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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
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Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world.
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Children are happy because they don't have a file in their minds called "All the Things That Could Go Wrong.
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It takes courage...to endure the sharp pains of self discovery rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness that would last the rest of our lives.
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And no one will listen to us until we listen to ourselves.
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Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.
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The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.
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We are not held back by the love we didn't receive in the past, but by the love we're not extending in the present.
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Until we have seen someone's darkness, we don't really know who they are. Until we have forgiven someone's darkness, we don't really know what love is.
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Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things. Meaning lies in us.
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There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
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Success means we go to sleep at night knowing that our talents and ablities were used in a way that served others.
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We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
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Women are still in emotional bondage as long as we need to worry that we might have to make a choice between being heard and being loved.
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You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think.
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In the absence of love, we began slowly but surely to fall apart.
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We can always choose to perceive things differently. We can focus on what's wrong in our life, or we can focus on what's right.
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Marianne Williamson
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Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we're frantic, life will be frantic. If we're peaceful, life will be peaceful. And so our goal in any situation becomes inner peace.
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...available people are the ones who are dangerous, because they confront us with the possibility of real intimacy.
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When a woman rises up in glory, her energy is magnetic and her sense of possibility contagious.
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Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.
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Marianne Williamson
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In every community, there is work to be done.
In every nation, there are wounds to heal.
In every heart, there is the power to do it.
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Every ending is a new beginning. Through the grace of God, we can always start again. (Page 120.)
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Marianne Williamson (Everyday Grace)
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Always seek less turbulent skies.
Hurt. Fly above it.
Betrayal. Fly above it.
Anger. Fly above it.
You are the one who is flying the plane.
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Just like a sunbeam can't separate itself from the sun, and a wave can't separate itself from the ocean,
we can't separate ourselves from one another.
We are all part of a vast sea of love, one indivisible divine mind.
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Whenever we feel lost, or insane, or afraid, all we have to do is ask for His help. The help might not come in the form we expected, or even thought we desired, but it will come, and we will recognize it by how we feel. In spite of everything, we will feel at peace.
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Do what you love.
Do what makes your heart sing.
And NEVER do it for the money,
Go to work to spread joy.
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Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")
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I could recognise his soul in mine as much as he could find me in his. Our sole existences seemed to have been for this very moment when nothing else mattered.
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Spiritual progress is like a detoxification.
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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
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Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")
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Here's the news: I am going to sue the Brown & Williamson Tobacco Company, manufacturers of Pall Mall cigarettes, for a billion bucks! Starting when I was only twelve years old, I have never chain-smoked anything but unfiltered Pall Malls. And for many years now, right on the package, Brown & Williamson have promised to kill me.
But I am eighty-two. Thanks a lot, you dirty rats. The last thing I ever wanted was to be alive when the three most powerful people on the whole planet would be named Bush, Dick and Colon.
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To be a princess is to play at life. To be a queen is to be a serious player...The purpose of life as a woman is to ascend to the throne and rule with heart.
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The way of the miracle-worker is to see all human behavior as one two things: either love, or a call for love.
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May my heart be your shelter, and my arms be your home.
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Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")
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Until we have met the monsters in ourselves, we keep trying to slay them in the outer world. And we find that we cannot. For all darkness in the world stems from darkness in the heart. And it is there that we must do our work.
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Nothing binds you except your thoughts; nothing limits you except your fear; and nothing controls you except your beliefs.
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When a woman conceives her true self, a miracle occurs and life around her begins again.
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Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of heaven.
Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of hell.
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Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")
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There is no single effort more radical in its potential for saving the world than a transformation of the way we raise our children.
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A queen is wise. She has earned her serenity, not having had it bestowed on her but having passer her tests. She has suffered and grown more beautiful because of it. She has proved she can hold her kingdom together. She has become its vision. She cares deeply about something bigger than herself. She rules with authentic power.
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Rather than accepting that we are the loving beings that He created, we have arrogantly thought that we could create ourselves, and then create God. Because we are angry and judgmental, we have projected those characteristics onto Him. We have made up a God in our image. But God remains who He is and always has been: the energy, the thought of unconditional love.
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Walk in the rain,
smell flowers,
stop along the way,
build sandcastles,
go on field trips,
find out how things work,
tell stories,
say the magic words,
trust the universe.
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Bruce Williamson
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Spiritual growth involves giving up the stories of your past so the universe can write a new one.
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Marianne Williamson (The Law of Divine Compensation: On Work, Money, and Miracles (The Marianne Williamson Series))
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If a train doesn't stop at your station, then it's not your train.
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I am a glorious child of God. I am joyful, serene, positive, and loving.
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Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")
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My love for you won't stop with my leaving. Come an evening over the years, when you step outside your door and hear the wind blowing through the cottonwoods, that'll be me, thinking of you, whispering your name, and loving you.
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If I am never to have you again after this night, this moment, you will remain the wife of my soul. Keeper of my heart.
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We're hallucinating. And that's what this world is: a mass hallucination, where fear seems more real than love. Fear is an illusion. Our craziness, paranoia, anxiety and trauma are literally all imagined.
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In the Holy Relationship, it's understood that we all have unhealed places, and that healing is the purpose of our being with another person. We don't hide our weaknesses, but rather we understand that the relationship is a context for healing through mutual forgiveness.
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A tulip doesnβt strive to impress anyone. It doesnβt struggle to be different than a rose. It doesnβt have to. It is different. And thereβs room in the garden for every flower. You didnβt have to struggle to make your face different than anyone elseβs on earth. It just is. You are unique because you were created that way. Look at little children in kindergarten. Theyβre all different without trying to be. As long as theyβre unselfconsciously being themselves, they canβt help but shine. Itβs only later, when children are taught to compete, to strive to be better than others, that their natural light becomes distorted.
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The only thing missing in any situation is that in which you are not giving
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People hear you on the level you speak to them from. Speak from your heart, and they will hear with theirs.
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Ego says, βOnce everything falls into place, I'll feel peace.β
Spirit says, βFind your peace, and then everything will fall into place.
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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
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When infants aren't held, they can become sick, even die. It's universally accepted that children need love, but at what age are people supposed to stop needing it? We never do. We need love in order to live happily, as much as we need oxygen in order to live at all.
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When we attach value to things that arenβt loveβthe money, the car, the house, the prestigeβwe are loving things that canβt love us back. We are searching for meaning in the meaningless.
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Right. Lack of opportunities," Daddy says. "Corporate America don't bring jobs to our communities, and they damn sure ain't quick to hire us. Then, shit, even if you do have a high school diploma, so many of the schools in our neighborhoods don't prepare us well enough. That's why when your momma talked about sending you and your brothers to Williamson, I agreed. Our schools don't get the resources to equip you like Williamson does. It's easier to find some crack that it is the find a good school around here.
"Now, think 'bout this," he says. "How did the drugs even get in our neighborhood? This is a multibillion-dollar industry we talking 'bout, baby. That shit is flown into our communities, but I don't know anybody with a private jet. Do you?"
"No."
"Exactly. Drugs come from somewhere, and they're destroying our community," he says. "You got folks like Brenda, who think they need them survive, and then you got the Khalils, who think they need to sell them to survive. The Brendas can't get jobs unless they're clean, and they can't pay for rehab unless they got jobs. When the Khalils get arrested for selling drugs, they either spend most of their life in prison, another billion-dollar industry, or they have a hard time getting a real job and probably start selling drugs again. That's the hate they're giving us, baby, a system designed against us. That's Thug Life.
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Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn.
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Being a one of a kind means we are automatically the best in the world at what we do.
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It is our own thoughts that hold the key to miraculous transformation.
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...there are four rules for miraculous work creation: Be positive. Send love. Have fun. Kick ass.
Amen.
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If our emotional stability is based on what other people do or do not do, then we have no stability. If our emotional stability is based on love that is changeless and unalterable, then we attain the stability of God.
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We can't look to the world to restore our worth; we're here to restore our worth to the world. The world outside us can reflect our glory, but it cannot create it. It cannot crown us. Only God can crown us, and he already has.
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There is no Mr. Right because there is no Mr. Wrong. There is whoever is in front of us, and the perfect lessons to be learned from that person.
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To ask for another relationship, or another job, is not particularly helpful if weβre going to show up in the new situation exactly as we showed up in the last one.
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...a miracles is a reasonable thing to ask for.
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Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles")
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Dear God,
I give this time of quiet to You.
Please dissolve my thoughts of stress and fear
And deliver me to the inner place
Where all is peace and love.
Amen.
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Just make sure that the thing you're living for is worth dying for." --Levi
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How a person seems to show up for us is intimately connected to how we choose to show up for them.
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Marianne Williamson (Return to Love)
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Thought is Cause; experience is Effect. If you donβt like the effects in your life, you have to change the nature of your thinking.
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We must relinquish our passive observation of the world outside; we can open the door to the world we want. In understanding ourselves, we come to understand the world. In allowing ourselves to heal, we become the healers of the world. In praying for peace, we become bringers of peace. Thus we actualize the power within us to remedy the psychic wounds of humanity.
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In that Holy Place where you tell Him everything and he understands; there are angels who stand in wait to hear his every command. How may they serve you and increase your joy?
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Can the purpose of a relationship be to trigger our wounds? In a way, yes, because that is how healing happens; darkness must be exposed before it can be transformed. The purpose of an intimate relationship is not that it be a place where we can hide from our weaknesses, but rather where we can safely let them go. It takes strength of character to truly delve into the mystery of an intimate relationship, because it takes the strength to endure a kind of psychic surgery, an emotional and psychological and even spiritual initiation into the higher Self. Only then can we know an enchantment that lasts.
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Change is in the air, as old patterns fall away and new energies are emerging. Consciously release what needs to be released, and welcome with a full embrace the newness you've prayed for and so richly deserve.
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Only write from your own passion, your own truth. That's the only thing you really know about, and anything else leads you away from the pulse.
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Marianne Williamson
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Love is the essential existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.
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Looking for Mr. Right leads to desperation, because there is no Mr. Right. There is no Mr. Right, because there is no Mr. Wrong. There is whoever is in front of us and the perfect lessons to be learned from that person.
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Dear God, I surrender this relationship to you,β means, βDear God, let me see this person through your eyes.β In accepting the Atonement, we are asking to see as God sees, think as God thinks, love as God loves. We are asking for help in seeing someoneβs innocence.
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Respect your dream.
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when we think we have things already figured out, weβre not teachable. Genuine insight canβt dawn on a mind thatβs not open to receive it.
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Our self-perception determines our behavior. If we think weβre small, limited, inadequate creatures, then we tend to behave that way, and the energy we radiate reflects those thoughts no matter what we do. If we think weβre magnificent creatures with an infinite abundance of love and power to give, then we tend to behave that way. Once again, the energy around us reflects our state of awareness.
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Surrender means, by definition, giving up attachment to results. When we surrender to God, we let go of our attachment to how things happen on the outside and we become more concerned with what happens on the inside.
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Love is a heroβs journey, and the heroβs journey is a noble but difficult path.
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Love is to people what water is to plants.
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In asking for miracles, we are seeking a practical goal: a return to inner peace. Weβre not asking for something outside us to change, but for something inside us to change. Weβre looking for a softer orientation to life.
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Your main character not only needs a goal, she need an inner desire.
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Our triumph over sorrow is not that we can avoid it but that we can endure it. And therein lies our hope; that in spirit we might become bigger than the problems we face.
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Something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point when our knees hit the floor. Perhaps, in a way, that's where humanity is now: about to discover we're not as smart as we thought we were, will be forced by life to surrender our attacks and defenses which avail us of nothing, and finally break through into the collective beauty of who we really are."
[Facebook post, August 31, 2013]
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From a mind filled with infinite love comes the power to create infinite possibilities. We have the power to think in ways that reflect and attract all the love in the world. Such thinking is called enlightenment. Enlightenment is not a process we work toward, but a choice available to us in any instant.
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The highest prize we can receive for creative work is the joy of being creative. Creative effort spent for any other reason than the joy of being in that light filled space, love, god, whatever we want to call it, is lacking in integrity. . .
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Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we have learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishmentβor unlearningβof fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts. Love is the essential existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.
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Usually, when we think of power, we think of external power. And we think of powerful people as those who have made it in the world. A powerful woman isnβt necessarily someone who has money, but we think of her as someone with a boldness or a spark that makes her manifest in a dramatic way. When we think of a powerful man, we think of his ability to manifest abundance, usually money, in the world.
Most people say that a powerful woman does best with a powerful man, that she needs someone who understands the bigness of her situation, a man who can meet her at the same or even greater level of power in the world.
Now this is true, if power is defined as material abundance. A woman often faces cultural prejudice when she makes more money than a man, as does he. A woman who defines power by worldly standards can rarely feel totally relaxed in the arms of a man who doesnβt have it.
If power is seen as an internal matter, then the situation changes drastically. Internal power has less to do with money and worldly position, and more to do than with emotional expansiveness, spirituality and conscious livingβ¦
I used to think I needed a powerful man, someone who could protect me from the harshness and evils of the world. What I have come to realize is thatβ¦the powerful man I was looking for would be foremost, someone who supported me in keeping myself on track spiritually, and in so maintaining clarity within myself, that life would present fewer problems. When it did get rough, he would help me forgive.
I no longer wanted somebody who would say to me, βDonβt worry honey, if theyβre mean to you Iβll beat them up or buy them out.β Instead, I want someone who prays and meditates with me regularly so that fewer monsters from the outer world disturb me, and who when they do, helps me look within my own consciousness for answers, instead of looking to false power to combat false power.
Thereβs a big difference between a gentle man and a weak man. Weak men make us nervous. Gentle men make us calm.
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We all make mistakes, we all have fears, and we all have weaknesses. Behind all that is our essential self. When our essential self has made contact with another, the light is dazzling and would fill the universe. The challenge of enchantment is to remain faithful to that light, to believe in it when it is not so apparent. Then that light becomes an incandescent glow and it wraps itself around everything.
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The only way to gain power in a world that is moving too fast is to learn to slow down. And the only way to spread oneβs influence wide to learn how to go deep. The world we want for ourselves and our children will not emerge from electronic speed but rather from a spiritual stillness that takes root in our souls. Then, and only then, will we create a world that reflects the heart instead of shattering it.
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Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
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Love makes us wake up in the morning with a sense of purpose and a flow of creative ideas. Love floods our nervous system with positive energy, making us far more attractive to prospective employers, clients, and creative partners. Love fills us with powerful charisma, enabling us to produce new ideas and new projects, even within circumstances that seem to be limited. Love leads us to atone for our errors and clean up the mess when we've made mistakes. Love leads us to act with impeccability, integrity, and excellence. Love leads us to serve, to forgive, and to hope. Those things are the opposite of a poverty consciousness; they're the stuff of spiritual wealth creation.
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Sometimes people think that calling on God means inviting a force into our lives that will make everything rosy. The truth is, it means inviting everything into our lives that will force us to growβand growth can be messy. The purpose of life is to grow into our perfection. Once we call on God, everything that could anger us is on the way. Why? Because the place where we go into anger instead of love, is our wall. Any situation that pushes our buttons is a situation where we donβt yet have the capacity to be unconditionally loving. Itβs the Holy Spiritβs job to draw our attention to that, and help us move beyond that point.
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Itβs easy to forgive people who have never done anything to make us angry. People who do make us angry, however, are our most important teachers. They indicate the limits to our capacity for forgiveness. βHolding grievances is an attack on Godβs plan for salvation.β The decision to let go our grievances against other people is the decision to see ourselves as we truly are, because any darkness we let blind us to anotherβs perfection also blinds us to our own. It can be very hard to let go of your perception of someoneβs guilt when you know that by every standard of ethics, morality, or integrity, youβre right to find fault with them. But the Course asks, βDo you prefer that you be right or happy?
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Much of the prejudice against women is stored at an unconscious level. Many of those with the most punishing attitudes towards passionate women -and free women are passionate women β consider themselves social liberals, even feminists. Womenβs rights seem to them to be of obvious importance, but what is not obvious to them is how much they conspire to keep the lid on female power. Female power transcends what are thought of as βwomanβs issuesβ. Female power involves women taking part in the conversation either in the public arena or the dinner table, and having the same emotional space in which to do so as men. It means women not having to fear punishment of any kind. It means women not having to worry that they will be considered βunfeminineβ if they speak up. It means women really coming out to play and getting support for their playing from men as well as women.
Until this is accomplished, political, economic and reproductive freedom will still not be enough. We will not be free until we can speak our minds and our hearts without having to worry that men will crucify us, women will crucify us, the press will crucify us, or our children will be ashamed⦠Women are still in emotional bondage as long as we feel we have to make a choice between being heard and being loved.
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Third-level, life-long relationships are generally few because βtheir existence implies that those involved have reached a stage simultaneously in which the teaching-learning balance is actually perfect.β That doesnβt mean, however, that we necessarily recognize our third-level assignments; in fact, generally we donβt. We may even feel hostility toward these particular people. Someone with whom we have a lifetimeβs worth of lessons to learn is someone whose presence in our lives forces us to grow. Sometimes it represents someone with whom we participate lovingly all our lives, and sometimes it represents someone who we experience as a thorn in our side for years, or even forever. Just because someone has a lot to teach us, doesnβt mean we like them. People who have the most to teach us are often the ones who reflect back to us the limits to our own capacity to love, those who consciously or unconsciously challenge our fearful positions. They show us our walls. Our walls are our woundsβthe places where we feel we canβt love any more, canβt connect any more deeply, canβt forgive past a certain point. We are in each otherβs lives in order to help us see where we most need healing, and in order to help us heal.
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