Gopal Das Quotes

Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold.

Live your life in such a way that those who know you but don’t know God, will come to know God because they know you.

It is strange that sword and words have the same letters.

Watch your thoughts, they turn into words. Watch your words, they turn into actions. Watch your actions, they turn into habits. Watch your habits, they turn into character. Watch your character, it turns into your destiny.’ It all begins with a thought.

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.

To accept someone when everything is going right is easy. But when things are falling apart around you and you stick together, that’s the test of a relationship. Love is when we have every reason to break up but we do not.

As I have said, the first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself . . . Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility.’ —Nelson Mandela

Even more strange is that they have the same effect if not handled properly.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.’ —Martin Luther King, Jr

The paradox of our times is that those who have the most can often be the least satisfied.

Familiarity breeds contempt,’ I replied. ‘When we are overly familiar with people, we forget how important they are to us and the correct way to behave with them.

When things are beyond your control and there is nothing you can fo,why worry?

We must find positivity in the bleakest situations and live by the principle of gratitude

if someone chooses what they love to do, there is no stress in their life. As they say, ‘If you do what you love, you will never have to work a day in your life.

fight the strong urge to judge someone based on an initial interaction with them. Everyone has a fascinating story that we know nothing about.

When things are beyond your control and there is nothing you can do,why worry

The service you do for others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.’ —Muhammad Ali

Everyone wants to get ahead of each other, and when they cannot, they get angry.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

When upon life’s billows you are tempest-tossed, When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost, Count your many blessings, name them one by one, And it will surprise you what the Lord has done.

Watch your thoughts, they turn into words. Watch your words, they turn into actions. Watch your actions, they turn into habits. Watch your habits, they turn into character. Watch your character, it turns into your destiny.

Often, people can display selflessness outside their home. People may help out in their community, or at temples or schools, and some may even make sure that they get a selfie to announce to the world that they have helped. But at home, they may not express the same service mentality. I believe that selflessness starts at home; with the ones we love the most. Are we doing what we can to help them? Are we there for them to help them physically as well as emotionally?

At work we tend to compare and compete with others, instead of comparing and competing with ourselves. ‘Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful . . . that’s what matters to me.’ —Steve Jobs

Experience is not what happens to a man, it is what a man does with what happens to him.

It is strange that sword and words have the same letters. Even more strange is that they have the same effect if not handled properly.

Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me. Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful . . . that’s what matters to me.’ —Steve Jobs

As a monk, I have to be cautious of overindulgence; it is essential to stay regulated in our habits.

Feeling peaceful, happy and content is not about avoiding challenges in our life, but about how we navigate through these challenges to reach the type of life we want to live.

The mind is what we use to perceive the world. We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.

Offering gifts and accepting gifts, opening one’s mind and inquiring in confidence, sharing food and receiving food are the six exchanges that develop loving relationships.

You can be completely selfish, completely selfless or any of the combinations in between. Life is a journey from being selfish to becoming selfless. ‘Act without expectation.’ —Lao Tzu

for! Statistically, we always have more to be grateful for than ungrateful. Ingratitude means to forget the blessings in our life, to ignore the kind things people have done for us. It is not just positivity we feel when we embrace gratitude. Better sleep, the ability to express more kindness, feeling more alive and even having a stronger immune system are all benefits of being thankful.

Summary: Seeing the best in people can be challenging at times, especially when we are in constant proximity to them. We can perceive people in the following five ways: See only bad and magnify it. See good and bad, neglect the good and focus on the bad. See good and bad, and be neutral to both. See good and bad, choose to focus on the good and neglect the bad. See the good and magnify it. The ideal state is the fourth stage, in which one’s relationships flourish. Reaching the fourth stage takes consistent hard work and practice. TEN Correcting Cautiously Corrective feedback can make or break our relationships.

Gratitude is not a feeling; it is a state of mind that can be developed, and it allows us to tap into a reservoir of unlimited positive energy. Being grateful happens in two steps. The first is to realize that there is good in the world and that good has fallen upon us. The second is to know that goodness is coming from something other than us, an external reality is giving the gifts of grace to our very own reality. This could be our family, our friends, nature and even God. We have so much to be grateful for!

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Positive affirmations can help us overcome negative thinking patterns and have the power to rewire our mind to help us change our outlook.

This can create a sense of true mental well-being for us in the here and now.

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Communication is the art of presenting our thoughts to others.

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To become satisfied, we don’t have to increase the things we have; we need to increase the focus on the things we do have.

Exercise: Guided affirmation Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in for a count of four seconds. Hold for a count of two seconds. Then breathe out for a count of six seconds. Each time you breathe in, say to yourself: ‘I am not alone, the universe is with me, I can deal with whatever it is that I am going through . . .’ You can be more specific about the situation that you are dealing with. Each time you breathe out, say to yourself: ‘I let go of my negative feelings. I let go of my anxiety. I feel peaceful. I feel empowered.’ Repeat this exercise ten times. Now slowly open your eyes.

We all have three things in common: we are all stuck, we all have a journey to complete, and we all have a destination

Some things in life are beyond our control. When we are in that situation, we feel overwhelmed as we try everything in our power to control it. But that is useless! The founders of WhatsApp did not get jobs at Twitter and Facebook when they applied, which worked out in their favour in the future. Hence, what we see as bad at one point in time can turn out to be the best thing to happen to us. Just as I could not control the virality of my ‘out-of-context’ video, similarly there are many situations in life that are out of our control. Think: Is this in my control? If yes, you can do something about it. If no, then you cannot do anything about it. Therefore, in both circumstances, why worry?

taking massive action means to stop measuring how much time you work.

Wir leiden als Erwachsene nicht ursächlich unter dem, was uns in der Vergangenheit passiert ist. Wenn das so wäre, dann gäbe es überhaupt keine Lösung und keine Chance auf Heilung. Wir leiden heute darunter, dass wir das Bindungsszenario der Vergangenheit in jedem Moment mit den Menschen in unserer Umgebung unbewusst neu erschaffen. Damit erzeugen wir den körperlichen Stress aus der Kindheit immer wieder aufs Neue.

Wir trauen uns nicht, uns unsere Gefühle von Hilflosigkeit, Ohnmacht oder das Bedürfnis nach Nähe einzugestehen und jemand anderem zu zeigen, und können daher auch nicht erfahren, dass wir damit angenommen werden können. Wichtig hierbei ist, dass es gar nicht darum geht, etwas zu ändern, sondern dass die Lösung das Mitteilen dieser inneren Bewegungen selbst schon die Transformation darstellt! Noch mal: Die Lösung ist bereits das Mitteilen an sich! Es gibt darüber hinaus nichts zu tun oder zu lernen. Das ist die Transformation der Kindheit.

Dinge im Außen zu ändern bringt, wenn überhaupt, nur zeitweilig eine gewisse Erleichterung. Das Ehrliche Mitteilen jedoch ist bereits das, was du dein Leben lang gesucht hast. Es hat nichts mit einer Willensanstrengung oder einer zielorientierten Handlung zu tun, sondern nur mit dem Mitteilen dessen, was bereits da ist.

Es ist für die Heilung nicht relevant, was wir früher erlebt haben. Wir müssen auch nicht versuchen, uns daran zu erinnern, Das, worunter wir leiden, erschaffen wir uns tagtäglich, in jedem Moment neu. Es handelt sich dabei um einen unbewussten Mechanismus, mit dem wir ständig Distanz zu anderen Menschen, aber vor allem auch zu uns selbst herstellen, indem wir unbewusst glauben, dass von jemandem, der uns nahekommt, grundsätzlich eine Gefahr ausgeht.

Wenn du heute etwas äußerst, was noch ne angenommen wurde, und der andere kann damit da sein, wird etwas komplettiert. Das ist die Heilung. Der Teil von dir, der nie gesehen wurde, kommt mit der Welt in Kontakt und kann ins Erwachsenenbewusstsein integriert werden. Er muss nicht mehr abgespalten werden - du wirst ganz und damit heil.

Sobald ihr beide oder einer von euch realisiert, dass ihr euch streitet, geht wie folgt vor. Damit löst sich jeder Konflikt in Luft auf und eine noch viel größere Verbundenheit entsteht: 1. Beendet sofort eure Interaktion und stellt physische Distanz her. Geht euch maximal aus dem Weg, zum Beispiel indem einer von euch den Raum oder das Haus verlässt und spazieren geht. Am besten wäre körperliche Aktivität, die der Kampf-/Flucht-Reatkion möglichst nahekommt, zum Beispiel Jogging. 2. Bleibt so lange auf Distanz, bis eure Körper/Nervensysteme wieder in den Normalmodus von Sicherheit zurückgekehrt sind, also bis der innere Aufruhr zur Ruhe gekommen ist und ihr wieder halbwegs klar denken könnt. Körperliche Anstrenung, wie oben erklärt, sorgt dafür, dass dies schnellstmöglich geschehen kann. 3. Sobald ihr euch jeweils dazu in der Lage fühlt, macht jeder für sich das Ehrliche Mitteilen rückwirkend im Geist: Du erinnerst dich zunächst, welche Körperempfindungen, Gefühle und Gedanken mitten in der Konfliktsituation gegenüber deinem Partner da waren. Dann stellst du dir innerlich vor, wie du ihm oder ihr das ehrlich mitteilst. Mach das so lange in deiner Vorstellung, bis du das Gefühl hast, dass du dies nun tatsächlich in der Realität auch machen könntest. 4. Geh erst jetzt wieder auf deinen Partner zu und hole das Ehrliche Mitteilen nach, indem du sagst, was in dem Konflikt in dir los war. Zum Beispiel: "Wenn ich das Ehrliche Mitteilen vorhin gemacht hätte, hätte ich gesagt: Ich fühle große Wut und in meinem Kopf ist der Gedanke, dass du das absichtlich gemacht hast.

Gratitude is not merely an emotion; it is a way of life which can be learnt and practised. We must prioritize the time to practise gratitude, and one of the many ways to do it is by writing a gratitude log daily. SIX Why Worry When things are beyond your control and there is nothing you can do, why worry?

Ich spreche tatsächlich vom "normalen" Beziehungsalltag in dieser Gesellschaft, der geprägt ist durch Abwehr von wirklichem, tiefem Austausch. Wie schon im Abschnitt zum Schocktrauma benannt wurde, geschieht dies durch Besänftigen/Manipulieren, Angreifen, Distanzieren oder Totstellen/Betäuben. Das sieht dann zum Beispiel so aus, das die Partner miteinander streiten. Sie greifen sich gegenseitig an, nicht wegen äußerer Diskrepanzen, sondern weil sie sich unbewusst als Bedrohung wahrnehmen. Das ist natürlich kein Austausch, keine Beziehung, kein Kontakt. Denn beide teilen einander nicht mit, was in ihnen wirklich vorgeht. Sie sagen dem jeweils anderen nicht, wie sie sich fühlen, was sie für Bedürfnisse haben, sondern sie führen einen Krieg gegen den anderen. Dann geht es darum wer recht hat, wer den mentalen Kampf gewinnt und somit "überlebt". In anderen Fällen wird der Partner nicht angegriffen, sonder man zieht sich zurück. Man entfernt sich körperlich oder sagt einfach nichts mehr und ist mit den Gedanken woanders. Die Fluchtreaktion. Auch hier wird nichts von dem mitgeteilt, was im eigenen Inneren gerade wirklich los ist. Auch das Erstarren gibt es in Beziehungen, dann "tötet" sich ein Partner regelrecht innerhalb ab, geht weder streitend auf den anderen los noch versucht er, sich zurückzuziehen. Er ist einfach starr, wie nicht vorhanden. Oft werden dafür Substanzen zur Selbstbetäubung als Hilfsmittel genutzt. Auch das ist natürlich absolut fern davon, die eigenen Bedürfnisse und Gefühle mitzuteilen. Eine vierte Variante ist das, was im Englischen als Fawn-Response bezeichnet wird. Übersetzt könnte man es Rehkitz-Reaktion nennen. Es handelt sich dabei um ein Muster, bei dem der Mensch durch besänftigendes, kindliches, symbiotisch unterwerfendes und manipulatives Verhalten Distanz herstellt.

इस अभिलेख को अपने फोन में रखा जा सकता है और अपने काम पर जाते समय रास्ते में लिखा जा सकता है, या अगर आप इसे अपनी डायरी में लिखना चाहें तो एकांत में बैठकर भी लिख सकते हैं। यह एक सरल अभ्यास है, जिसके लिए दिन भर में से लगभग 10 मिनट की ज़रूरत होगी; इसके लिए कोई कठिन नियम भी नहीं है। इस काम को सुबह करना लाभदायक रहेगा, क्योंकि कृतज्ञता से दिन की शुरुआत आपको पूरे दिन भर के लिए सकारात्मकता की भावना से भर देगी।

जीवन में क्या करना है, इसका निर्धारण उसी तरह से होता है, जैसे हम किसी मॉल में शॉपिंग करते हैं। सेल्स असिस्टेंट हमें सभी उपलब्ध उत्पाद दिखलाता है, उनके गुण और कमियाँ बताता है, लेकिन अंत में चयन करना तो हमारा ही काम होता है। इसलिए अंतिम निर्णय हमारा ही दायित्व है।

हमें सबसे कमज़ोर स्थितियों में भी सकारात्मकता खोजनी चाहिए और कृतज्ञता के सिद्धांत के साथ जीवनयापन करना चाहिए।

सकारात्मक होने का यह अर्थ नहीं है कि हम नकारात्मकता को नज़रअंदाज़ करें। हमें रचनात्मक तरीके से सकारात्मकता पर नज़र रखते हुए, नकारात्मकता से निपटना चाहिए। दाँत में कुछ फँस जाने पर जैसे हमारी जीभ उसके पीछे पड़ जाती है, हमारे मस्तिष्क में भी एक निर्धारित स्थापना है कि वह नकारात्मकता का पीछा करता है। कृतज्ञता जीवन की वह स्थिति है, जो हमें सकारात्मकता को देखना सिखाती है। यह इस अनुभूति के माध्यम से हम तक आती है कि संसार में अच्छाई है, उसमें से कुछ अच्छी चीजें हमारे साथ हैं और वे अच्छी चीज़ें बाहरी सत्य से आ रही हैं। चेतना की वह अवस्था हमें सकारात्मकता से जोड़ देती है।

We must have a positive state of mind when dealing with problems. Think: Is there anything positive about this situation I am in? Being positive does not mean we neglect the negative. We must constructively deal with negative situations whilst simultaneously focusing on the positive. Just like our tongue can be obsessed with something stuck in our teeth, our mind has a default setting to be obsessed about the negative. Gratitude is a state of being that allows us to see the positive. It comes from realizing that there is good in the world, that some of that good is with us and that those good things are coming from an external reality. That state of consciousness imbibes us with positivity.

It is strange that sword and words have the same letters. Even more strange is that they have the same effect if not handled properly.’ —Anonymous

Unless you go through the pain of being sharpened, what is within you will not come out. The pencil has to be sharpened before the lead can make an impact. Something similar must happen to us in our lives. Sometimes we have to go through the pain of being sharpened for the best in us to come out.

Exercise: Guided affirmation Close your eyes. Take a deep breath in for a count of four seconds. Hold for a count of two seconds. Then breathe out for a count of six seconds. Each time you breathe in, say to yourself: ‘I am not alone, the universe is with me, I can deal with whatever it is that I am going through …’ You can be more specific about the situation that you are dealing with. Each time you breathe out, say to yourself: ‘I let go of my negative feelings. I let go of my anxiety. I feel peaceful. I feel empowered.’ Repeat this exercise ten times. Now slowly open your eyes.

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Something I did realize years later was that saying sorry does not always mean we are wrong. Even legally, apologizing is not an admission of guilt, it just means we are sorry for what the person is going through and value the person more than being right ourselves.

We must treat ourselves with the same level of compassion. Self-forgiveness is foundational in moving on and rising above those negative feelings. We cannot forgive ourselves if we are wallowing in guilt.

Being humble means we do not think less of ourselves but think of ourselves less.

Happiness is not just about having more, but also about focusing more on what we do have. This mindset is the key to crafting joy; the opposite of that is comparison, which is the thief of joy.

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Life is a difficult exam. Many people fail because they try to copy others, not realizing that everyone has a different question paper.

My mind began to understand the rationale but needed me to repeat this multiple times so it was reinforced. The thoughts that we repeat not only are likely to become our action but also our emotions. If we can repeat our reasoning rationales, we are more likely to calm the chattering mind. Before I drifted off to sleep, I asked my mind, ‘Why are you anxious?’ My mind replied, ‘I am not actually anxious or nervous, I am excited.

Getting the body moving every day releases feel-good endorphins that enhance our sense of well-being. It can simultaneously take our mind off our worries, breaking the cycle of negative thoughts that cause us to feel anxious. It is not just anxiety disorders that exercise helps with; other mental health conditions such as depression are positively affected by staying fit.

Yes, meditation can help with our stress, but if the cause of our stress is another identifiable problem, we must deal with the problem and not mask it in the name of protecting our spiritual credibility. We must not bury our heads in the sand; we must not ignore the signs that indicate we are struggling with our mental health by covering them up with our spiritual practices. Spiritual practices are meant to awaken our deeper self. They are not there to deal with our physical or mental ailments, although they may have that after-effect and can complement our healing.

The common responses are fright, flight or fight. Many allow their mental health issues to linger through fright. They keep their problem switch on in the background, just as a medical clinic reception keeps the radio playing: you know it’s there, but you are not quite listening. This can lead to paranoia and worsening of symptoms over time. Another group of people may decide to forcefully try and switch their problem off. They use flight to run away from their problem, turning to things like denial or being constantly busy to make their issues feel insignificant. The final group try to fight the problem. They do what they can to deal with their challenges but go about it in an unstructured manner. Fighting is great, it shows motivation and willingness to overcome the issue. But it needs structure and strategy. A boxer learns everything about their opponent and fights with a cool head. They employ structure when trying to win; we must do the same with our mental health.

The need for instant gratification can wreak havoc on our sleep cycle and quality.

I am not saying these problems don’t exist, but the real problem is that when negativity consumes the mind, not only do we lose the vision to see the beautiful things around us, but also the ability to solve the problems that confront us. We have to train our mind to focus on the positive and feel empowered to deal with the negative.

The first step to empathy is to understand the issue. To do this we need to learn how to listen to understand and not to reply. We have all heard the phrase, ‘We have two ears and one mouth. We should use them in that proportion.’ However, something even more interesting is that if we put two ears side by side, they form the shape of a heart. Also, we cannot spell heart without ear. So, if we really want to understand someone’s heart, the only way is through the ears. Listen!

We understand that living for ourselves has the potential to satisfy the mind and senses, but not the deep core of our hearts.

However, when we are getting to the point of seeing these characteristics repeatedly and it is affecting our mental health, it may be time to open up to someone who we trust about this issue. Otherwise, we will be left feeling angry, annoyed, frustrated, victimized, mentally drained, guilty, spiteful or wanting revenge. These emotions are not good. As we have discussed, these emotions need to be dealt with effectively. If not, we leave ourselves vulnerable to mental health problems in the future.

The Biology of Belief by Bruce H. Lipton explains the difference between the subconscious and conscious mind.

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Forgiveness is a complex concept. We must understand it thoroughly to be able to internalize it.

You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them.’ —Desmond Tutu