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Real radicalism implores us to tell the whole ugly truth, even when it is inconvenient. To own the hurt and the pain. To own our shit, too. To think about it systemically and collectively, but never to diminish the import of the trauma.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I love my country, by which I mean I am indebted joyfully to all the people throughout its history, who have fought the government to make right. Where so many cunning sons and daughters, our foremothers and forefathers came singing through slaughter, came through hell and high water so that we could stand here, and behold breathlessly the sight; how a raging river of tears cut a grand canyon of light. Why can't all decent men and women call themselves feminists, out of respect for those that fought for this?
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Ani DiFranco
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One of feminism’s biggest failures is its failure to insist that feminism is, first and foremost, about truly, deeply, and unapologetically loving women.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I love being a woman and being a friend to other women,' should be feminism's tagline.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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When I talk about owning eloquent rage as your superpower, it comes with the clear caveat that not everyone is worth your time or your rage.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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If you say fuck the patriarchy but you don’t ride for other women, then it might be more true that the patriarchy has fucked you, seducing you with the belief that men care more about your well-being than women do. It isn’t true.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Sexism, like every other “ism,” is a willful refusal to not see what is right in front of you.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I have always lingered over stories of women who lead, women who know what they want out of this world, and women who demand that others respect them and recognize their magic.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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In other words, white fears rest on the presumption that they are rooted in fact; everyone who is nonwhite is treated as though their fears are the stuff of fantasy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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White privilege works by making the advantages white people have invisible while making the supposedly 'poor' choices of people of color hypervisible.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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it’s not that people don’t love you, it’s that they don’t have the same capacity to love as you do.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The collective, orchestrated fury of Black women can move the whole world.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Loving Black girls is complicated, but loving oneself in a world where there is always someone ready to do you harm is even harder.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I believe that if anything can save us in this fraught and dazzling future, it is the rage of women and girls, of queers and freaks and sinners. I believe that the revolution will be feminist, and that when it comes it will be more intimate and more shocking than we have dared to imagine.
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Laurie Penny (Unspeakable Things: Sex, Lies and Revolution)
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Individual members of certain churches in black communities should protest when worship services become a platform for teaching anti-gay sentiments. Often individuals sit and listen to preachers raging against gay people and think the views expressed are amusing and outmoded, and dismiss them without challenge. But if homophobia is to be eradicated in black communities, such attitudes must be challenged.
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bell hooks (Talking Back: Thinking Feminist, Thinking Black)
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The truth is that Angry Black Women are looked upon as entities to be contained, as inconvenient citizens who keep on talking about their rights while refusing to do their duty and smile at everyone.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Any feminist who has ever taken the high road will tell you the high road gets backed up and sometimes we need to take a detour straight through the belly of uncensored rage.
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Andrea Gibson (Take Me With You)
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Black women turn to sass when rage is too risky—because we have jobs to keep, families to feed, and bills to pay.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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And while it is okay to acknowledge that all kinds of women, whether white, Black, Indigenous, Latina, Asian, cis, gender nonconforming, trans, queer, bi, or straight might have different experiences, it's not cool to act as though transwomen are in some entirely separate category from the more general category of woman. That is something that feminism needs to be clear on - that it isn't feminism if all women's concerns, particularly the most marginalized women's concerns, aren't taken seriously.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Black women have the right to be mad as hell. We have been dreaming of freedom and carving out spaces for liberation since we arrived on these shores. There is no other group, save Indigenous women, that knows and understands more fully the soul of the American body politic than Black women, whose reproductive and social labor have made the world what it is.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Men like him are entirely too quick to call a woman mad or monstrous just because she can do something they can't.
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Susan J. Morris (Strange Beasts)
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Before we fully learn to love ourselves, all people of color in the United States learn that we are supporting characters and spectators in the collective story of white people’s lives.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Those who feel “empowered” talk about their personal power to change their individual condition. Those with actual power make decisions that are of social and material consequence to themselves and others.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Until women are allowed to make mediocre works of art while still succeeding in the way that many white men get to do this every single day, we will not have the power to take our creative freedoms back. We will be limited by impossible expectations reserved for the few. As long as we are put and put ourselves on a patriarchal pedestal, too high to succeed and doomed to fail, then surely we will be set up to do exactly that, every time.
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Amber Tamblyn (Era of Ignition: Coming of Age in a Time of Rage and Revolution)
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But “empowerment” is a tricky word. It’s also a decidedly neoliberal word that places the responsibility for combating systems on individuals. Neoliberalism is endlessly concerned with “personal responsibility” and individual self-regulation. It tells us that in a free market, devoid of any regulation or accountability at the top, what happens to those on the bottom is entirely our fault. Did we have enough drive? Enough vision? Enough hustle to change our condition? The politics of personal empowerment suggests to us that if we simply “free our minds, then our asses will follow.” I’m not convinced that this is true. Why? Have you ever noticed that people who have real “power”—wealth, job security, influence—don’t attend “empowerment” seminars? Power is not attained from books and seminars. Not alone, anyway. Power is conferred by social systems. Empowerment and power are not the same thing. We must quit mistaking the two. Better yet, we must quit settling for one when what we really need is the other.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Respectability politics are at their core a rage-management project. Learning to manage one’s rage by daily tamping down that rage is a response to routine assaults on one’s dignity in a world where rage might get you killed or cause you to lose your job.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Before we fully learn to love ourselves, all people of color in the United States learn that we are supporting characters and spectators in the collective story of white people's lives. The stories we watch and read ask us to put aside their whiteness and relate to their very "universal" human struggles around conflict with the world, the self, and others. The problem is that only the experiences of white people are treated as universal. Meanwhile, Black movies, shows, and books are typically seen as limited and particular.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The lie we are told is that white rage and white fear are honest emotions that preserve the integrity of American democracy. More often than not, we keep learning that white rage and white fear are dishonest impulses that lead us toward fascism. White rage and white fear are reactions to perceptions among white people that their power might be slipping away.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Putting our minds to something has never been the problem. The problem has been: Who decides whose mind is worthy?
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Amber Tamblyn (Era of Ignition: Coming of Age in a Time of Rage and Revolution)
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What you build is infinitely more important than what you tear down.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I eat white-lady tears for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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This world demands nothing short of perfection from women who aim high, and our need to see perfection in women has, until recently, far outweighed our need for their participation.
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Amber Tamblyn (Era of Ignition: Coming of Age in a Time of Rage and Revolution)
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Concurrently, the growing class power and public voice of conservative and liberal well-to-do black folks easily obscures the class cruelty these individuals enact both in the way they talk about underprivileged blacks and the way they represent them. The existence of that class cruelty and its fascist dimensions have been somewhat highlighted by the efforts of privileged-class blacks to censor the voices of black youth, particularly gangsta rappers who are opposing bourgeois class values by extolling the values of street culture and street vernacular. Significantly, the attack on urban underclass black youth culture and its gangster dimensions (glamorization of crime, etc.) is usually presented via a critique of sexism. Since most privileged-class blacks have shown no interest in advancing feminist politics, the only organized effort to end sexism and sexist oppression, this attack on sexism seems merely gratuitous, a smoke screen that deflects away from the fact that what really disturbs bourgeois folks is the support of rebellion, unruly behavior, and disrespect for their class values. In reality, they and their white counterparts fear the power these young folks have to change the minds and life choices of youth from privileged classes. If only underclass black folks were listening to gangsta rap, there would be no public effort to silence and censor this music. The fear is that it will generate class rebellion.
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bell hooks (Killing Rage: Ending Racism)
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Females of all ages acted as though concern for or rage at male domination or gender equality was all that was needed to make one a “feminist.” Without confronting internalized sexism women who picked up the feminist banner often betrayed the cause in their interactions with other women.
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bell hooks (Feminism Is for Everybody: Passionate Politics)
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This is a book by a grown-ass woman written for other grown-ass women. This is a book for women who expect to be taken seriously and for men who take grown women seriously. This is a book for women who know shit is fucked up. These women want to change things but don't know where to begin.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The thing I know today, after many cycles of homegirls, many more years of girl crushes, and a life of straight sexual activity, is that one can’t truly be a feminist if you don’t really love women.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The question feels so patronizing: as if I’ve never thought about gender and how I choose to present myself, how I dress, how I stand, how I crop my hair short, and what this means. As if I’ve never thought about what it would be like to live as a man instead, the relief that would come from passing, with not having to face the everyday violence and humiliations of living in my body. As if I’ve never thought about how I don’t want that, how every cell in my body recoils at that thought of being a man, and yet how harrowing it is that the only way I can get out of my bed and make it through the day is by wearing masculinity on my body. As if I’ve never held dear my feminist rage, never thought about how I feel so politically aligned with womanhood and yet hate inhabiting it, hate it when my body is read as such. As if the only way to be trans is to transition to a binary gender, as if I can’t exist as I have been, in some space in between or beyond, using she or they pronouns and seething when people call me a woman and laughing when people tell me I should transition.
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Lamya H. (Hijab Butch Blues)
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I am always struck by the ways other people’s stories about my father tend to highlight his empathy and kindness for others. I wonder about a world in which you can be kind to everyone but the people who belong to you.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Black women know what it means to love ourselves in a world that hates us. We know what it means to do a whole lot with very little, to “make a dollar out of fifteen cents,” as it were. We know what it means to snatch dignity from the jaws of power and come out standing. We know what it means to face horrific violence and trauma from both our communities and our nation-state and carry on anyway. But we also scream, and cry, and hurt, and mourn, and struggle. We get heartbroken, our feelings get stepped on, our dreams get crushed. We get angry, and
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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But part of what I’ve been trying to say is that rage can help us build things, too. The clarity that comes from rage should also tell us what kind of world we want to see, not just what kind of things we want to get rid of.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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White lady tears might seem to not be a big deal, but they are actually quite dangerous. When white women signal through their tears that they feel unsafe, misunderstood, or attacked, the whole world rises in their defense. The mythic nature of white female vulnerability compels protective impulses to arise in all men, regardless of race.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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We live in a nation that does everything to induce our rage, while simultaneously doing everything to deny that we have a right to feel it. American democracy is as much a project of suppressing Black rage as it is of legitimizing and elevating white rage. American democracy uses calls for civility, equality, liberty, and justice as smoke screens to obscure all the ways in which Black folks are treated uncivilly, unequally, illiberally, and unjustly as a matter of course.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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home, alone in my room, with the sounds of #2 and #5 trains rumbling in the distance, I started with a letter to myself. Dear Juliet, Repeat after me: You are a bruja. You are a warrior. You are a feminist. You are a beautiful brown babe. Surround yourself with other beautiful brown and black and indigenous and morena and Chicana, native, Indian, mixed race, Asian, gringa, boriqua babes. Let them uplift you. Rage against the motherfucking machine. Question everything anyone ever says to you or forces down your throat or makes you write a hundred times on the blackboard. Question every man that opens his mouth and spews out a law over your body and spirit. Question every single thing until you find the answer in a daydream. Don’t question yourself unless you hurt someone else. When you hurt someone else, sit down, and think, and think, and think, and then make it right. Apologize when you fuck up. Live forever. Consult the ancestors while counting stars in the galaxy. Hold wisdom under tongue until it’s absorbed into the bloodstream. Do not be afraid. Do not doubt yourself. Do not hide Be proud of your inhaler, your cane, your back brace, your acne. Be proud of the things that the world uses to make you feel different. Love your fat fucking glorious body. Love your breasts, hips, and wide-ass if you have them and if you don’t, love the body you do have or the one you create for yourself. Love the fact that you have ingrown hairs on the back of your thighs and your grandma’s mustache on your lips. Read all the books that make you whole. Read all the books that pull you out of the present and into the future. Read all the books about women who get tattoos, and break hearts, and rob banks, and start heavy metal bands. Read every single one of them. Kiss everyone. Ask first. Always ask first and then kiss the way stars burn in the sky. Trust your lungs. Trust the Universe. Trust your damn self. Love hard, deep, without restraint or doubt Love everything that brushes past your skin and lives inside your soul. Love yourself. In La Virgen’s name and in the name of Selena, Adiosa.
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Gabby Rivera (Juliet Takes a Breath)
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Well, now those young women had gotten angry. And some older women were rearing back in horror at the force of their rage, and at the fact that a lot of that rage involved interrogating the whole system within which their feminist elders had risen. This moment was asking not just men but the pioneering women who'd succeeded alongside them to reckon with what had not been changed by feminism, how much gendered inequity older feminists had decided to live with, to participate in.
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Rebecca Traister (Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women's Anger)
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Gansey was right. You really can be a raging feminist.
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Maggie Stiefvater (The Dream Thieves (The Raven Cycle, #2))
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Feminism can give us a common language for thinking about how sexism, and racism, and classism work together to fuck shit up for everybody.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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We need to embrace the ways we are in process more.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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We should not have to rely on supernatural acts of God to keep women safe.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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White fear is not subject to any such cultural or religious scrutiny. In fact, white fears are routinely treated as fact rather than fantasy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Voting once or even twice for a Black man is not enough to undo years of anti-Black social conditioning. Fear and feelings, especially about racism, have to be managed constantly.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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But sometimes the only thing that is in order is to act out of order. To turn up, show out, and disrupt.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Sometimes you have to have the clarity that Ida B. Wells had when she told white people the truth about themselves and their lynching lies.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Part of the work of justice for those of us who made it out of terribly fucked-up conditions is rejecting the myth of our own exceptionalism.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I stand by the notion that the ideas I learned in those places, and that all the things Black feminism has taught me, can help our folks get free.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Why isn't every woman a feminist? Feminism tells a tale of female injury, but the average woman in heterosexual intimacy knows that men are injured too, as indeed they are. She may be willing to grant, this average woman, that men in general have more power than women in general. This undoubted fact is merely a fact; it is abstract, while the man of flesh and blood who stands before her is concrete: His hurts are real, his fears palpable. And like those heroic doctors on the late show who work tirelessly through the epidemic even though they may be fainting from fatigue, the woman in intimacy may set her own needs to one side in order better to attend to his. She does this not because she is "chauvinized" or has "false consciousness," but because this is what the work requires. Indeed, she may even excuse the man's abuse of her, having glimpsed the great reservoir of pain and rage from which it issues. Here is a further gloss on the ethical disempowerment attendant upon women's caregiving: in such a situation, a woman may be tempted to collude in her own ill-treatment.
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Sandra Lee Bartky (Femininity and Domination: Studies in the Phenomenology of Oppression (Thinking Gender))
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By the time grandmother sat me down for the talk, I was twenty-two, had completed two college degrees, and was on my way to a Ph.D. program. By local standards, I had already made it.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Now let's make Virginia Heffernan a man. Can you imagine the same kind of spittle-flecked rage directed at a busy working father who admits to feeding his kids Annie's Organic Mac & Cheese?
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Emily Matchar
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The fact that our society honestly believes that poor women don’t have the right to start families, because they may require public assistance, obscures the variety of ways that middle-class families do receive public assistance. White families have been the primary beneficiaries of both public and corporate welfare in the form of redlining policies that drove down property values in Black neighborhoods, making those neighborhoods undesirable for businesses, families, and schools. They have been beneficiaries of favorable bank-loan terms to help them purchase safe, affordable, quality housing. They are the beneficiaries of marital and housing tax breaks and the disproportionate beneficiaries of the dwindling number of quality public schools that we have left.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Black women have long been aware of what it means to be stuck in traffic, confined to the intersections of social discourses that bypass us on their way to futures to which we don’t have access.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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White women have absolutely been accomplices to the American project of white supremacy, but their husbands, brothers, fathers, and sons have always been the masterminds. Let us never forget that.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Still, our guilt over leaving people behind nips at our heels, at every new station that we reach. For instance, whenever there is a convening at an academic conference, invariably some young radical person will get on the mic to ask, “Who isn’t in the room? Who are we excluding?” These questions matter, but they can also be deeply annoying because very often they are a performance of middle-class angst.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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May you ask more and better questions. Homegirl interventions leave me with more questions than answers. But usually they leave me with far better questions than I began with. May your curiosity be unceasing.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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If you say fuck the patriarchy but don't ride for other women, then it might be more true that the patriarchy has fucked you, seducing you with the belief that men care more about your well-being than women do.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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That’s all I’m saying—that so many of the emotional impulses that shape our engagements with powerful public figures have to do with the shit we went through in middle school. I really wish people would just go to therapy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Medusa prays upon this much-worshipped prismic effect: of ineluctable identity, yet plurality of self. Originally apotropaic, her image has come to symbolize everything from Nietzschean nihilism to feminist rage, and adorn objects from Archaic terracotta vases to the logo of the fashion house Versace, the section label neatly summarized. She has, perhaps, become the ultimate symbol of metamorphosis itself: a symbol able to metamorphose into whatever you want her to symbolize.
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A. Natasha Joukovsky (The Portrait of a Mirror)
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Most white people fixate on the anger and rage that feels palpable at Black Lives Matter protests. They view this rage with a studied indifference and a willful ignorance that is about not seeing or validating Black people’s fear and right to be afraid.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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We have to smash the patriarchy, for sure. And we have to dismantle white supremacy, and homophobia, and a whole bunch of other terrible shit that makes life difficult for people. Rage is great at helping us to destroy things. That’s why people are so afraid of it.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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We will have a reckoning with our culture and religion, with military rulers and Islamists—two sides of one coin. Such a reckoning is essentially a feminist one. And it is what will eventually free us. Women—our rage, our tenacity, our daring and audacity—will free our countries.
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Mona Eltahawy (Headscarves and Hymens: Why the Middle East Needs a Sexual Revolution)
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I’m not planning to go back home to live, because where I’m from is no place for a radical feminist Black girl who likes to challenge preachers in her spare time. But I am responsible in big and small ways for making that place and places like it better, more equitable and more just.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The old adage is that all feminists are lesbians. So what if that’s true? Here’s the thing, and there’s really no straight way to say this. Black feminism is and has always been a fundamentally queer project. Straight chicks gotta make their peace with that, and hopefully without too much struggle.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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In my first terrible job after college, my boss, an older white woman, told me that the students at the predominantly Black school at which we worked had deemed her an honorary Black woman. When I looked at her with question marks in my eyes, she said, “You know, they mean the way I talk to them and roll my neck,
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Sam chose her next words carefully—“I hear she’s very clever.”
What she’d actually heard was that Dr. Helena Moriarty, when faced with a man who wouldn’t stop harassing her, had taken up beekeeping, distilled the queen bee’s scent, and slipped it into the offending man’s shaving cream. After that, bees had swarmed him—impossibly finding him no matter where he went, wriggling and squirming through cracks and keyholes, air vents, and chimneys. It was enough to drive a man mad.
They just want to be friends, Dr. Moriarty was said to have echoed back at him. For indeed, he was only stung two or three times.
Needless to say, he’d left her alone after that.
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Susan J. Morris (Strange Beasts)
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Often in feminist writing, women express bitterness, rage, and anger about male oppressors because it is one step that helps them to cease believing in romanticized versions of sex-role patterns that deny woman’s humanity. Unfortunately, our over-emphasis on the male as oppressor often obscures the fact that men too are victimized. To be an oppressor is dehumanizing and anti-human in nature, as it is to be a victim. Patriarchy forces fathers to act as monsters, encourages husbands and lovers to be rapists in disguise; it teaches our blood brothers to feel ashamed that they care for us, and denies all men the emotional life that would act as a humanizing, self-affirming force in their lives.
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bell hooks (Ain't I a Woman: Black Women and Feminism)
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Staples pleads his cause by saying capitalism has left the black man only his penis for fulfillment, and a "curious rage". Is this rage any more legitimate than the rage of black women? And why are black women supposed to absorb that male rage in silence? Why isn't that male rage turned upon those forces which limit his fulfillment, namely capitalism?
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Audre Lorde (Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches)
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He was the only male on a staff of twenty-one white women; he was also Latino and gay, a triple hit of diversity. He told me once that he became irritable and moody at certain times of the month, prone to outbursts of unprovoked rage, caught up in the synchronized menstrual cycles of the women in the office and pulled along for the hormonal ride by mistake
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Sarai Walker (Dietland: a wickedly funny, feminist revenge fantasy novel of one fat woman's fight against sexism and the beauty industry)
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The lie we are told is that white rage and white fear are honest emotions that preserve the integrity of American democracy...White rage and white fear are reactions to perceptions among white people that their power might be slipping away. Black rage and Black fear are fundamentally more honest, because they are reactions to the violence of white supremacy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I found it especially terrible that when it came to racial politics, many young progressives, across racial lines, were far more willing to train their hatred on Hillary Clinton, a white woman, than on Bernie Sanders, a white man. White women have absolutely been accomplices to the American project of white supremacy, but their husbands, brothers, fathers and sons have always been the masterminds. Let us never forget that.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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When Bill Clinton signed the 1994 crime bill into law, effecting policy at the federal level, it created a ferment of tough-on-crime policies in forty-five states. The crime bill also funded massive increases in police officers across the country. Most striking were laws that allowed juveniles to be tried as adults for violent crimes, and laws that allowed juvenile offenders to receive automatic life sentences for certain crimes.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Empowerment looks like cultivating the wisdom to make the best choices we can out of what are customarily a piss-poor set of options. Power looks like the ability to create better options. The powerlessness and capriciousness of being repeatedly jammed up at the personal and political crossroads of one's intersection while a watching world pretends not to see there, needing help, is how it feels to be a Black woman on an ordinary day.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Having had her anger hyperpoliced since 2007, when her husband announced his candidacy, on her very last day on the job Mrs. Obama became, as comedy writer Damon Young might say, “fuck-deficient.” Since the definition of respectability politics is that you absolutely give a fuck (because you have to) about what white folks and everybody else thinks, respectability politics and fuck-deficiency pretty much cannot coexist in the same body.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Empowerment looks like cultivating the wisdom to make the best choices we can out of what are customarily a piss-poor set of options. Power looks like the ability to create better options. The powerlessness and capriciousness of being repeatedly jammed up at the personal and political crossroads of one's intersection while a watching world pretends not to see you there, needing help, is how it feels to be a Black woman on an ordinary day.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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We are not built to be weapons, Kasara. But to build and renew, to lead with empathy and compassion, that is a woman’s job. Think of the other leaders, think of how their factions run on hate and greed. That is why I am here, that is why I took up the VO, because women are supposed to change the world. My father didn’t have only daughters as punishment from some distant god. No, he had daughters because some distant god knew what we could do.
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Saralyn Everhart (Wishing for Corruption)
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According to several years of reports by the Violence Policy Center, in this, the second decade of the twenty-first century, eight Black women per week, more than one per day, are murdered, usually with guns, and usually by a Black male they know. More than one thousand women of all races are murdered each year, in similar incidents, usually by men of their own race. It has been said before, but it is worth saying again: Toxic masculinity kills.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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I give the side eye to any Black woman who doesn’t have other Black women friends, to any woman who is prone to talk about how she relates better to men than to women, to anyone who goes on and on about how she “doesn’t trust females.” If you say fuck the patriarchy but you don’t ride for other women, then it might be more true that the patriarchy has fucked you, seducing you with the belief that men care more about your well-being than women do.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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O woman
who is not separate from us
who is chained beaten strangled
this song is for you
O woman
who is not separate from the homeland
who is oppressed silenced persecuted
this fury is for you
O woman
who rages against this regime
who marches resists protests
this prayer is for you
O woman
whose wild tresses
are tied with a noose
this cry is for you
we rise together for you
O Mahsa
from your blood
poppies will grow
this revolution is for you
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Kamand Kojouri
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Black feminism is not a reactionary project. It is not about the damage that white girls do. Not solely or primarily. Black feminism is about the world Black women and girls can build, if all the haters would raise up and let us get to work. When I talk about owning eloquent rage as your superpower, it comes with the clear caveat that not everyone is worth your time or your rage. Black feminism taught me that. My job as a Black feminist is to love Black women and girls. Period.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Before we fully learn to love ourselves, all people of color in the United States learn that we are supporting characters and spectators in the collective story of white people’s lives. The stories we watch and read ask us to put aside their whiteness and relate to their very “universal” human struggles around conflict with the world, the self, and others. The problem is that only the experiences of white people are treated as universal. Meanwhile, Black movies, shows, and books are typically seen as limited and particular.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The ability to take on and peel off the parts of Black culture that you like at will is exactly what is meant by the term “white privilege.” And while culture sharing is fine, white people have proven that they have a problem sharing. White people don’t share. They take over. They colonize. They claim shit as their own and then accuse others of being territorial and retrograde for pointing out these aggressive borrowing practices that shape white culture. It’s wrong to use Black aesthetics, Black cultural vernaculars, and Black dance in your videos without any kind of citation or homage.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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According to the Institute for Women’s Policy Research, 60.9 percent of all Black families are headed by a single mother who is the breadwinner for the family. Another 20 percent of Black households rely on a married mother as the breadwinner. In every state in the United States, there are more single than married Black mothers. In every state in the United States there are more married white mothers than single ones. In twenty-four states, the cost of childcare exceeds the cost of rent, and in many states the cost of childcare exceeds the 10 percent income-affordability threshold established by federal agencies.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Most racial stereotypes of Black women—that they are sexually insatiable, unrapeable, and prone to having a bunch of babies they can’t take care of, are gendered stereotypes. But most of us don’t learn to identify the problem as one rooted in sexism and racism. This is a problem that Black feminist organizers and intellectuals have been attuned to since the very beginning. But I simply didn’t know that white feminists had a version of this problem, too. Namely, white women’s voting practices tell us that they vote with the party that supports their racial issues, even though this means voting with a party that hates women as a matter of public policy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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White privilege works by making the advantages white people have invisible while making the supposedly “poor” choices of people of color hypervisible. For instance, on the surface, it simply looks like white people have better access to education, jobs, and housing because they make better choices or because they work harder. And, conversely, it looks like Black people have less access to these same things because they are lazy. In fact, in most opinion polls, white people believe that Black people don’t work as hard as they do. And what is perhaps most interesting is that white people believe this myth as much today as they believed it in the racially volatile 1960s.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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The jurors put themselves fully in George Zimmerman’s shoes. They could not find any empathy for the teenage boy walking home with snacks. These women’s acquittal of Zimmerman suggested that their primary social priority is white safety, even if it means authorizing lethal force against Black folks who aren’t studying them or their white suburban lives in the least. After the Zimmerman trial, white feminists did not call out these jurors. During the trial they did not call on them to exercise integrity, check their white privilege, or act from a place of empathy. White feminism has worked hard to make the world safer for white women, but it has stridently refused to call out the ways that white women’s sexuality and femininity is used not just as a tool of patriarchy but also as a tool for the maintenance of white supremacy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Look. It’s not just Black and white women who I think keep replaying middle-school angst. Working-class white men’s overidentification with Donald Trump, a man who clearly despises them, is the stuff of middle-school fantasy, too. Perhaps it is difficult to hear that electoral contests still are what they’ve always been: popularity contests. And popularity is dictated by all of the worst forms of social privilege—we are conditioned to like the people who are pretty, charming, handsome, rich, and well-connected. Donald Trump sure ain’t pretty, but he is rich and well-connected, and that means that lots of white men who will never be either of these things secretly identify with him. That’s all I’m saying—that so many of the emotional impulses that shape our engagements with powerful public figures have to do with the shit we went through in middle school. I really wish people would just go to therapy.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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One of the biggest battles that second-wave feminists of the seventies had with third wave feminists of the nineties was over the place of sex and beauty in feminism. Second wavers critiqued high heels and lipstick as oppressive expectations of the patriarchy. Third-wave white girls brought heels and fly red lips back into the mix. Black feminists gave the side eye to white girls and their feminist waves, because looking fierce and fly has always been a part of the Black-girl credo. (And also because Black feminism didn’t fit neatly within the historical trajectory of waves.) Our embrace of femininity was its own armor in a world where white women said that Black women should never be called ladies. If I have to pick a side, I’d say I’m third wave enough to affirm that beauty and the desire to be wanted still matter. When you go for months or years without a dude (or any love interest) ever noticing you, you can begin to feel invisible. And feminist principles about how the patriarchy has made us beholden to beauty culture do nothing to assuage the desire we all have to be seen and affirmed.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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In 1965, when Senator Daniel Patrick Moynihan argued that Black communities were caught in a tangle of pathology because our communities had a disproportionate number of female-led households, his conclusions had both affective and social dimensions. His 1965 report, “The Negro Family: The Case for National Action” offered social and political recommendations focused on ways to help Black men become breadwinners again, so they could assume their “rightful” place at the head of Black families. But the affective goal of his infamous Moynihan Report was to shame Black women for the very mundane magic involved in our making a way out of no way. That shame persists well into the twenty-first century, when more than 70 percent of Black households are female-led. Black women have proportionally higher rates of abortion than any other group. There is no shame in having an abortion. I consider the right to choose the conditions under which one becomes a parent to be one of the most important social values. But I believe that decades of discourse about poor Black women and unwed Black mothers being “welfare queens,” who unfairly take more from the system than they put in, has shamed many Black women into not bearing children that they otherwise might consider having. The idea that only middle-class, straight, married women deserve to start families is both racist and patriarchal.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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Cages of women. Women and girls of all ages. Lining downtown streets behind The Great Barrier Walls. Passersby prodding at them with canes, sticks, and whatever they could find. Spitting on them through the bars, as law and culture required.
“Cages of women who had disobeyed their husbands, or sons, their preachers, or some other males in their lives. One or two of them had been foolish and self-destructive enough to have reported a rapist.
“A couple of them had befriended someone higher or lower than their stations, or maybe entertained a foreigner from outside the community, or allowed someone of a lesser race into their homes. A few may have done absolutely nothing wrong but for being reported by a neighbor with a grudge.
“For the most part they had disobeyed or disrespected males.
“Watching from behind tinted and bullet-proof windows at the rear of his immaculate stretch limo, the Lord High Chancellor of PolitiChurch, grinned the sadistic grin of unholy conquest. A dark satisfaction only a deeply tarred soul could enjoy.” …
… “Caged women and young girls at major street corners in even the worst weather. Every one of them his to do with, or dispose of, as he would.
“In this world – in His world – He was God.”
- From “The Soul Hides in Shadows”
“It is the year 2037. What is now referred to as ‘The Great Electoral Madness of ’16’ had freed the darkest ignorance, isolationism, misogyny, and racial hatreds in the weakest among us, setting loose the cultural, economic, and moral destruction of America. In the once powerful United States, paranoia, distrust, and hatred now rage at epidemic levels.
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Edward Fahey (The Soul Hides in Shadows)
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Men aren’t born destroyers. Many men imbibe scripts of toxic masculinity almost from birth. And on their way to becoming men, they enact those toxic scripts in the lives of the women around them. It’s important to remember that this conclusion is not inevitable. But that’s the thing that will drive you mad when you lose someone tragically—wondering about the inevitability of the outcome.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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is too risky—because we have jobs to keep, families to feed, and bills to pay.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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In the nine shared years of our story together, years framed entirely by the gratuitous violence of men, I struggled to know this man, my father, this mischievous brother called “Mann” by his family, who was a bit superstitious, a bit of a romantic, a wild dancer, and a man willing to take a bullet more than once for a woman he loved. The father I knew harassed and terrorized my mother and me. He regularly upended and disrupted our lives, demanding much but giving little. The man I knew as my dad did not square in any way with the Mann who was beloved by his family.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)
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In every part of their lives, young men need access to conversations about what it means to be a man in ways that are not rooted in power, dominance, and violence. We owe it to ourselves to imagine what a post-patriarchal Black masculinity might look like. And, frankly, until we have that conversation, men will continue to kill Black women (cis and trans). And they will continue to kill each other.
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Brittney Cooper (Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower)