Billy Chapata Quotes

there are older versions of you that only exist because other people give them oxygen, and you are not obliged to keep those versions alive to make other people happy.

Not everything that comes back to you is meant for you. Sometimes things come back as a reminder of just how good you are without them.

You are much more divine than you give yourself credit for, much deeper than the perceptions others have built for you. You never have to measure your worth by what doesn’t come back, and what chooses not to stay.

sometimes life requires you to let go of the heaviness so you can travel lighter on your journey, and put memories on a shelf in the back of your mind to create space for new ones.

she's mastered the art of giving peices of herself to the world, while remaining whole. self love is the glue that keeps her together

i’d rather be alone than form convenient connections disguised as friendships.

i’ve extended myself to some who were afraid to catch me. i’ve extended myself to others who were unwilling to reach me. i’ve extended myself to a few who turned the lights off as i got closer, but i will no longer stretch my arms out to hold energy that doesn’t want to stay.

foresight. the goal is to be a little more in love with yourself than you were yesterday.

some of us are in long distance relationships with ourselves, and we don't even know it.

we were not meant to be romantic, we were just meant to be.

And I had to leave you behind. Not because there was no love But because there was no growth

understand, it is not my duty to make my truth taste sweet for you. my existence does not hinge on whether I am your cup of tea or not.

either, I'm an ocean that some lovers were too scared to dive in, and an ocean that swallowed others whole. my love will either illuminate you or intimidate you.

i have no desire to be with someone who completes me. I’d rather be with someone who shows me there is more to me than i even knew existed

what makes love beautiful is the decision to choose love despite how imperfect it is.

i had to strip my soul naked of peoples opinions so i could soak in my truth. now i swim free of guilt and love full. nothing can drown me.

darling, if you have to convince them of your worthiness, they might not be worth holding on to. poison comes in shiny bottles too.

darling, you don't have to be seen to be worthy. you are still whole without their acknowledgment. you will still breathe without their surveillance. you still exist.

Stop mourning versions of yourself that don’t exist anymore. Stop mourning dead connections that have no room for growth -live.

the aching never stops until you ask the aching what’s wrong why it aches when you’re alone why it aches when you’re in a crowd why it aches by the sun why it aches when the moon is out the aching never stops until you unpack all the questions your aching needs to hear

i forgive people for choosing to misunderstand me. holding grudges will only weigh me down, and being upset at them won’t make them understand me better, and that’s something i am learning.

your journey will scare some people. the steps that you take will intimidate others, and the paths that you take will confuse some. people are afraid of things they can’t control, and when they realize that they have no power over you, it scares them. it brings out their biggest fears, it unmasks their deepest insecurities, it reveals their true colors. when you live in your truth and it goes against what other people believe in, you’re always going to rub some people the wrong way. they’ll have opinions, they’ll have ideas, they’ll have assumptions, but what they think of you is none of your business.

(you can't love me the same way you loved old lovers) I am not a one-size-fits-all kinda lover. don't one-size-fits-all your love with me. learn me, feel my nuances, understand my internal language. I have layers that require time and patience.

your awareness opened me, but your overanalyzing closed me.

You will grow from everything you encounter You will grow from everyone you encounter. You will grow from everywhere you encounter: You will grow.

darling, if you have to convince them of your worthiness, they might not be worth holding on to. poison comes in shiny bottles too.

darling, don't give up on yourself. you're worth all the internal wars you've been fighting lately.

(I deserve to be appreciated always, all ways) I no longer find comfort in places that only celebrate me when it's convenient.

gentle reminder: not everything that comes back to you in meant for you. sometimes things come back as a reminder of just how good you are without them.

connection runs deeper than laughs and hugs, compatibility runs deeper than patience and tolerance, comfort runs deeper than closeness and chemistry.

when your actions are empty, i will not water your words to give them life

she had the kind of energy you only had to feel once to remember forever.

Don’t be afraid of new beginnings. Don’t shy away from new people, new energy, new surroundings. Embrace new chances at happiness.

Dialogue is oxygen, conversations are energy, words are food. Your soul is too vast to be feeding on anything that doesn't fill you. You deserve exchanges that feel like full course meals.

people come, and call it love. people stay, and call it love. people go, and call it love. but this is why you must become love, so that regardless of what they do or do not do, you still remain full.

empathy can be your best friend or your biggest enemy. there will be several situations in life that will bring you to a crossroad. a crossroad between what’s good for you and what’s good for them. understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being selfish and doing what’s best for you. some people won’t understand your decisions initially, and some may never understand at all, but your peace of mind and happiness are not worth sacrificing for anything or anyone. you’ve worked too hard on yourself to be affected by people and things that don’t understand the energy and time you’ve put into yourself.

MANTRA i am flourishing, with or without your energy, with or without your opinion, with or without your acceptance, with or without your blessing, with or without your love, with or without you, i am flourishing

(lessons taught in time) if its toxic, let it breathe elsewhere. stop waiting for bad love to feel good again. stop waiting for bad love to taste sweet. empathy won't change stones into gold. time won't change poison into honey.

I find myself missing you sometimes Wondering what you're doing What you're looking at What scents surround the air In the place that you're in But in all honesty It's your tattoos I'm jealous of They get to follow you everywhere you go

Being truly listened to is such a deep form of intimacy, having your thoughts carried with love and without judgment, opening your heart and having your burdens lightened with emotional intelligence, feeling seen when you're struggling to recognize yourself, pure magic.

to the woman at war with her body: I hope you learn to lay your weapons down, so you may learn that peace exists inward and not by what you see in the reflection. I hope you learn that what you tell yourself will always be more important that what they have to say about you.

worthy. I no longer make room for people who won't allow me to make room for myself. I am deserving of space that doesn't come with resentment attached to it when I need it. I am deserving of hiatuses to re-collect myself without it being held against me. I am allowed to breathe.

dissimilarities. the most toxic people love to hold everyone accountable but themselves. the most poisonous people are quick to shift blame. but slow to assume responsibility. I hope you learn the difference between the ones who need help and the ones who aren't willing to help themselves.

(end the narrative that there are good and bad people on your journey. introduce the idea that the people who are put along your path are placed there to help mold you into the masterpiece you need to be going forward) what if I told you that there are no villains or heroes in your story but only people and situations placed in your path to help you bloom into the person you need to be?

there are many people who you are going to have to learn to forgive even with an absence of an apology. not because you don’t deserve one but only because you deserve peace of mind. we often attach the importance of forgiveness to words when the truth is not everyone will be willing to or can truly comprehend the language of your pain. waiting for an apology that is never coming will only poison you slowly. waiting for an apology that is never coming will only give you a false sense of your worth. waiting for an apology that is never coming will only steal your peace and replace it with grief.

if you're reading this, I'm probably gone by now. I used to reside in your heart, but I had to move out recently. between you and me, it became a little too expensive to live there. it cost me too much happiness, and it cost me so much peace, and these are things I never budgeted for when you asked me to move in. the warmth I felt in the air when I first move in slowly turned cold, and even though I attempted several times to repair the broken windows and fix the energy between us, sometimes situations should be left alone before common ground is found. we've waited and waited, staring at clocks and hoping time can replace everything we've lost, but the only thing I've found is that it's best for me to pack my belongings and go. sleeping in a cold heart every day and hoping that it will warm up is like playing a game of russian roulette with my happiness, and I'm not trying to take any chances. so I moved out and came back to myself, and I can safely say there's no place like home.

i met your mother for the first time today, and i felt your pain through her eyes. i saw your self-esteem in her body language. i heard your insecurities in her laugh. she gave you life, and in turn, you’ve given life to the things she dislikes about herself. she experienced life, and in turn, you’ve adopted her experiences and made them your own. your whole life, you’ve lived up to skewed ideologies of how a woman should be and how a woman should conduct herself. your whole life, you’ve looked up to faux versions of what a woman should be and what a woman must consist of to be worthy. your whole life, you’ve been drinking water from a source dripping in your mother’s trauma and heartache, and it’s poisoned the perception you have of yourself and the perception you have of the world. you’ve dived deep to find answers to your mother’s pain only to find yourself at her feet every time you come up for air. you’ve been swimming in your mother’s tears for too long, drowning in a battle that was never yours to begin with. there is much she taught you that you must unlearn so you may become your own woman. there is much she taught you that you must unlearn so your daughters may become their own women. there is much she taught you that you must forgive her for so you may finally begin your own healing. i met your mother for the first time today, and i feel like i finally met you.

I promise that you’re not asking for too much. I promise that you’re not being too demanding. Never compromise the intensity of your love.

Happiness isn’t always an indication that everything in your life is perfect, or that things are necessarily flowing your way. Sometimes, happiness is simply the choice to see the light in everything that you can, despite how imperfect or unclear your current situation may be. —Billy Chapata

Boundaries. There are walls that exist within me that I must break down for my own growth, but there are also walls that exist within me that I must keep up so people know that I am not available at their convenience.

(some connections never die) honor the friendships that allow you to pick up from where you last left off, regardless of how long it's been since you connected. the friendships that survive hiatuses, silences, and space. those are the connections that never die.

darling, you're lonely, and you've been searching for fulfillment in different places, but set your bags down for a minute and stop searching. you've been looking for love everywhere but in yourself.

never. loyalty should never be the safeguard. you are not obligated to tolerate what isn't good for you just because of how long you've known someone, or because of the things you've experienced together. loyalty should never be an excuse for the lack of accountability.

discernment. I started becoming more intentional about my boundaries when I realized that I was unintentionally inviting unwanted energy into my space. when I made peace with the realization that keeping certain people at a distance doesn't make you a bad person when your intentions are good.

Your wounded inner child has valid reasons for the pain they feel, but your wounded inner child also doesn’t deserve control over your decisions and narrative as an adult.

Don’t be too hard on yourself for the moments you’ve fallen back into patterns you may have thought you abandoned or thought you were beating, be grateful for the awareness that comes with recognizing that you have outgrown that shallow vibration you used to swim in before.

to my future son: strip the idea that softness and masculinity are mutually exclusive.

lately, you've been swimming beneath the waves to avoid everyone's energy, but I want you to know that drowning your being for anyone won't make you feel more alive.

(it's nothing personal, it's just growth) my growth is too important to hold on to connections that no longer serve me. my growth is too important to hold on to connections that don't have the desire to be kept. I will honor the connections I have with myself before I honor any connection I may have with anyone else.

(you are enough) have you ever wondered about how much of the pain you carry around actually belongs to you? have you ever wondered how much of the pain you carry around is inherited from lovers, family and friends? you can't be medicine to everyone, and that doesn't make you inadequate.

(the value of your work, ideas or self is not dictated by anyone but you. no one has the power to take away or add on to the value of everything you are or the value of anything you put into the world. you don't need anyone's approval but your own) validation is poison. your magic doesn't need anyone's approval to be potent.

(just saying) do not confuse my unwillingness to interact with you as a sign of being antisocial. chances are, your spirit snitched on you and my intuition caught on.

mantra: I could never be for everyone, because everyone is not for me.

intercession. I pray you are able to tell the difference between those who accept you for who you are and those who are infatuated by your potential. some are attracted by what you could be, and some are ready to accept you for what you are currently. living up to people's expectations of you is not your duty.

there are many people who you are going to have to learn to forgive even with an absence of an apology. not because you don’t deserve one but only because you deserve peace of mind.

you deserve connections that don't require you to walk on eggshells to get a point across. you deserve connections that don't require you to sacrifice your peace just to protect feelings or egos. you deserve connections that don't require you to distance yourself from yourself.

you deserve connections that don't require you to walk on eggshells to get a point across. you deserve connections that don't require you to sacrifice your peace just to protect feelings or egos. you deserve connections that don't require you to distance your self from yourself.

vulnerability & visibility your inner child is still waiting for you to listen to all the things other people ignored when you were younger. your inner child is still waiting to be received by arms that hold your concerns with the same amount of weight. your inner child is still waiting to be seen, by you.

oxymoron silence can be both healing and toxic, but never at the same time.

i'm more concerned with whether you enjoy being around yourself rather than whether you enjoy being around me. ---a connection free from attachment

SOUL FILTERS: your low points always give you insight into your connections. they unmask the ones who disguise themselves as helping hands and solidify the presence of the ones with pure intentions. let your low points sift through your connections. let your low points filter through your energy.

SOUL FILTERS your low points always give you insight into your connections. they unmask the ones who disguise themselves as helping hands and solidify the presence of the ones with pure intentions. let your low points sift through your connections. let your low points filter through your energy.

Some people are only comfortable with you growing as long as you don't outgrow them, but I hope you never get in the habit of staying rooted in places that limit your bloom. You deserve the space to grow without having to massage any egos or apologize for your light being bright.

UNDERSTAND that some people are only able to handle older versions of you. they will turn away from who you are currently because they don't know what growth looks like. you are not required to reprise older roles you once assumed to make other people comfortable.

i pray, that you never become so familiar with pain that you reject anything good that tries to find you.

AUTHENTIC BONS there is no connection more powerful than two people bringing their individualities to the table with no intention of diluting each other's essence but instead, celebrating what makes each other unique.

AUTHENTIC BONDS there is no connection more powerful than two people bringing their individualities to the table with no intention of diluting each other's essence but instead, celebrating what makes each other unique.

SOUL FILTERS your low points always give you insight into your connections. they unmask the ones who disguise themselves as helping hands and solidify the presence of the ones with pure intentions. let your low points sift through your connections. let your low points filter through your energy.

MANTRA I am flourishing, with or without your energy, with or without your opinion, with or without your acceptance, with or without your blessing, with or without your love, with or without you, i am flourishing.

i see more than i say. . . do not mistake my gentleness for passiveness. the lack of words is not a lack of awareness.

i view things differently now, so if you're still looking at me from the lens i used yesterday, you probably won't see me.

Being loved feels warm. Loving yourself feels like the entire sun inside of you.

A life constantly lived trying to be enough for other people is exhausting. Eventually I hope you learn to breathe, choose yourself, and realize that as long as you're enough for yourself, you'll never need to overpour in someone else's cup to keep them around or keep them happy.

Sometimes you heal and become a completely different person, other times you heal and become a stronger version of the person you were always meant to be.

At a stage in my life where settling unsettles every fabric of my soul. I want experiences and connections that fit the person I am growing into and not who I was, at a point where I don't dress up what I've outgrown out of fear or self-doubt.

At a stage in my life where I only want to be surrounded by people that are sure of me even in my most uncertain moments. People with actions that leave me with more answers than questions, at a point where I'm more concerned with energy that is coated in pure intentions.

At a stage in my life where I want to ease into everything I'm still healing from instead of going to war with myself constantly to find peace, at a point where fighting for my happiness doesn't interest me as much as being gentle with me and leaning into softness.

At a stage in my life where I won't water dead connections or resurrect older versions of myself to make other people comfortable, at a point where I'm fine being less palatable even if my truth doesn't taste sweet.

. . . i'm slowly learning that the ones who truly see you won't need a light beam, a candle, a moonlight, or an excuse-- they will just see you, and see you for you, and you will never have any reason to doubt it.

for too long, you've clapped for people who have kept their hands in their pockets when good things happen to you, and i hope you find the awareness to move to where you feel synergy in how you're appreciated.

When the waves show you where you stand with certain people don't resist the current, let the clarity wash over you, let the realizations reveal who is anchored with you, let the storm strip away the performative connections leaving you with genuine ones when you arrive at shore.

In the right spaces, you won't have to shout to be heard, you won't have to shine a flashlight on your wounds to be seen, you won't have to change the language in your soul's dictionary to be understood, you will be able to come as you are without having to alter your identity.

Conversations with good intentions, exchanges that feel like cardio sessions for the soul, dialogue directed in growth that leads you back to yourself, words wrapped in vulnerability and soaked in honesty—conversations like this.

as my relationships with others change, my relationship with myself evolves too. at times i can’t get enough of myself, and at other times i need a hiatus from me. at times i understand myself, and at other times i find need for rediscovery. at every phase, I AM MY OWN PRIORITY.

Conversations that ask you to leave ego at the door before you enter, ears that open just as wide as your heart does when they listen, soul spills that don't require you to clean up the language behind them, communication that flows more than it fights to be understood.

you don’t have to feel guilty for finding happiness anymore. you are allowed to live in your truth without worrying about the ones you left behind.

the most toxic people love to hold everyone accountable but themselves. the most poisonous people are quick to shift blame but slow to assume responsibility. i hope you learn the difference between the ones who need help and the ones who aren’t willing to help themselves.

what’s for me is already mine. nothing and no one can take what rightfully belongs to me.

honor the friendships that allow you to pick up from where you last left off, regardless of how long it’s been since you connected. the friendships that survive hiatuses, silences, and space. those are the connections that never die.

if they have no idea about the things you’ve endured, never let them paint your pain as something ordinary, something common, something unimportant. your experiences were not meant to be minimized to make other people less uncomfortable.