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Don't confuse poor decision-making with destiny. Own your mistakes. Itβs ok; we all make them. Learn from them so they can empower you!
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Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
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If you walked away from a
toxic, negative, abusive,
one-sided, dead-end
low vibrational
relationship or friendship
β you won.
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Lalah Delia
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Do what you think is right. Don't let people make the decision of right or wrong for you.
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Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
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People will always have opinions about your decision because they're not courageous enough to take action on their opinion.
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Steve Maraboli
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Your beliefs affect your choices. Your choices shape your actions. Your actions determine your results. The future you create depends upon the choices you make and the actions you take today.
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Roy T. Bennett
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We can't undo a single thing we have ever done, but we can make decisions today that propel us to the life we want and towards the healing we need.
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Steve Maraboli (Life, the Truth, and Being Free)
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Be wise today so you don't cry tomorrow.
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E.A. Bucchianeri
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Accepting personal responsibility for your life frees you from outside influences β increases your self-esteem β boosts confidence in your ability to decisions β and ultimately leads to achieve success in life.
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Roy T. Bennett
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It is not as much about who you used to be, as it is about who you choose to be.
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Sanhita Baruah
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All we have is the story we tell. Everything we do, every decision we make, our strength, weakness, motivation, history, and character-what we believe-none of it is real; it's all part of the story we tell. But here's the thing: it's our goddamned story!
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Jess Walter (Beautiful Ruins)
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Every game is winnable if you change your mind about what the prize should be and your perspective about the players at the table.
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Shannon L. Alder
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A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided.
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Anthony Robbins (Unlimited Power: The New Science Of Personal Achievement)
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It is tempting when looking at the life of anyone who has committed suicide to read into the decision to die a vastly complex web of reasons; and, of course, such complexity is warranted. No one illness or event causes suicide; and certainly no one knows all, or perhaps even most, of the motivations behind the killing of the self. But psychopathology is almost always there, and its deadliness is fierce. Love, success, and friendship are not always enough to counter the pain and destructiveness of severe mental illness
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Kay Redfield Jamison (Night Falls Fast: Understanding Suicide)
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Shout out to everyone transcending
a mindset, mentality, desire, belief,
emotion, habit, behavior or vibration,
that no longer serves them.
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Lalah Delia
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Pain makes us make bad decisions. Fear or pain is almost as big of a motivator.
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House
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Wisdom comes from not only in the understanding that often times we say no to things too easily and quickly, but also in knowing that that βnoβ for the sake of your physical and mental wellbeing can also be a reasonable and grounded decision for which you shouldnβt feel the need to feel guilty.
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Forrest Curran (Purple Buddha Project: Purple Book of Self-Love)
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Don't let your emotions get in the way of rational decision making.
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Roy T. Bennett
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Success is a decision, not a gift.
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Steve Backley (The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success)
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Act as if it was, and it will be.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind)
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Don't use yesterday's state of mind, to make today's decision.
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C. Nzingha Smith (Lust Have Recipes, Aphrodisiac Cookbook)
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When we know what we are trying to achieve, we are less likely to be swayed by uninformed opinions and more inclined to make principled and ethical decisions.
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Steve Pemberton (The Lighthouse Effect: How Ordinary People Can Have an Extraordinary Impact in the World)
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The law of attraction is synonymous to the law of sacrifice, in which you get in return what you are decisively choose to give up. The universe in all her infinity beauty generously opens up gates that you had no idea existed when you close others, but she requires you to walk through the gates solely on your own will and strength, with the other doors that you have left behind often times being forever locked and eternally inaccessible.
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Forrest Curran (Purple Buddha Project: Purple Book of Self-Love)
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MONEY, AS IT turns out, is very often the most expensive way to motivate people. Social norms are not only cheaper, but often more effective as well.
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Dan Ariely (Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions)
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Hold yourself back, or heal yourself back together. You decide.
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Brittany Burgunder
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Tell him solitude is creative if he is strong
and the final decisions are made in silent rooms.
Tell him to be different from other people
if it comes natural and easy being different.
Let him have lazy days seeking his deeper motives.
Let him seek deep for where he is a born natural.
Then he may understand Shakespeare
and the Wright brothers, Pasteur, Pavlov,
Michael Faraday and free imaginations
Bringing changes into a world resenting change.
He will be lonely enough
to have time for the work
he knows as his own.
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Carl Sandburg (The People, Yes)
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Just because
you feel lost
doesn't mean
that you are.
Sometimes you
just have to relax,
breathe deep,
and trust the path
you're on.
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Lalah Delia
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The idea of potential loss plays a large role in human decision making. In fact, people seem to be more motivated by the thought of losing something than by the thought of gaining something of equal value.
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Robert B. Cialdini (Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion (Collins Business Essentials))
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Let today mark a new beginning for you. Give yourself permission to say NO without feeling guilty, mean, or selfish. Anybody who gets upset and/or expects you to say YES all of the time clearly doesnβt have your best interest at heart. Always remember: You have a right to say NO without having to explain yourself. Be at peace with your decisions.
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Stephanie Lahart
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Nobody thought it could be done, so nobody had tried before. Standing with one foot in the abyss and the other with a foothold in her dreams, she stood on the edge of a cliff. She took one look behind and with one last deep breath, she leapt with reckless certainty and decisive confidence. Blurring through the sky, for a moment she looked like she would fade into darkness, but in the very last moment when everyone else had given up on her, from her back spread wings. With a leap of faith, she learned to fly.
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Forrest Curran (Purple Buddha Project: Purple Book of Self-Love)
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In leadership, life and all things itβs far wiser to judge people by their deeds than their speech - their track record rather than their talkβ β Rasheed Ogunlaru
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Rasheed Ogunlaru
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You will hardly find wrong people at right places. Choose to be at the right places and you will find the right people who will inspire you to make it happen!
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Israelmore Ayivor (Leaders' Watchwords)
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We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning. Like rapport-building, charm and the deceptive smile, unsolicited niceness often has a discoverable motive.
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Gavin de Becker (The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence)
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Taking the decision-making process away from people disempowers them. It also makes them much less likely to buy into the decision, however right it may be. Oneβs own conscience remains the ultimate arbiter.
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Surya Das
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Too often, people get stuck in a state of over-thinking, the result is that they never reach a decision.
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Steve Backley (The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success)
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I realized that the past failures had strengthened me, taught me that no one is immune from mistakes. True leaders must learn from their failures, use the lessons to motivate themselves, and not be afraid to try again or make the next tough decision.
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William H. McRaven (Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life...And Maybe the World)
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Divorce = Rebirth: forget the past, replan your life, improve your appearance & REJUVENATE!
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Rossana Condoleo
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You are honest enough by nature to be able to see and judge your own self clearly - and that is a great thing. Never lose that honesty, Bobby - always be honest with yourself, know your own motives for what they are, good or bad, make your own decisions firmly and justly - and you will be a fine, strong character, of some real use in this muddled world of ours!
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Enid Blyton (Summer Term at St Clare's)
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Visionary decision-making happens at the intersection of intuition and logic.
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Paul O'Brien (Great Decisions, Perfect Timing: Cultivating Intuitive Intelligence)
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The decision is your own voice, an opinion is the echo of someone else's voice.
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Amit Kalantri (Wealth of Words)
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Since procrastination is a message from our natural willpower via low motivation, the cure is changing the environment, or oneβs profession, by selecting one in which one does not have to fight oneβs impulses. Few can grasp the logical consequence that, instead, one should lead a life in which procrastination is good, as a naturalistic-risk-based form of decision making.
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Nassim Nicholas Taleb (Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder)
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The choices that are most powerful in generating motivation, in other words, are decisions that do two things: They convince us weβre in control and they endow our actions with larger meaning.
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Charles Duhigg (Smarter Faster Better: The Secrets of Being Productive in Life and Business)
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Do the things you like to be happier, stronger & more successful. Only so is hard work replaced by dedication.
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Rossana Condoleo
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The challenge of life is regretless decision making, relentless pursuit of vision with faith, forgiving others, enduring pain with a smile & achieving goals with an extra MILE
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Sujit Lalwani (Life Simplified!)
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If we could eliminate the concept of town and return to live in small villages, all world problems were solved.
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Rossana Condoleo
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Those who are critical of my goals and dreams simply do not understand the higher purpose to which I have been called.
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Andy Andrews (The Traveler's Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success)
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All you have to do is try. And to me, the worst kind of defeat is not failure per se. Itβs the decision not to try.
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Novak ΔokoviΔ (Serve To Win: Novak Djokovicβs life story with diet, exercise and motivational tips)
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It takes your knowing to decide on your going. If you know where you are going, you will keep going because you have already seen yourself gone
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Israelmore Ayivor
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In the moment of decision, may you hear the voice of the Creator saying, βThis is right road, travel on it.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind)
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Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initative or creation, there is one elementary truth...that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves. too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would otherwise never have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in ones's favor all manner of incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man would have believed would have come his way.
Whatever you think you can do or believe you can do, begin it. Action has magic, grace, and power in it.
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W.H. Murray
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If you compromise your core values, you go nowhere.
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Roy T. Bennett
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You have to choose your path.
You have to decide what you wish to do.
You are the only person that can determine your destiny.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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As a black woman, the decision to love yourself just as you are is a radical act. And I'm as radical as they come.
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Bethanee Epifani J. Bryant
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Every time a champion makes a decision they have a chance to learn something new, regardless of the outcome.
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Steve Backley (The Champion in all of Us: 12 Rules for Success)
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Your values create your internal compass that can navigate how you make decisions in your life. If you compromise your core values, you go nowhere.
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Roy T. Bennett (The Light in the Heart)
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If thinking should precede acting, then acting must succeed thinking.
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Amit Kalantri (Wealth of Words)
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Never seek to please anyone. Seek to evolve thyself.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind)
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Divorce is the start point for a brand new life. Don't lose the chance to redesign it upon your dreams!
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Rossana Condoleo
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The gift of life, gives you the greatest opportunity to live and chance to rise above any situation. With hopeful attitude you can overcome any struggle.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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Say what you mean and mean what you say. Donβt be afraid to stand firm on the decisions that you make. Trust yourself. Believe in your instincts. Do what works best for YOU. Stay true to yourself and be good to yourself. Allow every decision that you make to empower, enrich, and add value to your life!
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Stephanie Lahart
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In life, most short cuts end up taking longer than taking the longer route.
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Suzy Kassem
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You may encounter many disappointments. Be strong. Tell yourself, βI am good enough, I will try again.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind)
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Raise your vibration,
Not your tone of voice..
You gain inspiration,
For Peace is a choice.
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Ana Claudia Antunes (A-Z of Happiness: Tips for Living and Breaking Through the Chain that Separates You from Getting That Dream Job)
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Your current situation = the life expectations you have accepted as completed, unless you change your comfort zone to create a better life.
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Shannon L. Alder
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And the excellent thing about success is that it always comes down to one simple thing: the decision to keep going until youβve reached your goal.
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Jen Sincero (You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable)
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We avoid risks in life only to die, and end up facing the greatest risk which is having lived life risking nothing at all.
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Chinonye J. Chidolue
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In the business people with expertise, experience and evidence will make more profitable decisions than people with instinct, intuition and imagination.
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Amit Kalantri (Wealth of Words)
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Countless possibilities exist in any situation. You must maintain a positive outlook to see the miraculous possibilities.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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The goal shouldnβt be to make the perfect decision every time but to make less bad decisions than everyone else.
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Spencer Fraseur (The Irrational Mind: How To Fight Back Against The Hidden Forces That Affect Our Decision Making)
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Choices are usually decisions motivated by pleasure and pain, and the divided mind acts with the sole purpose of getting βIβ into pleasure and out of pain.
But the best pleasures are those for which we do not plan, and the worst part of pain is expecting it and trying to get away from it when it has come.
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Alan W. Watts (The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety)
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Iβm not much older now than I was then, but in a lot of ways, obviously, Iβm a different person. So it is easy for me to recognize that I made some good decisions and some bad ones. But itβs telling that, with this, I knew it was a bad idea even then but I still couldnβt control myself. Knowing something is a bad idea does not always decrease the odds that you will do it. If I had examined my motivations on this one, I probably wouldnβt have liked what I found, so I didnβt.
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Hank Green (An Absolutely Remarkable Thing (The Carls, #1))
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Everyone has too much of something, whether itβs time, talent or treasure. Everyone does have their own half, you just have to find it.
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Hannah Salwen (The Power of Half: One Family's Decision to Stop Taking and Start Giving Back)
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We can't always have our druthers.
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Harper Lee (To Kill a Mockingbird)
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The expectation of intelligent gossip is a powerful motive for serious self-criticism, more powerful than New Year resolutions to improve one's decision making at work and at home.
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Daniel Kahneman (Thinking, Fast and Slow)
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Opinions of others may temporary influence your decisions.
But you ought to follow your own inner voice.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Think Great: Be Great! (Beautiful Quotes, #1))
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Great leaders donβt lead others with bitterness or resentfulness of past mistakes, they lead with hope and knowledge of the past to inform greater decision making in the future.
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Spencer Fraseur (The Irrational Mind: How To Fight Back Against The Hidden Forces That Affect Our Decision Making)
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Every decision and action of humankind stems from a hope to attain Personal Freedom.
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Brendon Burchard (The Motivation Manifesto: 9 Declarations to Claim Your Personal Power)
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At the end of the day, itβs your life. If you turn out good, the world celebrates you and with you (not minding how you achieved it). If bad, they abandon you (even if they gave you the advice that led you to doom). Just be you and follow your heart.
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Omoakhuana Anthonia
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When kids made a decision for themselves they have a vested interest in showing they were right. Lee wanted to prove to me that he had made the right choice so he worked hard and did well. If we'd forced him to go to college somewhere else all the incentives would've been different. Then he would have had a motive to prove that we were wrong.
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Cokie Roberts (From This Day Forward)
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If his decision is correct, he will win the battle, even if it lasts longer than expected. If his decision is wrong, he will be defeated and he will have to start all over againβonly this time with more wisdom.
But once he has started, a Warrior of the Light perseveres until the end.
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Paulo Coelho (Warrior of the Light)
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Cyber bullying occurs online daily. Most don't consider their actions or words to be bullying. Here's a few clues that you're a cyber bully.
(1) You post information about someone in order to ruin their character.
(2) You post threats to someone.
(3) You tag someone in vulgar degrading posts.
(4) You post any information intended to harm or shame another individual seeking to gain attention.
Then, you are a cyber bully and need to get some help.
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Amaka Imani Nkosazana (Sweet Destiny)
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In one sense, at any rate, it is more valuable to read bad literature than good literature. Good literature may tell us the mind of one man; but bad literature may tell us the mind of many men. A good novel tells us the truth about its hero; but a bad novel tells us the truth about its author. It does much more than that, it tells us the truth about its readers; and, oddly enough, it tells us this all the more the more cynical and immoral be the motive of its manufacture. The more dishonest a book is as a book the more honest it is as a public document. A sincere novel exhibits the simplicity of one particular man; an insincere novel exhibits the simplicity of mankind. The pedantic decisions and definable readjustments of man may be found in scrolls and statute books and scriptures; but men's basic assumptions and everlasting energies are to be found in penny dreadfuls and halfpenny novelettes. Thus a man, like many men of real culture in our day, might learn from good literature nothing except the power to appreciate good literature. But from bad literature he might learn to govern empires and look over the map of mankind.
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G.K. Chesterton (Heretics)
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When we retire at night, we constructively review our day. Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Do we owe an apology? Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once? Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into the stream of life? But we must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others. After making our review we ask Godβs forgiveness and inquire what corrective measures should be taken.
On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.
In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We donβt struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while.
What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.
We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems. We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. Many of us have wasted a lot of time doing that and it doesnβt work. You can easily see why.
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Bill Wilson
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The technologies which have had the most profound effects on human life are usually simple. A good example of a simple technology with profound historical consequences is hay. Nobody knows who invented hay, the idea of cutting grass in the autumn and storing it in large enough quantities to keep horses and cows alive through the winter. All we know is that the technology of hay was unknown to the Roman Empire but was known to every village of medieval Europe. Like many other crucially important technologies, hay emerged anonymously during the so-called Dark Ages. According to the Hay Theory of History, the invention of hay was the decisive event which moved the center of gravity of urban civilization from the Mediterranean basin to Northern and Western Europe. The Roman Empire did not need hay because in a Mediterranean climate the grass grows well enough in winter for animals to graze. North of the Alps, great cities dependent on horses and oxen for motive power could not exist without hay. So it was hay that allowed populations to grow and civilizations to flourish among the forests of Northern Europe. Hay moved the greatness of Rome to Paris and London, and later to Berlin and Moscow and New York.
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Freeman Dyson (Infinite in All Directions)
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It is remarkable how I am never quite clear about the motives for any of my decisions. Is that a sign of confusion or inner dishonesty or is it a sign that we are guided without our knowing or is it both ...The reasons one gives for an action to others and to one's self are certainly inadequate. One can give a reason for everything. In the last resort one acts from a level which remains hidden from us. So one can only ask God to judge us and to forgive us.... At the end of the day I can only ask God to give a merciful judgement on today and all its decisions. It is now in his hand.
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Dietrich Bonhoeffer (Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy)
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This letter, my very dear Eliza, will not be delivered to you unless I shall first have terminated my earthly career to begin, as I humbly hope from redeeming grace and divine mercy, a happy immortality. If it had been possible for me to have avoided the interview, my love for you and my precious children would have been alone a decisive motive. But it was not possible without sacrifices which would have rendered me unworthy of your esteem. I need not tell you of the pangs I feel from the idea of quitting you and exposing you to the anguish which I know you would feel. Nor could I dwell on the topic lest it should unman me. The consolations of religion, my beloved, can alone support you and these you have a right to enjoy. Fly to the bosom of your God and be comforted. With my last idea, I shall cherish the sweet hope of meeting you in a better world. Adieu best of wives and best of women. Embrace all my darling children for me. Ever yours A H72
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Ron Chernow (Alexander Hamilton)
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To begin with, this case should never have come to trial. The state has not produced one iota of medical evidence that the crime Tom Robinson is charged with ever took place... It has relied instead upon the testimony of two witnesses, whose evidence has not only been called into serious question on cross-examination, but has been flatly contradicted by the defendant. Now, there is circumstantial evidence to indicate that Mayella Ewel was beaten - savagely, by someone who led exclusively with his left. And Tom Robinson now sits before you having taken the oath with the only good hand he possesses... his RIGHT. I have nothing but pity in my heart for the chief witness for the State. She is the victim of cruel poverty and ignorance. But my pity does not extend so far as to her putting a man's life at stake, which she has done in an effort to get rid of her own guilt. Now I say "guilt," gentlemen, because it was guilt that motivated her. She's committed no crime - she has merely broken a rigid and time-honored code of our society, a code so severe that whoever breaks it is hounded from our midst as unfit to live with. She must destroy the evidence of her offense. But what was the evidence of her offense? Tom Robinson, a human being. She must put Tom Robinson away from her. Tom Robinson was to her a daily reminder of what she did. Now, what did she do? She tempted a *****. She was white, and she tempted a *****. She did something that, in our society, is unspeakable. She kissed a black man. Not an old uncle, but a strong, young ***** man. No code mattered to her before she broke it, but it came crashing down on her afterwards. The witnesses for the State, with the exception of the sheriff of Maycomb County have presented themselves to you gentlemen, to this court in the cynical confidence that their testimony would not be doubted, confident that you gentlemen would go along with them on the assumption... the evil assumption that all Negroes lie, all Negroes are basically immoral beings, all ***** men are not to be trusted around our women. An assumption that one associates with minds of their caliber, and which is, in itself, gentlemen, a lie, which I do not need to point out to you. And so, a quiet, humble, respectable *****, who has had the unmitigated TEMERITY to feel sorry for a white woman, has had to put his word against TWO white people's! The defendant is not guilty - but somebody in this courtroom is. Now, gentlemen, in this country, our courts are the great levelers. In our courts, all men are created equal. I'm no idealist to believe firmly in the integrity of our courts and of our jury system - that's no ideal to me. That is a living, working reality! Now I am confident that you gentlemen will review, without passion, the evidence that you have heard, come to a decision and restore this man to his family. In the name of GOD, do your duty. In the name of God, believe... Tom Robinson
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Harper Lee (To Kill a Mockingbird)
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Parents can project into the future; their young children, anchored in the present, have a much harder time of it. This difference can be a formula for heartbreak for a small child. Toddlers cannot appreciate, as an adult can, that when theyβre told to put their blocks away, theyβll be able to resume playing with them at some later date. They do not care, when told they canβt have another bag of potato chips, that life is long and teeming with potato chips. They want them now, because now is where they live. Yet somehow mothers and fathers believe that if only they could convey the logic of their decisions, their young children would understand it. Thatβs what their adult brains thrived on for all those years before their children came along: rational chitchat, in which motives were elucidated and careful analyses dutifully dispatched. But young children lead intensely emotional lives. Reasoned discussion does not have the same effect on them, and their brains are not yet optimized for it.
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Jennifer Senior (All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood)
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Your personal thoughts carry so much power. Itβs important to be mindful of what you spend your time thinking about. Make sure that your thoughts arenβt defeating you or your purpose in life. Fear, doubt, and a negative attitude will continually hold you back. Your journey may be a bumpy one, but I encourage you to never give up! Giving up only does one thing: It keeps you from ever knowing what could have been. Donβt allow your uncertain attitude to be the reason why you donβt succeed. Itβs a very sad thing to live your life with regrets. So therefore, giving up is NOT an option for you. Donβt even entertain those thoughts. KEEP MOVING FORWARD, no matter what!
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Stephanie Lahart
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We parents are an extension of our children, not the other way around. We are their conscience until it becomes their responsibility to tell themselves whatβs right and necessary. We are their butlers until they are fully able to get the items they need and can clean up after themselves. We are their cheerleaders until they learn how to develop their own confidence and motivation. We are their counselors until they are able to take the lead in making the tough decisions that affect them.
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Larry Tanner
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I had begun to see a new map of the world, one that was frightening in its simplicity, suffocating in its implications. We were always playing on the white man's court, Ray had told me, by the white man's rules. If the principal, or the coach, or a teacher, or Kurt, wanted to spit in your face, he could, because he had power and you didn't. If he decided not to, if he treated you like a man or came to your defense, it was because he knew that the words you spoke, the clothes you wore, the books you read, your ambitions and desires, were already his. Whatever he decided to do, it was his decision to make, not yours, and because of that fundamental power he held over you, because it preceded and would outlast his individual motives and inclinations, any distinction between good and bad whites held negligible meaning.
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Barack Obama (Dreams from My Father: A Story of Race and Inheritance)
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I turned from my window. Suddenly it seemed odd for my neighbors on both sides to have visitors while I had none. For the first time, I felt lonely at 'Sconset.
"Let's cook," Frannie said energetically. "We will smell so good that they'll all come running." She picked up a bowl, filled it with apples from the barrel, and immediately began to cut them up. I put water to boil, got out cinnamon, cloves, nutmeg, lard, flour, sugar, salt, saleratus, vinegar, and all the other things for apple pies. We both laughed happily. How easy it is, we thought, to make a decision, to implement a remedy, to act.
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Sena Jeter Naslund (Ahab's Wife, or The Star-Gazer)
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Dare to be different. Dare to accept yourself for who YOU are. Dare to live your life without limits. Dare to follow YOUR dreams. Dare to explore, experience, and make mistakes. Dare to live your life without being afraid. Live, learn, and grow. Itβs your life! Make every decision that you make count for something. Always know your value as a person and donβt allow anybody to make you feel anything different. You may have to stand alone at times, but donβt be dismayed. Thereβs something special about you! Allow yourself to shine and dare to do the unknown.
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Stephanie Lahart
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The way I choose to start my day sets its tone. When I make the decision to begin by giving thanks for the positive things in my life, no matter how seemingly few or bountiful they might be, I am setting the flow for new opportunities to come my way. Each and every day I will remind myself that I can steer my outcome in any direction I wish by the actions I take. The steps I take day in and day out are the determining factors as to whether or not I achieve the success I desire. I take comfort in knowing that I have control over the actions I choose to do or not do.
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Josh Hinds (It's Your Life, Live BIG)
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Be your best self and do not imitate anyone else. Find your strengths. They are your talents. They will make you smile and cause you to real joy on the inside.
Donβt listen to those who ridicule the choices you make or the dreams you share. Let no one despise your youth. As Og Mandino explained in The Greatest Salesman in the World, βExperience is overrated, usually by old men who nod wisely and speak stupidly.β Create your own experiences. And know that you are creating memories for a lifetime.
Life is not about finding yourself; it is about creating yourself.
You have to take chances to make your dreams reality. Face your fears head-on and move rapidly. Donβt be afraid of making mistakes. Make lots of them! Your odds for success will increase with the number of decisions you make.
Have patience with your dreams and the expectations you have for others. Be impatient with yourself daily. Live as if this is your last day. Say βI love youβ to all those who matter. Know that everyone matters.
You must play full-out right now. Sit up, hold your head high. Breathe deeply. Lift your chest up. Stand up straight and with confidence. Dust yourself off. Stop being a party pooper in your own life. Smile. A bigger noticeable smile. Start acting happy. Yes, you act first. I promise the feeling of happiness will soon follow.
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Robert Smith
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Mistakes and miscalculations are human and normal, and viewed in the long run they have not damaged the company. I do not mind taking responsibilty for every managerial decision I have made. But if a person who makes a mistake is branded and kicked off the seniority promotion escalator, he could lose his motivation for the rest of his business life and depreive the company of whaever good things he may have to offer later. If the casues of the mistake are clarified and made public, the person who made the mistake will not forget it and others will not make the same mistake. I tell our people βGo ahead and do what you think is right. If you make a mistake, you will learn form it. Just don't make the same mistake twice.
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Akio Morita (Made in Japan: Akio Morita and Sony)
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When you decide that you need to lose twenty pounds because you are disgusting at this weight or that you need to meditate every day or go to church on Sundays because you will go to hell if you donβt, you are making life decisions while you are being whipped with chains. The Voice-induced decisionsβthose made from shame and force, guilt or deprivation, cannot be trusted. They do not last because they are based on fear of consequences instead of longing for truth. Instead, ask yourself what you love. Without fear of consequences, without force or shame or guilt. What motivates you to be kind, to take care of your body, your spirit, others, the earth? Trust the longing, trust the love that can be translated into action without the threat of punishment. Trust that you will not destroy what matters most. Give yourself that much.
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Geneen Roth (Women Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything)
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On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives. In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We donβt struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it. We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems. We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. Many of us have wasted a lot of time doing that and it doesnβt work. You can easily see why.
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Alcoholics Anonymous (Alcoholics Anonymous)
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Hank Green's Secrets of Productivity:
1.) I have convinced myself that if I am not using all of the tools I have in my disposal to do the maximum amount of good [...] then I am less of a good person than I could otherwise could be. [...]
2.) I intentionally put myself in situations where people who I care about and who I respect rely on me to do things, which is very motivating. [...]
3.) I don't get caught up in doing everything perfectly. [...] I just want to try stuff and if it explodes... it exploded! And I learned!
4.) I love giving other people responsibility. I love putting them in difficult situations and saying: "Figure this out. Help me do this." And if they do it wrong or if they do it differently than how I would have done it, I don't get mad as long as they're learning, because there's no way to get good at stuff except to do it and fail and learn. [...]
5.) I follow and cultivate my own curiosity. I think curiosity is one of the top two or three human characteristics. It's something that I really like about myself. [...] I want to understand stuff! I want to understand people! Following my curiosity so frequently leads me to better life decisions and better business decisions but also - just feeling better! You're never going to feel bad about your whole life if you loved people and you were curious. I mean, that's kind of all I want!
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Hank Green
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Let a man radically alter his thoughts, and he will be astonished at the rapid transformation it will effect in the material conditions of his life. Men imagine that thought can be kept secret, but it cannot; it rapidly crystallizes into habit, and habit solidifies into circumstance. Bestial thoughts crystallize into habits of drunkenness and sensuality, which solidify into circumstances of destitution and disease: impure thoughts of every kind crystallize into enervating and confusing habits, which solidify into distracting and adverse circumstances: thoughts of fear, doubt, and indecision crystallize into weak, unmanly, and irresolute habits, which solidify into circumstances of failure, indigence, and slavish dependence: lazy thoughts crystallize into habits of uncleanliness and dishonesty, which solidify into circumstances of foulness and beggary: hateful and condemnatory thoughts crystallize into habits of accusation and violence, which solidify into circumstances of injury and persecution: selfish thoughts of all kinds crystallize into habits of self-seeking, which solidify into circumstances more or less distressing. On the other hand, beautiful thoughts of all kinds crystallize into habits of grace and kindliness, which solidify into genial and sunny circumstances: pure thoughts crystallize into habits of temperance and self-control, which solidify into circumstances of repose and peace: thoughts of courage, self-reliance, and decision crystallize into manly habits, which solidify into circumstances of success, plenty, and freedom: energetic thoughts crystallize into habits of cleanliness and industry, which solidify into circumstances of pleasantness: gentle and forgiving thoughts crystallize into habits of gentleness, which solidify into protective and preservative circumstances: loving and unselfish thoughts crystallize into habits of self-forgetfulness for others, which solidify into circumstances of sure and abiding prosperity and true riches.
A particular train of thought persisted in, be it good or bad, cannot fail to produce its results on the character and circumstances. A man cannot directly choose his circumstances, but he can choose his thoughts, and so indirectly, yet surely, shape his circumstances.
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James Allen (As a Man Thinketh)
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As Christians we face two tasks in our evangelism: saving the soul and saving the mind, that is to say, not only converting people spiritually, but converting them intellectually as well. And the Church is lagging dangerously behind with regard to this second task.
If the church loses the intellectual battle in one generation, then evangelism will become immeasurably more difficult in the next. The war is not yet lost, and it is one which we must not lose: souls of men and women hang in the balance.
For the sake of greater effectiveness in witnessing to Jesus Christ Himself, as well as for their own sakes, evangelicals cannot afford to keep on living on the periphery of responsible intellectual existence.
Thinking about your faith is indeed a virtue, for it helps you to better understand and defend your faith. But thinking about your faith is not equivalent to doubting your faith.
Doubt is never a purely intellectual problem. There is a spiritual dimension to the problem that must be recognized. Never lose sight of the fact that you are involved in spiritual warfare and there is an enemy of your soul who hates you intensely, whose goal is your destruction, and who will stop at nothing to destroy you.
Reason can be used to defend our faith by formulating arguments for the existence of God or by refuting objections. But though the arguments so developed serve to confirm the truth of our faith, they are not properly the basis of our faith, for that is supplied by the witness of the Holy Spirit Himself. Even if there were no arguments in defense of the faith, our faith would still have its firm foundation.
The more I learn, the more desperately ignorant I feel. Further study only serves to open up to one's consciousness all the endless vistas of knowledge, even in one's own field, about which one knows absolutely nothing.
Don't let your doubts just sit there: pursue them and keep after them until you drive them into the ground.
We should be cautious, indeed, about thinking that we have come upon the decisive disproof of our faith. It is pretty unlikely that we have found the irrefutable objection. The history of philosophy is littered with the wrecks of such objections. Given the confidence that the Holy Spirit inspires, we should esteem lightly the arguments and objections that generate our doubts.
These, then, are some of the obstacles to answered prayer: sin in our lives, wrong motives, lack of faith, lack of earnestness, lack of perseverance, lack of accordance with Godβs will. If any of those obstacles hinders our prayers, then we cannot claim with confidence Jesusβ promise, βWhatever you ask in my name, I will do itβ.
And so I was led to what was for me a radical new insight into the will of God, namely, that Godβs will for our lives can include failure. In other words, Godβs will may be that you fail, and He may lead you into failure! For there are things that God has to teach you through failure that He could never teach you through success.
So many in our day seem to have been distracted from what was, is and always will be the true priority for every human being β that is, learning to know God in Christ.
My greatest fear is that I should some day stand before the Lord and see all my works go up in smoke like so much βwood, hay, and stubbleβ.
The chief purpose of life is not happiness, but knowledge of God.
People tend naturally to assume that if God exists, then His purpose for human life is happiness in this life. Godβs role is to provide a comfortable environment for His human pets. But on the Christian view, this is false. We are not Godβs pets, and the goal of human life is not happiness per se, but the knowledge of Godβwhich in the end will bring true and everlasting human fulfilment. Many evils occur in life which may be utterly pointless with respect to the goal of producing human happiness; but they may not be pointless with respect to producing a deeper knowledge of God.
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William Lane Craig (Hard Questions, Real Answers)