Jars Of Insecurities Quotes

to test. Would weightlessness put them off their game? It did. The turtles moved “slowly and insecurely” and did not attack a piece of bait placed directly in front of them. Then again, the water in which they swam was repeatedly floating up out of the jar and forming an “ovoid cupola.” Who could eat? Von Beckh quickly moved on from turtles to Argentinean pilots. Under the section heading “Experiments with Human Subjects”—a heading that, were I a doctor previously employed by Nazi Germany, I might have rephrased—von Beckh reports on the efforts of the pilots to mark X’s inside small boxes during regular and weightless flight. During weightlessness, many of the letters strayed from the boxes, indicating that pilots might experience difficulties maneuvering their planes and doing crossword puzzles during air battles. The following year, von Beckh was recruited by the Aeromedical Research Laboratory at Holloman Air Force

In the light of these principles, how does the mind absorb suffering? It discovers that resistance and escape—the “I” process—is a false move. The pain is inescapable, and resistance as a defense only makes it worse; the whole system is jarred by the shock. Seeing the impossibility of this course, it must act according to its nature—remain stable and absorb.

The pain is inescapable, and resistance as a defense only makes it worse; the whole system is jarred by the shock. Seeing the impossibility of this course, it must act according to its nature -- remain stable and absorb.

There is no one who can hang onto their relationship by force, but there are an abundance of people who try.  The more we fear, the tighter we grasp, and the more we lose our grip.  Your husband grew up with a lot of cultural rules and experiences.  He chooses his actions according to what he knows (his habits) and according to what he fears (his insecurities). You can be his butterfly, but only if he doesn't cage you in a glass jar.  Love is given freely, not taken by force.  Knowing each other intimately, trusting, growing, supporting, and feeling free are all part of the same package.  You can have that. And as much as you want it, he wants it too (for himself, at least).  Keeping that in mind will be key to his loosening his grip on you.  The more your husband restricts you and controls you, the less freedom he can have for himself.  If he wants you to stay home all the time rather than spend time with your friends, then you can give him what he wants.  Tell him you will be happy to be with him instead of your friends.  The only condition is that he spend that time with you, doing something meaningful.  If he doesn't follow through, go out with your friends.  Most men will decide very soon that it’s ok for you to go out once in awhile.  Then, that will be what they want, too.  The more control you give your husband, the more he will resist it.  If your husband is always telling you what to do, don't fight it.  Instead, nicely ask for his advice with everything, and he will tire of giving you advice and stop telling you what to do.  There are other methods to use for over-controlling men, but this works most of the time, is low conflict, and promotes