Grindr Quotes

There is another dating app for gay men called Grindr. Perhaps it’s for gay women too? I don’t know, I didn’t ask. Would they use the same one? That would be nice.

I pressed send and left Grindr open on my phone for a while. After fifteen minutes when there was no response, I closed it and tried to forget about the conversation. After twenty-four hours and still no response, I started to understand that the clear rejection was based on my being trans. - How to Be Gay When the Gays Won’t Have You - Rae Spoon

A gift?” Illusive pressed a palm to his chest in a mock swoon. “You realize that according to Grindr terms of service, this means we’re married.” “In

The guy who does your lawn is always playing with Winnie, Josh. And he’s really cute.” Dave looks at her from where he’s reaching for a cookie. “Isn’t he, like, nineteen?” “You might be right.” She turns to Hazel. “Haze, do you have a problem with younger men?” Hazel burps before answering. “Nope.” “Joshy, what about you?” “I think younger men are fine but I’d prefer a woman. And at least old enough to vote, please.” David’s eyes light up. “What if we made them dating profiles on Grindr or eharmony or one of those?” Emily’s brows come together. “I don’t think Grindr is the right one. Let me Google it.” Hazel leans against my shoulder, staring at them. “They don’t even need us here for this.

And here's a fantastic thing that would happen: this person that you had maybe seen at the gym for months, or weeks, or just today. And now he's writing his phone number down on a ripped off piece of paper (the front desks always had pens and paper for just such moments), and you fold it up and put it in your gym shorts. And later you take it out and unfold it and it is like he is there again. The slip of paper with the number on it has now been replaced with grindr and scruff and instagram but nothing - nothing, can be as exciting as walking back to your apartment and climbing the stairs and unlocking the door and reaching into your pocket and pulling out that tiny slip of paper and looking at his handwriting. How he writes his 7's, 4's, his 8's. And a little bit of him is there with you, and it's thrilling because this paper is a contract that tells you something happened. A moment, a brief moment recognising that you have been seen and this paper could hold your future. This could be the piece of paper you keep for 50 years, the paper you will show him when you're old and the excitement of that moment is long gone but something better is left in its place; a lifetime. 

I'm going to get lecture-y for a second and add that I think the entire idea of tops and bottems, especially when coming from straight people who fetishize gay people, is an attempt to place some sort of hetero world over gay people. "Oh your're a bottom, so you're the woman." Gay guys who are strictly tops or bottoms tend to embrace this idea, too. Being a top only means you're "manly" or whatever because not being manly is considered bad by like adults and TV and stuff. Gay guys can buy into that crap just as easy as straight people. Whenever you see masc for masc on Grindr or whatever, what you're seeing is someone saying," I don't want people to think I'm like a woman, and I don;t want people to think that you're like a woman because people will think less of us." Sure people have preference but these ideas of masculine and feminine are kind of meaningless. I wear make-up. I think I'm pretty manly! We're all told this crap all the time, but you can reject it. Instead you're enforcing the idea that there is masculine and there is feminine, and that masculine is, for some unexplained reason, better. Finally, and this should probably be clear after the last bit, but you cant tell a top or a bottom or what a person's preferences are just by looking at him! Big, harry, muscled men love taking it up the ass. Trust me, I know. And slim, make-up wearing types, we love to f@$%. And in my case, get f@$%ed, too. Like I said, versatility is the best. So, in summary, it's wrong to assume all gay guys are having anal sex all the time. And it's ridiculous and offensive and stereotyping and hurtful to think that those who are penetrated are girly and those who penetrate are manly, something you've been doing. ... You're email is more like a mean joke you tell your friends, and I think that is because secretly you hate the way you're always being told what a girl should be like. And when you see a gay guy blurring the gender lines a little, like me, you're jealous of him. You want to put him in his place. You want to say, "he's not a man." Because if you can't blur those gender lines without being told you're gross or wrong, then you want to make sure that anyone who does cross those gender lines gets punished the way you would. But you shouldn't be punishing gay guys. You should be braking down the barriers that keep you from being who YOU want to be!

But Tinder added a key feature that Grindr—and Blendr, for that matter—didn’t have: the mutual-interest requirement

So… are you on Grindr?” “No. It’s not my thing. You?” “Nah. My friends tried to get me into it but it’s not my thing either. Call me boring, but I like meeting guys the good old-fashioned way.

So… are you going to start using Grindr? It seems like you’re judging it, so I’m going to assume not.” “I haven’t decided yet.” There was a little twist in my gut. Warning signs popped up in my head screaming Danger! Danger!

Apparently, the whole town of Mineral Creek is just a giant Grindr site where all swipes lead to Jeremy King.

If you are human — and apologies for the insult if not — you may here be feeling pity, on Castiel’s behalf. Unrequited love, among humans, is known as a tragic thing. Humans are creatures of aspiration, of want — you wanted to stay warm at night, and tamed the devastation of wildfire to do so; you wanted to cease your endless movement across the earth and settle in valleys and plains and shorelines, to bring food to you instead of seeking it out, to grow things in neat rows in the earth and harvest them when the time came. To build upwards, to discover, to reach and climb and claim. The thought of something wanted left unattained is a difficult one for humans. But Castiel was not born a human.

In the gay world, exchanging numbers was the equivalent of going steady, and Jeffrey wasn’t sure he was prepared for such a dramatic change in their online relationship. Were they even ready for this? Wasn’t it still too soon? Shouldn’t they share a few X-rated photos first?

I do feel I must point out, accepting that perhaps I am wrong on this but I don’t think I am, that there just doesn’t seem to be an equivalent male phenomenon wherein a notable portion of men in their fifties, post divorce, just get on Grindr and end up with a dude. I know we women aren’t perfect and fer sure we take energy to be in a relationship with, OF COURSE. Of course. But I’m just saying, maybe the undeniable truth is, life is easier with a wife.

Basically, you’re an example of what-if-Grindr-was-a-real-boy.

The culture of instant gratification created by Grindr encourages you to endlessly search for hook ups and companionship, but the same culture encourages you to end that companionship when even marginally inconvenient, so you can go back to Grindr and try again.

In a town of a thousand, a gay bar was out of the question, and Grindr was about as useful as a Blockbuster card.

China’s actions also have major personal-security implications in the digital age. Consider the recent Chinese corporate acquisition of the gay dating site Grindr, which is headquartered in Los Angeles.30 The purchaser was a little-known Chinese online gaming firm called Kunlun, which is not a state company, and Grindr has assured its users that their data will be safe. But some cybersecurity experts have rung alarm bells about the possibility that Beijing could gain broad access to user data. Grindr often serves to facilitate discreet gay hookups, making it “a tantalizing source of information” for Chinese intelligence agencies, which, as one report noted, are building “massive databases” on individual Americans “to have handy” and perhaps use “as leverage in blackmail scenarios.