Haemin Sunim Quotes

Life isn’t a hundred-meter race against your friends, but a lifelong marathon against yourself.

When people who don't know you well admire you, they are seeing their projected illusion, not your real self. In contrast, when people who know you well respect you, it is probably because you deserve it.

We know the world only through the window of our mind. When our mind is noisy, the world is as well. And when our mind is peaceful, the world is, too. Knowing our minds is just as important as trying to change the world.

Some say they don’t really know what they are looking for in life. This might be because, instead of getting in touch with how they feel, they have led their lives according to other people’s expectations. Live your life not to satisfy others, but to fulfill what your heart desires.

The more grateful we feel, the happier we become. This is because gratitude helps us realize we are all connected. Nobody feels like an island when feeling grateful. Gratitude awakens us to the truth of our interdependent nature.

Stop shouting, “What if?” and just take a leap of faith.

Do not fight your negative emotions. Observe and befriend them.

I wish you could see my true nature. Beyond my body and labels, there is a river of tenderness and vulnerability.

When we become kinder to ourselves, we can become kinder to the world.

Life teaches us through our mistakes.

What makes music beautiful is the distance between one note and another. What makes speech eloquent is the appropriate pause between words. From time to time we should take a breath and notice the silence between sounds.

Because I have experienced pain, I am able to embrace the pain of others. Because I have made mistakes, I am able to forgive others their mistakes. May my suffering become the seed of compassion

Being a critic is easy. But if the critic tries to run the operation, he soon understands that nothing is as easy as his criticisms. Criticism without a solution is merely an inflation of the critic's ego.

Who is an unfortunate person? One who looks at other people and sees only their flaws.

What our mind focuses on becomes our world. Seen this way, the mind does not seem so insignificant in relation to the world out there, does it?

There is a saying in Korea: “Lengthy deliberation often leads to a terrible decision.” If you think and worry too much before doing something, “your boat goes to the mountain instead of the ocean.

she never thought about loving herself because love for her always meant giving it to someone else.

The person leading you toward spiritual awakening is not the one who praises you or is nice to you. Your spirituality deepens because of those who insult you and give you a hard time. They are your spiritual teachers in disguise. How

The reason we think we are better than others is that inferiority still lurks within us. A sense of superiority exists because of a sense of inferiority.

Spirituality must be practiced not just in solitude but also among people. Open up to people around you and feel connected. This is the true challenge of spiritual practice.

When you care for yourself first, the world will also find you worthy of care.

Do not think of yourself as a crescent moon, waiting for someone else to fill in the missing part of you. When you stand alone like a full moon, already complete in yourself, you will meet another person who is whole and complete just like you, and between you two, a healthy relationship can grow. Do not try and fit yourselves to each other to make one whole moon. Instead, be more like two full moons. You’ll respect each other’s individuality and interests while creating a relationship in which each of you shines brightly on the other

If you want to predict how a politician will act after winning an election, look at how he currently lives and how he has behaved in the past. A person does not live the way he says he would. He lives the way he has been living.

It is a sign of great spiritual strength to keep someone else’s secret.

The most dangerous people are those who have passion but lack wisdom. If

Be the kind of person who can put yourself in someone else's shoes and understand something not just from your own perspective but from theirs as well.

Love is trusting someone, being there for someone, being ready to listen with a tender heart for no other reason than love. At times we are not sure whether what we feel is love. At that moment, ask yourself this: “Am I happy to give more even after having given a lot?” If the answer is yes, and there is no regret afterward, then that is probably love.

Listening openly, patiently, and attentively is one of the most significant expressions of love.

There are many more ordinary hours in life than extraordinary ones. We wait in line at the supermarket. We spend hours commuting to work. We water our plants and feed our pets. Happiness means finding a moment of joy in those ordinary hours.

It’s okay that you have flaws. How could our lives be as clean and white as a blank sheet of paper? Life naturally takes its toll on our bodies, our minds, and our relationships. rather than choosing a life in which you do nothing for fear of making a mistake, choose a life that improves through failure and pain. And shout out loud to your struggling self, I love you so much

If you are desperately looking to meet someone special, send your prayer out to the universe. The universe is an amazing matchmaker.

Don’t judge people based on how they appear, as they may have difficulties that nobody can see.

If you have led an honorable and honest life, there is no need to be afraid of speaking the truth.

Isn't it better to be happy together than to be right alone?

If I had to summarize the entirety of most people’s lives in a few words, it would be endless resistance to what is. As we resist, we are in constant motion trying to adjust, and yet we still remain unhappy about what is.

Given that the world we see through our mind’s eye is limited, if we can train our mind and choose wisely where to focus, then we will be able to experience the world corresponding to the state of our mind.

The purpose of religion is to control yourself, not to criticize others. How much am I doing about my anger, attachment, hatred, pride, and jealousy? These are the things we must check in our daily lives.” —HIS HOLINESS, THE DALAI LAMA

When I look deeply within myself, I realize what it is that I really want from others: attentive ears that listen to what I am saying, kind words that acknowledge my existence and worth, gentle eyes that accept my flaws and insecurities. I resolve to be that person for those around me.

As we accept what is, our minds are relaxed and composed while the world changes rapidly around us. Do

One word of encouragement, said with kindness and hope, can change a person’s future, the way it did for the five hundred disciples and for me.

How would you feel if you were told you were wrong just for being different?

Instead of postponing your happiness until you’ve achieved your goal, live a little and enjoy the moment. Life is passing you by while you are waiting.

Are you a controlling parent? Are you devoting too much attention to your child? If the answer is yes, then turn some of that attention toward your parents. If you are good to your own parents, then your child will learn how to treat you in the future.

Thinking too much can make it difficult to act. If you just do it, then it is done. But if you give in to your thinking, your mind will get in the way, telling you “you can’t,” “you shouldn’t,” “you don’t want to.” In that case, get up early the next morning and just do the thing you’ve been putting off. If you give yourself time to start thinking about it, inaction will take hold again.

Love, not righteous words, can change people’s lives.

People are like heaters.” Our presence can warm each other.

Wisdom is not something we have to strive to acquire. Rather, it arises naturally as we slow down and notice what is already there.

When you speak ill of others, it hurts you more than anyone - because your negativity is loudest within you.

When you concentrate, even a phone book can be interesting. If you are bored, maybe you are not concentrating.

Everything in this universe is evanescent. Because it is evanescent, it is also precious. Spend this precious moment wisely and beautifully.

it is hard to find one’s calling because many mistakenly believe they need to look only within to discover their passion. Although it is true that we have innate interests and talents, we often do not know what they are until we have real-life experiences. Having a wide range of experiences can help you uncover your inner passion. Try various part-time jobs and internships, or volunteer. Don’t be afraid of rolling up your sleeves and diving in. While immersed in a job’s reality, you will discover whether it’s a good fit. Work experiences may unlock the door to a career opportunity you hadn’t considered. Third,

If you love someone: embrace him, like the Holy Mother embraces Her one and only Son. Listen attentively, like there is no one else but him in the whole universe. Look into his eyes, like a soul trying to communicate after losing a language. Dance together, like tomorrow is your final day on earth

And yet, even though we find many such imperfect things in the world we live in, we cannot help but love them. Because our lives are far too precious to be spent in ridicule and hatred of what doesn’t appeal to us, of what we do not understand.

May you find the eye of compassion within you!

Our True self can never be lost, even for a single moment. Just like the present can never be lost- it is always here and now, wether or not we pay attention to it

Allow yourself a good night’s sleep. When you wake up the next day, the problem will seem lighter. It works, truly.

If we look at it more closely, we see it's not the situation that is troubling us, but our perspective on it.

Do not turn something trivial into a major source of agony by wasting time and energy thinking about it endlessly.

Maturity comes with experience. One lesson of maturity is that we should not take our thoughts too seriously, and must learn to curb our ego and see the bigger picture.

Love is the state of not knowing, and of wanting to know more.

Perhaps there is no such thing as a “soul mate.” When you work hard to make your relationship work and stay together for a long time, then you each become the person you were meant to be with.

But the truth is, you are already worthy of being loved. You don’t need to be convinced of your self-worth by taking on society’s demands and living up to its expectations. You already are a precious being and deserve to be loved and cared for.

Don’t assume another bus will be coming. Sometimes the route will have changed, and you will never get another chance to catch the bus you missed. If an opportunity is presented to you, don’t give in to your fear. Muster your courage and get on that bus.

If you wish to clear away the clouds of your thoughts, simply keep your mind in the present. The clouds of thought linger on in the past or the future. Bring your mind to the present, and your thoughts will rest.

Even if you have everything you’ve ever wanted, you won’t be happy if you’re always striving for more or better. Happiness comes when our hearts are peaceful and content, and when we learn to appreciate what we already have.

When someone does not like us, it is not our problem but theirs. Not everyone will like us. This is a problem only if we let it bother us.

Beyond stereotypes and assumptions, there is a valley of openness and authenticity

To get food unstuck from a frying pan, just pour water in the pan and wait. After a while the food loosens on its own. Don't struggle to heal your wounds. Just pour time into your heart and wait. When your wounds are ready, they will heal on their own.

When we look at the outside world, we are looking at only a small part that interests us. The world we see is not the entire universe but a limited one that the mind cares about. However, to our minds, that small world is the entire universe. Our reality is not the infinitely stretching cosmos but the small part we choose to focus on. Reality exists because our minds exist. Without the mind, there would be no universe.

The good heart that prays for the end of others suffering ends its own suffering with such prayers. Send out your blessings to family, friends, colleagues, strangers on the street. A saint acts compassionately not because she is a saint. Rather, her compassionate acts make her a saint.

In India, “Namaste” is a common greeting, like “Hello.” But there is a beautiful meaning to “Namaste.” It means, “The divine being within me bows to the divine being within you.” We are much greater and more sacred than we think.

When you feel bad, don’t struggle with the feeling. If you struggle to control it, you can make it worse. However hard you might wish your feelings away, they will stay for as long as they need to. When you allow them to be there and watch them, they usually leave earlier than you expected.

Don’t think you are lovable only when you succeed at what the world demands. You are already worthy of love.

We can love completely,” he says, “even without complete understanding.

most thoughts are personal opinions based on our limited experience

Love’s true face is acceptance and freedom, not restriction and control.

Labeling something a problem is often what makes it one.

Remember that you are neither your feelings nor the story your mind tells about you to make sense of them. You are the vast silence that knows of their emergence and their disappearance.

be mindful of our breathing, as it is an important bridge between body and mind. If our breathing is calm, our mind will be calm, and if our breathing is agitated, our mind will be agitated

pure attention without judgment is not only the highest form of human intelligence, but also the expression of love. Observe the changing energy both attentively and lovingly as it unfolds in the space of your mind.

To keep doing your work for a long time, do not treat it as just work. View it as a source of enjoyment and growth. The road to happiness lies not just in find a good job but learning to enjoy what you are asked to do

If you pack the wood too densely, the fire will not take; the flames need room to breathe. In the same way, if our lives have no breathing room, we won’t be able to enjoy all the things we have, no matter how great or precious they are.

Underneath someone’s violent nature, there is always fear, rooted in either childhood or present circumstances. Underneath that fear lurks hurt and vulnerability. If you really want to forgive someone, look beneath the surface and see what is there.

The nice cutlery set, tea, wine, clothes, open, quilt that you have been saving for a special occasion— use them whenever you get the chance. Special moments are not separate from our everyday lives. When you make use of something special, it makes the moment special

Cuộc sống không phải là cuộc chiến cạnh tranh với những người khác, mà là cuộc chạy đua trường kỳ với chính bản thân mình.

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You can try to become happy by controlling your environment, or by cultivating quietude/gratitude in your mind. The latter is much easier.

• If you learn to play one sport well, it becomes easier to learn to play another. If you become fluent in one foreign language, you can more easily learn another. If you figure out how to run a small business, it’ll be easier to run a second or third one. Do not be envious of those who are good at many things. First learn to be good at one. You will soon be able to do two or three.

If you do not know how to solve a problem in your life, give prayer a try. As you bring your attention inward and sincerely seek an answer, something sacred within you unlocks the door of inner wisdom.

There is no need to torment yourself because someone dislikes you. Accept it as a fact of life; you cannot control how others feel about you. If someone does not like you, let her have her opinion. Just move on.

When a problem comes up in a relationship, don’t just grit your teeth and bear it. Acknowledge that the other person can be different from you, and allow them to be. Even siblings who have grown up in the same house have different viewpoints and habits. Do not just tell them to adjust to you; make room for difference.

We are worthy of being loved not because of what we do well but because we are precious living beings. Even if you don’t achieve the perfection the world demands, your existence already has value and is worthy of love.

There is a famous Buddhist saying that everyone appears as buddhas in the eyes of the Buddha and everyone appears as pigs in the eyes of a pig. It suggests that the world is experienced according to the state of one’s mind. When your mind is joyful and compassionate, the world is, too. When your mind is filled with negative thoughts, the world appears negative, too. When you feel overwhelmed and busy, remember that you are not powerless. When your mind rests, the world also rests.

We sometimes find it difficult to control our emotions. At such times, take some quiet time alone. Go for a walk on your own, watch a great film read a new book, or do some meditation. Give the suppressed emotion space until it can breathe easily.

It's okay for us to disagree. But if we do, you should say that my opinion is different from yours, not wrong. There is a huge difference. Try puttin yourself in my shoes. How would you feel if you were told you were wrong just for being different?

When I feel compelled to interfere in someone else’s business, I try to ask myself, “Am I concentrating on the task I have been given?” When my meditation practice is going well, I am too busy looking within myself to bother with other people’s affairs. But when I cannot concentrate on my meditation practice, my mind starts to wander and notice the faults in others. And I soon see they are my own faults reflected back at me. No one has asked me to focus my attention there. In moments like this, I recall my original intention of being a monk and return to my practice.

Humans are like mirrors: We reflect each other. When a wise person wants something from others, she first does what she desires from them, exemplifying rather than asking for it. If you want a friend to remember your birthday, remember hers first. If you want your husband to give you a massage, give him a massage first. If you want your children to watch less TV, turn off your TV first. Don’t just wait for what you want to happen. Act first.

When you feel disappointed, and you see it’s because you expected something from someone else, consider why it is that you often rely on others to make you happy. Why is your self-reliance so low? Does it maybe relate to how you were brought up, or to a past trauma? Do you have a strong need for approval or attention from others? If you often feel disappointed in yourself, ask why you hold yourself to such a high standard. Are your expectations reasonable? When you understand yourself better, you might find it easier to deal with disappointment, and to accept and love yourself.

You sacrificed your life for the sake of your children. But instead of being thankful, your children are angry that they have been living their parents' dreams rather than their own. Look back and see if you deluded yourself into believing that being obsessed with your children was a sacrifice. And consider whether your "sacrifice" did not rob your children of the opportunity to learn for themselves.