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Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.
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Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.
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Henry Thomas Buckle
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Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.
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Socrates
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How would your life be different ifβ¦You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the dayβ¦You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.
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Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
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You'd think people had better things to gossip about," said Ginny as she sat on the common room floor, leaning against Harryβs legs and reading the Daily Prophet. "Three Dementor attacks in a week, and all Romilda Vane does is ask me if itβs true youβve got a Hippogriff tattooed across your chest."
Ron and Hermione both roared with laughter. Harry ignored them.
What did you tell her?"
I told her it's a Hungarian Horntail," said Ginny, turning a page of the newspaper idly. "Much more macho."
Thanks," said Harry, grinning. "And what did you tell her Ronβs got?"
A Pygmy Puff, but I didnβt say where.
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J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince (Harry Potter, #6))
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Gossip is never fatal until it is denied.
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Booth Tarkington
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If you aim to be something you are not, you will always fail. Aim to be you. Aim to look and act and think like you. Aim to be the truest version of you. Embrace that you-ness. Endorse it. Love it. Work hard at it. And don't give a second thought when people mock it or ridicule it. Most gossip is envy in disguise.
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Matt Haig (The Midnight Library)
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Gossip is just a tool to distract people who have nothing better to do from feeling jealous of those few of us still remaining with noble hearts.
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Anna Godbersen (Splendor (Luxe, #4))
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Be less curious about people and more curious about ideas.
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Marie Curie
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1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
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Miguel Ruiz
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Gossip is like thread wound over a spindle of truth, changing its shape.
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K. Ritz (Sheever's Journal, Diary of a Poison Master)
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Do not leave your reputation to chance or gossip; it is your life's artwork, and you must craft it, hone it, and display it with the care of an artist.
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Robert Greene (The 48 Laws of Power)
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If one does not react to gossip, the informer hushes more quickly.
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K. Ritz (Sheever's Journal, Diary of a Poison Master)
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Declare your jihad on thirteen enemies you cannot see -egoism, arrogance, conceit, selfishness, greed, lust, intolerance, anger, lying, cheating, gossiping and slandering. If you can master and destroy them, then you will be read to fight the enemy you can see.
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Abu Hamid al-Ghazali
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To hold our tongues when everyone is gossiping, to smile without hostility at people and institutions, to compensate for the shortage of love in the world with more love in small, private matters; to be more faithful in our work, to show greater patience, to forgo the cheap revenge obtainable from mockery and criticism: all these are things we can do.
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Hermann Hesse
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The key to good eavesdropping is not getting caught.
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Lemony Snicket (The Blank Book (A Series of Unfortunate Events))
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Word spread because word will spread. Stories and secrets fight, stories win, shed new secrets, which new stories fight, and on.
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China MiΓ©ville (Embassytown)
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If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody come sit next to me.
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Alice Roosevelt Longworth
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No one gossips about other peopleβs secret virtues.
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Bertrand Russell (On Education: On Education (Routledge Classics))
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Isn't it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?
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Sean Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: The Ultimate Teenage Success Guide)
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There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Popular culture is a place where pity is called compassion, flattery is called love, propaganda is called knowledge, tension is called peace, gossip is called news, and auto-tune is called singing.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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These are the few ways we can practice humility:
To speak as little as possible of one's self.
To mind one's own business.
Not to want to manage other people's affairs.
To avoid curiosity.
To accept contradictions and correction cheerfully.
To pass over the mistakes of others.
To accept insults and injuries.
To accept being slighted, forgotten and disliked.
To be kind and gentle even under provocation.
Never to stand on one's dignity.
To choose always the hardest.
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Mother Teresa (The Joy in Loving: A Guide to Daily Living (Compass))
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How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbour says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.
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Marcus Aurelius (Meditations)
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What's the whole point of being pretty on the outside when youβre so ugly on the inside?
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Jess C. Scott (I'm Pretty (Envy))
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Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.
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Israelmore Ayivor
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I never gossip. I observe. And then relay my observations to practically everyone.
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Gail Carriger (Timeless (Parasol Protectorate, #5))
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You know the difference between news and gossip, don't you? News tells you what people did. Gossip tells you how much they enjoyed it.
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Gregory David Roberts (Shantaram)
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Gossip is one thing, hurtful gossip is completely another, and even in high school we weren't THAT mean.
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Nicholas Sparks (A Walk to Remember)
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Gossip, as usual, was one-third right and two-thirds wrong.
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L.M. Montgomery (Chronicles of Avonlea (Chronicles of Avonlea, #1))
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It is always assumed by the empty-headed, who chatter about themselves for want of something better, that people who do not discuss their affairs openly must have something to hide.
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Honoré de Balzac (Père Goriot)
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Someone who smiles too much with you can sometime frown too much with you at your back.
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Michael Bassey Johnson
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Once I spoke the language of the flowers,
Once I understood each word the caterpillar said,
Once I smiled in secret at the gossip of the starlings,
And shared a conversation with the housefly
in my bed.
Once I heard and answered all the questions
of the crickets,
And joined the crying of each falling dying
flake of snow,
Once I spoke the language of the flowers. . . .
How did it go?
How did it go?
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Shel Silverstein (Where the Sidewalk Ends)
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Never speak disrespectfully of Society, Algernon. Only people who canβt get into it do that.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourslef or to gossip about others. Use your power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
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Miguel Ruiz (The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom)
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Insecure people only eclipse your sun because theyβre jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.
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Shannon L. Alder
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A coward talks to everyone but YOU.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Scandal is gossip made tedious by morality.
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Oscar Wilde (Lady Windermere's Fan)
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Destiny is for losers. It's just a lame excuse for letting things happen to you instead of making them happen.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (I Like It Like That (Gossip Girl, #5))
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Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip.
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Will Rogers
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In every province, the chief occupations, in order of importance, are lovemaking, malicious gossip, and talking nonsense.
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Voltaire (Candide)
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I know hate is a strong word and everything, but its okay: we're teenagers.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (You Know You Love Me (Gossip Girl, #2))
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Protect your good image from the eyes of negative viewers, who may look at your good appearance with an ugly fiendish eye, and ruin your positive qualities with their chemical infested tongues.
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Michael Bassey Johnson
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Once i spoke the language of the flowers,Once i undrestand each word the caterpillar said,Once i smiled in secret at the gossip of the starlings,
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Shel Silverstein
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Oh, don't be a spoilsport. Gossip is sexy. Gossip is good. Not everybody does it, but everybody should!
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Gossip Girl (Gossip Girl, #1))
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Nobody can buy a hat without gossiping.
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Diana Wynne Jones (Howlβs Moving Castle (Howlβs Moving Castle, #1))
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What is evil? Killing is evil, lying is evil, slandering is evil, abuse is evil, gossip is evil, envy is evil, hatred is evil, to cling to false doctrine is evil; all these things are evil. And what is the root of evil? Desire is the root of evil, illusion is the root of evil.
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Gautama Buddha
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The stupidity of gossips is that they become frightened when they see your face, and a little word from your mouth makes them vibrate like an electrocuted criminal.
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Michael Bassey Johnson
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You Know You Love Me! XOXO Gossip Girl
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Cecily von Ziegesar
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A boomerang returns back to the person who throws it.
But first, while moving in a circle, it hits its target.
So does gossip.
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Vera Nazarian (The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration)
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As they passed the rows of houses they saw through the open doors that men were sweeping and dusting and washing dishes, while the women sat around in groups, gossiping and laughing.
What has happened?' the Scarecrow asked a sad-looking man with a bushy beard, who wore an apron and was wheeling a baby carriage along the sidewalk.
Why, we've had a revolution, your Majesty -- as you ought to know very well,' replied the man; 'and since you went away the women have been running things to suit themselves. I'm glad you have decided to come back and restore order, for doing housework and minding the children is wearing out the strength of every man in the Emerald City.'
Hm!' said the Scarecrow, thoughtfully. 'If it is such hard work as you say, how did the women manage it so easily?'
I really do not know,' replied the man, with a deep sigh. 'Perhaps the women are made of cast-iron.
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L. Frank Baum (The Marvelous Land of Oz (Oz, #2))
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Just because we can't be together doesn't mean I don't love you
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Gossip Girl (Gossip Girl, #1))
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Often people that criticise your life are usually the same people that don't know the price you paid to get where you are today. True friends see the full picture of your soul.
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Shannon L. Alder
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To be silent the whole day long, see no newspaper, hear no radio, listen to no gossip, be thoroughly and completely lazy, thoroughly and completely indifferent to the fate of the world is the finest medicine a man can give himself.
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Henry Miller
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It was so typical. Whenever Blair did anything nice for someone else, she usually regretted it.
Which kind of explained why she was such a bitch most of the time.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Because I'm Worth It (Gossip Girl, #4))
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Everyoneβs still gossiping about where heβs been. The most popular rumours are βdark coming-of-age ceremony that left him too marked up to be in publicβ and βIbiza.
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Rainbow Rowell (Carry On (Simon Snow, #1))
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If I maintain my silence about my secret it is my prisoner...if I let it slip from my tongue, I am ITS prisoner.
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Arthur Schopenhauer
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Rumor travels faster, but it don't stay put as long as truth.
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Will Rogers
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The more you talk about it, rehash it, rethink it, cross analyze it, debate it, respond to it, get paranoid about it, compete with it, complain about it, immortalize it, cry over it, kick it, defame it, stalk it, gossip about it, pray over it, put it down or dissect its motives it continues to rot in your brain. It is dead. It is over. It is gone. It is done. It is time to bury it because it is smelling up your life and no one wants to be near your rotted corpse of memories and decaying attitude. Be the funeral director of your life and bury that thing!
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Shannon L. Alder
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I have Social Disease. I have to go out every night. If I stay home one night I start spreading rumours to my dogs.
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Andy Warhol
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You have grown abominably lazy, and you like gossip, and waste time on frivolous things, you are contented to be petted and admired by silly people, instead of being loved and respected by wise ones.
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Louisa May Alcott (Little Women (Little Women, #1))
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Your dignity can be mocked, abused, compromised, toyed with, lowered and even badmouthed, but it can never be taken from you. You have the power today to reset your boundaries, restore your image, start fresh with renewed values and rebuild what has happened to you in the past.
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Shannon L. Alder
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In small towns, news travels at the speed of boredom.
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Carlos Ruiz ZafΓ³n
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Blair liked to think of herself as a hopeless romantic in the style of old movie actresses like Audrey Hepburn and Marilyn Monroe. She was always coming up with plot devices for the movie she was starring in at the moment, the movie that was her life.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Gossip Girl (Gossip Girl, #1))
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Not that she didn't love almost every boy she'd ever met, and not that every boy in the world didn't totally love her. It was impossible not to. But she wanted someone to love her and shower her with attention the way only a boy who was completely in love with her could. The rare sort of love. True love. The kind of love she'd never had.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (I Like It Like That (Gossip Girl, #5))
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'Shoot the wounded... what we do to people who are the most vulnerable... we 'shoot the wounded.' As if they haven't suffered enough, we add to it by gossiping and treating hurt people like outcasts." ..."I think we killed Ronnie's spirit... Instead of coming alongside her and supporting her through this, I failed her...
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Lynn Dove (Shoot the Wounded (Wounded, #1))
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Bittersweet? No, just bitter, the taste of your tongue.
Words you canβt have back, so they linger.
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Coco J. Ginger
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Christopher heard a pair of women gossiping nearby, whispering in disapproving undertones.
"... Ramsey was found flirting in a corner with a woman. They had to drag him away from her."
"Who was it?"
"His own wife."
"Oh, dear.
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Lisa Kleypas (Love in the Afternoon (The Hathaways, #5))
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You'll be eighteen soon, but even soβ¦" He sighed. "When this comes out, a lot of people aren't going to be happy."
"Yeah, well, they can deal." Rumors and gossip I could handle.
"I also have a feeling your mother's going to have a very ugly conversation with me."
"You're about to face down Strigoi, and my mother's the one you're scared of?
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Richelle Mead (Shadow Kiss (Vampire Academy, #3))
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The way you think about yourself determines your reality. You are not being hurt by the way people think about you. Many of those people are a reflection of how you think about yourself.
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Shannon L. Alder
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No matter what you do, someone always knew you would.
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Ami McKay (The Birth House)
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Boys will be boys, that's what people say. No one ever mentions how girls have to be something other than themselves altogether. We are to stifle the same feelings that boys are encouraged to display. We are to use gossip as a means of policing ourselves -- this way those who do succumb to sex but are not damaged by it are damaged instead by peer malice. Girls demand a covenant because if one gives in, others will be expected to do the same. We are to remain united in cruelty, ignorance, and aversion. Or we are to starve the flesh from our bones, penalizing the body for its nature, castigating ourselves for advances we are powerless to prevent. We are to make false promises then resist the attentions solicited. Basically we are to become expert liars.
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Hilary Thayer Hamann (Anthropology of an American Girl)
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People always did like to talk, didn't they? That's why I call myself a witch now: the Wicked Witch of the West, if you want the full glory of it. As long as people are going to call you a lunatic anyway, why not get the benefit of it? It liberates you from convention.
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Gregory Maguire (Wicked: The Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West (The Wicked Years, #1))
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If there is anything more annoying in the world than having people talk about you, it is certainly having no one talk about you.
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Oscar Wilde
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And thatβs what is so insidious about talk. Anyone can talk about himself or herself. Even a child knows how to gossip and chatter. Most people are decent at hype and sales. So what is scarce and rare? Silence. The ability to deliberately keep yourself out of the conversation and subsist without its validation. Silence is the respite of the confident and the strong.
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Ryan Holiday (Ego Is the Enemy)
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They have the unique ability to listen to one story and understand another.
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Pandora Poikilos (Excuse Me, My Brains Have Stepped Out)
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The universe is one being. Everything and everyone is interconnected through an invisible web of stories. Whether we are aware of it or not, we are all in a silent conversation. Do no harm. Practise compassion. And do not gossip behind anyone's back - not even seemingly innocent remark! The words that come out of our mouth do not vanish but are perpetually stored in infinite space, and they will come back to us in due time. One man's pain will hurt us all. One man's joy will make everyone smile.
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Elif Shafak (The Forty Rules of Love)
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Rumours should be juicy and gossips must be mouth-watering, since they have to uplift and make people feel better. Tittle-tattle can have a swift ripple effect and when the ball is rolling very fast, it kick-starts a flood of moral destruction. βSchadenfreudeβ can, then, be fully enjoyed. (βJuicy rumoursβ)
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Erik Pevernagie
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True saddness is when someone still thinks your the same person after all these years. They brand you because of their own ego, fear and lack of spirituality. What's sadder is when they are Christian.
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Shannon L. Alder
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So Mr.Bass why do you think you should become an Usher?" asked the interviewer.Chuck smiled.
Because I'm Chuck Bass.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Would I Lie to You (Gossip Girl, #10))
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Another way that you love your enemy is this: When the opportunity presents itself for you to defeat your enemy, that is the time which you must not do it. There will come a time, in many instances, when the person who hates you most, the person who has misused you most, the person who has gossiped about you most, the person who has spread false rumors about you most, there will come a time when you will have an opportunity to defeat that person. It might be in terms of a recommendation for a job; it might be in terms of helping that person to make some move in life. Thatβs the time you must do it. That is the meaning of love. In the final analysis, love is not this sentimental something that we talk about. Itβs not merely an emotional something. Love is creative, understanding goodwill for all men. It is the refusal to defeat any individual. When you rise to the level of love, of its great beauty and power, you seek only to defeat evil systems. Individuals who happen to be caught up in that system, you love, but you seek to defeat the system.
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Martin Luther King Jr.
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Never judge someone's character based on the words of another. Instead, study the motives behind the words of the person casting the bad judgment.
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Suzy Kassem (Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem)
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No matter the truth, people see what they want to see..
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Gossip Girl (Gossip Girl, #1))
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If you are a member of a small group or class, I urge you to make a group covenant that includes the nine characteristics of biblical fellowship: We will share our true feelings (authenticity), forgive each other (mercy), speak the truth in love (honesty), admit our weaknesses (humility), respect our differences (courtesy), not gossip (confidentiality), and make group a priority (frequency).
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Rick Warren (The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here for?)
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Often people that say they βdonβt careβ actually do. The moment they discuss you with their friends and family, compete with you, bad mouth you to others or react to anything you do or say is when they give themselves away. You can either be saddened or flattered that you effected someone so much. The perspective is yours to determine.
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Shannon L. Alder
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I no longer have patience for certain things, not because Iβve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and thatβs why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.
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JosΓ© Micard Teixeira
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You know when you see a gorgeous boy on the street and you say to your friend, "Look at him!" and then your friend makes a face like, ugly? We all have such totally varied tastes that someone is going to look at you and think, yum-yum dee-lish, no matter what you think you look like. You just have to learn to see what they see.
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Cecily von Ziegesar (Because I'm Worth It (Gossip Girl, #4))
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What man ever openly apologizes for slander? It is not so much a feeling of slander as it is that of a massive lie, a misdeed not only to the slandered but also to those manipulated in the process. He has made them all, every one, his enemies, thereupon he is so overwhelmed with guilt that he will deny it until his grave.
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Criss Jami (Killosophy)
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When you are rich and powerful, no one will challenge you to your face or give you a chance to explain yourself. All the whispers are behind your back. You are left with no means of clearing your own name. And after a while you realize there is no point in even attempting to do so. No one wants the truth. All anyone wants is the chance to add more fuel to the fires of gossip. The whispers become so loud that sometimes you think you will drown in them.
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Amanda Quick (Ravished)
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But depression wasn't the word. This was a plunge encompassing sorrow and revulsion far beyond the personal: a sick, drenching nausea at all humanity and human endeavor from the dawn of time. The writhing loathsomeness of the biological order. Old age, sickness, death. No escape for anyone. Even the beautiful ones were like soft fruit about to spoil. And yet somehow people still kept fucking and breeding and popping out new fodder for the grave, producing more and more new beings to suffer like this was some kind of redemptive, or good, or even somehow morally admirable thing: dragging more innocent creatures into the lose-lose game. Squirming babies and plodding, complacent, hormone-drugged moms. Oh, isn't he cute? Awww. Kids shouting and skidding in the playground with no idea what future Hells await them: boring jobs and ruinous mortgages and bad marriages and hair loss and hip replacements and lonely cups of coffee in an empty house and a colostomy bag at the hospital. Most people seemed satisfied with the thin decorative glaze and the artful stage lighting that sometimes, made the bedrock atrocity of the human predicament look somewhat more mysterious or less abhorrent. People gambled and golfed and planted gardens and traded stocks and had sex and bought new cars and practiced yoga and worked and prayed and redecorated their homes and got worked up over the news and fussed over their children and gossiped about their neighbors and pored over restaurant reviews and founded charitable organizations and supported political candidates and attended the U.S. Open and dined and travelled and distracted themselves with all kinds of gadgets and devices, flooding themselves incessantly with information and texts and communication and entertainment from every direction to try to make themselves forget it: where we were, what we were. But in a strong light there was no good spin you could put on it. It was rotten from top to bottom.
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Donna Tartt (The Goldfinch)
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Teccam explains there are two types of secrets. There are secrets of the mouth and secrets of the heart.
Most secrets are secrets of the mouth. Gossip shared and small scandals whispered. There secrets long to be let loose upon the world. A secret of the mouth is like a stone in your boot. At first youβre barely aware of it. Then it grows irritating, then intolerable. Secrets of the mouth grow larger the longer you keep them, swelling until they press against your lips. They fight to be let free.
Secrets of the heart are different. They are private and painful, and we want nothing more than to hide them from the world. They do not swell and press against the mouth. They live in the heart, and the longer they are kept, the heavier they become.
Teccam claims it is better to have a mouthful of poison than a secret of the heart. Any fool will spit out poison, he says, but we hoard these painful treasures. We swallow hard against them every day, forcing them deep inside us. They they sit, growing heavier, festering. Given enough time, they cannot help but crush the heart that holds them.
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Patrick Rothfuss (The Wise Man's Fear (The Kingkiller Chronicle, #2))
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A rumor is a social cancer: it is difficult to contain and it rots the brains of the masses. However, the real danger is that so many people find rumors enjoyable. That part causes the infection. And in such cases when a rumor is only partially made of truth, it is difficult to pinpoint exactly where the information may have gone wrong. It is passed on and on until some brave soul questions its validity; that brave soul refuses to bite the apple and let the apple eat him. Forced to start from scratch for the sake of purity and truth, that brave soul, figuratively speaking, fully amputates the information in order to protect his personal judgment. In other words, his ignorance is to be valued more than the lie believed to be true.
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Emperor, right." she retacked the curtain "That's weird to say, after eighteen years of listening to celebrity gossip feeds go on and on about 'Earth's favorite prince'". She claimed one of the lumpy sofa cushions, curling her legs beneath her. "I had a picture of him taped to my wall when I was fifteen. Grand-mere cut it off a cereal box."
Wolf scowled.
"Of course, half the girls in the world probably have had that same picture from that same cereal box."
Wolf scrunched his shoulders against his neck, and Scarlet grinned, teasing. "Oh, no. You're not going to have to fight him for pack dominance now are you? Come here."
She beckoned him with a wave of her hand and he was at her side in half a second, the glower softening as he pulled her against his chest.
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Marissa Meyer (Winter (The Lunar Chronicles, #4))
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What is talkativeness? It is the result of doing away with the vital distinction between talking and keeping silent. Only some one who knows how to remain essentially silent can really talk--and act essentially. Silence is the essence of inwardness, of the inner life. Mere gossip anticipates real talk, and to express what is still in thought weakens action by forestalling it. But some one who can really talk, because he knows how to remain silent, will not talk about a variety of things but about one thing only, and he will know when to talk and when to remain silent. Where mere scope is concerned, talkativeness wins the day, it jabbers on incessantly about everything and nothing...In a passionate age great events (for they correspond to each other) give people something to talk about. And when the event is over, and silence follows, there is still something to remember and to think about while one remains silent. But talkativeness is afraid of the silence which reveals its emptiness.
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SΓΈren Kierkegaard (The Present Age)
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I do like him. I'm sick of just liking people. I wish to God I could meet somebody I could respect....
.... Listen, don't hate me because I can't remember some person immediately. Especially when they look like everybody else, and talk and dress and act like everybody else." Franny made her voice stop. It sounded to her caviling and bitchy, and she felt a wave of self-hatred that, quite literally, made her forehead begin to perspire again. But her voice picked up again, in spite of herself. "I don't mean there's anything horrible about him or anything like that. It's just that for four solid years I've kept seeing Wally Campbells wherever I go. I know when they're going to be charming, I know when they're going to start telling you some really nasty gossip about some girl that lives in your dorm, I know when they're going to ask me what I did over the summer, I know when they're going to pull up a chair and straddle it backward and start bragging in a terribly, terribly quiet voice--or name-dropping in a terribly quiet, casual voice. There's an unwritten law that people in a certain social or financial bracket can name-drop as much as they like just as long as they say something terribly disparaging about the person as soon as they've dropped his nameβthat he's a bastard or a nymphomaniac or takes dope all the time, or something horrible." She broke off again. She was quiet for a moment, turning the ashtray in her fingers.
Franny quickly tipped her cigarette ash, then brought the ashtray an inch closer to her side of the table. "I'm sorry. I'm awful," she said. "I've just felt so destructive all week. It's awful, I'm horrible.
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J.D. Salinger (Franny and Zooey)
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You donβt know anyone at the party, so you donβt want to go. You donβt like cottage cheese, so you havenβt eaten it in years. This is your choice, of course, but donβt kid yourself: itβs also the flinch. Your personality is not set in stone. You may think a morning coffee is the most enjoyable thing in the world, but itβs really just a habit. Thirty days without it, and you would be fine. You think you have a soul mate, but in fact you could have had any number of spouses. You would have evolved differently, but been just as happy.
You can change what you want about yourself at any time. You see yourself as someone who canβt write or play an instrument, who gives in to temptation or makes bad decisions, but thatβs really not you. Itβs not ingrained. Itβs not your personality. Your personality is something else, something deeper than just preferences, and these details on the surface, you can change anytime you like.
If it is useful to do so, you must abandon your identity and start again. Sometimes, itβs the only way.
Set fire to your old self. Itβs not needed here. Itβs too busy shopping, gossiping about others, and watching days go by and asking why you havenβt gotten as far as youβd like. This old self will die and be forgotten by all but family, and replaced by someone who makes a difference.
Your new self is not like that. Your new self is the Great Chicago Fireβoverwhelming, overpowering, and destroying everything that isnβt necessary.
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Julien Smith (The Flinch)
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Never judge someone's character based on the words of another. Instead, study the motives behind the words of the person casting the bad judgment. An honest woman can sell tangerines all day and remain a good person until she dies, but there will always be naysayers who will try to convince you otherwise. Perhaps this woman did not give them something for free, or at a discount. Perhaps too, that she refused to stand with them when they were wrong β or just stood up for something she felt was right. And also, it could be that some bitter women are envious of her, or that she rejected the advances of some very proud men. Always trust your heart. If the Creator stood before a million men with the light of a million lamps, only a few would truly see him because truth is already alive in their hearts. Truth can only be seen by those with truth in them. He who does not have Truth in his heart, will always be blind to her.
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Suzy Kassem (Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem)
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How are you coming with your home library? Do you need some good ammunition on why it's so important to read? The last time I checked the statistics...I think they indicated that only four percent of the adults in this country have bought a book within the past year. That's dangerous. It's extremely important that we keep ourselves in the top five or six percent.
In one of the Monthly Letters from the Royal Bank of Canada it was pointed out that reading good books is not something to be indulged in as a luxury. It is a necessity for anyone who intends to give his life and work a touch of quality. The most real wealth is not what we put into our piggy banks but what we develop in our heads. Books instruct us without anger, threats and harsh discipline. They do not sneer at our ignorance or grumble at our mistakes. They ask only that we spend some time in the company of greatness so that we may absorb some of its attributes.
You do not read a book for the book's sake, but for your own.
You may read because in your high-pressure life, studded with problems and emergencies, you need periods of relief and yet recognize that peace of mind does not mean numbness of mind.
You may read because you never had an opportunity to go to college, and books give you a chance to get something you missed. You may read because your job is routine, and books give you a feeling of depth in life.
You may read because you did go to college.
You may read because you see social, economic and philosophical problems which need solution, and you believe that the best thinking of all past ages may be useful in your age, too.
You may read because you are tired of the shallowness of contemporary life, bored by the current conversational commonplaces, and wearied of shop talk and gossip about people.
Whatever your dominant personal reason, you will find that reading gives knowledge, creative power, satisfaction and relaxation. It cultivates your mind by calling its faculties into exercise.
Books are a source of pleasure - the purest and the most lasting. They enhance your sensation of the interestingness of life. Reading them is not a violent pleasure like the gross enjoyment of an uncultivated mind, but a subtle delight.
Reading dispels prejudices which hem our minds within narrow spaces. One of the things that will surprise you as you read good books from all over the world and from all times of man is that human nature is much the same today as it has been ever since writing began to tell us about it.
Some people act as if it were demeaning to their manhood to wish to be well-read but you can no more be a healthy person mentally without reading substantial books than you can be a vigorous person physically without eating solid food. Books should be chosen, not for their freedom from evil, but for their possession of good. Dr. Johnson said: "Whilst you stand deliberating which book your son shall read first, another boy has read both.
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Earl Nightingale
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There is no father,β he said eventually, βAnd I believe youβre running away from something. Youβre a lovely woman trying to hold it all together but itβs too much for you. You think Iβm a stupid old man who doesnβt care what he looks like and sits here day after day with nothing to do. And doesnβt notice anything. But you donβt know whatβs here inside β¦β he laid his arm across his chest, βMy soul and my heart and my mind. There is so much in here itβs bursting and roving around the world like a lost soul with no home, endlessly looking and searching. I feel the mystery, I sense the mysteries β and the endless joy and the wonder and incredible beauty of the world and the pain and the cruelty. You feel all this too Sarah, but you pretend youβre a shallow woman with some sort of story, and underneath you think about β¦ many things. Which of my books are you itching to get your hands on, huh? And youβre carrying the pain around with you, and something has just happened, and you are worried and, something has happened in the last few minutes and itβs all more than you can bear, and you need to tell me, yes me, Samuel. I am so much more than you think I am, and I can understand, and I can help.β Ruby looked up startled and their eyes met. βI am so tired,β she said, βYes, you are right. I am so very tired of it all.'Β
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Elizabeth Tebby Germaine (A MAN WHO SEEMED REAL: A story of love, lies, fear and kindness)