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Jane started saying ‘Welcome to being in a relationship’ to me over and over again.
I’d tell her about all the compromises I was making and how much Andy’s self-absorption could irritate me and how I’d noticed that he’d stopped finding me sexy and started finding me sweet – that he used to grab my bum and kiss me, and now he kissed me on the head and pulled the zipper of my jacket up and down in a cutesy way. ‘Wait till he stops finding you sweet,’ she said. ‘That’s a whole other phase.’
I told her about how much time was spent comforting him and buoying him up and getting him out of low moods. How his emotions were always more important than mine – that when we had arguments, his feelings were discussed as facts and mine were interrogated as fabrications. ‘Jen,’ she said matter-of-factly, ‘do you even want a boyfriend?’
I asked her if this was all stuff she put up with and she nodded. ‘Welcome to being in a relationship,’ she said.
And I thought: I don’t want to be welcome here. I don’t want to get comfortable here.
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Dolly Alderton (Good Material)
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Reasons Why I Loved Being With Jen
I love what a good friend you are. You’re really engaged with the lives of the people you love. You organize lovely experiences for them. You make an effort with them, you’re patient with them, even when they’re sidetracked by their children and can’t prioritize you in the way you prioritize them.
You’ve got a generous heart and it extends to people you’ve never even met, whereas I think that everyone is out to get me. I used to say you were naive, but really I was jealous that you always thought the best of people.
You are a bit too anxious about being seen to be a good person and you definitely go a bit overboard with your left-wing politics to prove a point to everyone. But I know you really do care. I know you’d sign petitions and help people in need and volunteer at the homeless shelter at Christmas even if no one knew about it. And that’s more than can be said for a lot of us.
I love how quickly you read books and how absorbed you get in a good story. I love watching you lie on the sofa reading one from cover-to-cover. It’s like I’m in the room with you but you’re in a whole other galaxy.
I love that you’re always trying to improve yourself. Whether it’s running marathons or setting yourself challenges on an app to learn French or the fact you go to therapy every week. You work hard to become a better version of yourself. I think I probably didn’t make my admiration for this known and instead it came off as irritation, which I don’t really feel at all.
I love how dedicated you are to your family, even when they’re annoying you. Your loyalty to them wound me up sometimes, but it’s only because I wish I came from a big family.
I love that you always know what to say in conversation. You ask the right questions and you know exactly when to talk and when to listen. Everyone loves talking to you because you make everyone feel important.
I love your style. I know you think I probably never noticed what you were wearing or how you did your hair, but I loved seeing how you get ready, sitting in front of the full-length mirror in our bedroom while you did your make-up, even though there was a mirror on the dressing table.
I love that you’re mad enough to swim in the English sea in November and that you’d pick up spiders in the bath with your bare hands. You’re brave in a way that I’m not.
I love how free you are. You’re a very free person, and I never gave you the satisfaction of saying it, which I should have done. No one knows it about you because of your boring, high-pressure job and your stuffy upbringing, but I know what an adventurer you are underneath all that.
I love that you got drunk at Jackson’s christening and you always wanted to have one more drink at the pub and you never complained about getting up early to go to work with a hangover. Other than Avi, you are the person I’ve had the most fun with in my life.
And even though I gave you a hard time for always trying to for always trying to impress your dad, I actually found it very adorable because it made me see the child in you and the teenager in you, and if I could time-travel to anywhere in history, I swear, Jen, the only place I’d want to go is to the house where you grew up and hug you and tell you how beautiful and clever and funny you are. That you are spectacular even without all your sports trophies and music certificates and incredible grades and Oxford acceptance.
I’m sorry that I loved you so much more than I liked myself, that must have been a lot to carry. I’m sorry I didn’t take care of you the way you took care of me. And I’m sorry I didn’t take care of myself, either. I need to work on it. I’m pleased that our break-up taught me that. I’m sorry I went so mental.
I love you. I always will. I'm glad we met.
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Dolly Alderton (Good Material)
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Ja cilvēki neiemācīsies veidot laiku, tad viņi neiemācīsies neko. Kur tad ir pagrieziena punkts, svira, kas apvērsa pasauli? Līdz zināmam brīdim cilvēkus veidoja laiks, tagad laiku veido cilvēki. Jāsaka, ne vienmēr cilvēkiem tas izdodas.
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Alberts Bels (Izmeklētājs)
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creo que la idea del «día por la salud mental» solo puede ocurrírsele a gente que no tiene ni idea de lo que es tener mala salud mental. la idea de que puedes airear tu mente en veinticuatro horas es como decir que las enfermedades del corazón se curan desayunando los cereales adecuados. los días por la salud mental solo existen para gente que puede permitirse el lujo de decir «hoy no quiero enfrentarme a las cosas» y tomarse el día libre, mientras que los demás tenemos que seguir peleando, sin que a nadie le importe, a menos que decidamos ir a clase con un arma o estropear las noticias de la mañana con un suicidio.
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John Green (Will Grayson, Will Grayson (Spanish Edition))
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Este libro no te enseñará cómo ganar o lograr algo sino, más bien, cómo perder algo y dejarlo ir. Te
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Mark Manson (El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida)
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Between 1940 and 1970, output per person and output per hour continued to increase rapidly, in part as a result of three of the most important subsidiary spinoffs of IR #2—air conditioning, the interstate highway system, and commercial air transport—while the world of personal entertainment was forever altered by television.
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Robert J. Gordon (The Rise and Fall of American Growth: The U.S. Standard of Living since the Civil War (The Princeton Economic History of the Western World Book 60))
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As I looked over this curious document, I was particularly struck by a band of text across the bottom. It bore the title “Paperwork Reduction Act Notice” and read: The time needed to complete and file this form will vary depending on individual circumstances. The estimated average time is: The text then cheerfully concluded with a note that if I had comments “concerning the accuracy of these time estimates or suggestions for making this form simpler” the IRS would be happy to hear from me. It provided an address in Washington, D.C., where I could send my comments. The Paperwork Reduction Act, passed in 1980 in the waning days of the Carter administration and amended in 1995, is a classic example of structural deepening gone awry. The law was supposed to improve the efficiency of the U.S. federal government and lighten the burden of paperwork on citizens. In Brian Arthur’s terms, the additional complexity introduced by the law was supposed to improve government performance. But it has not worked. Although the U.S. Office of Management and Budget hired a special staff to review and approve every form and information request of every agency of the federal government, the estimated total time that the U.S. public invested each year fulfilling federal paperwork requirements rose from 4.7 billion hours in 1980 to 6.7 billion hours in 1996.14 More perversely, Form 1001 showed how the law makes government more inefficient and confusing to the average person. My first reaction to the notice at the bottom was to add up the time allotments. Was I really supposed to spend over six and a half hours on this form? The suggested times seemed so precise, and the total amount so daunting, that Form 1001 practically leapt at me with self-importance. And what records, exactly, was I supposed to spend four hours and thirty-two minutes keeping? I hadn’t a clue. In its entirety, Form 1001 resembled the jumble of hoses and wiring under the hood of a modern car, and the “Paperwork Reduction Act Notice” at the bottom was a particularly forbidding clump of complexity.
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Thomas Homer-Dixon (The Ingenuity Gap: How Can We Solve the Problems of the Future?)
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Los problemas son una constante en la vida. Cuando resuelves tu problema de salud al comprar la membresía de un gimnasio, creas nuevos problemas como tener que levantarte temprano para ir a ejercitarte, sudar como drogadicto en rehabilitación durante 30 minutos en la escaladora elíptica y luego ducharte para no dejar malos olores en la oficina. Cuando resuelves el problema de no pasar suficiente tiempo con tu pareja y se te ocurren los “Miércoles de cita”, generas nuevos problemas como pensar qué hacer (que ninguno de los dos odie) cada miércoles, asegurarte de contar con suficiente dinero para cenar en lugares bonitos, redescubrir la química y la chispa que ambos sienten que han perdido y resolver la logística de hacer el amor en una pequeña tina con demasiadas burbujas.
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Mark Manson (El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida)
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Science author Jonah Lehrer wrote extensively about this division in his book How We Decide. Lehrer sees the two minds as equals who communicate and argue about what to do. Simple problems involving unfamiliar variables are best handled by the rational brain. They must be simple because you can juggle only four to nine bits of information in your conscious, rational mind at one time. For instance, look at this sequence of letters and then recite them out loud without looking: RKFBIIRSCBSUSSR. Unless you’ve caught on, this is a really difficult task. Now chunk these letters into manageable portions like this: RK FBI IRS CBS USSR. Look away now and try to recite them. It should be much easier. You just took fifteen bits and reduced them to five. You chunk all the time to better analyze your world. You reduce the complex rush of inputs into shorthand versions of reality. This is why the invention of written language was such an important step in your history—it allowed you to take notes and preserve data outside the limited capacity of the rational mind. Without tools like pencils, computers, and slide rulers, the rational brain is severely hampered.
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David McRaney (You Are Not So Smart)
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Deception and misdirection are acceptable in a magic show, but they are not at all appropriate in the arena of finance. The way we look at our investments and what we see when we examine our portfolios are both important because our view determines how well we
navigate toward our financial goals.
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Christopher Manske (Outsmart the Money Magicians: Maximize Your Net Worth by Seeing Through the Most Powerful Illusions Performed by Wall Street and the IRS)
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A group of investments isn’t something people can touch or examine in the physical world. Instead, the statement is the lens that investors use to view and understand their finances. It is what’s inserted between the observer and the observed, which, it’s important to note, is not created by the investor.
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Christopher Manske (Outsmart the Money Magicians: Maximize Your Net Worth by Seeing Through the Most Powerful Illusions Performed by Wall Street and the IRS)
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Documentary photography is one of the prominent and influential branches in the art of photography that records social, cultural, and even historical realities. This type of photography allows the photographer to depict real and sometimes untold stories of everyday life and people. In this type of photography, the main goal is to convey the sense of realness and authenticity of the scenes. In this article, we will review important tips and principles for documentary photography with a camera and explain how to record facts in an attractive and effective way.
Choosing the right equipment
Choosing the right equipment
Choosing the right equipment for documentary photography is very important, because you often need to act quickly and accurately. Using DSLR cameras and mirrorless cameras are the best options for this type of photography.
Camera feature advantages
High flexibility DSLR, excellent image quality, various lenses
Mirrorless light and compact, more speed, silence
Recommended lenses:
50mm prime lens: for portraits and close-ups.
24mm wide lens: for shooting wide landscapes and scenes.
The importance of light in documentary photography
Natural light is one of the main factors in documentary photography. You can't always control the lighting conditions, but learning to use ambient light, especially in public or outdoor settings, can help you create better images.
Important points in using light:
Natural light: during the golden hours (early morning and evening) is the best time to take documentary photos. This light is soft and pleasant.
Shadow Light: If the direct sunlight is strong, try shooting in the shadows to avoid harsh shadows on your subjects.
Composition techniques in documentary photography
Composition is one of the key principles in documentary photography, with the help of which you can tell a telling and interesting story. The rule of thirds is one of the best and most common compositional rules used by documentary photographers.
Rule of thirds:
Divide the image frame into three horizontal parts and three vertical parts.
Place the important subjects of the photo at the intersection points of these lines.
Also, pay attention to the depth of the scene and try to use the foreground and background properly to make your image more dynamic.
Taking meaningful photos
One of the important principles in documentary photography is the meaningfulness of the images. Each photo should tell a story or capture a special moment. In order for your images to be real and emotional, it is better to interact with your subjects and capture them in their natural state. Don't be afraid to record unexpected and normal moments; Because these moments can better reflect the reality of everyday life.
Recording feelings and emotions:
Documentary photography should be able to show feelings and emotions well. Pay attention to small details in faces, gestures and looks. These details can add depth to your images.
Choose the right angle
The right angle of view can make a big difference in the impact of your documentary photo. Try different angles to find the best way to tell your story.
Low Angle: To show the power or glory of a subject.
High Angle: To show the smallness or loneliness of the subject.
Normal angle (Eye Level): to create a closer and more realistic connection with the viewer.
Camera settings for documentary photography
Camera settings for documentary photography
Camera settings are very important for documentary photography, as you may be shooting in different light conditions and at high speed. In the following, we mention some key camera settings for documentary photography.
shutter speed
For documentary photography, where there is a lot of movement in the scene, the shutter speed is very important. If you are shooting moving scenes, the shutter speed should be faster than 1/250 second to avoid blurring.
resource : nivamag.ir
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Mostafa
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In order for a person to work at a church legally as an independent contractor, we believe it is prudent to consider the following guidelines: · The church cannot substantially direct the person’s duties; the church can only give them overall tasks to complete. · The church cannot control or set their hours that they work. · Since their “company” provides the service, they can send anyone to do the job. · They cannot have an office at the church that is their primary office. · It cannot be their only source of income. · The church needs to have a written contract in place including cost, delivery of Services, duration (i.e. six months, one year, etc.) and a termination clause. · They cannot participate in any employee benefits plans (insurance, retirement plans, etc). · The contractor must provide annual proof of worker’s comp and liability insurance naming the church as additionally insured or the church could be held liable in the event of a claim. · The church must issue a 1099 at the end of the year for all contract wages paid if the total amount for the year exceeds $600.00 to one contractor. We strongly recommend that no payments are made until an accurate and fully completed W-9 is completed by the contractor and on file at the church. Given these requirements, many workers such as those in the nursery, kitchens, and other service areas are not 1099 contractors, but employees. Regarding interim pastors, there is disagreement over whether they should receive a W-2 or 1099. Factors such as length of service, who supervises them, and whether they are a contractor, come into play in the decision on how to report their salary. For the best practice we recommend always using the W-2 to report salaries, but seeking tax and legal counsel would be wise to avoid any future IRS issues. While there are advantages to the church to pay independent contractors who regularly work for the church such as avoiding the need to pay the employer's part of the FICA tax and the ease of terminating their services, we would recommend against their regular use. We recommend against the use of independent contractors (that regularly work at the church) because we believe it can create the following problems for the church: · Less control over the position · Leaves the church open to an IRS challenge, which the church only has a 50/50 chance of defending, not to mention the cost and hassle of litigation · In the event of insurance claims, the church may encounter issues with worker’s compensation coverage or liability insurance coverage such as sexual misconduct, etc. · The church is open to contract disputes with the independent contractor · Based on how the individual/company is filing their taxes, it could bring an unwanted tax audit to the church Our conclusion is that we do not see enough cost-saving advantages for the church to move in this direction. It also creates unnecessary red flags for the IRS. The other looming question is, why is this such an important issue for such a small incremental (if any) tax break for the individual? Because the independent contractor will have to pay employer FICA, we don’t see any large tax advantage for this shift. They can claim mileage and some home office expense (maybe), but it just does not amount to enough to place the church at risk. Here are some detailed guidelines
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Jeffrey A. Klick (Pastoral Helmsmanship)
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It is the term “social welfare” that allows some leeway for groups who might be inclined to participate in federal politics, as it can be argued that political advocacy falls within the broad umbrella of promoting the common good. The 501(c)(4) designation therefore allows groups to conduct political activities, but it also affords an additional benefit: 501(c)(4) groups are not required to disclose their donors to the FEC. This latter point became particularly important in the wake of Citizens United. The 527 organizations that began gaining notoriety for their activities in 2004 had long been allowed to pursue political activities exclusively, and had been required to disclose their donors even before passage of the BCRA. Although the BCRA limitations on “express advocacy” constrained the 527s somewhat, the rules did provide an outlet for unlimited—albeit disclosed—contributions for issue advertising prior to 2010. There was effectively no benefit of seeking 501(c)(4) tax status during this period, however. Since the IRS prior to 2010 employed a broad definition of political activities prohibited for 501(c) groups, there was little reason to risk running afoul of the tax code. Groups with a primarily political purpose could achieve tax-free status and avoid IRS scrutiny by organizing as a 527 group and disclosing their donors.15 In expanding permissible election-related activity however, the Citizens United decision immediately made 501(c)(4)s a more attractive option for groups looking to make independent expenditures. Importantly, because they are primarily defined as nonprofit “social welfare” organizations as opposed to political committees, 501(c)(4)s are not allowed to make or sponsor advertisements naming a candidate their primary activity, meaning that they must constrain their election-related spending to half of their overall expenditures. Yet, if corporations and other groups could not be stopped from spending money in elections—even for express advocacy—in the wake of Citizens United, it was considerably more difficult for the IRS to stop a 501(c) group from doing so either. After Citizens United, 501(c)(4)s therefore differed little from 527s either in the type of activities they could legally spend money on or the size of the contributions they could receive. However, the lack of a disclosure requirement for 501(c)(4)s provides a considerable advantage compared to 527s. Seeking 501(c)(4) status in the post–Citizens United world therefore seems like a prudent move for groups wanting to accept unlimited contributions, but who might not be inclined to publicize their donor lists: At present, 501(c)(4)s can pursue electioneering activities using anonymous unlimited funders so long as their activities can plausibly be defended as contributing to the social welfare (broadly defined) and so long as political spending does not constitute their “primary” expenditure (Luo 2010). In practice, the IRS/FEC has taken “primary” to mean more than half of a group’s overall expenditures.
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Conor M. Dowling (Super PAC!: Money, Elections, and Voters after Citizens United (Routledge Research in American Politics and Governance))
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The IRS pays close attention to this deduction. So what you call the deduction on your tax return is important. Instead of listing the expense as a seminar, why not list it as continuing education? Or, if you went primarily to network and market yourself to the other participants, why not call it a sales or marketing expense?
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Tom Wheelwright (Tax-Free Wealth: How to Build Massive Wealth by Permanently Lowering Your Taxes)
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No deberíamos buscar la respuesta “correcta” definitiva para nosotros, en vez de ello deberíamos buscar ir deshaciéndonos poco a poco de nuestras equivocaciones actuales, de forma que estemos menos equivocados mañana.
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Mark Manson (El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida)
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La gente desea una pareja, un cónyuge; pero no logras atraer a alguien asombroso sin apreciar la turbulencia emocional que implica ir capoteando los rechazos, crear esa tensión sexual que nunca se libera y quedarte mirando perdidamente a un teléfono que nunca suena.
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Mark Manson (El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida)
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In the entire vista of Malay literature—including even the Indonesian literatures—he was unique. None rivalled him in originality and poetic genius; in Malay Sufi literature none excelled the clarity and flowing simplicity of his prose which, nevertheless, reveals profound metaphysical insight in the Sufi doctrines; none exceeded him in poetry, whether it be in terms of literary output or in terms of intellectual content. He was, as I have earlier shown, the first man to set forth in systematic writing the essential aspects of the Şufi doctrines in Malay, and he not only impressed his influence upon certain historiographically important literary usages in Malay literature, but introduced as well new technical terminologies and concepts into the Malay language in general, and into Malay Sufi literature in particular, having do with theology, metaphysics and philosophy.
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Syed Muhammad Naquib al-Attas (The Origin of the Malay Sha'ir)
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EXERCISE 22-3: NOT GETTING OR LOSING YOUR ERECTION You are to do two things: reenact your old erection problem and handle it differently than you usually did. If your problem was that you did not get an erection while your partner stimulated you, then have her stimulate you and see to it that you don’t get an erection. If your problem was getting soft during intercourse, then have intercourse and make your erection go away. Whatever the old problem, re-create it. There are many ways to not get or to lose an erection. Distracting yourself from the pleasurable stimulation by worrying about a myriad of things can help—anything from whether you’ll get or keep hard, to whether the kids are listening, to how much money the IRS will want from you this year—is probably the best way. After you’ve managed not to get hard or to lose your erection, deal with the situation in ways that are enhancing to both you and your partner. Acknowledge what’s happened but don’t apologize. Instead, offer something that sounds good. Here is an example: “I don’t think I can get hard again, but I’d love to love you. Anything interest you?” When the two of you agree on something, do it. It can be sexual or not. The only important thing is that you both feel good about yourselves, each other, and what you do. Repeat this exercise as many times as necessary for you to feel comfortable about losing
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Bernie Zilbergeld (The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure)
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La gente desea una pareja, un cónyuge; pero no logras atraer a alguien asombroso sin apreciar la turbulencia emocional que implica ir capoteando los rechazos, crear esa tensión sexual que nunca se libera y quedarte mirando perdidamente a un teléfono que nunca suena. Es parte del juego del amor. No puedes ganar si no juegas.
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Mark Manson (El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida)
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cómo ganar o lograr algo sino, más bien, cómo perder algo y dejarlo ir.
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Mark Manson (El sutil arte de que te importe un caraj*: Un enfoque disruptivo para vivir una buena vida)
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Furthermore, the number of such forms submitted to the I.R.S. is a useful indicator of public consent, an important factor in strategic decision making. Other data sources are given in the Short List of Inputs.
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Anonymous (TOP SECRET - Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual)
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Blockchain can be described as “a “write only” digital platform that records and verifies transactions”. Simply put, blockchain is the next step within database development. It can also be called Distributed Ledger Technology (DLT). As a distributed ledger, it is designed and built with the goal of securely storing millions of data within its platform, leveraging a series of architecture tweaks for it.
A blockchain is then, nothing else than a database made up of rows, columns, and tables. What differentiates it from other databases, is its sophisticated encryption, that makes it safer, transparent, and more trustworthy. Blockchain technology uses cryptography and digital signatures to prove identity, authenticity, and enforce read/write access rights. All transactions within a block which is part of the blockchain are visible; so there is full transparency for every transaction. What is more, once an entry goes into a blockchain ledger, it cannot be (easily) altered or erased. There is no “central power” overseeing the ledger of transactions. Instead, blockchain technology enables a decentralised and distributed ledger where transactions are shared among a network of computers—in almost real time—rather than being stored on a central server with a central authority (like a bank) overseeing transactions.
A blockchain platform is formed out of infinite blocks. The system was inspired by the way bitcoin was first designed when invented in 2008. Similarly to bitcoin, every time a block is made, it will attach itself to the blockchain carrying along a “hash”, or fingerprint from the previous block. These have an important function as they use cryptography to authenticate the source of the transaction.
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Dinis Guarda (4IR AI Blockchain Fintech IoT - Reinventing a Nation)
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The most important question a nation has to answer is if it creates the right narrative and value for its citizens. Most would agree that the best value creation is about growing the economy in a sustainable way, managing a balanced and inclusive society and making sure there are enough jobs to its citizens and well being, social positive impact and stability. This is complicated in the present world though. We live in a world that is changing at a fast pace, never seen so far in human history. We live now in a technology data driven 4.0 industry revolution - 4IR - world which is more interconnected and affected by technological innovation than ever in history.
This new technology-driven world is one filled with promises but also with major challenges and risks. One of the main disruptions which is now part of our lives is the one that comes with so called 4IR, that is affecting our world in ways never seen. These ways imply a new narrative that is as challenging as it is somehow invisible, faster than ever and in many ways deeply dangerous. This narrative implies the advance of advanced digital transformation tools we use everyday, the inception of the so called Artificial Intelligence, that is creating an increasing digitisation, datification and automation of all kinds of services and industries touching the fabrics of social, economic and political with consequences that touch all parts of human and environmental life.
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Dinis Guarda (4IR AI Blockchain Fintech IoT - Reinventing a Nation)