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To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.
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We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
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If one cannot enjoy reading a book over and over again, there is no use in reading it at all.
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You will always be fond of me. I represent to you all the sins you never had the courage to commit.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does, and that is his.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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Those who find ugly meanings in beautiful things are corrupt without being charming. This is a fault. Those who find beautiful meanings in beautiful things are the cultivated. For these there is hope. They are the elect to whom beautiful things mean only Beauty. There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written. That is all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Never marry at all, Dorian. Men marry because they are tired, women, because they are curious: both are disappointed.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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If you are not long, I will wait for you all my life.
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There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book.
Books are well written, or badly written. That is all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Laughter is not at all a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is by far the best ending for one.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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An idea that is not dangerous is unworthy of being called an idea at all.
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It takes great deal of courage to see the world in all its tainted glory, and still to love it.
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Oscar Wilde (An Ideal Husband)
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All art is quite useless.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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I donβt say we all ought to misbehave. But we ought to look as if we could
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Never regret thy fall,
O Icarus of the fearless flight
For the greatest tragedy of them all
Is never to feel the burning light.
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I hope you have not been leading a double life, pretending to be wicked and being good all the time. That would be hypocrisy.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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We women, as some one says, love with our ears, just as you men love with your eyes, if you ever love at all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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She is all the great heroines of the world in one. She is more than an individual. I love her, and I must make her love me. I want to make Romeo jealous. I want the dead lovers of the world to hear our laughter, and grow sad. I want a breath of our passion to stir dust into consciousness, to wake their ashes into pain.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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The reason we all like to think so well of others is that we are all afraid for ourselves. The basis of optimism is sheer terror.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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A man who does not think for himself does not think at all.
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Oscar Wilde
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It takes great courage to see the world in all its tainted glory, and still to love it. And even more courage to see it in the one you love
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Oscar Wilde (An Ideal Husband)
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Oscar Wilde once said that to live is the rarest thing in the world, because most people just exist, and thatβs all. I donβt know if heβs right, but I do know that I spend a long time existing, and now, I intend to live.
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Robyn Schneider (The Beginning of Everything)
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I was working on the proof of one of my poems all the morning, and took out a comma. In the afternoon I put it back again.
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Oscar Wilde
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Memory is the diary we all carry about with us.
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How you can sit there, calmly eating muffins when we are in this horrible trouble, I canβt make out. You seem to me to be perfectly heartless."
"Well, I canβt eat muffins in an agitated manner. The butter would probably get on my cuffs. One should always eat muffins quite calmly. It is the only way to eat them."
"I say itβs perfectly heartless your eating muffins at all, under the circumstances.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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You are more to me than any of them has any idea; you are the atmosphere of beauty through which I see life; you are the incarnation of all lovely things...I think of you day and night. ~ Letter to Lord Alfred 'Bosie' Douglas
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I really don't see anything romantic in proposing. It is very romantic to be in love. But there is nothing romantic about a definite proposal. Why, one may be accepted. One usually is, I believe. Then the excitement is all over. The very essence of romance is uncertainty. If ever I get married, I'll certainly try to forget the fact.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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The only way a woman can ever reform a man is by boring him so completely that he loses all possible interest in life.
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Oscar Wilde
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All art is at once surface and symbol. Those who go beneath the surface do so at their peril.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation, and conversation must have a common basis, and between two people of widely different culture the only common basis possible is the lowest level.
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Oscar Wilde
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Alcohol, taken in sufficient quantities, may produce all the effects of drunkenness.
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Oscar Wilde
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You have killed my love. You used to stir my imagination. Now you don't even stir my curiosity. You simply produce no effect. I loved you because you were marvelous, because you had genius and intellect, because you realized the dreams of great poets and gave shape and substance to the shadows of art. You have thrown it all away. You are shallow and stupid.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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The only artists I have ever known who are personally delightful are bad artists. Good artists exist simply in what they make, and consequently are perfectly uninteresting in what they are. A great poet, a really great poet, is the most unpoetical of all creatures. But inferior poets are absolutely fascinating. The worse their rhymes are, the more picturesque they look. The mere fact of having published a book of second-rate sonnets makes a man quite irresistible. He lives the poetry that he cannot write. The others write the poetry that they dare not realize.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Conscience and cowardice are really the same things, Basil. Conscience is the trade-name of the firm. That is all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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When I think of all the harm [the Bible] has done, I despair of ever writing anything to equal it.
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Oscar Wilde
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All bad poetry springs from genuine feeling. To be natural is to be obvious, and to be obvious is to be inartistic.
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Oscar Wilde
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Gwendolen, it is a terrible thing for a man to find out suddenly that all his life he has been speaking nothing but the truth. Can you forgive me?
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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Because to influence a person is to give him one's own soul. He does not think his natural thoughts, or burn with his natural passions. His virtues are not real to him. His sins, if there are such things as sins, are borrowed. He becomes an echo of some one else's music, an actor of a part that has not been written for him. The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly -- that is what each of us is here for. People are afraid of themselves, nowadays. They have forgotten the highest of all duties, the duty that one owes to oneself. Of course they are charitable. They feed the hungry, and clothe the beggar. But their own souls starve, and are naked. Courage has gone out of our race. Perhaps we never really had it. The terror of society, which is the basis of morals, the terror of God, which is the secret of religion -- these are the two things that govern us.
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[On Oscar Wilde:]
"If, with the literate, I am
Impelled to try an epigram,
I never seek to take the credit;
We all assume that Oscar said it.
[Life Magazine, June 2, 1927]
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Dorothy Parker
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It's an odd thing, but anyone who disappears
is said to be seen in San Francisco.
It must be a delightful city and possess
all the attractions of the next world.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Jack: βGwendolen, wait here for me.β
Gwendolen: βIf you are not too long, I will wait here for you all my life.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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In the common world of fact the wicked were not punished, nor the good rewarded. Success was given to the strong, failure thrust upon the weak. That was all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Perhaps, after all, America never has been discovered. I myself would say that it had merely been detected.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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We can forgive a man for making a useful thing as long as he does not admire it. The only excuse for making a useless thing is that one admires it intensely.
All art is quite useless.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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And all the woe that moved him so
That he gave that bitter cry
the wild regrets, and the bloody sweats
None knew so well as I:
For he who lives more lives than one
More deaths than one must die.
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I regard the theatre as the greatest of all art forms, the most immediate way in which a human being can share with another the sense of what it is to be a human being.
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And alien tears will fill for him pity's long broken urn. For his mourners will all be outcast men, and outcasts always mourn.
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The ugly and stupid have the best of it in this world. They can sit at their ease and gape at the play. If they know nothing of victory, they are at least spared the knowledge of defeat. They live as we all should live-- undisturbed, indifferent, and without disquiet. They never bring ruin upon others, nor ever receive it from alien hands. Your rank and wealth, Henry; my brains, such as they are-- my art, whatever it may be worth; Dorian Gray's good looks-- we shall all suffer for what the gods have given us, suffer terribly.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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I love hearing my relations abused. It is the only thing that makes me put up with them at all. Relations are simply a tedious pack of people, who haven't got the remotest knowledge of how to live nor the smallest instinct about when to die.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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He is really not so ugly after all, provided, of course, that one shuts one's eyes, and does not look at him.
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Oscar Wilde (A House of Pomegranates)
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And all at once, summer collapsed into fall.
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The aim of life is self-development. To realise one's nature perfectly-that is what each of us is here for. People are afraid of themselves, nowadays. They have forgotten the highest of all duties, the duty that one owes to one's self. Of course they are charitable. They feed the hungry, and clothe the beggar. But their own souls starve, and are naked.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Conscience makes egotists of us all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Certainly the most destructive vice if you like, that a person can have. More than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins - is self pity. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred's a subset of self pity and not the other way around - ' It destroys everything around it, except itself '.
Self pity will destroy relationships, it'll destroy anything that's good, it will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. And it's so simple to imagine that one is hard done by, and that things are unfair, and that one is underappreciated, and that if only one had had a chance at this, only one had had a chance at that, things would have gone better, you would be happier if only this, that one is unlucky. All those things. And some of them may well even be true. But, to pity oneself as a result of them is to do oneself an enormous disservice.
I think it's one of things we find unattractive about the american culture, a culture which I find mostly, extremely attractive, and I like americans and I love being in america. But, just occasionally there will be some example of the absolutely ravening self pity that they are capable of, and you see it in their talk shows. It's an appalling spectacle, and it's so self destructive. I almost once wanted to publish a self help book saying 'How To Be Happy by Stephen Fry : Guaranteed success'. And people buy this huge book and it's all blank pages, and the first page would just say - ' Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself - And you will be happy '. Use the rest of the book to write down your interesting thoughts and drawings, and that's what the book would be, and it would be true. And it sounds like 'Oh that's so simple', because it's not simple to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's bloody hard. Because we do feel sorry for ourselves, it's what Genesis is all about.
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To get into the best society, nowadays, one has either to feed people, amuse people, or shock people - that is all!
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Oscar Wilde (A Woman of No Importance)
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And, after all, what is a fashion? From the artistic point of view, it is usually a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.
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Oscar Wilde (The Importance of Being Earnest)
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How long could you love a woman who didn't love you, Cecil?
A woman who didn't love me? Oh, all my life!
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Oscar Wilde (Lady Windermere's Fan)
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In all matters of opinion, our adversaries are insane.
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Ah, on what little things does happiness depend! I have read all that the wise men have written, and all the secrets of philosophy are mine, yet for want of a red rose is my life made wretched.
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Oscar Wilde (The Nightingale and the Rose)
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She was a curious woman, whose dresses always looked as if they had been designed in a rage and put on in a tempest. She was usually in love with somebody, and, as her passion was never returned, she had kept all her illusions. She tried to look picturesque, but only succeeded in being untidy.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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My experience is that as soon as people are old enough to know better, they don't know anything at all.
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Oscar Wilde (Lady Windermere's Fan)
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Travel improves the mind wonderfully, and does away with all oneβs prejudices.
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Oscar Wilde (The Happy Prince and Other Tales)
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When I like people immensely I never tell their names to anyone. It is like surrendering a part of them. I have grown to love secrecy. It seems to be the one thing that can make modern life mysterious or marvelous to us. The commonest thing is delightful if one only hides it. When I leave town now I never tell my people where I am going. If I did, I would lose all my pleasure. It is a silly habit, I daresay, but somehow it seems to bring a great deal of romance into one's life.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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It is a sad thing to think of, but there is no doubt that genius lasts longer than beauty. That accounts for the fact that we all take such pains to over-educate ourselves. In the wild struggle for existence, we want to have something that endures, and so we fill our minds with rubbish and facts, in the silly hope of keeping our place. The thoroughly well-informed man--that is the modern ideal. And the mind of the thoroughly well-informed man is a dreadful thing. It is like a bric-a-brac shop, all monsters and dust, with everything priced above its proper value.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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history only existed in the human mind, subject to endless revision. 'each man kills the thing he loves'-Oscar Wilde. You kill it before it kills you, but he was wrong. you killed it by accident. thinking you were doing something else. shattering, when all you wanted to do was keep it safe.
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Janet Fitch (Paint it Black)
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The bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation
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Oscar Wilde (De Profundis)
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Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. And unselfishness is letting other people's lives alone, not interfering with them. Selfishness always aims at creating around it an absolute uniformity of type. Unselfishness recognizes infinite variety of type as a delightful thing, accepts it, acquiesces in it, enjoys it. It is not selfish to think for oneself. A man who does not think for himself does not think at all. It is grossly selfish to require of one's neighbor that he should think in the same way, and hold the same opinions. Why should he? If he can think, he will probably think differently. If he cannot think, it is monstrous to require thought of any kind from him. A red rose is not selfish because it wants to be a red rose. It would be horribly selfish if it wanted all the other flowers in the garden to be both red and roses.
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Oscar Wilde (The Soul of Man & Prison Writings)
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I quite agree with Dr. Nordau's assertion that all men of genius are insane, but Dr. Nordau forgets that all sane people are idiots.
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I am not at all cynical, I have merely got experience, which, however, is very much the same thing.
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To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all
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Oscar Wilde (The Soul of Man Under Socialism)
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I represent to you all the sins you have never had the courage to commit.
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All sins, except a sin against itself, Love should forgive. All lives, save loveless lives, true Love should pardon.
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Oscar Wilde (An Ideal Husband)
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Be happy, cried the Nightingale, be happy; you shall have your red rose. I will build it out of music by moonlight, and stain it with my own heart's-blood. All that I ask of you in return is that you will be a true lover, for Love is wiser than Philosophy, though she is wise, and mightier than Power, though he is mighty. Flame-coloured are his wings, and coloured like flame is his body. His lips are sweet as honey, and his breath is like frankincense.
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Oscar Wilde (The Nightingale and the Rose)
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We should treat all the trivial things of life seriously, and all the serious things of life with sincere and studied triviality.
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Oscar Wilde
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All great ideas are dangerous.
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The only excuse for making a useless thing is that one admires it intensely. All art is quite useless.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Damn it all, MacMurrough, are you telling me you are an unspeakable of the Oscar Wilde sort?β
βIf you mean am I Irish, the answer is yes.
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Jamie O'Neill (At Swim, Two Boys)
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When a golden girl can win
Prayer from out the lips of sin,
When the barren almond bears,
And a little child gives away its tears,
Then shall all the house be still
And peace come to Canterville.
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Oscar Wilde (The Canterville Ghost)
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The error all women commit. Why canβt you women love us, faults
and all? Why do you place us on monstrous pedestals? We have all feet of
clay, women as well as men; but when we men love women, we love them
knowing their weaknesses, their follies, their imperfections, love them all
the more, it may be, for that reason. It is not the perfect, but the imperfect,
who have need of love. It is when we are wounded by our own hands,
or by the hands of others, that love should come to cure us β else what use
is love at all? All sins, except a sin against itself, Love should forgive. All
lives, save loveless lives, true Love should pardon. A manβs love is like that.
It is wider, larger, more human than a womanβs. Women think that they
are making ideals of men. What they are making of us are false idols
merely. You made your false idol of me, and I had not the courage to
come down, show you my wounds, tell you my weaknesses. I was afraid
that I might lose your love, as I have lost it now.
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Oscar Wilde (An Ideal Husband)
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Love does not traffic in a marketplace, nor use a huckster's scales. Its joy, like the joy of the intellect, is to feel itself alive. The aim of Love is to love: no more, and no less. You were my enemy: such an enemy as no man ever had. I had given you all my life, and to gratify the lowest and most contemptible of all human passions, hatred and vanity and greed, you had thrown it away. In less than three years you had entirely ruined me in every point of view. For my own sake there was nothing for me to do but to love you.
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It seems to me that we all look at Nature too much, and live with her too little. I discern great sanity in the Greek attitude. They never chattered about sunsets, or discussed whether the shadows on the grass were really mauve or not. But they saw that the sea was for the swimmer, and the sand for the feet of the runner. They loved the trees for the shadow that they cast, and the forest for its silence at noon.
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Suppose neutral angels were able to talk, Yahweh and Lucifer β God and Satan, to use their popular titles β into settling out of court. What would be the terms of the compromise? Specifically, how would they divide the assets of their early kingdom?
Would God be satisfied the loaves and fishes and itty-bitty thimbles of Communion wine, while Satan to have the red-eye gravy, eighteen-ounce New York Stakes, and buckets of chilled champagne? Would God really accept twice-a-month lovemaking for procreative purposes and give Satan the all night, no-holds-barred, nasty βcanβt-get-enough-of-youβ hot-as-hell-fucks?
Think about it. Would Satan get New Orleans, Bangkok, and the French Riviera and God get Salt Lake City? Satan get ice hockey, God get horseshoes? God get bingo, Satan get stud poker? Satan get LSD; God, Prozac? God get Neil Simon; Satan Oscar Wilde?
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But beauty, real beauty, ends where an intellectual expression begins. Intellect is in itself a mode of exaggeration, and destroys the harmony of any face. The moment one sits down to think, one becomes all nose, or all forehead, or something horrid. Look at the successful men in any of the learned professions. How perfectly hideous they are! Except, of course, in the Church. But then in the Church they don't think.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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I am afraid that woman appreciate cruelty, downright cruelty, more than anything else. They have wonderfully primitive instincts. We have emancipated them, but they remain slaves looking for their masters, all the same. They love being dominated.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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I choose my friends for their good looks, my acquaintances for their good characters, and my enemies for their good intellects. A man cannot be too careful in his choice of enemies. I have not got one who is a fool. They are all men of some intellectual power, and consequently they all appreciate me. Is that very vain of me? I think that it is rather vain.
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Oscar Wilde
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You, who know all the secrets of life, tell me how to charm Sibyl Vane to love me! I want to make Romeo jealous, I want the dead lovers of the world to hear our laughter, and grow sad. I want a breath of our passion to stir their dust into consciousness, to wake their ashes into pain. My God, Harry, how I worship her!
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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What a fuss people make about fidelity!" exclaimed Lord Henry. "Why, even in love it is purely a question for physiology. It has nothing to do with our own will. Young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be faithless, and cannot: that is all one can say.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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The things people say of a man do not alter a man. He is what he is. Public opinion is of no value whatsoever. Even if people employ actual violence, they are not to be violent in turn. That would be to fall to the same low level. After all, even in prison, a man can be quite free. His soul can be free. His personality can be untroubled. He can be at peace. And, above all things, they are not to interfere with other people or judge them in any way. Personality is a very mysterious thing. A man cannot always be estimated by what he does. He may keep the law, and yet be worthless. He may break the law, and yet be fine. He may be bad, without ever doing anything bad. He may commit a sin against society, and yet realize through that sin his true perfection.
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Oscar Wilde (The Soul of Man Under Socialism)
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Reading the very best writersβlet us say Homer, Dante, Shakespeare, Tolstoyβis not going to make us better citizens. Art is perfectly useless, according to the sublime Oscar Wilde, who was right about everything. He also told us that all bad poetry is sincere. Had I the power to do so, I would command that these words be engraved above every gate at every university, so that each student might ponder the splendor of the insight.
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Harold Bloom (The Western Canon: The Books and School of the Ages)
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There are few of us who have not sometimes wakened before dawn, either after one of those dreamless nights that make one almost enamoured of death, or one of those nights of horror and misshapen joy, when through the chambers of the brain sweep phantoms more terrible than reality itself, and instinct with that vivid life that lurks in all grotesques, and that lends to Gothic art its enduring vitality, this art being, one might fancy, especially the art of those whose minds have been troubled with the malady of reverie.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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Actual life was chaos, but there was something terribly logical in the imagination. It was the imagination that set remorse to dog the feet of sin. It was the imagination that made each crime bear its misshapen brood. In the common world of fact the wicked were not punished, nor the good rewarded. Success was given to the strong, failure thrust upon the weak. That was all.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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There are few of us who have not sometimes wakened before dawn, either after one of those dreamless nights that make us almost enamoured of death, or one of those nights of horror and misshapen joy, when through the chambers of the brain sweep phantoms more terrible than reality itself, and instinct with that vivid life that lurks in all grotesques, and that lends to Gothic art its enduring vitality, this art being, one might fancy, especially the art of those whose minds have been troubled with the malady of reverie. Gradually white fingers creep through the curtains, and they appear to tremble. In black fantastic shapes, dumb shadows crawl into the corners of the room and crouch there. Outside, there is the stirring of birds among the leaves, or the sound of men going forth to their work, or the sigh and sob of the wind coming down from the hills and wandering round the silent house, as though it feared to wake the sleepers and yet must needs call forth sleep from her purple cave. Veil after veil of thin dusky gauze is lifted, and by degrees the forms and colours of things are restored to them, and we watch the dawn remaking the world in its antique pattern. The wan mirrors get back their mimic life. The flameless tapers stand where we had left them, and beside them lies the half-cut book that we had been studying, or the wired flower that we had worn at the ball, or the letter that we had been afraid to read, or that we had read too often. Nothing seems to us changed. Out of the unreal shadows of the night comes back the real life that we had known. We have to resume it where we had left off, and there steals over us a terrible sense of the necessity for the continuance of energy in the same wearisome round of stereotyped habits, or a wild longing, it may be, that our eyelids might open some morning upon a world that had been refashioned anew in the darkness for our pleasure, a world in which things would have fresh shapes and colours, and be changed, or have other secrets, a world in which the past would have little or no place, or survive, at any rate, in no conscious form of obligation or regret, the remembrance even of joy having its bitterness and the memories of pleasure their pain.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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There are moments, psychologists tell us, when the passion for sin, or what the world calls sin, so dominates a nature, that every fibre of the body, as every cell of the brain, seems to be instinct with fearful impulses. Men and women at such moments lose the freedom of their will. They move to their terrible end as automatons move. Choice is taken from them, and conscience is either killed, or, if it lives at all, lives but to give rebellion its fascination, and disobedience its charm.
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You silly Arthur! If you knew anything about...anything, which you don't, you would know that I adore you. Everyone in London knows it except you. It is a public scandal the way I adore you. I have been going about for the last six months telling the whole of society that I adore you. I wonder you consent to have anything to say to me. I have no character left at all. At least, I feel so happy that I am quite sure I have no character left at all.
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Oscar Wilde (An Ideal Husband)
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All authority is quite degrading. It degrades those who exercise it, and degrades those over whom it is exercised. When it is violently, grossly, and cruelly used, it produces a good effect by creating, or at any rate bringing out, the spirit of revolt and individualism that is to kill it. When it is used with a certain amount of kindness, and accompanied by prizes and rewards, it is dreadfully demoralising. People, in that case, are less conscious of the horrible pressure that is being put on them, and so go through their lives in a sort of coarse comfort, like petted animals, without ever realising that they are probably thinking other people's thoughts, living by other people's standards, wearing practically what one may call other people's second-hand clothes, and never being themselves for a single moment.
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Oscar Wilde (The Soul of Man Under Socialism)
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The Love that dare not speak its name" in this century is such a great affection of an elder for a younger man as there was between David and Jonathan, such as Plato made the very basis of his philosophy, and such as you find in the sonnets of Michelangelo and Shakespeare. It is that deep, spiritual affection that is as pure as it is perfect. It dictates and pervades great works of art like those of Shakespeare and Michelangelo, and those two letters of mine, such as they are. It is in this century misunderstood, so much misunderstood that it may be described as the "Love that dare not speak its name," and on account of it I am placed where I am now. It is beautiful, it is fine, it is the noblest form of affection. There is nothing unnatural about it. It is intellectual, and it repeatedly exists between an elder and a younger man, when the elder man has intellect, and the younger man has all the joy, hope and glamour of life before him. That it should be so, the world does not understand. The world mocks at it and sometimes puts one in the pillory for it.
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Oscar Wilde
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Yes,β he cried, βyou have killed my love! You used to stir my imagination. Now you donβt even stir my curiosity. You simply produce no effect. I loved you because you were marvelous, because you had genius and intellect, because you realized the dreams of great poets and gave shape and substance to the shadows of art. You have thrown it all away. You are shallow and stupid. My God! how mad I was to love you! What a fool I have been! You are nothing to me now. I will never see you again. I will never think of you. I will never mention your name. You canβt know what you were to me, once. Why, onceβ¦ Oh, I canβt bear to think of it! I wish I had never laid eyes upon you! You have spoiled the romance of my life. How little you can know of love if you say it mars your art! Without your art you are nothing. I would have made you famous, splendid, magnificent. The world would have worshiped you, and you would have borne my name. What are you now? A third-rate actress with a pretty face.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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There is no such thing as a good influence, Mr. Gray. All influence is immoral - immoral from the scientific point of view.'
'Why?'
'Because to influence a person is to give him one's own soul. He does not think his natural thoughts, or burn with his natural passions. His virtues are not real to him. His sins, if there are such things as sins, are borrowed. He becomes an echo of someone else's music, an actor of a part that has not been written for him. The aim of life is self-development. To realize one's nature perfectly - that is what each of us is here ofr. People are afraid of themselves, nowadays. They have forgotten the highest of all duties, the duty that one owes to one's self. Of course they are charitable. They feed the hungry, and clothe the beggar. But their own souls starve, and are naked. Courage has gone out of our race. Perhaps we never had it. The terror of society, which is the basis of morals, the terror of God, which is the secret of religion - these are the two things that govern us. And yet [...] I believe that if one man were to live out his life fully and completely, were to give form to every feeling, expression to every thought, reality to every dream - I believe that the world would gain such a fresh impulse of joy that we would forget all maladies of medievalism, and return to the Hellenic ideal - to something finer, richer, than the Hellenic ideal, it may be. [...] We are punished for our refusals. Every impulse that we strive to strangle broods in the mind, and poisons us. ... The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. Resist it, and your soul grows sick with longing for the things it has forbidden to itself, with desire for what its monstrous laws have made monstrous and unlawful.
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Oscar Wilde
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The artist is the creator of beautiful things. To reveal art and conceal the artist is art's aim. The critic is he who can translate into another manner or a new material his impression of beautiful things.
The highest as the lowest form of criticism is a mode of autobiography. Those who find ugly meanings in beautiful things are corrupt without being charming. This is a fault.
Those who find beautiful meanings in beautiful things are the cultivated. For these there is hope. They are the elect to whom beautiful things mean only beauty.
There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written. That is all.
The nineteenth century dislike of realism is the rage of Caliban seeing his own face in a glass.
The nineteenth century dislike of romanticism is the rage of Caliban not seeing his own face in a glass. The moral life of man forms part of the subject-matter of the artist, but the morality of art consists in the perfect use of an imperfect medium. No artist desires to prove anything. Even things that are true can be proved. No artist has ethical sympathies. An ethical sympathy in an artist is an unpardonable mannerism of style. No artist is ever morbid. The artist can express everything. Thought and language are to the artist instruments of an art. Vice and virtue are to the artist materials for an art. From the point of view of form, the type of all the arts is the art of the musician. From the point of view of feeling, the actor's craft is the type. All art is at once surface and symbol. Those who go beneath the surface do so at their peril. Those who read the symbol do so at their peril. It is the spectator, and not life, that art really mirrors. Diversity of opinion about a work of art shows that the work is new, complex, and vital. When critics disagree, the artist is in accord with himself. We can forgive a man for making a useful thing as long as he does not admire it. The only excuse for making a useless thing is that one admires it intensely.
All art is quite useless.
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Oscar Wilde (The Picture of Dorian Gray)
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You look ill,β Matthew observed. βIs it my dancing? Is it me personally?β
βPerhaps Iβm nervous,β she said. βLucie did say you didnβt like many people.β
Matthew gave a sharp, startled laugh, before schooling his face back into a look of lazy amusement. βDid she? Lucieβs a chatterbox.β
βBut not a liar,β she said.
βWell, fear not. I do not dislike you. I hardly know you,β said Matthew. βI do know your brother. He made my life miserable at school, and Christopherβs, and Jamesβs.β
βAlastair and I are very different,β Cordelia said. She didnβt want to say more than that. It felt disloyal to Alastair. βI like Oscar Wilde, for instance, and he does not.β
The corner of Matthewβs mouth curled up. βI see you go directly for the soft underbelly, Cordelia Carstairs. Have you really read Oscarβs work?β
βJust Dorian Gray,β Cordelia confessed. βIt gave me nightmares.β
βI should like to have a portrait in the attic,β Matthew mused, βthat would show all my sins, while I stayed young and beautiful. And not only for sinning purposesβimagine being able to try out new fashions on it. I could paint the portraitβs hair blue and see how it looks.β
βYou donβt need a portrait. You are young and beautiful,β Cordelia pointed out.
βMen are not beautiful. Men are handsome,β objected Matthew.
βThomas is handsome. You are beautiful,β said Cordelia, feeling the imp of the perverse stealing over her. Matthew was looking stubborn. βJames is beautiful too,β she added.
βHe was a very unprepossessing child,β said Matthew. βScowly, and he hadnβt grown into his nose.β
βHeβs grown into everything now,β Cordelia said.
Matthew laughed, again as if he was surprised to be doing it. βThat was a very shocking observation, Cordelia Carstairs. I am shocked.
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Cassandra Clare (Chain of Gold (The Last Hours, #1))