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A gun. I had been brought down by a gun. It was practically comical. Cheaters, I thought.
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Richelle Mead (Last Sacrifice (Vampire Academy, #6))
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livid, adj.
Fuck You for cheating on me. Fuck you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too emotional. The same person who thought, oops, heβd gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Fuck you. This isnβt about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.
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David Levithan (The Lover's Dictionary)
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Cheaters never prosper. (Because they suck.)
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Greg Behrendt
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and I laugh, I can still laugh, who can't laugh when the whole thing
is so ridiculous
that only the insane, the clowns, the half-wits, the cheaters, the whores, the horseplayers, the bankrobbers, the poets ... are interesting?
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Charles Bukowski (The Roominghouse Madrigals: Early Selected Poems, 1946-1966)
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Insanity is everyone expecting you not to fall apart when you find out everything you believed in was a lie.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.
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Kamand Kojouri
β
They'll say you are bad
or perhaps you are mad
or at least you
should stay undercover.
Your mind must be bare
if you would dare
to think you can love
more than one lover.
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David Rovics
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Bishop was all done with the witty conversation. 'Will you swear?'
And Myrnin said, shockingly, 'I will.' And he proceeded to, a string of swearwords that made Claire blink. He ended with, 'βfrothy fool-born apple-john! Cheater of vandals and defiler of dead dogs!' and did another twirl and bow. He looked up with a red, red grin that was more like a leer. 'Is that what you meant, my lord?
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Rachel Caine (Feast of Fools (The Morganville Vampires, #4))
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Before you call yourself a Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu or any other theology, learn to be human first.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Buy a gift for a dog, and you'll be amazed at the way it will dance and swerve its tail, but if don't have anything to offer to it, it won't even recognize your arrival; such are the attributes of fake friends.
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Michael Bassey Johnson
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Cheaters are cowards that are tempted to chase the fantasy of what could be⦠instead of courageously addressing their own self-destructive behavior and cultivating what is.
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Steve Maraboli (Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience)
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In my mind, I still think of him as being a cheater. Otherwise he just met some girl he liked better, and it's not as dramatic.
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Lauren Barnholdt (Two-Way Street)
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Insecure people often falsify the past, in order to make the future pure.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Chasing a man is not winning. The only thing you win is the loss of your dignity. Confidence is knowing your value, instead of expecting a manβs love to provide you with value.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Lies don't end relationships the truth does.
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Shannon L. Alder
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A gun I had been brought down by a gun. It was practically comical. Cheaters, I thought. Iβd spent my life focusing on hand to hand combat, learning to dodge fangs and powerful hands that could snap my neck. A gun? It was soβ¦ well, easy. Should I be insulted? I didnβt know. Did it matter? I didnβt know that either. All I knew in that moment was that I was going to die, regardless.
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Richelle Mead (Last Sacrifice (Vampire Academy, #6))
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Men are cheaters.
Women are not to be trusted.
And most people are dumb.
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Jackie Collins (Married Lovers)
β
Often people that say they βdonβt careβ actually do. The moment they discuss you with their friends and family, compete with you, bad mouth you to others or react to anything you do or say is when they give themselves away. You can either be saddened or flattered that you effected someone so much. The perspective is yours to determine.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Cheaters, I thought.
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Richelle Mead (Last Sacrifice (Vampire Academy, #6))
β
What do you want from me?"
"Own up to it. I can live with a cheater, but not with a coward.
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Aleksandr Voinov (Dark Soul Vol. 4 (Dark Soul, #4))
β
A deceitful man will go as far as to trample all over a womanβs reputation and spirit, in order to prove to his ex-love that he was faithful. The irony, is he is still in love with his ex and the new woman in his life doesnβt even realize it.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Stupidity is to have amnesia over your own faults when the person you hate makes theirs.
β
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Shannon L. Alder
β
In the months that follow you bend to the work, because it feels like hope, like grace--and because you know in your lying cheater's heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.
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Junot DΓaz (This Is How You Lose Her)
β
find em, fool em, fuck em, forget em
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
β
You try every trick in the book to keep her. You write her letters. You quote Neruda. You cancel your Facebook. You give her the passwords to all your e-mail accounts. Because you know in your lying cheaterβs heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.
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Junot DΓaz (This Is How You Lose Her)
β
You want to put a band-aid on something that needs stitches.
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
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It is still cheating, even if nobody comes.
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Mokokoma Mokhonoana
β
Although I'm sure there are plenty of tall, gorgeous, life-of-the-party guys who are also true to their wives, I happen to believe that a disproportionate number of them are cheaters.
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Emily Giffin (Baby Proof)
β
I canβt control your behavior; nor do I want that burdenβ¦ but I will not apologize for refusing to be disrespected, to be lied to, or to be mistreated. I have standards; step up or step out.
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Steve Maraboli
β
Can a man who lies, cheats, steals, and sometimes does violence to other people be a man of honor?
Kolabati looked into his eyes. "He can if he lies to liars, cheats cheaters, steals from thieves, and limits his violence to those who are violent.
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F. Paul Wilson
β
People pray for rain, then complain about the flood. They pray for it to stop raining, then bitch about the drought.
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
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love is a mental illness, an obsessive-compulsive disorder romanticized!
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
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If you are stupid enough to cheat, then definitely dumb enough to get caught.
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Aman Jassal (Rainbow - the shades of love)
β
Every age that has historical status is governed by aristocracies.
Aristocracy with the meaning - the best are ruling.
Peoples do never govern themselves. That lunacy was concocted by liberalism. Behind its "people's sovereignty" the slyest cheaters are hiding, who don't want to be recognized.
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Joseph Goebbels
β
besides, how can you cheat a cheater?
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Christopher Paolini
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We cheated, you and me, and someone noticed. I noticed you; someone else noticed me. It hurts us. That's not so bad. So many people cheat. Everywhere on every level. Everyone's cheated. I'm just saying that you don't need to see yourself as a cheater. Because that's not who you are. You're someone who cheated. There's a difference, and you should try to get that difference, or that's who you'll grow up to be.
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Anne Lamott (Crooked Little Heart)
β
When people don't tell you the truth what they really are saying is they don't value you or their relationship with you enough to be honest.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Creating gods who can see everything, and who hate cheaters and oath breakers, turns out to be a good way to reduce cheating and oath breaking.
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Jonathan Haidt (The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion)
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Some women would not cheat, and some would not have cheated, had they each married a man whom they love β¦ or at least like.
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Mokokoma Mokhonoana
β
Every man kills the things that he loves. Some with a look, some with flattery, the coward with a kiss.
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
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Fuck you. This isnβt about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.
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David Levithan (The Lover's Dictionary)
β
Women of dignity know when to stop expecting loyalty when he won't even give you honesty.
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Shannon L. Alder
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If a man tells you he's an asshole & that you deserve better, believe him...it's a warning. It's best you listen before he proves it to you.
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April Mae Monterrosa
β
No one has a harder job than the man who comes after the cheater.
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Elle Kennedy (The Play (Briar U, #3))
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I donβt play with cheaters and I donβt care if you are three seconds older than me, you donβt tell me what to do. Iβm not your bitch, boy.
Then stop acting like one. Whoever heard of Fear being a cry-baby.
The same people who made Dread a cheater. (Phobos)
Oh, go cry to mama, you nancy-boy. (Deimos)
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Sherrilyn Kenyon (Upon the Midnight Clear (Dark-Hunter, #12; Dream-Hunter, #2))
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You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.
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David Levithan
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So long there are women around, a cheater will cheat against his promise.
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Anthony Liccione
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Remember β magic is a cheaterβs game, and everyone who sees it wants to play.
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Gita Trelease (EnchantΓ©e (EnchantΓ©e, #1))
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The next day you look at the new pages. For once you don't want to burn them or give up writing forever.
It's a start, you say to the room.
...In the months that follow you bend to the work, because it feels like hope, like grace-- and because you know in your lying cheater's heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.
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Junot DΓaz (This Is How You Lose Her)
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A foolish woman believes that loyalty is automatic. A wise woman knows that it is earned.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
Claiming to love self, but willingly default to cheating at the first sign of trouble is nothing short of playing yourself. Your ego may feel avenged - temporarily - but your heart and soul, the true self, will suffer the long term affects of karma's justifiable sting.
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T.F. Hodge (From Within I Rise: Spiritual Triumph over Death and Conscious Encounters With the Divine Presence)
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Maxim 31:
Only cheaters prosper.
-The Seventy Maxims of Maximally Effective Mercenaries
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Howard Tayler
β
Finding out that you are not your loverβs only lover hurts, but not as much as discovering that you are the side chick β¦ or the side dick.
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Mokokoma Mokhonoana
β
Momma, a welfare cheater. A criminal who couldn't stand to se her kids go hungry, or grow up in slumbs and end up mugging people in dar corners. I guess the system didn't want her to get off relief, the way it kept sending social workers around to be sure Momma wasn't trying to make things better.
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Dick Gregory
β
Cheaters often accuse you of cheating. Liars often accuse you of lying. Insecure people often crumble your security. Behavior speaks... How someone treats you may have nothing to do with you; but can be a reflection of who they are.
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Steve Maraboli
β
A map, it is said, organizes wonder.
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Ellen Meloy (The Last Cheater's Waltz: Beauty and Violence in the Desert Southwest)
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That's about it. In the months that follow you bend to the work. Because it feels like hope, like grace--- and because you know in your lying cheater's heart that sometimes a start is all we ever get.
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Junot DΓaz (This Is How You Lose Her)
β
8. Fact: It is a bad idea to date a known cheater, because even if he doesn't cheat on you, you will always know he's capable of it and will never fully trust him. Then you will become even more insecure and neurotic than you already are.
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E. Lockhart (The Treasure Map of Boys: Noel, Jackson, Finn, Hutch, Gideonβand me, Ruby Oliver (Ruby Oliver, #3))
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This woman enabled her husband to cheat, and she wasn't doing either one of them any favors. Instead of leaving him, she would take him home, scold him, and then carry on with business as usual. Inside though, she would be hurting.
No woman could love a cheater and not pay the price for it.
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Rose Wynters (Delicate Devastation (The Endurers, #3))
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The fact that you do not trust your spouse or lover doesnβt necessarily mean that they are cheating on you; and the fact that you do doesnβt necessarily mean that they arenβt.
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Mokokoma Mokhonoana
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Resentment makes anything possible.
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
β
He's asking if you cheated on her, slapnuts."
Gavin swiveled his head to glare at Del. "Is that what you think? You actually think I would cheat on her?"
[...]
"No," Del said. "But we have to ask. It's a rule. We don't help cheaters.
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Lyssa Kay Adams (The Bromance Book Club (Bromance Book Club, #1))
β
Always choose silence with liars, cheaters, cowards or spineless people.
Don't ask them any kind of questions, you don't have to give them any kind of answers or explanations.
Ignore, avoid, stay away.
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Jyoti Patel
β
Most women got this thing called compassion. It doesn't make them foolish, just more forgiving. More capable of trying and hoping things worked out.
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Eric Jerome Dickey (Cheaters)
β
She wasn't his girlfriend. She was his bubblegum girl--only fun until she lost her flavor.
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Jenny Rosen (Cheater, Faker, Troublemaker)
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You're such a cheater. The best wood in your golf bag is your pencil!
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Rex Pickett (Sideways)
β
The investment world nevertheless has enough liars, cheaters, and thieves to keep Satan's check-in clerks frantically busy for decades to come.
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Benjamin Graham (The Intelligent Investor)
β
Livid:
F* You for cheating on me. F* you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too emotional. The same person who thought, oops, heβd gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. F* you. This isnβt about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned.
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David Levithan (The Lover's Dictionary)
β
Smiling, she went for his throat and almost had him, whenβusing a move that was all sorts of illegalβhe flipped her again so her front pressed into the leaf-laden ground, her wrists still locked in his iron grip and pinned above her head. βCheater.β
βSo says the woman who tried to kick my balls into my throat,β he pointed out, even as he licked the salt off the skin of her neck in a lazy and highly provocative move.
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Nalini Singh (Branded by Fire (Psy-Changeling, #6))
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In a narcissist's world you are not their one and only. You are an extension of that person and last place in their mind, while they secure back up narcissistic supply.
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Shannon L. Alder
β
People cheat because something is lacking in themβconnection, empathy, good character. Cheating is about entitlement. You might actually be a crappy spouse, but you did not make your spouse cheat.
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Tracy Schorn (Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady's Survival Guide)
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She had assumed they would see each other every day but she hadnβt really thought about the implications of having an affair with a married man. It wasnβt going to be a normal relationship.
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Kassandra Cross (Carrie's First Time (Carrie #1))
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It will always be foolish to ask a cheater if they would ever cheat on you.
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Dennis Adonis
β
Guess that makes me a cheater, huh?"
"No, it means you have a brother who cared.
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Katie McGarry (Pushing the Limits (Pushing the Limits, #1))
β
Relationships based on dishonesty, lies,
Secrets and cheats R not only predicted
to fail but also a waste of precious time
and energie! U canβt fool yourself 4ever!
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Lily Amis (Angel of Love Lily: Zak, My Sweet Inspiration)
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You know that when your partner deletes their messages to a past lover after being accused of cheating, then it is likely that they were being unfaithful in some way.
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Steven Magee
β
Best marks go to cheaters and memorizers. Marks depend on memorizing and not on real knowledge. When you cram into your head for a test you may get a high mark but forget it the next day. That's not an education. I suggest just Good and Bad at the end of the term on report cards. Or maybe nothing.
Frank Allen
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Bel Kaufman (Up the Down Staircase)
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I'm not bitter, I survived a liar. I'm not bitter, I weathered a cheater. I'm not bitter, I sustained a massive injury to the giant, bloody muscle in the center of my chest that is responsible for pumping blood through my entire body.
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Samantha Irby (Meaty)
β
If the world were full of the self-seeking individuals found in economics textbooks, it would grind to a halt because we would be spending most of our time cheating, trying to catch the cheaters, and punishing the caught. The world works as it does only because people are not the totally self seeking agents that free-market economics believes them to be. We need to design an economic system that, while acknowledging that people are often selfish, exploits other human motives to the full and gets the best out of people. The likelihood is that, if we assume the worst about people, we will get the worst out of them.
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Ha-Joon Chang (23 Things They Don't Tell You About Capitalism)
β
People do more for their fellows than return favors and punish cheaters. They often perform generous acts without the slightest hope for payback ranging from leaving a tip in a restaurant they will never visit again to throwing themselves on a live grenade to save their brothers in arms. [Robert] Trivers together with the economists Robert Frank and Jack Hirshleifer has pointed out that pure magnanimity can evolve in an environment of people seeking to discriminate fair weather friends from loyal allies. Signs of heartfelt loyalty and generosity serve as guarantors of one s promises reducing a partner s worry that you will default on them. The best way to convince a skeptic that you are trustworthy and generous is to be trustworthy and generous.
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Steven Pinker (The Blank Slate: The Modern Denial of Human Nature)
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When they want you in secret they donβt really want you. They want the adventure. Give them one by telling them where they can go.
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Donna Lynn Hope
β
Your son is a liar, a cheater, and possibly a murderer. Your coddling and over-the-top mothering has gotten Adam into this mess. The best thing you could do as a mother is to take note from mine and kill yourself.
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Jeneva Rose (The Perfect Marriage (Perfect, #1))
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He wasn't yours to get hurt by. He was someone else's and you knew that, so why are you offended? What right do you have to be hurt when you were a part of the deception (lying by omission)?
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Donna Lynn Hope
β
The fact that the person who you are sleeping with is also sleeping with another person or other people does not necessarily mean that he or she does not love you. And the fact that you are the only person who someone is sleeping with does not necessarily mean that he or she loves you.
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Mokokoma Mokhonoana
β
I've been ripped off, conned, lied to and cheated... but I'm still here. Cheaters never prosper. If stealing from you is the only way for them to get ahead - they're never going to get very far. Because thats all they are - just a thief. When they lose it, they can't rebuild because they don't know how. They never did the ground work in the first place. All they know is how to steal!
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Lisa Newton (How To Start Your Own Bookkeeping Business)
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i have to love myself more than i love him, in order to leave him.
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Kay M. Rutherford (The Last Cheater's Waltz Trusting Dog Trusting Self)
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I like three fingers of Irish and it ainβt whiskey.
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Erin R. Flynn (Thwarting Cheaters (Artemis University, #5))
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Perhaps most trivial talk is a need to talk about oneself; hence, the never-ending subject of health and sickness, children, travel, successes, what one did, and the innumerable daily things that seem to be important. Since one cannot talk about oneself all the time without being thought a bore, one must exchange the privilege by a readiness to listen to others talking about themselves. Private social meetings between individuals (and often, also, meetings of all kinds of associations and groups) are little markets where one exchanges oneβs need to talk about oneself and oneβs desire to be listened to for the need of others who seek the same opportunity. Most people respect this arrangement of exchange; those who donβt, and want to talk more about themselves than they are willing to listen, are βcheaters,β and they are resented and have to choose inferior company in order to be tolerated.
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Erich Fromm (The Art of Being)
β
Finders keepers!" Ian shouted, scooping up the overlay and hopping onto a rock outcropping.
"You cheater!" Amy was furious. No way was he going to get away with that. She climbed the rock, matching him step for step until she reached the top. There he turned to her, panting for breath. "Not bad for a Cahill," he said, grinning.
"You --y-y-you--" The words caught in her throat, the way they always did. He was staring at her, his eyes dancing with laughter, making her so knotted up with anger and hatred that she thought she would explode. "C-c-can't--"
But in that moment, something totally weird happened. Maybe it was a flip of his head, a movement in his eyebrow, she couldn't tell. But it was as if someone had suddenly held a painting at a different angle, and what appeared to be a stormy sea transformed into a bright bouquet -- a trick of the eye that proved everything was just a matter of perspective. His eyes were not mocking at all. They were inviting her, asking her to laugh along. Suddenly, her rage billowed up and blew off in wisps, like a cloud. "You're ... a Cahill, too," she replied.
"Touche."
His eyes didn't move a millimeter from hers.
This time she met his gaze. Solidly. This time she didn't feel like apologizing or attacking or running away. She wouldn't have minded if he just stared like that all day.
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Peter Lerangis (The Sword Thief (The 39 Clues, #3))
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Jealousy from a love affair is something (to which) even God can admit.
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Criss Jami (Healology)
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I was trying to spare her any further stress(...)I wasnβt
trying to be deceitful.
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Quinn Loftis (Prince of Wolves (The Grey Wolves, #1))
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I didn't mean to hurt her.
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Quinn Loftis (Prince of Wolves (The Grey Wolves, #1))
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Julita was being spinned like a top by a drop-dead-gorgeous Dominicano. Later she told us that heβd asked for her number and she had given him the wrong one.
βWhy did you do that?β I asked her.
βHe smelled married,β she said.
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Isabel Lopez (Isabel's Hand-Me-Down Dreams)
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You're a rule person," he said.
"My sister was a cheater. It sort of became necessary."
"She cheated at this game?"
"She cheated ateverything ," I said. "When we played Monopoly, she always
insisted on being banker,
then helped herself to multiple loans and 'service fees' for every real estate
transaction. I was, like, ten or
eleven before I played at someone else's house and they told me you couldn't do
that."
He laughed, the sound seeming loud in all the quiet. I felt myself smiling,
remembering.
"During staring contests," I said, "she always blinked.Always . But then she'd
swear up and down she
hadn't, and make you go again, and again. And when we played Truth, she lied.
Blatantly.
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Sarah Dessen (The Truth About Forever)
β
My name is Pride. I am a cheater. I cheat you of your God-given destiny . . . because you demand your own way. I cheat you of contentment . . . because you βdeserve better than this.β I cheat you of knowledge . . . because you already know it all. I cheat you of healing . . . because youβre too full of me to forgive. I cheat you of holiness . . . because you refuse to admit when youβre wrong. I cheat you of vision . . . because youβd rather look in the mirror than out a window. I cheat you of genuine friendship . . . because nobodyβs going to know the real you. I cheat you of love . . . because real romance demands sacrifice. I cheat you of greatness in heaven . . . because you refuse to wash anotherβs feet on earth. I cheat you of Godβs glory . . . because I convince you to seek your own. My name is Pride. I am a cheater. You like me because you think Iβm always looking out for you. Untrue. Iβm looking to make a fool of you. God has so much for you, I admit, but donβt worry . . . If you stick with me Youβll never know.
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Beth Moore (Praying God's Word: Breaking Free from Spiritual Strongholds)
β
He gazed sadly at the threatening sky, at the burned-out remnants of a locust-plagued summer, and suddenly saw on the twig of an acacia, as in a vision, the progress of spring, summer, fall and winter, as if the whole of time were a frivolous interlude in the much greater spaces of eternity, a brilliant conjuring trick to produce something apparently orderly out of chaos, to establish a vantage point from which chance might begin to look like necessity . . . and he saw himself nailed to the cross of his own cradle and coffin, painfully trying to tear his body away, only, eventually, to deliver himself β utterly naked, without identifying mark, stripped down to essentials β into the care of the people whose duty it was to wash the corpses, people obeying an order snapped out in the dry air against a background loud with torturers and flayers of skin, where he was obliged to regard the human condition without a trace of pity, without a single possibility of any way back to life, because by then he would know for certain that all his life he had been playing with cheaters who had marked the cards and who would, in the end, strip him even of his last means of defense, of that hope of someday finding his way back home.
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LΓ‘szlΓ³ Krasznahorkai (Satantango)
β
It was a little like Into the Sands, with Claude Barron, which she'd seen a couple of weeks ago. In that picture Claude Barron enlists in the Foreign Legion because Rita Carrol marries another guy. The other guy turns out to be a cheater and drinker, and so Rita Carrol leaves him and travels out to the desert where Claude Barron if fighting the Arabs. By the time Rita Carrol gets there heβs in the hospital, wounded, or not a hospital really but just a tent and she tells him she loves him and Claude Barron says, βI went into the desert to forget about you. But the sand was the color of your hair. The desert sky was the color of your eyes. There was nowhere I could go that wouldnβt be you.β And then he dies. Tessie cried buckets. Her mascara ran, staining the collar of her blouse something awful.
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Jeffrey Eugenides
β
Empowered Women 101: If they made you an option you will always be an option vs. the person they really wanted. Don't ever settle for someone that makes you go through hell only to stay with you because they don't have the confidence to go get what they really want. Fear will always follow your rules when they know they don't have options that make them stay comfortable. You won't grow real love in this type of a relationship. You will water weeds and call it a garden.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Don't ever believe that Narcissists don't understand they have hurt you. They know exactly what they did and why they did it. The reason they can't stop their abuse is because the narcissistic supply is their addiction. Unlike, drug addicts that need their fix to feel normal, narcissists need to feel significant. This is their addiction. Even if it takes destructive ways to have this emotional balance they will pursue it. Your feelings don't count only the supply does. The greater the supply the greater the drama in your life as they pursue it. So, get over believing they don't understand. They do understand. You just found out and got in the way of their easy access to greater supply than you.
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Shannon L. Alder
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Zombies have got to do a lot of hanging around together--weaklings, liars, cheaters. Everybody respects them these days, everybody thinks that if they don't respect them it means they're against civil liberties or something, but I can only sympathize with them a little, but only a little; I can't respect them, they bore me--their everlasting bawling about their tricky little sadnesses and deprivations of childhood bore me. You've introduced me to some of the people you know. I don't dislike any of them, but I really can't pretend I believe in any of them, or that they don't bore me. And in being critical of them of course I'm being critical of you, too, at least for having them as friends. There are other people around, too, you know, not just the ones who start by giving up, and then just hang around to see what giving up leads to. It leads to being a zombie of one sort or another.
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William Saroyan (Madness in the Family: Stories (New Directions Paperbook))