. What they're doing is, they're only persecuting a reflection of themselves. They're persecuting what they can't stand to look at in themselves,the truth.
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Charles Manson
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I guess that sometimes it just takes a long walk through the darkness, a long walk through the darkest shadows and corners of your soul to realize that those are a part of you as well, that you've created through your experiences and thoughts those parts within yourself and as much as you can choose to fear them and repress them, they will require your attention one day, they will need your care and acceptance before you can clean them away and turn the lights on. For you refuse to shine the light on something that is imperfect, because you fear judgement and rejection, but you can always choose to look towards the light as the only source of true beauty and love that can help you in the cleaning process. Healing, after a long time of struggle and mess is a complex process, but a necessary one nevertheless. We are so overwhelmed by the amount of work it requires that we so often choose to run away from the light, hide in our dark corner and hope that we will never be found, hope that we will never be seen, or desperately look outwards for that love and compassion that we can no longer find within ourselves, for our soul's light no longer shines as it used to. And sometimes we just find those people that can see the light beneath all that dust and darkness that's been pilled up, those kind of light workers that understand our broken souls and manage to pick us up and see the beauty within us, when we find it so hard to see it ourselves. Sometimes I get so tired of separation, of division, of groups and different religions and belief systems. Even if you do find the truth, once you've put it into words, books and rules it already becomes distorted by the mind into something that is no longer truth. So I no longer hope for understanding, no longer hope for the opinion of a judgemental mind, but I hope to find the words that touch the soul before the mind, I hope to find the touch that warms the heart from deep inside, and hope to find that far away abandoned part of me which I've left behind.
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Virgil Kalyana Mittata Iordache
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The bad psychological material is not a sin but a disease. It does not need to be repented of, but to be cured. And by the way, that is very important. Human beings judge one another by their external actions. God judges them by their moral choices. When a neurotic who has a pathological horror of cats forces himself to pick up a cat for some good reason, it is quite possible that in God's eyes he has shown more courage than a healthy man may have shown in winning the V.C. When a man who has been perverted from his youth and taught that cruelty is the right thing does dome tiny little kindness, or refrains from some cruelty he might have committed, and thereby, perhaps, risks being sneered at by his companions, he may, in God's eyes, be doing more than you and I would do if we gave up life itself for a friend.
It is as well to put this the other way round. Some of us who seem quite nice people may, in fact, have made so little use of a good heredity and good upbringing that we are really worse than those whom we regard as fiends. Can we be quite certain how we should have behaved if we had been saddled with the psychological outfit, and then with the bad upbringing, and then with the power, say, of Himmler? That is why Christians are told not to judge. We see only the results which a man's choices make out of his raw material. But God does not judge him on the raw material at all, but on what he has done with it. Most of the man's psychological makeup is probably due to his body: when his body dies all that will fall off him, and the real central man, the thing that chose, that made the best or worst out of this material, will stand naked. All sorts of nice things which we thought our own, but which were really due to a good digestion, will fall off some of us: all sorts of nasty things which were due to complexes or bad health will fall off others. We shall then, for the first time, see every one as he really was. There will be surprises.
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C.S. Lewis (Mere Christianity)