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I've been in love before, it's like a narcotic. At first it brings the euphoria of complete surrender. The next day you want more. You're not addicted yet, but you like the sensation, and you think you can still control things.You think about the person you love for two minutes then forget them for three hours. But then you get used to that person, and you begin to be completely dependent on them. Now you think about him for three hours and forget him for two minutes. If he's not there, you feel like an addict who can't get a fix. And just as addicts steal and humiliate themselves to get what they need, you're willing to do anything for love."- By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
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Paulo Coelho
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I was suffering the easily foreseeable consequences. Addiction is the hallmark of every infatuation-based love story. It all begins when the object of your adoration bestows upon you a heady, hallucinogenic dose of something you never dared to admit you wanted-an emotional speedball, perhaps, of thunderous love and roiling excitement. Soon you start craving that intense attention, with a hungry obsession of any junkie. When the drug is witheld, you promptly turn sick, crazy, and depleted (not to mention resentful of the dealer who encouraged this addiction in the first place but now refuses to pony up the good stuff anymore-- despite the fact that you know he has it hidden somewhere, goddamn it, because he used to give it to you for free). Next stage finds you skinny and shaking in a corner, certain only that you would sell your soul or rob your neighbors just to have 'that thing' even one more time. Meanwhile, the object of your adoration has now become repulsed by you. He looks at you like you're someone he's never met before, much less someone he once loved with high passion. The irony is,you can hardly blame him. I mean, check yourself out. You're a pathetic mess,unrecognizable even to your own eyes. So that's it. You have now reached infatuation's final destination-- the complete and merciless devaluation of self." - pg 20-21
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Elizabeth Gilbert
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In his suicide note, Kurt Cobain wrote, "It's better to burn out than to fade away." He was quoting a Neil Young song about Johnny Rotten of the Sex Pistols. When I was twenty-four, I interviewed John Lennon. I asked him about this sentiment, one that pervades rock and roll. He took strong, outraged exception to it. "It's better to fade away like an old soldier than to burn out, " he said. "I worship people who survive. I'll take the living and the healthy.
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David Sheff (Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction)
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Passion creates, addiction consumes.
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Gabor MatΓ© (In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction)
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Not feeling is no replacement for reality. Your problems today are still your problems tomorrow
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Larry Michael Dredla
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If you are on social media, and you are not learning, not laughing, not being inspired or not networking, then you are using it wrong.
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Germany Kent
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Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both. Appreciating the gloriousness inspires us, encourages us, cheers us up, gives us a bigger perspective, energizes us. We feel connected. But if that's all that's happening, we get arrogant and start to look down on others, and there is a sense of making ourselves a big deal and being really serious about it, wanting it to be like that forever. The gloriousness becomes tinged by craving and addiction. On the other hand, wretchedness--life's painful aspect--softens us up considerably. Knowing pain is a very important ingredient of being there for another person. When you are feeling a lot of grief, you can look right into somebody's eyes because you feel you haven't got anything to lose--you're just there. The wretchedness humbles us and softens us, but if we were only wretched, we would all just go down the tubes. We'd be so depressed, discouraged, and hopeless that we wouldn't have enough energy to eat an apple. Gloriousness and wretchedness need each other. One inspires us, the other softens us. They go together.
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Pema ChΓΆdrΓΆn (Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living)
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Being negative only makes a difficult journey more difficult. You may be given a cactus, but you don't have to sit on it.
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Joyce Meyer (Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone)
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Silence
It has a sound, a fullness.
It's heavy with sigh of tree,
and space between breaths.
It's ripe with pause between birdsong
and crash of surf.
It's golden they say.
But no one tells us it's addictive.
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Angela Long
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Boggle with sex addicts is up there with go-kart racing with junkies.
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Russell Brand (My Booky Wook)
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I used to think a drug addict was someone who lived on the far edges of society. Wild-eyed, shaven-headed and living in a filthy squat.
That was until I became one...
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Cathryn Kemp (Painkiller Addict: From Wreckage to Redemption - My True Story)
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Every pain, addiction, anguish, longing, depression, anger or fear
is an orphaned part of us
seeking joy,
some disowned shadow
wanting to return
to the light
and home
of ourselves.
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Jacob Nordby
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I wanted to know what it was like to be a drug addict, and have an eating disorder, and have a loved one die, and fall in love. I saw my friends going through these things, I saw the world going through these things, and I needed to understand them. I needed to make sense of them. Books didnβt make me wallow in darkness, darkness made me wallow in books, and it was books that showed me there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Jackson Pearce
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Sometime we get so addicted to murmuring about the past and blaming the past for everything that we miss our whole future. You're not going to enjoy your future, and you're not going to enjoy your right now, if all you can do is be guilty and ashamed and afraid of your past.
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Joyce Meyer (The Confident Woman Devotional: 365 Daily Inspirations)
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Some people are so addicted to their misery that they will destroy anything that gets in the way of their fix.
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Bryant McGill (Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life)
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There came a time in everyoneβs life when they realized that in spite of how hard theyβd been running from themselves, everywhere they went, there they were: Addictions and compulsions were nothing but marching bands of distraction, masking truths that were unpleasant, but ultimately undeniable.
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J.R. Ward (Lover Reborn (Black Dagger Brotherhood, #10))
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What if there were health food stores on every corner in the hood, instead of liquor stores!?
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SupaNova Slom (The Remedy: The Five-Week Power Plan to Detox Your System, Combat the Fat, and Rebuild Your Mind and Body)
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When soul is neglected, it doesn't just go away;
it appears symptomatically in obsessions, addictions,
violence, and loss of meaning.
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Thomas Moore
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5 Ways To Build Your Brand on Social Media:
1 Post content that add value
2 Spread positivity
3 Create steady stream of info
4 Make an impact
5 Be yourself
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Germany Kent
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My Love tears me between the addiction of patience and urge of infinite desire
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Seema Gupta
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Resentment is like a drug. Once you pick it up, it will only get worse and worse until you surrender and do the work to let it go.
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Samantha Leahy
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Tweet others the way you want to be tweeted.
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Germany Kent (You Are What You Tweet: Harness the Power of Twitter to Create a Happier, Healthier Life)
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You are not an alcoholic or an addict. You are not incurably diseased. You have merely become dependent on substances or addictive behavior to cope with underlying conditions that you are now going to heal, at which time your dependency will cease completely and forever.
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Chris Prentiss (The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure: A Holistic Approach to Total Recovery)
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People who believe they have bad luck create bad luck. Those who believe they are very fortunate, that the world is a generous place filled with trustworthy people, live in exactly that kind of world.
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Chris Prentiss (The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure: A Holistic Approach to Total Recovery)
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Love is your addiction to an eternal longing for someone...A thirst which one cannot relinquish
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Seema Gupta
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Anything that inspires addiction or obsession - substances, entertainment, beauty, secrecy - is dangerous in that it can lead to isolation, self-absorption, and disconnection, to paralyzed stasis: an immobility that gathers like a force.
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Greg Carlisle (Elegant Complexity: A Study of David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest)
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The way you are self-sabotaging: Mindlessly scrolling through social media as a way to pass the time. What your subconscious mind might want you to know: This is one of the easiest ways to numb yourself, because it is so accessible and addictive. There is a world-altering difference between using social media in a healthy way versus as a coping mechanism. Mostly, it has to do with how you feel after youβre finished. If you donβt put the phone down feeling inspired or relaxed, youβre probably trying to avoid some kind of discomfort within yourselfβthe very discomfort that just might be telling you that you need to change.
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Brianna Wiest (The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery)
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If you examine your motive for doing anything, you'll soon discover that your reason is that you believe it will make you happy.
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Chris Prentiss (The Alcoholism and Addiction Cure: A Holistic Approach to Total Recovery)
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If you are in a position where you can reach people, then use your platform to stand up for a cause. HINT: social media is a platform.
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Germany Kent
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Just because you have baggage doesn't mean you have to lug it around.
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Richie Norton
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Going to the gym...all those people who always told me that you get addicted to it, that endorphins kick in, that eventually you crave it and look forward to it are sick lying ****s and I want to choke them with a protein bar and pummel them about the head with a bottle of SmartWater.
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Stacey Ballis (Good Enough to Eat)
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A nation forgetting its own laughter is in a sad state of affairs
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Sherry Marie Gallagher (Boulder Blues: A Tale of the Colorado Counterculture)
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Our real beliefs are generally not to be found at the level of ego.
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Peter Rollins (The Idolatry of God: Breaking Our Addiction to Certainty and Satisfaction)
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Drinking is something people do; it's not what you are. But when it becomes what you are, you need to think about becoming something else.
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Tim Cowlishaw (Drunk on Sports)
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Until you find out what you are running from, you will never figure out where you are going.
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Joseph A, Meyering Sr
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But then I realized, they weren't calling out for their own mothers. Not those weak women, those victims. Drug addicts, shopaholics, cookie bakers. They didn't mean the women who let them down, who failed to help them into womanhood, women who let their boyfriends run a train on them. Bingers, purgers, women smiling into mirrors, women in girdles, women on barstools. Not those women with their complaints and their magazines, controlling women, women who asked, what's in in for me? Not the women watching TV while they made dinner, women who dyed their hair blond behind closed doors trying to look twenty-three. They didn't mean the mothers washing dishes wishing they'd never married, the ones in the ER, saying they fell down the stairs, not the ones in prison saying lonliness is the human condition, get used to it.
The wanted the real mother, the blood mother, the great womb, mother of fierce compassion, a woman large enough to hold all the pain, to carry it away. What we needed was someone who bled, someone deep and rich as a field, a wide-hipped mother, awesome, immense, women like huge soft couches, mothers coursing with blood, mothers big enough, wide enough for us to hid in, to sink down to the bottom of, mothers who would breathe for us when we could not breathe anymore, who would fight for us, who would kill for us, die for us.
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Janet Fitch (White Oleander)
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I urge you to find a way to immerse yourself fully in the life that youβve been given. To stop running from whatever youβre trying to escape, and instead to stop, and turn, and face whatever it is. Then I dare you to walk toward it. In this way, the world may reveal itself to you as something magical and awe-inspiring that does not require escape. Instead, the world may become something worth paying attention to. The rewards of finding and maintaining balance are neither immediate nor permanent. They require patience and maintenance. We must be willing to move forward despite being uncertain of what lies ahead. We must have faith that actions today that seem to have no impact in the present moment are in fact accumulating in a positive direction, which will be revealed to us only at some unknown time in the future. Healthy practices happen day by day. My patient Maria said to me, βRecovery is like that scene in Harry Potter when Dumbledore walks down a darkened alley lighting lampposts along the way. Only when he gets to the end of the alley and stops to look back does he see the whole alley illuminated, the light of his progress.
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Anna Lembke (Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence)
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The women of the Church are the hope of the world precisely because it is not possible to limit the influence of a woman of God who is filled with the pure love of Christ. For that matter, the same is true of men. It is not possible to limit the influence of a man of God who bears the holy priesthood and who is filled with the pure love of Christ.
Satan knows this, and he hates followers of Christ for it. We are among his greatest nightmares because he knows he cannot limit our influence unless he can neutralize our respective natures. So, if he can get us to break the law of chastity, or develop an addiction, or become consumed with or blinded by the world, he laughs. When he seduces a man or a woman of God, he not only neutralizes those individuals but is poised to infiltrate their families.
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Sheri Dew (If Life Were Easy, It Wouldn't Be Hard: And Other Reassuring Truths)
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7am
They said that Iβd forget you,
and I knew it wasnβt true.
But sometimes I wake up now,
and my heartβs no longer blue.
I press the Keurig button,
dancing across the roomβ
Sometimes itβs nearly seven,
before Iβve thought of you.
And though we sleep together,
all night side by side,
one day Iβll have my coffee
without you in my mind.
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Coco J. Ginger
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What we see taking place in the church today is the reduction of God to an idol.
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Peter Rollins (The Idolatry of God: Breaking Our Addiction to Certainty and Satisfaction)
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Being a compulsive overeater is no different from being an alcoholic or drug addict. The only difference is that you can avoid drugs and alcohol completely and you have to have a relationship with food every day for the rest of your life. It's actually the hardest addiction to live with. If you were an alcoholic and someone said to you that you were required to have a single drink three to five times a day, but were not supposed to ever drink to excess, or a drug addict who was required to take just one pill severeal times a day every day, but you're not supposed to ever take more than that...no one would ever make it through rehab.
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Stacey Ballis (Good Enough to Eat)
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I don't know what happened, but I do know this. It's not going anywhere. When you light up it waits for you to come down. You have to confront whatever's bothering you and look it straight in the eye. It's alright to forgive yourself, and it's okay to fight back, because if you don't kick the shit out of it, then it kicks you. It's a dog world, but you can control it, if you want to. A lot of people are going to try to make you feel like shit, but that doesn't mean you are. You are who you decide to be. I hope you're the kind of person that fights, because that's the only way to win.
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E.M. Youman (The Prince's Plan)
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itβs true this world our breathing laboured
inspires nothing more than obvious disgust
a desire to flee without our share
and no longer read the headlines
we long to return to our ancestral home
where our forebears once lived under an angelβs wing
we long to find that strange morality
which sanctified life to the end
we crave something like loyalty
like the embrace of mild addictions
something that transcends yet contains life
we cannot live far from eternity
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Michel Houellebecq
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Those who fervently love God are intoxicated by His warmth and live out their addiction like moths drawn to a flame.
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Calvin Miller
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Compulsive behavior occurs when the urge to act out is greater than our will to say no. Recovery then, is the process of reversing that equation.
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Roger Stark (The Waterfall Concept: A Blueprint for Addiction Recovery)
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You don't have to live with whatever life throws you--or whatever you've gotten yourself into...
You can choose to Change Your Story!
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Kirstin Leigh
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Second, nothing about adolescence can be understood outside the context of delayed frontocortical maturation. If by adolescence limbic, autonomic, and endocrine systems are going full blast while the frontal cortex is still working out the assembly instructions, weβve just explained why adolescents are so frustrating, great, asinine, impulsive, inspiring, destructive, self-destructive, selfless, selfish, impossible, and world changing. Think about thisβadolescence and early adulthood are the times when someone is most likely to kill, be killed, leave home forever, invent an art form, help overthrow a dictator, ethnically cleanse a village, devote themselves to the needy, become addicted, marry outside their group, transform physics, have hideous fashion taste, break their neck recreationally, commit their life to God, mug an old lady, or be convinced that all of history has converged to make this moment the most consequential, the most fraught with peril and promise, the most demanding that they get involved and make a difference. In other words, itβs the time of life of maximal risk taking, novelty seeking, and affiliation with peers. All because of that immature frontal cortex.
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Robert M. Sapolsky (Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst)
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Someone put opera on inside the house. Someone changed it to hip-hop, thank God. Someone started a shower. Someone vacuumed. Again.
Life. In all its mundane majesty.
And you couldn't take advantage of it if you were sitting on your ass in the shadows... whether it was in actuality, or metaphorically because you were trapped in an attic's darkness.
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J.R. Ward (Black Dagger Brotherhood Collection (Black Dagger Brotherhood, #1-9))
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A three-year-old with insomnia is very similar to a heroin addict going through withdrawal. There is nothing that calms them. They canβt focus. You canβt tell them enough stories. They donβt understand why they are still awake four hours past their bedtime. This is commonly understood by all parents of three-year-olds and has inspired great works of literature, such as Go the F-ck to Sleep.
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Jim Gaffigan (Dad Is Fat)
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Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking of what we want to become. Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking about who we don't ever want to be again. Everything we do is part of who we are. How we choose to use those memories, to motivate or to submit is entirely up to us.
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Shane Niemeyer - The Hurt Artist
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I, also, decided to get rid of the need of approval. That is a strong addiction, the need of approval, isn't it? That---I'm on the patch right now, actually. It releases small doses of approval until I no longer crave it. And, I'm going to rip it off!
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Ellen DeGeneres
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This book is about a salvation that takes place within our unknowing and dissatisfaction,
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Peter Rollins (The Idolatry of God: Breaking Our Addiction to Certainty and Satisfaction)
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Where there's breath, there's hope.
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Tonier Cain (Healing Neen: One Woman's Path to Salvation from Trauma and Addiction)
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Changing a Habit is Never Difficult.
Difficult is to Address Your Unwillingness to do it
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Vineet Raj Kapoor
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A flicker of hope in oneβs heart, is capable of lighting the path to a new destinyβ¦
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Tiffany Jenkins (High Achiever: The Shocking True Story of One Addict's Double Life)
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There is no right or wrong way to recover. There is only the decision to do so.
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Brittany Burgunder
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You are a wanderer. You have spent days and nights in loneliness. And somehow you have got addicted to your loneliness. And one day you meet someone and you feel as if you have known them all your life. It's like you both are just continuing from where you had left a long time ago. And the silences between you, too have meaning!
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Avijeet Das
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Truly embracing the fragility and tensions of life...brings with it the possibility of true joy.
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Peter Rollins (The Idolatry of God: Breaking Our Addiction to Certainty and Satisfaction)
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We don't really see much of London; we're too busy watching Londoners.
And that's when I get it.
All these people.
We aren't broken.
We're just alive.
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Juno Dawson (Clean)
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It is only the Creator that can set thy soul free from every struggle.
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Lailah Gifty Akita (Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind)
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We do not recognize that we are addicted to some negative psychological habit, some terribly self-destructive patterns of thinking...
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Abhysheq Shukla (KARMA)
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I am addicted to love.
Love is my beloved drug.
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Debasish Mridha
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Our biggest obstacle to success is not the lack of opportunity but addiction to conformity.
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Debasish Mridha
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Habits are good if you have the habit of the best.
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Amit Kalantri
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Knowing who we are in Christ sets us free from the need to impress others.
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Joyce Meyer (Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone)
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One good thing about donation, once you do it, you get addicted to it because it brings great joy and happiness to you.
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Debasish Mridha
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Whatβs the main allure of folks in Extreme Spiritual Addiction? Astral flash, of course.
Picture a wannabe rock star, all decked out in garish colors and sequins. Why does that over-the-top kind of dress-up work so well in Vegas?
Because audiences in Vegas arenβt seeking Spiritual Enlightenment, nor even a refined experience. Quite the opposite, right? Fact is, multitudes anywhere prefer entertainment thatβs larger-than-life. Sleazy sex sells, and so does every other kind of garishness, including astral flash.
To some spiritual seekers β and others -- astral flash can seem incredibly wonderful. Only some folks of course β you need not be one of them.
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Rose Rosetree (Seeking Enlightenment in the Age of Awakening: Your Complete Program for Spiritual Awakening and More, In Just 20 Minutes a Day)
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Saying things like "you must hit rock bottom before you can rise up" is just an excuse for not doing the effort of rising up earlier.
When you hit rock bottom you must rise up - because you have no other option.
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Fergus MacDermott
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If you treat an individual as he is, he will remain how he is. But if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become what he ought to be and could be.β
β Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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In the rare moments I permitted any stillness, I noted a small fluttering at the pit of my belly, a barely perceptible disturbance. The faint whisper of a word would sound in my head: writing. At first I could not say whether it was heartburn or inspiration. The more I listened, the louder the message became: I needed to write, to express myself through written language not only so that others might hear me but so that I could hear myself. The gods, we are taught, created humankind in their own image. Everyone has an urge to create. Its expression may flow through many channels: through writing, art, or music or through the inventiveness of work or in any number of ways unique to all of us, whether it be cooking, gardening, or the art of social discourse. The point is to honor the urge. To do so is healing for ourselves and for others; not to do so deadens our bodies and our spirits. When I did not write, I suffocated in silence.
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Gabor MatΓ© (In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction)
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When the sum of our faith and humility is sufficient, it reaches a type of spiritual critical mass and hope is fostered and grows. A willing heart emerges which generates the ability for us to submit to the process of recovery.
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Roger Stark (The Waterfall Concept: A Blueprint for Addiction Recovery)
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You are not alone in your quest to be who you want and have what you want.
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Chris Prentiss (Be Who You Want, Have What You Want: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life)
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The world needs more love and Twitter just figured out a way to send 'hearts all over the world'.
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Germany Kent
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Solitude is addictive. Being alone, but not lonely, is peaceful and inspiring. It gives you the strength to go back and deal with all the nonsense.
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Karen Gibbs (A Gallery of Scrapbook Creations)
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The winds of tribulation blow out some men's candles of commitment.(Maxwell) Our job in recovery is to protect our candle from those winds.
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Roger Stark (The Waterfall Concept: A Blueprint for Addiction Recovery)
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At the end of the day, we all live in this world together and to practice bringing peace onto Twitter is a huge step into bringing peace into our world.
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Germany Kent
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Love is a drug for me and I am addicted to it.
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Debasish Mridha
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Get addicted to peace, talk about it all day and may be all night. Drink it, live it and love it. It will change the world.
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Debasish Mridha
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You have chosen to exist, and more than just exist-- you've been chosen to share in the Universal consciousness.
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Chris Prentiss (Be Who You Want, Have What You Want: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life)
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when you become addict in to MATERIAL things in life then the TRUE natural life start to run away from you, YES! it's can give you certain pleasure in the society but in the same time it will sabotage your true HAPPINESS of life which we could have simply with GRATITUDE and FORGIVENESS
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Rashedur Ryan Rahman
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Remember my friend, uncontrolled alcohol, uncontrolled casual sex and mindless indoctrination are not signs of progress, they are signs of drowning into the abyss of mental and physical degradation.
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Abhijit Naskar (Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy (Humanism Series))
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Allowing attachments to people/things create a compulsive addiction in us to be controlling. This βcontrolβ (fueled by fear of loss) fools us into a false sense of security and love. At first glance, it is common to confuse the idea of Conscious Detachment with non-feeling or being cold, however learning this skill is a giant leap towards enlightenment. When you consciously detach from an object or a loved one, you empower them to exist at their potential. From this perspective, just being in their presence fosters feelings of love and admiration that far exceed any relationship that is limited with expectations, confinement and control
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Gary Hopkins
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The bond between food and me is like other relationships in my life: complicated, evolving, demanding, and in need of constant work. But together weβve come so far, moving from my childhood obligation to clean my plate, to a mindless need to fill up, to a truly nourishing and pleasurable exchange. Thatβs the real reward.
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Ashley Graham
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We are all hungry for genuine connection and caring, and we will not get this unless we find our Soul's tribe.
If we don't find this, we'll kill ourselves, either by finding an addiction to mask the pain or by ignoring what we need to stay healthy.
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Christiane Northrup (Making Life Easy: How the Divine Inside Can Heal Your Body and Your Life)
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Hereβs a simple test to check and see if you have surrendered or if you are still struggling with control. When you are miserable, stressed, doubtful, and fearful, you are in control. When you are happy, peaceful, confident, and faithful, God is in control.
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Toni Sorenson
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Iβm a hedonist, and you, Jane, my wife, should know that about me. Youβve shared my body and bed, you know things about me that no other soul on earth does. Who can I not be a sensualist with than, you, Jane? Who else to act out my wicked fantasies, than the woman who inspires them? There is no shame in fantasies, in pleasure. Who other than us needs to know what weβve done, what brings the other pleasure?
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Charlotte Featherstone (A Very Sinful Valentine (Addicted, #2.2))
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Live that way long enough, and you will literally find yourself addicted to the acceptance of people. You will constantly need verbal affirmation. You will depend on always receiving a steady stream of invitations to events you donβt even want to attend. You will feel as though you need a significant other in your life at all times. Iβm not exaggerating - this need for external acceptance will literally become an addiction.
And that turns every one of your relationships - personal, professional, and romantic - into a codependent one. You are not in the relationship with a full heart able to give love away. You are in the relationship because you NEED it. You donβt know how youβd survive, much less thrive, without it. You are using every person to fill a void in your heart that you simply refuse to fill yourself. This is a mess.
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Stephen Lovegrove (How to Find Yourself, Love Yourself, & Be Yourself: The Secret Instruction Manual for Being Human)
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Whenever you hear a snotty (and frustrated) European middlebrow presenting his stereotypes about Americans, he will often describe them as βuncultured,β βunintellectual,β and βpoor in mathβ because, unlike his peers, Americans are not into equation drills and the constructions middlebrows call βhigh cultureββlike knowledge of Goetheβs inspirational (and central) trip to Italy, or familiarity with the Delft school of painting. Yet the person making these statements is likely to be addicted to his iPod, wear blue jeans, and use Microsoft Word to jot down his βculturalβ statements on his PC, with some Google searches here and there interrupting his composition. Well, it so happens that America is currently far, far more creative than these nations of museumgoers and equation solvers. It is also far more tolerant of bottom-up tinkering and undirected trial and error. And globalization has allowed the United States to specialize in the creative aspect of things, the production of concepts and ideas, that is, the scalable part of the products, and, increasingly, by exporting jobs, separate the less scalable components and assign them to those happy to be paid by the hour. There
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We are supposed to consume alcohol and enjoy it, but we're not supposed to become alcoholics. Imagine if this were the same with cocaine. Imagine we grew up watching our parents snort lines at dinner, celebrations, sporting events, brunches, and funerals. We'd sometimes (or often) see our parents coked out of our minds the way we sometimes (or often) see them drunk. We'd witness them coming down after a cocaine binge the way we see them recovering from a hangover. Kiosks at Disneyland would see it so our parents could make it through a day of fun, our mom's book club would be one big blow-fest and instead of "mommy juice" it would be called "mommy powder" There'd be coke-tasting parties in Napa and cocaine cellars in fancy people's homes, and everyone we know (including our pastors, nurses, teachers, coaches, bosses) would snort it. The message we'd pick up as kids could be Cocaine is great, and one day you'll get to try it, too! Just don't become addicted to it or take it too far. Try it; use it responsibly. Don't become a cocaine-oholic though. Now, I'm sure you're thinking. That's insane, everyone knows cocaine is far more addicting than alcohol and far more dangerous. Except, it's not...The point is not that alcohol is worse than cocaine. The point is that we have a really clear understanding that cocaine is toxic and addictive. We know there's no safe amount of it, no such thing as "moderate" cocaine use; we know it can hook us and rob us of everything we care about...We know we are better off not tangling with it at all.
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Holly Whitaker (Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol)
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I met evil and discovered God. I call it my discovery, but of course, itβs nothing new, and itβs not mine. Everyone has to make it for himself. People use different language to describe it. I suppose all the great world religions began with individuals making inspired contact with a spiritual reality and then trying to keep that knowledge alive. Most of it gets lost in rules and practices and addiction to power. Thatβs how religions are. In the end though it hardly matters how you describe it once the essential truth has been grasped β that we have within us an infinite resource, a potential for a higher state of being, a goodness . . .β I had heard this before, in one form or another, from a spiritually inclined headmaster, a dissident vicar, an old girlfriend returning from India, from Californian professionals, and dazed hippies.
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Ian McEwan (Black Dogs)
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Reflect on why your life is precious. Ask yourself: βWhat inspires me to live?β Β β’ Reflect on the fact that death is unavoidable, and on how you want to live your life. Ask yourself: βHow am I being in this life? What am I doing with my life?β Β β’ Reflect that actions have consequences, and on some of the consequences of your actions. Ask yourself: βWhat actions have been a gain to my life? What actions have been a cost in my life?β Β β’ Reflect on the ocean of inevitable suffering, the waves of sickness, aging, and death that one day will come even to you. Ask yourself: βWhat am I feeling right now?
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Valerie Mason-John (Eight Step Recovery: Using the Buddha's Teachings to Overcome Addiction)
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Always β but especially when suffering - surround yourself with those who inspire you to lose yourself more honestly, to love others more thoroughly, to live life more fully, and to trust God more wholly. Huddle with those who care for you and those who are exemplary in their encouragement, patience and understanding of others. Hang out with those who strive to put God and faith at their center. Pray for peers, friends and mentors who will not only encourage you to be your best independent, strong, and vulnerable self all at the same time β but also sincerely humble. Pray that their angel dust will transcend you when even the smallest flecks of their contagious warmth and permeating beauty fall upon you. Then ever pray that you may have the opportunity to likewise ease and nurture others in such authentic ways; thus honing such a charitable, other-oriented nature of your own, β a miraculous healing balm β a buffer of pain if there ever was one. Know this is the most powerful antidote for fear and sorrow; the most effective β and addictive β cure-all known in all of creation; an elixir for that otherwise, elusive kind of happiness β the kind that weathers, endures and remains in all seasons and conditions.
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How We Approach the New Testament We Christians have been taught to approach the Bible in one of eight ways: β’ You look for verses that inspire you. Upon finding such verses, you either highlight, memorize, meditate upon, or put them on your refrigerator door. β’ You look for verses that tell you what God has promised so that you can confess it in faith and thereby obligate the Lord to do what you want. β’ You look for verses that tell you what God commands you to do. β’ You look for verses that you can quote to scare the devil out of his wits or resist him in the hour of temptation. β’ You look for verses that will prove your particular doctrine so that you can slice-and-dice your theological sparring partner into biblical ribbons. (Because of the proof-texting method, a vast wasteland of Christianity behaves as if the mere citation of some random, decontextualized verse of Scripture ends all discussion on virtually any subject.) β’ You look for verses in the Bible to control and/or correct others. β’ You look for verses that βpreachβ well and make good sermon material. (This is an ongoing addiction for many who preach and teach.) β’ You sometimes close your eyes, flip open the Bible randomly, stick your finger on a page, read what the text says, and then take what you have read as a personal βwordβ from the Lord. Now look at this list again. Which of these approaches have you used? Look again: Notice how each is highly individualistic. All of them put you, the individual Christian, at the center. Each approach ignores the fact that most of the New Testament was written to corporate bodies of people (churches), not to individuals.
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The role of the Old Testament is to give an inspired telling of how we get to Jesus. But once we get to Jesus we donβt build multiple tabernacles and grant an equivalency to Jesus and the Old Testament. This was Peterβs mistake on Tabor. Jesus is greater than Moses. Jesus is greater than Elijah. Jesus is greater than the Bible. Jesus is the Savior of all that is to be savedβ¦ including the Bible. Jesus saves the Bible from itself! Jesus shows us how to read the Bible and not be harmed by it. Jesus delivers the Bible from its addiction to violent retaliation. Moses may stone sinners and Elijah may kill idolaters. And so violent holiness can be justified as biblical. But for a Christian that doesnβt matter. We follow Jesus!
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Sure, genetics do play a role in alcholism. You're more likely to be an alcoholic if one or both of your parents are also alcoholics. But that's just one part of the equation; the other part is your behavior. You can't become an alcoholic if you never take a drink. So if you know you're predisposed to addiction because of your family history, then just don't get started, and you'll never find yourself on that path.
Same with any other type of 'family curse.' If you parents smoke, don't pick up a cigarette. If your parents are obese, work hard to exercise and eat right so you don't follow in their foosteps. But some people find it easier to play the victim. They do whatever bad habits they want to because they think they have a built-in defense - "I grew up this way.
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The herb ephedra has been used in China and India for five thousand years as a stimulant for cold and flu sufferers. Later known as Mormon tea, ephedra is now synthesized as pseudoephedrine and is found in many marketed cold remedies. (Unfortunately, it's also a key ingredient in the illicit manufacture of highly addictive and destructive methamphetamine.) Quinine, from the bark of the rain forest tree, Cinchona ledgeriana, is an effective preventive to malaria, one of the greatest killers of humanity, with up to one million deaths per year. The heart drug, dioxin, is synthesized from the foxglove flower. Aspirin's principle ingredients were recognized in willow bark by Hippocrates around 400 BCE. It was named and marketed by Bayer in 1899 and is still one of the biggest selling drugs in the world.
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You went from my life right into my dreams,
i can hardly tell,If i'm cursed or blessed ;
I am sure things aren't always as they seem,
but i drift away,mesmerized, possessed.
Memories i have uncertain and fragile,
Is what i have left and i have no peace,
At dawn fades away,all that i imagine,
i crave for your closeness,i need more then this.
Perhaps you are meant to guide and inspire,
to be ever timeless in the veil of mist,
flowing through my being in flaming desire,
the one i can't reach and cannot resist.
My darling,unique,outstanding perfection,
so utterly complex you can't be recreated,
I may be unworthy of your smallest fraction,
But you've never loved,nor anticipated.
Every great passion is a work of fiction,
when we long for something that we cannot find,
Single thought of you is like an addiction,
yet,you're not exalted,except in my mind.
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As a minister of the Lord in whatever way the Lord decides to use you and with the gifts he gives you for the work, there is the tendency to start idolizing the work itself or the gifts that you forget it is the father who gave it to you. Who picked you up and dusted you from nothing and adorned you. You forget and make the work a god before him. Exodus 20:3 "You shall have no other gods before me".
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This can be very subtle especially for social media ministry. You begin to love your social image over the word of God. You begin to dampen and tweak the word of God to appeal to a wider audience. You're suddenly no longer about the raw truth of the gospel. As the followers and likes increase you begin to get more and more addicted to the fruit of the works and the response to YOUR messages and posts. If a post doesn't do too well and get many likes and comments you are not happy. It hurts you deeply. That is how you know It has become about you.
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If this is you and this message has touched your heart, if this post is like a mirror to your face, go back to God and ask for forgiveness. Ask God to forgive you for elevating yourself and your work as a god before him and return back to when it was just about loving him and preaching the good news. You probably may have noticed you lost the fire of inspiration you used to have at the beginning. This is why.
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When I went to prison and came out, it was like another stripe being added to my shoulderβanother notch of respect on my belt. On the streets, you cannot get a name until you do something. You have to prove who you are by doing something outrageous, like shooting someone from a rival gang. It allowed others to see what type of person you were, and established the fact that you were ready for anything.
Back in the day, what we were looking for was for someone to have our backs. So every time I did something and was recognized for what I did, it gave me more nerves to continue. After the deed was all said and done, and we were hanging on the blocks, everyone is praising you and talking about what you did. You all should have been there. You should have seen how Taco rushed up on that fella and dealt with him.
Those praises were like drugs that eventually poison the mind, and gave you more inspiration to do things to have more people talking about you. People recognizing you as one who isnβt scared, one who is ready to do whatever is needed.
No one ever wants to go to prison. I never wanted to go to prison. I just wanted to be recognized as one willing and ready for a battle anytime. Troit Lynes, former death row inmate of Her Majesty Prison in the Bahamas
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Drexel Deal (The Fight of My Life is Wrapped Up in My Father (The Fight of My Life is Wrapped in My Father Book 1))
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Good friendship, in Buddhism, means considerably more than associating with people that one finds amenable and who share one's interests. It means in effect seeking out wise companions to whom one can look for guidance and instruction. The task of the noble friend is not only to provide companionship in the treading of the way. The truly wise and compassionate friend is one who, with understanding and sympathy of heart, is ready to criticize and admonish, to point out one's faults, to exhort and encourage, perceiving that the final end of such friendship is growth in the Dhamma. The Buddha succinctly expresses the proper response of a disciple to such a good friend in a verse of the Dhammapada: 'If one finds a person who points out one's faults and who reproves one, one should follow such a wise and sagacious counselor as one would a guide to hidden treasure'
If we associate closely with those who are addicted to the pursuit of sense pleasures, power, riches and fame, we should not imagine that we will remain immune from those addictions: in time our own minds will gradually incline to these same ends. If we associate closely with those who, while not given up to moral recklessness, live their lives comfortably adjusted to mundane routines, we too will remain stuck in the ruts of the commonplace. If we aspire for the highest β for the peaks of transcendent wisdom and liberation β then we must enter into association with those who represent the highest. Even if we are not so fortunate as to find companions who have already scaled the heights, we can well count ourselves blessed if we cross paths with a few spiritual friends who share our ideals and who make earnest efforts to nurture the noble qualities of the Dhamma in their hearts.
When we raise the question how to recognize good friends, how to distinguish good advisors from bad advisors, the Buddha offers us crystal-clear advice. In the Shorter Discourse on a Full-Moon Night (MN 110) he explains the difference between the companionship of the bad person and the companionship of the good person. The bad person chooses as friends and companions those who are without faith, whose conduct is marked by an absence of shame and moral dread, who have no knowledge of spiritual teachings, who are lazy and unmindful, and who are devoid of wisdom. As a consequence of choosing such bad friends as his advisors, the bad person plans and acts for his own harm, for the harm of others, and the harm of both, and he meets with sorrow and misery.
In contrast, the Buddha continues, the good person chooses as friends and companions those who have faith, who exhibit a sense of shame and moral dread, who are learned in the Dhamma, energetic in cultivation of the mind, mindful, and possessed of wisdom. Resorting to such good friends, looking to them as mentors and guides, the good person pursues these same qualities as his own ideals and absorbs them into his character. Thus, while drawing ever closer to deliverance himself, he becomes in turn a beacon light for others. Such a one is able to offer those who still wander in the dark an inspiring model to emulate, and a wise friend to turn to for guidance and advice.
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