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What’s one thing you’re curious about trying in the bedroom with me?” Bingo! I got a response! Years later, after talking about the word “fantasy” with thousands of people, I can confidently say that we’re focusing on the wrong question. I asked our Instagram audience, “Do you have any fantasies?” and 70 percent said no. Many of us think that “fantasy” means “an incredibly elaborate and detailed scene involving role-playing and story arcs that I think about constantly and makes me orgasm just to think about.
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Vanessa Marin (Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life)